Innholdsfortegnelse for 30 Dec 2021 i You South Africa

BRAIN cancer is a huge thing. It’s not something I’d come across often – until the past two years. Now, I know four people who were diagnosed with tumours and a few months ago we wrote about a young woman who at 26 is trying to survive it. Celebrity Nick Cannon recently lost his five-month-old son to it – unimaginable in a life so new. I’ve been thinking about it a lot as I look back on this year. Covid has taken so many, but there was also cancer and other diseases, and things known only to fate that affected so many of us. It’s basically a miracle that we continue to put one foot in front of the other. But that’s just it, I remind myself. We do continue…

My view is that Princess Charlene is suffering from both physical and emotional ailments (YOU, 9 December). Perhaps she wants to divorce Prince Albert but with her son being heir to the throne, she’d most probably lose custody. Immersing yourself in a foreign culture with a new language and a different form of Christianity is a lot harder than the laidback South African way of life with braais and bush. DORIS RAINBOW, EMAIL I was so amused at all the reactions regarding rings on tins (YOU Say, 25 November). But thank you so much for the one telling me just to turn it over. I can’t believe how dumb I was not to think of that myself! I laughed for the rest of the day. It worked like a charm.…

FEBRUARY A NEW ROYAL BABY – FOLLOWED BY CONCERN FOR PHILIP The queen was delighted by the arrival of her ninth great-grandchild on 9 February – Arthur Philip Hawke Brooksbank, the first baby for her granddaughter Princess Eugenie (31) and her husband, Jack Brooks-bank (35). The tot’s second name is a touching tribute to his great-grandfather – who, barely a week after Arthur’s birth, was admitted to London’s King Edward VII’s Hospital for treatment for an infection and a pre-existing heart condition. Prince Philip was later transferred to St Bartholomew’s Hospital where he underwent surgery. After four weeks in hospital, a gaunt and frail-looking Duke of Edinburgh was pictured returning home to Windsor Castle. He wanted to die “in his own bed” and “on his own terms”, according to sources.…

‘I GOT BULLIED A LOT AND IT WAS REALLY HARD BECAUSE NO ONE UNDERSTOOD MY CONDITION’ SHE’S carving a meaningful life for herself as an activist for the disabled and a talented showjumper. And her courage and determination have caught the attention of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. But every day is a challenge for 20-year-old Evie Toombes, who has spina bifida. She spends up to 20 hours a day connected to feeding tubes to have intravenous “meals” to circumvent her weak and ineffective internal organs. Incontinence and constipation are part of her existence and as she grows older she will become increasingly wheelchair-bound. And this wouldn’t be her reality, Evie says, if her mother had received proper medical advice before becoming pregnant. With the correct advice, she wouldn’t have…

BRONZED BABE This colour palette has a richness that will turn you into a sophisticated style goddess. Mix different textures and embellishments in the same colour family and make a statement in deep tones. TEXTURE AND SHINE Pairing textured pieces with sparkle will make you shine just as bright as the fireworks on New Year’s Eve. Match a metallic pleated skirt with a sequined top in olive tones for a glam yet earthy look that’s chic and playful for a night of dancing. SILVER SIREN Bring some icy glamour to the party scene in this chic, easy-to-wear satin slip midi dress accessorised with silver and white pieces. The sparkly Alice band is an addition that will make you look like the belle of the ball. THE LBD You can do…

INTEREST rates move in cycles and when rates have been low for a long time, as we’ve experienced recently, they’ll start rising again. In fact, the recent interest-rate hike probably indicates we’re once again in the upward phase. The 0,25% rate increase will immediately start showing in your home-loan repayments. If you’re considering moving your mortgage to another bond company that’s offering you a lower rate than you’re currently paying, it would be best to read this first. While it’s tempting to opt for a lower interest rate, there are a number of things you should consider before making this decision. 1 CHECK THE LOAN PERIOD AND THE CONDITIONS OF YOUR BOND There could be a penalty clause. Banks are entitled to a 90-day notice period from a client who…

THE WATER MAN Fantasy adventure. Bookworm Gunner Boone (This Is Us’ Lonnie Chavis) and his parents move to a small town. His mom (Rosario Dawson), has leukaemia while his dad (David Oyelowo), is a soldier who’s often away for long periods. While out exploring, Gunner hears the local legend of the Water Man, a supernatural figure who lives in the woods. When a girl named Jo (Amiah Miller) claims she knows where the Water Man lives, Gunner persuades her to travel with him into the forest to try to find the immortal in the hope he can save Gunner’s mom. The film tackles difficult subjects that even adults sometimes find hard to discuss, but the two young leads give great performances, while Oyelowo – also making his directorial debut –…

