Innholdsfortegnelse for 2/6/2020 i You South Africa

LAST year my husband did a photojournalism series in which he asked people what makes them happy. One woman told him, “Seeing my son happy makes me happy.” She followed up with an anecdote about her Grade 1 boy missing a much-anticipated class outing to Kirstenbosch because, in the mad morning rush, she’d forgotten to sign his permission slip. When he couldn’t produce it, he wasn’t allowed to go. So he had to stay behind in the office and when she came to fetch him he burst into tears. She felt terrible. Couldn’t they just have taken him? No, they said, rules are rules. “So that weekend I took him to Kirstenbosch and when I watched him laughing as he ran down the lawn I was happy.” In the case…

I’m so impressed with Fernando Mucavele’s efforts in turning his shack into his “palace” (YOU, 9 January). It’s a really stunning piece of work. IMPRESSED, SMS Fernando Mucavele is an inspiration. Talk about making things happen. He deserves accolades. INSPIRED, SMS Congrats to Fernando! What an enterprising young man. TINA, SMS Nonduduzo, I really admire your attitude about being unemployed (YOU Say, 9 January). Your wonderful nature will win you the best position that will become available to you. Your mom must be so proud of you. CINDY, DURBAN Commuters in full taxis shouldn’t allow additional people into overloaded vehicles. Take responsibility for your own lives! TAKE CHARGE, SMS Now that we’re back to school it’s disturbing to see peer pressure on another level. Schoolkids are putting pressure on already…

He’s been linked to all these women post-Angie, with little substance, it would seem. MARION COTILLARD (44) Rumours of a relationship with her Allied co-star began circulating the day the Brangelina breakup was announced. The French actress, who’s in a relationship, was forced to issue a statement denying anything was going on. SIENNA MILLER (38) The American Woman star is said to have gone on a few dates with Brad in mid-2017. Not true, Sienna said. NERI OXMAN (44) The hotshot media arts and science professor made headlines in early 2018 when reports surfaced she was spending time with Brad. Neri denied it all. CHARLIZE THERON (44) Our hearts skipped a beat when reports claimed the Benoni-born beauty was seeing Brad. But it seems the rumours were rubbish. Sigh. SAT…

ON A culinary tour from Yzerfontein to Doringbaai, author Georgia East explores the abundance of the West Coast – from harders and snoek to oysters and mussels, heerboontjies and Sandveld potatoes. She pays tribute to these offerings with unfussy, flavoursome dishes with a Mediterranean twist. SNOEK WITH PAPRIKA GARLIC BUTTER Whether eaten fried in batter, salted and dried or smoked, snoek makes up most of the local diet all along the West Coast. High in omega-3 fatty acids, snoek is a deliciously meaty fish. SERVES 6 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 18 MIN 250g butter 10ml (2t) smoked paprika 4 garlic cloves, crushed 1,5kg whole snoek, cleaned and butterflied melted butter or olive oil to brush 3-4 fresh rosemary sprigs charred lemon halves, green salad and garlic bread to serve 1…

What’s going on? Any kind of mark, spot or discolouration on the skin can be classified as a blemish. Most aren’t harmful to your health, but they can cause distress when they appear on your face. One of the most common types of blemishes is acne – pimples, white heads or blackheads. Acne can also lead to dark spots or scarring when exposed to bacteria. Other types include scars, cysts, nodules (skin tags and warts), age spots, papules (small pink or brown skin lesions or rashes such as chickenpox, eczema and dermatitis) and cold sores. Cut out the culprits ■ Stub out that cigarette Smoking is dehydrating, causes early wrinkles and, in severe cases, tissue damage. Nicotine constricts blood vessels, inhibiting blood flow and oxygen to the cells, which causes…

