Innholdsfortegnelse for 21 August 2025 i You South Africa

WHEN I read this week’s inspiring interview with Siv Ngesi, I thought: “Wow, what a guy . . .” Siv is well-known and loved as an actor and comedian, but his latest venture is worlds removed from the entertainment business. He’s opened a sanitary pad factory. Its products won’t just be sold in retail, but will also be distributed for free to women and girls under the auspices of the MENstruation Foundation, which Siv founded with his friend, Marius Basson, in 2019. Siv grew up in a house full of women and he learnt to grasp the realities and challenges of the menstrual cycle from living with his mom, sisters and aunts. When he later realised many women and girls in South Africa can’t afford sanitary products, he made it…

THE details of the day she lost her husband are etched in her memory. It was a Saturday afternoon and she was getting ready for a family funeral. Thomas wasn’t home yet – he and his dad had gone to a business meeting and if he wasn’t home soon they were going to be late. Monet Murray poured herself a glass of wine to steady her nerves. The drink had been left over from a meal she and Thomas had enjoyed two nights before – a bottle of Springfield chardonnay and sushi, her two favourites. During the dinner they’d spoken about work as they often did. Thomas (28) was in the liquidation business with his dad, Cloete Murray, and she worked in the industry too. She had tried to get…

The shoulder bag The slouchy bag The bucket bag The crossbody bag Scarfed & styled TIP Fold a square scarf into a triangle and tie it under your hair for a classic, bandanna look. Or try wrapping it like a turban or tying it in front for something more playful. Light fabrics such as silk, satin or soft cotton work best – they fold easily, stay in place and won’t feel bulky or stiff. Tied & twisted TIP Use long, narrow scarves or thin, rectangular ones as these are easy to wrap and braid into hair without adding bulk. Bright prints or solid colours add a stylish pop to any braid or ponytail. Waist-tied chic TIP Medium-weight scarves like cotton, linen or silk blends hold their shape but stay comfy.…

ABOUT 10 years ago, Dr Tanya Finnie’s life changed. Diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis and fibro-myalgia – chronic, autoimmune conditions that cause joint pain, fatigue, brain fog and inflammation throughout the body – the professional speaker and mom of one had to find a way to exist in her new body while still living her life. “I’ve sat through meetings silently pushing through pain because I didn’t want to be seen as dramatic,” she says. “I’ve had to cancel plans, not because I didn’t want to show up, but because my body had already decided for me. “There’s a constant tension between wanting to appear ‘fine’ and the reality that, some days, simply existing takes all my energy.” Tanya wasn’t always this sick. The symptoms have become worse over the years,…

MATRIMONIAL MAYHEM ■ Scientists have recently discovered a food that greatly reduces sex drive. It’s called wedding cake. ■ I never knew what happiness was until I got married – and then it was too late. ■ Some men say they don’t wear their wedding band because it cuts off circulation. Well, that’s the point, isn’t it? ■ My son wanted to know what it’s like to be married. I told him to leave me alone and when he did, I asked him why he was ignoring me. ■ A married couple come across a wishing well. The wife leans over, makes a wish and throws in a penny. The husband makes a wish too, but leans over too far, falls into the well and drowns. The wife says, “Wow!…

THE LIGHT A CANDLE SOCIETY By Ruth HoganCorvus This beautiful novel was inspired by an article the author read about a Scottish man who wrote poems and read them at funerals of those with no mourners. Part-time librarian and lover of bright shirts George McGlory is tending his wife’s grave when he witnesses a public health funeral. He discovers that these impersonal ceremonies are held for people who die alone with no known relatives or whose family is unable or unwilling to organise a funeral. With his florist friend Elena, undertaker Edwin, fellow librarian Roxy, and Sid, the owner of a second-hand emporium, he forms The Light a Candle Society. They each help in their own way to end lonely funerals in their village. Throughout the book there are poignant…

IN THE American state of California there are trees so tall, they’re higher than a 30-storey building, with trunks so wide that a car could drive right through them. These amazing trees are called redwoods and sequoias. They’re the biggest and some of the oldest living things on Earth – some have been around for thousands of years! Californian redwoods are the tallest trees in the world and can grow over 100 metres high. Their cousins, sequoias , don’t get quite as tall, but their trunks are much thicker, making them the largest trees by size and weight. MAKING NEW TREES Redwoods have special parts called cones that help them reproduce. Each tree grows two types of cones, but on different branches. Male cones make something called pollen, which is…

