Innholdsfortegnelse for 2 February 2023 i You South Africa

SO THERE we have it – the first month of the year is almost over and for many it’s a case of good riddance! It isn’t called Januworry for nothing: the funds that have to stretch and stretch long after the holidays are over, the school fees that need paying, the uniforms that need buying, the stationery that needs stocking, the fridge that needs filling . . . our pockets can feel decidedly empty by the time pay day rolls around. It may be tempting to rely on credit when the going gets tough – but there’s always the danger of things spiralling out of control. Just ask YOU journalist Pieter van Zyl, who found himself so deep in debt his entire salary was gone by the second of the…

THERE are many things we know about Lupita Nyong’o: she has an Oscar on her mantelpiece, she’s hot Hollywood property and she can light up the red carpet like nobody’s business. But her personal life has always been off-limits and shrouded in secrecy. “Privacy is a commodity that’s hard to come by,” the 39-year-old star once said. Which is why she refused to comment on rumours she was dating her Black Panther costar Michael B Jordan and why she didn’t address gossip she was getting up close and personal with actor Jared Leto during the 2014 awards season, when she scooped gong after gong for her performance in 12 Years a Slave. But love will make you do crazy things. And the Mexican-Kenyan actress has broken her own rules by…

BACK ACNE As if having pimples on your face isn’t bad enough, they can pop up on your back too. “Back acne or ‘bacne’ is usually caused by an excess of sebum production, combined with a build-up of dead skin cells within the follicle,” says Australian skin and nutritional medicine expert Fiona Tuck. She says it can also be caused by a hormonal imbalance or a genetic predisposition and be aggravated by a poor diet. However, if you exercise a lot and are generating sweat, that won’t be helping. Tuck says exfoliation and deep cleansing are key to decongesting the skin. “Make sure your scrubs and body wash contain hydroxy acids to help soak up excess oil and keep pores clean – and use them every day.” Also, beware of…

HOW DO I MOURN THEM WITH THIS ANGER AND HURT IN MY HEART? Q My fiancé and my best friend were killed in a car accident in December. They were on their way to pick me up for a holiday that the three of us had planned for at least a year. I feel devastated to have lost the love of my life and my lifelong best friend, but have now also discovered that they were having an affair. It turns out that just before the accident they had slept over at a guesthouse where they signed in as a couple and shared a room. So I’m not only left with the heartache of losing my fiancé and my best friend, but also with the shock, anger and anguish of…

AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB BE AWARE THAT EMOTIONS MAY BLOW UP The areas of life, love, and home are the dominant themes in your chart for this week. The thing is that a degree of discord is indicated, so all will depend on how well you manage yourself and the situation. Be alert to the fact that emotions may get blown out of proportion under the full moon on the 5th, so try not to take seriously what’s being done or said at that time. Love needs to be discreet currently, so try not to let yourself get too distracted. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 4, 30, 45, 25, 43, 29 FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS FITNESS AND WELLBEING A Exercise attitude: Regular walks or runs with friends. B Preferred activity: Roller-blading or…

IT’S the best-selling non-fiction book of all time and the most spoken about and controversial memoir to grace the globe in decades. Thanks to Spare, we know all about Harry’s frostbitten “todger”, how he lost his virginity and his fractious relationship with his famous family. It’s Harry’s book about Harry’s escapades and Harry’s deepest, darkest thoughts – but the truth is he didn’t write it. That accolade goes to JR Moehringer, a Pulitzer prize-winning journalist and one of the most respected ghost writers in the business. And a ghost he all but remains when it comes to Spare. When publisher Penguin Random House announced the memoir was forthcoming, there was one name “conspicuously” left off the press release, writer Rachel Deahl says in Publishers Weekly, a magazine focusing on the…

SHE was reluctant to tie the knot and admitted marriage scared the wits out of her. Yet that didn’t stop Shakira from falling head over heels for Spanish footballer Gerard Piqué and going on to have two children with him. Together they built a beautiful life – the pop star wrote love songs about her blue-eyed boyfriend and cheered him on with their sons during his time at Barcelona. Now it’s all over – and while the pair issued a statement saying they were putting on a united front for the sake of their kids, it’s become clear things are anything but amicable. Reports surfaced that Gerard (35) had cheated on Shakira (45) with a younger woman and had moved out of the home he shared with her and their…