If, after having thought about life coach Kate Marshall’s questions, you’ve looked at every position you might fill in your industry as a whole and can’t imagine feeling fulfilled, you might be after a career change. “A career change doesn’t have to be a difficult move and shouldn’t always require studying towards a new degree. It might just be about finding the right industry fit for you,” career coach Khanya Matlala says. Think of these examples ■ Nurses who’ve become personal midwives and parenting coaches for first-time parents. ■ Journalists who become ghost writers for celebrities. ■ Personal assistants who’ve built their own events-management or professional-organiser businesses. Keep these tips in mind before you change your career ■ Get some outside perspective – it helps to look at your career…

AQUARIUS 21 JANUARY – 18 FEBRUARY Change your look and make an impression First impressions count, whether you want to have a successful job interview or catch the eye of the one who’s pulling at your heartstrings. It’s a good week in which to pay attention to your image, whether you want to look cool or out-of-the ordinary. You may want to change the style and colour of your hair, revamp your wardrobe or experiment with fashion that’s out of your comfort zone. If your physique isn’t to your liking, consider a lifestyle change or two. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 49, 33, 3, 13, 51, 21 PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MARCH  Venus, planet of attraction, moves into your financial horoscope this week, which is probably as good as it gets…

MIDSOMMAR Horror. Flowers, rolling green hills, gentle people and one feast after another. It all sounds idyllic and so it should. But nothing is what it seems. A British couple, Dani (The Commuter’s Florence Pugh) and Christian (Jack Reynor from Sing Street), travel to a rural Swedish town in the throws of a mid-summer festival. Slowly they get sucked into a nightmare with violent surprises by a secretive sect, and a bizarre competition Dani is unwillingly involved in. This is writer-director Ari Aster’s second slow-burn shocker after his critically acclaimed debut, Hereditary (2018). With enough gruesome scenes to keep horror fans happy, it feels like an LSD trip at a yoga retreat until the climax, which might blow your mind. But your enjoyment will depend on how invested you are…

STEPHEN KING & SONS The horror mastermind partnered with his son Owen (42), to write Sleeping Beauties, a novel set in a women’s prison. While the 2017 collaboration received positive reviews, the reception to Owen’s standalone works has been mixed. Stephen (72) has also written two novellas with his eldest son, Joe (47). Unlike his brother, Joe wisely chose to write using the surname Hill to avoid being compared with his famous father. JODI PICOULT & DAUGHTER The 53-year-old bestselling author teamed up with her daughter, Samantha van Leer (18), to write the young adult novel Between the Lines (2012) and its sequel Off the Page (2015). ANNE RICE & SON For more than two decades Christopher (41) watched fans coming up to his 78-year-old mom at book signings and…

Although Gauteng is South Africa’s smallest province, it’s the “wealthiest” because it’s the economic hub of the country. There are many interesting places to visit, but top of the list should probably be the Cradle of Humankind. It’s near Johannesburg and forms part of a Unesco World Heritage Site along with the Taung Skull Fossil Site in North West and the Makapan Valley in Limpopo. It’s called the Cradle of Humankind because many fossils and tools of modern humans’ earliest ancestors (hominids) have been found here. Some of the fossils discovered here date back more than three million years. The Sterkfontein Caves are perhaps the best-known excavation site as about a third of all early hominid fossils in the world have come from here. Swartkrans Cave and Bolt’s Farm have…

SHE’S the twinkly-eyed queen of the small screen, the dimpled grand dame of Hollywood and the last Golden Girl standing. And Betty White isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. The beloved actress has just celebrated her 98th birthday – but not for her a quiet tea party with a couple of sweet old dears. When you’re the oldest working actress in Tinseltown and one of the most highly respected stars of all time, people take note. And Betty’s big day was marked with an eruption of messages and memes and an outpouring of love. Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds, with whom she starred in the 2014 movie The Proposal, even serenaded her with a special birthday song. The actors sang their parts separately to the camera, and Ryan then merged the…

SHE’S usually guarded about her private life but as a film crew followed her to shoot Miss Americana, a new Netflix documentary about her career, TAYLOR SWIFT (30) didn’t hold back. Much to the delight of her fans the pop star finally touched on her uber-private romance with British actor Joe Alwyn (28), admitting she was attracted to him because of his “wonderful, normal, balanced kind of life”. The Lover songbird also admitted to battling an eating disorder as a result of life in the spotlight. “It’s only happened a few times, but sometimes I’ll see a picture of me where I feel like I looked like my tummy was too big and that’ll trigger me to just starve a little bit – just stop eating.” But perhaps her biggest…