THE baby lies contentedly in his little chair on the counter of the open-plan kitchen, his hands tucked into socks to keep them warm. Two-month-old Luca is a quiet little boy, generally happy to chill and look around – but when his mom shows him a video of his father he waves his tiny arms and kicks his legs. “I love you so much,” his dad says on the video. “Miss you. We anchor in an hour, then I’ll call.” This was the last message Hugo Hattingh sent from Thailand before the unthinkable happened. The call he promised never came – soon after the video a catastrophic explosion rocked the catamaran he was working on, leaving him with life-threatening injuries. His wife, Jaynee Chambers, clings to that video now. “It’s…

HE’S walked the red carpet with some of Hollywood’s most stunning leading ladies – but no one could make Brad Pitt’s eyes sparkle and face light up quite like his mom. For decades, Jane Pitt was her son’s biggest cheerleader, his true north whose unconditional love helped shape him into one of cinema’s biggest stars. But now Brad (61) is having to come to terms with the fact that his guiding light is no longer around. Jane, a mother of three and grandmother of 14, died recently at home in Springfield, Missouri, just a week before her 85th birthday. It’s a huge loss for the movie star – and making it hurt even more is that for the past nine years Jane couldn’t spend time with his six children, Maddox…

IT WAS a carnival of bold pink in celebration of National Women’s Day at the second annual Zee Nation Fest. Thousands of fans embraced the event’s three themes of Carnival, Into the Wild and Pink at the Nasrec Expo Centre in Johannesburg. Host DJ Zinhle said the event, which was held in partnership with 5fm, represented a bold celebration of women, music, fashion and empowerment. “This festival is my dream. I am bringing everything that I’ve seen somewhere that I thought was cool into one place,” she told the Cape Argus. The festival coincided with the launch of her new album, Zee Nation Volume 1, her first fulllength release since her 2009 debut. The album’s cover features a picture collage of her fans, whom she refers to as the Besties.…

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THERE’S nothing like walking out of the salon with a fresh colour and a stunning blowout. But with so many fun and creative hair shades out there, where to begin? Whether you’ve been waiting for the right moment to go blonde, add a striking twist to your brunette base or go all out with a bolder hue, there are plenty of ways to zhoosh up your mane. Ready to hit refresh? Here’s inspo to help take your tresses from dull to dazzling. HITCHCOCK BLONDE THE LOWDOWN The ultimate cool-girl hue, Hitchcock blonde is an icy rootless shade inspired by the heroines of Alfred Hitchcock’s 1950s thrillers. Ultra-light with a glossy high-shine finish, just like actress Anya Taylor-Joy’s tresses, this sophisticated shade sits just shy of platinum, offering a velvety silvery…

WHY WOULD MY BELOVED ADOPTED SON ATTACK ME? Q I adopted my son when he was a baby. He grew up in a loving home and we always made sure that he was treated in the same as our two daughters and that he felt loved and cherished. As he grew up, he became cheeky and got involved with kids who used drugs and told him that his parents do not really care about him because he is adopted. He also started using drugs, despite our advice not to. A few months back, he woke me up early in the morning and asked me to take him somewhere. I said I would take him later in the day since it was still dark. He also asked me for money, which…

VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEP TIME FOR A FRESH START The Virgo time of the year commences on the 22nd, traditionally associated with harvesting crops. This is soon followed by a new moon in Virgo on the 23rd, guiding you to set intentions for the next year in your life. There is nothing a Virgo loves more than new brooms to sweep clean, so enjoy seeking out new beginnings. An old love-related matter may haunt you towards the 27th but treat it as a reminder to forgive and let go. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 32, 36, 51, 33, 13 LIBRA 23 SEP – 22 OCT Planetary movements indicate that you may be experiencing the quiet before the storm. It would be useful to focus on retreating into your inner…

SENTEBALE RIFT DEEPENS HARRY LOSES CONTROL OF HIS CHARITY PRINCE Harry has lost his battle to retain control of Sentebale, the charity he cofounded in 2006, following a damaging governance crisis. He resigned as patron in March after chairperson Sophie Chandauka made allegations of harassment and misogyny, triggering the departure of several trustees. Earlier this month, a Charity Commission investigation ruled that Sophie and the current board can remain in place, effectively handing her victory in the dispute. The watchdog criticised “all parties” for allowing the row to play out publicly and found problems with the way the charity is governed. The Duke of Sussex’s team welcomed the finding that there was no evidence of bullying, though a spokesman said the report “falls troublingly short” in that the “consequences of…

