Innholdsfortegnelse for 30 March 2023 i You South Africa

OUR cover story this week reminded me of one of my favourite book quotes. It’s from a heartwarming, quirky novel called Anxious People by Fredrik Backman (a great option for a weekend on the couch with lots of hot chocolate). It moved me the very first time I read it and moves me still because of what it says about second chances. “They say that a person’s personality is the sum of their experiences,” he writes. “But that isn’t true, at least not entirely, because if our past was all that defined us, we’d never be able to put up with ourselves. “We need to be allowed to convince ourselves that we’re more than the mistakes we made yesterday. That we are all of our next choices too, all of…

THERE’S no business like show business, right? The gloss, the glamour, the money, the mansions, the jets, the parties . . . But there’s another side to it all. Drugs, booze, pressure, scrutiny, insecurity – all this can go hand in hand with fame and send stars who seem to have it all spiralling into self-destruction. Just take Ben Affleck. Alcoholism threatened to destroy everything he’d built up both professionally and personally, and for a while it seemed Hollywood had turned its back on him. Yet if anyone is proof a comeback is possible, it’s the 50-year-old actor. He’s clean and sober. His latest movie, Air, about the relationship between basketball star Michael Jordan and Nike, is getting great reviews. And he’s married to Jennifer Lopez. He’s also taken ownership…

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THREE TIMES BETTER The president of South Africa confronts his speech writer after speaking at an event. “You said my speech would be 15 minutes long, but I ended up speaking for 45 minutes!” he exclaims. The speech writer replies, “Mr President, I gave you three copies.” A BIG LEAP Elon Musk, Tiger Woods, the Pope and a college student are passengers on an airplane. The plane starts going down and the pilots bail. There are four passengers left and only three parachutes. Tiger Woods says, “I’m the best golfer in the world – I think I should get a parachute.” Everyone agrees and Tiger Woods takes a parachute and jumps out of the plane. Elon Musk says, “I’m the smartest man in the world – I think I should…

THE KIND WORTH SAVING By PETER SWANSON William Morrow Private detective and former high school teacher Henry Kimball is ill at ease when one of his former students arrives on his doorstep to enlist his services. Joan is convinced her husband, a real-estate agent, is having an affair with a colleague, but she needs proof. Seeing Joan brings back traumatic memories of the day a teenager shot dead a fellow student in Henry’s class before turning the gun on himself. But he decides to take the case and begins tailing the suspected lovers, a journey that will take him to the heart of darkness. He follows them to an empty house one afternoon and is horrified to discover two bodies. It seems Henry is witness to a murder suicide. But…

1 SPROUSE BROS FORCED INTO ACTING Older fans will remember DYLAN and COLE SPROUSE (30) as the adorable boys in Adam Sandler’s Big Daddy, while younger fans got to know them on Disney’s The Suite Life of Zack and Cody. Cole has now accused his mom, MELANIE WRIGHT, of forcing the twins into acting from the age of eight months old due to financial instability. Speaking on the Call Her Daddy podcast, he also claimed that she lost all the money they made before the age of eight before she eventually lost custody of her sons. 2 JACOB’S STALKER NIGHTMARE Euphoria actor JACOB ELORDI (25) has taken out a restraining order against a 61-year-old man who has been stalking him at his home in Los Angeles. According to Jacob, Robert…

R&B artist LLOYISO GIJANA is ready to share with the world a body of work that he’s spent years putting together. The artist we know today has come a long way from the early days when he’d sing in his mom’s study and made the top 5 of Idols SA. He’s a global player now and is signed with US label Republic Records. At an exclusive storytelling session at Universal Music Group South Africa (UMGSA) in Rosebank, Johannesburg, Lloyiso laid bare his heart in a seven-track extended play (EP) called Seasons. Some of the songs – including Season, What I Would Say, and Run – are proving popular on streaming platforms. “I’ve gotten this far, going through the utmost struggle and pain,” he tells YOU. “Something inside of me told…

