Innholdsfortegnelse for 23 Dec 2021 i You South Africa

SNEAK PEEKS My husband was a real softie with a heart of gold. He loved spoiling me on special occasions with several small gifts, as well as a main one, but long before the event he’d start asking me if I didn’t want to open one of the smaller ones. The more I said I’d wait, the more he badgered me until I’d give in. I drew the line, however, at opening the big one before the day. I know someone close to me who simply can’t wait to open her presents. As soon as she “accidentally” comes across a gift her spouse thought was well-hidden, she’ll surreptitiously open it, examine her gift, carefully rewrap it, and return it to its hiding place. My lips are sealed and I refuse…

Here’s a picture of my 92-year-old grandmother Cornelia thoroughly enjoying her YOU Jumbo crossword puzzles. She really enjoys doing them. CLAUDIA, EMAIL The extravagance of Paris Hilton’s wedding was obscene (YOU, 2 December). All that excess was probably equivalent to some countries’ GDPs. I wonder if she has any idea that there are normal people who live in this world, struggling to get on with their lives in this pandemic that has ruined millions of people. SADDENED, SMS While I’m sure our new mayor is going to do a great job (YOU, 9 December ), she isn’t the first female mayor of Johannesburg. The first female mayor was Jessie McPherson (1945–1946). The only reason I know this obscure piece of history is because she was an aunt of my husband.…

I’M TERRIFIED OF BEING VACCINATED Q I was unemployed for two and a half years from March 2018 and found work with a company last year, much to my relief. The company will be implementing a mandatory vaccine policy, with management saying they expect all staff to be fully vaccinated by the end of January 2022. I’m feeling absolutely panicked about this. I was hoping I could avoid having to take the jab but now it seems I’m not going to have a choice. I honestly just don’t know who to trust on this matter. The whole vaccine subject fills me with fear and anxiety every day because I hear horror stories about serious vaccine injuries and deaths that are apparently being kept from us. I’m more frightened of taking…

FOR THE KIDS ■ Question: What is a spaceman’s favourite chocolate? Answer: A Mars bar! ■ Question: What do you get when you cross a cow and a trampoline? Answer: A milkshake! ■ Question: Why did the sun go to school? Answer: To get brighter! ■ Question: What do you get when you cross a centipede and a parrot? Answer: A walkie-talkie! QUICK WORK Two young women, who are clearly in a celebratory mood, are in a coffee shop when the barista overhears their conversation. As she gets closer she hears one say to the other, “Here’s to 17 days!” Smiling, the barista says, “Congratulations! What’s so special about 17 days?” One of the women replies, “Well, we’ve been spending our evenings working on a jigsaw puzzle! And it says…

NEW GIRL ON THE BLOCK The actress announced her arrival in the Marvel Cinematic Universe with her scene-stealing role as quirky MJ in Spider-Man: Homecoming (2017), her first feature film. In Spider-Man: No Way Home we’ll see MJ and Peter Parker (Tom Holland) exploring their budding romance and dealing with the repercussions of Peter’s identity as Spider-Man being made public in Spider-Man: Far from Home (2019). “Everybody around him who loves him gets put into danger,” Zendaya says. “As soon as they [Peter and MJ] get to be in love, everything else starts to crumble.” TRIPLE THREAT The American star was introduced to audiences when she was 14 in the Disney Channel series Shake It Up. She went on to guest star in many TV shows, released her debut album,…

AREN picked up the K photo on her dressing table. “If only we could have a beach holiday like we used to have,” she said, staring at the picture. It showed her sitting on a fishing boat with her mom and dad. They were all wearing old clothes and happy smiles. Karen’s long blonde hair was in plaits, and she was holding a fish she’d just caught. The photo was taken several years earlier. “I’m sure you and I will find something just as interesting in these brochures,” her mother said, sitting beside her on the bed. She spoke cheerfully but Karen thought she saw a wistful expression in her eyes as she looked at the photo. Her parents had been so happy then. If only they hadn’t become so…

The Oscar-winning movie was first screened in cinemas 24 years ago. The film is about a fictional romance that takes place around the real tragedy when the passenger liner Titanic struck an iceberg on her maiden voyage in 1912. LEONARDO DICAPRIO and KATE WINSLET play the star-crossed lovers in the film. It was hugely popular around the globe and held the box-office record until a decade after its release. As part of his research, director James Cameron undertook several diving expeditions to the wreck of the Titanic and some of this footage is used in the movie. He also had a replica of the ship built for the film, which was nearly as big as the original ship. It cost $200 million (then about R920m) to make Titanic – at…

