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DIET, schmiet! I’ve never been able to stick to a diet – or eating plan, as I sometimes called it. Every time I try to restrict myself it’s just a recipe for disaster because I want all the bread, all the chocolate and all the pasta in the world. I loved the story on page 98 because of the simple swops and easy tips – my favourite line is “carbs aren’t the devil”. These neat tricks are all easy to achieve and, best of all, don’t require cutting out a single thing. Of course diets are hot this time of year as everyone starts planning summer holidays. Unsurprisingly, there have been plenty of memes going around online related to beach bodies. The ones I’ve loved most are about celebrating your…

I’m hardcore and fearless and don’t let emotions get the better of me. I’m able to flip the switch from mother to medic in an instant. Nothing can get me down or tear me apart. Or so I thought – because today I was brought to my knees. I picked up a stroke patient who had to be transported from a hospital to a subacute facility. She had only limited movement in her right arm and gurgled as she was unable to speak. But you could see the life in her eyes – it was the only sign there was a person trapped inside the paralysed body. She’d been confined to a hospital bed for 67 days. Her family couldn’t care for her at home and didn’t visit her in…

2009 20 Jan Barack Obama is inaugurated 22 Jan He signs the order to close Guantanamo Bay detention camp within a year. (Although still open today, only 61 of the 775 prisoners remain.) 17 Feb He announces an additional 17 000 troops will be deployed to Afghanistan. 27 Feb He promises an end to the Iraq war. “By August 31, 2010, our combat mission in Iraq will end,” he says. 2010 23 March The Affordable Care Act, aka Obamacare, is introduced, extending health-insurance coverage to millions of Americans. The Republicans try to repeal the law more than 60 times over the years. 20 April The Deepwater Horizon oil rig explodes in the Gulf of Mexico, resulting in the worst oil spill in US history. Some call it Obama’s “Hurricane Katrina…

‘People think you won’t amount to much when you grew up like I did’ HE’S still getting used to being chauffeured around and having bodyguards following him – and to the fact that total strangers now greet him as if they know him. Life has changed fast for Solly Msimanga but the new mayor of Tshwane is taking it all in his stride and staying focused on the thing that motivates him most: making a difference during his tenure. “I’ve moved from a peaceful life, where you know what your day is going to look like, to a meaningful life,” says Solly (36), who’s the Democratic Alliance’s first mayor of SA’s administrative capital city. “It’s been crazy,” he says of his first two months in the job. “Today I had…

IT’S the most important meal of the day for everyone in your family. So teach your child the importance of a good, nutritious breakfast before they go off to preschool. After a good night’s rest, your child will essentially be running on empty, so the brain and body need fuel. Breakfast provides the vitamins and nutrients needed for a good start to every day. Purity Junior introduces a new range of cereal products – offering new, healthy breakfast options that your child will still find yummy. JUNIOR MUESLI Benefits Softer texture for younger children, making it easier to chew. Contains real fruit bits or raisins. High in fibre and wholegrains, which regulate the digestive system. Low GI. Can be served with milk or yoghurt – a source of dairy and…

HE’S just released his ninth album, Nobody But Me, but when the Canadian crooner had surgery on his vocal cords in June he prepared himself for the possibility of giving up his singing career if something went wrong. What helped him make peace with the idea was realising that nothing mattered more to him than being a father. “I thought if the worst [happens], at least I’ve had a great run. Being a dad gave me something I couldn’t have got anywhere else. It gave me context.” Michael (41) and his Argentinian wife, model and actress Luisana Lopilato (29), have two sons – Noah (3) and Elias (nine months). OUT AT SEA Michael’s dad, Lewis, was a commercial fisherman and when Michael turned 14 he started working with him during…

IT WAS 3 am and Douglas Abrams was so nervous he couldn’t sleep. After two years of meticulous planning he was finally in Dharamsala, India, with Archbishop Desmond Tutu. The purpose of the visit? For the Nobel Peace Prize winner to spend time with the Dalai Lama at his residence in exile trying to answer one burning question: how do we find joy in the face of life’s eternal suffering? For five days the holy men would share their wisdom and then it would be up to Doug to compile their answers into a book. But just hours before he was due to facilitate one of the world’s most profound conversations, the American book editor was in a flat spin. “I was really wondering, ‘Who am I? What the hell…

