Innholdsfortegnelse for 7 December 2023 i You South Africa

LIKE, comment, subscribe – these three words have become commonplace as we find ourselves in a world increasingly dominated by social media. With the rise of influencer culture, content creators are everywhere and they’re punting everything – food, brands, cleaning tips, you name it. It’s not only adults who’re jumping on the cyber wagon, of course. Kids the world over are doing it too – including, as I recently discovered, my nine-year-old nephew. He’s started his own YouTube channel and uses it to update his followers on his school life and weekend escapades and to show off his latest games and plush toys. Vlogging is a growing passion for him and he’s set on becoming a YouTuber. Our story on page 38 looks at the growing trend of wannabe young…

‘YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THE DAMAGE YOU’VE DONE TO MY FAMILY’ ONCE upon a time in Hollywood, there was a beautiful woman who fell for a heartthrob of a man, and things seemed about as fairytale-ish as they could possibly be. The red carpet had never sizzled as much; pictures had never told a more swoon-worthy story. These two were hotter than hot, whispering into each other’s ears, giggling, touching . . . The chemistry was off the charts. Angelina Jolie, once so wild with her blood-filled vials, penchant for knives and string of strange lovers, had come into her own. Brad Pitt had captured the heart of Tinseltown’s edgiest princess and the fact they were raising half a dozen charming children only made them more compelling. But fairytales don’t…

HE’S one of the most powerful figures in the world of entertainment–a rapper, a composer, a record producer, an actor, a movie producer . . . the list goes on and on. But for years allegations of abuse and harassment have followed Diddy, the man born Sean John Combs and also known over the years as Puff Daddy and P Diddy. So when yet another claim of dodgy behaviour hit the headlines, his critics wondered if this would finally be the time things went somewhere. It had all the makings of a sensational celebrity trial: songbird Cassandra Ventura was accusing Diddy (54) of rape, sexual trafficking and repeated physical abuse. He claimed she was trying to extort him for millions. Yet barely 24 hours after Cassie (37), as she’s known,…

THE Grade R class at Benoni Junior School are charging around the playground when one of the kids takes a tumble. Ntokozo Ndaba is the first to help the little boy to his feet. “You see,” she tells him. “If you had legs like mine you wouldn’t have fallen.” Just minutes before the boy had been teasing Ntokozo about her prosthetic legs but the six-year-old isn’t the kind of kid to hold a grudge or take things personally. Without her prosthetics life would be very different for her – with them she can run around and do all the things other children can do. Ntokozo’s legs were amputated below the knee when she was 18 months old. She was born with fibular hemimelia – the same condition Oscar Pistorius has…

THIS isn’t a story about battling ageing or turning back time. After almost two decades of interviewing skin experts, I can honestly say a fighting attitude doesn’t put you on the path to beauty nirvana (AKA feeling happy in your own skin). For starters, equating youth with beauty is an unrewarding algebra; no lotion or potion can magically erase the past when you’re moving into a new life phase, although it can make the transition feel a little smoother. It’s all a question of balance – we’re not suggesting you should look forward to saggy jawbones or crow’s feet, but indulging in too much aesthetic nit-picking is self-defeating for both your self-image and your skin. Too often, it prompts an arsenal of actives to appear on your bathroom shelf, which,…

I’M ‘LOCKED UP’ AND CAN’T FIND A WAY OUT QMy life isn’t what I envisioned when I was younger. I was an adventurous youngster and enjoyed exploring the world. Now I have an office job from 9 to 5. After work, I get home, watch TV and go to sleep. On weekends, my wife and I may sometimes socialise, although she is a homebody and doesn’t like going out with friends. When I met my wife, she was also adventurous (or so I thought) but as soon as we got married, she no longer wanted new experiences. She also alienated my friends by simply not accepting their invitations to visit or arrange reciprocal visits. She only wants to be alone with me at home (and we don’t even have children).…

THE WOMAN AT THE WHEEL By PENNY HAW Sourcebooks EVERYONE knows the name Carl Benz, but very few are aware of his wife, Bertha Benz, and the huge part she played in helping him develop what became known as the Mercedes-Benz. Penny Haw, a Cape Town-based writer, hopes to change this and give Bertha the recognition she deserves with this novel. Back in the 1800s women were expected to get married and have children, but Bertha always had the drive to do more. At age 10 she read her birth entry in the family Bible and was devastated to see her father had written the words “unfortunately, only a girl again” next to her name. Her dad was a master builder and Bertha was fascinated by his work, often accompanying…

BUSINESS in the front, party at the back is how it’s affectionately described. We’re talking about the mullet – the short-on-top, long-at-the-back ’do that ruled the hairwaves in the ’80s and ’90s and was seen on everyone from country singer Billy Ray Cyrus to tennis champion Andre Agassi and actor Patrick Swayze. Although it’s often ridiculed, it still boasts a huge fanbase – especially in America, where every year a competition is held to find the most magnificent mullets in the land. The 2023 contest saw hundreds of men, women and children put their best manes forward in a bid to win the coveted title. Ultimately, it all came down to length, style, uniqueness and showmanship – and, of course, the X factor that just makes some mullets a cut…

