Innholdsfortegnelse for 7/2/2020 i You South Africa

THE lump in my throat that formed when I read Nomangwane Mrwetyana’s letter to Priscilla Giwu wouldn’t go away no matter how hard I swallowed. The pain in the words from Uyinene Mrwetyana’s mom to the woman who raised Tshegofatso Pule is tangible. Nomangwane lost her daughter in brutal circumstances last year and Tshegofatso’s aunt is now experiencing that loss too after her niece was murdered in a death that defies belief. Nomangwane’s moving message to Priscilla (page 10) reminds us that at the heart of all the headlines around gender-based violence are families who’ve lost their daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, aunts, nieces, cousins. They’re not just statistics, not just headlines, not just a face on a protest poster who’ll be forgotten until the next terrible assault or murder. I…

Facebook is often the root of depression, anger and envy. I’ve been Facebook-free for three years now, only keeping a profile for job-hunting and the occasional competition entry. It’s changed my life. I don’t need to see the woes of the world or admire lifestyles and possessions of people I don’t ever speak to. Liberate yourselves! TARYN SKUCE, SMS I got my new YOU Blockbusters No 23 today! Now I’m happy. Thank you! INGA, DURBANVILLE I’m concerned about the hot-headed people who force entry into shops without their masks on and those who refuse to have their hands sanitised. I wonder what needs to happen first for them to get the message into their thick skulls. Perhaps they need to catch coronavirus themselves or see their relatives dying of the…

BRUSSELS SPROUTS WITH CREAM & ALMONDS SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 10 MIN 1kg Brussels sprouts, halved 250ml (1c) pouring cream 2 garlic cloves, crushed salt and freshly ground pepper 50g almond flakes, roasted 1 Boil or steam the Brussels sprouts until tender then drain. 2 Place the cream and garlic in a saucepan and simmer until reduced by half. Season with salt and pepper. 3 Serve the Brussels sprouts drizzled with the cream mixture and sprinkle with almond flakes. TIP  Shredded cabbage can also be used instead of the Brussels sprouts – stir fry the cabbage in a bit of oil before drizzling with the sauce. ORANGE & MAPLE-GLAZED BABY CARROTS SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 20 MIN 30ml (2T) butter 750g baby carrots, washed and trimmed…

WE TAKE inspiration from the rose, a firm garden favourite, for this floral DIY project. Use this stencil and some paint to create an eye-catching focal wall. It takes a little effort but is bound to make you smile every time you look at it. WHAT YOU NEED ■ Stencil design (see far right) ■ Priplak (sheet of 0,5mm plastic available at plastic and craft shops) ■ Tape ■ Repositionable adhesive spray ■ Acrylic PVA or chalk paint ■ Craft knife ■ Small sponge roller and tray HERE’S HOW 1 Use the stencil on the opposite page or copy it if you want a bigger or smaller size. Use tape to secure the transparent Priplak to the design and cut it out carefully with a craft knife on a cutting…

Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. NATIONAL treasury recently announced pensioners had until September to increase or decrease the percentage of the living annuity they withdraw as income. We unpack what this means and what you need to consider. FIRSTLY, IS YOUR ANNUITY A LIVING ANNUITY? If you’re not sure what type of annuity you have, ask your financial adviser or read through your contract again. Living annuities are also called investment-linked annuities because the income (or annuity amount) you receive monthly is reliant on the market performance of the underlying investments (such as unit trusts). You choose the percentage you want to withdraw monthly, but the cash amount depends on how well or…

MEEK MILL – OTHERSIDE OF AMERICA The rapper released this hard-hitting track after the killing of George Floyd by US cops. It opens with an inflammatory passage by Trump before painting a picture of life from the “other side of America”. TONES AND I – UR SO F**KING COOL The latest track from the Dance Monkey hit-maker is inspired by the self-absorbed people she came across at a party in Los Angeles. “Everyone there thought they were the coolest thing ever and I just thought, ‘This is s**t. I’m leaving’ ’.” ALEXANDER 23 – IDK YOU YET This poignant track by the American newcomer was written in self-isolation. “This song is about feeling a void in your heart, especially with everything that’s going on in the world,” he says. STORMZY…

HUMANS have the ability to learn, reason and solve problems. We’re aware of feelings, thoughts and physical presence – both our own and that of others. We make tools and have the ability to deceive others. We’re creative and can draw conclusions. We’re also able to express complex ideas in language. All of this points to humans’ intelligence. But what about the intelligence of animals? You might have seen dogs or dolphins performing complex tricks or heard a parrot speak. Let’s find out which animals are the smartest and what they know. HOW DO YOU TEST AN ANIMAL’S INTELLIGENCE? Scientists who test animal intelligence usually take into account things such as self-control, self-awareness and memory. These are all skills needed to process information and make rational decisions. The “pointing test”…