LISTEN TO THIS! OH MY MY ONEREPUBLIC If you’ve been a fan of the American pop rockers since their debut hit, Apologize, landed in 2006, you’ll want to get your hands on their latest offering. The band’s fourth studio album shows how they’ve evolved over the past decade – although it’s no Native and doesn’t have the same brand of hits that made the 2013 album popular. There are some misses but catchy hits such as Kids and Future Looks Good should make up for it. They also don’t just stick to pop and rock but try different music styles, which makes this a pleasingly diverse album. Frontman Ryan Tedder’s voice shines – begging the question why it was auto-tuned on certain songs. A must-have for fans. NEW ON THE…

REAL-LIFE HEARTBREAK I Hate U, I Love U is about a real situation, he says. Even though the story sucks, he says, he wanted the other person to know how he’d felt. “The feeling I had was that I hated and loved them at the same time.” EVERDAY EMOTIONS Gnash named his record label :): – or Happy-Sad, if it’s said out loud – and explains that these are emotions people experience each day. MUSICAL BEGINNINGS He started DJing at 13 and did gigs at high-school parties. At home in Los Angeles he works from his garage, which he’s turned into a home studio. “Home is where I’m most comfortable,” he says. HE’S A WRITER He writes in his journal at the end of each day. His mother buys him…

A YEAR ago he was just a regular resident of Christiana in North West, working in a tavern he owns and pushing and pulling 350-kg chunks of scrap metal around his backyard in his spare time. As you do. Today Johan Els (37) is a legend. He won four divisions of the international Arnold Classic strongman competition in Sandton, Joburg, earlier this year and was then invited to take part in a competition in Botswana. Johan, who’s 1,97 m tall and weighs 150 kg, was spotted by the managing director of a truck-manufacturing company, who invited him to do a one-man strongman show at the 50th anniversary celebrations of Botswana’s independence. His task: to pull a 20-ton aircraft along a highway. His response: bring it on. “I pulled that aircraft…

The MTV Africa Music Awards (Mamas) recently took place at the Ticketpro Dome in Johannesburg. The star-studded affair wasn’t without drama as host Trevor Noah pulled out at the last minute, citing a respiratory-tract infection. Luckily TV presenter BONANG MATHEBA, actress Nomzamo Mbatha and singer Yemi Alade were on hand to take over presenting duties. Celebs from all over Africa showed up in droves but these lovely ladies ruled the red carpet.…

CHARLIE SHEEN (51) and ASHTON KUTCHER (38) put on a convincing show of friendliness recently when they shook hands at a Los Angeles Dodgers baseball game. The actors hadn’t exactly been on good terms since the producers of Two And A Half Men decided in 2011 to replace bad boy Charlie with Ashton. Since then Charlie has made numerous jabs at Ashton on social media and in 2012 he told gossip website TMZ, “I’m tired of pretending Ashton doesn’t suck.” Ouch!…

My heart goes out to Mariska van Heerden (YOU, 20 October) on the loss of her precious Mundolene. I’m devastated and I feel only a billionth of your pain. JENNY ESTERHUIZEN, PRETORIA My heart breaks for Mike and for Mariska. What a dreadful way to lose your child – through someone’s temper! Teenagers can push your buttons but Mundolene’s stepmother had no right to strike her in any way ever! STEPMOM, DURBAN It’s so tragic that so many babies and children are being killed in wars around the world. They’re born innocent and are then indoctrinated with religion by their parents instead of being taught love and tolerance toward all people. No child is born with a religion. VERY SAD, SMS The programme Trending SA on SABC3 is the most…

SHE SAYS ‘Barack is an incurable romantic’ They still have date nights and he regularly surprises her with flowers. A few days after winning the 2008 election he took her to one of their favourite Italian restaurants in Chicago. In 2012, after Barack was elected for a second term, she said, “I can honestly say when it comes to his character and his convictions and his heart, Barack is the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.” HE SAYS ‘Michelle is my rock’ Before he stood for president they discussed it “and if Michelle had said no, I would have walked away”.…

HE’S almost a caricature of a private investigator: chain-smoking, craggy-faced and baggy-eyed, the been-there, done-that and seen-it-all former top cop who ran on adrenaline, Grandpa headache powder mixed with Coke and a passion to see justice done. Before he retired in 2010 he was regarded as one of the three best murder detectives in the world. He cracked the Leigh Matthews case in 2004 and the Sheldean Human one in 2008. Both were high-profile murders of young people that gripped the nation and sent Piet Byleveld on a single-minded mission: to bring the murderers to justice. Donovan Moodley went down for the abduction and killing of Leigh, a 21-year-old university student, while Andrew Jordaan was arrested for killing seven-year-old Sheldean. When Byleveld retired he toyed with the idea of becoming…

