Innholdsfortegnelse for 12-Dec-19 i You South Africa

ONE side of our offices on the Cape Town Foreshore used to look over the freeway to the harbour beyond. We used to be able to see ships coming and going, little tugs pulling huge tankers and floating palaces such as the Queen Mary gliding gracefully on the waves. But no more. The international convention centre has expanded, putting an oblong of concrete and glass directly in our line of vision. A new hospital has been built right next to it too, so that’s pretty much that. One group of people on our floor would barely have looked up even had the view never been obscured – they’re simply too busy. They’re a small team who work hard to produce YOU’s spin-off magazines and one of their latest ones is…

People called out to me all night when I dressed as my favourite magazine for Halloween. My difficulties included trying to carry a drink in each hand through a crowd, barely making it through a doorway and not being able to sit down. Positives included making people laugh, running around the dance-floor as a bopping magazine and just being YOU! BIG YOU FAN, EMAIL I love the new Noot vir Noot. Emo Adams is brilliant. The new format is great as well. I miss the band and Johan Stemmet of course, but the change is refreshing. TRA-LA-LA, SMS My granddaughter is five. I file all YOU’s educational and kids’ games pages in a flip file. She does the colouring in now and will do the other puzzles when she’s a…

SCAMS, lies, sex tapes, falls off the wagon, feuds . . . Scandals beset Hollywood once again this year – and one even came back to haunt one of the biggest stars of all time from beyond the grave. As the year draws to a close we look at who’s licking their wounds, who’s out in the cold and whose legacy has all but been destroyed. Felicity Huffman & Lori Loughlin UNIVERSITY CHEATING SCANDAL The drama The Desperate Housewives actress and Full House star were charged with being involved in a countrywide university admissions scandal that rocked the USA and stunned fans. The actresses were among 52 people charged with taking part in a wide-ranging scheme run by a California varsity admissions consultant, in which rich parents bypassed regular processes…

South Africa is one of “the most unsafe places in the world to be a woman”, President Cyril Ramaphosa said at an emergency sitting of parliament in September. Some 2 700 women and 1 000 children were murdered by men in 2018 and at least 100 rapes were reported daily. These statistics are like those of a country at war, the president added. “There’s a dark and heavy shadow across our land. Women and children are under siege.” These are three of the thousands of murdered women who made headlines in recent months. UYINENE MRWETYANA In August, the 19-year-old University of Cape Town student was raped and murdered by Luyanda Botha (42) in the Cape Town post office where he worked. Last month Botha was convicted and handed three life…

WHEN the season began and I had to face other tight-heads, I was ready, purely because of the intensity we brought to preseason training. BJ Botha was the starting Springbok in that position at the time and he’d drill me in training, to the extent that all parts of my body hurt after a session. I actually think that because of the quality of the people I was training with I grew more – and faster – than I would have been able to do in match situations. The first time I had a chance to try out what I’d learnt was in a warm-up game against the Cheetahs at Kings Park in January 2007. I packed down against CJ van der Linde, who was the other Springbok tighthead alongside…

CAULIFLOWER PIE WITH HERB SAUCE SERVES 4 AS A MAIN DISH OR 6 AS A SIDE DISH PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 1 HOUR ONIONS 15ml (1T) butter 15ml (1T) oil 2 onions, sliced 2 garlic cloves, chopped 5ml (1t) dried mixed herbs pinch of salt PIE 1 roll (400g) puff pastry 15ml (1T) mustard salt and pepper 1 cauliflower 30ml (2T) flour 1 egg yolk, whisked with 15ml (1T) water 5ml (1t) black sesame seeds (optional) HERB SAUCE 2 handfuls of fresh mixed herbs 60ml (¼c) olive oil juice and grated zest of 1 lemon 30ml (2T) mayonnaise or plain yoghurt salt and pepper Preheat the oven to 180°C. Line a baking sheet with baking paper. 1 Onions Heat the butter and oil in a pan and fry the onions…