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SHE’S a calm, uncomplicated presence in a family fraught with tension and dogged by scandal and drama. In the decades she’s been married to the late Queen Elizabeth’s youngest son, Sophie has rarely put a foot wrong. Instead, she’s kept her head down, worked tirelessly and offered support when it was desperately needed. That’s why, when it was recently announced Sophie and her husband, Prince Edward, were given symbolically significant new titles, it was well received. They deserve it, royal experts said. The queen – who was hugely fond of her daughter-in-law – would approve. Edward and Sophie are no longer the Earl and Countess of Wessex, but the Duke and Duchess of Edinburgh. King Charles made the announcement to mark his brother’s 59th birthday. The title was previously held…

SALMON KORMA RICE SERVES 4 / PREP: 5 MINS PLUS RESTING / COOKING: 20 MINS 500g salmon fillets1 lemon, sliced15ml (1T) olive oil1 onion, finely chopped30ml (2T) korma curry paste500ml (2c) long-grain rice1L (4c x 250ml) chicken stock250ml (1c) frozen peas, blanched80ml (⅓c) roughly chopped parsley, plus extra to serve3 hard-boiled eggs, chopped or sliced lemon wedges (optional) 1 Place the salmon in a large, deep frying pan. Cover with cold water, add the lemon and bring to a boil on medium heat. Simmer for 5 minutes until just cooked, then set aside for 5 minutes. Transfer to a plate and flake the fish. 2 In a large, deep frying pan, heat the oil on medium heat. Sauté the onion for 3-4 minutes until tender. Stir in the curry paste…

THE RULES OF DIY SKINCARE While these DIY fixes help produce feelings of relaxation and tranquillity, there are certain guidelines that apply. 1 Always do a patch test first. 2 Avoid it if you’re allergic or sensitive to a particular ingredient, if you’re pregnant or breastfeeding or if you have underlying health conditions (consult with a doctor first). 3 Avoid applying anything to the sensitive eye area as it’s more prone to reaction. 4 Don’t mix tea tree oil and lemon juice together as they can irritate the skin, leading to post-inflammatory hyperpigmentation. 5 Don’t mix ginger with turmeric. It can irritate sensitive skin. SUGAR FACE SCRUB Sweeten up your at-home beauty routine with a honey and sugar face scrub. “This homemade exfoliant helps to nourish skin while sloughing off…

MY PARENTS ARE CONTROLLING MY LIFE Q I’d like to know what I can do about my father as we have never got along and never will because he is false and a liar. He has treated me badly and embarrassed me, yet somehow society always takes his side. The world can’t see him through my eyes as he is fake towards others. The worst part is I work for him and he and my mother dominate my life even though I’m a grown man. I’ve tried to gain independence but they always mess it up. I can’t talk to them because they think they’re always right and there is no negotiation. My dad also interferes in my life in subtle ways. I live with them so they control my…

ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL IT’S TIME TO THINK OUT OF THE BOX An unexpected turn of events in your money situation may see you scramble to keep things together. But all you want to do is take time out to attend to home and domestic matters. This is a chance for you to think out of the box, to find new solutions to old problems, and to take a calculated risk. Apply your mind and intuition, and not your emotions, to steer this in a direction that will eventually lead to greater financial freedom. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 5, 28, 13, 2, 24, 45 TAURUS 20 APRIL – 20 MAY If you have an urge to rebel against management at work, don’t take this as an indication of needing…

SHE’S been running around all morning, but you you’d never say so just by looking at her. Sorisha Naidoo is the picture of cool elegance as she settles down on a sleek sofa at the posh Radisson Blu Hotel a stone’s throw from the swanky Platinum Walk at Oceans Mall in Umhlanga, which her businessman husband, Vivian Reddy, helped develop. The R1,3-billion mall features high-end international fashion brands such as Versace, Dolce & Gabbana, Burberry and Gucci – but while the millionaire’s row of stores is a first for a KZN shopping centre, luxury is hardly a new concept for this former beauty queen. It’s no secret Sorisha is one of the richest cast members on The Real Housewives of Durban (RHOD) and she isn’t shy to flaunt her fabulous…

