Innholdsfortegnelse for 23 Sep 2021 i You South Africa

YOU know that experience of becoming aware of something and suddenly seeing it everywhere? Say, if you or someone close to you is pregnant, you suddenly see baby bumps everywhere. Or you want to buy a red car – suddenly there’s an astounding number of red vehicles on the road. I’ve been having this feeling lately – and the thing I’m suddenly seeing everywhere is joy. I’ve stumbled across article after article about the importance of joy without searching for it. And recently one of my social media memories surfaced one of my favourite poems, Don’t Hesitate by Mary Oliver. “If you suddenly and unexpectedly feel joy, don’t hesitate. Give in to it,” she writes. “There are plenty of lives and whole towns destroyed or about to be. We are…

‘IT WAS THE ONLY WAY TO ENSURE HE TRULY REALISED WHAT WAS HAPPENING’ HE’S a lanky guy, already taller than his mom, and wears shoes fit for a grown man. But his shy smile tells a different story. He’s still very much a boy – although he’s learnt hard lessons he’ll carry for the rest of his life. Justin* was just 13 when a grown woman started a sexual relationship with him. A baby was conceived during their months together although it has yet to be determined whether Justin (now 15) is the father. His lover told him he was, though – dad to a little baby when he’s still a kid himself. Justin was madly in love with Sarita* (24) and fought his mother tooth and nail when she…

PULLOVERS The sleeveless V-neck pullover has been popping up all over TikTok and Instagram. Solid-coloured or patterned, it offers a loose fit and style that makes it a true classic. It pairs perfectly with nearly anything – wear it over a white shirt with linen pants for cooler spring weather or rock it in popping colours and prints. PREPPY POLOS Sporty polo shirts are winners on and off the tennis court. They’re a perfect match with shorts or skirts. Round off the look with sneakers and you have a sporty chic combo that’s sure to turn heads. WHITE SHIRTS A plain white shirt is a timeless wardrobe staple and perfect for any occasion. Wear one under or over items to create a cool but chic look. SHORTS Show some leg…

If your diet is high in refined carbs you’ll feel a difference if you simply cut all added sugar and refined carbs (see below). If you want to get more technical about it and count your carb intake in grams see How Low Should You Go on the opposite page for a guide to what is considered low-carb. If you have a medical condition or are on chronic medication consult a doctor who’s informed about low-carb diets before you start. GOOD CARBS – BUT YOU STILL NEED TO KEEP INTAKE LOW ■ Unprocessed (or minimally processed) ■ Also called complex carbs ■ High in fibre ■ More slowly digested ■ Also contain nutrients and antioxidants Examples ■ Wholegrains such as oats and brown rice ■ Starchy (but not white) veggies…

HOW COULD I HAVE BEEN SO BLIND? Q My wife told me last night that she married me only for my money and has never loved me. To make matters worse, she said that when we have sex she always fakes it. I always thought we were in love and the shock of realising that I’m the only one who married for love is devastating. I think my wife eventually came out with the truth because she’s met someone who has more money than I do and is having an affair with him. I think she wants to divorce me so she can marry him. It makes me feel as if I am worth nothing and that my life has no meaning. I feel unloved and uncared for. I now…

LIBRA 23 SEPT – 22 OCT IGNORE THE URGE TO SPEND IMPULSIVELY If you’re feeling rebellious this week, find healthy outlets for the tension this might be causing you. Overspending or breaking the bank isn’t going to score you any brownie points, so rein yourself in if you feel the need for a big spend coming on. What you don’t want is for your partner or spouse to crack the whip and thereby set the tone of who carries the authority in your relationship. It’s all about responsibility right now. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 45, 34, 36, 4, 17, 27 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV Try not to make any rash or rushed decisions this week, especially as far as romance is concerned. Meeting somebody new can be the most…

She’s known for her hits Parties in the Park and Headspace and more recently she featured on rapper Cash of Hearts’ single Go Again Tonight. The 28-year-old has also worked with the likes of Hanco, Grimehouse and Connell Cruise. YOU caught up with the Johannesburg singer. How did you get into music? When I was doing my pharmacy degree, I decided I wanted to learn to play an instrument, the guitar, and I wrote songs at home. Eventually I was like, “I need to take this further.” So I contacted producers and asked if they’d have me in for a recording session. And eventually there was one who was quite interested – and it went from there. How did you get your first big break? I got a record-label signing…