WHEN it comes to the crazy and the seemingly impossible, you need look no further than the Guinness World Record breakers. Year after year people – and animals – come out of the woodwork to fascinate and inspire. And in a world of worry and woe, there’s nothing like a bit of escapism to put the wow back into life. Here are some of the stars who feature in the latest blockbuster book of record setters. YOU’VE GOT TO HAND IT TO HIM Zion Clark from Ohio in the US was born with Caudal regression syndrome, an abnormality of the lower spine that resulted in him having no legs. But that hasn’t stopped him from achieving success. The 24-year-old is the recordholder for the 20m walk on hands, set in…

278 000 American schoolchildren have experienced gun violence at school since the Columbine massacre in 1999. 298 schools have been the scene of shootings in the US since 1999. 157 children, teachers and others have been killed in US school shootings since 1999. 55 school shootings in September 2021 – the start of the US school year. This figure is more than double the 24 in September 2020 and more than triple the 14 in September 2019. One person died and four were wounded in these shootings. 8 children die daily as a result of gun violence in America. Guns are the leading cause of death among American children and teens.…

It’s Christmas time, that time of year where you allow your conscience to prick you, prompting you to show your humanity. Old-age homes and frail-care centres are full of abandoned and lonely people. Some have no kith or kin, and some have been left behind by their families, seeking greener pastures elsewhere on the planet. Covid hasn’t helped either, as international travel has been brought to a grinding halt. So, what do you intend doing about it? Will you go to your local old-age home with a gift for someone you don’t know, or will you give up some of your time to sit with one lonely soul and brighten up their day? This is the time when the kindness in your soul will shine, making some lonely person happier.…

Recently when I visited my grandma in a remote village in Limpopo, I started feeling feverish after sunset. There were no pharmacies nearby where I could buy medication. My grandma explained that she had garlic and ginger but was short of the lemons she needed to make a healing concoction for me. We had an orange tree in our yard. The neighbours had lemon trees. So we gave them oranges and they gave us lemons. I sweated profusely after drinking my grandma’s concoction, but woke up completely healed the following morning. During the day another elderly woman from the same neighborhood came to visit my grandma. She asked for oranges when she was about to leave and later on my cousin went to collect naartjies from the tree growing in…

He’s spoken out on everything from the billionaire space race to racism in British football and has also given insights into his personal world and his feelings. William recently opened up about his mental health, revealing how badly affected he’d been by an incident during his time as an air ambulance pilot. Speaking on an episode of the Apple Fitness+ series Time to Walk, he recalled how he and his team had to rescue a five-year-old boy, Bobby Hughes, who’d been hit by a car. “I went home that night pretty upset but not noticeably,” he recalls. “But inside I felt something had changed. I felt a real tension inside of me.” But it really hit him weeks later. “It was like someone had put a key in a lock…

BOND GIRL In October fans couldn’t get enough of the sparkling gold caped dress from Jenny Packham worn by Kate to the London premiere of the James Bond movie No Time to Die. TENNIS BEAUTY She coordinated with Wimbledon’s grass courts when she attended the women’s singles final, presenting the trophy in an Emilia Wickstead green pleated dress and Jimmy Choo heels. GRECIAN GODDESS She was praised for the Alexander Mc-Queen gown she wore at the Earthshot Prize Awards in October. It was a re-wear (she first wore it in 2011), in keeping with the night’s recycled theme. GREEN VISION The duchess dazzled in this recycled glittery green gown by Jenny Packham at the annual Royal Variety Performance in November. She first wore it during her and William’s royal tour…

‘I KNOW YOU MIGHT BE THINKING EVERYTHING IS A LIE. YOU MIGHT BE QUESTIONING EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE AROUND YOU’ SHE was just 17 when she discovered her mom wasn’t the woman who’d given birth to her, and her world was turned upside down and inside out. Miché Solomon turned out to be Zephany Nurse, the baby who was stolen from her mom at Groote Schuur Hospital in Cape Town in 1997 and whose true identity was revealed after someone remarked how much another girl at her school looked like her. That girl turned out to be her sister and DNA tests revealed Miché was the long-lost child of Celeste and Morné Nurse. Here Miché (24) writes a moving open letter to the girl who recently discovered she was kidnapped at…

