Innholdsfortegnelse for 8/6/2020 i You South Africa

THEY should be in school; they should be at home. It’s better this way; it’s easier that way. We should save the school year and their futures; we should save lives so that they have futures. Parents can’t cope with the strain; parents can’t cope with the health fears. The debates raging around whether schools should reopen is as robust as ever. And the only certainty around the issue of whether kids should be in school is that everything is uncertain. There are no easy answers and both sides have strong, valid arguments. It’s not an easy one to clear up and it’s no surprise many parents are looking at home-schooling as an option. But it’s not an easy fix to this complex problem and there are so many factors…

When you’re admitted to hospital you feel it’s the end, that you’ll never leave the place. It’s lonely and scary. You think, “I’ll never see my loved ones again”. You look around and realise how quiet everyone is, because all that matters is where your next breath will come from. You’re assailed by people in face shields, goggles and masks and you really have no idea who they are but you’re trusting them with your life. They try to install drips. I must have had more than 20 drips. They sometimes worked. More often than not they burnt, as steroids and precious antibiotics were flushed into the tissue rather than a vein but you endure it as all that matters is that next breath. Then the diarrhoea starts. No one…

BEEF, MUSHROOM AND SORGHUM POT Meat on the bone provides the most robust flavour to any pot. You can buy prepared and packaged potjiekos meat or stewing meat from your local supermarket. SERVES 6 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 2½ TO 3 HOURS 250ml (1c) sorghum 1kg stewing beef (on the bone) salt and freshly ground pepper 125ml (½c) flour 30ml (2T) oil 3 leeks, well rinsed and sliced into rings 250g mushrooms, quartered 250ml (1c) red wine 750ml (3c) beef stock 150g baby carrots TO SERVE handful fresh basil extra roasted leeks (optional) Make a fire with enough coals for potjiekos. If you need a three-legged stand for your potjie, place it over the coals. Make a side fire for extra coals if needed. Keep your pot handy. 1 Cook…

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I FIND MYSELF IN A HUGE MESS Q I’m in a mess and don’t know how to get out of it. A few months before lockdown I started an affair with my secretary. She’s attractive and our sexual encounters were daring and exciting. But I don’t love her. Strange as it might seem to say, I love my wife and prefer her. Now my secretary has threatened that if I end the affair she’ll contact my wife and even show her a video, which she recorded without my knowledge while we were having sex. During lockdown my relationship with my wife gained new depths and our sex-life improved dramatically. I don’t want to upset everything now by telling my wife about the affair. At the same time, I’m so disgusted…

IT FEELS as if you’re drowning in debt. You’ve fallen so far behind with your repayments you have no idea how you’re ever going to catch up. Debt counselling can help. A qualified counsellor draws up a repayment plan for you to cover your monthly debts while still affording your living expenses – but you’re not allowed to incur new debt. Also, creditors may not repossess your assets, giving you breathing room to recov1 HOW IT WORKS Debt counselling is a formal process regulated by the National Credit Act. The debt counsellor negotiates with creditors on your behalf to come up with a repayment plan. Those undergoing this debt review take an average of five years to complete all repayments. 2 WHO’S ELIGIBLE? You must be able to prove you…

BIRD ACT A man walks into a theatrical agent’s office and asks if he can do an audition. “Fine,” says the agent, “what sort of act do you do?” “I do bird impressions,” says the man. “No, I don’t want that,” the agent says, “I’ve got three bird impressionists on my books already.” “Oh, all right,” says the man and flies out of the window. UNEXPECTED ANSWERS ■ What did the hungry computer eat? Chips, one byte at a time. ■ How does a bird with a broken wing land safely? With a sparrow-chute. ■ What fish can you see in the sky? A starfish. ■ Why are skeletons so calm? Because nothing gets under their skin. ■ What day of the week do fish hate? Fry-day. DOCTOR’S OFFICE Patient:…

■ Her biggest inspiration is actor Will Smith. “He’s someone who’s done it all, all different types of roles and genres, TV, film. That’s what I’m interested in.” ■ KiKi spent months in the gym before filming started on The Old Guard to get fighting fit. She also had tactical, military and weapons training. ■ She ended up with bruises from the fight scenes but says it was nothing that would put her off doing more action films. And there was an upside – Charlize gave her “a really good bottle of tequila” after accidentally kicking her in the shin.…

