Innholdsfortegnelse for 15 September 2022 i You South Africa

LIVING WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER My 44-year-old son is a brilliant labour lawyer. He also suffers from bipolar mood disorder. He wrote me this letter which I am sending to give your readers insight into what life is like with this condition. MARIA, EMAIL Dear Mom, I am writing to you because we can’t ever seem to be able to discuss heavy issues without either one of us getting upset. I know I have let you down terribly. Words cannot describe the guilt I feel and I am so very sorry. All I have to say, Mom, is I am sick. It’s a daily struggle. The meds are helping but it’s like putting a band aid on an open wound. My mood drops and I get depressed and the only thing…

FOR a while it all seemed so perfect. Brooklyn Beckham fitted in seamlessly with actress Nicola Peltz’s filthy rich family and Victoria and David seemed to adore their future daughter-in-law. Nicola would gush over Posh’s designs and hang out with Brooklyn’s little sis, Harper, calling her “my baby sister”. Posh seemed delighted with her eldest’s son choice. Then came the fairytale wedding, a no-expenses-spared extravaganza at the Florida home of Nicola’s fabulously wealthy parents. Both families came together to celebrate the beginning of the young couple’s happily-ever-after . . . But, oh, how the illusion has shattered. Victoria – one of the most prolific social media posters and commentators – hasn’t reacted to a single one of her daughter-in-law’s posts since May. In 2021 Posh liked 25 of Nicola’s Instagram…

WHEN he was a little boy playing soccer on the street with his friends and heard his mother calling for him, he always knew exactly what she wanted. “I knew it was to go and make tea,” Craig Cupido recalls. “I was always being asked to do it.” But this experience has stood him in good stead – today he’s a tea sommelier at Cape Town’s luxurious Belmond Mount Nelson Hotel and it’s his job to know about 44 different teas and infusions on a daunting eight-page tea menu. From rooibos and Lapsang Souchong to Earl Grey, oolong and Darjeeling, he can tell you how long each one needs to steep, whether you can drink it with milk and what sort of food it’s best paired with, from sweet to…

MY HUSBAND WAITED FOUR YEARS TO TELL ME HE IS GAY Q My husband recently told me that he wants a divorce because he has in fact always been gay and can no longer live a lie. We’ve been married for four years and have a son who is now three years old. I feel so angry with him because I trusted him. I don’t understand why he didn’t make this decision before he involved me in his life. Now he is doing something that is destroying my life and that of our son. What do I do now? How do I get rid of all this anger? Marjory, email A You feel as if your life has fallen apart, but try to see how much courage it must have…

A TALL TALE Jim, Scott and Alex are tired after travelling all day so they check into a hotel. At reception they’re told they’ll have to walk 30 flights of stairs to get to their room because the elevator is out of order. Jim suggests they do something interesting to pass time while they walk up the 30 flights. Jim will tell jokes, Scott will sing songs and Alex will tell sad stories. So Jim tells jokes for 10 flights, Scott sings songs for 10 flights and Alex tells sad stories for nine flights. When they reach the 29th floor, Alex tells his saddest story of all: “Guys, I left our room key at reception.” A PRECIOUS GIFT Bob wakes up and realises he forgot his wedding anniversary. His wife,…

THE statistics are scary enough already: one in four girls and one in six boys in South Africa are overweight. And if a recent report is anything to go by, things are set to get even worse. Climate change, the scourge that’s put our precious planet at peril, could be a major contributing factor to obesity in children. As the Earth gets hotter, kids are less and less likely to do what mothers have been telling their children to do for generations: go outside and play in the sunshine. A recent study in the Temperature journal, which publishes scientific and research papers, says “as Earth’s warming continues to accelerate, children are set to bear the health risk” because they won’t be as motivated to get active due to the heat.…

AS THEY walked the red carpet for the premiere of the most expensive TV show ever made, they were both in their comfort zones. He arrived as founder of the company who brought the series to life and she’s a former entertainment reporter used to attending glitzy high-profile events. Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sánchez seemed in their element at the recent world premiere of The Lord of the Rings: The Rings of Power in Leicester Square, London. The former Amazon boss smiled more than he usually does when photographers are around, while Lauren, in a tight-fitting gown and strappy heels, struck one confident pose after another. The couple seem to have settled after the drama that marked the early days of their relationship going public. Both were married when they…

THE recent erratic behaviour displayed by model CARA DELEVINGNE has fans worried. Earlier this month the 30-year-old was seen changing her clothes inside her Audi before stopping to browse at a sex shop in Los Angeles. She appeared quite dishevelled while smoking something out of a pipe and taking drops of a mystery substance in her parked car. Despite having a home in the Silver Lake area of Los Angeles, this isn’t the first time Cara has been seen changing in her car. In July paparazzi snapped her acting strangely while running errands around town. Cara was seen making odd, silly faces while picking up lunch and even changing her clothes outside her Audi along the way. Two months earlier she made headlines for her bizarre conduct at the 2022…

