Innholdsfortegnelse for 10 December 2015 i You South Africa

I WAS reading an international magazine the other day that listed random acts of kindness people had experienced during the year, and it really moved me. Here at home contributors to our letters page were so touched by the woman who complimented a patient with blood soaked-hair, making her see beyond her unhappiness. I want to hear more of these stories and I’m sure our readers do too. Please send us examples of kindness you’ve experienced and how they made you feel. We all need a bit of uplifting. Our new Best Diets magazine is on the shelves and in this edition we focus on the healthiest, most sustainable ways to lose weight – and keep it off for good. We teamed up with local dieticians to bring you six…

MOVE over, Prince George – there’s a new gorgeous royal in the house! With her big baby blues, chubby cheeks and infectious smile Princess Charlotte has eclipsed her big brother in the cuteness stakes. Dressed in a pretty floral frock with a frilly white collar and a pale pink cashmere cardigan, the seven-month-old – who was last seen in public at her christening in July – can be seen gazing at the camera before breaking into squeals of laughter as she plays with a toy puppy. Opinions are varied as to whether the fourth in line to the throne looks more like her handsome dad, Prince William (33), or her beautiful mother, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge (33), but we think she’s a perfect combination of both. The photos – taken…

IN A single rapid movement Debbie Adlington sweeps back her blonde hair with her right hand to expose the scar on her scalp. She knows exactly where it is – the spot where an axe, swung by her husband, Tony, made contact with the top of her skull. There’s no need for a mirror, no need to feel along the top of her head to find it. It may be almost 14 years since the day Tony (45) attacked her with an axe and killed their three children before shooting himself, but she remembers everything as if it were yesterday. While Debbie (53) shows us the scar, her daughter Kylie-Ann (10) runs around in a cool summer frock, clutching a bunch of pink balloons. Her birthday party is due to…

HELL hath no fury like a woman scorned, the old saying goes. But imagine the rage when a bride is involved – and she’s been let down by the person from whom she’s buying her wedding dress. Several South African brides-to-be are furious after being scammed out of the gowns they thought they’d be wearing on their big day. The woman who promised them special prices for the dress of their dreams is now under investigation after being arrested on charges of theft under false pretences. Although they’re pleased she’s been arrested many of the victims are devastated their plans have been derailed in such a big way. Tale upon distressing tale was shared on the Wedding Junkie Facebook page where Alexis Adara, as she’d called herself, conducted her business.…

D URBAN restaurateur and award-winning cookbook writer Neil Roake has gained many fans with his Life’s A Beach Cottage cookbooks. They’re packed with recipes for delicious dishes you can rustle up quickly and easily in the holiday season. In the third book in the series, offerings vary from tasty Mediterranean dishes to meals with an Asian twist and refreshing cocktails. WATERMELON AND MELON SALAD WITH ASIAN SALAD DRESSING Use a selection of watermelon and melons for this super-easy salad. SERVES 6-8  Preparation: 15 min SALAD 1,5 kg selection of melons, diced 500 g seedless watermelon, cut into triangles 500 g cooked and shelled prawns 4 radishes, sliced t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s fresh basil for scattering on top 175 g pomegranate seeds NUOC CHAM SAUCE 60…

PRETTY PARCELS YOU NEED TOOLS •Craft knife •Pencil •Ink pad MATERIALS Paper Eraser R2,90, Merrypak Toilet roll tube Washi tape, string or ribbon Totalcost R2,90 STEP 1 Draw a design on an eraser and cut away the negative space STEP 2 Use your stamp to print a pattern on a strip of paper STEP 3 Flatten the toilet roll tube and then bend in the sides STEP 4 Wrap the printed paper around the tube and tie the tape, string or ribbon around it WAX PAPER POMPOM YOU NEED TOOLS • Craft knife • Scissors MATERIALS Wax paper R19,99 for a 20-m roll, Checkers String Totalcost R19,99 STEP 1 Cut five or six 10-cm strips of wax paper Place the strips on top of each other and fold zigzag like…

JUST before he was due to go to London on a gap year Nicholas Glanvill’s plans were scotched by a mole. The then 18-year-old’s mom, Patricia, spotted the odd-looking growth. He reluctantly went to see the doctor and as a precaution the mole was removed and sent for testing. “It was a pretty standard procedure,” says Nicholas from Port Elizabeth. “I’d had a few moles cut out before and on the previous occasions Id been cleared.” But this time it was different. A few days later his GP called to say the mole was a malignant melanoma and Nicholas had stage 2 cancer. The news came as a huge shock to the young man, who’s now 24. “Luckily the cancer was still only in the skin” he says. “But as…