WHO DOESN’T love raiding mom’s closet? And when she’s an A-list celebrity who gets dressed by only the best designers, playing dress-up is a blast. When SALMA HAYEK’s daughter, VALENTINA PALOMA PINAULT, needed a dress to accompany her mother to the Oscars this year, she looked no further than her style icon mom’s wardrobe. The 15-year-old borrowed the red Isaac Mizrahi gown Salma (56) wore almost 26 years ago to an event. We look at other stars and their family members who have borrowed pieces from their designer wardrobes. CHARLOTTE CASIRAGHI AND PRINCESS CARO-LINE OF MONACO Charlotte looked like a princess in her mother’s Chanel dress at the 2017 Rose Ball Benefit in Monte Carlo, Monaco. Caroline wore the same dress to the Nijinsky Awards in 2000. CHRISSY AND VILAILUCK…

HE SITS, haunches quivering in anticipation, eyes fixed on his handler. He waits and waits . . . then finally the order comes. “Soek! [Find]”, comes the command – and he’s off, nose to the ground, searching for what he knows he must find: copper. Less than five minutes later he’s located a pipe hidden among the tall grass at the far end of the training field. Tail wagging, he returns it to his handler and is rewarded with a chew on his favourite rubber toy. Meet Jackson, the City of Cape Town’s latest weapon in its fight against copper theft. Thanks to his highly trained nose, Jackson is helping police combat one of the biggest scourges in the Western Cape. Last year, the government issued a six-month ban on…

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YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. CRYPTO scams are on the rise and these scammers often prey on people’s lack of knowledge about crypto investments. Because it’s the currency of the digital age, it attracts young working people in particular, as well the needy and the greedy. Here are four pointers that can help protect you from crypto crooks. 1 POPULAR TACTICS TO LURE INVESTORS ■ False testimonials Swindlers pose as famous people in the entertainment industry and business world or influencers to falsely endorse their investment scheme. One such example is South African businessman Nicky Oppenheimer, who supposedly recommends a certain crypto platform for investments. His company Oppenheimer Generations issued…

ON OUR RADAR 1 BETH, THE BELLE OF YELLOWSTONE If you’ve longed for the heyday of soaps like Dallas – but with lashings of Sopranos-style ultraviolence – look no further than Yellowstone. The Dutton family, led by John Dutton (KEVIN COSTNER), own the Yellowstone cattle ranch and control – through politics, crime and corruption – most of their home state, Montana, where they clash with land developers, a nearby Indian reservation and a national park. Dutton’s adult kids vie for his approval, but none gets it as frequently as his daughter, Beth, aptly described by EW.com as “a man-eating boozehound tycoon played with Sin City hyperbole”. English actress KELLY REILLY (45), who stars as the witty and crude Beth, describes her as “a beast”. She was attracted to the…

SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE MODEL GISELE BÜNDCHEN (42) has wasted no time adjusting to the life of a singleton. The Brazilian beauty, who announced her divorce from NFL player TOM BRADY (45) back in October, has since been linked to not one but two eligible bachelors. The rumoured love matches are her hunky jiu-jitsu instructor JOAQUIM VALENTE (34) and billionaire property developer JEFFREY SOFFER (55). Jeffrey was previously married to Australian model Elle MacPherson and is a long-time friend of Tom’s, which makes things a little more complicated. A source revealed to the Daily Mail that Jeffrey had been wooing Gisele for a while now, even though he’d been spotted hanging out with Tom as recently as January this year. “Gisele has been spending time with Jeffrey Soffer,” a…

EVERYTHING actor RYAN REYNOLDS (46) touches seems to turn to gold. From his string of hit movies to his incredibly successful business partnerships, Ryan, it seems, can do no wrong. Most recently, the Deadpool actor walked away with a whopping $300 million (about R5,4 billion) after telecoms company T-Mobile acquired wireless provider Mint Mobile, in which he has a 25% stake. Ryan, who’s married to actress Blake Lively, bought a stake in the company back in 2019. The overall acquisition transaction came to $1,35 billion (R24,3bn). Within a week, the Canadian’s net worth is estimated to have doubled from $150 million to $350 million. “We’re so happy T-Mobile beat out an aggressive last-minute bid from my mom, Tammy Reynolds,” he jokingly announced after the sale. A huge part of Ryan’s…