THURSDAY ■ ANIMAL ★★★ 2005, 93 min, 16VL, e.tv, 00:00. Crime drama. A violent convict is rehabilitated while in prison, but when he’s released he realises his son is following in his criminal footsteps . Ving Rhames, Terrence Howard. ■ LEGO DC SUPER HERO GIRLS: SUPER-VILLAIN HIGH ★★ 2018, 78 min, A, M-Net, 04:35. Animated fantasy. Based on the comics. A group of female superhero teens discover a new school has opened in town, but it’s for supervillains only. FRIDAY ■ CLEO ★★★ 2016, 90 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Animated comedy. At the start of winter break, a boy and his friends are joined by the new girl in town for a drawn-out snowball fight. ■ JERUSALEMA ★★★ 2008, 119 min, 16VSL, e.tv, 22:00 & 03:00. Local crime drama. A…

HE’S a poet of the streets, a rapper whose lyrics are provocative and perceptive and a performer whose in-your-face style has helped him amass legions of fans and some of the top awards in the business. With all this going for him, you’d think YoungstaCPT would be all bravado and swagger – but you’d be wrong. Hip-hop’s man of the moment is rather quiet and reserved. He’s a self-professed introvert who doesn’t like being around too many people. “I don’t mind being in the background. [I’m] often heard but seldom seen,” says YoungstaCPT, whose real name is Riyadh Roberts. But he’d better get used to people wanting to see more of him. He recently won big at the South African Hip Hop Awards, scooping the coveted album of the year…

As every parent knows, raising kids is one of the toughest gigs around – whether you’re a celebrity or not. “Guys, parenting is beautiful, then it’s hard, then it’s beautiful, then it’s heartbreaking, then it’s all that all over again,” said singer LEANNE DLAMINI (34) in an Instagram post. She used the post to share some of the life lessons she hopes to teach her daughters, ZANI-LEE (10) and ZAYAROSE (6), whom she shares with her husband, music producer Sipho Dlamini (44). “I wish you the strength to face challenges along with the confidence to choose your battles carefully. I wish you adventure on your journey and may you always stop to help someone along the way. Listen to your heart and take risks carefully. Never forget how strong and…

PAID A PITTANCE I’ve just read the article about Sylvia Mahlangu’s fight for compensation after her mother, a domestic worker, fell into her employer’s pool and drowned (YOU, 28 November). It’s such a sad story. I think Sylvia should become a lawyer! Besides this, what struck me was what Maria Mahlangu was being paid! Her salary was R2 500. Is this per month for a day starting at 7am and ending after supper? Should Sylvia not claim back pay for her mother being underpaid, perhaps? KATHLEEN, EMAIL BLOWING BONUSES Many South Africans find it difficult to sit at home when they have bonus money in their pocket. They’d rather go on shopping sprees and buy things they really don’t need. Then there are those who drink their bonus down to…

Princes Harry and William are two different people, both with wives and families (YOU, 7 November). It would be foolish to expect everyone to get on and agree on child-rearing and family life. They have different goals and family dynamics. It might be true that William cautioned his brother about his choice of wife but if Harry loves Meghan why should that matter? The consequences were clear with Charles and Diana. Him not being in love with her and marrying for the sake of the family – it usually ends badly. It’s been refreshing and delightful to see Harry and Meghan holding hands in many of the photos we’ve seen. They’re warm and sincere in their dealings with people of all walks of life. They’re now parents, so both their…

SOME nights she still cries herself to sleep. She often brings her two-year-old twins to bed with her, holding them close to try to curb the loneliness – but not even their warm, cuddly presence is enough to stem the tears. “It’s lonely,” she admits. “My parents have been married for 41 years. I wanted that for my kids, but they also deserve parents who are happily married.” It’s hard to believe former Miss South Africa Claudia Henkel has been so unhappy when you see photos of her on Instagram, exuding elegance and radiating self-confidence. But life has been anything but picture-perfect this year. Her marriage to businessman Orin Roesstorff collapsed in February and the 36-year-old is speaking out about the pain of the past nine months for the first…

‘Everyone was in the loop. It was no secret’ IMAGINE it. You’re the leader of a small European country and you get a phone call from the president of the United States, asking you for a “favour”. He wants you to help dig up dirt on his main political rival so he can win the next presidential election. How can you say no? Especially when he holds the key to unlocking $400 million (R6 billion) in military aid your country desperately needs. It’s this scenario that has landed US president Donald Trump in a whole heap of trouble. Critics say it’s an open-and-shut case of bribery. But the president insists it’s all a huge misunderstanding. Is he telling the truth? This is what politicians in the US House of Representatives…