TOMMY LEE She married Tommy (now 57), drummer of Mötley Crüe, in February 1995 after knowing him for about four days. The marriage was marred by instances of domestic violence and ended three years later, although the pair later rekindled their romance in 2008. They have two sons, Brandon (23) and Dylan (22). KID ROCK Her next headline-grabbing romance was with another rock star, Kid Rock (now 49), whose real name is Robert J Ritchie. The couple hooked up in 2002, split by 2003 and were back on and married on a yacht in St Tropez by July 2006. They split for good just four months later. RICK SALOMON By September 2007 Pammy was engaged again, this time to professional poker player Rick Salomon (now 51). They wed in October…

YOU Blockbusters issue No 22 is on sale now and has twice the usual number of puzzles! We’ve increased the number of pages of all your favourites – blockbusters, photo blockbusters, codebreakers, sudoku, anagrams, sudoku-x-words and more. Plus we’ve added a few new ones such as vowel puzzles and spirals. Get your copy in shops now and enjoy 274 puzzles! You can also order online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan. terblanche@media24.com and have it delivered.…

NEARLY three years ago she made national headlines when she threw a birthday party for her then four-year-old that rivalled anything the Kardashians might lay on for their kids. There were jugglers, stilt-walkers and life-size cartoon characters, a five-tier cake decorated with doughnuts, as well as ice-cream cones and toffee apples, balloons galore and treats aplenty. The party was held on the grounds of her daughter’s pre-primary school and all 115 kids were invited, along with parents and teachers. It cost Kavitha Nerputh R100 000 and the extravagance raised a fair number of eyebrows but the Pietermaritzburg businesswoman was unapologetic. “People have no qualms about spending money on a wedding but often marriages end in divorce,” she said at the time (YOU, 16 March 2017). “But you’ll never divorce your…

Fans should be excited about the new appointment, those in the know say. By promoting to head coach someone who’s already part of the coaching team, the Boks are following a proven example set by teams such as the All Blacks, former Springbok wing Breyton Paulse says. “In the past, if the team performed badly, the coach was summarily fired. It’s all just chaos, then someone new is brought in who tries all kinds of unfamiliar things.” Former Bok lock Bakkies Botha says it helps a lot that the coaching styles of Nienaber and Erasmus are so similar. “I don’t think there’ll be too many changes to what we saw at the world cup. The most important thing is to keep the momentum going. A few players have retired but…

THE crusts for our tarts range from a quick dough you can rustle up in a food processor using oil, not butter, to phyllo, mealie meal and even grated potatoes. Really easy and quick to make – and, yes, there’s no need for blind baking! PHYLLO TARTLETS WITH PUMPKIN AND BLUE CHEESE MAKES 8 TARTLETS PREPARATION: 30 MIN BAKING: 45-60 MIN CRUST 4 sheets phyllo pastry melted butter FILLING 800g pumpkin or butternut cubes 4 garlic cloves, crushed 30ml (2T) olive oil salt pinch of ground cumin (optional) 50g cheddar cheese, grated 100g kale, hard stems removed and leaves shredded EGG CUSTARD 250ml (1c) full-cream milk 250ml (1c) plain low-fat yoghurt 4 eggs, lightly beaten 1 packet (50g) mushroom soup powder 5ml (1t) mustard powder salt and pepper TO FINISH…

CANTALOUPE This pinkish orange shade is perfect for those who aren’t afraid to be bold with colour. Ranging from natural shades that border on terracotta to more vibrant pinkish oranges, this melon shade brings encouragement and motivation, says Anita Bloom, Decorex Africa’s creative director. “It’s a more active colour that inspires us to be active, increasing the sense of competition and the courage to assume risk.” Use this colour for a statement wall in your living room, bathroom or kitchen. For added impact, pair it with electric blue, Bloom adds. TIP This is a tricky colour, so make sure it matches the colours of your existing décor. STATEMENT BLUE Paint brand Prominent Paints’ colour of the year is Chinese Porcelain – a rich blend of inky blue and cobalt. “This…