IN HIS latest movie, Good Kill, the actor plays a US fighter pilot who’s given a new mission that doesn’t involve getting into a jet. Instead he has to operate deadly drone strikes against Taliban units in Afghanistan from a military air base in Las Vegas, USA. Ethan (45) is also an author and has just published his third novel, a book for young adults called Rules For A Knight. The Boyhood actor has two daughters, Clementine (7) and Indiana (4), with his wife, Ryan, and daughter Maya (17) and son Levon (13) from his previous marriage to actress Uma Thurman (45). Tell us about your new movie, Good Kill. It’s a story about these pilots who used to fly F-16s in Iraq and now they sit in a metal…

THE RABBIT WHO WANTS TO FALL ASLEEP By Carl-Johan Forssén Ehrlin, Ladybird, R149* “Warning! Use this book with caution It may cause drowsiness or an unintended catnap” These are Forssén Ehrlin’s words of advice in the introduction to his runaway bestseller The aim of the book is to help parents get young children to go to sleep Since its release earlier this year it has eclipsed the success of The Girl On The Train and Harper Lee’s Go Set A Watchman, becoming the first self-published title to top Amazon’s bestseller lists It revolves around an insomniac rabbit named Roger At her wits’ end about his inability to fall asleep, his mother gets him to see Uncle Yawn, a wise wizard who knows exactly what to do The word sleep crops…

AS A child she was ridiculously cute, captivating movie audiences with her unforgettable performance in the blockbuster ET. But then things went horribly wrong for Drew Barrymore: by age 12 she had a drinking problem and had gone for her first trip to rehab, a year later her mom booked her into a mental institution, and when she came out 18 months later she realised that at age 14 she was regarded in movie circles as a washed-up has-been. IMAGINE you were a Hollywood producer listening to this pitch: a baby girl born into an acting dynasty is put to work in a dog-food commercial at the age of 11 months. At seven, she’s a film star pouring Irish liqueur over her ice cream, at 11 she develops a drinking…

Louis’ hernia is reasonably well advanced and repairing it would be a challenge, says Professor Brian Warren, executive head of the department of surgical sciences in the faculty of medicine and health sciences at Stellenbosch University. He estimates the operation would cost about R120 000 in a private hospital if there were no complications. How are hernias formed? Professor Warren explains that picking up a heavy object – as Louis did – increases pressure on the lower abdomen. “This can cause the contents of the abdomen to be forced through a weak point in the abdominal wall. Other factors that can cause hernias, especially in older people, are everyday activities and the weakening of tissue that occurs over the years but isn’t always obvious.” During the operation to repair the…

We pinned down the 25-year-old 5FM presenter and asked her some off-the-wall questions. What bores you to tears? Small talk Which is more important – trust or love? Both – there’s no love without trust Would you rather be poor and happy or sad and rich? Poor and happy What do you miss most from your childhood? Not having to worry about bills What’s the last thing you ate? An apple Would you rather be invisible or able to read minds? Read minds! Defini ely What’s the last thing you bought online? Movie tickets Would you rather have a missing finger or an extra toe? Ha-ha Missing finger…

THE CARER’S WORLD I TAKE care of my elderly disabled parent who’s wheelchair-bound. It’s a role I choose to take on because I want my parent to feel as loved, wanted, safe and secure as I was made to feel. Often when we’re out, kind people stop and tell me how blessed I am to be able to look after my parent. I smile, agree and thank them because I know they mean well. What I’d like them to know is that while carrying out this role on my own 24/7, 365 days a year and into my ninth year, I don’t feel blessed at all. I feel physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. I ache from my head to my feet, am severely sleep-deprived and have several internal injuries that…

SHE repeatedly slips a neatly folded sterile dressing under her sunglasses, dabbing at her eye without removing the stylish eyewear. She doesn’t want to take them off – beneath their protective lenses is a damaged eye that’s lost all sight because of a beating. Josina Machel, daughter of Graça Machel and late Mozambican president Samora Machel, seems to be okay – until she starts talking about the day she was assaulted by her partner of two years. When she arrives at the Saxon Hotel in Johannesburg, Josina (39) greets the staff with a friendly smile and is poised as she walks with her driver by her side. But when she settles in to talk about how she suffered at the hands of a man she loved, the pain is evident…