‘I love creating music. So I feel blessed and grateful and happy that I could just do it like that’ New music The 21-year-old, whom we last heard on DJ duo Jax Jones and Martin Solveig’s dance track All Day and Night, says Selfish is her “most personal and intimate song” yet. “Shouldn’t love you but I couldn’t help it. Had a feeling that you never felt it, I always knew you were too damn selfish,” she laments in the chorus. It’s been her “most difficult” song to write, she admits, and it’s rumoured to be about her on-off boyfriend, Zack Bia, who she’s dated for two years. Debut album Her debut album, Life Support – the follow-up to her 2018 EP As She Pleases – is set to drop…

A mom and her 12-year-old son on the run across America in the aftermath of a terrible pandemic – what sparked the idea for this novel? My novelist friend Sarah Lotz suggested doing a world-without-men story. That got me thinking about how at first glance that would seem like a much kinder, saner, less violent place, but as women we’re also shaped by society, so are just as capable as men of greed, self-interest, violence and evil. I really liked the fact that although it’s set in the US, its main characters are South African. What made you decide to do this? I needed them to be isolated. If I went on the run [in SA], I’d have any number of friends who’d have my back, who’d give me shelter…

1 Which African country does this flag belong to? 2 What’s the name of Nelson Mandela and Winnie Madikizela Mandela’s daughter who’d been the SA ambassador to Denmark and died last month? 3 Which SA-born entrepreneur owns US electric car manufacturer Tesla? 4 Oxygen accounts for what percentage of Earth’s atmosphere? 5 JRR Tolkien is the author of which well-known series of books, also turned into a movie series?…

PLAYING in the sunlight with his friends was a favourite childhood pastime. Like any other pre-schooler, he could play outside for hours without a care in the world. But when he was five years old, just weeks before he’d been set to start going to school, a “small white dot” appeared on the back of his neck. The small dot grew and grew. “White liver”, the people around Chad Esau started calling it. That was when the sunshine that had brought him so much joy as a youngster became his biggest foe. Chad was diagnosed with vitiligo, a condition in which the skin loses its pigment, resulting in white patches on otherwise darker skin. “Suddenly, I couldn’t play outside with my friends anymore. I didn’t understand why,” Chad (22) tells…

SHE beams radiantly as she stands among the lush greenery of the Clarence House gardens, her royal blue dress emphasising the twinkle in her eye. You’ve got to hand it to Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall – she was once reviled as the world’s most famous “other woman”. But within the space of 25 years – without even really seeming to try – she’s managed to win the British public over. In fact, Prince Charles’ wife is now such an integral part of The Firm that she’s expected to release an annual official birthday portrait just like the queen and all the other senior royals. The official portrait released to mark Camilla’s 73rd birthday is telling because it shows just how comfortable she feels in her role. Instead of getting dolled…

TV PERSONALITY LALLA HIRAYAMA These are a few of my top choices: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, The 4-hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, The Richest Man in Babylon by George S Clason and Wishes Fulfilled by Dr Wayne Dyer. These books have had an impact on me in many ways – from the way I perceive my life’s journey to money, love, work and my passions. ACTRESS NICOLE BESSICK How to Manage Your Money Like a F*cking Grown Up by Sam Beckbessinger is my favourite book of all time! Essentially, it’s a real-world instruction manual on how money really works. It provides a step-by-step process on how to go from in the red to money pro in no time! PROTEAS CRICKETER…

Ellie dishes on rift with mom ELLIE GOULDING has shared some insight into her difficult relationship with her mother, TRACEY GOULDING, admitting it’s far from “fixable”. The singer, who married art dealer Caspar Jopling (28) in August last year, admitted to not having had any contact with her mom since the wedding. “It’s frustrating because I really want to talk to you about it. But she [Tracey] became quite threatening when I did talk about her in the press. Discussing her was a disaster,” the 33-year-old told a journalist from The Independent. The Close to Me singer has since sought help to cope with the strained relationship, which has been particularly fraught since Tracey was accused of posting a racially insensitive tweet earlier this year. “I’ve done a lot of…

Get ready for next-level puzzle fun with the 24th issue of YOU Blockbusters. The new issue has all the brain games you love – crosswords, codebreakers, anagrams, sudoku and so much more – plus an added word search pull-out section of 88 games for even more entertainment. YOU Blockbusters No 24 is available in stores, online at youstore.co.za or you can contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@media24.com and have it delivered straight to your door. Do you have ideas for us? See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas awessels@media24.com Fiction stories@you.co.za Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes recipes@you.co.za…