ONE year and eight days – that’s how long they had to wait before their precious twins were well enough to take home. It was a roller-coaster of a year, with the couple spending almost as much time in hospital with the babies as at home. But now, finally, their beautiful blue-eyed boys are home and the months of worry are over. “Everything happened so fast,” mom Siske Malan (32) says three days after little Benjamin and Samuel were discharged from Mediclinic Panorama and arrived home safely in Table View, Cape Town. “It hasn’t sunk in that they’re finally home.” “The boys proved everyone wrong,” proud dad Marnitz (32) adds. “They’re incredibly strong. Once they’ve got a grip on something, it’s not easy to get it out of their hands.…

A MISSING accountant, seven squabbling humans, a treasured godchild and one pampered cat. This is the cast of characters embroiled in the complicated mess that the estate of one of fashion’s most flamboyant and controversial figures has turned into. At stake is the fortune Karl Lagerfeld amassed during nearly four decades at the forefront of global design. He was the creative director of fashion houses Fendi and Chanel, owned his own fashion line, and had lucrative contracts with brand giants Coca-Cola and Diesel. But even the value of his estate is now in dispute: some claim it’s worth €200 million (R3,9 billion), others that it’s closer to €440m (R8,5bn). A full 16 months after Karl’s death from pancreatic cancer at the age of 85 in Paris, confusion reigns unabated. There’s…

’Me-time can be anything that makes you happy – it doesn’t have to be productive at all’ “I have a very simple and realistic checklist when it comes to wellbeing. If I can try to stick to these very achievable goals every week, my mind, body and soul are always happy. ■ Family time ■ Me-time. This can be anything that makes you happy – it doesn’t have to be productive at all. It could be just watching movies or hanging with friends. I like writing (I’m busy working on a new movie), or playing piano. Obviously watching movies as well, for me – that’s considered research! ■ Meditation. Just 5-10 minutes a day is all you need. Trust me, give it a try. ■ Exercise. This is the most…

Actor DANNY MASTERSON has been charged with raping three women at his Hollywood home at the height of his fame on the sitcom That ’70s Show, which ran from 1998 to 2006. Danny (now 44) allegedly assaulted the women, all in their twenties at the time, “by force or fear” in separate incidents between 2001 and 2003. If convicted, he faces a maximum sentence of 45 years to life in prison. The actor’s lawyer, Thomas Mesereau, who also represented Michael Jackson, has denied the allegations. “Mr Masterson is innocent, and we’re confident he’ll be exonerated,” he said in a statement. Although charges were only filed earlier this month, rape allegations against the actor have been swirling for a few years. He co-starred again with ASHTON KUTCHER on Netflix’s The Ranch…

Reality TV star SCOTT DISICK (37) and model Sofia Richie’s three-year romance came to an end in May. And it didn’t take long for his ex and the mother of his children, KOURTNEY KARDASHIAN (41), to stir up rumours that they might be getting back together. Kourtney – with whom Scott shares sons Mason (10) and Reign (5) and daughter Penelope (7) – posted an Instagram snap of herself on holiday in Wyoming wearing her ex’s flannel shirt. An eagle-eyed fan pointed out he’d previously been photographed wearing it – while on a date with Sofia (21). Ouch!…

LONG TENTACLES OF THE VIRUS AT THE carwash where I work customers regularly bring mealies, rice, wheat or sunflower seeds to feed the pigeons that live around the flats near the filling station. But when lockdown started and the carwash stopped operating, the birds looked confused and hungry. I’m fond of birds, despite being aware of the pathogens from their droppings, and felt sorry for the pigeons that came to land next to me as I was sitting alone eating at a bench. They watched me as I ate. It was as if they were wondering what had happened to all the good people who used to feed them. I decided to give the birds a quarter of the loaf of bread I was having. I know bread isn’t nutritionally…

That chill in the air can mean only one thing: it’s time for hearty feel-good food to warm the soul! What better dish than a scrumptious stew? YOU The 100 Best Recipes: Stews is filled with all sorts of yummy potjies and one-pot wonders that are nutritious and sure to have your family asking for seconds. How about lamb shank potjie or creamy chicken curry for supper? There’s even delicious warming puddings. Get a digital version at magzter.com and have access to these easy-to-prepare recipes on the go.…