BASIC RECIPE MAKES 75-80PROFITEROLESPreparation: 10 minBaking: 15 min 250 ml (1 c) water 115 g butter, at room temperature, cubed 250 ml (1 c) cake flour, sifted 4 eggs, at room temperature, whisked in separate bowls Preheat the oven to 180 °C Brush a baking tray lightly with oil 1 Put the water and butter in a saucepan over medium heat and stir for 3-4 minutes or until the butter has melted and the mixture just comes to the boil 2 Add all the flour, using a wooden spoon to beat until well incorporated Cook over low heat for 1-2 minutes, while stirring, until the mixture forms a ball and begins to come away from the sides Set aside for 5 minutes to cool slightly 3 Add the eggs one…

The tree decorations are easy and the stockings require some skill USE your knitting and crochet skills to decorate your Christmas tree this year. These are ideal projects for using up oddments of leftover yarn. MATERIALS Oddments of Elle DK yarn ofyour choice in red, white, greenand orange 4 mm knitting needles 4 mm crochet hook 2 stitch holders Coloured markers Black, gold and red seed beads Red, black and green sequins Lengths of black and greenribbon Assortment of brightlycoloured buttons Twine or cord for hanging loops Matching coloured sewingthread Tapestry needle Safety pin Polyester toy stuffing TENSION Not required STOCKINGS Note: these are designed from the top downwards in the same way you’d knit a sock, with a toe and simple heel Choose which yarn from red and white…

I’M JUST THEIR SLAVE Q I’m 18 and have been emotionally blackmailed by my mother all my life. When I was 11 she met her current husband. He has two kids from a previous relationship and a two-year-old with my mom. I’m the eldest yet I’m the one who’s punished over the smallest thing. I’ve never been to a party or gone out after 5 pm. About a year ago my boyfriend moved in with us to be closer to his job. He pays rent, buys food for the household and takes care of most of my expenses. He also gets nappies for my little sister. Yet I often go to bed without eating because my mom and stepfather make me feel bad about my boyfriend living with us. I’ve…

INSIDE OUT 2015. 100 min. PG. Animated adventure. R129* The life of 11-year-old Riley (voiced by Kaitlyn Dias) has been dominated by Joy (Amy Poehler), one of five emotions – the others being Fear (Bill Hader), Anger (Lewis Black), Sadness (Phyllis Smith) and Disgust (Mindy Kaling) – that reside inside her mind or Headquarters But when her dad (Kyle MacLachlan) gets a job in San Francisco, Riley struggles to adjust to her new life and her emotions are thrown into turmoil, with Joy growing increasingly concerned as Sadness starts to take over Pixar’s 15th film maintains the animation studio’s incredibly high standards, combining creativity, humour, intelligence and heart to tell a simple story in an imaginative, engaging and emotionally resonant way Pete Docter, responsible for two of the company’s most…

1 The 30-year-old British singer found fame last year after he won TV talent search show The X Factor. His debut single, Something I Need, went to No 1 and his latest, Second Hand Heart (featuring Kelly Clarkson), has been heating up the local iTunes chart and radio stations. 2 The former van driver is now a multimillionaire and drives a snazzy second-hand Volkswagen Scirocco. “If I hadn’t won The X Factor I’d still be driving my van, I’d still be making music in my bedroom and I’d still be unhappy, 100 percent,” he says. He’s paid off the mortgage on his mom’s home in Croydon, South London, where he still lives with her and his older brother, Alex. “We haven’t gone all posh. We still shop at [UK supermarket…

BOOKWORM Mackenzie (15) was a huge fan of the book The Little Prince when she was younger. She voices The Little Girl, who discovers a prince and escapes into a fantasy world. SHE’S NO HOLLYWOOD NEWBIE! She first found fame as Renesmee Cullen, the half-human, half-vampire daughter of Edward Cullen (Robert Pattinson) and Bella Swan (Kristen Stewart), in the final Twilight film. She says Rob was the coolest celebrity dad ever! MULTI-TALENTED At the tender age of four she starred in print ads for big fashion brands such as Polo, Ralph Lauren and Guess. She’s also trained in ballet, jazz and tap. CELEB BESTIES She’s BFFs with star of comedy series Black-ish Yara Shahidi (15) and Joey King (16), her co-star in the horror flick The Conjuring. RANDOM FACTS She…

