Innholdsfortegnelse for 25 Mar 2021 i You South Africa

VOICE NOTES – you either love them or hate them. These audio messages have become more and more popular in the past year and it’s not often that you’ll find people who don’t have strong opinions about them. Fans love the intimacy and feelings of connection the sound of someone’s voice can create. There’s a sense of togetherness no amount of words and emojis in a text can convey. Others are irked because they can’t quickly take in the message at a glance – you’re forced to stop what you’re doing and take time to listen to what the person on the other end wants you to know. But as our story on page 100 shows, you can quickly swing either way. It all depends on whether the sender is…

Harry and Meghan’s whingeing seems endless (YOU, 18 March). So many people have sorrow, suicidal thoughts and dysfunctional families. And they deal with life the best they can. Life happens to us all. And we deal with it, without the super-wealth and privilege Harry and Meghan have. It almost seems as if they might have to spend their lives conjuring stories of their woes just to boost an income. Some people have it so much worse. They’re the true heroes. They continue to find inner strength and stand up. Life happens to us all. Get real. TRUDY, SMS ■ When I saw the Oprah interview I asked myself, “Why did Harry and Meghan do it?” Yes, things didn’t go well for them in the royal family and they were hurting.…

ROOIBOS-SMOKED HONEY-BASTED CHICKEN Rooibos tea is as South African as it gets. We marinated a whole chicken in cold rooibos tea and used dried tea to lightly smoke it. SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 10 MIN MARINATING: 2 HOURS COOKING: 2 HOURS 1 large whole chicken 1 orange, halved 30ml (2T) rooibos tea leaves MARINADE 500ml (2c) strongly brewed rooibos tea, cold 60ml (¼c) each soy sauce and brown sugar 4 garlic cloves, bruised 1 onion, sliced into quarters BASTING SAUCE 60ml (¼c) honey 15ml (1T) soy sauce 5cm fresh ginger, grated Heat a kettle braai, put a braai grid in the middle and keep some tin foil handy. 1 Put the chicken in a deep marinating dish. 2 Marinade Mix all the ingredients, then pour over the chicken. Cover and marinade…

Red-carpet moments The message was clear on the red-carpet at fashion shows: keep makeup striking but simple. MAKEUP TIPS WHEN WEARING A MASK ■ Wear breathable foundation Your skin is already hot and bothered underneath a mask. Don’t overburden it with heavy foundation. ■ Keep your makeup in place Use a fixing spray. This way you won’t have to wear too much foundation or powder. ■ Keep your makeup simple If you want your eyes to pop focus on that. ■ Use a transparent face mask You could also wear a clear mask if, for example, you want to wear a glossy lipstick. This type of mask allows your whole face to be seen. ■ Don’t fiddle with your mask Try not to touch it while it’s on your face.…

If you’re struggling to lose weight, it’s not necessarily because of hypothyroidism. And even if it is the case, hormone therapy won’t necessarily help you lose the weight, says Dr Jacomien de Villiers, an internist from Pretoria. “When people get to their fifties and start gaining weight, they think it must be a problem with their thyroid gland. When hypothyroidism is diagnosed, there’s usually great joy because they assume the medication they get will solve their weight problem and they’ll go back to what they weighed as a teenager. “Nothing could be further from the truth,” she says. “The thyroid medication will probably make the patient feel better and increase energy levels, but the weight will most likely stay on. The reason for this is that there are so many…

DEADLY, fast-moving and causing much suffering, parvovirus is an illness that strikes panic in the hearts of dog owners. “It’s a very scary and dangerous virus,” says Dr Danielle Korb, a veterinarian at West Beach Animal Hospital in the Western Cape, who’s treated many animals with it. “Mortality rates are as high as 91% in untreated animals and 48% even with aggressive treatment. But the good news is it’s preventable.” We asked her what pet owners need to know about this virus. What type of virus is it and how does it spread? Canine parvovirus – also known as parvo or katgriep – is a virus that infects the intestines and immune system of young dogs. “It spreads via the faeces, urine and vomit of infected dogs, as well as…

FAST FOOD A man and his friend are standing in line at a fast-food restaurant, waiting to place their order. There’s a big sign posted in the window: “No notes larger than R50 will be accepted.” The woman standing behind them points at the sign, sniggers and remarks, “Believe me, if I had a note larger than R50, I wouldn’t be eating here.” LITTLE JACK Little Jack: Daddy, please tell me, are caterpillars good to eat? Father: Have I not told you never to mention such things during meals! Mother: Why did you say that, Jack? Why did you ask such a question? Jack: It’s because I saw one on daddy’s lettuce, but now it’s gone. SUSPECT SOUP When a waitress in a Joburg restaurant brings a tourist the soup…

