Innholdsfortegnelse for 12/10/2020 i You South Africa

BE KIND. It’s the type of message that often gets shared on social media without a second thought and I wish more people would actually do it. Now, more than ever, a little kindness will go a long way. Because it’s true what the memes say: you just don’t know what people are going through. Maybe someone knocked their trolley into you because they were thinking of their sick child. Or they didn’t smile at your greeting because they’re mourning the loss of a loved one or have recently been retrenched. It might be they didn’t thank you for something due to the fact they’re struggling to get out of a fog of depression or they’re spiralling down a financial black hole and can’t see the light any longer. There…

“ARE you okay?” It was a simple question from a journalist but it meant a lot to her. ‘Staring at the cold white walls, I tried to imagine how we’d heal’ “Thank you for asking,” she replied. “Not many people have asked if I’m okay but it’s a very real thing to be going through behind the scenes.” This conversation happened back in October 2019, shortly after Harry and Meghan’s tour of Southern Africa. Meghan was a new mom then and – triumphant though the tour undoubtedly was – the Duchess of Sussex was not happy. Negative publicity had overshadowed her pregnancy and early motherhood and she and Harry were taking strain. What happened next is history: the Sus-sexes’ growing unhappiness that culminated in the shock of Megxit. But that…

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SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC Be authentic and focus on loving yourself  The planets are crowding into your sign this week, so it’s unsurprising that you’ll feel like you’re on top of the world. Getting attention and approval is good for anybody ego, but at what cost are you seeking this for yourself? Let it happen naturally by simply being yourself. You can’t please everybody – some people are going to take to you and others won’t. Your happiness depends on your liking yourself and being authentic. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 15, 31, 22, 7, 47, 3 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN Expect cycles of confusion followed by cycles of clarity. This might not be your best time to sign on the dotted line, although as a careful Capricorn…

THURSDAY ■ MISSION: IMPOSSIBLE – FALLOUT ★★★★ 2018, 147 min, PG13, e.tv, 22:00. Action. The sixth film in the series. After they fail to secure three plutonium cores, a team of agents must work with a CIA agent to find them. Tom Cruise. ■ COMEBACK DAD ★★★ 2014, 90 min, PG13, e.tv, 00:45. Drama. A man tries to reconnect with his estranged daughter. Charles S Dutton. ■ THE ARROYO ★★★ 2014, 90 min, 13L, e.tv, 02:25. Action. A landowner in southern Arizona decides to fight back against drug smugglers. Kenny Maines, David Armendariz. ■ LEGACY OF LIES ★★★ 2020, 101 min, 16VL, M-Net, 02:35. Action. A former MI6 agent is forced to return to his old life to help retrieve files stolen by the Russians. Scott Adkins. ■ TROUBLE ★★★…

FEATURING TY DOLLA $IGN BY TY DOLLA $IGN It’s an unusual title for his third album, but, explains the Los Angeles rapper, “I decided to name it that because there’s truly something for everybody on this album. “It features some of my most talented friends, on some of the best music I’ve made in my career.” The man certainly has the Midas touch when it comes to collaborating. “I’ve been blessed with that gift. Not every artist can collaborate with another artist and have the final product be something incredible,” he says, and he’s not wrong. He’s featured on plenty of bangers – Drake’s Scorpion, the chorus of Megan Thee Stallion’s Hot Girl Summer and Mariah Carey’s The Distance, to name a few, so for this record he invited most…

SERVANT SEASON 1 Horror. A wealthy couple hire a nanny to look after their newborn baby – what could be scary about that? But Servant is produced by M Night Shyamalan (The Sixth Sense, Signs), a filmmaker who never met a twist he didn’t enjoy tangling a bit more, so this couple’s baby boy, Jericho, is a doll. Dorothy (Six Feet Under’s Lauren Ambrose) and Sean Turner (Toby Kebbell from Fantastic Four) are mourning the death of their newborn son and Dorothy, in her grief, treats a super-realistic doll as if it’s her child. When 18-year-old nanny Leanne (Nell Tiger Free, Game of Thrones’ Myrcella Baratheon) arrives, she doesn’t blink at having to look after a doll, and dotes on it as if it were real. Then – twist! –…

Matthew finds love at last MATTHEW PERRY had a lot to be thankful for when the US celebrated Thanksgiving late last month. The 51-year-old actor, best known for his role as Chandler Bing in long-running sitcom Friends, became engaged to his girlfriend of three years, MOLLY HURWITZ. “I decided to get engaged,” Matthew told People magazine. “Luckily, I happened to be dating the greatest woman on the face of the planet at this time.” Earlier this year, Molly (29), who works as a literary manager, shared a sweet message for the actor on Valentine’s Day. “Second year being my valentine, but his first as an Instagram influencer,” she wrote on her own Instagram account, seemingly referencing the actor’s then-new Instagram account. “HVD to my favourite.” His rocky road to…