I FEEL LIKE LESS OF A PERSON Q I recently, at the age of 35, made a terrible discovery. I found out that my aunt is actually my mother and the woman I thought of as my mother is actually my grandmother. I’m finding this difficult to deal with as I’ve always seen my aunt, who’s addicted to drugs, as a flighty person without any substance. I viewed my mother (now my grandmother) as an upstanding person, a pillar of strength with fine morals. I was always proud to introduce her to my friends. But now I’ll feel ashamed to introduce my real mother to my friends. In fact, some of them have already commented that my aunt seems a bit flighty and messed up. How do I deal with…

AQUARIUS IN LOVE AND ROMANCE ■ Their first crush was probably on their best friend. ■ They’ll play it cool while on a blind date. ■ They’ll propose in a weird and wacky way. ■ Their wedding will be attended by friends from all walks of life. ■ They’re loyal partners who are in it for the long haul. ■ Their aloofness and detached nature are their worst traits. ■ If their relationship ends, they’ll welcome back their independence.…

■ A-ha have released 10 studio albums, several compilations and four live records. ■ Coldplay’s Chris Martin is a huge fan. “They have some of the most beautiful songs I’ve ever heard. Back when we didn’t have hits, we used to play A-ha songs.” ■ The pencil-sketch video for Take on Me is considered one of the most distinctive music videos of the ’80s. ■ They were named after a song Paul wrote, the title of which caught Morten’s eye. “It was a terrible song, but a great name,” he told Rolling Stone magazine in 1986. ■ Keyboardist Magne Furuholmen is also a painter. He held his first exhibition in 1989. ■ Morten is listed in Guinness World Records for holding the longest live note – he held a note…

ANOTHER LIFE SEASON 1 Serious sci-fi lovers, stop everything you’re doing and check out this show. A cross between Star Trek: Discovery and Alien, Another Life has everything fans of the genre could possibly want – plus great special effects and plenty of horror. After an alien artefact lands on Earth, stumping scientists, a first-contact team set off on the Salvare, the only spaceship able to travel far enough to investigate the object’s origin. But the mission seems doomed from the start. Put in command of the Salvare, astronaut Niko Breckinridge (Battlestar Galactica’s Katee Sackhoff) immediately steps on the toes of disgruntled original commander Ian Yerxa (Tyler Hoechlin from Teen Wolf) and his crew, putting the fate of humanity at risk. No one – on Earth or anywhere else –…

NORTHERN CAPE At more than 370 000km², the vast Northern Cape is South Africa’s largest province, yet it’s the least densely populated. The largest city in the province, Kimberley, is also the provincial capital. This is the ideal province to visit if you’re in search of peace and quiet. Rough Guides listed it as one of the world’s top 10 tourism destinations in 2016. Unfortunately the ongoing drought has reached critical levels and the province has been declared a disaster area. You can’t visit Kimberley without going to see the Big Hole. In 1871 diamonds were found on Colesberg Kopje, which belonged to the De Beers brothers. The discovery led to a huge diamond rush and the establishment of the mine. It spans 17 hectares of surface area, is 463m…

■ Turn off all notifications except those from people Most notifications are generated by machines, not real people. They keep our phones vibrating to lure us back into apps we don’t really need to be in. Visit settings > notifications and turn off all notifications, banners and badges, apart from apps where real people want your attention, such as messaging apps WhatsApp, Messenger, WeChat and so on. Or, better still, turn off all your notifications altogether. ■ Go greyscale Colourful icons give our brains shiny rewards every time we look at our phone. Set your phone to greyscale to remove those positive reinforcements. It helps many people check their phone less. In iOS, type in “colour filters” in spotlight search. Enabling this setting allows you quickly to triple-tap the home…