1 AUSSIE ROOTS Born Charlton Kenneth Jeffrey Howard, the rapper/songwriter/record producer is from Sydney, Australia. His stage name comes from the Kamilaroi, the Aboriginal community his mother is from. He had a turbulent childhood and moved around a lot, often living in public housing. 2 NEW KID ON THE BLOCK He started writing rap from an early age, filling notebooks with rhymes and uploading videos online. When he was 14, he released his debut EP on Soundcloud called 14 with a Dream. Soon he was discovered by Juice Wrld, who took the then-rising 15-year-old under his wing. In January 2019 he toured with the late rapper on his Australian tour. 3 F*CK LOVE RELEASE In 2020 he moved to the US and released his debut mix tape, F*ck Love, which…

CHEWING GUM IS A NO-NO IN SINGAPORE In an effort to keep the country clean, Singapore banned the sale of chewing gum in 1992. People have to pay huge fines and even face being jailed if found littering the streets with gum or caught sticking it on train doors and seats. In 2004 a new law was passed which allowed dental and sugar-free gum with health benefits to be sold in pharmacies. The country also has legislation in place against littering, graffiti and spitting in public, for which people can be fined.…

The chances of a medical aid covering the cost of breast-reduction surgery are slim, says Dr Deon Weyers, a plastic surgeon from Sandton, Johannesburg. “My experience is that nine out of 10 cases are declined, even if patients have motivation letters from a doctor, physiotherapist or chiropractor.” “Medical aids would sooner pay for a back operation than for breast reduction.” The biggest problem women with large breasts suffer is chronic back pain, Weyers says. “The discs in the person’s spine start compressing between the vertebrae and this can cause intense back and neck pain.” That means women with this particular problem often use chronic pain medication, which leads to other health issues. If breast-reduction surgery is left too late, it won’t always provide relief. “Unfortunately, there’s no permanent solution and…

The cause of Liverpool’s crisis is no mystery: it’s injuries – and lots of them. Its defence has lost Virgil van Dijk, Joe Gomez and Joël Matip, forcing coach Jürgen Klopp to use his midfielders to prop up his defence. Fabinho, the first midfielder drafted into defence, is also injured, and captain Jordan Henderson, the second midfielder drafted to defence, sustained a groin injury that required surgery last month. At this stage, there’s just a handful of players who have not been injured this season. Klopp also signed two backup defenders, Ozan Kabak and Ben Davies, in January.…

SHE was already the mom of two busy toddlers –then life got a whole lot crazier for KOULA BUDLER when her second set of twins arrived. The former 5FM presenter tells us she rises at 5am every day. “I get everything ready in advance so things can run smoother,” she says. Koula and businessman hubby PJ welcomed twins WILLIAM and EMMA in May 2018 thanks to successful IVF treatment after battling to conceive naturally. The latest addition to their family, one-year-old twins SOPHIE and JULIET, were also conceived through IVF. “We knew there was a chance they’d be twins; we just didn’t think it would be very high,” she says. The family live in Fort Worth, Texas, in the US and raising children away from their family has been tough,…

WHAT ARE YOU TEACHING YOUR KIDS? I’M A white woman with two fair-skinned, blond, blue-eyed, mixed-race boys. I know the pressure is on to teach my children to embrace and celebrate who they are. But I also need to teach them to be prepared for a world that might discriminate against them. Ultimately, what I teach my children is that they aren’t half-coloured, half-white. They aren’t half anything. My children are a beautiful combination of both races and I want to help them embrace the best of both worlds. My hope is that they’ll grow up feeling proud of their mixed heritage and loved for who they are. Powerless isn’t a word I want to describe me as a parent but after collecting my 10-year-old from school today I was…

Don’t let the rat race get you down! Take a moment to de-stress and relax with YOU Leisure. This adult art-activity magazine lets you flex your creative muscles and ease the tension of a busy work week. Colour in the gorgeous artwork, follow the mazes, connect the dots, find the hidden pictures and just have fun! You can even frame your creative work for all to see. To get your copy go to youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com.…

IT WAS something as simple as a Coca-Cola bottle that changed the trajectory of his life and set him on the road to becoming a celebrated doctor who now harnesses his knowledge to make a difference to Covid-19 patients staring death in the face. “Made in South Africa” the label on the Coke bottle said – and with just a few hundred rands in his pocket, he made his way across Africa alone, fleeing his war-torn homeland and eventually arriving at his destination. He was only 17 years old. Fast forward two-and-a-half decades and Pretoria-based Dr Emmanuel Taban is one of the country’s top pulmonologists – one who found himself making the news at the height of SA’s battle against the pandemic. His inspiring story is the subject of a…