OH, FOR A VERANDA! I never used to understand why homes with a view cost so much money. Then financial instability resulting from lock-down forced me to move to a cheaper flat, one that doesn’t have a veranda. At the beginning of spring I started to miss my previous flat because it had a veranda and a colourful garden. I liked standing on the veranda in the cool mornings, absorbing the breeze and admiring the beauty of the garden. When it got too hot in the living room, I’d sit on the veranda with my YOU magazine. What a special private moment I’d enjoy. We all need freedom of movement and a nice view to relieve stress. SP MOFFAT, PRETORIA A HELPING HAND All of us have people who helped…

Thank YOU for the excellent article on the American election (YOU, 19 November). I have never quite understood how their political system works and the article made it crystal clear. I’m delighted they have a female vice president! MOXIE, EMAIL Thank you for including the crossword solutions in the same magazine. Some of us share the magazines and once we give them away, the solutions go with them. Love your magazine! KAREN, SMS Having watched William and Harry work through so much in their lives, it’s a tragedy that Netflix is stirring up issues that must be of torment to them in The Crown. We are to blame, too, by watching the series. I for one will not watch, in support of the mental health of two young men and…

THE little boy peeks into the lounge of his grandmother’s Pretoria home. “I think he senses what we’re talking about,” Christelle Nagel whispers once he’s left the room. Before long Theo pops his head around the door again, shooting a glance at his gran. The five-year-old is clearly very attached to her and it’s easy to understand why – she’s the closest thing he has to a mother now. Christelle (48) and Theo are the only survivors of a devastating fire that killed three members of their family. Christelle lost her husband, Theo Sr (54), her daughter, Nicolene Pretorius (23), and her granddaughter, Leoné (2), when the blaze gutted their Centurion home in 2018. Leoné, Theo’s little sister, was declared dead at the scene. His mom, Nicolene, and Theo Sr…

For example, when designing a measles vaccine, scientists stimulate the body’s immune system to protect the individual against the disease. “We take the virus and we inactivate it so it doesn’t cause any infection. This can be done genetically by modifying it and growing it in cell cultures. So it still multiplies in the body in the same way, but doesn’t cause any illness. “But while it’s multiplying it still stimulates the immune system – the immune system then produces antibodies and also memory cells. So if someone is exposed later on, the body will mount an immune response to protect the person.” The body’s immune system uses several tools to fight infection. Blood contains red cells, which carry oxygen to tissues and organs, and white or immune cells, which…

ICY CHOCOLATE-AND-NUT BARS MAKES ABOUT 12 BARS PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 10 MIN FREEZING: 4-5 HOURS OR OVERNIGHT CRUST 1 packet (200g) chocolate digestive biscuits, ground 100g butter, melted YOGHURT LAYER 375ml (1½c) coconut-flavoured double-cream yoghurt 15ml (1T) honey CHOCOLATE LAYER 250ml (1c) coconut-flavoured double-cream yoghurt 100g dark chocolate, roughly chopped 100g macadamia nuts, roughly chopped Line a 20x20cm cake tin with baking paper or cling-film. 1 Crust Mix the biscuits and butter well and press into the bottom of the prepared tin. Freeze for 15 minutes. 2 Yoghurt layer Mix the yoghurt and honey and spread evenly over the crust. Freeze for 1 hour. 3 Chocolate layer Put the yoghurt in a microwaveable bowl and microwave for 1 minute. Stir well. 4 Put the chocolate in a different microwaveable…

CHANGING your hair colour or even just adding a bit of colour is a great way to get a new look without going for the chop. But it can be overwhelming – with all the trends and options out there, it can be tricky to decide what to have done. We’ve done the digging for you – here are some of the most popular terms and the differences between them. Babylights Babylights are meant to give hair a sunkissed look, as if it’s been naturally lightened by the sun. The hair is gently lightened, and this makes it hard to detect because the highlights are subtle. The hair is coloured in such a way that it’s brighter at the roots and ends, and it blends with the natural hair colour.…

