Innholdsfortegnelse for 2 November 2023 i You South Africa

I KNEW it would resonate with many moms who read YOU and it also became a real talking point in our office – many of the mothers could relate to the story on mom rage ( find it on page 80). It’s that red-hot fury you feel when your child is doing something you find hard to deal with and your partner is rather nonchalant about the whole parenting thing. One of the senior people in the team got worked up – and her kids are all grown up already. Another said she totally understood the feelings of the many women in the article who spoke about the anger they felt about parenting issues, and the guilt and shame this triggered. Women aren’t often given spaces to talk about things…

A TALENTED teen, a troubled adult, a lost soul, an unfit mother, an out-of-control attention-seeker – she’s been called all this and more in the 26 years she’s been in the public eye. During those two and a half decades she’s had her freedom taken away from her, become estranged from her sons, found lovers and lost them again and been both supported and ridiculed on social media. But Britney Spears is finally ready to tell her own story. Two years after a judge freed her from the iron grip of her father’s conservatorship, she’s released her memoir, The Woman in Me – and she’s lifting the lid on a long-held secret and many of the issues that have plagued her over the years. “It’s finally time for me to…

HE’S so full of energy and vitality it’s hard to believe he’s fighting a private battle every day. His smile is infectious, his motto is “no bad days” and one of his goals is to brighten the lives of everyone he knows. It’s a mindset that helps keep Zac Yarbrough positive even on the darkest days – and there have been some dark days. Zac was diagnosed with male breast cancer four years ago and is sharing his story with YOU during Breast Cancer Awareness Month to raise awareness of an illness regarded as “more of a woman’s disease”. The first sign of trouble came when he was swimming with his two daughters, Ella and Georgia, at their home in Jacksonville, Florida, in the US. His arm grazed across his…

FOUR CHICKEN BREAST FILLETS, TWO MEALS JUICY CHICKEN BURGER STACKS with BRINJALS SERVES 4 / PREPARATION: 20 MIN / COOKING: 20-25 MIN We give the burgers more body with lightly spiced brinjal rounds. For extra crunch, stack fried onion rings on the burgers. BRINJAL › 45ml (3T) olive oil› 2 large brinjals, sliced into rounds› pinch each of ground cumin and ground coriander› salt CHICKEN › 2 chicken breast fillets› 15ml (1T) chicken spice› freshly ground pepper› juice of 1 lemon› olive oil for shallow-frying BURGERS › 4 burger rolls, halved horizontally› butter› 60ml (¼c) smooth cream cheese or cottage cheese› ½ cucumber, sliced› lettuce leaves of your choice Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease a large baking sheet well with non-stick spray. 1 Brinjal Drizzle the oil over both…

PINK WATSONIA (WATSONIA BORBONICA) This showy plant, whose flowering stems can grow up to two metres, displays its pink flowers in late winter to spring and is loved by pollen-feeding insects and birds. It makes for a lovely large container plant and looks good planted in groups in a garden. Plant in compost-rich, well-drained soil in full sun. CONFETTI BUSH (COLEONEMA PULCHELLUM) Popular for its evergreen foliage and sweet-scented pink flowers that bloom from winter to early summer, this plant makes for a great filler plant for a mixed shrub border. It’s beautiful in everything from a wildlife garden to a container on a balcony. Plant in groups of three to five for maximum impact. BRAKVYGIE (APTENIA CORDIFOLIA) This indigenous, popular, hardy plant has glossy leaves and bright magenta flowers…

YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. MOST properties – apartments or homes – would’ve gone up in value since being purchased. Based on this, you can refinance your home loan to get access to a larger loan amount at a competitive interest rate. However, refinancing isn’t necessarily the best option. Here’s what you need to consider. 1 WHAT DOES IT MEAN? By refinancing, you secure a mortgage on the current value of your home. Generally, the value of property increases over time. Your home should now be worth more than it was valued at when you initially got a home loan. Refinancing means you take out a home loan based…