‘Even though it’s sometimes difficult, you need to try not to take it personally. Keep the end goal in mind’ IT WAS meant to be a dream holiday in a tropical paradise which would see the whole family returning with suntans and great memories. Instead 17-year-old Mundolene Vosloo came home in a coffin and her stepmother, Marietjie (33), landed in a Mauritian jail charged with culpable homicide for allegedly delivering the fatal slap that caused the teenager to die of an apparent brain haemorrhage. The tragic event has shattered the teenager’s dad, Mike (46), and her two younger brothers and has sent shock-waves through the country. Inevitably this case conjures up images of the stereotypical cruel stepmother depicted in fairy-tales such as Cinderella. But one woman who’s been a stepmom…

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IT’S a challenge preparing low-carb meals for a family as everything has to be made from scratch. But in her new book, My Low Carb Kitchen, Vickie de Beer shows how to put a lifestyle with few carbs into practice. It’s a follow-up to her first book, The Low Carb Solution For Diabetes, written after her son, Lucca, was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. Here are some of her easy new recipes. QUICHE “I like to know there’s a quiche in the freezer,” Vickie says. “This is a meal on its own and can easily become lunch for the kids. We eat it with a simple mixed salad.” SERVES 6 Preparation: 20 min Cooking: 60-70 min CRUST 400 ml (1²/3 c) almond flour 125 ml (½ c) golden flaxseed, ground…

MANY of us look at our skin and wish it were more radiant and even toned. You try everything on the market that promises a radiant complexion only to have your skin act up after a few weeks of use, which can be discouraging. We offer tips that can help. OILYSKIN Minimise the occurrence of breakouts, blackheads and enlarged pores with a good exfoliator and a toner. Exfoliate at least twice a week to deep-cleanse and remove dirt from your pores, then apply toner to minimise enlarged pores. Use a make-up remover daily and follow up with a gentle cleanser to get rid of any remaining dirt and soothe the skin. Avoid heavy creams. TRY THIS DRY SKIN A hydrating mask could do the trick as it allows your skin…

The world is a book and those who don’t travel only read one page – PHILOSOPHER AND WRITER ST AUGUSTINE NOTHING IS FREE If you have kids in matric this year you might be wondering if you should send them on a gap year due to the #FeesMustFall fallout. Or if you’re working too hard you may want to recharge your batteries by taking a sabbatical for a few months. If you want a pleasant and life-changing experience it’s going to cost you money. Save as much as possible for this so you don’t have to go into debt. You can supplement your income or savings with part-time work. Also cut back on luxury and unnecessary items. YOUR DESTINATION To get the most out of your money you’d do…

HOW TO FIND LOVE IN A BOOK SHOP By VERONICA HENRY, Orion Emilia Nightingale has returned to the small English town of Peasebrook to take over the helm of Nightingale Books following the death of her father. The place is a book-lover’s paradise, with dark wood panelling and shelves crammed with every book imaginable. Her dad bought the shop and the flat above it when Emilia was a baby and it’s the only home she has ever known. There are some sad and moving times ahead for her in the weeks after his death but it’s also an uplifting story with plenty of intrigue and unexpected twists and turns. This is a warm-hearted gem that will resonate with book-lovers. It’s very entertaining, has an interesting cast of memorable characters and…

24K MAGIC by BRUNO MARS If there’s one guy who knows how to churn out hit after hit, it’s this dude – and Bruno’s latest track has chart contender written all over it. 24K Magic is the title track from the Treasure hitmaker’s third album, his first new one since 2012’s Unorthodox Jukebox. The ’80s R&B throwback tune is in the same vein as Treasure and Uptown Funk, the ’70s soul-flavoured chart-topper he did in collaboration with Mark Ronson. An earworm of note! GARDEN by EMELI SANDÉ The Scottish soul singer’s debut album, Our Version Of Events, put her on the map in 2012 and earned her the critics’ choice award at the Brit Awards that year. She’s releasing her follow-up album, Long Live The Angels, this month. Garden is…

ICE ICE BABY ‘Skating makes me feel happy and free. On the ice nothing else really matters – it’s such a great feeling’ LIGHTS, CHOREOGRAPHY, COSTUMES! Bonding with her coach LISA STIGANT (LEFT) is her favourite thing about ice-skating. Working on new elements for her choreography is always exciting – and of course designing new competition dresses with her mom. FRESH LOOK The dark-haired beauty is also making a name for herself as a model. She won the 2015 Fresh Face model search and recently landed a job with an overseas company which was shot in Cape Town. “I want to pursue my modelling career and I hope it will give me a chance to travel the world. I love being in front of the camera and having my hair…