ACHAOTIC election rally, manic tweets, bizarre claims, paranoia – even by Kanye West’s standards, this meltdown has been quite spectacular. Stunned onlookers have been scratching their heads to make sense of it all. Were his outrageous outpourings a cunning ploy to secure his place in the upcoming US presidential poll? A publicity stunt to promote his new album? Or simply a man having a mental health crisis while the world watched? It could, of course, be all of the above – but the latter definitely ticks the “yes” box. The 43-year-old rapper has spoken out about his struggle with bipolar disorder before and wife Kim Kardashian “knows he’s sick”, a friend says. But that hasn’t stopped her from being livid with her husband of six years – and many believe…

INSIDE Siya Kolisi’s home is a photo of his mother when she was 17. Her skin is smooth and free from the scars she’d later bear from beatings at the hands of abusive partners. Siya remembers the anguished cries of his mother when he lay awake at night as a young boy, powerless and terrified by the unseen trauma being meted out in the next room. “I carry that pain with me today,” the Rugby World Cup-winning Springbok captain says over Zoom, sitting holding hands with his wife, Rachel, on the sofa of their Cape Town home . “But that’s why I’m speaking out now,” he declares. “That’s why I’m using my platform. I can’t stay silent any longer. Rachel gives me courage. She lets me know I’m more than…

The modest dresser Aqeelah Harron Ally (30) Digital creator @fashionbreed What influences your style? Instagram and my struggles as a modest dresser. I also draw inspiration from old, iconic celeb looks. Fashion is after all a cycle. Everything comes back! Did you always want to become an influencer? I got my degree in film, media and drama from the University of Cape Town in 2010. That same year I started my blog (fashionbreed.co.za) because I had dreams of becoming a magazine fashion editor. I then did a fashion magazine internship, worked for an e-commerce store and still kept blogging. It was becoming evident that fashion media was shifting online – and it’s paid off in my career. What’s the key to your success? I love improving in every area of…

HOME-SCHOOLING isn’t for everyone. But how do you know if it’s for you? The fear of Covid-19 and a disrupted school year still looms large, so it’s understandable you’d want to know what your options are. Join our panel of experts as they unpack the legal, social, practical and emotional impact of homeschooling. YOU’s Jane Vorster will host this event at which you’ll be able to have direct interaction with the experts. DATE Saturday, 8 August 2020 TIME 11am to 12.30pm COST R80 TICKETS Via Computicket…

LEO 22 JULY – 22 AUGUST Focus on being a better version of yourself With the Sun now in your sign, the scene is set for personal development. You might want to improve the health of body, mind and soul, increase your material wealth, extend your creative expertise or cultivate your leadership potential. Whether it means having to commit to a different lifestyle, drawing up a budget, or signing up for learning courses, do a bit of soul searching and get the ball rolling. Now’s the time to be proactive. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 45, 20, 35, 14, 1, 12 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEPT  It’s a week in which to pay attention to traits and habits that may be self-sabotaging and could stand in the way of your making…

THURSDAY ■ THE DARK TOWER ★★ 2017, 95 min, 13V, e.tv, 23:45. Fantasy action. A gunslinger and a mysterious man in black are locked in a centuries-old battle. Idris Elba. ■ WILDLIFE ★★★★ 2018, 105 min, 13SVL, M-Net, 02:40. Drama. In 1960 Montana, USA, a teenage boy tries to come to terms with his parents’ failing marriage. Carey Mulligan. ■ A HOLIDAY CHANGE ★★ 2019, 87 min, PG, M-Net, 04:25. Drama. After a single mom’s son tries to shoplift from their neighbour’s store, the neighbour lets him work off his debt. Vanessa Simmons, Aaron Grady. FRIDAY ■ DUMA ★★★★ 2005, 100 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Adventure. A South African boy bonds with an orphaned baby cheetah. Alexander Michaletos. ■ POLICE STORY 3: SUPERCOP ★★★★ 1992, 91 min, 16V, SABC1, 21:00.…

THE IMPERFECT STORM WALE The rapper’s new six-track EP was recorded with “a revolutionary spark” and his “ancestor’s spirit”. The provocative new release’s cover art features a scene from the recent Black Lives Matter protests in Los Angeles, of smoke and flames rising from a burning street sign in the middle of a road representing “the coming storm”. Standout tracks include the opener, Movin’ Different, about attitudes behind the fight for equality and justice; and the R&B-inspired Empty Wishing Well, about surviving a pandemic and life itself. It’s a gut-punching musical masterpiece that vividly captures the turbulence of our tortured times.…