UNBECOMING By JOANNE FEDLER Penguin It’s a common complaint from women who’ve reached or are heading for the big 5-0: they suddenly feel invisible and everything they’ve done in life seems irrelevant. Jo ventures off into the Australian bush with a group of women on a sacred silent walk. At first it’s strange being stuck with people she hardly knows, but far from civilisation the barriers are soon shattered and secrets and anxieties about motherhood, sex and midlife come spilling out. THE WILDERNESS BETWEEN US By PENNY HAW Köehler Books Haw draws on her love of nature and her own experience with anorexia in this compelling tale. While on a hike in a remote part of the Tsitsikamma region, Faye Mackenzie and her friends’ anorexic teen daughter get separated from…

Popular TV chef REUBEN RIFFEL is back on our small screens as the presenter of the second season of the Afrikaans food show Aansit on VIA (DStv channel 147). Foodies from all over the country compete in teams of two to deliver meals that will impress the judges in the hopes of winning a trip on a cruise ship in France to the value of R200 000. We asked Reuben to dish on his own food secrets. 1 meal you could eat for the rest of your life? Chicken livers with periperi. For me, it’s a treat. It’s affordable, has so much flavour, and it’s absolutely delicious when paired with a tasty piece of bread. the strangest meals you’ve ever eaten? I recently had mopane worms and chicken feet for…

Every cloud has a silver lining, and for LISA RINNA it’s her youngest daughter’s breakup. The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star had made no secret of her displeasure about daughter AMELIA HAMLIN dating SCOTT DISICK. Amelia (20) and Scott (38) were together for less than a year before splitting up, and Lisa (58) is positively giddy with glee at the news. The actress replied to a tweet about the breakup with a smiley-face emoji. The mom of two never shied away from voicing her dislike of Amelia’s romance, previously saying it had “completely surprised” her and even describing it as “just a phase”. Her husband, actor Harry Hamlin (69), had also expressed concern about the age gap, calling it odd. Sources close to Amelia say she decided to take…

TOUGH LOVE My son told me today that he’s not a sheep following vaccinations. My response is you are a sheep – it’s just a matter of choosing the path you’re following. Pro vax or anti vax. Bottom line is we are all sheep following the yay or nay path. I hope people think about infecting their older family members because they were too stupid to get vaccinated. My son, who has asthma and other co-morbidities, will be removed from my medical aid if he refuses as he doesn’t pay a cent. I’m deadly serious as I won’t allow him to expose my family. We need to take a stance – be dumb or get it done! TESSA VISSER, EMAIL A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE It amazes me that Meghan continues…

The heinous killing of whistle-blower Babita Deokaran (YOU, 9 September) has left me with deep anger and sadness. To have her life taken so violently because of her diligence and honesty in her job, is absolutely shocking. What a huge loss she is to our country. My deepest condolences to her family. M PRICE, EMAIL I can’t tell you how saddened I was by the Babita Deokaran story. Here was a woman doing the right thing, blowing the whistle on corruption and she gets killed. Tragedies like this will stop other good people coming forward – something SA can ill afford. My heart goes out to her family. T THOMAS, EMAIL We love the YOU Quick Puzzles mini book. We have the 2020/21 edition which we’ve completed. We love it…

1 CARDIGAN COOL Only Wimbledon insists on all-white, so take your lead from fashion’s trendsetters and stand out in colour. Match a white collared T-shirt dress with a funky cardigan in pink, blue and yellow. Add accessories in the same shades for a sorbet-coloured look. TIP Make sure your cardigan isn’t too tight. There should be space for your dress to sit comfortably. 2 PLEATED PREPPY Create a relaxed preppy look with this pleated midi-skirt and polo shirt combo. Add muted accessories for a touch of chic. TIP Team pleated pieces with ribbed tops and textured accessories when matching colours to provide visual variation. 3 MOTIF MAGIC Wear classic motifs together for a cohesive, fun look with attitude as in this check-on-check print outfit. Style a check print pullover and…

