Innholdsfortegnelse for April 8, 2013 i Woman's Own

As a mum of two young girls I found our report on p28 disturbing, yet compelling, reading. It is about the rise in numbers of abusive children – teenagers who are lashing out at their parents. For a mum to be afraid of their child... well, I just can’t imagine how that would feel. But experts offering support to families dealing with this situation say many are afraid to seek the help they need as they are embarrassed and don’t want to be judged. I hope our feature helps any women affected realise there is no shame in coming forward. This week! Join us ONLINE! Go to womansown.co.uk and you’ll find our fabulous website, packed with daily celebrity news, hot beauty buys, videos, competitions and more. Fancy a new, look-younger…

It’s difficult to imagine prim and proper television presenter Andrea McLean secretly drinking booze from a mug, but that’s how the mum-of-two has confessed she coped with the end of her second marriage. Desperate to keep her divorce heartbreak hidden from her children, the Loose Women host, 43, reveals that she would tip wine into a mug and pretend it was hot chocolate. Devastating split ‘Through most of 2012 I was miserably getting through quite a few glasses of wine in the evening,’ admits Andrea. ‘So much that my mum would say – because my mum and dad lived with me for the whole of last year – “You can’t drink alone. I’ll have one with you.”’ Andrea, who has two children, Finlay, 11, and Amy, six, says that she…

‘I look like a drag queen!’ It’s taken an awful long time to find a style that suits me, but over the years I have committed terrible crimes against fashion. But, in my defence, I started presenting during the years of ’80s power dressing, which didn’t do anyone on TV any favours! Influenced by Joan Collins in Dynasty, jackets had ludicrously huge shoulders and came in lurid colours with buttons the size of dinner plates. Hair was big and make-up applied with a trowel. Even so, that still doesn’t excuse some of the eye-watering outfits I wore on TV-am and GMTV. I made especially bad fashion choices when I was pregnant. I thought that massive glasses and patterned shirts would draw the eye away from my bump, but it just…

Reaching across the table, Gail Stonley rested her hand on mine. ‘How’s Jodie?’ she asked. Tears pooled in my eyes. ‘There’s not much change,’ I said. ‘I’m finding it so hard.’ It was March 2009 and my 14-year-old daughter was in hospital with a rare stomach condition. All day I’d sat with her, trying to keep positive. But now, here with Gail, I could finally let my guard down. She was manager of Crawford House in Newcastle, one of eight special facilities run by The Sick Children’s Trust to give free accommodation for families of those in hospital. With my husband Stephen, then 41, an HGV driver, and Jodie’s twin sister Emma over 60 miles away at our home in Carlisle, it had been such a help. Most importantly, Gail…

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Cowering in the corner of her kitchen, Angela* covered her face with her hands. ‘Please don’t,’ she pleaded, but it was too late. Her attacker lunged, hitting her across the face. ‘You can’t tell me what to do,’ he screamed as she staggered back, her lip bleeding from the impact. Yet Angela is not a victim of domestic abuse from a violent partner. Her wound was inflicted by her 15-year-old son, Peter*. At nearly 6ft tall, he towers over her and when he doesn’t get his own way, or believes that his mother is taking too much control of his life, he lashes out. ‘It started 18 months ago after his father moved out,’ Angela explains. ‘My son literally changed overnight. He’d have the most violent moods and the first…

Reader rated LUCY HAWKES, 35, FROM BRIGHTON ‘My partner Stuart has always been prone to feeling low, which brings loss of libido. Since taking KarmaMood with St John’s wort (£10.20, 30 tablets, Boots) , he doesn’t feel so down and our relationship is better than ever.’ Instant calm Got a problem you’re struggling to solve? Research shows we become more creative if we step away – quite literally. If it’s not possible to go for a walk or drive then mentally distance yourself and imagine it’s your friend’s challenge. Taking the pressure off yourself will make it easier to find an answer. 3 step fix... Anaemia TRY THIS Eat more iron-rich foods including red meat, egg yolks, dried fruit (e.g., raisins) and dark-green leafy vegetables, such as watercress and kale.…