THERE has never been any question about her acting abilities – with her heaps of awards and long list of memorable performances, Meryl Streep is akin to Hollywood royalty. But for years it wasn’t only her three Oscars that set the actress apart from her peers – it was also her perfect marriage. For 45 years Meryl and Don Gummer’s relationship endured as others fell apart around them. That’s why it came as such a surprise when they recently announced their separation. The first part was already a shock: that one of Hollywood’s seemingly most rock-solid couples had split. Then came another: they actually went their separate ways more than six years ago. In a town where tongues often wag at any bit of gossip, it was amazing that the…

DEFINITION When you’re rooting for two characters or people to become romantically involved. EXAMPLES 1 “I’m obviously aware there’s a lot of like shipping of Harry and Draco as characters together. So I’ve read some of that,” DANIEL RADCLIFFE admitting to Vogue that he’s read Harry Potter fan fiction. 2 “I ship,” Katy Perry commenting on a picture of Taylor Swift and her new beau Travis Kelce holding hands, showing there’s no more bad blood between the two singers.…

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SATIN Tube tops, strappy slips and satin dresses – especially ones in vibrant colours – are so on trend right now. PRINTS Play with dresses in stand-out colours, prints and voluminous cuts for a fun-in-the-sun look. DENIM Denim is trendier than ever, with fashionistas and influencers opting for all-denim ensembles. RUCHED Detail ruching is a big seasonal style for designers and trendsetters alike. FLORAL Florals are always a favourite and you can make a bold statement with bright colours. WHIMSICAL Flowy edits such as pleats, ruffles and soft fabrics are on trend. WHITES This season, it’s all about the little white dress! GLITTERING Sparkles add something special – no matter the dress style. STOCKIST BASH.COM, EXACT 0860-834-834, FOREVER NEW 0860-018-014, FOSCHINI 0860-834-834, H&M 086-069-0707, IDENTITY 021-460-2400, MANGO SHOP.MANGO.COM/ZA, MR PRICE…

HER breast cancer diagnosis was a shock in itself, but the fact that she had two different types of breast cancer at the same time was also a shocking discovery. “The fact that there’s more than one type of breast cancer was news to me,” journalist Ilza Roggeband told us earlier this year (My breast cancer journey, 12 January 2023). “And during conversations following my diagnosis, I discovered I’m not the only woman who didn’t know that.” When someone has more than one cancer at the same time or within six months after diagnosis of the first cancer, it’s known as synchronous breast cancer, says Dr Fatima Hoosain, specialist surgeon at Apffelstaedt, Hoosain & Associates. It’s rare, but it does happen. “It accounts for 1-3% of all breast cancer cases,”…

THINKING AHEAD Dan is a single guy living at home with his father and working in the family business. He finds out that the business is worth an absolute fortune and realises he’s going to inherit it all when his sickly father dies. He decides it’s time to find a wife with whom to share his great fortune. One evening at an investment meeting he spots the most striking woman he’s ever seen. Her natural beauty takes his breath away. “I may look like an ordinary guy,” he says to her, “but in just a few years, maybe months, my father will die and then I will inherit R200 million.” Impressed, the woman asks for his business card. Three days later she becomes his stepmother. AVOCA-DON’T What’s an avocado’s favourite…

EYE FOR AN EYE By MJ ARLIDGE ORION There are only a handful of convicted criminals in the United Kingdom who upon their release from prison have been given permanent, lifelong anonymity by the courts and authorities. These are individuals who’ve committed heinous crimes, often while very young, like the two boys Robert Thompson and Jon Venables, who abducted, tortured and killed two-year-old James Bulger in 1993. They were provided with new identities and lives so they could start afresh. But what would be the outcome if their secret identities and whereabouts were to be exposed? This is the premise of Eye for an Eye, an absorbing thriller telling the story from different perspectives. The most important being the struggle of probation officer Olivia Campbell to protect her charges from…

SHE greets us with a broad smile and offers her left hand for us to shake, which she follows with an apology. She can’t greet with her right hand anymore – it’s been amputated after one of their pet dogs attacked her son and she intervened to protect her child. “He literally ate my arm,” Linda Venter tells us. “Crushed it. There was nothing left.” Linda (37) and her husband, Marius, adopted the dog, Zeus, three years ago when he was three weeks old. The Great Dane-bull terrier cross quickly crept into their hearts and the hearts of their sons, Brenden (14), Brayden (11) and Brian (4). “He was an inside dog,” Marius says. “Our other dogs – the little ones, the Jack Russells – were outside dogs. They make…

