Innholdsfortegnelse for 25 August 2022 i You South Africa

I’M A SURVIVOR Life on the streets is very hard. Not everyone who is displaced is a drug addict or disobedient. Some of us are faced with difficult situations back in our villages, like unemployment, forcing us to come to the city for a better life. I found myself having to sleep on the streets in the chilly Johannesburg weather. I persevered. I recently moved to a government shelter in Hillbrow. I never knew such places existed. I have shelter now, for which I am really grateful. I plead with people to be considerate. All some of us want is just to be given a chance. Yes, when you are living on the streets there are temptations for you to do bad things. You must just stand your ground and…

WHEN the chips are down and days are dark, the people you love most in the world are the ones who help carry you through. For many of us, this is our family – and so it is for royalty too. Princess Charlene of Monaco has been through a harrowing few years, battling ill health and having to fend off rumours of her marriage collapsing. But now Her Serene Highness is returning to public life – and says her family and faith brought her through it all. “I have been through a very difficult period but I’m lucky to have had the support and love of my husband, my children and my family, from which I draw my strength,” the 44-year-old told YOU exclusively from the Pink Palace in Monaco.…

WHEN she was just four years old she insisted on taking off her safety gear while in the pool, despite her mom’s warnings not to swim without it. And when her mother turned her back for just a moment, the little girl leapt into the water. “Her face was underwater, but she was furiously kicking,” Joa van Niekerk recalls of her sister’s antics. “She was going in circles. It was too funny! I jumped in and pulled her out.” Now Joa’s little sister, Lara van Niekerk, could swim circles around anyone – and proved her prowess in the pool at the recent Commonwealth Games. The 19-year-old swimming sensation broke a Commonwealth Games record with a time of 29,73 seconds in the 50m breaststroke. Soon after she came first in the…

JUST like the paint-splattered trays that inspire an artist’s masterpiece, makeup palettes are designed to coax out our inner Monet. The problem is not all of us can wield a brush as confidently as an artist. And while multi-hued palettes might look fabulous, we often end up feeling too intimidated to do more than gaze at them adoringly. So they end up languishing in that dusty bottom drawer, and we revert back to our trusty mushroom eyeshadow. Luckily, the latest picks for lids, lips and cheeks are easier to use than ever before, more flattering than you can imagine and so well made you’ll want to use every single shade. Beige eyes, begone. Eyes Best For: Glitter-phobes You’ll scrape clean every shade in this non-disco mix of earthy neutrals. Maybelline…

MY DREAM OF MARRIAGE HAS BEEN SHATTERED I got married two years ago and had all these romantic expectations but it’s not what I envisaged it to be. Being married is boring. We don’t have friends and don’t entertain. We also don’t go out much even though we can easily afford it. My husband comes home and just slumps in front of the television and then drags himself to bed. He often doesn’t even really talk to me in the evenings. I feel as if I’m in jail in solitary confinement. What should I do to get out of this hell? Sarah, email How you choose to live your life is up to you. If your husband has chosen a boring existence, it doesn’t automatically have to be your choice…

For daily horoscopes go to you.co.za. VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEPT FEELINGS OF IRRITATION WILL SOON PASS Whilst your ruling planet, Mercury, was moving through your sign, you probably felt good about yourself and had clarity of mind. But this planet changes signs this week, which at first may feel unsettling. Add to that a tense aspect between the Sun in your sign and warmonger Mars, and you could feel somewhat on edge and irritable. Work pressure is of such a nature that you may feel you don’t have time for personal spoils. This too shall pass. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 23, 35, 44, 15, 39, 32 FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS THE ABC OF VIRGO A is for being articulate, which they’re an expert at. B is for being body conscious, which…

THE MAN WHO LOVED CROCODILE TAMERS By FINUALA DOWLING Kwela This novel is the author’s fictionalised account of her father’s backstory interspersed with snippets from the storyteller’s own life. All Gina knows about her dad, Paddy, was that he was engaged to Koringa, a crocodile tamer, and that he is buried in an unknown grave. Gina, the fictional, aspiring novelist, works at a Cape Town call centre by day. In her spare time she struggles to start her book but as she researches and interviews family members, she discovers more about her father’s life. Paddy grew up in England but after being sent away to France he met Koringa at a circus and fell deeply in love. But then World War 2 began and what Paddy experienced on the battlefield…