Save without spending Here are my top tips this week to ensure you’re making the most of your hard-earned cash 1 ENJOY FU N DAYS OUT FOR FREE If you’ve got the kids or grandkids to entertain over the Easter holidays, check out the great site dofreestuff.com. It has loads of ideas for days out at parks, museums and galleries all over the UK that won’t cost a thing. 2 GIVE CLUTTER TO CHARITY Don’t fork out up to £80 for the council to take away unwanted furniture and white goods. If you donate them to a charity such as the British Heart Foundation, which has secondhand furniture and electrical stores, they’ll collect it free of charge. Go to bhf.o rg.uk/free. 3 SIGN UP TO BE A DIAMOND DIY- ER…

Lemony chicken and vegetable pasta SERVES 4 PREP TIME 5 MINS COOKING TIME 20 MINS YOU WILL NEED 100g uncooked orzo pasta ¼tsp grated lemon rind 3tbsp lemon juice 1tbsp extra virgin olive oil 1 clove garlic, crushed ¼tsp honey ½tbsp flat-leaf parsley, chopped Salt and pepper to taste 4 chicken breasts 50g green beans, cooked 50g red pepper, chopped and stir-fried 50g yellow pepper, chopped and stirfried 50g peas, cooked 50g feta, crumbled HOW TO DO IT 1 Cook the orzo pasta according to the packet instructions. Drain and rinse in cold water and then place in a large bowl. 2 Combine the lemon rind, juice, oil, garlic, honey, parsley and the seasoning. Drizzle over the chicken, toss to coat. 3 Heat a griddle pan to a medium-high heat…

Make the switch Staggered tier drop-lights were big news last season and are still proving popular. The hints of pastel in this statement piece would look great anywhere in the home, making it a fantastic investment. Reader rated AMY BURROWS, 31, FROM TELFORD ‘These cute little hooks not only look great, they’re also really useful. My three children use them to hang their coats up – I arranged them on the wall so the little one can reach hers, too!’ Brilliant buys For an easy kitchen update, simply add a splash of colour. These vivid shades from Matalan’s new range (above) are both on-trend and budget-friendly. We love the blackboard-labelled jars – fabulous and reusable! Ceramic jars, £5 each; cheese grater, £2; salad bowl, £12; utensil holder, £4; mug tree,…

Everyone dreams about winning a big bingo jackpot and, incredibly, I’ve done it six times in six years – netting prize money of £21,565! And that’s just my wins of over £1,000. It’s so incredible I can hardly believe it myself. Winning such a fantastic amount has also enabled me to experience so many things I would never have had the chance to do otherwise, such as travelling to places like Zanzibar and South Africa. Also, when I look around my home, it’s virtually all been furnished thanks to Woman’s Own Bingo! I won my first jackpot of £3,002 playing bingo in February 2007. My daughter, who lives in South Africa, had gone into labour and I was nervous and very excited as I waited to hear about the birth…

Clubbing together Plans for the next series of The X Factor are under way and it’s been rumoured that the audition stages could be going back to basics with hopefuls auditioning in front of the judges in small social clubs, rather than huge audiences in massive arenas. It would take the show back to its heyday when the acts had an on-screen journey from humble beginnings – and we’d love to see Louis Walsh down our local! ‘My son made me fried egg & yogurt’ Property guru Sarah Beeny chats about family life… Sarah, 41, lives in London with her husband of nine years, Graham, and their sons Billy, eight, Charlie, seven, Raffy, four, and Laurie, three. What’s the priciest thing you’ve bought recently? We just built a tree house…

Judy’s new love... TV presenter-turned-author Judy Finnigan, 64, is revelling in her new role – as a grandma. ‘People tell you how fantastic being a grandmother is and that it’s the same love you feel towards your own,’ she gushes. Between Judy and her husband Richard madeley, 56, the couple have four children, ranging from 25 – their daughter Chloe – to 36-year-old twins Dan and Tom, from Judy’s first marriage. and five months ago they welcomed their granddaughter, Ivy, into the family. ‘The first time we saw Ivy it was extraordinary,’ says proud Judy. ‘It’s as though she is part of you. It’s made me feel very tribal.’ ‘She always gets what she wants’ This Morning’s Holly Willoughby has recently declared she is ‘broody’. now we hear what the…