There are so many things “out there” – from incredibly huge superclusters of galaxies that span light years, to tiny cosmic particles so small that billions of them can fit on the tip of your thumb. There are even places billions of kilometres from Earth where we could live one day! In YOU Did You Know? SPACE, we explore all the mysteries of space and space travel. There’s also a fun pullout section, including space games, jokes and facts. Get your copy in stores or order online at youstore.co.za or by contacting Johan Terblanche at 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@media24.com. See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas news@you.co.za Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za…

IT’S hard to imagine tennis without her. She’s been dominating the game for nearly a quarter of a century, notching up record after record to become not only the queen of the court but one of the world’s greatest athletes. Serena Williams has had a career that’s outlasted most people’s expectations – even those of her dad, Richard, who once said he expected her and her sister, Venus, to explore other endeavours once they reached their 20s. Which Serena did, of course. She became a fashion designer, a mom, a wife and a venture capitalist – but the pull of the court never went away. Yet everything has to come to an end and shortly before this year’s US Open, the 40-year-old announced she’d be retiring from the game that’s…

RÖSTIS with CARAMELISED ONION MAKES 8-12 RÖSTIS / PREPARATION: 20 MIN / RESTING:15 MIN / COOKING: 25-30 MIN RÖSTIS 6 large potatoes2,5ml (½t) salt15ml (1T) olive oil2 large onions, chopped250ml (1c) grated butternuta handful fresh corianderfreshly ground pepper60ml (¼c) flour1 eggoil, for shallow-frying TO SERVE 125ml (½c) cream cheese5ml (1t) chopped fresh mint2 spring onions, chopped (optional) 1 Röstis Grate the potatoes and mix the salt in. Transfer to a colander and leave to stand for about 15 minutes. 2 Meanwhile, heat the oil in a pan and fry the onion until golden brown, then transfer to a large mixing bowl. 3 Press any excess moisture from the potatoes and add to the onion. Add the butternut and coriander and mix well. Season with the pepper, then mix in the…

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YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. THE world of investment can be complicated, but understanding some basic concepts will help to ensure you put your money in the right place for what you want to achieve. Zuhair Allie, institutional client manager at M&G Investments, explains these key concepts. 1 ALL ABOUT RISK First-time investors might find the term risk confusing because it sounds like something you need to avoid if you want to protect your money. But on the other hand you’re told you need to take some risk if you want your investment to grow. The fact of the matter is that all the different asset classes you can invest…

1 BRITNEY’S BEST DAY EVER! It’s her first release in six years – and what a comeback for BRITNEY SPEARS! Her duet with ELTON JOHN, HOLD ME CLOSER, has become a global smash, proving she’s still got it when it comes to making pop bangers despite all the headlines her personal life continues to make. To celebrate her latest hit, the American singer posted a video on her now-deleted Instagram account in which she thanked Elton in her best British accent. “Hello, Sir Elton John, we’re like No 1 in 40 countries. Holy s**t! I’m in the tub right now and I’m about to go have the best day ever and I hope you’re well.” Elton responded by thanking Britney and saying she “made his day”. He later posted his…

Windy days are for kites! Which kite belongs to each child? Dot to dot Number maze Get the raindrop back to his cloud. Float from 1 to 17 in numerical order. Match the shadows Find 10 differences Make up a story or draw a picture of your favourite kind of weather. Do you like sunny days or storms, wind or rain? Find them all! Look carefully at the picture below to find all 10 objects. Find the frog too! Umbrella sudoku Complete the grid so that each row, each column and each quadrant contain one of each umbrella. ANSWERS Windy days are for kites! 1-b, 2-c, 3-a. Match the shadows 1-7, 4-10, 5-2, 8-3, 9-6.…

1 KABELO’S SOBER JOURNEY Earlier this week KABELO MABALANE announced on social media that he’s officially 20 years sober. “Today 20 years ago, a ride like no other began,” the TKZee member wrote on Instagram. “This journey has made me more realistic. I now believe in miracles. Thank you, Jesus.” The 45-year-old added some motivation for anyone who may be struggling: “If I can do it, you can do it too.” Celebrating with him was his wife, actress and businesswoman Gail Mabalane (37). “@kabelomabalane you inspire me and so many. We’re so proud of you,” she captioned a photo of herself and her husband. 2 JANE FONDA REVEALS CANCER DIAGNOSIS JANE FONDA (84) revealed on Instagram that she’s been diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma and has begun chemotherapy. “This is a…