IT WASN’T too long ago that the whole world was infatuated with the gospel according to Marie Kondo. The Japanese organising guru had us folding socks, binning books and moving out mountains of clothes that didn’t “spark joy”. The result: pared-back interiors intended to inspire Buddha-style levels of calm. But what if everything you own sparks joy and you simply can’t bear to be without it? We’re here to tell you the good news: it’s okay. Thanks to the revived cluttercore craze you can totally ditch the guilt about having abundance be the description of your abode. This anything-goes décor trend has been around for some time but is gaining traction in a post-pandemic world. People are less willing to part with things, even if they take up every available…

TO HER fans she’ll always be Sandra Dee, the wholesome girl with the sparkly blue eyes who sang her heart out and danced up a storm with John Travolta in Grease. Her role in the 1978 hit movie musical turned Olivia Newton-John into one of the biggest stars of the ’70s, leaving generations of fans hopelessly devoted to her. But for Olivia (73) it was the 30 years she spent living with cancer that she regarded as her greatest achievement. “I don’t know what I’d be without it now,” she said in a 2020 interview with British newspaper The Guardian. “I see it as my life’s journey. It gave me purpose and intention and taught me a lot about compassion. It’s been a gift.” Right to the end, Olivia refused…

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Family recipes passed down from generation to generation are the best, aren’t they? Perhaps you fondly remember the warm soup and bread after school on rainy days and recreate that for your family when it’s chilly. Or maybe you make your ouma’s biscuit recipe for your own kids or colleagues. Throughout the decades, many of YOU’s recipes have been inspired by these special memories. In YOU Nostalgia, you’ll find a collection of some of our many favourite happy-memory inducing dishes including chicken biryani, tomato stew with prime rib, lamb curry, waterblommetjie bredie and after-meal treats such as old-fashioned milk tart and more – perfect recipes for your family. Get your copy online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche at 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@media24.com to order. See your writing or news tips…

HE SEEMED to have it all. A face to fancy, a body to behold and the chance to wine and dine a bevy of beautiful women. And for a while that’s exactly what Lee Thompson did as the first man to take part in the South African version of the hit dating reality TV show The Bachelor. Viewers got to know him as the suave, sophisticated holder of the red rose and many a woman’s heart was broken when he turned them down. But for one Cape Town guesthouse owner, Lee is the guy who wrecked the room he’d rented from her recently. Lee (33) was a tenant from hell, says the owner, who prefers not to be named. “He’s not exactly a gentleman with a red rose – the…

YOU’D think with a face and body like his, he’d never have to waste a single second worrying about his looks. Yet for years there’s been one aspect of his appearance that has been a constant source of anxiety for Janez Vermeiren. The former Top Billing presenter had just turned 36 when he first noticed it. Looking in the mirror one day, he realised his hairline was receding. Although hair loss is a condition that affects 80% of men to varying degrees, Janez was mortified. “In my line of work when you start getting a receding hairline, you get a complex about it,” he says. But the father of three felt powerless to do anything about it, so for eight years he simply had to grin and bear it. “If…

STEAMED MIELIE BREAD PREPARATION: 15 MIN / COOKING: 40 MIN / MAKES 4 INDIVIDUAL BREADS 4-6 sweetcorn or mealie cobs with husks or 6c (6 x 250ml) sweetcorn kernels, fresh or frozen 125ml (½c) sugar 30ml (2T) butter or margarine, melted 30ml (2T) self-raising flour 1 Cut the kernels off the cobs and place in a mixing bowl. Wash the husks and set them aside for wrapping the bread. Mash the kernels with a wooden spoon or fork until smooth. 2 Add the sugar, melted butter or margarine and self-raising flour and mix to a dough-like consistency. Knead the dough in the bowl until combined, for about 10 minutes. 3 Divide the dough into four pieces and wrap each piece in a mealie husk – you may need to soak…

YOUR MONEY SORTED Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. GOTO you.co.za FOR MORE FINANCIAL ADVICE WHEN older people get married, it might be even more financially complicated than when young people get married. Older people will have formed financial habits over the years, and might also have adult children who want to have a say in their finances. Here are five things to consider. 1 BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR FINANCIAL HEALTH By this stage there’s usually been enough time to build up assets and save for retirement. But it’s not always the case. Often, someone has no retirement savings or not nearly enough, or they might have debt which gets harder to settle once…