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SHE was stunned when a friend called her to say she’d heard her divorce had been finalised – and that her ex had married again. Claudia Henkel shook her head in disbelief. Even though the former Miss South Africa had left her husband, Orin Roesstorff, more than three years ago, a court had yet to issue the divorce decree and the department of home affairs still considered them legally married. But how was it possible then that Orin had tied the knot while he was still married to her, her friend asked. Hadn’t she seen the pictures on social media? Claudia (39) felt humiliated when she saw the photos of Orin and his partner, Chloe Frampton, in what looked like a romantic shoot from a bridal magazine. In one of…

A LARGE Weimaraner bounds over in joyous greeting, but there’s no sign of the little person we’ve come to see. It’s several minutes before a small head peeks out from a room down the hall – and when she realises she’s been spotted she quickly ducks back into the room and then proceeds to flit from one room to the next. “She’s terribly shy,” mom Jean-Mari van Vuuren (42) tells us. “We’re trying to get her to do a little better among people, but she struggles.” The Van Vuurens, who live in Langeberg Ridge in Kraaifontein, Cape Town, have learnt it’s better to leave six-year-old Lara at home when they go shopping and visits with friends are limited. But they’re happy to make these sacrifices because there was a time…

GRAPE JAM with SESAME CRACKERS MAKES ABOUT 700ML JAM AND 36 BISCUITSPREPARATION: 20 MIN / COOKING: 25 MIN Grapes and olives are a delicious sweet-and-savoury combination that’s perfect with cheese. The sesame crackers are a hit served with the jam and cheese. GRAPE JAM ▸ 500g black or green grapes▸ 125g black or green olives▸ 60ml (¼c) balsamic vinegar▸ 125ml (½c) sugar▸ 15-30ml (1-2T) chopped fresh rosemary▸ 1 chilli CRACKERS ▸ 375ml (1½c) white bread flour▸ 5ml (1t) baking powder▸ 80ml ( c) olive oil▸ 125ml (½c) chilled water ▸ 60ml (¼c) sesame seeds▸ salt flakes▸ extra sesame seeds and olive oil TO SERVE ▸ ricotta cheese or cream cheese rolls▸ a small bunch of grapes, lightly roasted in the oven (or fresh fruit such as figs or nectarines) Preheat…

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YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. WHEN you’re low on cash it’s easy to consider the lay-by option, which means you pay off the item interest-free over a few months and then receive it upon your final payment. Here are 10 things you need to know to protect yourself when it comes to lay-bys. 1 HOW IT WORKS A lay-by payment works similar to a repayment plan over several months. You buy an item, but the seller keeps it while you pay it off in instalments. Once you’ve paid the full amount, the seller gives you the item. 2 DEPOSITS Deposits on lay-bys aren’t compulsory, but it can be…

ACTOR ALEC BALDWIN (64) has been officially charged with two counts of involuntary manslaughter for accidentally shooting and killing cinematographer HALYNA HUTCHINS on the set of the movie Rust in 2021. Halyna (42) was fatally wounded when the prop gun Alec was rehearsing with dislodged a live bullet that hit her in the chest. The Santa Fe district attorney’s office concluded their criminal investigation last month and charged both Alec and the film’s armourer, HANNAH GUTIERREZ-REED, with the two counts. The actor could face 18 months to five years in jail if he’s found guilty, but his legal team are not taking the charges lying down. Luke Nikas, Alec’s lawyer, says the charges “distort Halyna Hutchins’ tragic death and represent a terrible miscarriage of justice”. “Mr Baldwin had no reason…

Cape Town singer and Good Hope FM presenter CHAD and medical doctor SAVANAH’s paths crossed in 2018 when they met at nightspot Arcade. Since then there have been lots of defining moments in their relationship that showed they were soulmates, Savanah says. Four years later Chad surprised her with a romantic proposal at Cape Town restaurant Villa 47. Although he’d been carrying around the engagement ring for two months the proposal itself took just a couple of days of planning. “As we entered Villa 47 our song, The Last Time by Eric Benet, played and we went to the private table and I proposed,” Chad says. They’d previously discussed marriage and, along with Chad’s 12-year-old daughter, Summer, had agreed it was the next step in their relationship. They don’t have…

I’M SINKING deeper and deeper into a quagmire of guilt and worry. The more I wallow in it, the tighter its grip becomes. I feel like I’m suffocating. It’s 2017 and I’m R220 178 in the red. It’s all I can think about and it’s consuming my life. Every unknown number on my phone screen is a potential danger – either someone I owe money to or someone threatening legal action. All three of my credit cards have been maxed out. I don’t have a cent to my name. I go to the bank to see if they’ll give me more credit on my overdraft but they refuse – I’m too far in the red. I have a panic attack as I walk back to the office through the Cape…