1 DRAKE’S WEIRD TATTOO DRAKE (37) is showing off a new face tattoo, but the meaning is confusing everyone. The rapper was photographed with the word “Miskeen” inked just above his eyebrow. According to Now Toronto, Miskeen has two meanings – in Drake’s hometown of Toronto it refers to a “sweet and innocent” person, but translated from Arabic it means “poor” or “pathetic”. Which meaning the rapper is going with is still unknown. 2 TAYLOR’S FAN TRAGEDY TAYLOR SWIFT’s The Eras Tour has been marred by tragedy after a fan died at a concert in Brazil. ANA CLARA BENEVIDES (23) suffered cardiac arrest while attending a show in Rio de Janeiro in sweltering heat. “I can’t believe I’m writing these words, but it is with a shattered heart that I…

THE AUTHOR SHUDUFHADZO MUSIDA has come a long way. The former Miss SA has just published her second children’s book, I am Shudu: Finding my Voice, Knowing my Strength. “This is a book about identity, bravery, forgiveness, friendships, the power of community, but above all, the power of your voice,” she says. “It describes the struggle I went through mentally with my self-esteem and self-awareness and the bullying I endured.” The bullying she experienced as a child was the subject of her first book, Shudu Finds Her Magic, which was published two years ago and is available in six of South Africa’s official languages. Shudu’s experience of being bullied was so bad that she ended up moving to a new province just to escape the abuse. She hopes her new…

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‘I HOPE THERE HAS BEEN SINCERE REMORSE’ HE DIDN’T hesitate when his lawyer contacted him with a request: would he be prepared to read the victim statement for June Steenkamp at the parole hearing of the man who killed her daughter? Of course he would, Rob Matthews replied. “It was an honour to be able to help June in her darkest hour,” he tells YOU. “I can understand the trauma she’s had this year. She just wants to remove herself from everything and to have some quiet and silence.” If there’s anyone who knows what June has had to go through, it’s Rob. He too lost a daughter to murder – his beautiful, beloved Leigh, who was just 21 when she was killed by Donovan Moodley. He too has had…

FOR 12 years he was a high-voltage lineman, working on cables seething with electricity and taking every safety precaution in the book. But when you work in a high-risk field like this, accidents can happen – and when a live wire touched Aaron James’ face as he was transferring cables to a new electrical pole, the unthinkable happened. A whopping 7 200 volts surged through his body, leaving him a broken shell of the strong, strapping man he once was. The current destroyed his left arm and obliterated most of his face, claiming his left eye, left cheek, nose, lips, front teeth and chin. Multiple reconstructive surgeries followed, but Aaron’s face was so badly disfigured he hid behind an eye patch and a mask whenever he went out. Then transplant…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s THE SIMPLEST RASPBERRY and CREAM TART with WHITE CHOCOLATE CURLS SERVES 16 / PREPARATION: 15 MINS / CHILLING 30 MINS BASE ◗ 250g digestive biscuits◗ 120g unsalted butter, melted◗ 2,5ml (½t) ground cinnamon TOPPING ◗ 300ml double cream◗ 50g castor sugar TO ASSEMBLE ◗ 375g fresh raspberries◗ 100–200g good-quality white chocolate Grease a 23cm fluted tart tin with a removable base. 1 Base In a food processor, blitz the biscuits to create a fine crumb. 2 Combine the biscuit crumbs, melted butter and cinnamon and mix until it resembles the consistency of wet sand. 3 Press the mixture into the base of the tart tin. 4 Place in the fridge to set at least 30 minutes. 5 Once the base has…

YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. Maybe you’re keen to avoid getting into too much debt in the run-up to the festive season or perhaps you know it’s inevitable that you’ll spend more in December and you want to start planning a financial detox for after the holidays. Either way, the no-spend challenge is a way to give your credit or debit card a rest and make you more mindful of your spending habits. 1 WHAT IS IT? Also called a spending fast or a spending freeze, it’s a challenge where you don’t spend money on anything other than absolute essentials for a set period of time. Essentials include food (not…

ACCOMMODATION, PLEASE! A man and his wife go on holiday and are looking for a hotel for the night. They find one, but the manager says it costs R1 000 per person for the night. That’s a bit outside their budget so they politely turn it down and ask if there’s anywhere cheaper in the area. “Yes,” the manager says. “In fact, there’s a hotel just up the road and it’s only R250 per person for the night. But I have to warn you, there have been many reports that the building is haunted”. The couple aren’t bothered and make their way to the cheaper hotel. While paying for their stay they ask the manager about the reported hauntings. “Ah, that’s a load of rubbish!” the manager exclaims. “I’ve been…

