Innholdsfortegnelse for 14 March 2024 i You South Africa

I’VE been blessed with amazing friends. They’re a unique group of individuals, each with their own personalities and each bringing their own sense of spark to what I like to call “my tribe”. Growing up, my family would constantly say things like, “You live for your friends”. I had quite a few and was always out and about with one of them. As the years passed, however, those numbers dwindled and my friend group became smaller. Now it’s just a handful of my nearest and dearest. With some, it was because we’d just lost touch. With others, we’d simply outgrown each other or chosen different paths, and I’d eventually learnt that that’s okay. On page 82, experts unpack how to navigate a friendship breakup as an adult – how to…

THEY had talked about getting married and both agreed they wanted a small, intimate wedding. The possibility of them having children was also on the cards. Jeandre de Beer and Adriaan Holtzhausen were working towards their dream. But it all came crashing down when Adriaan died last June after suffering a heart attack in his sleep. Instead of planning their wedding, 27-year-old Jeandre from Pretoria had to plan his partner’s funeral. And to honour Adriaan’s final wishes, Jeandre arranged to scatter his ashes at Palm Beach in KwaZulu-Natal. “It was his favourite beach. He said it’s very peaceful and natural and it wasn’t commercialised,” Jeandre tells YOU. But his plan has been put on hold as he finds himself embroiled in a legal battle with Adriaan’s family over his late…

THE POINTY KITTEN HEEL Pointy slingback kitten heels are a big trend this year as shown by this New York Fashion Week guest. FOLD-OVER BOOTS A New York Fashion Week guest rocked one of this season’s most fun shoe styles – the fold-over boot. BLOCK HEELS Fashion editor and writer Nikki Ogunnaike and guest were both classic and chic in trendy block heels at Paris Fashion Week. ANKLE BOOTS Actress Tina Leung wore black ankle boots at New York Fashion Week. DERBYS A Paris Fashion Week guest wears chunky Derby shoes – perfect for relaxed and dressy outfits. BIKER BOOTS A Paris Fashion Week guest kept it classic and cool in biker boots. LOAFERS Musician Arthur Robert pairs an all-denim look with a classy pair of loafers at Paris Fashion…

UNDERSTANDING THE ASSIGNMENT I work in the props department for a stage show company. Yesterday my boss asked me to fetch a 30m roll of bubble wrap from the store room. I brought it to her but her hands were full so she told me to just pop it in the corner. Took me an hour. FLY IN THE SKY ■ Life is like a helicopter. . . I have no idea how to operate a helicopter I’m a helicopter instructor. ■ It’s ok, but it has its ups and downs. UP, UP, AND AWAY ■ What kind of music do balloons hate? Pop music ■ So many balloons being shot down. I guess it’s a fight against inflation. ■ I shouldn’t have bought balloons from a salesman with commitment…

BOOK OF THE WEEK MY FATHER’S HOUSE By JOSEPH O’CONNOR Vintage In 1943 the Nazis invaded Rome, with the city ruled by the vicious Gestapo commander Paul Hauptmann. The Vatican, an independent country within the city, was neutral territory and off limits to Hitler’s thugs. As the Occupation went on, escape lines were set up by Catholic priests living in the Vatican, which resulted in hundreds of Jews and allied prisoners of war finding sanctuary and freedom, and it’s this real-life story that provides the meat and bones for Joseph O’Connor’s heart-stopping novel. Gathering together a disparate group of sympathisers under the guise of a choir, Monsignor Hugo O’Flaherty raises cash, plots escape routes and plans a perilous Christmas Eve mission when the ruthlessly enforced curfew must be broken so…

YOUNG YOUWE TALK ABOUT FOR the first time in 51 years, an American craft has touched down on the moon. The privately owned spacecraft named Odysseus landed on 22 February at the Malapert crater near the moon’s south pole. The mission was organised by the space exploration company Intuitive Machines and is part of Nasa’s plan to send commercially flown spacecraft on scientific scouting missions to the moon ahead of a planned return of astronauts there later this decade. Only five countries – the US, Russia, China, India and Japan – have managed a lunar landing and Intuitive Machines is the first private business to do so. HOUSTON, WE HAVE A PROBLEM Odysseus is a six-legged unmanned robot lander. When it landed on the moon it stumbled over a rock…

