Innholdsfortegnelse for 17 August 2023 i You South Africa

I CAME across a post by author Daniel Pink on LinkedIn that got me thinking. He’s written several books about regret, mindset and motivation and I value the perspectives he shares. This post made me pause because of how insightful the answers to his questions could be. He writes: “When life throws you a curveball, ask yourself three questions. 1 How might this change what you’re capable of ? 2 How might this change what you value? 3 How might this change how you define yourself ?” Life is constantly throwing out curveballs – as I write there’s a taxi strike going on in the Western Cape with devastating consequences for our teams, our readers, our friends, families and communities. There’s loadshedding, financial issues, medical challenges, global warming . .…

IT WAS one of the most shocking murders the country had seen in a long time. Senzo Meyiwa, the captain of Bafana Bafana and boyfriend of a well-known singer, was gunned down in the home of his girlfriend’s mother. The slaying made international headlines and the authorities vowed to do whatever it took to bring the perpetrators to book. But the wheels of justice can move slowly – and in this instance, they’ve not only crept at a snail’s pace but moved so controversially that the Senzo case is seen as an example of everything that’s going wrong in the SA legal system. Suspects have been arrested and released, lawyers fired and hired and even the judge replaced. THE BACKGROUND It’s been nearly nine years since Senzo was shot dead…

THANKS to social media, every day we’re introduced to new beauty terminology or skin conditions. And the latest one floating around our feeds is “inflammaging”. The literal fusion of inflammation and ageing, this beauty buzzword describes how an excess of inflammation accelerates the skin’s ageing process. Despite inflammaging being something that typically afflicts mature skin, if your diet is out of whack, if you’re going through a very stressful time, if you’re experiencing lifestyle changes or not getting enough rest, inflammation can occur in your skin and knowing how to combat it is key to achieving a youthful and robust complexion. Here we explain everything you need to know about inflammaging. WHAT IS INFLAMMAGING? It’s the term used to describe the accelerated ageing associated with long-term inflammation in the skin,…

I HAVE BETRAYED MY BEST FRIEND WITH HER HUSBAND Q I have a very good friend who I became friends with 20 years ago. We stood together through thick and thin – went to school together, went to the same university and stayed friends even after we both got married. My husband and I often visited their home and from the beginning I was attracted to my friend’s husband. I knew he felt the same and I tried to fight it by trying to avoid being alone with him. My friend recently had to go into hospital for a small operation. She asked me to check on her husband and to do some things for her at her home (they don’t have children). I tried to honour her request, but…

LEO 22 JULY – 22 AUG PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR MONEY MATTERS Remind yourself that even though love diva Venus is moving through your sign, she’s doing this in a backwards motion. There are other things apart from love that require your urgent attention, particularly money and finances. If you’ve taken your eye off the ball lately concerning a debt or an investment, best you scramble to get yourself up to date so that you avoid suffering any losses. Right now, you should very much focus on the small print. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 25, 32, 46, 27, 23 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEPT You could be in for a rocky road, but if you can manage to bide your time,you’ll keep your head above water. The culprit seems…

A GEODE is a hollow rock lined with an inside layer of sparkling crystals. The hollows in the rock are often caused by large air bubbles in the lava that flows from a volcano. The air bubbles are trapped as the lava solidifies into rock. As water seeps into the soil, minerals dissolve in the water. These minerals then form crystals within the rocks. It takes thousands of years to form these crystals, but you can make your own gleaming geodes at home in just one day. YOU’LL NEED Push pin (or anything with a thin, sharp point) STEP BY STEP STEP 1 Use the egg pricker to prick two small holes in the tops and bottoms of the eggs. Hold the eggs over the plastic cup one at a…

ON A rainy day in November 2019 a grandmother calls the police, desperately worried about her seven-year-old grandson. Neither he nor his 16-year-old sister have been seen in weeks and she can’t get any answers out of the kids’ mom or her husband. The police go to the home in Rexburg, Idaho, and Lori Vallow Daybell opens the door, laughing when cops tell her why they’re there. Joshua – or JJ, as everyone calls him – is with a friend, she says, and his sister, Tylee Ryan, is at the movies. The police leave and return the next day, but there’s no one home. Lori and her husband, Chad Daybell, have vanished and there’s still no sign of the kids. And so begins a hunt for JJ and his sister…

THEIR unconventional parenting style has been known to raise eyebrows – now actors KRISTEN BELL and DAX SHEPARD have revealed their daughters Lincoln (9) and Delta (8) enjoy chugging non-alcoholic beer. While appearing on The Kelly Clarkson Show, Kristen (43) explained that it all started when Dax (48), who’s a recovering alcoholic, would allow Lincoln to sip from his non-alcoholic drink when she was a baby. “He’d pop one open, he’d have her on his chest, and we’d walk and look at the sunset. As a baby she was pawing at it and sometimes she’d suck the rim of it,” she said. Although the beer contains 0% alcohol it’s made for some awkward situations when Lincoln tries to order non-alcoholic beer at restaurants. “I’m like, maybe we just keep that…