SAY MY NAME A grasshopper sits down at a bar. The bartender says, “We have a drink named after you!” The grasshopper replies, “Who names a drink ‘Steve?’” FLOUR POWER While leaving a grocery store, a customer drops a bag of flour and a gentleman runs to pick it up. “Don’t bother, young man,” says the customer. “It’s self-raising.” COUNTING CARDS A teacher asks little Johnny if he knows his numbers. “Yes,” he says. “My father taught me.” “Good. What comes after three?” “Four,” answers the boy. “What comes after six?” “Seven.” “Very good,” says the teacher. “Your dad did a good job. And what comes after 10?” “Jack.” WORRY NO MORE Melissa: “Mom, do you remember that vase you always worried I would break?” Mother: “Yes. What about it?”…

LAVENDER is a flowering shrub in the mint family. There are nearly 50 species, with English lavender ( Lavandula angustifolia ) being the most common. The herb is often planted in gardens for its pretty colour, pleasant fragrance, hardiness and the colour of the evergreen leaves. It flowers throughout the year. THE PLANT COMMON LAVENDER 30-90cm SPIKES WITH FLOWERS At the top of the small stems there are spikes. That’s where the small flowers grow. HABITAT & DISTRIBUTION BLavender is indigenous to the Mediterranean region (Spain, France and Italy) and Northeast Africa. BIt grows well in a wide range of climate regions, including in Australia, North and South America and all over Europe. BThe plant is well suited to South Africa’s warm, sunny climate. It’s commercially cultivated in many parts…

SHE was one of those lucky people who seemed to have it all. She attended an elite private school, lived in a mansion, and spent her holidays jetting around the world, staying in five-star resorts – all thanks to her dad’s immense fortune. But for Clare Brown things have gone downhill fast in the past few months. These days the 26-year-old Australian lives in a squalid two-bedroom home in a seedy part of Sydney, and she and her wife, Lauren Barr (37), and their one-year-old daughter, Riley, rely on welfare handouts to put food on the table. It wasn’t the life her father, Christopher Hylton Brown (75), wanted for her. In fact, when he died at the beginning of the year, the super-rich stockbroker left his entire fortune of A$12…

HE’S certainly no novice when it comes to dominating the headlines. At first, it was thanks to his fancy footwork on the soccer pitch – but in recent years it’s been one personal scandal after the other. However, the latest allegations are the most serious yet. This time Ryan Giggs is in the dock at the Manchester Crown Court where he’s facing charges that he abused his ex-girlfriend. Kate Greville (36), who was with the former Manchester United player for three years between 2017 and 2020, has made shocking allegations about their “toxic” relationship. Ryan faces charges of assaulting Kate and her sister, Emma Greville, in an altercation at their home in November 2020, when Kate was moving out. Other charges include controlling and coercive behaviour and if convicted, he…

SHE’S not one to miss out on an opportunity to get her glam on and today is no different. Her makeup artist is putting the final touches to her face when YOU arrives at her home in Milnerton, Cape Town. “I’ve got to look my best, darling,” Thato Montse says with a smile. “Can I get you a glass of wine while I finish up?” She points to a bottle on her dining room table from her own brand, Thato Wines. Fans of the hit Mzansi Magic show The Real Housewives of Cape Town would know it’s her absolute passion. The show follows the first ladies of Cape Town’s social scene: Kutazwa “Rooksy” Gqirana, Loveline Abinokhauno, Beverley Steyn, Lulwando “Lue” Tukwayo, Rushda Moosajee and Camilla McDowell. Thato is a marketing…

SERENA BOWS OUT Younger Williams sister announces retirement IT’S hard to imagine a tennis tournament without her. Serena Williams, one of the greatest players the sport has ever seen, is bowing out of the game. Serena (40) has made no secret of the fact she’s struggling with the challenges of motherhood as much as any woman – the exhaustion, the feelings of inadequacy and the pressure to do it all. Now she’s “evolving away from tennis” to focus on her family, she says. In a candid essay penned for Vogue magazine, the tennis star says she never wanted to choose between tennis and a family, but she’s hoping for a second child. “I don’t think it’s fair. If I were a guy . . . I would be out…

EMBELLISHED & ADORNED Treat yourself to something special with an embellished bra. From diamanté to lace, make a statement in these sultry styles. TIP Embellished underwear is great for a peekaboo-bra moment under shirts, blouses and cutout tops. SEAMLESS BRAS These bra tops provide extra comfort and are discreet under clothing. They’re perfect for T-shirts and tight-fitting dresses because they don’t create strap imprints. TIP Match the colour of your top to your bra to keep your look cohesive. CROP-TOP BRAS With their laidback, secure fit, crop-top bras are an easy-wear option for a relaxed yet active lifestyle and can be worn as outerwear. Ribbed or seamless options are great to incorporate into your everyday wardrobe. TIP This type of bra is great for light workouts and chic athleisure looks.…