THIS HAS BEEN A YEAR FROM HELL Q I have found this year extremely traumatic. At the beginning of the year I had high hopes for my life. I was planning my wedding and on the verge of sending out invitations as I was supposed to get married in October. Then, on Valentine’s Day, my fiancé ended our relationship and we called the wedding off. A week later, my grandmother died. Soon afterwards I was invited to visit a close friend in the US, then lockdown happened. In April my dog died. Then I met a guy who I felt could come to mean something to me but two weeks later he told me he was getting married – something that he didn’t disclose when we met. In fact, he’d…

SAGITTARIUS ON RECEIVING GIFTS They love surprises – even accessories for the braai It’s the size of the gift that counts and the bigger the better You can’t go wrong with a travel guide or sports gear A good gift is one that shows a sense of humour A beautiful book on journeys around the world will be appreciated Perfume or aftershave is lost on a sporty Sagittarius Delicate or precious gifts won’t be appreciated.…

WORK MATE Mildred Ratched is the sadistic nurse in Ken Kesey’s 1962 novel, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, adapted for the big screen in 1975, with Jack Nicholson in the lead and Louise Fletcher as Ratched. Sarah Paulson (45) is breathing new life into this character in the psychological thriller series, which unfolds 20 years before events in the novel. Mildred arrives at a psychiatric hospital in California but she’s actually on a dark mission. Sarah’s first thought when she read the script was, “If I don’t get to play this, I’m gonna throw a tantrum in the street”. She immediately got on to the phone to creator Ryan Murphy – she’s played several characters in Murphy’s series American Horror Story – and she ended up getting the part,…

‘IAM always looking for tenderness in the hardest places,” says Douglas Stuart, the New York-based fashion designer whose heart-wrenching debut, Shuggie Bain, has won the 2020 Booker Prize. The novel was rejected 32 times before being accepted for publication. Like Shuggie, Douglas Stuart (44) was born and grew up in poverty in Glasgow and he too had an alcoholic mother to whom he was close. ‘My mom always felt so voiceless, and so I’d sit down and say, “Let me write your book”’ “If you’ve ever loved someone with addiction,” he told vulture. com, “you’ve developed a lot of strategies to save them from themselves and also to protect yourself. My mother always felt so hard done-to in life and so overlooked – she was never voiceless, but she felt…

THE four astronauts who’d travelled in a spacecraft designed and built by private company SpaceX have arrived safely at the International Space Station (ISS). The Crew Dragon, dubbed “Resilience” by the astronauts, docked at the ISS a full 27 hours after launching from Florida in the US. The four astronauts – Americans Mike Hopkins, Victor Glover and Shannon Walker and Japanese astronaut Soichi Noguchi (pictured) – will now spend six months aboard the ISS doing research and maintenance. “The past 27 hours went off without a hitch,” Hopkins, the Crew Dragon’s commander, said from the ISS. “We look forward to the next six months and can’t wait to start.” When their six months are over, another crew will replace them – again on a SpaceX craft. This is a historical…

1〉 Which planet is closest to the sun? 2〉 In which city did the car crash happen in which England’s Princess Diana died? 3〉 Which South African fast bowler was awarded the purple cap in this year’s Indian Premier League for most wickets taken during the tournament? 4〉 Zagreb is the capital city of which European country? 5〉 What is the name of the green paste served with sushi and traditionally made from a type of plant? SOURCES: BBC.COM, THEGUARDIAN.COM, SCIENCEALERT.COM, COLLINSDICTIONARY.COM, EDITION.CNN.COM, NYTIMES.COM, ALJAZEERA.COM, NETWERK24.COM, IFLSCIENCE.COM…

HE’S one of the most incredible players the world of football has ever seen – a miracle worker on the pitch, dazzling with his speed, lightning-fast reflexes and skill set that can only be described as sublime. To many, Diego Maradona was the greatest footballer who ever lived – better even than Brazilian superstar Pelé. Astonishing videos of him performing gravity-defying tricks with the ball did the rounds after news of his death emerged. Flashes of his most brilliant games were played on a loop for hours on almost every news channel and obituaries poured in for a man who was worshipped like a god for his genius. But Maradona was plagued by the demons of darkness too and they came close to destroying him. By the time he died…

THESE have been the very best nine months of my life. Let me introduce myself. My name is Canny St Bruce, however, I am known as Molly and sometimes as Sweet Face. I’m a pampered mini Schnauzer with my very own cosy, soft pillows and beds in the lounge and bedroom. I have my two besties with me all day and every day. How on earth am I going to survive when this comforting time of pandemic is over? They don’t realise that I understand everything. I know that the end is in sight. For them, joy and relief. For me back to having long, lonely mornings. I have to get used to another carer catering to my every need. I only have to look at my “Mom” and “Dad”…