LAYER UP Transition your summer dresses with these must-have pieces. Wear them under or over your dress to keep you warm on chillier days. T-SHIRTS TIP  Wear a colourful or print undershirt to give dimension to your look. SHIRTS SWEATERS AND POLO NECKS ESSENTIAL COVER Good-quality jackets, cardigans, vests and coats are all wardrobe essentials as the weather gets cooler – plus they’re perfect add-ons for your layered dress looks for the season. TIP  Add texture to your look with materials like denim, pleather and fleece. THOSE LITTLE EXTRAS Give your look an boost with eyecatching autumn/winter accessories. Think bucket hats, beanies, scarves and jeggings. STEP AHEAD Take your summer dress a step in the right direction with these seasonal boots and chunky heels. Perfect for the colder weather. ZHOOSH…

WHAT’S not to love about a multitasking space? Now that we find ourselves working from home, we all need a nook that’s not our bedroom or couch where we can go to get away from it all. Carve out a little sanctuary using floor seating. Inspired by Indian and Moroccan living, low-level seating is easy to set up and allows you to create a space dependent on your needs. A tufted floor mattress is budget friendly and can be used inside or outdoors. It’s also ideal for small-space living as it can easily be rolled up and put away when not needed.…

DRINKING IS RUINING OUR MARRIAGE Q My husband is drinking alcohol every night and I can’t stand it. When he comes home he’s either half-drunk or fully sloshed and I get so angry that I start screaming at him and have to take the kids upstairs so they don’t see their father in such a state. It was easier for me to hide it from the children when they were smaller, but they’re now getting older. The more I seem to nag my husband not to drink, the more he seems insistent on drinking. I’ve tried calling his parents when he’s drunk but recently they came over and started giving me a hard time and saying I’m always on his case. When I talk calmly to my husband about his…

THURSDAY ■ THE WEDDING PLANNER ★★ 2001, 103 min, PG13L, e.tv, 00:00. Romantic comedy. A professional wedding planner falls for the fiancé of an important client. Jennifer Lopez. ■ INDIANA JONES AND THE KINGDOM OF THE CRYSTAL SKULL ★★★ 2008, 122 min, 13VL, e.tv, 01:55. Sci-fi adventure. The fourth film in the franchise. In 1957 archaeologist Indiana Jones becomes entangled in a Soviet plot to uncover the origins of a mysterious crystal skull. Harrison Ford, Cate Blanchett. ■ THE REST OF US ★★★ 2019, 80 min, 16L, M-Net, 02:50. Comedy drama. After her ex-husband dies, leaving behind massive debts, a woman allows his struggling wife and daughter to move in with her. Heather Graham. ■ JUNGLE BEAT: THE MOVIE ★★★ 2020, 88 min, A, M-Net, 04:25. Animated sci-fi. Animals help…

THE LITTLE THINGS Thriller. With Denzel Washington, Rami Malek and Jared Leto. Director: John Lee Hancock. 16LN. Washington brings his usual gravitas to the lead role of deputy sheriff Joe “Deke” Deacon, who reluctantly travels to Los Angeles to retrieve important evidence. When he gets to the police department, no one seems happy to see him. But in one of The Little Things’ only inspired twists, instead of begrudging the older man’s presence, young hotshot detective Jim Baxter (Malek from Bohemian Rhapsody) welcomes his help on a brutal murder case. As Deke becomes drawn into the investigation, which reminds him of an old unsolved killing, he and Jim zero in on creepy repairman Albert Sparma (Leto from Suicide Squad). When three Oscar-winners sign on to star in a film based…

BLACK COFFEE Subconsciously While his roots are in deep house music, the well-known local DJ and producer’s latest album boasts a diverse range of styles and tempos. Having achieved global stardom while headlining gigs all the way from Ibiza to Saudi Arabia, he’s made a few friends along the way. His new work features a long list of collaborations with the likes of cultural icon Pharrell Williams, SA’s Sun-El Musician and chart-topping US musos like Diplo and Sabrina Claudio on the title track SBCNCSLY. If you aren’t a “house head”, take a listen to the more pop-friendly melodies and beats on this album, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.…

Start each message by setting the scene “Hearing that someone is sitting in the sunniest corner of their apartment or lying on their bed helps make it feel like you’re where you should be – in the same space, together.” Even if you’re feeling awkward or embarrassed – don’t say it Feel your feelings, sure, but don’t let them ruin a message, Gyan says. “Saying you feel weird isn’t going to make your first message feel any less weird, so bite your tongue and get into the juicy stuff.” Talk about one thing you did that day “The voice note secret sauce is sharing something fun you did that day.” Gyan suggests sharing something interesting you saw out the window, what you cooked for supper last night or the weird…