AFTERLAND By LAUREN BEUKES UMUZI I have to admit that I wasn’t sure I wanted to read this novel about a killer virus that sweeps the world, wiping out millions. It all felt a little too close to home. But I’m glad I got over my reservations because Lauren Beukes’ latest offering is one of her best ever. Set in the near future, a weird global pandemic has swept over the world, wiping out most of the male population. But for some mysterious reason 12-year-old Miles survived. He’s now on the run, dressed as a girl, across a radically changed America with his mother, Cole. As one of the last living males, the young South African boy is suddenly viewed as a hot commodity and there are many people who…

HOW TO SAY IT: kuh-ko-fuh-nee A cacophony is a loud, harsh mixture of clashing sounds that’s unpleasant to listen to – in other words sounds that are not harmonious. The word’s origin comes from combining two Greek words: “kakos” which means “bad” or “evil”, and “phone” which means voice. The Greek word “kakophonos” means “harsh-sounding”. BY THE NUMBERS 41 The number of rhino horns customs officials recently confiscated at OR Tambo Airport in Johannesburg. Someone tried smuggling the horns out of the country by claiming they were art. The horns, destined for Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia, are valued at more than R115 billion. Rhino horns, made of the same substance as human nails and hair, are poached and sold to people who believe they have medicinal properties. Every year about…

IT’S often a dirty secret, a scourge that can turn every cough, laugh or sudden movement into disaster. For many women, incontinence is a shame to be suffered in silence, a “down-there” problem they can’t bear to talk about. Yet it shouldn’t be a taboo – and the author of a new book is hoping to dispel the distress around it. PMSL Or How I Literally Pissed Myself Laughing by British writer Luce Brett is a candid memoir of how her body changed after childbirth into something that could no longer be trusted. Incontinence is an issue that can lead to depression and the breakdown of marriages but there is help out there, Luce says. And hope. LIKE many women, before motherhood incontinence was something I was largely ignorant about.…

I have five children, 15 grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren but only two phone me to find out how I am. I’ve always been kind to them and given birthday pressies and cards. But it seems I don’t exist. When my husband was alive they spoke to us but since his death 10 years ago nothing for Ouma. What a difference a call or text would make. VERY LONELY OUMA, EMAIL Please stop littering. We’re living in a very scary time. Can’t we at least have cleanliness and beauty around us? WENDY, MIDRAND Prince Harry is such a disappointment. Harry himself is believed to have said: “What Meghan wants Meghan gets.” It must be a mammoth disappointment for his grandparents, the queen and Prince Philip. American divorcees are bad news for…

‘Now that I’m older I know I’m not missing out on anything’ IF SHE could have a conversation with her 20-year-old self, she’d tell her this: “Don’t have a nervous breakdown about it. Getting older really isn’t that bad.” She was always in such a rush to get things done, the thought of the constantly ticking clock driving her to do more, be more and push, push, push. “But now I’d tell that person to calm down and not hit the Chardonnay too hard,” she says. “Being in your 40s is really okay.” Especially if you’re Charlize Theron – one of South Africa’s finest exports, a beauty with old-school Hollywood glamour and an actress with the ability to change things up like a chameleon. Just take her latest project, the…

Bailey Schneider Radio personality What are your beauty must-haves? I’m obsessed with Urban Decay’s eye palettes and bronzers. Sorbet also has a fantastic BB cream. Essence has fantastic eyeliners and brow kits, and Clarins has the most amazing mascaras. What’s your statement look? I love a smoky eye, usually in browns and coppers. There’s also something powerful about boldly coloured lips. Who’s your beauty icon? Musician Alicia Keys. What’s the one makeup look you wouldn’t try? I’m not a fan of green and blue lipsticks. Which beauty trend do you love but aren’t brave enough to try? I’d love to colour my hair in bright mermaid colours. Share some of your beauty hacks I love coconut oil for everything – hair mask, makeup remover, cuticle oil and even moisturiser! For…

Certain types of exercise could help when you’re feeling specific emotions, but it’s also important to make physical activity part of your life so you can reap all its rewards – from helping you manage stress and boosting your mood to reducing your risk of chronic disease, strengthening your bones and aiding weight management. For many people just getting started is a major hurdle, and finding the motivation to keep exercising can also be a problem. Here are some tips that might help. Find what works for you. “You have to do something that makes you happy, otherwise you’ll give up after a while,” says yoga teacher Johannes de Villiers. “Torturing yourself isn’t sustainable.” Personal trainer and running instructor Chantel Nienaber agrees. “You’ll never find joy in an activity if…