BROKEN PROMISES MAKE ME FEEL USED Q I met my boyfriend in August 2016 and we moved in together five months later. It seemed we wanted the same things and had both been hurt by previous partners. Then he started making promises and not keeping them. He’s a good man but I think he doesn’t have a plan for the future. We decided to build a house and I’ve saved money for this but he hasn’t made any effort to do the same. He pays the bills for two months then says he doesn’t have money as he’s self-employed. Yet he’s pushing for us to have kids. Last year he was supposed to pay lobola and on the day of the lobola negotiations he said a friend had stolen the…

MATWETWE Local crime comedy. Best friends and recent matriculants Papi (Tebatso Mashishi) and Lefa (Sibusiso Khwinana) have concocted a potent strain of dagga they call matwetwe (“wizard”) and over the course of one mad New Year’s Eve in Atteridgeville, Gauteng, they try to hustle their way into a massive pay day. Of course, things go far from smoothly in this darkly funny coming-of-age comedy written and directed by actor and comic Kagiso Lediga (Catching Feelings, Blitzpatrollie). Brisk and funny, the cast deliver terrific performances, making this a must-see. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS 2017. 81 MIN. 16DLSV. FIVE FEET APART Romantic drama. Stella (Split’s Haley Lu Richardson) has cystic fibrosis (CF). At hospital she meets Will (Cole Sprouse from Riverdale), who also has CF and a highly infectious bacterial infection. At first…

ANOTHER KIND OF CHRISTMAS NE-YO The three-time Grammy Award winner wrote five new tracks, and revisits the classics for his first Christmas album. Ne-Yo has previously released two Christmas singles, I Want to Come Home for Christmas from The Best Man Holiday and The Christmas Song with Tasha Cobbs. His covers on this album include Someday at Christmas, first performed by Stevie Wonder; Want to Come Home for Christmas by Marvin Gaye; This Christmas; Merry Christmas, Baby and The Christmas Song. The album earns its parental advisory label with the tracks Just Talk about It, about spouses taking issue with how each of them wants to celebrate Christmas, and Open Mine Tonight. Ne-Yo delivers smooth, satisfying updates of classics, but his new tracks are pretty standard R&B fare and not…

WITH his soft, downy curls and heart-melting smile, the little boy is as cute as a button and the apple of his mom’s eye. Everywhere Abigail Wardle goes people stop to coo over her one-year-old son – although their smiles often falter when they see something sets Oliver Aisthorpe apart from other tots. Her son has no hands and feet yet for Abigail (23), it’s a small price to pay. Oliver may have a long road ahead – physiotherapy, prosthetic limbs, a lifetime of living with a disability – but he’s alive. And after the ordeal she endured while he fought for survival, all she cares about is that she still has her precious little boy. Within 48 hours Abigail watched as her son went from a happy, lively baby…

THERE was a time she never thought she’d make it in Tinseltown because she had “fat legs”. But countless accolades, including two Oscar nominations, seven Golden Globe nominations, three Emmy nominations and a Bafta win later, it’s clear the size of Helena Bonham Carter’s legs has been no obstacle in her path to success. And at 53 the roles are still streaming in for this talented, eccentric British star. Her latest role sees her playing Princess Margaret in the third season of runaway hit series The Crown, which was released last month on streaming service Netflix. Helena takes over the role of Queen Elizabeth’s rebellious younger sister from Vanessa Kirby (31), who portrayed Margaret in her younger days. Season 3 focuses on the end of Margaret’s marriage to Antony Armstrong-Jones…

It’s her favourite season, says Miss SA ZOZIBINI TUNZI (26) – she’s in her element in warm weather. “I’m a summer person – I’ve always hated the cold,” she says. “Something about the sun and clear blue skies lifts my mood.” It also makes her reminisce about sweltering days when she and her cousins ran around the garden while their grandmother would cool them down by spraying them with water from a hosepipe. We asked Zozi to share her fashion must-haves for summer. “It’s all about ease and comfort,” she…

WHAT started out as an amicable split has gone downhill fast! Less than a month after CHANNING TATUM and JENNA DEWAN peacefully ended their nine-year marriage, the exes are headed back to court. The former golden couple, who announced their split in April last year, recently became embroiled in a bitter custody battle over their six-year-old daughter, EVERLY. Jenna (38) was apparently blindsided when Channing (39) filed court documents earlier this month asking a judge to create a holiday custody schedule for their daughter. Communication between the pair has deteriorated to the point where Channing felt as if he needed to go the legal route to make sure he gets quality time with Everly over the holidays, insiders say. For her part, the World of Dance host apparently feels as…

