Innholdsfortegnelse for 9/24/2020 i You South Africa

I RECENTLY started – well more like tried to start, really – to meditate. I need to find a way to calm my mind because there’s just always so much going on. I’m on a find-ways-to-stress-less mission thanks to 2020. It’s one of the reasons I loved the story on page 102, especially the bits about realising there’ll always be too much to do and that it’s better to choose “enlargement” over happiness. And it’s why I pored over the YOU Wellness magazine, which is in stores now. There are so many great features that helped me to reframe how I think about stress and my overall health. And plenty of practical tips on finding that elusive balance. It’s a magazine for our time – who doesn’t want to be…

SO THIS is it then: Harry and Meghan have officially divorced the royal family and are moving full steam ahead, liberated from the gilded chains that bound them to The Firm. And as was to be expected, the couple were never going to simply slink off into a life of quiet simplicity. They may want freedom but that doesn’t mean they want anonymity. Making a difference in the world, Sussex style, means high-profile projects and mega-bucks deals – all the while living in Hollywood-style grandeur in one of the most aesthetically pleasing pockets of America. There’s been plenty of talk they’re styling themselves on Barack and Michelle Obama, who have blazed a trail with highly successful projects since leaving the White House. We take a closer look. HOW THE ‘DIVORCE’…

‘The people we were visiting said their dog wasn’t a problem’ FOR many people, the hard lockdown was nothing short of an ordeal – but for Mariette Odendaal, it was a blessing in disguise. It meant she rarely needed to leave the sanctuary of her home, that she could hole up with her family and take some time out from the real world – a world of stares and whispers, cruel comments, pointing and sniggering. It was also a break from a world full of dogs and, although Mariette used to love the animals, she finds it difficult to trust them now. And it’s little wonder when you hear her story. Four years ago, a Staffordshire terrier ripped off a chunk of her nose at a braai, triggering a nightmare…

GREECE LAMB SAUSAGE WITH TZATZIKI, FETA AND TOMATOES SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 15 MIN MARINATING: 30 MIN COOKING: 15-20 MIN 30ml (2T) tandoori paste 30ml (2T) plain double-cream yoghurt 500-800g lamb sausages TZATZIKI 250ml (1c) plain double-cream yoghurt ½ cucumber, seeds removed and grated a few sprigs fresh mint, chopped salt and black pepper TOMATOES 300g Roma tomatoes, halved 1 round feta, cubed a handful fresh parsley, chopped salt and black pepper 30ml (2T) balsamic vinegar TO SERVE  4-6 hot dog rolls 1 round feta 1 In a bowl, mix the tandoori paste and yoghurt. Add the sausages and mix well. Cover in cling-film and marinate for 30 minutes in the fridge. 2 Tzatziki Mix all the ingredients and season. Set aside. 3 Tomatoes Mix all the ingredients and set aside.…

DOIHAVEA DESTRUCTIVE SIDE TO MY PERSONALITY? Q I had a very good childhood and did really well at school, was head prefect in both primary school and high school, and excelled in my chosen sport. I even achieved provincial colours. I am adopted and have a good relationship with my parents. I’ve never felt the need to look for my biological mother as I love my adoptive parents to bits. I’m extremely happy in my job and work hard every day. Lockdown was the only time I couldn’t work full-time, but other than that I’ve worked hard all my life and haven’t taken a holiday for years. I do not allow myself to wind down. My problem is that sometimes when I drink I go overboard and drink far too…

LIBRA 23 SEPT – 22 OCT Have some patience with your partner You seem to have the upper hand in a relationship matter that threatens to disturb the peace. Have sympathy for your partner, who seems to have a lot on their plate right now. Once you can identify that they’re in need of a sparring partner, you may choose to let the whole thing blow over without having to engage in a combat. You can then congratulate yourself for staying level-headed in a time of emotional turmoil. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 45, 31, 10, 6, 14, 3 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV  Mercury, the cosmic messenger, moves into your sign this week, which ought to give you exceptional clarity of thought. You’ll find this helpful to diffuse some tension…

9-1-1: LONE STAR SEASON 1 Drama series. Co-created by Ryan Murphy, Brad Falchuk and Tim Minear, who worked together on American Horror Story, this spinoff of the popular drama series 9-1-1 stars Rob Lowe (Parks and Recreation) as a New York firefighter who relocates to Austin, Texas, where he’s tasked with putting together an entirely new squad following a tragedy. The cast includes Liv Tyler (Lord of the Rings) as a paramedic trying to locate her sister, who’s been missing for three years. 9-1-1: Lonestar was one of the 10 most-streamed shows on DStv Now in the first half of 2020, and the highest-rated new series of the year for its parent network, FOX, which recently announced that it’s been renewed for a second season. The show has a 73%…