Wendy Young, author, blogger and mom to four home-schooled graduates, will address the practical aspects of teaching your kids yourself. Christopher Cordeiro, founder of LearnFree, Pestalozzi Trust consultant and home-schooling father of five, will look at the legal aspects you need to take into account. Dr Renuka Ramroop,expert in natural learning, author, research associate at the University of Limpopo and home-schooling mom of two, will unpack the natural-learning approach favoured by many home-schoolers. MantŠe Tshikhovhokhovho, founder of NGO Thekgo, full-time software engineer and homeschooling mother of four, will delve into what it’s like to home-school a larger family. Shaamiela Safodien, psychological counsellor and special-needs homeschooling mom of two, will speak about homeschooling kids with special needs.…

Life hasn’t been easy this past while so comfort food has become a staple on many menus. But as we face more months staying indoors, trying to cope with the effects of Covid-19, it might be time to start getting our bodies fighting fit so we can deal with any challenges that come our way. Our specially designed plan will help you to eat better and move better, leading to overall wellness. WE’LL HELP YOU ■ Stay on track with a nourishing eating plan designed by a dietician. ■ Burn fat with a personal trainer-approved workout plan ONLY R499! SIGN UP NOW As soon as you sign up, you’ll receive ■ A 12-week muscle-toning exercise plan ■ Easy-to-follow video demos of every move ■ A 12-week kilojoule-controlled eating plan ■…

BLOODSHOT Sci-fi action. Based on the superhero comic of the same name, this action flick follows ex-soldier Ray Garrison aka Bloodshot (Vin Diesel) as he seeks vengeance for his wife’s murder. Pretty straightforward – except Ray died in combat and now suffers from amnesia. His body was donated to a tech company that develops cybernetic enhancements and Bloodshot is their crowning achievement. Injected with microscopic machines that continually regenerate his body from injuries, he’s an unstoppable force – as his enemies soon learn. But there’s more going on than Ray realises and he’ll need help if he’s to get revenge. While the film does a few interesting things playing with Ray’s memories and powers, tiresome action sequences and one-dimensional characters sink it. Guy Pearce (Memento) – playing a tech genius…

■ Talk to a friend. Talking to someone you trust helps to give you perspective and if they’ve experienced something similar, you can learn from it. ■ Eat healthily, exercise and get fresh air and enough sleep. Feeling physically strong and being healthy makes it easier to deal with emotions. ■ Try not to eat just because you’re feeling worried or anxious. If you do, you’re not dealing with the emotions but creating a distraction that will bring only temporary relief. ■ Get to know yourself. Different personality types handle emotions differently. Find out what your personality type is. ■ Write down your feelings and concerns. When you write, you have to organise your thoughts. Sometimes that’s all you need to do in order to understand your emotions and have…

HACKERS TARGET TWITTER ACCOUNTS OF THE FAMOUS Last month, hackers gained access to the Twitter accounts of several high-profile personalities, posting a message requesting that bitcoin (a type of cyber currency) be sent to a certain address. Victims of the hack included former US president Barack Obama and billionaires Elon Musk and Bill Gates. Twitter deactivated a number of accounts while fixing the problem. But experts are concerned by the incident, saying Twitter isn’t doing enough to protect user privacy.…

HE SEEMED to be riding an escalator that was going only one way – straight to the top. His tech ventures had taken off to such an extent he was called the Elon Musk of the developing world and he had the lifestyle to show for it – including a multimillion dollar apartment in one of the trendiest parts of Manhattan. Fahim Saleh was just 33 yet everything he touched seemed to turn to gold. Among other things he was the CEO of a motorbike-hailing app and he’d made a fair fortune. He was a likeable guy, open-faced, often smiling, pleasant to know. ‘This guy is the new American Psycho, only dumber’ So when he disappeared recently many people were worried about him – and it turns out they had…

ALL ABOUT RYLE Expresso presenter and Springbok athlete RYLE DE MORNY recently made his acting debut on the hit Netflix series Blood & Water. We chatted to the hunky 31-year-old to find out what makes him tick. Three things you can’t live without? My hiking shoes, my Speedo and sparkling water. Describe your perfect day. Waking up at the crack of dawn and hiking up a mountain to watch the sunrise, giving thanks, then heading off for a wild adventure somewhere in the ocean. Anything in the outdoors is a perfect day for me. If you could eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be? From a nutrition point of view, kale. From a taste point of view, chocolate. Coffee or tea? I don’t drink…