LEO 22 JULY – 22 AUG  With the relationship-orientated Venus now out of reverse gear, the scene is set for smoother interaction on all levels. It seems to be your friendship relationships in particular that should move along effortlessly, which makes for a perfect week to catch up with your friends. Whether you organise a virtual get-together with your mates, send your best buddy a special text or inspire a friend to try a creative activity, now’s the time to reach out to your pals. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 25, 14, 48, 37, 50 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEPT  The focus of the week centres on your long-term dreams, hopes and wishes. With your planet, Mercury, in retrograde, it’s an appropriate time to review certain aspects of your life.…

SPIES IN DISGUISE Animated adventure. Will Smith spreads his wings as superspy Lance Sterling, who gets turned into a pigeon. Tech genius Walter Beckett (Spider-Man star Tom Holland) is the Q to Lance’s James Bond, and the inventor of the device that transforms agents into animals. After the bizarre mishap causing Lance to become a pigeon, a problem with the antidote prevents him from becoming human again. But despite this little issue, Lance and Walter still have to take on a sinister villain, Killian (Rogue One’s Ben Mendelsohn), in this entertaining adventure. 2019. 102 MIN. PG. ALSO AVAILABLE ON APPLE TV+.…

THE RIVER MURDERS By JAMES PATTERSON and JAMES O BORN ARROW Robert Mitchum lives in the small town of Marlboro, New York, on the banks of the Hudson River. He once had ambitions to become a Navy Seal but was rejected because he couldn’t pass the swimming test. Now he delivers newspapers and acts as the town’s unofficial private investigator. This is actually three separate short books – or BookShots, as Patterson calls them. The first two, Hidden and Malicious, were published previously. The only new part is Malevolent, the third episode in Mitchum’s life. In Hidden, he must find his missing teenage cousin Bailey Mae – and in the process stumbles upon a secret jail in the mountainside. Lots of questions are left unanswered at the end of this…

How to say it: hai-buh-nei-shin Some animals sleep for a large part of winter and this is called hibernation. They hibernate because food is scarce during winter, especially in cold areas where it snows. Hibernation is a deep slumber, during which the animals’ heart rate slows down. This way, they use little energy. Once they wake up in the warmer spring, they go looking for food. Animals that hibernate eat extra food in autumn, storing the energy as fat in their bodies. This fat keeps them warm and provides energy for the hibernation period. Some species – such as squirrels – hoard food for winter and eat it when they wake up for short periods. The word “hibernate” comes from the Latin word hibernare, which means “to spend the winter”.…

THE dull ache of an empty belly is something he’ll never forget. He may earn £200 000 (R4,3 million) a week, live in a mansion and have a fleet of luxury cars, but it wasn’t that long ago that Marcus Rashford would wake up not knowing if he and his brothers and sisters would eat that day. And it’s these memories that spurred the Manchester United and England striker to do something few multimillionaire footballers have ever done: use his star power to force the UK government to back down on a controversial decision. After intense pressure by Rashford, the powers that be will continue feeding 1,3 million needy children during the long UK summer school holiday. He also raised £20m (R430m) with the charity FareShare to supply three million…

Tamaryn Green “Happy birthday to my favourite person in the world,” the former Miss SA said alongside this pic of her and businessman boyfriend Zesimdumise “Ze” Nxumalo. Tori Bala Jennifer Bala, wife of singer Loyiso, found this after popping into the house to take some shopping bags inside – daughter Tori smearing cream all over the interior of her car! Lloyd Cele The singer with youngest son Kingston and (from back left) wife Janice, son Levi and daughter Zoey have a bit of family fun taking a #funnyface pic. Who did it best? Jade Daniel “The way you look at me, my girl! It’s the most special thing! When we’re apart, that’s what I miss and crave,” the actress and TV presenter said on Instagram alongside this pic of her…

I write this letter in a very sad state because of recent statistics. Women are being killed like flies. We’re no longer afraid of Covid-19 but of the men we live among (YOU, 25 June). These days we’re even afraid to say that we don’t conform to societal norms because being a lesbian, for example, means I have to be raped to be taught a lesson. We’re scared and we’re not protected by those who claim they love us. FRIGHTENED, EMAIL ■ I feel bad when women lose their precious lives at the hands of men, especially if it’s at the hands of men they know well. The man who seemed to be somebody that you’d love forever now becomes an enemy that steals your life abruptly. Gender-based violence must…