THE DARK FLOOD BY DEON MEYER Hodder & Stoughton Someone shot warrant-officer Milo April at the Cape Town Waterfront. In cold blood. In broad daylight. And maybe a senior officer of the South African Police Service ordered the execution. And maybe it’s connected to the mysterious letters warrant-officers Benny Griessel and Vaughn Cupido have been receiving. With hints of state capture shenanigans. But to their great frustration, they have to waste their precious time searching for a missing student, probably just another kid on a crazy weekend bender. And mega-rich Jasper Boonstra, the notorious corporate swindler, asks Sandra Steenberg to sell Donkerdrif, the very expensive wine estate, on the quiet. Sandra, mother of two, wife to author Josef, needs the money badly. She is drowning in debt, stuck in a…

EATING OUT Customer: Waiter, waiter! There’s a slug in my salad. Waiter: Oh, I’m sorry, sir. I didn’t know you were a vegetarian. LOST CAUSE Dan’s boss calls him into his office. “We both know you’re not the brightest spark here, Dan,” he says, “but over the past five years you’ve never been sick or late and I think you deserve a reward. So, how does a brand-new car sound?” “Vrooom! Vrooom!” Dan replies. MISTAKEN IDENTITY As they get older, a rabbit and a snake start having memory troubles. One day they can’t remember what kind of animals they are. “I’ll describe you and then we’ll see if you can guess what you are,” the snake says. “You’re white, fluffy and you have big ears and feet.” “Oh good, I’m…

1 Which billionaire blasted into space in his own rocket, in a flight that lasted roughly 10 minutes? A Elon Musk B Jeff Bezos C Richard Branson 2 Actor Alec Baldwin was devastated when he accidentally shot and killed a cinematographer on the set of the movie Rust. What was her name? A Halyna Hutchins B Hannah Gutierrez-Reed C Mamie Mitchell 3 A new minister took over the health portfolio when Dr Zweli Mkhize resigned because of his family’s involvement in the Digital Vibes scandal. Who is he? A Enoch Godongwana B Joe Phaahla C Ronald Lamola 4 Anthony “AJ” Elfalak (3) sparked a huge manhunt in Australia when he went missing in the wilderness. After how many days was he found safe and sound? A Three days B Seven…

HE’S made a name for himself playing everything from a killing machine in John Wick and a romantic leading man in The Lake House to a goofball in Bill and Ted’s Bogus Journey and a sci-fi action hero in The Matrix series. But Keanu Reeves is much, much more than hot Hollywood property. He ’s the internet’s boyfriend, the kindest guy in showbiz and the pay-it-forward fellow who even spawned a Twitter fan account called Keanu Doing Things because of his random acts of kindness. A perfect gentleman, a softie, a down-to-earth dude with goodness fflowing through his veins – that’s him. He’s pretty cute too and we get to feast our eyes afresh when the 57-year-old hunk returns to the big screen on 23 December, reprising his role as…

I made a bad decision at the age of 17 when I fell pregnant and got married. I suffered gender-based violence (GBV) for seven years after which I ran away with my two sons and got divorced. I then married husband No 2, which resulted in more violence and ultimately divorce after two years. After 16 years of being single I thought I’d try again looking for a happy marriage with husband No 3, which also resulted in more violence, another runaway and divorce. Husband No 4 went well at first but due to further GBV resulted in another divorce. I’m 78 years old. All four of my husbands have passed away. May their souls rest in peace. I’m a pensioner and I haven’t ruled out the possibility of a…

Spina bifida – a fault in the development of the spinal cord that leaves a gap in the spine – occurs in 1 in 1 000 births worldwide. The type Evie Toombes has, lipomyelomeningocele, is the most serious and can make the nervous system susceptible to fatal infections. Folic acid, which helps the body produce healthy red blood cells, is vital to the healthy development of a foetus and a deficiency can cause conditions such as spina bifida. Pregnant women are advised to take a daily dose of the vitamin – especially in the first trimester – and are also advised to take it when they are preparing to conceive. In the UK, experts are campaigning to get folic acid included in flour, which they believe would cut cases by…