‘I’m just as surprised as everyone else’– KIM ON HER CONSIDERABLE POLITICAL INFLUENCE ON TONING DOWN THE NUDITY “I realised I couldn’t even scroll through Instagram in front of my kids without full nudity coming up on my feed. And I contributed to that,” Kim (39) says of her own saucy social media snaps. “Also, one day I was at the White House and then the next day I was posting a crazy bikini selfie. And I was thinking, ‘I hope they don’t see this. I have to go back there next week’.” ON THE INFAMOUS PARIS ROBBERY “I definitely see the things I brought on myself, the biggest being the robbery. Just being flashy and oversharing my every move on social media,” she says of the October 2016 incident…

MAKING IT WORK Singer Mariah Carey got into the festive spirit with her eight-year-old twins, Monroe and Moroccan, and their father, her ex-husband Nick Cannon. They were also joined by Mariah’s dancer beau, Brian Tanaka. STEPMOM GOALS Hustlers star Jennifer Lopez donned an apron to help her fiancé, Alex Rodriguez, and his daughters, Natasha and Ella, with Thanksgiving meal preparations. FATHER AND SONS David Beckham shared a selfie of himself with his son Brooklyn as their family celebrated the traditional American holiday. The former footballer also posted a picture of the entire Beckham clan, captioned, “I am grateful.” FRIENDSGIVING Jennifer Aniston posted a few fun snaps from her Thanksgiving celebration with ex-husband Justin Theroux, former costar Jason Bateman and a smattering of other famous folks. WINE-O-CLOCK “Gratitude is when someone…

SHOW YOUR APPRECIATION I’VE found there’s magic in the little word “thanks”. We all thrive on appreciation, just as flowers need showers. The sweating fruit vendor on the hot railway-station platform, the harassed grocery packer at the supermarket, the stern sister at the clinic – they can all do with a verbal pat on the back. From having serious expressions, their faces suddenly light up. And so does my own. That’s the magic of it! And a big thanks to YOU for a magic magazine – most informative and absorbing. FERN, BOTHASIG…

We bet you’re ready for your big summer break! Be sure to pack in a copy of YOU Leisure to get you into holiday mode! It’s a magazine for adults filled with art activities with a South African theme. Colour in the gorgeous artwork, follow the mazes, connect the dots, find the hidden pictures and have fun. It’s just what you need to de-stress! Get your copy delivered to your door when you order online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com.…

EVER since she was a little girl, all she wanted was to be famous. Lerato Makgatho’s dream came true and now her name is known all across South Africa – but not for the reasons she’d hoped. The actress and model-turned-slay queen – a slang term for a woman who wants to impress – is at the heart of an alleged love triangle involving two of the country’s most powerful politicians – finance minister Tito Mboweni and mineral resources and energy minister Gwede Mantashe, who’s also the ANC’s national chairman. Lerato (26), a one-time street child, made headlines recently when she revealed she’d been in relationships with both men. She claims they treated her to holidays, meals at high-end restaurants and liaisons at top hotels, as well as a monthly…

Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. It takes a lot of self-discipline to save and it’s easier if you have the support of friends. That’s what Noluthando Ndlwana, a single mom from Cape Town, has discovered. She’s managed to save enough money to pay next year’s school fees, among other things. Savings clubs or stokvels are a good solution for people who struggle to save on their own but here’s what you need to know before joining one. CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WELL For a savings club to be successful, its members need to trust one another. Whether the club comprises friends or family members, you need to be sure everyone always contributes and there’s…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC Make sure you put your best foot forward First impressions count, an adage that applies even to a casual Sagittarius with a somewhat careless approach. The right body language, clear communication, eye contact and a ready smile should go a long way in making a good impression. You may even want to take things a step further and take your physical appearance into consideration. A haircut, clothes that fit well and getting your body in shape may just do the trick. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 43, 21, 39, 44, 2, 9 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN  Your personal year is drawing to an end, which makes it a good week in which to withdraw from the rat race, shun the social scene and spend…