SHE seems to be living a grand life – jetsetting across the globe, rubbing shoulders with two of the hottest trendsetters in Hollywood, gracing the small screen and ruling the airwaves. Thando Thabethe has worked hard to have it all – despite having experienced great personal loss, the Generations: The Legacy actress and 5FM presenter is clearly riding the crest of the wave. The gorgeous 25-year-old, dressed in a black playsuit and sequined pumps, looks confident when we catch up with her to talk about her recent trip to Australia where she hung out with Kendall (20) and Kylie (18) Jenner. “It was an amazing experience,” Than-do says with a smile. “I’ve always wanted to travel. I enjoy meeting international celebrities and seeing how entertainment works on an international level.”…

SO YET another Hollywood couple have called it quits KATE BECKINSALE and husband LEN WISE-MAN, who directed her in the Underworld movie franchise, are divorcing after 11 years Sources say the pair (both 42) separated months ago but kept it under wraps “There’s been no drama It’s just not Kate’s style” an insider revealed The two met on the set of 2003’s Underworld when Len was still married to his first wife and Kate was dating actor Michael Sheen They married a year later The split has been put down to their busy schedules and growing apart, but the source adds they’re “still friendly” The actress flaunted her single status at the recent British Fashion Awards in London where she arrived on the arm of a handsome male friend Meanwhile…

Yes, even their pets get the pamper treatment! (53)hasapparentlysigned up her Chihuahua for acupuncture sessions. The pooch, Vida Blue, undergoes twice-weekly needle treatments – at a cost of $715 [R10 000] a session – to help keep her calm and happy. “Demi is just really into holistic food and medicine for her animals, the way she is for herself,” a source says. • Fashion designer MARYKATE OLSEN (29) has married her long-time beau, French banker Olivier Sarkozy (46). The pair, whose age gap has raised a few eyebrows, tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in Manhattan where guests were treated to party décor that included bowls filled with cigarettes! While this is the former child star’s first marriage, Olivier – half-brother of former French president Nicolas Sarkozy – has…

It never ceases to amaze me how people turn into crazed consumers over Christmas. Queues, packed malls, overpriced items and advertising onslaughts do nothing to encourage a season of goodwill – neither does loud Christmas music. Consumers also tend to forget that those who work in retail are actually people too. They have families and would probably rather be at home with them than taking abuse from impatient consumers. Peace on earth needs to start with how we treat those around us. NICOLA, EMAIL • As the season of goodwill is upon us, take a moment to consider the many people in retail who’ll be working long hours to serve you. Please show a bit of consideration. Believe me when I tell you I’m not going to get to you…

HE’S either one of the unluckiest men in the world – or the luckiest. He was at the scene of two of the most devastating terrorist attacks in living memory. But he also survived them. On the morning of 11 September 2001 an American known only as Matthew was on his way to a meeting in Manhattan, New York. He was at the foot of the South Tower when a United Airlines plane crashed into one of the World Trade Centre’s twin towers. And last month he was in Paris during its deadliest terror attack in recent memory. “I sprinted across half of Manhattan,” Matthew says of 9/11. “But what I went through in the Bataclan was a thousand times worse.” Matthew is one of the survivors of the 13…

VEGETABLE DHALTJIES WITH SWEET CHILLI AND YOGHURT DIP Dhaltjies are Cape Malay chilli bites. SERVES 4 Preparation: 10 minCooking: 20 min 125 ml (½ c) cakeflour60 ml (¼ c) cornflour375 ml (1½ c)chickpea flour2 ml (½ t) bakingpowder15 ml (1 T) roastedcurry powder5 ml (1 t) ground cumin2 ml (½ t) eachground coriander,chilli powder andcayenne pepper5 ml (1 t) salt2 carrots, grated¼ cabbage, grated1 red onion, finelychopped2-3 chillies, finelychopped10 g fresh coriander,finely chopped2 eggs, whisked250 ml (1 c) wateroil for deep-frying DIP 125 ml (½ c) plainyoghurt60 ml (¼ c) sweetchilli sauce 1 Sift together the three kinds of flour and baking powder Add the spices and salt and mix 2 Mix in the carrots, cabbage, onion, chilli and coriander Make a well in the middle Pour the eggs and…