MUSHROOM SLIDERS These delicious meat-free mini-burgers are finger-licking good. Prepare the rolls, mushroom patties and sauce beforehand and assemble just before serving. MAKES ABOUT 12 SLIDERS PREPARATION: 30 MIN CHILLING: 1 HOUR RISING TIME: 30 MIN COOKING: 25-30 MIN ROLLS 500g store-bought bread dough flour for rolling 1 egg, beaten 15ml (1T) black sesame seeds (optional) MUSHROOM PATTIES 30ml (2T) milk 4 slices brown bread, cubed 5ml (1t) coriander seeds 15ml (1T) olive oil 2 onions, chopped 500g mixed mushrooms 2 garlic cloves, chopped salt and freshly ground pepper grated zest of 1 lemon handful fresh parsley 1 egg, beaten 60ml (¼c) flour oil for frying HERB SAUCE 250ml (1c) plain yoghurt 60ml (¼c) mayonnaise 125ml (½c) fresh coriander 60ml (¼c) fresh parsley 2 garlic cloves juice of 1 lemon…

■ DROP A NOTE Write “choose happiness” on a post-it note and stick it in a place you’ll see each day. ■ BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE Stop focusing on what you don’t have. “Being grateful and appreciating of all the good in your life will significantly increase your chances of experiencing happiness,” says Dr Timothy Sharp. ■ HELP SOMEONE Try committing a random act of kindness and you’ll experience a “helper’s high”, which is the feeling of increased euphoria people get after being kind to someone. ■ DANCE! Put on your favourite music and move your body! ■ TIDY UP Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, found spending 10 minutes tidying up every night before bed significantly improved her state of mind. ■ WEED OUT UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS…

THURSDAY ■ JUMBO ★★ 2019, 80 min, A, e.tv, 05:30. Animated comedy. An elephant trains for a spelling bee contest. ■ THE BORROWERS ★★★ 1997, 89 min PG, e.tv, 06:55. Fantasy comedy. A tiny family living under the floorboards of an old house must fight to save their home from developers. John Goodman, Jim Broadbent. ■ LION OF JUDAH ★★ 2011, 87 min, PG, SABC1, 13:30. Animated adventure. The friends of a lamb who thinks he’s a lion try to rescue him before he’s sacrificed in Jerusalem for Passover. ■ JERICO ★★★★ 2016, 98 min, PG, SABC1, 15:30. Adventure. On the day the US Civil Rights Act, which outlaws discrimination based on race, is signed in 1964, two black men set out looking for work. But when their car breaks…

TED BUNDY: AMERICAN BOOGEYMAN True-crime thriller. Following in Zac Efron’s footsteps in Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile (2019), another former teen heartthrob, Chad Michael Murray, tries to gain dramatic credibility by playing American serial killer Ted Bundy. The movie dramatises one of the US’ biggest manhunts as it follows Bundy moving from state to state murdering numerous young women. But FBI agents Kathleen McChesney (Holland Roden) and Robert Ressler (Jake Hays), are hot on his trail. Bundy’s final hunting ground is a female university residence where the students flirt with him and don’t recognise him as the notorious killer. Will the FBI make a breakthrough, or will more women lose their lives? If you’re a fan of Murray in his hunky Cinderella Story and One Tree Hill guise, you…

CAPRICORN 23 NOV – 29 DEC THE PAST IS COMING BACK TO HAUNT YOU Expect a week of deep thinking and digging to get to the bottom of an issue that’s troubling you. It very likely relates to something from the past which has either come back to haunt you or wasn’t dealt with effectively way back when. First prize would be if you can take this matter to a therapist who’ll be able to help you make sense of things. You need not be worried about spending money on yourself now – it’s your time. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 2, 7, 11, 29, 9, 5 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB  Pay attention to old memories, especially painful ones, that might resurface this week. This is an excellent time in…

SHE’S always had a knack for art. From the moment she could hold a crayon in her tiny hand, she would draw on the paper her mother always had on hand for her. As she grew older she realised art was the passion she wanted to pursue – and so she did, with a set of ballpoint pens in her talented fingers. Jacqueline Suowari’s breathtaking body of work has been described as exciting, sublime and vibrant by critics and has made her one of her native Nigeria’s most successful artists. She’s had solo exhibitions in New York and Miami and recently launched her first touring exhibition, Now I Wear Myself, in Nigeria with the aim of destigmatising topics such as mental health which is taboo in the West African country.…

