Innholdsfortegnelse for 01 December 2022 i You South Africa

HOPE FOR MY CHILD Our daughter suffered a health emergency in February 2021, resulting in a massive loss of oxygen in her tissues that brought on seizures and traumatic brain injury, limited speech and the need for 24-hour care. We were advised in May 2022 that no further progress is to be expected. She continues to lose her memory. In her mind she thinks she’s fine and can still do everything she used to, but forgets from one moment to the next. The reality hit us on her 23rd birthday, of which she has no recollection, that we could be “losing” our child. I feel overwhelmed by our devastating situation, trying to understand the sadness and grief I feel for all that she’s lost. It’s been unbelievably painful to watch…

SHE’S just Jenny from the block – the girl who used to have a little, now she’s got a lot. And she can say that again! Two decades after Jennifer Lopez delivered that long-lasting earworm of a song, she’s happier, sexier and more settled than ever. She’s also fabulously successful, with a fortune of $400 million (R6,6bn) to her name. But the real reason for that extra glow is love – and love, as she famously told us in another of her sticks-in-your-head songs, “don’t cost a thing”. As she heads towards her first Christmas as Mrs Affleck, the 53-year-old mom is on a high. J Lo dazzles on the December cover of British Vogue, displaying the curves that have made her one of the hottest stars in Hollywood. Being…

TIPSY CHICKEN with RED GRAPES SERVES 4-5 / PREPARATION AND COOKING: 1½ HR A recipe that combines sweet and savoury flavours traditionally loved by South Africans. A classic roast chicken with a twist. The roasted grapes are delicious and the gravy is to die for. Also excellent served cold the next day. 1 fresh chicken 15ml (1T) Ina Paarman’s Lemon & Black Pepper Seasoning 4 rashers of streaky bacon, finely chopped (optional) 30ml (2T) butter, at room temperature zest of 1 lemon 250ml (1c) sherry, port, sweet wine or red grape juice (see tip, left) 2-3 bunches (±500g) red grapes 1pkt (25g) Ina Paarman’s Liquid Chicken Stock 60ml (¼c) Ina Paarman’s Classic Balsamic Vinaigrette Adjust the oven rack to one slot below the middle position and preheat the oven to…

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YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. GETTING a bonus at the end of the year is great – it helps cover extra expenses over the festive season. Many employees assume that a bonus is something they’re automatically entitled to. If you’re unsure whether you should get a bonus or not, read on. 1 ARE YOU ENTITLED TO A BONUS? According to the Basic Conditions of Employment Act, no employer is obliged to pay a bonus. Whether employees get a bonus or not depends on three factors: whether the company has a policy of paying bonuses, whether your employment contract explicitly states that you are paid a bonus and if it’s…

School holidays are one of the best things about being a child but filling their days with constructive amusement can be hard work. YOU Quick Puzzles: Fun for Kids is both entertaining and stimulating – the fun facts, jokes and tongue twisters will keep them sharp and wanting more! Activities include fill-in-the-blanks, word searches and mazes – all grouped in fun themes such as animals, space, Disney and other things kids love. Get your copy in stores now, at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche at 021-406-4962 or johan. terblanche@media24.com and have it delivered straight to your door. See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas news@you.co.za Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes…

HE WAS one of the most important people in her life and the man she loved most in the world – but many of the memories she had of him have been wiped out by shock and grief. “I don’t remember much about my dad,” Zaynab Petersen says. “Post-traumatic stress that does that. Maybe the memories will return someday.” Yet some have remained – and they’ve haunted her in the 16 years since her father, singer, composer and musical director Taliep Petersen, was murdered. She’ll never forget seeing her beloved father lying in a pool of blood on the floor of the family home in Athlone, Cape Town, in December 2006. Zaynab, just seven years old and the youngest of Taliep’s six children, had a strange feeling something was going…

ASK any human-resources executive and they’ll tell you employee-exit interviews can be explosive, but they’re usually done behind closed doors, officially recorded and managed tactfully. Cristiano Ronaldo clearly didn’t get that memo. In what can be described as burning his bridges – scorching them, really – the footballer attacked the club that employs him and made it clear in no uncertain terms what he thinks of it. And it’s come back to bite him. Manchester United have announced they’ve appointed lawyers for “alleged breach of contract” after Ronaldo’s no-holds-barred barrage, and the club is seeking a “swift resolution to the issue”. The Red Devils’ once greatest asset has also been told not to return to Old Trafford following the Fifa World Cup after he ripped into the club in a…