■ Cook all your meals from scratch. This helps you keep the focus on meat, fish, poultry, eggs and vegetables and steer clear of processed foods. ■ Be careful with fruit. Yes, it’s fresh but fruit also contains a lot of sugar. “Choose blueberries, strawberries, raspberries and blackberries,” says dietician Amanda Kotzé. A good rule of thumb is to limit yourself to one fist-size fruit a day. ■ The general rule with low-carb diets is that you should only eat when hungry and although snacking is allowed, it’s not encouraged. ■ If you do cheat, don’t beat yourself up. “Just make sure the next meal you have is low-carb,” Kotzé says. ■ Meal prep is important. “This lifestyle requires you to cook fresh food, so plan what you’re going to…

ONE of the biggest changes resulting from the coronavirus pandemic worldwide has been employees working from home rather than at an office. Remote work is the new word for it. The South African Revenue Service (Sars) gets a lot of queries regarding expenses such employees may deduct from tax for a home office as they’re now using their personal resources for work. Here’s what you need to know. 1 YOU MUST HAVE PROOF All the home office expenses you deduct must be related to your job and be verifiable. This means you have to keep proof of all expenses, for example purchase slips or accounts. If your supporting documents are unclear or insufficient, Sars won’t permit the deduction. In fact, Sars warns that all claims for home offices could be…

THURSDAY ■ LET HIM GO ★★★ 2020, 113 min, 16, M-Net, 02:45. Thriller. A retired sheriff and his wife try to get their only grandson back from a family of criminals. Diane Lane, Kevin Costner. FRIDAY ■ COP AND A HALF: NEW RECRUIT ★★★ 2017, 97 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Action comedy. The sequel to Cop and a Half. A perky girl who wants to catch bad guys teams up with a jaded cop to stop a criminal who uses drones to harass people in their town. Lou Diamond Phillips, Lulu Wilson. ■ ASSASSINATION GAMES ★★★ 2011, 101 min, 16, e.tv, 22:00. Action. Two rival hitmen decide to work together to bring down a drug dealer for different reasons – one wants revenge because the man put his wife in…

MUSIC Musical drama. Zu (Kate Hudson) is a recovering alcoholic who discovers she’s been appointed sole guardian of her half-sister, Music (Maddie Ziegler), who has autism. While Zu struggles to maintain her sobriety, the sisters form a strong bond and Zu must decide whether she can leave her chaotic ways behind to become the constant presence Music needs to feel happy and safe. Australian pop star Sia’s songwriting and music-video directing have certainly prepared her for her directorial debut. Coupled with its uplifting soundtrack, which she wrote, the film is a visual feast thanks to its musical dreamscapes that depict Music’s experience of the world. The flights of fancy are reminiscent of but less refined than those found in movies such as Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004) and…

NAS KING’S DISEASE II The legendary rapper from Queens, New York, returns with the sequel to his Grammy-winning King’s Disease I. He reminds listeners of his credibility as one of the greats as he tells stories about surviving the times, being rap royalty and valuing yourself on King’s Disease II. Eminem shines on EPMD 2 and Ms Lauryn Hill’s smooth vocals on Nobody are unmatched. During his almost 30-year career Nas, the lyrical emcee, has had few misses and this – his 13th studio album – is why fans call him the King of Hip-Hop.…

SMART, energetic and the kind of kid who wanted to work all day long. That’s how her father described her when she was just six years old – and little has changed. Kasvia von Memerty, the youngest child in the famous South African family of performers, is now 21 and multitasking big time. She’s a singer, an actress and a wannabe accountant with her mother’s good looks, her father’s smile and a good dose of Von Memerty talent. This was obvious recently when Kasvia was chosen to sing the South African national anthem before the Test between the Springboks and the Pumas at Nelson Mandela Bay Stadium in Gqeberha in the Eastern Cape. “I was in the middle of studying for exams when a representative from SA Rugby called me,”…