South Africa has so many inspirational people and YOU SA Heroes shines the spotlight on some of these amazing achievers. Kids can learn all about movers and shakers who set new records, explored new frontiers and so much more. From Nelson Mandela to Thuli Madonsela to Charlize Theron, this informative magazine profiles 79 inspiring South Africans – perfect for class projects and orals. Get your copy in stores now, online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche at 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@media24.com to order. For a digital version you can download on your favourite device go to magzter.com. See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas news@you.co.za Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes recipes@you.co.za…

IT’S a cold day in Worcester and snow is lying thick on the mountains that surround the Western Province town. Sarie de Villiers, dressed in shades of blue with a scarf wound round her neck, is waiting in the chilly hallway outside the local magistrate’s court. Although she’s chatting to people seated on the bench alongside her, her face is pale. She’s accused of killing her three young great-grandchildren, and she’s due back in court* for the next step of the process: her lawyer will be asking for a postponement so she can go for psychiatric evaluation. This can take about 30 days and the findings of the evaluation could be used in mitigation. The people in this area of the Boland, who’ve long been baffled by the events of…

CHICKEN, LEEK & MUSHROOM PIES MAKES 8 INDIVIDUAL PIES / PREPARATION & COOKING: 1 HOUR FILLING ▸ 45ml (3T) butter▸ 3 leeks, finely chopped▸ 2 cloves garlic, peeled and finely chopped▸ 100g each button and shiitake mushrooms, sliced▸ 20g dried porcini mushrooms, (optional)▸ 4 sprigs thyme▸ 2 fresh or dried bay leaves salt and black pepper grated nutmeg▸ 60ml (¼c) white wine or chicken stock▸ 15ml (1T) Dijon mustard▸ 400g roasted and pulled chicken▸ 200g cream cheese▸ 60ml (4T) finely grated Parmesan or hard cheese PIES ▸ 1 batch basic low-carb pastry▸ 1 egg, lightly beaten TO SERVE ▸ chutney ▸ side salad Preheat the oven to 190°C and line a baking tray with baking paper. 1 Filling Heat the butter in a pan over medium heat and cook the…

IMPORTANT NOTE Unless specified yarn is used, Saprotex cannot accept responsibility for the finished work. NOTE The instructions are given for the smallest size, with the larger sizes in brackets. Where only one figure is given, it applies to all sizes. MATERIALS ◾ Elle Unspun (200g ball): 4(5;5;6;6;7;7) balls in colour of your choice (we used Slate 702) ◾ One pair 7mm knitting needles, 7mm circular knitting needle may be required for larger sizes ◾ 8mm circular knitting needle◾ 3 stitch holders MEASUREMENTS ◾ To fit bust: 77-82(87-92;97-102;107-112;117-122;127-132; 137-142)cm ◾ Actual all round measurement of garment: bust – 98 (105;115; 125;135;145;155)cm ◾ Length to shoulder: 60cm ◾ Sleeve length: 40cm TENSION 11 sts and 27 rows = 10cm over brioche rib using 7mm needles (How to count sts/rows: Each k…

YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. WHEN you miss payments, a creditor will try to contact you. If they don’t get a response and you don’t arrange a repayment plan, they may hire a debt collector to collect the outstanding money. By December last year nearly 10 million South African consumers had an impaired credit record. This means they’re at least three months behind on payments or have already received a summons. Here’s what you need to know about dealing with a debt collector. 1 THEY MUST BE ABOVE BOARD All debt-collection agencies and their employees must be registered with the Council for Debt Collectors (CFDC). You can verify their…

SANDRA’S ROCKY RELATIONSHIP AFTER enduring a humiliating cheating scandal and messy divorce, it looked like actress SANDRA BULLOCK had finally found love again with photographer BRYAN RANDALL. Eight years on, however, the couple’s relationship is rumoured to be on shaky ground – reportedly because Sandra (59) doesn’t want to walk down the aisle again. Insiders say trouble started surfacing when Bryan (57) moved out of their shared home in October last year after they decided to take some time off from their relationship. The time apart seems to have caused a bigger rift and sources say reconciliation now seems like “a long shot”. “The feeling is Sandra might be hoping for some type of miracle – that they’ll work things out after this long cooling-off period,” a source told US…