NOTE Adult supervision is required WHAT YOU NEED STEP BY STEP 1 Ask an adult to help you warm 250ml (1c) milk in the microwave until the milk bubbles (or you can heat the milk on the stove in a small saucepan until steaming but not boiling). 2 Put 30ml (2T) white vinegar in a mixing bowl, pour the warm milk over and stir gently. The milk will curdle and form clumps. Leave to cool slightly. 3 Place 2-3 sheets of paper towel in a sieve and place over the second bowl. Pour the milk curdles onto the paper towels and leave to filter fully. If it doesn’t start dripping through, remove a sheet. After about 10-20 minutes check on its progress to see if it has stopped dripping. Wait…

SHE was gobsmacked when Eva Longoria complimented her on her gown at Paris Fashion Week, where she was a guest of honour for the swanky fashion event’s sponsor, L’Oréal Paris. Reigning Miss South Africa Natasha Joubert was even more surprised when the glamorous Desperate Housewives actress invited her to meet her friends in the fashion capital of the world. “She’s the kindest person. I think she confused me with someone else,” she says with a grin. “But that’s okay!’ Either way, you can’t blame Eva for being bowled over by the beauty queen. Three months after she was crowned she continues to dazzle and is fully booked for the next few months with glitzy award nights and fundraising galas. Everyone seems to want a piece of her but she isn’t…

FOR MARIAH CAREY the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. The singer’s daughter, MONROE CANNON, has shown that she’s just as capable as her famous mother of taking centre stage in front of a packed audience. Monroe (12), whose dad is presenter Nick Cannon, stole the show when she joined her mother at her recent sold-out holiday show at the Hollywood Bowl in Los Angeles. The mother and daughter duo sang Jesus Born on This Day from Mariah’s Christmas album and Monroe also showed off her guitar skills on the song Christmas Wrapping. The tween even hit some of Mariah’s trademark high notes and the crowd went wild. Days before the event Mariah talked about how impressed she was by both Monroe and her twin brother, Moroccan’s, musical talents.…

CHATGPT BOSS BOUNCES BACK Management under scrutiny after sacking SKULDUGGERY in the boardroom, surprise sackings and an unexpected triumphant comeback – it’s the stuff that made the hit series Succession so compelling, and these soapie-style shenanigans go on in real life too. It’s exactly what’s been happening at OpenAI, the cutting-edge tech company responsible for creating ChatGPT, the artificial intelligence chatbot that’s taken the world by storm. The startup was recently plunged into chaos by the surprise firing of OpenAI co-founder and CEO SAM ALTMAN, who was sacked by the OpenAI board because he wasn’t “consistently candid in his communications”. Three days later he was hired by tech giant Microsoft, which also happens to be OpenAI’s biggest investor. Then OpenAI staff revolted, with 743 of its 770 employees signing an…

HER weight kept her from enjoying her honeymoon in Mauritius to the fullest and she couldn’t go horse riding, rock climbing or parasailing with her husband. But Tracey-Lee Lusty’s tipping point came when it took three men to hoist her 147kg frame onto a boat when she went snorkelling. That was it, she decided. She had to do something drastic about her size. Not only was it affecting her enjoyment of life, doctors had also warned she could have serious health complications, including becoming diabetic. Her weight was interfering with simple things too, like doing her weekly grocery shop. Walking up and down the supermarket aisles left her exhausted and her legs would be sore from chafing. Tracey-Lee had tried everything to lose weight and in 2016 she started an…

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For daily horoscopes go to you.co.za. SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC IT’S TIME TO START THAT PROJECT You’re in a jolly mood for most of the time but with the connection between Venus and Jupiter this week, you have reason to feel extra outgoing. In addition to that, a new moon in your sign on the 13th also emphasises that this is your time to shine and initiate new beginnings and projects. Take note that Mercury is moving backwards in your money horoscope, so keep a close watch on your finances. It’s best not to sign any papers at this stage. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 2, 7, 14, 15, 11, 6 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN You can’t help but be full of optimism, an unusual occurrence for a…

JAMIE FACES SEX ASSAULT CHARGES ‘The claims areno more viable todaythan they were then. We are confidentthey will be dismissed again’– JAMIE FOXX’S LAWYER AFTER enduring a serious health issue this year actor JAMIE FOXXis now facing criminal charges after a fan accused him of sexual assault. Jamie (55) allegedly assaulted the woman back in 2015 when she approached him for a photo at the Catch Roof restaurant and bar in New York. According to the lawsuit filed at the New York City supreme court, Jamie was sitting in a secluded area at the back of the rooftop bar when he allegedly committed “heinous touching and sexual assault”. The woman, identified as Jane Doe, claims she was sitting with a friend at a table next to Jamie when they approached…