WHAT do you do when your marriage ends after nine years? If you’re TOBEY MAGUIRE (41) you hook up with your best buddy, Leonardo DiCaprio (41), and party just like in the good old days. For the past few months the two actors – who in the ’90s were infamous for their partying and womanising ways – have been seen hitting Los Angeles’ clubs. In fact just weeks before Tobey’s separation from his jewellery designer wife, JENNIFER MEYER (39), went public, the Spider-Man actor was seen at 1 Oak nightclub in Los Angeles chatting and dancing with model SOFIA RICHIE, who at 18 is young enough to pass as his daughter. Tobey’s split from Jennifer, who is the daughter of former Universal Studios CEO Ron Meyer, was a long time…

LOVE YOUR CHILDREN I’M OF a generation brought up with loving strictness by my parents. The occasional smack was soon forgotten. Requests were often dismissed with a simple “no”. Our upbringing included a range of duties that couldn’t be avoided. Parents were simply authoritarian. It brings to mind the question of whether children are overindulged by their parents these days. A happy childhood is the best gift parents can give their children. When parents spoil kids with love, it’s absolutely right and praiseworthy. It does the parents and the children good. But love isn’t about fulfilling your child’s every material wish. Parents who never say “no” are in fact buying themselves out of their duty to teach their children about life. The love of a parent also shows in a…

THE world’s most famous political family are about to leave the building – and it’s safe to say a bit of magic will disappear when they do. In the eight years the Obamas have lived in the White House we’ve watched the daughters grow from grinning little girls into poised young women. We’ve seen the first lady become a symbol for women as well as a style icon with arms so enviable there are You-Tube videos devoted to toning your triceps and banishing your batwings à la Michelle. We’ve watched the first black president of the United States tackle the toughest job in the world and change from a youthful 47-year-old to a grey-haired 55-year-old – but with the same winning smile. As Americans prepare to go to the polls…

SHE remembers her last conversation with her father, Taliep Petersen, like it was yesterday. They were in their luxurious double-storey home in Grasmere Street, Athlone, in Cape Town. The beloved musician told her how much he loved her and how he’d always be there for her. “And then he asked me to bring him a Coke,” Zaynab (17) recalls. Taliep’s youngest child bursts out laughing and so do her older half-siblings, Jawaahier (30), Aeesha (27), Ashur (24) and Fatiema (23). This casual approach was typical of their father, agree his children from his first marriage to Madeegha Anders. “It’s the first time we’re hearing this,” says Ashur, Taliep’s only son. “We’ve never asked her about that final conversation.” That was the last time Zaynab, then seven years old, saw her…

CHICKEN WITH CORIANDER VINAIGRETTE SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 45 min CHICKEN 1 whole chicken salt and pepper 30 ml (2 T) olive oil SWEET POTATOES 4 sweet potatoes, scrubbed 15 ml (1 T) olive oil salt VINAIGRETTE 10 g fresh coriander, chopped 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 1 chilli, chopped juice of 1 lemon TO SERVE 15 ml (1 T) sesame seeds, toasted Preheat the oven to 200 °C. Put a wire rack on a baking sheet and grease with nonstick spray. 1 Chicken Season the chicken with salt and pepper. Put on the wire rack, drizzle the oil over and roast for 15 minutes. 2 Sweet potatoes Cut the sweet potatoes into 1 cm thick slices. Grease a baking sheet with the oil, add the slices…

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‘You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you’ – AMERICAN ACTRESS MARY TYLER MOORE I LOVE HIM BUT HE’S NOT SURE HE’S GAY I’m gay and have fallen in love with a man who’s still married to his wife. They’re separated and he’s unsure of his sexual orientation. He’s trying to decide if he wants to work on his marriage. She keeps him dangling, pulling him closer each time he seems to be leaning towards wanting a divorce. They have two children but the kids spend every weekend with him as she tells him she needs a break from them. She’s too lazy to have the kids when it’s her weekend but still wants to dictate what he does with them and which of his…