GERI HALLIWELL’s carefully crafted image of a picture-perfect family life lies in tatters following husband CHRISTIAN HORNER’s sexual harassment scandal. The former Spice Girl had been standing by her man after the Red Bull Formula One team’s principal was accused of coercive behaviour towards a female employee. But just 24 hours after Christian (50) was cleared, an anonymous source leaked a 79-page document containing intimate WhatsApp messages and images Christian allegedly sent to the accuser. A source told Daily Mail Geri (51) has been distraught during this whole process and was delighted when he was cleared of all charges. “Geri has been living in this happy, happy bubble for so many years now, she thought she had her prince and her knight in shining armour, but now this.” “Now it…

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HE WAS at home in Springbok in the Northern Cape when he got the call that made his blood run cold: his beloved daughter Joshlin was missing. Jose Emke has barely slept a wink since he got the chilling news. In a case that has gripped the nation, six-year-old Joshlin Smith disappeared without a trace from her home in Saldanha Bay on 19 February. Her mother, Kelly Smith, said the little girl felt sick on the way to school so she left her in the care of her boyfriend, and when she got home she couldn’t find her anywhere and reported her missing to the police. Jose (34) made the five-hour trip from Springbok to Saldanha Bay to join the search for his daughter. “Thoughts of where she is and…

SHE travelled to four continents before she was 18, summitted Kilimanjaro at 20 and by 24 she was one of South Africa’s youngest self-made millionaires. Pretty impressive stuff for a woman whose first record was being the youngest child at her school to get detention – she was six – and going on to just making it through most of her school career. “Every year I scraped through,” Alexandria Procter says. “In Grade 11, I remember getting like 32% for maths,” she tells us on a video call the day after her 30th birthday. “I didn’t do well in the school structure. Like, it just didn’t suit me,” she says. She credits one of her teachers with helping her find some focus. “She sat me down when I was in…

I’M AFRAID SHE MIGHT HURT HERSELF Q The mother of my two children died in 2021 due to Covid. Now my 14-year-old daughter is really worrying me. She is moody, short-tempered and cheeky. She is also uncooperative and unwilling to assist with household chores. I am a prison warder and was recently transferred to a new town, which meant she had to change schools, make new friends and adapt to an unfamiliar environment. I recently found out that she writes her feeling on pieces of paper. Things like, “I miss my mom” and “She was my hero”. I should also mention that in November 2022 I was involved in a terrible car accident and ended up in a coma. The accident left me a paraplegic, but I am still employed.…

For daily horoscopes go to you.co.za. PISCES 28 FEBRUARY – 20 MARCH YOU’RE FLOATING ON CLOUD NINE With the Sun and Neptune joining in your very own sign, you’re in your element this week. For once, you don’t need an excuse to be floating on cloud nine – you’re living your best daydreaming life. This might also translate into you being more psychic or intuitive than usual, as if the veil between the different worlds have been momentarily lifted. Remember to keep your feet on the ground so you don’t get carried away. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 3, 17, 31, 25, 18, 8 ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL If you’re in tune with your intuition, you will sense that this is a time for keeping a low profile. Use the…

SHE knew she had a problem when she was so overweight it was a struggle to get out of bed in the morning. But Teresa Parent couldn’t figure out what to do about it and so her weight just kept creeping up. Even when she tipped the scales at 288kg and needed to be driven around in a golf cart because she could no longer walk the corridors at the school where she worked, she still couldn’t break her junk-food habit. “I was eating a large pizza almost daily. I was stopping at fast-food drive-through restaurants and hiding in my car while I ate,” says Teresa (45), a behavioural support teacher from Long Beach, California, in the US. “Then I’d go home and eat triple-decker peanut butter sandwiches, grilled cheese…

1 DIDDY ACCUSED OF SEXUAL ASSAULT DIDDY is facing more charges of sexual assault after music producer Rodney “Lil Rod” Jones Jr (38) filed a lawsuit suing him for $30 million (R575 million). According to Lil Rod, the abuse occurred while he was working with Diddy (54) on his latest album, The Love Album: Off The Grid, between 2022 and 2023. He claims Diddy groped him, drugged and forced him to have sex with prostitutes, and didn’t pay for his work. Diddy has denied the claims. 2 GABOUREY PREGNANT WITH TWINS Precious star GABOUREY SIDIBE is expecting twins with her husband of three years, BRANDON FRANKEL (39). “I’m pregnant! We thought it was time to give our cats some responsibility so we’re giving them each a baby to take care…