HE PROPOSED with a diamond sparkler worth a staggering R73 million. When she turned 50, he presented her with a R1,9m Porsche. Together they bought a mansion in Miami worth nearly R600m where they lived with their blended family. Jennifer Lopez may once have sung Love Don’t Cost a Thing but the life she and Alex Rodriguez built for themselves was a dazzling wonderland where they glowed ever brighter. Yet over the months faultlines have started to appear in their relationship – and many are wondering if J Lo and A-Rod will ever get around to tying the knot. The couple have already been forced to postpone their wedding twice because of Covid-19. Now they’re being dogged by drama and rumours of infidelity. First it was reported that J Lo…

She made a name for herself as comedian COCONUT KELZ on social media, but these days she has some serious reasons to celebrate. Coconut Kelz, who was born LESEGO TLHABI, is making her mark in showbiz. Lesego, who works as a presenter on SABC 3’s Trending SA show, was delighted when she made her recent acting debut in Tali’s Baby Diary on Showmax. “I’m an actress now – I can’t believe I get to say that,” Lesego gushes. “This is what I’ve wanted to do from the time I first started so the fact it’s happening now, 10 years later, is really cool.” She caused a stir when she debuted her character Coconut Kelz on her social platforms, but in real life Lesego is rather different from Kelz. “I appreciate…

Reading Young YOU, it was so sad to see that the Hillbrow Tower, Ponte City and Carlton Centre among other places are dilapidated because of crime and decay (YOU, 11 March). WEND, MIDRAND Bob Gillies, your letter about the problem with demerits is so true (YOU Say, 25 February). The police, trucks and taxis are all a law unto themselves, especially the taxis. The police see what they’re doing and just ignore them. As you said, the government is once again targeting innocent and honest drivers. DAWN, SMS Newlands is rugby and always will be. Cape Town Stadium is soccer. SPORTS FAN, SMS I was annoyed by the comment that Angelina Jolie is “healing after her split with Brad” (YOU, 18 February). She deserves everything she gets. She stole another…

JUST four years ago, the world was transfixed by a glossy-haired young woman with a smile as sunny as the state of California and American confidence oozing out of every perfect pore. It wasn’t hard to see why Prince Harry fell for her – the rest of the world was in love with her too. She was a breath of fresh air in an institution regarded as stuffy and set in its ways, a woman of the world who would propel the family into the 21st century and help cement its place in the future. But oh, how profoundly it has all come tumbling down – and now the monarchy faces one of the biggest crises in its history. Meghan Markle and Prince Harry’s explosive tell-all with Oprah Winfrey has…

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IT SITS low in your neck, across your windpipe, and is shaped a like a butterfly. Most of us don’t give this humble little gland a second thought. Because when it’s working, you have no reason to think about it. But when your thyroid isn’t functioning as it should, it can create chaos in your body in ways you’d could never imagine. It could be the culprit behind symptoms such as unexplained weight gain, an inability to focus, depression and even dementia. The thyroid can sometimes work overtime – called an overactive thyroid – or be underactive, with each of these conditions causing a specific range of problems. “It’s important to get your thyroid hormone levels checked regularly to ensure you don’t have too much or too little of it,”…

BUDGETING helps you learn to live within your means and stay on top of your finances. But sometimes your budget just won’t balance. This week we discuss some of the most common reasons why budgeting fails, and how to get yours back on track. YOU’RE IN TOO MUCH OF A HURRY TO SEE RESULTS If you start by keeping a record of your expenses and really try to live within your income, you’ll soon reap the benefits. But you’re not going to suddenly, in two to three months, have it all sorted. You’ll just be starting to take charge of your finances and become informed about the situation – but often people expect this to immediately make a huge difference. Instant changes such as sharply pruning back spending on groceries,…

ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL It’s your time to shine – enjoy all the attention With love diva Venus joining forces with the Sun in your sign, you’re the darling of the cosmos this week. Being the centre of attention is right up your alley, so soak up all the love and attention to make it last far into the future. Aries tends to be a bit self-centred by nature, but remind yourself to be aware of your spouse’s needs around the full moon. You’re also quite perceptive and intuitive right now, so make it work for you. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 37, 20, 11, 42, 39, 5 TAURUS 20 APRIL – 20 MAY With your planet, Venus, under the Sun’s beams this week, it wouldn’t at all be surprising…