QUICKIES . . . Where do pencils go for a holiday? Pencil-vania. Why did the boy smear peanut butter on the road? To go with the traffic jam. Why do bananas have to put on sunscreen before they go to the beach? Otherwise they might peel. How do you make a tissue dance? You put a little boogie in it. Which flower talks the most? Tulips, of course! A man arrived in a small town on Friday. He stayed for two days and left on Friday. How is this possible? His horse’s name is Friday. What kind of exercise do lazy people do? Diddly-squats. NO ORIGINALITY! I’m trying to get into classical music, but I can’t find any original recordings. All the music is performed by cover bands. KNOCK, KNOCK…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS LEISURE AND WELLBEING: SCORPIO . . . • Finds regular detox is the key to their wellbeing. • Engages with intensity – whatever the leisure activity. • Leaves no stone unturned to get to the bottom of their ailments. • Needs a healthy outlet for their passionate nature. • Is private about their health issues. • Has innate physical and emotional strength, which is a great asset. • Finds obsession and paranoia make life difficult. SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV It’s time to focus on your house and home Towards the end of the week your planet, Mars, moves into your home and family zone, bringing about a focus on domestic matters. This is a great time to pour energy into activities in and around the house.…

MONSTER HUNTER GENERATIONS, NINTENDO 3DS Monster Hunter Generations (R539 at the Nintendo eShop) is the best Monster Hunter game Capcom has made for the 3DS: it’s a love letter to fans of the series and a “greatest hits” of Monster Hunter games. We couldn’t find anything lacking in the massive experience on offer. All areas of the game have been expanded – from the variety of weapons to monsters to gear, crafting, companions . . . The list goes on. For fans of the series, Generations is the ultimate must-have title, but for new players, beware: Cap-com has always made the series with its hardcore fans in mind, so it can be tough for a newbie hunter to get to grips with the many systems that come together to build…

YOU’D think nothing would shock her any more – after all, she starred in one of TV’s most sexually provocative shows. But Sarah Jessica Parker is the first to admit she’s horrified when she sees the stuff that pops up in her son’s social media feeds. “Girls post really suggestive pictures of themselves and say, ‘I’m slut-shaming myself first, so you can’t.’ It’s just unbelievable,” she gasps. As the mother of a teenage boy, James Wilkie, who turned 14 last month, as well as seven-year-old twin girls, Marion and Tabitha, the actress has a particular parental window into young people’s lives in 2016. She’s impressed by her son’s maturity of response to the provocative posts. “He has really good, smart questions and thoughts about young women’s freedom, and how they…

THERE’S a reason diet is a four-letter word. Oh, it’s tedious – all that deprivation and obsessive kilojoule counting – but many of us are going into weight-loss mode because we believe it’s the only way to get our bodies back in shape for summer. But here’s the good news: you can drop weight without resorting to radical eating plans. Rather than throwing out everything in your grocery cupboard and making sweeping changes it’s better to make a few small tweaks, experts say. This approach is way more manageable and likely to produce results because you’re dieting without even really being aware that you’re doing it. And these good habits might soon become a way of life, seeing you comfortably through the holiday season into a healthy and happy new…

KATLEGO & MONIQUE Super-stylish KATLEGO MABOE (30) is off the market! The Expresso presenter recently posted this pic (RIGHT) of himself with new girlfriend MONIQUE MULLER (26) on Instagram along with the intriguing caption, “Last night was the best night of my life. . .” The couple, who’ve been together for two months, met through mutual friends and Katlego is clearly smitten. Monique works as a sales consultant in Cape Town. “It was natural attraction for each other that led to coffee dates and movie nights and became our love story,” Katlego tells us. “It’s one we’re thoroughly enjoying and that we hope will be blessed.” ANDREW & JADE Locnville’s ANDREW CHAPLIN (26) and Top Billing presenter JADE HUBNER (24) clearly have a blast together. They met at a fashion…

‘Every time I really miss Heath, I look at Matilda’ – MICHELLE WILLIAMS MICHELLE WILLIAMS (36) was spotted out with her daughter, MATILDA (10), and her mom, CARLA WILLIAMS, in Brooklyn, New York, recently – and the family resemblance is clear. But while there’s something of her mom in Matilda’s face, she’s still the spitting image of her late dad, HEATH LEDGER. She was just 15 months old when the actor died from an accidental drug overdose.…

Seems JENNIFER LAWRENCE (26) has a new man in tow – British director Darren Aronofsky (47). She worked with him recently on an unnamed project and sources say they’re casually dating. The actress – whose exes include Coldplay frontman Chris Martin (39) and actor Nicholas Hoult (26) – has said she doesn’t have a type. “Patterns are the work of the devil. If I think about all of my ex-boyfriends, they’re all so incomparable.” Brad Pitt (52) has reportedly turned to Angelina Jolie’s father, JON VOIGHT (77), with whom he’s remained close, for divorce advice – and unsurprisingly the actress isn’t happy about it. “She’s really pi**ed at her dad,” an insider dishes. Jon apparently told Brad that Angie (41) is erratic like her mother, the late Marcheline Bertrand, whom…