MACRON’S SEX LIFE IN SPOTLIGHT Trump hints at salacious info on French leader EVER wonder what politicians get up to behind closed doors? Former US president DONALD TRUMP seems to know. Trump boasted to close associates that he knew all about EMMANUEL MACRON’s sex life from US intelligence sources. This comes in the wake of classified and national defence documents found in an FBI search of Trump’s Mar-a-Lago home last month, which mention a file referred to as “info re: President of France”. It’s unclear whether the file on Macron was classified or what it contained. Insiders say Trump hoarded gossip on world leaders he didn’t like, including Canada’s Justin Trudeau and former chancellor of Germany Angela Merkel. He also spread rumours that he’s sitting on an explosive sex scandal…

‘I THOUGHT PARENTHOOD WASN’T FOR ME. AND I WASN’T QUITE SURE HOW TO COME TO TERMS WITH THAT’ THE exact time and date will forever be etched in his memory: 6.04pm on 12 August 2022 – the moment he became a father and could finally put the heartache of the past decade behind him. His son, Manoah Jayden, is the greatest gift he’s ever received, Vusidiva Nxumalo says, gazing down at his tiny son. And his existence wouldn’t have been possible without the selfless sacrifice of his sister, Tsakani (32). She had always vowed she wouldn’t carry another child. When she was pregnant with her son, Jayden (8), she was horribly ill and didn’t ever want to put her body through that again. But seeing her brother with her child…

KEEP IT CASUAL TIMELESS TEES T-shirts are a must for spring. Update this closet essential with these easy-to-match items. TIP T-shirts are easy to match with lightweight jackets and shackets for a simple layered spring look. RELAXED BOTTOMS Anyone can pull off a casual-cool look in jeans, linen cargo pants and popping joggers. TIP Distressed denim and cargo pants are urban chic and easy to match with items like check shirts or shackets. COVER-UPS It can still be breezy in spring so cover up in lightweight jackets with mesh or denim fabric. Or make a statement in colourblocked jackets and shackets – they’re perfect for every occasion. TIP Dark-wash and coloured denim are trending this season. They’re great investment pieces and cover-ups all year round. FINISHING TOUCHES Shoes and accessories…

VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEPT THINGS AREN’T GOING ACCORDING TO PLAN It could easily feel as if your money management skills have forsaken you right now. You may find that you have more expenses than usual, which also confirms that you should make sure you always have emergency funds stacked away for instances like this. With things not going to plan in your love life either, it may certainly feel as if you’re experiencing a double whammy. It’s best to just breathe your way through it as this too shall pass. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 18, 33, 46, 48, 43, 23 FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS THE VIRGO STYLE GUIDE • Navy and brown are their favourite colours. • They like clothing made of natural fabrics such as cotton or linen. • They’re…

PORTRAIT OF AN UNKNOWN WOMAN BY DANIEL SILVA HARPERCOLLINS Gabriel Allon is a master spy who’s the former head of the Israeli Intelligence Agency and he also just happens to be an extraordinarily good restorer of paintings. In this, the 22nd in the Allon series, he has retired and is living in Venice with his wife and children. But he’s plucked away from his quiet life after eccentric London art dealer Julian Isherwood gets a letter from Valerie Bérrangar telling him she has concerns about the origin of a painting attributed to master Flemish painter Sir Anthony van Dyck that Julian recently sold. When Valerie dies in suspicious circumstances, the plot thickens. When Gabriel discovers the painting is indeed a fake he goes on the trail of the best forger…

HER latest movie won the top prize at the recent Cannes Film Festival, she strutted down runways across Europe for big-name fashion brands and she recently said yes to the man of her dreams. Charlbi Dean’s life was falling beautifully into place – and then the unimaginable happened. The actress and model, who we got to know as Spud’s feisty love interest Amanda in the hit movie series, died suddenly at the age of just 32, sending shockwaves around the world. Her mom, Joanne Muller (62), and brother, Alex Jacobs (21), who live in Melkbosstrand near Cape Town, are struggling to process what’s happened. “It’s such a shock and it’s very sad,” an emotional Alex tells YOU a day after Charlbi’s passing. “My mom is distraught. Losing a child .…

LEONARDO DICAPRIO is back on the market. Late last month, news broke that the Oscar winner had split from CAMILA MORRONE, his girlfriend of almost five years. Neither has offered public statements, but it seems as if conflicting schedules were mostly to blame for their break-up. An insider says the Titanic star and the Death Wish actress have both been “travelling a lot”, which made the lovebirds re-evaluate their relationship. “Distance played a factor,” the source claims, adding that their romance “ran its course”. But another insider claims the reason the 47-year-old actor broke up with Camila (25) is because she started to discuss the idea of settling down and getting married. “That isn’t what Leo wants. He doesn’t want a family and doesn’t want to be around women who…