1998 Jane looked fresh-faced for her screen debut on The Cruise. Check out the retro blouse! 1998 More than 13.5 million people tuned in to watch Jane fulfill her dream and marry her manager, Henrik Brixen. 2001 The mullet does Jane no favours as she vamps it up with cabaret style. She could appear on Strictly in that frock! 2005 Divorced Jane went out on the prowl with brand new blonde highlights. Grr! 2009 Camp as Christmas and twice as loud – that’s our Jane! But she needs to tone down the make-up. 2010 Jane’s admitted she was no fan of this shorter hairstyle. Teamed with pearls, she looks older than her years. 2013 In love with Ed Rothe and happier than ever, Jane looks simply gorgeous. Happy birthday!…

Victoria Beckham’s daughter Harper was always going to be a mini-fashionista. Apparently, her clothes designer mum has a rule that the 20-month-old shouldn’t be photographed in the same outfit more than twice (we think that’s just an excuse to dress Harper up in as many cute outfits as possible). Here are the toddler’s style highlights… £134 Ready for the flight back to London last December, Harper wore a grey dot Chloe dress, £64, and sparkly sequinned ballerinas by Bloch, £70. £183 She was in the front row at her mum’s New York fashion show before having lunch out with her parents, and looked elegant in a lace dress, £109, and sandals, £74, both from Chloe. £200 Harper’s walking! Here she is in London last month, sporting a pair of stripy…

A skater dress will create curves in all the right places. Dress, £16, 8-20, George at Asda Necklace, £18.50, Wallis A reflection-print front and plain side panels puts a new spin on the illusion dress. Dress, £30, 12-22, Dorothy Perkins Bracelet, £15, Wallis Dress, £32, 8-20, savoir at Isme Necklace, £12.50, Dorothy Perkins This suits-all wrap is a wardrobe essential and even flatters a pregnancy bump Lace is still big news. If you want to cover up your arms, opt for three-quarter sleeves Pick a peplum to disguise a tummy, skim hips and cinch your waist. Dress, £38, 6-22, Next Bracelet, £18.50, Wallis shoes, £19.50, M&s Fashion This season is all about the two-in-one dress – a flattering blouse and skirt combo. Dress, £25, 8-20, Matalan Necklace, £22.50, Wallis…

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Will I ever find love? DEAR EMMA, My long-term relationship ended about two years ago when my partner left me for another woman. I’ve tried internet dating but so many men fib about everything on their profiles, I’m finding it hard to trust them. This just makes me feel terribly lonely. Am I the only woman who feels like this? Sarah, 49, via email No you’re not. Make no mistake – internet dating is hard work. There are a lot of frogs (who describe themselves as princes) to be kissed and the whole process can be exhausting. So I’d encourage you to try to enjoy being in a relationship with yourself first. Do things and go places that make you feel excited and energised. When you have learned to fully…

1 Which of these best describes how you tend to snack? A I might have a couple of biscuits mid-morning, but I’m not generally a big snacker – I normally go for three square meals a day instead B Depends what’s close to hand at the moment I get hungry C I try to be as good as possible and stick to low-fat snacks D Fruit. Or a whole chocolate bar if I’m having a tough day! 2 When offered the bread basket in a restaurant do you . . . A Always take a piece B Scoff loads if you’re starving, but not bother if you’re not C Often say no, but feel really deprived when you see others cheerfully tucking in D Decide whether to have some or…

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As a vicar, I am always going to fairs and fundraising events and if there’s one thing I know will be a hit, it’s my carrot cake. Slices of the moist, fruity sponge get snapped up quickly – and I have my Great Auntie Madge to thank for that. My mother died when I was 30 and I turned to my wonderful Auntie for help, especially because at the time I was bringing up my two daughters, Katie and Rachael. We would go round to see her at her house in Leeds, 10 miles from our home in Wetherby, while my husband Andrew, 55, was at his job as a pathologist. Each time she would serve up a steaming cup of tea and bring out her tin filled with fresh…