CHUNKY APRICOT and SULTANA CHUTNEY MAKES 1,25L / PREPARATION: 20 MINS / STANDING: 1-2 HRS OR OVERNIGHT / COOKING: 1 HR A homemade apricot chutney you can bottle and store for later, or use immediately on a decadent warm cheeseboard! ◗ 200g dried peaches◗ 100g dried apricots◗ 50g dried sultanas◗ 2-4 rooibos teabags◗ 1L boiling water◗ 30ml (2T) oil◗ 2 large onions, chopped◗ 4-6 garlic cloves, chopped OR 15ml (1T) chopped garlic◗ 15ml (1T) dried chilli flakes OR 2 chopped fresh chillies (optional)◗ 10-15ml (2-3t) roasted cumin seeds◗ 500ml (2c) brown sugar◗ 250ml (1c) white vinegar◗ 2,5ml (½t) salt to season Keep four to six seal-able bottles on hand. 1 Place the peaches, apricots and sultanas in a deep bowl. 2 Steep the teabags in the boiling water and pour…

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Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. WHEN a family member asks for a loan, do you feel obliged to help? When you go out for a meal with friends, do you often pay the bill? While you may like to be generous, it could put your budget under severe strain and stop you from achieving your financial goals. Be sure you’re handing over money for the right reasons and that you’re not being manipulated or are expected to pay because you’re seen as an easy touch. SIGNS YOU NEED TO SET BOUNDARIES 1 YOU GET REPEATED REQUESTS FOR LOANS OR DONATIONS If people often ask you for money, there’s a reason they do so. They…

DID you know that our national tree is the real yellowwood, and that it started growing in ancient forests long before humans built the first cities or even walked the Earth? Scientists say the ancestors of the mighty yellowwood tree grew on the prehistoric supercontinent of Gondwana, surrounded by giant reptiles and strange plants that would, over the next 200 million years, evolve into the plants and animals we recognise today. The yellowwoods we see now are distant relatives of those ancient trees. They’ve managed to survive ice ages, mass extinctions and major climate changes throughout history. Today you can still find yellowwoods growing tall and strong in South African forests, where they continue to play an important role in the natural world around them. PODOCARPUS FAMILY The name yellowwood…

WHAT would Simon Leviev do if he were to walk into the busy London café I’m sitting in with Cecilie Fjellhoy and Pernilla Sjoholm? “He would wet his pants and run,” Pernilla says. Posing as a diamond heir, Leviev – better known as the Tinder Swindler – defrauded victims around the world out of more than $10 million (R180m). While the 2022 release of the smash-hit Netf lix documentary The Tinder Swindler laid bare the women’s devastation – the crippling debt they tried to escape and for Cecilie the marriage and baby-filled future Leviev promised being exposed as a sham – they now say the tables are finally turning. “I have way more power than he does,” Pernilla (38) says with a smile. “He’s not a real man; he’s scared…

WHEN they were kids the brothers barely even knew what rugby was – but lots changed in the years that followed. All four Tshituka boys would eventually play the game and one of them, 26-year-old Vincent, would go all the way to being called up to join the Springboks. His brother Emmanuel (25) – or Manu, as everyone calls him – plays for the Sharks and is a strong contender to join his big bro in the Bok squad in the not-too-distant future. But it’s been a long hard slog to get this far. The brothers came to South Africa as refugees from the Democratic Republic of the Congo more than 20 years ago and after a nightmare of bureaucratic red tape received their SA citizenship only a few months…

IT WAS supposed to be an inspiring heart-to-heart about self-worth, authenticity and the pressure of doing it all – instead it’s become one of the most-mocked podcasts in recent memory. Everyone from meme creators and satirists to people who just like to poke fun have been having a field day, pulling content from the 90-minute episode and laughing their heads off all the way through it. It might be three months since the Duchess of Sussex went onto her friend Jamie Kern Lima’s podcast, The Jamie Kern Lima Show, but the episode is the gift that keeps on giving as far as social media users are concerned. It has been called insufferable, awkward, cringe, ridiculous. There was “the power of yet” – you know, when Meghan says she tells her…