Last year we wrote to YOU about our Lockdown Gardening Committee. Our letter was printed as Letter of the Week and this gave us tremendous encouragement. We’d like to thank YOU for spurring us on. We bought plants with our winning money and they’re flourishing, as are all our flowers. The York House Lockdown Gardening Committee is now down to two of us from five, but we still chat to people in the block of flats as we garden, and to passers-by who stop to admire the garden beds. We’re attaching “before” and “after” photographs of one of our garden beds. We hope that the riot of colour in the “after” photograph lifts your spirits as it lifts ours. KLEINTJIE SMIT AND ENID HILTON, ORANJEZICHT…

Although the Pfizer and J&J vaccines work in slightly different ways, they both use the code for the spike protein of SARS-CoV-2 to train the immune system to identify and destroy the SARS-CoV-2 virus when you’re exposed to it. The main difference between the two vaccines is the way in which the code for the spike protein is transported to the cells, Professor Hannelie Meyer says. The Pfizer vaccine contains ready-made messenger RNA (mRNA) supported within a lipid coat, whereas the code in the J&J vaccine must still be turned into mRNA by your cells and is carried by a non-replicating harmless adenovirus. The mRNA carries the message to give your cells instructions to make spike proteins, the part of the virus that attaches to your cells. Your body recognises…

PINOTAGE BEEF PIES SERVES 6 PREPARATION: 30 MIN COOLING: 1 HOUR COOKING: 3½-4 HOURS RESTING: 10 MIN FILLING 1,5-2kg bone-in beef, cut into chunks salt and freshly ground pepper 30ml (2T) olive oil 15ml (1T) butter 2 onions, sliced 2-3 leeks, sliced 4 garlic cloves, finely chopped 2 bay leaves 100g tomato paste 375ml (1½c) Pinotage or strong rooibos tea 250ml (1c) beef stock, plus extra stock or boiling water 1 can (410g) whole tomatoes in tomato juice 250g brown mushrooms, quartered handful of fresh parsley, chopped finely grated zest of 1 lemon (optional) CRUST 500g puff pastry 1 egg, whisked rosemary sprigs TO SERVE creamy mashed potatoes or a fresh salad 1 Filling Season the meat with the salt and pepper. Heat the oil in a large heavy-bottom saucepan…

The ketogenic diet is an extremely low-carb, high-fat diet that was found to reduce seizures in children with epilepsy. The very low carb intake – usually less than 20g a day – puts the body into a metabolic state called ketosis, where it burns fat for fuel. Epileptic seizures are triggered by abnormal electrical discharges in the brain and research suggests ketosis disrupts these abnormal discharges. “You’re forcing the brain to use a different fuel. We don’t know exactly how it works,” says Dr Judith Bluvstein, a paediatric epileptologist and assistant professor of neurology at New York University. “But it’s almost as though the brain can’t figure out how to produce seizures using this new energy pathway.” The ketogenic diet has also been found to have other health benefits, including…

ONE-LINERS ■ “I’m sorry” and “I apologise” mean the same thing . . . except when you’re at a funeral. ■ I intend to live forever . . . or die trying. ■ We never knew he was a drunk . . . until he showed up to work sober. ■ A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory. ■ At what age is it appropriate to tell my dog that he’s adopted? ■ I child-proofed the house . . . but they still get in! BIRTH CONTROL A neighbour is part of a carpool and she agrees to drive a group of children to their cricket match. The next day her van is full of noisy 10-year-olds. Distracted by the chatter, she cruises through a stop…

In her latest film role Karen Gillan plays Sam, an assassin who defies the orders of her criminal employers, The Firm, when she chooses to protect an eight-year-old girl, Emily (Chloe Coleman). Sam’s actions trigger a war with The Firm and reunite her with her long-lost gun-toting mother, Scarlet (Lena Headey), and a trio of deadly librarians (Michelle Yeoh, Angela Bassett and Carla Gugino). WHAT’S IN A NAME? Karen (33) was drawn to Gunpowder Milkshake because of its intriguing title. “I was like, ‘I’ll watch this movie based on the title alone.’ Then as I was reading [the script] I got to the second action sequence and that’s when I put the script down and rang my agent. I was like, ‘Can you please just make sure I’m in this…