‘They see their roles differently. Melania prefers to stay deeply private. Ivanka has sought from the earliest days of the administration to define her role as an adviser and policymaker’ FOR years she’s been consideredthesilent,long-suffering sidekick to her in-your-face, over-the-top husband. But there’s a lot more going on behind the sphinx-like façade than many know, a new book reveals. In The Art of Her Deal: The Untold Story Of Melania Trump, Pulitzer Prize-winning Washington Post journalist Mary Jordan paints a very different picture of the woman who’s inspired #FreeMelania memes – and the first lady clearly has more steel in her spine than she shows. In the book, of which the title is a nod to US president Donald Trump’s own book The Art Of The Deal, America’s first lady…

EVERYTHING was ready and picture perfect for her big day. The guest farm in the lush Overberg mountains outside Swellendam in the Western Cape was all set for a feast and festivities: tables were adorned with centrepieces of roses and honeysuckle and a showpiece wedding cake was ready to be cut. The sound system was ready for the bridal couple and their guests to dance the night away. And in the flower-bedecked chapel the pastor was waiting at the altar to guide the pair through their vows in front of 60 excited guests. Trudie Swanepoel was ready too, dressed in her dream gown, her hair in a stylish ’do, flanked by her bridesmaids in their mustard-coloured dresses. The groomsmen were also lined up, in crisp white shirts and leather braces.…

■ Keep your makeup brushes clean. It’s not only hygienic, it’ll also make them last longer. ■ Avoid pumping air into your mascara tube when using it. The air makes it expire quicker. ■ Keep your products away from direct sunlight as it affects their ingredients and causes it to spoil quicker. ■ A little usually goes a long way when it comes to makeup and fragrance. Use only as much as you need. ■ Buy multipurpose products to avoid buying different products, for example a two-in-one shampoo and conditioner. ■ Keep your razors in a dry place. Humidity and mist cause rust on the razor and this will irritate the skin. ■ Be creative by finding ways of using your products for more than one thing, for example you…

I COULDN’T SAY GOODBYE TO MY WIFE Q My wife died of Covid-19 and it hurts that I couldn’t be there with her. I couldn’t sit at her bedside and hold her hand while she was dying. I had to talk to her over the telephone. I felt like I was letting her down. Our two sons live in Australia and because of the travel ban they couldn’t even come to South Africa to be with me or say goodbye to their mother. A funeral is how one says goodbye and is an opportunity for loved ones to support one another. How can I find closure and help my sons to find closure when we can’t grieve and mourn the way we normally do? Harry, email A This is indeed…

CANCER ONLINE ■ Social media keeps them connected with family members ■ They need time away from social media lest they become overwhelmed ■ Their posts reveal their feelings of the moment and thus fluctuate ■ They like blogs, tweets and pages on family life ■ They love to take a stroll down memory lane on your social media page ■ Antiques apps and food blogs are their favourites ■ When it comes to internet dating, they retreat into their shell…

SO LONG, CARRIE The actress has kept viewers on the edge of their seats as brilliant CIA agent Carrie Mathison in the series Homeland, which centres on terrorism and American politics. Carrie, who’s a bit of a rule-breaker and has bipolar disorder, has a close bond with her mentor, Saul Berenson (Mandy Patinkin), who’s like a father to her. “I think that’s a wonderful and surprising love story,” the 41-year-old American actress says. “It’s not one that we see depicted all that often in pop culture: mentor and mentee.” A FAMILY AFFAIR Her husband of the past 11 years, Hannibal star Hugh Dancy (45), also appears in the last season – as John Zabel, the president’s foreign affairs advisor. The couple have two sons, Cyrus (7) and Rowan (21 months).…

‘I draw inspiration from my own experiences and weird thoughts. I also have some strange dreams, so a lot of my unreleased songs are written about those’ She’s a Kiwi The 20-year-old hails from Auckland, New Zealand. Her real name is Stella Rose Bennett but she prefers to go by Benee – pronounced Benny. University dropout She started her career posting covers to Sound-Cloud and in her final year of high school began making her own tunes. She went to university to study communications but dropped out. “I was doing my degree but it kind of just felt like it was a distraction. I knew music was what I really wanted to pursue.” She released Supalonely last year as part of her second EP, Stella & Steve. Bagging awards While…