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For daily horoscopes go to you.co.za. SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC HOLD ON TO YOUR GENEROSITY OF SPIRIT For a change, you don’t seem to be the instigator in domestic squabbles but rather your partner is. Like it or not, all people are at times going to have a difference of opinion but the question is: will you be able to keep things civil and manageable? Expect a bubble to burst around the 1st and then you’ll know what fallout you have to deal with. One of your best qualities is your generosity of spirit, so try to uphold that tradition as best you can. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 3, 18, 26, 36, 19, 13 FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS THE SAGITTARIUS UNIVERSE Their VIP factor: They’re entertaining, optimistic, and bold. Why their…

THE TWIST OF A KNIFE By ANTHONY HOROWITZ Century This excellent adventure is the fourth Sherlock-and-Watsontype partnership between Anthony (the author “playing” himself) and the fiendishly clever detective Daniel Hawthorne. This time, it’s the author who finds himself in a pickle when he’s locked up for murdering Harriet Throsby, a theatre critic with a poison pen who demolishes Anthony’s debut West End production of his new play Mindgame. It seems like an open-and-shut case because Anthony’s fingerprints are all over a dagger believed to be the murder weapon. The trouble is the playwright has cheesed off the detective by telling him he doesn’t want to work with him anymore. Now he needs him badly. Lucky for him (and us) Hawthorne takes the case, contrives to get his sidekick out of…

Dot to dot Colour in the picture after joining the dots Flip-flop fun First do the sums, then find your way through the maze – going from 1 to 10. Cut & paste Carefully cut out the squares along the dotted lines, then glue them into the correct places to complete the picture (FAR RIGHT). Find 5 differences Match the shadow Find them all! Look carefully at the picture to find where all the items below have been hidden. BONUS FIND! Where’s the seal? ANSWERS Match the shadow 5.…

HE’S always been a lot to handle, has Mike Tindall – a one-of-the-boys kind of guy; a rough diamond; a dude who shoots from the hip and doesn’t mind baring a bit of hip either, for that matter. The queen is said to have been fond of her grandson-in-law and it’s easy to imagine why. Her Majesty liked people who called a spade a spade and Mike has never been afraid of that. So it’s safe to assume the late queen is giggling from her grave right now. Mike, 44-year-old husband of her granddaughter Zara, has been putting on quite the display Down Under lately. Teeny Speedos, controversial campfire chats, saucy stories involving his mother-in-law – Mike has provided them all. And the makers of reality show I’m a Celebrity.…

RED CARPET LOOKS Celebs usually choose more daring outfits for music award shows, and this year’s MTV European Music Awards (EMAs) held in Düsseldorf, Germany, was no exception. Here’s a peek at some of the very different and dramatic looks from the night. EMA HOSTS WITH THE MOST Newlyweds RITA ORA and TAIKA WAITITI were quite the dynamic duo as they took to the EMA stage as co-hosts. This marked the first time the singer and the filmmaker worked together since their August nuptials and they didn’t disappoint, especially when it came to their impressive range of outfit changes. THE PERFORMERS The stage was on fire with a number of show-stopping displays to wow the crowd. TAYLOR’S BIG NIGHT American pop star TAYLOR SWIFT was the top winner of the…

BACK TO THE MOON Artemis I mission marks milestone for Nasa AFTER months of delays, Nasa’s mission to the moon is finally underway, yet it remains to be seen if the Orion crew vehicle will successfully splash down in early December. “There’s definitely relief, but we also have a heightened sense of awareness that this mission is underway. And I personally am not going to rest well until we get safely to splashdown and recovery,” says Artemis mission manager Mike Sarafin. Artemis I is the first stage of a series of missions designed to send humans to the moon as part of the Artemis programme, but the launch has been delayed on four occasions and is five years behind schedule and billions over budget. The mission eventually lifted off on…