8 Local horror. In 1977, William Ziel (Garth Breytenbach) moves his wife, Sarah (Inge Beckmann), and orphaned niece, Mary (Keita Luna), to a farm that he inherited from his estranged father near the fictional town of Hemel op Aarde. Sarah dislikes the place and starts having nightmares after they move in. Strange things also start happening in the house . . . While searching for leaves for her silkworms in the nearby woods, Mary crosses paths with Lazarus (Tshamano Sebe), who knows the farm and worked for William’s father for many years. He introduces himself to the new residents, but he doesn’t have good intentions. And what he’s hiding in the bag on his back will make you shudder. This movie has all the elements needed for a good horror…

A LINE TO KILL By ANTHONY HOROWITZ Century This is the third whodunnit in the entertaining Hawthorne & Horowitz series. This time the capable but arrogant former detective and his woefully unappreciated sidekick author travel to a literary festival on the island of Alderney off the coast of Britain. With a ragtag assortment of characters, it’s the perfect setting for murder. Festival guests include a children’s author, a celebrity chef, a French poet, a historian and a blind psychic. Meanwhile a proposed infrastructure project is tearing the community apart. When a prominent local is found dead after a swanky party, Hawthorne and Horowitz find themselves at the helm of a murder investigation as they wait for reinforcements from the mainland. With no one allowed on or off the island this…

THE invention of the wheel was crucial to the development of humankind. Historians have worked out that it happened in Mesopotamia about 6 500 years ago during the Copper Age (4500-3300 BC), a period when humans developed tools and weapons from copper, but they still used stone tools as well. The combination of a wheel mounted on an axle has made modern machinery possible. Without the wheel, today’s technology would never have developed, and we wouldn’t have any of the industries we have today. Here’s how it all started. LATE IN THE GAME The wheel made its appearance relatively late in the development of humankind. Other important tools and inventions made before the wheel include needles for sewing, woven cloth, rope, woven mats, boats and manmade canals, lute and harps.…

FAMINE IN TIGRAY Almost half a million people are facing famine or starvation in Ethiopia’s Tigray region. Political conflict in the country in the past 10 months has left thousands of people homeless and made it difficult for aid workers to get food to them. Armed forces have stopped trucks taking supplies to those who need them. “Unless the fighting dies down, we can only see the situation deteriorating extensively in the next weeks or months,” says Gordon Weiss, World Food Programme spokesperson.…

SCHABIR SHAIK He served 28 months of a 15-year sentence for corruption and fraud before being released on medical parole in 2009 on the grounds he was in the final phase of a terminal illness. After returning to his upmarket home in Morningside, Durban, he was often spotted shopping, dining at high-end restaurants and playing golf. JACKIE SELEBI In 2010 the former police commissioner was convicted of corruption and sentenced to 15 years in jail. He began his sentence in 2012 but after serving 229 days was granted medical parole due to kidney failure. He died in 2015. XOLILE MNGENI He was one of the men convicted of the murder of Swedish honeymooner Anni Dewani. Mngeni, who was diagnosed with a brain tumour during his trial, was jailed for life…

SHE made a name for herself in the child beauty pageant world, sashaying on stage with a serious dose of attitude and a mouth full of charm and cheek. Her sass helped her win a few titles amid a sea of cutesy kids in tutus and full makeup and it was largely thanks to Honey Boo Boo that the reality TV show Toddlers & Tiaras became a worldwide hit. Yet the little girl did more than that – she also turned her family into reality TV stars, the working-class version of the Kardashians featuring “Mama June” Shannon and her four daughters. But Honey Boo Boo would like the world to know she’s Honey Boo Boo no longer. She wants to be called by her real name, Alana Thompson, and has…

She might struggle with long-distance running but that doesn’t stop TV and radio presenter LIEZEL VAN DER WESTHUIZEN from giving it a go. “I’m more of an occasional sprinter or shuffler.” Whether he’s hiking, swimming or working out in the comfort of his home, TV presenter RYLE DE MORNY makes it look so easy! He regularly shares workout tips with his Instagram followers on what he’s dubbed Slay Day. Model and surfer ROXY LOUW stays in shape with yoga but mixes her fitness routine up with mountain hikes and gym sessions. Exercise helps with her mental wellbeing, she says. Power couple CLINT AND STEFFI BRINK enjoy Thai boxing so much Clint calls it their “love language”. UNATHI NKAYI knows how important water is. “For extra hydration, I wash and moisturise…