ASMOKING hot idea, you could call it. Sizzling even. And quintessentially South African – the kind of thing you talk about when you have friends over for a braai. In this case the braai itself is the talking point, thanks to Matome Maphala’s ingenuity. Matome, from Seshego in Limpopo, makes braai stands from broken geysers. He got the idea of giving old geysers a facelift when he spotted an abandoned cylinder in his parents’ back yard. “I teased my brother Ngwako, who was studying welding at the time, about building a braai stand,” Matome tells YOU. “We built it in our backyard – now we work from a local workshop.” Matome recently advertised his work online and social media users couldn’t stop gushing about his talent. Since then he says…

Your beauty needs change over the decades, from the fresh-faced glow of your 20s to the sophistication, maturity and, well, challenges of your 50s and beyond. In this three-part series we take a look at your skin, makeup and hair needs over the decades so you can be your best beautiful self no matter your age. ZENDAYA(25) IN YOUR 20s FIRST WRINKLES In your early 20s your skin is in peak condition – endocrine function is active and stimulating the hormones that produce sebum, keeping skin moist and protected. Skin cell turnover is efficient, taking place every 14-25 days and there is flexible, healthy collagen and elastin to give you plump, bounce-back skin. Things start to change in your late 20s, when you may notice the first signs of ageing…

Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. A READER’S parrot recently bit off half their budgie’s beak and the vet’s bill was over R2 000. Some people would probably reckon they could just buy a new budgie but the little bird is a beloved part of the family. Another reader had to fork out over R10 000 after her dog broke a leg. These expenses would have been covered if they had pet insurance. Though this type of insurance is common these days, the options vary greatly. For example, accident plans are available from about R80 a month, while basic cover costs about R190 a month. Comprehensive plans can cost between R500 and R600 a…

An attorney gathers a group for the reading of a will. Relatives, from near and far, good friends and neighbours wonder if they’re included in the will. The lawyer sombrely opens the will and begins to read, “To my cousin Edia, I leave my farm. “To my brother Khaya, I leave my money market accounts. “To my neighbour and good friend Fanwell, I leave all my stocks. “And finally, to my beloved cousin Awela, who always sits around and never does anything but wants to be remembered in my will, I say, ‘Hi, Awela’.”…

FATHER CHRISTMAS IS BACK Comedy. What’s Christmas without family drama? For six months perfectionist Caroline Christmas-Hope (Nathalie Cox) has been planning the best holiday ever at the ancestral pile in Yorkshire she shares with her husband (Kris Marshall from Death in Paradise). Her three very different sisters – snobbish Joanna (Elizabeth Hurley), Beatles fanatic Paulina (Naomi Frederick) and free-spirited Vicky (Talulah Riley) – plus their mom (Kiss Me Kate’s Caroline Quentin) have all agreed to come, so tensions are already running high. Then Vicky announces she’s tracked down their dad, James (Frasier’s Kelsey Grammer), whom they haven’t seen in 27 years. To make matters worse, James has brought along his much younger girlfriend (April Bowlby from Doom Patrol), and it’s not long before his grumpy big brother (John Cleese) is…

THANK YOU By Diana Ross If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it: that’s the theme The Supremes legend has gone for on her new album – her first in 15 years. Written and recorded during quarantine last year, the 77-year-old diva wants to spread a message of hope and connectivity with her first original material since 1999’s Every Day is a New Day. “It’s an album of great appreciation for life, and for all of you. For me there was an urgency in making a meaningful album, working with what is happening now in our world,” she said. It’s a healthy mix of ’70s disco, ’80s electronica and ’90s House with the production savvy of 2020. If OTT happiness is your thing, you’ll love Miss Ross’ latest offering, yet it…

1 What is the William Shakespeare play about the prince of Denmark called? 2 In which European city is the world-famous Trevi Fountain? 3 What is a scientist who studies rocks and the Earth’s surface called? 4 Which country’s national flag is this? 5 How many horns did a Triceratops have? SOURCES: THEGUARDIAN.COM, BBC.COM, INSIDER.COM, COLLINSDICTIONARY.COM, NEWS24.COM, REUTERS.COM, PARKSAUSTRALIA.GOV.AU , HISTORY.COM, WIKIPEDIA. ORG, HISTORY.COM…

HE COMES from a place near the North Pole, has a big white beard and wears a red suit – but that’s about where the similarities with the real Santa end. There’s nothing wild and woolly about this guy’s beard and hair, his suit is made from the finest designer velvet and there’s no hint of a belly bulging about his belt. He also boasts chiselled features to rival a Greek god’s and a smouldering gaze to warm the coldest heart. Meet Fashion Santa, a guy who combines good deeds, sex appeal and cheeky humour in one smoking package. His secret identity is Paul Mason (57), a former international model who has embarked on a mission to take foxy Father Christmas to the world after landing a deal with a…