‘THIS IS A LIFESTYLE CHANGE – NOT A DIET’ BEFORE TUMISHO MASHA (46) has won the battle of the boep. In May the actor took up Hollywood star Will Smith’s dad bod challenge to get back into shape. After the 12-week challenge he continued taking care of himself – and the results show! What he did: He lost 26kg over five months by following an eating DURING plan aimed at lowering his cholesterol level and combating insulin-resistance. Why he did it: Doctors warned Tumisho he was on the verge of developing type 2 diabetes because of obesity and his increased blood sugar levels. What he ate: His meal plan varied. There were days he could only eat AFTER fruit or veggies. On other days he had four boiled eggs and…

With the year about to come to an end, it’s time we re-evaluated our lives and did spring-cleaning by deleting useless contacts from our cellphones and life in general. What’s the use of keeping someone in your cellphone or life you never talk to? As you remove toxic people from your life, you free up space and emotional energy for positive and healthy relationships. Life becomes easier when you delete negative people from it. The people you spend time with influence your attitude, thoughts and success more than you think. Sometimes you need to erase the text messages, delete the numbers and move on. Delete, unfollow, unfriend, block, erase and disconnect from anyone and anything that robs you of your peace, love and happiness. Not just on social media, but…

ANNUS horribilis – it’s a phrase she famously used 29 years ago to describe a shocking year when fire swept through her beloved Windsor Castle and the marriages of three of her four children imploded. But 2021 may well rival the miseries of 1992. Death, divorce, health problems, an ongoing sex scandal, family fallouts, allegations of racism – all this and more affected Queen Elizabeth. A documentary called 2021: The Queen’s Horrible Year even aired in the UK in November, detailing the calamities that have befallen the most famous family in the world. However, Charles Anson, her former press secretary, believes the difficulties of the past 12 months haven’t weakened the monarchy – if anything, they’ve made it stronger. “The strength of our monarchy is that it’s able to adapt,”…

There have been few recorded cases of people living with several aneurysms without a cause being identified, says Dr Arthur Winter, a neuro-interventional radiologist at Netcare Unitas Hospital in Pretoria and one of Hayden Foster’s doctors. “Hopefully, the underlying causes will become evident following more research” he says. The lack of research makes it tough to make a prognosis, he adds. The biggest danger of an aneurysm is that it will burst. “All aneurysms start small. Some stabilise and stay small, posing virtually no risk of bursting, while others grow and the risk also increases exponentially” he says. Due to pressure on the brain, nerves and other structures, a larger aneurysm can also cause other symptoms such as intense pain. The location of the aneurysm determines how dangerous it is.…

‘I WANT THEM TO ACHIEVE EVERY SINGLE THING THEY PUT THEIR MINDS TO’ LIFE is busy enough with just one baby – but when there are three bundles to care for, it’s go-go-go all the time. Berenice rises at 4am to feed the babies, goes through about 40 nappy changes in a day and somehow finds two and a half hours in her hectic schedule to pump breast milk. Nights are an up-and-down affair with one of the girls often needing a feed, a change or a cuddle. But Berenice Jacobs says it’s all worth it. The triplets are a gift from God, even if she’s permanently exhausted. Berenice (36) and her husband, Melvyn Loots (35), are now preparing to celebrate their first Christmas with three-month-old Chloe, Claire and Cleo…

SHINE IN SILVER AND BLACK Keep it casual-chic in a sequined tank top and Bermuda shorts paired with flat sandals for an understated but glam look for New Year’s Eve. Add a light cardigan to fight the night chill or for a little more coverage. NEUTRAL SHIMMER Let your inner boho shine with subtle shimmer details and light neutrals. This olive top with touches of gold patterning is complemented with white flare jeans, adding pizzazz to a relaxed party look. SAY IT WITH ACCESSORIES Add glam extras to a softer, colour palette and you’ll be ready to celebrate. Match this dress with sparkly statement accessories and shoes with natural elements for a relaxed and feminine party moment. MUTED MAGIC Go for a softer look in this tank top and subtle…

WHY WON’T HE JUST LET US GET A DONOR? Q After trying for a baby for a year without success, my partner and I went for check-ups and got the news that things look fine with me and the problem lies with him. We are not well-off and can’t afford long and expensive fertility treatments, so I would like to go straight to using a sperm donor. However, he says he won’t consider a donor until we’ve tried other fertility procedures. But we don’t have the time or money for those. How do I help him to see that a donor is the easiest way for me to get pregnant and for us to have a baby? That is essentially what we both want! I really don’t see the point…