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LOADS OF LAUGHS How does a cucumber become a pickle? It goes through a jarring experience. What is a computer’s favourite snack? Computer chips. What falls in winter but never gets hurt? Snow. Why did the golfer wear two pants? Because he was afraid he might get a hole in one. What did the Dalmatian say after lunch? That hit the spot. NACHO AVERAGE DAY Dracula is walking down the road when a mozzarella stick flies through the air and hits him in the face. But he thinks nothing of it and continues walking. A few metres further down the road he gets pelted with chicken wings. As he looks around to see where it could be coming from, he’s suddenly drenched in nacho cheese sauce. At that moment he…

CINEMA SPECULATION By QUENTIN TARANTINO Weidenfeld & Nicolson If you’ve ever watched a Tarantino film, it’s easy to guess the eras that influenced him as a filmmaker – the ’60s and ’70s. In Cinema Speculation, the Pulp Fiction filmmaker does a deep dive into the movies he loves, with an engaging blend of childhood nostalgia, an analysis of filmmaking, stories from the sets of those movies and no-holds barred criticism too. The book is written in his unmistakeable voice – if you’ve seen him interviewed, you’ll know he easily slips off into tangents and can effortlessly spout information and trivia about the most obscure films. It’s unlikely to surprise anyone that young Quentin grew up on a diet of movies wildly inappropriate for children, and he loved it, even if…

MOLLY SAMPSON (9) has a unique hobby. Inspired by her dad’s love of fossils, this American girl enjoys searching for prehistoric shark teeth at her local beach and already has a collection of several. And on Christmas Day she had an amazing find: a megalodon tooth that’s 13cm long! For Christmas Molly’s parents had given her and her sister special cold-water waders and she and her sister wanted to test the suits. The Calvert Cliffs area of Chesapeake Bay in Maryland, where Molly’s family live, is known for its abundance of prehistoric shark teeth. The cliffs are layers of old sedimentary rock which used to be part of the ocean floor. Now the breaking of the waves against the cliffs is slowly degrading the rock, exposing the prehistoric teeth. On…

A LITTLE lipo here, a nip and a tuck there, a Brazilian butt lift to perk up your posterior, a dimple to sparkle up your smile, a blast of Botox to freeze your frown . . . These days there’s practically nothing you can’t do if you want to improve what nature gave you – provided you have the bucks in the bank, of course. And who do we usually have to thank for turning a cosmetic-enhancement trick into a trend? Celebs, that’s who – and right now the trend everyone is talking about is buccal-fat removal: a procedure that strips your cheek of chub and gives you the chisel of an Angelina Jolie. Buccal-fat removal isn’t new and is believed to have been done for the first time in…

1 BEYONCÉ LIGHTS UP DUBAI It was her first live show in more than four years and BEYONCÉ (41) did not fail to deliver. Attendees at an invite-only concert in Dubai were blown away by the Lemonade singer’s performance. The hour-long concert helped launch the city’s new luxurious hotel, the Atlantis The Royal, and saw the superstar walking away with a $24-million (R412m) paycheque. She proved she was worth every penny with her trademark opulent costumes, flawless vocals and a surprise appearance by 11-year-daughter Blue Ivy Carter. 2 PRIYANKA ON BEING SURROGACY-SHAMED Actress PRIYANKA CHOPRA (40) recently addressed comments such as “renting a womb” and “outsourcing a pregnancy”, which she endured after welcoming one-year-old daughter MALTI MARIE CHOPRA JONAS via surrogacy last year. Speaking to British Vogue, Priyanka, who is…

WALKING in high heels can be a struggle for the best of us, but actor SHIA LABEOUF (36) seems to have taken to it like a duck to water. Shia was spotted in full Greek goddess costume on the set of legendary director Francis Ford Coppola’s new star-studded movie, Megalopolis, in Atlanta, Georgia. Other famous faces starring in the film are ADAM DRIVER, NATHALIE EMMANUEL, Aubrey Plaza and Dustin Hoffman. The film centres around an architect who, in the aftermath of a big disaster, wants to rebuild New York into a utopia. Francis wrote the script in the ’80s but due to budget constraints back then, shelved the movie. Decades later he was able to self-fund the passion project thanks to the fortune he has amassed and by selling some…