The wait is over! Not only is the latest issue of YOU Blockbusters on sale in stores now, but No 25 is a special double issue! With a whopping 283 puzzles, you can expect even more of the favourites – crosswords, anagrams, codebreakers – as well as a variety of new puzzles. Get stuck into quick crosswords, anagram word search, logic puzzles, two sudoku variations and more! Order yours online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or email johan.terblanche@media24.com to have it delivered.…

A LOT is being made of her race and gender – but these aren’t the only reasons Kamala Harris is shattering barriers. Standing on stage with her Jewish husband, two stepchildren, sister, niece and great-nieces, addressing Americans for the first time as their first Asian, black and female vice president-elect, she showed them what a truly modern family looks like. “To my husband Doug, our children Cole and Ella, my sister Maya, and our whole family, I love you all more than I can express,” she said in an emotional acceptance speech in Delaware, as she and president-elect Joe Biden celebrated their historic victory. Many people’s ears pricked up at the words “our children” – but it sums up just how close her relationship is with her husband’s kids from…

DEMURE DRESSES & SASSY SKIRTS These pieces in playful prints and romantic colours are perfect for an on-the-go fashionista. STATEMENT SHOES Put your best foot forward in eye-catching footwear. LAYER LIKE A PRO From ruffles and dramatic sleeves to light jackets in pops of colour and playful prints, Emily layers anything and everything. These are our fave tops for summer layering. DON’T FORGET THE BAG! A colourful handbag is a must-have accessory for any outfit. ADORABLE ACCESSORIES These extras are so Emily! She always has a trinket or two to amp up her looks. TIP A cute “ringarde” (nerdy) charm or key chain like this one is perfect for that extra touch. Add it to a handbag for some Emily charm. Emily’s wardrobe has loads of Audrey Hepburn-inspired pieces like…

1 KEEP IT SIMPLE The more décor and food you need to arrange for your get-together, the more cost is likely to be involved, while keeping things simple can look (and is!) effortless and chic. This photo (left) from a YOU celebration shoot shows just how elegant keeping food and décor to a minimum can be when you’re hosting family or friends at home. Make full use of any lovely views or pretty areas in your home by placing the dining table close to them. This can be on a stoep, close to a big window, near the pool or in the garden. When it comes to setting the table, a colourful, patterned table cloth can be all you need to make it look great. This way, you can keep…

WHEN a contributing member of a pension fund dies, a death benefit is usually paid out. If the deceased died while still a fund member, the money isn’t part of the deceased’s estate. This means the death benefit payable isn’t subject to estate tax, the executor of the estate has no jurisdiction over it and it’s protected against creditors. The people who decide what happens to retirement money are the trustees of the pension fund. Legally they’re responsible for making sure the death benefits are paid to the deceased’s family or dependants. But how does a dependant claim? 1 SUBMIT THE CORRECT DOCUMENTS WITH THE CLAIM FORM  Every pension fund has a claim form that must be submitted. If the deceased belonged to their employer’s pension fund, the employer will…

PAYBACKTIME John has lent Paul R50 000 but he hasn’t paid it back. “Why don’t you sue him?” a pal asks. “I can’t because I neglected to have him sign an agreement acknowledging the loan,” John explains. “Well then, just send him a letter demanding R100 000.” “But he owes me only R50 000.” “Precisely. He’ll let you know immediately and you’ll have that acknowledgement.” THE RIGHT MOVE A recently divorced, overweight, middle-aged guy is working out at the gym when he spots a pretty young woman walking in. He asks the trainer, “What machine should I use to impress that lady?” The trainer looks at the guy, then at the woman. “Um,” he says. “I’d recommend the ATM in the lobby.” PUZZLING PROBLEM A girl calls her boyfriend and…

Most No 1 hits Their latest track, Sweet Melody, gave them their sixth No 1 hit, making Little Mix the most successful pop group in recent UK history, and just ahead of Clean Bandit and One Direction, who both have five No 1 hits. Their previous No 1s are Wings (2012), Black Magic (2015), Shout Out to My Ex (2018), Woman like Me (2018), and Break Up Song (2020). MTV EMA winners The women – Jesy Nelson (29), Perrie Edwards (27), Leigh-Anne Pinnock (29) and Jade Thirlwall (27) – also won big at the recent MTV European Music Awards (EMAs). They took home best pop and best UK & Ireland act, beating heavyweight rivals such as Dua Lipa, Justin Bieber, Katy Perry and Lady Gaga. We’ve always been the type…