‘The animals roamed free among our guests’ It didn’t look like a place for a wedding ceremony – this big grassy field full of cows. But standing next to my fiancé, Mark, I knew at once. ‘This is the perfect spot for us,’ I said. It was May 2011 and, two months before, Mark had proposed. We had first met in 2010 when Mark, then 47, had come to work at The Royal Society for the Protection of Birds, where I was a volunteer. Perfect venue We both loved animals and were here at Hugletts Wood Farm Animal Sanctuary, in East Sussex, to see all the cows and chickens. Now, standing in the sunshine, I knew I had found where I wanted to get married. Luckily, the owners of the…

Embracing change! When my husband was offered a job in the Midlands, it meant a big upheaval, moving from our home on the South Coast, leaving my job and friends behind. But what a great move it turned out to be! To familiarise myself with our new town, I started running. Then I entered in a road race and did well enough for the local athletic club to invite me to join. I enjoyed running and being with my new friends so much that I eventually became a coach for the club. Now, I take part in races, coach runners and edit the club newsletter. I feel more at home here than I ever felt down on the coast, so thank you to all my new friends for making me…

Will they, won’t they? EMMERDALE ITV, Friday, 12 April Gennie can’t work up enthusiasm about her wedding day, as her mum Brenda refuses to go so her illness doesn’t ruin the nuptials. But will she save the day when her daughter has a wobble at the altar? This is Davina! FIVE MINUTES TO A FORTUNE C4, starts Saturday, 6 April If you’re a fan of Million Pound Drop, you’ll love this high-octane game show where contestants work in teams to complete five challenges in as many minutes. Davina McCall hosts. Sizzling chemistry THE PLACE BEYOND THE PINES Out 12 April Real-life couple Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes star in this gritty thriller. Motorcycle racer Luke (Ryan) battles against a cop (Bradley Cooper) while striving to provide for his lover (Eva)…

Celeb lookalike special! For more, go to womansown.co.uk/lookalikes Jesy Nelson & Carol Vorderman Jesy, 21, from girl band Little Mix, has the same heart-shaped face, luscious glossy brunette locks and hazel eyes as glam Loose Women co-host Carol, 52. Amanda Holden & Joan Rivers They may come from different sides of the Atlantic, but there’s an eerie likeness between blonde-bobbed TV stars Joan, 79, and Amanda, 42. Emma Bunton & Twiggy Now we can see what Emma, 37, will look like when she’s 63 – iconic model Twiggy! Kate Moss & Gillian Taylforth From the tousled blonde hair to the sharp cheekbones, Kate, 39, and Gillian, 57, are a matching pair. Carey Mulligan & Judi Dench With their petite features and elfin crops, actresses Dame Judi, 78, and Carey, 27,…

She’s always been proud to flaunt her plus-size figure – insisting ‘curves make women sexy’. But after dropping from a size 26 to a size 20 while on Strictly Come Dancing last year, Lisa Riley gushes that the show’s high-energy UK tour earlier this year has now seen her slim down to a sexy size 18 – and sent her confidence through the roof. So much so, she says, she has become vain and loves admiring herself in the mirror. And the single star admits her new curves have worked wonders for her love life, as she has been ‘dating loads recently’. The actress, 36, who shot to fame playing Mandy Dingle in Emmerdale for seven years, reveals, ‘Strictly whipped me down to a size 20 and saw me shed…

Looking out of the window I stare at the grey leaden skies and my mind flitters to another time, another world. I see myself on the stage, singing in a pub – everyone’s watching me and I’m loving the attention. Then that image flickers and I’m staring at the glass in front of me again. I am 56 years old and while I can see there’s a world outside, it might as well be a million miles away. This is because I’m agoraphobic and for the last 24 years this house has been my prison. My heart pumps with fear if I even open the front door. All I can do is sit in my armchair and dream of the life I once lived when I was a singer touring…