SHE wasn’t the obvious pick to play the people’s princess – she was too moody, too mopey, too aloof, too samey in all her roles, critics said. But the naysayers are eating their words now. Kristen Stewart is being tipped as a shoo-in for best actress Oscar for her portrayal of Princess Diana in the movie Spencer and has been hailed as the finest actress ever to bring the tragic royal to life on the screen. “Of all the people who have played Diana over the past 10 years, she’s the closest to her,” says Ken Wharfe, who served as theprincess’personal protection officer from 1989 to 1993. Spencerfollows three days in the life of Diana, delving into what it must have been like for her behind palace doors over the…

HE FIRST made a name for himself playing the portly Dan Conner on the hit sitcom Roseanne and filled the screen in dozens of roles since then – a larger-than-life star with a big laugh and a belly to match. But the actor who stepped out on the red carpet recently looked nothing like the John Goodman movie watchers have come to know. For many fans the slimmer John was a big surprise – he was half the size he used to be. Quite literally. The 69-year-old actor has shed an astonishing 90kg, halving his 181kg frame. The red-carpet occasion was the premiere of the animated show The Freak Brothers in which John voices the character Fat Freddie Frekowski. But there’s nothing fat about John anymore. Over the past four…

CHESLIN KOLBE ‘I’m a proud girl dad’ Since Springbok CHESLIN and his wife, Layla, welcomed their second daughter, MILA, in November last year, their eldest, KYLAH, has become a little clingy. “She went from saying she looks like me to saying she looks like her dad,” Layla tells us. “She tells me, ‘Mila loves you and I love Dad’. Everything is her father.” Their eldest daughter may dote on her dad, but Cheslin says she’s a lot like her mom. “She’s more girly-girl and loves tutus and tiaras, while Mila is more active, which probably comes from me,” he says. NICO PANAGIO ‘Time spent with them is precious’ He doesn’t mind getting his hands dirty. After all, Survivor SA host NICO is a lover of the outdoors and now his…

MANDY MOORE (37) A well-connected delivery man heard 13-year-old Mandy cutting jingles in a small recording studio in Orlando, Florida. “I kept telling the people at the studio that Mandy was a star. They weren’t paying me attention,” Victor Cade recalls proudly. Victor sent tapes and pictures of Mandy to his friend Dave McPherson, a record executive who’d signed the Backstreet Boys. Dave eventually flew to Orlando to meet Mandy and later signed her. The singer has gone on to become a successful actress and was nominated for an Emmy for her role in the drama series This Is Us. DANNY TREJO (77) To say that Danny never expected to become a movie star is an understatement. When the actor was young he had a severe drug problem that landed…

HOW extraordinary is the story about the young woman who was found 20 years after being abducted? It’s one of those tales that reminds us all that you just never know how things will turn out, no matter how dire the circumstances. Imagine her brother wasn’t on Facebook that day to see the People You May Know notification. Imagine her biological mother had just ignored what must’ve been a tenuous flicker of hope. Imagine they couldn’t track her down in the area where she lived. It’s a remarkable outcome for the biological mom who yearned for her firstborn for two decades. Read her moving story on page 10. You and I might not have any idea what it feels like to be in this situation but someone who does is…

SWEET CARROT, SPINACH AND CURRANT SALAD SERVES 10 PREPARATION & COOKING: 25 MINUTES HONEY DRESSING 40g butter 60ml (¼c) honey 10ml (2t) sherry vinegar 5ml (1t) orange flower water (optional) 15ml (1T) lemon juice 250ml (1c) dried currants Sea salt and freshly ground black pepper CARROT SALAD 3 bunches baby (Dutch) carrots, peeled, trimmed 100g baby spinach leaves 500ml (2c) loosely packed fresh flat-leaf parsley leaves 180ml (¾c) shelled pistachios 1 Honey dressing Place the butter in a small saucepan over medium heat until it turns brown. Add the honey, vinegar, orange flower water (if using), and lemon juice. Bring to the boil, then reduce the heat and simmer, uncovered, for 1 minute. Remove from the heat. Add the currants. Season with the sea salt and freshly ground black pepper.…