AFTER Liam Hemsworth (30) was spotted making out with his new girlfriend, Gabriella Brooks (23), on the beach earlier this month it was only a matter of time until his soon-to-be ex-wife, MILEY CYRUS, retaliated with her own PDA-filled seaside outing. ‘This public romance with Cody is all designed to push Liam’s buttons’– AN INSIDER But while the Independence Day: Resurgence star and his Australian model girlfriend were the picture of sun-kissed happiness in Byron Bay, Australia – Miley (27) appeared rather pensive as she cuddled up to her beau, CODY SIMPSON (23), on Malibu’s Zuma Beach. Despite the Don’t Call Me Angel singer’s efforts to flaunt her relationship with Cody, an Australian musician, actor and model, an insider insists that she hasn’t responded well to news of Liam’s new…

HE MIGHT be just six years old but England’s PRINCE GEORGE will soon be a TV star in his own right – well, kind of. Television network HBO has ordered an animated comedy series entitled The Prince, which centres on the British royal family and will be told from the little blueblood’s perspective. The show is based on American writer and TV producer Gary Janetti’s satirical Instagram account. Gary creates and shares memes of George “reacting” to British tabloid headlines about his family. The results are hilarious and with nearly a million Instagram followers, Gary has a solid fan base. The show features an impressive cast. Janetti himself will be voicing Prince George, while Orlando Bloom will voice Prince Harry, Billions’ Condola Rashad is the voice of Harry’s wife, Meghan,…

LADY KITTY SPENCER & LADY AMELIA WINDSOR Kitty was chic in neutrals while Amelia donned a crop top and flared pants at the Schiaparelli Haute Couture show. KAIA GERBER Fresh from her split from comedian Pete Davidson, Kaia was a vision in the pink and orange outfit she showcased on the Valentino runway. IRINA SHAYK The model turned heads at Jean Paul Gaultier’s catwalk show in Paris in a corset minidress featuring the iconic designer’s trademark conical bra. GIGI & BELLA HADID The sisters left little to the imagination in sheer outfits at Jean Paul Gaultier’s final show before he retires.…

Harry what have you done (YOU, 23 & 30 January) . You’ve turned your back on your family and your roots which are steeped in history and chosen a woman who doesn’t care a hoot about them. She’s concerned only with herself. I cringed when I heard you accosting the man from Disney, putting pressure on him to give her a job. What were you thinking? Your mother would turn in her grave if she could see you now. Your brother, father and grandmother have all my sympathies. Harry, I hope you wake up from this nightmare, realise what you’ve done and come back to your rightful home and apologise. DISAPPOINTED, EMAIL ■ Let Harry and Meghan go. Taxes are wasted on their upkeep. Let them pay their own way…

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DOES going to work feel like a drag when you used to be enthusiastic about it? Maybe you’re so demotivated that even your paycheque isn’t enough to get you out of bed in the morning. That’s because we aren’t motivated to work purely for money, says career coach Khanya Matlala, who’s based in Midrand, Johannesburg. “We choose to work because we have a deeper set of goals – to have an opportunity to do what we do best every day,” she says. When our job no longer offers us this opportunity, we start to rethink our options – perhaps a more exciting position or a change of career. Both prospects bring exciting possibilities and challenges. So how do you figure out what’s the right move and the right set of…

WHAT’S your most valuable asset? Is it your house or your car? The answer most probably is neither. For most people it’s the ability to earn an income. That’s because if you can’t work and earn money, chances are slim you’ll be able to maintain your lifestyle, which means you’ll probably have to sell your property and vehicle. This is why income protection is one of the first policies young working people are advised to get. These policies are aimed at replacing or supplementing your income if you can’t work because of illness, trauma, hospitalisation or partial or permanent disability. Here are some vital facts to consider before choosing your cover. 1 DO I ALREADY HAVE COVER? Many employers take out some disability cover for their employees. The human resources…