What would Benny be getting up to over the Christmas holidays? Benny isn’t big on holidays. He thinks they’re a waste of time and watching other people drink is a little terrifying. But his fiancée, Alexa, has persuaded him to take a break. She’s booked a cottage in Paternoster over Christmas and New Year, and she has plans for romantic beach walks at sunset. Benny is not amused. But he’ll go. And Deon? Marianne [Vorster-Meyer, his wife] and I had planned to spend three weeks in Bordeaux on a working holiday (write in the morning, ride our bikes in the afternoons and enjoy the food and wine in the evenings), but while I’m writing this a new Covid variant is wreaking havoc on international travel and it looks like we’ll…

STILL OVER IT By Summer Walker With the release of her second album, Summer has perhaps released the R&B album of the year. Continuing with the breakup theme of her debut album, Over It, the 25-year-old pulls no punches as she narrates the events of her love-life over the past two years. A personal favourite is 4th Baby Mama where she addresses the women in her ex-lover’s life. She starts the song with, “I wanna start with yo mama, she should’ve whooped yo a**.” It’s this kind of brutal honesty that makes her so relatable and leaves her fans feeling like she’s speaking up on their behalf. The tracks range from romantic to fun and flirty and every single one is worth listening to.…

MATH FUNDI BREAKS SUM RECORD! A 10-year-old British boy, Nadub Gill, broke the Guinness World Record for most multiplication and division questions correctly answered in a minute. During a competition on the maths site Times Tables Rock Stars, he answered 196 questions in one minute – that’s more than three correct answers per second! About 700 kids entered the competition. 12 YOUNGEST MEDALLIST Twelve-year-old Kokona Hiraki of Japan won a silver medal at the 2020 Olympic Games in Tokyo, making her the youngest medallist at the games in 85 years! Kokona participated in the skateboarding event. It was the first time the Olympics included skateboarding as an event. Sakura Yosozumi (19), also from Japan, took home the gold medal. Kokona broke the record of Inge Sorenson of Denmark who, at…

SHE went from being an adored child star to a troubled twentysomething, swopping the twinkling lights of Tinseltown for the inside of a jail cell and a long, hard battle with alcohol and drugs. Lindsay Lohan was arrested several times for reckless driving and shoplifting and her widely publicised addiction problem appeared to have confined her once-promising career to a brief chapter in history. But it seems Lindsay (35) is on the comeback trail and has slowly started picking up the pieces – both in her personal and professional life. She recently announced on social media that she and her boyfriend of three years, Bader Shammas, were engaged. In the images, a loved-up Lindsay can be seen looking adoringly at Bader, a financier from Kuwait City, while showing off a…

Doesn’t DJ ZINHLE make the most adorable babies? Her youngest, ASANTE, recently turned three months old. To mark the milestone Zinhle and her boyfriend, Murdah Bongz, posted pics of their precious little girl on social media – and we must say, she looks a lot like her sister, KAIRO. Six-year-old Kairo, Zinhle’s daughter from her relationship with rapper AKA, is loving her new job as big sister. She’s posted several videos tickling and cuddling “Santy” as they call the newborn. The little girl is so cute even AKA has fallen in love with her. Zinhle says the rapper wants to be part of her life because he feels like she’s his baby too. Talk about a blended family!…

‘AS A YOUNG GIRL I SAVED MONEY TO BUY MYSELF THE BEST GIFT EVER – A PAIR OF ROLLER-SKATES’ – TV and radio personality TRACEY LANGE ‘MY BEST GIFT WAS A SURPRISE FIRST-CLASS TRIP TO LONDON FOR A LONG WEEKEND’ – Reality star CHRISTALL KAY ‘MY HUSBAND IS THE BEST GIFT-GIVER. FOR MY BIRTHDAY LAST YEAR, WHICH IS ON CHRISTMAS EVE, HE BOUGHT ME A PAIR OF SHOES AND A SPECIAL HANDBAG’ – Radio presenter LIESL LAURIE-MTHOMBENI…

Chaka Khan “When I was a kid we didn’t have a lot of money and my mother and father made a doll-house out of cardboard for me and my sister,” says the 68-year-old singer. “They painted it and made us a stove and a kitchen, the whole nine. All they had to buy was two dolls. That was my favourite Christmas.” David Beckham “One of my best ever was 2013 when our film came out (Manchester United doccie, The Class of 92),” the former soccer star (46) recalls. “That brought back really special memories of my days in Man United and it was the same year I put the Stone Roses documentary Made of Stone on my Santa list – and I got it.” Dolly Parton “Daddy always cut a…