1 Glass tree (17x9cm) R199 each, @home 2 Christmas tree candle (14x7,5cm) R59 each, @home 3 Planter R149,99, Sheet Street 4 Wine glasses R15 each, Osman’s 5 Water glasses R8 each, Osman’s 6 Rose gold cutlery set R349,99 for 16 pieces, Mr Price Home 7 Napkin R19,99, Mr Price Home 8 Everyday dinner set R399,99 for 16 pieces, Mr Price Home SET THE SCENE Consider investing in a linen tablecloth and napkins as they bring a sense of occasion. For a quick and easy place setting turn each napkin into a bow: simply fold the napkin lengthways and tie in the middle with ribbon of your choice. We varied the colour bows to enhance the lovely pastel colour theme. Candles not only keep pesky flies at bay while entertaining outdoors,…

In contrast to the “destiny belief” of soulmates, there are those who subscribe to the “growth belief” – that couples need to get to know each other and grow together over time. These terms were coined by American relationship scientist Raymond Knee to describe a person’s approach to romantic relationships. This growth mindset assumes love needs to be nurtured to stand the test of time, that there will be trials and tribulations couples will have to work on as a team and that they’ll grow together through their shared experiences. The growth approach can make for a strong foundation and may leave more room for flexibility and change, but it’s also not without risks. If done in an unhealthy way, Mbatha says, one can get into or stay in an…

CAPRICORN 23 NOV – 29 DEC IT’S TIME TO RETHINK YOUR FINANCES You can’t afford to take love for granted and for the time being, you need to put in the effort to make it work. If at times you feel triggers of possessiveness or jealousy, catch yourself and try not to say anything. If you feel more alone than usual, have faith as this is only temporary. There’s work to be done in terms of your finances. You might have to do some serious restructuring and rethink your monetary risks. A sibling can come to your aid. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 6, 12, 44, 11, 3 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Your co-rulers, Saturn and Uranus, make an unusual square to each other, so you’re bound to experience…

BRILLIANT / EXCELLENT / WORTHWHILE / SO-SO / IF YOU MUST A Allages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parentalguidance S Sex V Violence THURSDAY ■ MEGAMIND ★★★★ 2010, 95 min, PG, SABC1, 06:00. Animated sci-fi. After defeating his nemesis, Metro Man, super villain Megamind tries to find a new purpose. ■ A MAJESTIC CHRISTMAS ★★★ 2018, 94 min, PG, SABC1, 15:00. Romantic drama. An architect goes back to her hometown to reluctantly renovate a historic theatre against the townsfolk’s wishes and clashes with the new owner, who doesn’t have any Christmas spirit. Jerrika Hinton, Christian Vincent. ■ JINGLE BELLE ★★★ 2018, 86 min, PG, SABC2, 19:00. Romantic drama. A successful jingle writer is cajoled into returning to her hometown to write a song for…

HAPPIEST SEASON Romantic comedy. This lovely film ticks all the boxes for a Christmas movie. It’s the usual story of a dysfunctional family coming together for the holidays, with tensions boiling below the surface that you know will eventually lead to a massive confrontation. But what makes it worth watching is that it’s different in one important aspect that’s especially relevant today: what if you want to go to the Christmas family lunch with your partner but your parents don’t know you’re gay? Kristen Stewart and Mackenzie Davis (Terminator: Dark Fate) play happy couple Abby and Harper who must suddenly deal with the fact that Harper has never told her “always perfect” conservative parents that she’s a lesbian. Antics ensue while the two try to hide their relationship from her…

THRILLERS BILLY SUMMERS By STEPHEN KING Hodder & Stoughton Billy Summers is an ex-army sniper turned hit-man – but he’s an assassin with a conscience and only kills “bad men”. He wants to retire, but when a mobster, Nick Majaraian, offers him a cool $2 million to do one last job, he agrees. The target is a decidedly “bad man”. When Billy eventually pulls the trigger, things go wrong and he’s forced to go on the run. But he doesn’t go alone – he has a very unlikely sidekick. THE JUDGE’S LIST By JOHN GRISHAM Hodder & Stoughton It’s three years since Lacy Stoltz’s investigation exposed a corrupt judge who was taking bribes and as she approaches 40, she’s tired of her work for the Florida Board on Judicial Conduct…

YOUNG people stream into the venue, clad in smart dresses and suits. Fairy lights are strung from the ceiling and music is pumping from the speakers. The teens make their way to the girl at the centre of the venue. Her turquoise dress shimmers as she twirls around the dancefloor with her friends, her Rapunzel-like locks cascading down her back. It’s only when you get closer that you can see the signs of age on her body and face. Her skin is as thin as parchment, and she weighs just 12kg. Beandri Booysen has Hutchinson-Gilford progeria syndrome, a genetic mutation that accelerates the ageing process four to eight times. It’s rare – only 125 people in the world have been diagnosed with it – and most people with the condition…