After dropping an impressive 3½st, WomanÕs Own reader Sue needed help choosing the right clothes to flatter her new figure. The 40-year-old mum-of-two says, ‘Ever since I lost weight, I’ve been determined to experiment more and try new styles, but have no clue how to, so instead I hide away in baggy, dark clothes.’ Cue our makeover team… Get the right style Fashion Editor Fiona Reardon shows how easy it is to change your look to suit a new shape THE JEGGINGS Sue arrived in a pair of bootcut jeans, which did absolutely nothing to show off her trim thighs, so I persuaded her to try on a skinny pair of jeggings, which had a high waist. They held in her tummy and gave her bottom a nice shape. The…

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Look after your heart CONSULTANT ORTHOPAEDIC SURGEON AT BMI THE PRIORY HOSPITAL, B’HAM, MARCUS GREEN SAYS: WHAT I EAT Breakfast is usually muesli and fruit, and lunch is often a salmon or salad sandwich with apples and bananas to snack on. I exercise a lot and I always seem to be hungry, so fruit is a much better option than the biscuits I can always find at work! Supper is typically pasta. Apart from the ritual takeaway curry on Fridays, I avoid fatty foods. My father had a heart attack when he was relatively young and I’m always conscious of that. WHAT I DRINK I have far too much coffee but I only drink alcohol at the weekend – a couple of glasses of wine or whisky. On weeknights, I…

Look at my seven-year-old girl Ella and you’ll see she is carrying a doll. In fact, she’s rarely without it. Peer a little closer and you’ll notice the doll is an exact replica of her. She has the same hair and cute smile and the identical dress. This doll is so much more than a favourite plaything. It symbolises a life that never was and is the missing piece of the jigsaw to Ella’s life. And every time I see them together, I can’t help feeling a tightness in my heart at what should have been… Eight years earlier, in May 2005, my husband Jeremy, 28, and I were looking forward to becoming first-time parents. We had been married a year and were thrilled that I’d fallen pregnant so quickly.…

TOP CONSUMER ADVICE FROM DEBBI MARCO With the current rate of inflation running at 2.7 per cent, it’s more tempting to hit the shops than to squirrel our money away in lowearning accounts. Especially with recent news of possible plans to introduce negative interest rates, which could in theory mean banks charging you to hold your savings! Yet whatever the scare stories, the volatile financial situation means it’s actually more important to save than ever before. Even if you can only afford to put away £20 a month, it will still add up. First, decide how quickly you may need to access the money, as this will help you choose the right type of account. Some of the best interest rates are for those that keep it locked away for…

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Taurus 21 Apr – 20 May A clandestine affair can get you into all kinds of trouble. But a secret crush can stay just that – secret. It is always worth asking yourself, if you are attracted to someone else, what that is telling you about your love life – or even about something you need right now. Just saying. For more call 0901 609 4781* Gemini 21 May – 20 Jun This week is about as lovey-dovey as it gets and for Geminis the potential is all in your friendship circle. Some of you hear from a pal who has fallen in love. Others have a mate who wants to mate with you! Whatever happens, there is a you’ll-neverguess-what feel to things this week. For more call 0901 609…

Armed with his trademark specs and infectious laugh, Alan Carr, 36, is making sure that the 10th series of his flamboyant talk show, Alan Carr: Chatty Man, is just as entertaining as ever. But while the Dorset-born comedian – the son of football player and manager Graham and cook Christine – loves nothing more than a good old-fashioned chinwag with his famous pals, he can also be found happily running around the park after his two dogs, Bev and Joyce. You get all the biggest names on your show. Will your mate Adele be back on this year? I don’t think so but she’s always welcome. I am her, what is it, ‘Messenger on Earth!’ Everybody wants to talk to me about her. That’s because normally she’s so very private……

Crush... Believe it or not, I had my first crush when I was only eight! His name was mark and he was the leader of the pack in the little gang that we were in. I absolutely worshipped him. Kiss... I was about 14 and madly in love with him – like you are at that age. He was about two years older than me, and would wait at the end of the school gates with his motorbike. He was a bit cool! Holiday without my parents... I was never really into mad holidays, which sounds really boring. But I did once go to Benidorm with my best friend (then and now) susan, when we were 18. That feels like forever ago now! Fashion regretÉ Looking back at photographs, there…