Autumn is a busy time for gardeners – it’s the season to start planning for wetter, frostier weather, sowing winter crops and maintaining your garden. Here are a few things you can tackle in the upcoming couple of months. PLANT THESE BULBS Find a sunny, well-drained spot and plant spring bulbs. ■ Anemones■ Babiana■ Freesias■ Ixias■ Lachenalia■ Ranunculus■ Sparaxis■ Tritonia■ Watsonia TIP Feed with bulb food every two weeks for maximum flowering. VEGGIES Pick the last of your summer vegetables such as tomatoes, brinjals and peppers, and pull up the plants. Prepare the soil for new veg by adding compost and bone meal. Sow: ■ Beetroot■ Broad beans■ Cabbage■ Carrots■ Cauliflower■ Kale■ Lettuce■ Mushrooms■ Onions■ Peas■ Radishes■ Spinach■ Turnips TREES AND SHRUBS Autumn is a good time to introduce plants…

YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. IF YOU’VE been receiving constant reminders from the South African Revenue Service (Sars) to pay your debt, it probably means you owe the taxman money. The good news is that you can enter into a payment arrangement if you don’t have the funds to settle it immediately. This will allow you to pay a bit later or in instalments. CHECK IF IT’S FOR REAL! If you receive an SMS or email telling you that you owe money to Sars first check that it’s a legitimate request and not a phishing attempt by a fraud syndicate. You can ask Sars directly about your tax balance by…

1 ON OUR RADAR 5 THINGS ABOUT THE IRON CLAW This true-life drama follows the Von Erich brothers – played by Zac Efron, Jeremy Allen White, Harris Dickinson and Stanley Simon – as they make pro-wrestling history and struggle to live up to the high expectations of their father, Fritz (Holt McCallany). 1 The Von Erichs, from Texas, were wrestling stars in the days before the WWE. Between 1959 and 1993, five of Fritz’s six sons died suddenly – three by suicide – and the family became known for the “Von Erich curse,” “What happened was just a terrible, terrible thing, but no curse,” surviving brother Kevin said in the documentary, The Last of the Von Erichs. 2 Zac put on 7kg of muscle for the role, and The Bear’s…

ON 18 FEBRUARY 1993, Fritz Von Erich – a legendary wrestling star and promoter – found the body of his own son, Kerry Von Erich, on his ranch in Denton County, Texas. Kerry (33) was sitting upright against a tree. He’d shot himself through the heart with his father’s own .44 – a grisly suicide that still haunts professional wrestling lore three decades later. What made it even more disturbing was that Kerry was the fifth of Fritz’s sons to die – and the third to die by suicide. “Dad found him and said he’d never seen such a peaceful look on Kerry’s face,” says Kevin, who is the only surviving Von Erich brother. In the early 1980s, Kerry Von Erich had been one of the biggest wrestling stars in…

THERE isn’t a lot you can do with R350 these days. You’re lucky if it gets you a bag of groceries. Yet this small amount was all Nicky Jafta had when he lost his job during the Covid-19 pandemic and had to rely on the social grant. But with his green fingers and a lot of blood, sweat and tears he managed to use this paltry monthly sum to start a small vegetable garden that not only put food on the table but has eventually become a thriving business. His garden produces more than he and his wife Lynette (both 60) could ever eat, so he’s been selling his produce since last year – and because his prices are much lower than anything you’d find in a supermarket, Nicky has…

LAUGHTER is what she’s all about, so she really had her work cut out for her with her latest gig – because Tumi Morake had to hold it all in. The comedy veteran had to do her best to keep the giggles at bay as other seasoned comedians, singers and actors tried to elicit a chuckle with their antics. It was actually torture, Tumi says of her stint on the show LOL: Last One Laughing, hosted by Trevor Noah, which is streaming on Prime Video. “But it’s also one of the most memorable things I’ve done,” she tells us when we catch up with her on a flying visit to SA for the launch of the show before she jets back to the US, where she’s now based. Tumi is…

BRITISH supermodel Naomi Cambell is rumoured to have a new beau and their love is rich in more ways than one. Over the past few months Naomi (53) has been frequently spotted with Saudi Arabian multi-millionaire Mohammed Al Turki (37). Sources say they’ve been friends since 2021, but a new spark ignited between them during Naomi’s recent stint in Dubai, where she’s been working on projects. “Naomi is very selective about who she spends time with and she has become close to Mohammed,” the source said. “They bonded over a love of fashion and art and have a lot of mutual friends. She seems to be the happiest she has ever been.” They have rarely left each other’s sides and attended the Bafta Film Awards together in London last month.…