THRILLING NEW SHOW In Showmax’s South African series Dam, Pal-lance stars as Themba, a charismatic biker who comes to a small Eastern Cape town looking for his missing grandfather. The Isibaya actor costars with Lea Vivier, who plays Yola Fischer, a woman who also returns to the town to bury her father but finds herself tormented by spirits that may or may not be real. The pair meet at Yola’s dad’s funeral and quickly find they can trust only each other if they’re to survive the threats they face. “What Themba wants is to find a home, and what home symbolises are the things that come with it, such as belonging, to love and be loved. He’s always been in search of that. Moving from one place to another, he…

MODERN LOVE SEASON 1 Romantic comedy. Do you know what never gets old? Love. That’s why The New York Times column on which this anthology series is based is so popular. The weekly column has been running for 16 years and features essays by readers about their relationship experiences. Each episode is 30 minutes long and features a different story and actors. Take Me as I Am, Whoever I Am is about Lexi (Anne Hathaway), whose relationship with Jeff (Gary Carr from Death in Paradise) falters because she keeps her bipolar disorder a secret. Rallying to Keep the Game Alive is about a couple (Tina Fey and Mad Men’s John Slattery) in marriage counselling, and When Cupid Is a Prying Journalist features a reporter (Catherine Keener) interviewing the founder of…

SERPENTINE By JONATHAN KELLERMAN Century At age 39 Ellie Barker is super-rich, having just sold her sportswear company for a sizeable fortune. But there’s gap in her life which largely has to do with her mother’s mysterious death. More than three decades ago, her mom was found in a burnt-out Cadillac. But with no physical evidence, no witnesses and no apparent motive, the case went cold. Until 36 years later, when Ellie attends a fundraiser where she tells her story to a Hollywood mover and shaker named Andrea Bauer. Bauer calls a state assemblyman, who calls a mayor, who calls a police deputy chief, who hands the case over to LAPD Detective Milo Sturgis. Sturgis calls in his friend, the brilliant psychologist Alex Delaware, and the pair set off to…

TRAPPED in a prison of pain, Rika Ward is a captive in her own body. It’s nearly impossible for her to do everyday chores, such as washing dishes or mopping the floor. Even a short walk with her children is agony. “Every day is a challenge. I can’t even move without gritting my teeth,” Rika (45) tells YOU. For years Rika from Brakpan, Gauteng, has been burdened with a bosom that weighs 12kg and causes chronic back pain. “There’s nothing nice about having such large assets,” says Rika, who wears a 44GG bra. “Every day is pure hell. I can do almost nothing – even basic things are a challenge,” she says. A framed jigsaw puzzle of Michelangelo’s The Creation of Adam hangs on one of the family’s lounge walls,…

THIS time last year they were on top of the world and clocking up record after record: earliest title league in the Premier League, the biggest point lead at any time and most consecutive home wins. But how the mighty have fallen. This year Liverpool is on a red-hot losing streak, with six league losses in a row at Anfield – unheard of in the club’s 129-year history – and only three wins in their last 14 games. As the Reds watch their chances of a top-four Premier League finish recede into the distance, here’s a look at how a disastrous season has toppled once-lofty Liverpool off their perch. KLOPP’S ‘BLINKERS’ With so many injuries, coach Jürgen Klopp needed to think out of the box, writes Sky Sports commentator and…

DAVID CRUZ 1984-1994 David and J Lo were high-school sweethearts. David, a singer from the Bronx where Jennifer grew up, died from heart disease at the age of 51 last year. 108 | 25 MARCH 2021 you.co.za OJANI NOA 1997-1998 Jennifer’s marriage to the Cuban writer lasted less than a year. She sued him in 2007 after he threatened to release a tell-all book about their relationship. DIDDY 1999-2001 It was love at first sight for Diddy. After their shock split, J Lo said she’d never have had the family she longed for if they stayed together. CRIS JUDD 2001-2002 She met Cris, a backup dancer, while they were filming her Love Don’t Cost a Thing music video. They wed in 2001 but split soon after. BEN AFFLECK 2002-2004 Jenny…

He’s been training throughout lockdown for the Olympic Games and now JORDY SMITH is in quarantine with his family in Sydney, Australia, in preparation for the World Surf League season which starts there on 1 April. Jordy became a first-time dad in October last year when he and his wife, Lyndall, welcomed their son ZIGGY. The surfer couldn’t bear to be away from his bundle of joy, so he took his family along. “It was really important for me to be with my family at this time – there’s no way I want to miss seeing my child grow up,” he says. “These months are so crucial, and I want to be there for every step of the way.” Jordy was stunned when Lyndall told him they were expecting a…