■ Actress Emma Thompson, who’s formed a close bond with Emilia, describes the star as having “the courage of a small lion, the stamina of a Welsh pit pony and the soul of a clown”. ■ Emilia’s favourite Christmas movie just happens to be Love Actually, which stars Emma. “I’ve admired and loved Emma from afar for my entire life,” she says. ■ Last Christmas is based on the music of George Michael – both his and Wham!’s music make up the soundtrack. “I didn’t realise how his poetry describes so much of the acts of self-care and kindness that this film really speaks about,” Emma says. ■ Following her brain aneurysms, Emilia helped set up a charity called SameYou, which provides treatment for patients recovering from brain injuries and…

PREY: MOONCRASH Platforms: Microsoft Windows, PlayStation 4 and Xbox One Mooncrash is an add-on expansion to the 2017 first-person shooter game Prey and is available as downloadable content (DLC) for players who already own the original. And just like Prey, it more than delivers. The original game is a survival horror set on board a space station where a hostile alien species, the Typhon, has escaped confinement. Mooncrash is set after the events of Prey but doesn’t really have much to do with it. You play Peter, a hacker who must find out what happened on a secret moonbase that was abandoned after a tragedy. To do this Peter runs simulations of how the five people who survived managed to escape. The player starts with one character at a time…

INSPIRATION YOU’RE NOT BROKE, YOU’RE PRE-RICH By MAPALO MAKHU Zebra With humour and simple, relatable examples, personal finance coach and columnist Makhu shows millennial professionals how to get out of debt and manage their money effectively so they can take back control of their lives. She also covers some handy topics such as black tax, estate planning, financial scams and saving for retirement. QUICK AND DELICIOUS By GORDON RAMSAY Hodder & Stoughton Ramsay offers recipes and time-saving hacks to create yummy, nutritious and appetising dishes in fewer than 30 minutes. In the opening pages the popular TV chef supplies lists of essential and time-saving ingredients that will help you whip up delicious meals quickly and without too much fuss. CALM THE F**K DOWN JOURNAL By SARAH KNIGHT Quercus If you’ve…

I FIRST met Diana in 1981, just before she and Prince Charles were married. It was at Prince Andrew’s 21st birthday party at Windsor Castle – English percussionist Ray Cooper and I were supposed to be providing the entertainment. It was a completely surreal evening. The outside of the castle was illuminated with psychedelic lighting and before we performed, the entertainment in the ballroom came courtesy of a mobile disco. Because the queen was there and no one wanted to cause any offence to the royal sensibilities, the disco was turned down about as low as you could get without switching it off altogether. You could literally hear your feet moving around on the floor over the music. Princess Anne asked me to dance with her to Hound Dog by…

This potentially fatal condition is triggered by an infection such as meningitis, pneumonia or urinary infections. Symptoms include a lack of appetite, lethargy, rapid breathing, sunken eyes, a high temperature, a rash and slurred speech. Sepsis occurs when the immune system goes into overdrive and attacks the body and can lead to organ failure and septic shock. “Oliver’s case is a reminder that the disease can strike at any age with often devastating consequences,” says Dr Ron Daniels, CEO of the UK Sepsis Trust. “Survival rates have improved hugely over the past several years, with more than 80% of people pulling through. “For some, like Oliver, amputation can become necessary.” Self-amputation occurs when the blood supply to a limb is so low that tissue dies, he adds. “It’s unusual for…

Doesn’t little KHALID PARNELL have the cutest mop of curls? His cricket player dad, WAYNE (30), certainly thinks so! The Proteas cricketer, who plays English county cricket for Worcestershire in the UK, posted a video to Instagram of him playing with Khalid’s curls while the 19-month-old lay on his lap. “Siri, please show me a perfect daddy and son date. #curlsforthegirls #daddysboy #cape-town,” he said alongside the vid. The family are currently in Cape Town and it seems Wayne’s wife, lifestyle blogger AISHA BAKER-PARNELL (29), isn’t crazy about the idea of heading back to the UK. “Been having mad anxiety about going back to England next year,” she said on Twitter. “Promised I’d try harder this time but being an expat isn’t for me, guys. Wow, I miss home so…

ARIA AWARDS Hosted by the Australian Recording Industry Association, the event honours the best in the music biz EVENING STANDARD THEATRE AWARDS Held at the London Coliseum, the annual event honours thespian stars MARRAKECH FILM FESTIVAL The glitterati flocked to the Moroccan capital for the annual cinema showcase…