CINDERELLA MYSTERY Slipper left behind at prince’s party IT SOUNDS like it’s been taken straight from the pages of Cinderella – a mystery woman leaves a slipper at a castle, catching the eye of a prince. But this is no fairytale. This is the real-life story of PRINCE CHRISTIAN OF DENMARK, who recently celebrated his 18th birthday with a glitzy gala dinner at Christiansborg Palace in Copenhagen. The prince’s gala – regarded as one of the most prestigious royal events of the year – was attended by several high-profile blue bloods sporting tiaras, ballgowns, military uniforms and sashes showing their honours. One attendee, however, left the dinner without her shoe, prompting palace officials to post a message on Instagram asking the owner to contact them. Danish actress ANNE-SOFIE TORNSO OLESEN…

THE young man in the shiny blue three-piece suit is beaming and bursting with pride. It was custom-made for him but it’s not the outfit that has him radiating joy. Keenan Petersen (18) looks as pleased as he does for the simplest of reasons – he can stand upright. Until recently this was something he couldn’t do because of a genetic abnormality. When YOU meets him, he’s seeing off his best friend, Megan Sampson (18), who’s on her way to her matric dance. The suit Keenan is wearing was made for his matric ball, a few weeks back. It was a special night for Keenan, made even more so by his custom suit and prosthetic leg. “I was able to wear long pants!” the shy teen from Chrisville in Johannesburg…

Write to Dr Louise, PO Box 39410, Moreletapark 0044, or email info@drlouise.co.za. I’M STRUGGLING TO FIND A LIFE PARTNER Q I’m a 32-year-old bachelor and I’m struggling to find someone to share my life with. I have a decent job which pays me a good salary, so I’m financially independent and have my own home. The problem is when I meet someone they get serious so quickly and want to move on to a permanent relationship. The result is I don’t get the opportunity to get to know them first. This puts me off immediately, as the women are not really interested in getting to know me as a person but only to snare me as a marriage partner. Often some of the women are divorced and have children, which…

SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV TIME TO MAKE DECISIONS FOR THE FUTURE These are interesting times for your love life, with plenty of comings and goings, and hardly a dull moment. Serious Saturn is changing direction and moving forward in the compatible water sign of Pisces. This should have positive ramifications for your life, enabling you to focus on settling down and making far-reaching long-term decisions. In one form or another, children and/or offspring will become a greater focal point in your life. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 31, 8, 4, 1, 5, 13 SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC Even though you’re rearing to go, it’ll be as if you’re driving with the handbrake on. Bide your time, be patient and wait until you feel ready to take the next…

‘THEY KILLED MY CHILDHOOD AND DREAMS’ THE horrific scenes hit you like a sledgehammer blow – image after image of loss, terror, heartache and suffering. In one, a little boy stumbles down the street carrying his baby sister in his arms. Another shows a sobbing teenage girl, her cheeks smeared with tears and dust, as two terrified toddlers cling to her. Elsewhere in Gaza, a rescue worker carries a bleeding child out of the rubble of his parents’ house. In other heartbreaking photos, shellshocked children clutch onto treasured possessions: a toy, a pet, a blanket . . . The conflict between Israelis and Palestinians has been raging for decades but this latest outbreak of hostilities has resulted in bloodshed like we’ve never seen before. It started in October when the…

IF THERE was a trophy for backing our boys and being all-round fans they could take it home tomorrow. Of course, they’re no ordinary watchers of the ICC Men’s Cricket World Cup being held in India this year – they’re the wives and girlfriends, or WAGs as they’ve become known, of the Proteas. The women are supporting their guys, who are trying to clinch their maiden world title since South Africa’s readmission into the sport in 1991, and it’s clear they’d go in to bat for their sporting heroes any day. SASHA DE KOCK Star batsman and wicketkeeper QUINTON DE KOCK is giving his all in the world cup after announcing in September that he would no longer play one-day matches for South Africa. “Quinton isn’t very finicky,” Sasha says.…