■ Her family nickname is Maggot. “It started when I was five and I detested it. By the time I was eight I realised it wasn’t going anywhere so I embraced it.” ■ Margot married British assistant director TOM ACKERLEY (30) in 2016 in a secret ceremony. “I’m a great advocate of doing business with your partner,” she says. “Being married is actually the most fun ever – life became way more fun somehow. I have a responsibility being someone’s wife. I want to be better.” ■ Before becoming an actress Margot worked as a sandwich-maker at a Subway franchise in Melbourne, Australia, and says she makes a mean BLT!…

IT’S a question he’s been pondering for years. After writing so many Jack Reacher novels, how do you wind it up in a way that’s fair to the character and the readers? When we spoke to bestselling author Lee Child back in 2018 it was clear he was toying with the idea of retiring the character. “It’s a bit like anything – an actor, athlete or footballer, you want to leave people thinking well of you. You don’t want to stick around for an embarrassing year or so too long,” he told us. But recently after releasing Blue Moon, the 24th novel in the series, the writer had an epiphany – he realised that just because he no longer wants to write the books doesn’t mean Reacher can’t live on.…

HILL The crater is surrounded by a circular hill covered in rock fragments and thick bushveld. This rim was formed when a giant meteorite collided with Earth, and the impact violently displaced materials. SALT DEPOSITS Because of water evaporation, salt deposits (of which some are black because of dirt) were left behind. The water in the pan is either absorbed in the soil or evaporates, leaving behind salt crystals. TOURISM Tswaing attracts about 14 000 visitors a year. There’s a 7,2km path leading to the crater. Tourists can walk unguided or pay for a guided tour. The walk takes about three hours. Go to ditsong.org.za. NOW YOU KNOW Large meteorites such as the Tswaing one could hit Earth at any time, but so far it’s happened only about once very…

Monster (2003) For her Oscar-winning role as real-life serial killer Aileen Wuornos, she gained almost 15kg, had her hair thinned and her eyebrows shaved and bleached. Aeon Flux (2005) She ditched her signature blonde hair for an asymmetrical, short, jet-black hairdo to play an action heroine. Mad Max: Fury Road (2015) Her role as fierce Imperator Furiosa saw her shaving her head and sporting a 5kg mechanical arm. Tully (2018) She packed on around 23kg to play the role of an exhausted mom of three, struggling to cope with the demands of motherhood.…

1 She’s a proud member of Beyoncé’s Beyhive and also loves Coldplay, Shekhinah and Nasty C. 2 Cheese is her favourite food and she’s a sucker for pizza and cheesecake. 3 She loves vintage video games. 4 She enjoys fishing and loves nothing more than quiet time with a rod and reel. 5 She also loves the quiet, contemplative space provided by art galleries. 6 Her favourite series is The Big Bang Theory.…

Acting legend ROBERT DE NIRO’s former assistant isn’t backing down from her gender discrimination claims – but neither is he. CHASE GRAHAM ROBINSON sued Robert last year for $12 million (R171m), claiming the actor was verbally abusive, made sexually charged comments and subjected her to unwanted physical contact. But Robert (76) has hit back, stating in court papers that Chase (37) previously threatened to write a memoir exposing his secrets if her demands weren’t met. The papers, filed in the Manhattan Federal Court in New York, had no further information on what the memoir could contain. But Chase alleged Robert had once made unwanted jokes about his Viagra prescription during her time working for him. In response to Chase’s claims, Robert and his company, Canal Productions, filed their own $3m…

IT’S a relationship that’s come full circle. Actress PAMELA ANDERSON (52) and movie producer JON PETERS (74), who first dated more than 30 years ago, tied the knot in Malibu, California,earlier this month. Following the low-key nuptials Jon, who recently produced Man of Steel and A Star Is Born, was effusive about his new bride. “There are beautiful girls everywhere. I could have my pick, but for 35 years I’ve only wanted Pamela,” he told The Hollywood Reporter magazine. “She makes me wild in a good way. She inspires me. I protect her and treat her the way she deserves to be treated.” This is the fifth marriage for both husband and wife. Pam is known for her complicated love-life, but her new husband’s hasn’t exactly been simple either. Jon’s…