SHOCK SPLIT Inside Justin Trudeau’s divorce THE ink had barely dried on reports that they were splitting before news broke that Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau’s wife, Sophie Grégoire, had already moved out of their home. The 51-year-old PM announced his separation on Instagram after 18 years of marriage, but those in the know weren’t surprised. Sophie (48) regularly marked their wedding anniversary with romantic social media posts, but this year, she didn’t acknowledge the day at all. She’s already moved into her own place in Ottawa while the couple’s three children will continue to live with their father at the prime minister’s official residence in the capital. However, the couple say they intend to continue being a loving family and plan to go on holiday together. “As always, we…

A RANDOM act of kindness changed everything and sparked the foundation of the life he lives today. Thanks to that moment he’s become the guy who brings good news to South Africans who are worn and weary of death, destruction and despair. Brent Lindeque is the man behind the Good Things Guy website, which has become immensely popular thanks to its feel-good vibes and positive stories about South Africans. And today, a day after celebrating the eighth anniversary of launching his popular site, he’s welcoming us into his home in Fourways, Johannesburg. It’s as bright as he is. Pictures of his blended family grace the walls and his 14-year-old cat, Smudge, is settled on the couch, trying to catch the rays of the winter sun streaming through a nearby window.…

SAGE Be inspired by nature with lovely sage and pair with other greens, plum and shades of brown or yellow for a contrasting take. PURPLE Regal and eye-catching, it’s no wonder purple is popping up everywhere. This colour pairs well with plum, grey, black and neutrals. CAMEL Dusty tans and cream tones bring a soft elegance when paired with any colour but especially other neutrals, black, blue and green. CHOCOLATE This elegant deep neutral pairs well with other shades of brown, plum and green. SOFT BLUE This light hue goes well with other blues, white, camel and black pieces. GREY Light-grey tones are all the rage this winter. Colour co-ordinate in various shades of grey or match with silver and black accessories. PLUM Keep it simple or opt for textured…

BUMPY RIDE I went to the optometrist’s office today and bumped into an old friend. I also bumped into the receptionist and the optometrist, and I knocked over their sunglasses display. CROSSED WIRES A guy phones the local gym and asks if they can teach him to do the splits. “How flexible are you?” the receptionist asks. “I can’t make Tuesdays or Thursdays,” he answers. SECRET STASH A woman who’s been married to her husband for 60 years has a secret in a shoebox in her closet. The shoebox itself isn’t a secret, but the wife tells her husband that he’s never to open the box or ask what’s in it. So the contents of the box remain unknown. One day the wife falls ill and the doctor says she…

REVIEWS MY HUSBAND By MAUD VENTURA HUTCHINSON HEINEMANN Like unreliable narrators? Well, this one’s a doozy. Our deeply dippy protagonist is a French teacher obsessed with her high-flying husband, who is never named. Her children, her job and even her lovers are all piffling sideshows as she toils to craft the perfect relationship with her beloved. Life is one big mission to make her domestic world and her appearance flawless in a bid to keep hubby interested in her. But oh, how he can disappoint her. What a bitter pill she has to swallow when he compares her to a clementine – a supermarket fruit! – at a party. What an insult when he kisses her on the cheeks and not her lips. And how dare he go to sleep…

WHO ARE YOU? Big and gentle meets small and sweet in this touching encounter in Bavaria, Germany. The mouse had been saved from a cat and Amy the dog was fascinated by the tiny critter. IS IT A SEAL OR A DOG? Louis’ favourite hiding spot is under the sofa. On this occasion the photographer took his tennis ball away from “his place” so Louis, who’s from Brazil, stuck his head through hole, yapping in indignation KYLIAN’S SLEEP A fluffy orang-utan provides a warm pair of arms for a sleepy Irish terrier from Portugal. Maybe he’s dreaming of the jungle. LIFE-CHANGING EVENT Someone’s about to get the fright of their nine lives! Alex is the shy one. Max is the playful one. Together they form a lethally cute duo, photographer…

1 CÉLINE KEEPS LOOKING FOR A CURE Singer CÉLINE DION’s family have given a heartbreaking update on her battle with the neurological disorder stiff-person syndrome. The singer was diagnosed with the condition, that causes progressive muscular rigidity and stiffness, in 2022. According to her sister, Claudette Dion, Céline (55) is working hard at her recovery, but medication doesn’t offer much reprieve. “‘We can’t find any medicine that works, but having hope is important,” she said. 2 JOE KEEPS THE DOG Divorce can get messy, especially when there are kids or pets involved, but luckily for actor JOE MANGANIELLO, his soon to be ex-wife, SOFÍA VERGARA, has agreed to give him custody of their pooch, Bubbles, a Chihuahua-Pomeranian mix, without a fight. “Neither one of them is bitter or out for…