HER toned arms became her signature during her years as first lady and inspired a generation of women to hit the gym in pursuit of “Michelle Obama arms”. But as she approaches the end of her sixth decade, the 58-year-old powerhouse has given up trying to maintain those chiselled limbs. “I find that I can’t push myself as hard as I used to,” Michelle admits. “When I tear a muscle or pull something, then I’m out. The recovery time isn’t the same. I’m still physically active but my goal now, instead of having ‘Michelle Obama arms’, is I just want to keep moving.” The reason is menopause and ageing, she says. In a candid conversation on The Michelle Obama Podcast titled What Your Mother Never Told You About Health, Michelle…

SHE was barely in her teens when she made headlines for inspiring protests about hair policies at schools, cutting a petite yet powerful figure as she pumped her fist into the air, her delicate face dwarfed by her afro. Zulaikha Patel’s defiance sparked a national conversation on racial prejudice in classrooms and her school, Pretoria Girls High, later overturned their policy to allow natural hair. It was a victory not only for the students at Pretoria High but for black students across the country who had faced racism and abuse at school because of their hair. Now six years later, Zulaikha has been selected as one of six laureates from around the world who’ll be honoured at the Young Activists Summit 2022, which takes place at the United Nations in…

MY BROTHER IS BEHAVING STRANGELY Q My brother recently had an “accident” but I suspect it was a suicide attempt. His best friend died a year ago and since then he hasn’t been the same. He’s started saying that he’s the Messiah and that voices are telling him to do things that he’s compelled to do. He’s now at home with my mom and she says she’ll keep him there with her until he’s better. I tried to arrange for an appointment for him with a psychiatrist, but he refuses to go and my mom doesn’t think he needs to go either. I’m really afraid of what he might do next because he doesn’t seem to be aware of or in control of his behaviour and my mom refuses to…

SHOCKING A man tells his girlfriend she drew her eyebrows too high. She seems very surprised. LIFE LESSONS Never confide in a vacuum cleaner. They’re always collecting dirt. ON AND OFF A man goes to a 24-hour grocery store. When he gets there, the manager is locking up. So the man says, “Hey! The sign says you’re open 24 hours.” “Yes, but not in a row!” the manager replies. IS THAT SO? Why can’t Monday lift Saturday? Because it’s a weak day. Why was the politician out of breath? He was running for office. Why did Adele cross the road? To say hello from the other side. Why does Humpty Dumpty love autumn? Because Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. Why did the fish blush? Because it saw the ocean’s…

JELLYFISH AGE BACKWARDS: NATURE’S SECRETS TO LONGEVITY By NICKLAS BRENDBORG Hodder Studio Humans have always searched for the secret to immortality. The author takes us on a journey through the natural world and science to look at the many aspects of the aging mystery. He explains what nature has to teach us and that the natural world with all its wonders and mysteries might hold the answers to many of our questions. The title is inspired by jellyfish, which when stressed turn back into polyps from an earlier phase of their life cycle and then, when calm is restored, revert back to being jellyfish. This book also makes other stunning revelations – for instance, the Greenland shark can live for centuries, while trees and lobsters only grow bigger not older.…

AH, THE world cup. A feast of football to satisfy the pickiest fan – and the meeting place of wives and girlfriends (Wags) in all their glamour. Because where there’s a world cup, there’s a Wag jetting in to support her fella as he works up a sweat on the soccer field. So while you’re watching the action in Qatar, keep a lookout for these beauties in the stands – women who not only look like a million bucks, but have a million bucks to spend too. NEVIN CHOUPO-MOTING (33) She’s married to ERIC MAXIM CHOUPO-MOTING (33), who was born in Germany but plays for Cameroon where his dad is from. The lovebirds have been best friends since high school and she’s been cheering him on from the stands with…

BRAD’S NEW LOVE HE IS one of the most eligible bachelors in Hollywood and is known for keeping his romances close to his chest. But BRAD PITT is ready to show the world who the new lady in his life is. The smitten actor (58) was recently spotted getting cosy with 29-year-old INES DE RAMON, the ex-wife of Vampire Diaries actor Paul Wesley, backstage at a Bono concert in Los Angeles. The Bullet Train actor could be seen introducing the striking brunette to some of his celebrity friends – who included model Cindy Crawford, her husband Randy Gerbe and actor Sean Penn – before they headed in to watch the concert. This is one of the few times Brad has been seen out and about with a love interest…