Candlish has specialised in domestic thrillers that have a property angle – something a little different to make her stand out in a packed thriller genre. In her latest, Jamie and Clare are a Generation X couple who befriend Kit and Melia, millennials who move to their upmarket area. Kit and Melia are in awe of the older couple’s four-storey Georgian townhouse that they’d never be able to afford. The house, their envy and debt are recurring themes as their lives become entangled. The story starts about a year after the couples meet, with Jamie and Kit having become daily co-commuters on the river bus along the Thames. But one day Kit doesn’t pitch up for the morning commute and when Jamie arrives at his stop, the police are waiting…

Hiero- A writing system consisting of symbols or glyphs pictures that represent words and sounds. Cuneiform One of the earliest writing systems using writing wedge-shaped imprints. Papyrus A type of reed growing along the Nile River and used to make paper. Demotic A newer, simplified writing system that took script less time to write than hieroglyphs. Rosetta Scientists used it to decode hieroglyphs. It Stone was discovered in 1799 and contained the same piece of text written in Egyptian hieroglyphs, demotic script and Greek. Stylus A writing tool with a shaped tip used to make imprints in clay.…

WEDDING BELLS FOR LILY ALLEN ‘She has been glowing and fizzing about the romance’– A FRIEND HOW do you hold a wedding with a difference in a pandemic? If you’re LILY ALLEN, you go to Las Vegas – more specifically the legendary Graceland Chapel – and get a renowned Elvis Presley impersonator to serenade you down the aisle. For her wedding to Stranger Things star DAVID HARBOUR, the 35-year-old wore a ’60s-style Dior dress with suede platforms and carried a bouquet of mauve and peach roses and baby’s-breath. And for the wedding banquet? Lily’s wedding party – which included daughters MARNIE (7) and ETHEL (8) – tucked into a feast of burgers and chips while seated outside a local fast-food joint. Despite being seriously no-frills, the happy nuptials are…

MAD as a March hare – that’s no doubt how some people might regard him. And you can’t blame them: when it comes to unconventional, this guy is seriously fur real. From the street, his property in Cape Town’s northern suburbs looks ordinary enough – house, wall, small front yard. But the illusion hip-hops off as soon as he opens the front door. Jeremy Acton, leader of the Dagga Party, unapologetic muncher of rabbit meat. “Come in, come in,” he says jovially. “I have something in the ove ” As you walk in, you’re hit by a heavy smell of marijuana. Three hounds come to greet us: Brenda, a 12-year-old Dachshund; Timmy, a six-year-old Africanis; and eight-year-old Border collie Lady. Jeremy (56) calls her his “sheep dog”, since he’s already…

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TABLETOP & STORAGE ACCESSORIES PICNICKING: THE BASICS ■ Keep a checklist of things you need (including that bottle opener!) and keep it for each time you pack for a picnic. ■ If the picnic is close to your house and doesn’t involve a long hike, a simple hamper is perfect. Use a cooler and backpack if it’s a longer walk. ■ A set picnic table should include disposable or plastic plates, cups, utensils and paper napkins. You can serve food straight from containers. ■ Ensure comfort by including a blanket or two, scatter cushions and throws. ■ Trays add a stable place to keep cups and plates from toppling over. ■ A simple tablecloth or runner adds a touch of elegance. ■ Include garbage bags. You can use them for…

YOU haven’t set foot in the office for months and have instead been doing all your work from home. So does this mean you can claim certain expenses back from the taxman? It depends, says Suzanne Marais, a chartered accountant from Cape Town. According to the Income Tax Act (ITA), certain expenses are tax deductible. But you need to meet certain legal requirements. These requirements apply whether you’ve always worked from home, whether you work flexible hours or because you’ve had to temporarily work from home due to lockdown. WHAT ARE THE REQUIREMENTS? For people with a permanent position and who aren’t self-employed, home office costs can be claimed on the condition that the employee: ■ Performs their duties mainly in their home office (more than 50% of the work)…

■ As a boss, they’re fair and treat everyone as equals ■ As an employee, they’re friendly and easy to get along with ■ As a colleague, they’re good listeners and offer objective opinions ■ Their management style is fair and people-orientated ■ Their workspace is elegant and there’s always art on the wall ■ At the office party, they’re charming and the soul of the party ■ Their pay-cheque is spent on beautiful things and fine wine…

GRETEL & HANSEL Horror. In this retelling of the classic Grimm brothers’ fairytale, Gretel (Sophia Lillis from It) – a girl on the cusp of womanhood – and her younger brother, Hansel (Samuel J Leakey), travel into an eerie forest in search of a new home after their mother, driven mad by the death of her husband, banishes them from their home. There they stumble onto the house of a creepy yet seemingly kind witch (Star Trek: First Contact’s Alice Krige) who takes them in and soon starts training Gretel in the art of witchcraft. In contrast to the film’s marketing, this is more fantasy than horror – an atmospheric coming-of-age story that holds little scares but lots of bloody menace. Breathtaking cinematography and set design teamed with great performances…