F YOU’RE having a hard time creating a regular waterfall braid, try this simple twisted version. It’s super-cute and a lot easier to do. What distinguishes this braid from the ordinary waterfall one is you use only two strands of hair instead of three. STEP BY STEP STEP 1 Pick up a big section of hair on one side of the head near the face STEP 2 Divide the section into two equal strands and hold them horizontally, as you do in the normal waterfall braid STEP 3 Cross the bottom strand over the top one so they switch places STEP 4 Now take a smaller strand of hair from the head near the parting and let it fall between the other two Ask your model to hold the strand…

OLD, OLDER, FLAT BROKE? If you save just enough money to last for the first 15 years after you retire it means you probably expect to die before you’re 80. But what happens if you live to 90 or more? Talk to your financial adviser and find out how much money you’ll get when you retire – and how much you’ll pay in tax. What will your monthly income be when you retire? Exactly how long is that nest egg going to last you? WORK, WORK, WORK . . . Work for as long as long as you can. Retiring from age 55 to 65 is way too young if you’re going to live another 30 or 40 years, Brian Butchart of Brenthurst Wealth says. If you can’t retire later,…

LISTEN TO THIS! DELIRIUM ELLIE GOULDING The British pop star shows off her set of pipes on her third album on which she effortlessly blends various genres, from ’80s disco to club music and EDM Highlights include Holding On For Life – co-written with Greg Kurstin, the talented hitmaker who’s penned songs for the likes of Lily Allen and who co-wrote Adele’s No 1 smash hit, Hello – and Love Me Like You Do from the hit movie Fifty Shades Of Grey It’s a lengthy album but Ellie’s distinctive voice makes the time fly – PETRUS MALHERBE PURPOSE JUSTIN BIEBER What a comeback from the Biebs! The 21-year-old Canadian pop star’s latest album has silenced some of his harshest critics and even won over new fans The first single, What…

CAPRICORN DEC 21 – JAN 20 Communicative Mercury moves into your sign this week, making it a good time to speak your mind and let others know what you think Since your voice probably conveys authority and you’re likely to be influential, choose your words wisely A pessimistic message will do more harm than good Even for reserved Capricorns, it’s a good week to network and interact YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 17, 43, 36, 19, 6, 22 AQUARIUS JAN 21 – FEB 18 It’s the right week to spend your energy on learning more, whether you want to acquire knowledge or expand your world view You could do a course, explore scientific topics or read up on alternative subjects As a sociable person you may also like connecting with a diverse…

HOW TO BE INSTA-COOL! Follow these tips to make your mark on Instagram CHOOSE A SNAPPY HASHTAG  More people will see your photo if you give it a clever hashtag. STUDIES SHOW PEOPLE LOVE FACES  Share pics of you and your friends to attract more clicks. DON’T OVERSHARE  If you have to read what someone’s doing three times a day you’ll get bored. Keep the mystery alive and share a pic at most once a day so people don’t become irritated. CREATE A PATTERN If other users find out you’re sharing pics of your breakfast or outfit every day they’re likely to come back to check if you’ve uploaded your latest photo. SHARE AND SHARE ALIKE  If you dish out likes and comments on other people’s pics they’ll probably do…

THEY have very few worldly possessions left. He hasn’t even kept his Springbok blazers and jerseys – he gave them away with their furniture and other belongings before they moved out of their house, rented it out and bought a caravan. “This is now our home,” says former Bok lock Rudi “Vleis” Visagie, pointing to the Gypsey Regal parked among tall trees in a caravan park near Nelspruit in Mpumalanga. “Everything we own is in here.” “And that’s enough for us,” his wife, Frieda, adds. Their lives have changed dramatically since he accidentally shot his daughter, Marlé, 11 years ago. He’d mistaken the 19-year-old for a car thief on their plot at Maggiesdal, Nelspruit, and she died from the gunshot wound (YOU, 10 June 2004). They’re sharing their story all…

GABRIELLA (19 months) “Watching Bella grow into a little busy toddler has been so much fun! She’s such an easy child and she has such an amazing sense of humour All we do all day is laugh at her!” says her mom, model LEE-ANN LIEBENBERG (33) – who’s married to businessman NICKY VAN DER WALT (35) And their eldest daughter, Gia (5), is a great playmate, she adds “Bella is incredibly smart – which I think has a lot to do with Gia teaching her words She’s also a real busybody and extremely social” EVE (14 months) Little Evie seems to have inherited mom CHRISTINA STORM’s beautiful elfin looks “It’s such a cliché to say this but I can’t believe how much she’s grown” the 41-year-old former model says about…