THE UNDOING This six-episode mini-series is based on the book You Should Have Known by Jean Hanff Korelitz and comes with quite a pedigree. It’s written and produced by David E Kelley (The Practice, Big Little Lies), directed by Susanne Bier (The Night Manager, Bird Box) and stars Nicole Kidman and Hugh Grant. Kidman and Grant play wealthy couple Grace and Jonathan Fraser who live in New York with their son, Henry (Noah Jupe). He attends an elite school with a parents’ committee of which Grace is an influential member. But then a gorgeous young mom, Elena Alves (Matilda De Angelis), starts encroaching on Grace’s perfect life by worming her way onto the school’s fundraising committee. After a lavish fundraiser, Elena is found dead, and Grace can’t get hold of…

SHUGGIE BAIN By DOUGLAS STUART, Picador Anyone embarking on this wonderful novel needs to be prepared to have their heart broken and their soul uplifted at the same time. This is the story of Shuggie Bain, a sweet young boy grappling with his sexuality in the unrelentingly grim poverty of 1980s Glasgow. His mother, Agnes, is a beauty, the “Elizabeth Taylor” of her downtrodden community. She’s also a raging alcoholic. Shuggie’s dad is a brutal, philandering taxi driver who abandons Agnes and her children in a mining village outside the city, a viper’s nest of vicious housewives and feral children. Shuggie’s sister escapes the misery but our hero and his artistic older brother Leek spend their lives trying to keep Agnes off the drink. A year of blissful sobriety is…

HOW TO SAY IT: mem-mwaah A memoir is the personal history or story of someone’s life. So a person’s memoir contains anecdotes and memories from their life. It’s not the same as an autobiography, which tells the factual story of the person’s life, from beginning to end. If someone’s life were turned into a movie, you could say a biography shows everything, while a memoir shows only certain scenes. BY THE NUMBERS 7 The number of Formula 1 world champion titles British racer Lewis Hamilton has under his belt. After winning this year’s Formula 1 series, Hamilton is now equal to former racer Michael Schumacher. The British racer won his first F1 title in 2008 while he was still racing for McLaren. He joined Mercedes in 2013 and won the…

YOU’VE probably played with store-bought bubble sets before. But these sets usually only produce small bubbles. So why bother with that if you can create your own super-sized bubbles? Here’s how you can make your own giant bubbles using a few simple items. YOU’LL NEED YOUR WAND STEP 1 Get an adult to drill a small hole in the end of each wooden rod or they can use an awl. Then screw in the two screw eyes into these holes. STEP 2 1. Tie the ends of the 75cm piece of string to the screw eyes in the wooden rods. 2. Tie one end of the 120cm piece of string to the screw eye in one of the wooden rods. 3. Now thread your washers or bolts onto this longer…

PAIN and trauma have been his constant companion almost all his life yet a smile is seldom far from his face. Perched on a chair between his parents, Reef Carneson grins, waves at us on the other side of the computer screen and giggles shyly before burying his bandaged head in his dad’s chest. His parents, Ryan and Lydia (both 41), are all smiles too as we catch up with them in the US city of Cincinnati via a video call. The family has shared their journey with YOU for many years, ever since Reef (now 12) was diagnosed with leukaemia as a baby and became South Africa’s youngest bone marrow transplant patient at just 11 months. “When we first got Reef’s diagnosis as a baby, we didn’t know how…

FOR those who don’t know the rules, chess can seem boring – a long, slow game where two players seem to stare at the board more than move the pieces. But that was before a Netflix show came along and put the charm into chess, making it as thrilling as a nail-biting Wimbledon final – and it doesn’t matter if you don’t know a king from a rook or a queen from a pawn. The Queen’s Gambit is one of the shows reigning supreme on the streaming giant – and a lot of the credit can be heaped on the delicate shoulders of Anya Taylor-Joy, the actress who plays the brilliant but troubled chess prodigy Beth Harmon. Beth, an enigmatic orphan, rises to the top of the male-dominated game in…

Mommy’s boy! Baby ROME is growing up so fast! Locnville muso BRIAN CHAPLIN and his partner, SIMONE DE KOCK, welcomed their bundle of joy in May. While initially he had fans divided over who he most resembles, he’s the spitting image of his mom these days. And we have the pics to prove it! Count-down with Rowlene She’s best known for her smooth vocals on Nasty C’s hit song Send Me Away and now Rowlene has dropped her debut album. We get to know the R&B singer from Cape Town with a game of count-down. 5 minutes to make yourself something to eat, what do you make? Two-minute noodles. I always have noodles because I feel I make the best noodles the way I add the spice afterward.…