BRING out the popcorn! After months of relying on the small screen for our movie fix, cinemas are opening their doors and die-hard fans of silver-screen magic are trickling back to the hallowed halls of darkness and delight. But spare a thought for the first major big-budget, post-hard-lock-down extravaganza – because a lot was resting on its celluloid shoulders. Tenet is its name, acclaimed filmmaker Christopher Nolan is the director, and the star is one of the hottest tickets in showbiz right now. John David Washington stars as a super-cool CIA agent known as The Protagonist who has to stop a Russian oligarch (Kenneth Branagh) from destroying the world. It’s an edge-of-your-seat science-fiction thriller in which our hero has to bend time to prevent the outbreak of World War 3.…

EVERY appliance in the kitchen is perfectly positioned and there isn’t a cushion out of place on the couch. She’s a stickler for neatness, Denise Zimba admits as she welcomes us into the stylish apartment she shares with her husband and one-year-old daughter in Vredehoek, Cape Town. Even the toys in the baby’s play area are in what she calls an organised mess. This is her happy place – the place she spends with her loved ones, far from the public eye. Denise may have made a name for herself as the champagne-swilling party queen on The Wedding Bashers but being a mom brings her the greatest joy. Her daughter, Leah Lilli-Rose Schlichtig – or Dookie as she’s nicknamed her – clambers onto her mom’s lap for a cuddle. Denise…

BRIDGET MARSHALL It was all about timing for the season two fan favourite. Although she met rugby player Kobus de Kock a few years ago, they only hit it off recently. “We just picked up where we left off.” JESSICA ROSS She wasn’t ready to let anyone in after having her heart broken but Jess R says boyfriend Brent Thompson’s patience won her over. “I can’t wait to continue building a life with you,” she captioned this pic. JESSICA CALDER There was an instant contection between Jessica C and Bauke Hanekom, who also went looking for love as a contestant on an Afrikaans dating show. It happened quickly but “when you know, you know."…

SHARING IS CARING MY BOYFRIEND and I always celebrate our anniversary by having a small picnic in the park every year in spring. He spoils me with red roses, which provokes feelings of love and happiness in me. But last year he was working in faraway town on our anniversary. We missed each other so much on the day we video-called and exchanged romantic text messages all day long. But that wasn’t enough somehow. When I tried to figure out what was missing, I realised I missed the bouquet of red roses he always gave me. When I explained this to him he sent me the money to buy the flowers for myself. I went to the florist and bought myself some red roses. What I found odd was that…

FOR 20 years she suffered the verbal abuse in silence, trying to convince herself that people in the public eye often have their share of criticism and insults. After all, her two decades on 7de Laan have taught her fame comes with both perks and pitfalls. Each new incident of cyberbullying hurt more than the last but Ingrid Paulus, aka Vanessa Meintjies on the popular SABC2 soap, bore it with stoicism. But no longer. In a frank interview with YOU, Ingrid says the turning point came when she recently became a mom for a second time at 42. She couldn’t keep quiet any longer – not if she had any hope of being a positive role model to her two daughters. So when she came across the umpteenth attack on…

With the recent brutal killing of George Floyd by police officers in the US, the time is ripe for this mini-series based on real events. In 1989, after a white female jogger, Trisha Meili (Alexandra Templer), is attacked and raped in New York’s Central Park, five innocent, black men are charged with the crime. The injustice that ensues is harrowing and their case is relevant for anyone who doesn’t understand white privilege, bias or the Black Lives Matter movement. We follow the youngsters – dubbed the Central Park Five: Kevin Richardson (played by Asante Blackk as a teen and Justin Cunningham as an adult), Raymond Santana (Marquis Rodriguez as a teen and Freddy Miyares as an adult), Antron McCray (Caleel Harris as a teen and Jovan Adepo as an adult),…

BEING LAZY TAKES ENERGY If you’re an adult male who weighs 82kg and you do nothing but sit in that chair for the next 24 hours, your body will expend about 7 100 kilojoules. That’s a lot. Our bodies are constantly making trade-offs that have been selected over millions of generations. One of the most fundamental is whether to spend precious kilojoules being physically active. If you climb a mountain, you’ll have less energy to spend on maintenance, storing fat and (perhaps) reproducing. Stated simply, we evolved to be as inactive as possible. No sensible adult hunter-gatherer wastes more than 2 000 kilojoules running a couple of kilometres just for kicks. IT’S NATURAL TO SIT A growing chorus of experts condemns sitting as a modern scourge. Standing desks are all…