NORWAY FREAK LANDSLIDE CLAIMS SEVERAL HOMES Eight buildings – mostly holiday homes – ended up in the ocean when a landslide occurred in Norway’s Alta region. A landslide happens when a hillside of mud and rocks collapses due to gravity. Landslides are triggered by erosion of the soil and rock beneath the surface, and sometimes by earthquakes or volcanoes. The landslide in Norway was the first to happen in that area in the past 50 or 60 years. Luckily, no one was injured. A dog ended up in the ocean but managed to swim to shore, where it was picked up by a rescue helicopter. ■ One of the local residents took a video of the landslide. To watch it, go to tinyurl.com/YOU-landslide. NEW ZEALAND FERAL CHICKENS DRIVING PEOPLE CUCKOO…

6 The number of days a British tourist spent down a well in Bali, Indonesia, before he was rescued. Jacob Roberts was running away from a fierce dog when he fell into the dry well. Though it was only 4m deep, he’d broken his leg in the fall so couldn’t get out. Luckily, there was a little water in the well to keep Jacob alive. A local resident eventually heard his calls for help and rescue workers came to his aid. 24 The age of the grizzly bear dubbed 399. She lives in the Grand Teton National Park in Wyoming in the US. The bear was recently spotted after coming out of hibernation (see Word of the Week), which means she survived the winter. She’s one of the oldest grizzly…

THE summer of 1952 was sizzling hot – even by Texas standards – but swimming pools were shut throughout the state. So too were cinemas, bars and bowling alleys. Even though by now health officials knew that mosquitoes didn’t spread the disease, city streets were doused with DDT insecticide in an effort to make it look as though something was being done. But nothing seemed to work. As the summer wore on, the numbers of polio cases increased. One day in July, in a quiet Dallas suburb, a six-year-old boy named Paul Alexander was playing outside in the summer rain. He didn’t feel well – his neck hurt, his head pounded. Leaving his muddy shoes in the yard, he walked barefoot into the kitchen. Taking one look at his feverish…

SHE’S made a fortune playing characters such as Fat Amy in Pitch Perfect, larger-than-life, laugh-a-minute people who poke fun at themselves so others don’t do it first. Her size and attitude helped cement her status as one of Hollywood’s brightest comedy stars – and no one was more aware of this than Tinseltown’s profit-obsessed bosses. Rebel Wilson recently revealed she was actually paid to keep her curves because being plus-size in a sea of skinny stars helped her movies become box-office gold. People wanted to see someone who not only seemed comfortable in their skin but revelled in being bigger. Her gags, often at her own expense, stole the show in movies such as Bridesmaids (2011) and How to Be Single (2016). In Pitch Perfect (2012) she was the one…

‘We look forward to launching Archewell when the time is right’ FORMER senior royals PRINCE HARRY (35) and his wife, MEGHAN, DUCHESS OF SUSSEX (38), have been making big plans since stepping down as working members of the British royal family earlier this year. Following Buckingham Palace’s request for them to drop their Sussex Royal brand, the couple bounced back with a move to Los Angeles and plans to launch a new charitable organisation called Archewell. But their ambitions are being thwarted. Their trademark application filed in March was reportedly blocked by the United States Patent and Trademark Office (USPTO) for being too vague and not being properly completed, according to UK newspaper The Sun. The USPTO irregularity notice reads, “The wording ‘providing a website featuring content relating to philanthropy,…

Actress MEGAN FOX (34) seems to be on track to a serious relationship with rapper MACHINE GUN KELLY (30). As the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles star continues to spend more and more alone time with Kelly following her split from her husband of 10 years, actor BRIAN AUSTIN GREEN (46), a source says the pair are enjoying every moment they spend together. Megan and Kelly – whose real name is Colson Baker – first met on the set of the movie Midnight in the Switchgrass. But after production was paused due to the coronavirus pandemic, they decided to continue getting to know each other. “They’ve been hanging out a lot since their movie was shut down,” an insider says. “The downtime has been good for them. “They’re intrigued by each…

NEVER a dull moment – that’s the best way to sum up the saga of AMBER HEARD and JOHNNY DEPP’s nasty split. The actors reached a divorce settlement in 2016 but Johnny filed a $50 million (then $700m) defamation lawsuit against Amber in 2019 after the Aquaman star accused him of domestic abuse. The latest development? Model and actress CARA DELEVINGNE (27) and Tesla mogul ELON MUSK (48) apparently had a three-way tryst with Amber (34), who dated Elon for a year after her split from Johnny (57). The claim was made by Josh Drew, a former neighbour of the couple and ex-husband of Amber’s close friend Raquel “Rocky” Pennington. Josh says not only did Amber, who’s been in relationships with men and women, tell Rocky she was having an…