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WE SHARE our house with a dog and a cat that are utterly beholden to us yet rule the roost. The dog needs to go for walks twice a day so mornings and evenings revolve around that. If she doesn’t go she paces up and down, stopping only to gaze longingly at the front door. The cat is just plain impossible. If you dare sleep past 7am she stares at you and cries until you get up. If you still ignore her, she sits on your chest and bats your eyelids. She’ll also meow at the closed back door and ignore the open patio one, even though it’s just metres away. She wants to come in that door, so hop to it. But the thought of life without them is…

Ten years ago I decided to stop dating and to focus on my studies. Then when I started working I felt the need to start dating again. But I remained single, lonely and searching for a year. Then one day I received a call from a stranger. It was clear that the man had called the wrong number. I said, “Wrong number,” and hung up. But for some reason his voice repeated itself in my mind the whole day and haunted me in my sleep that night. Fortunately he called the next morning to tell me he liked my voice and would like us to meet. “Blind date? Not my style,” I snapped even though I wanted to meet him. Nevertheless we started to text each other and eventually agreed…

THE news was heartbreaking. For months, she’d been doggedly fighting an all-consuming illness – all for naught. On a late summer’s day in November last year, the news came. Her body was worn out, her organs were failing. Doctors said she had a matter of days to live. Colleen Lingwood (30) surrounded herself with her closest friends at her home in Weltevredenpark, Roodepoort, to tell them she was dying. She was a victim of the listeriosis epidemic, she said, and her body couldn’t fight anymore. “We were devastated,” recalls Helen Minnie*, one of her friends. “To have to say goodbye to a dear friend knowing that any breath could be her last – everyone was incredibly emotional.” The friends witnessed how Andrew Lingwood (28) sat at the foot of his…

THE day her life changed in a heartbeat is imprinted on her memory forever. Her husband, an entrepreneur in the fruit industry, was in Johannesburg on business while she kept the home fires burning in Paarl in the Western Cape. She tried to get hold of him on the Friday but his phone went unanswered. “It was strange,” Amanda du Toit says. “Eion and I usually spoke six to eight times a day and suddenly there was just silence.” Still, she was a busy mom of three young kids and there was plenty to do. Emma, the middle child, had lost a tooth and Amanda told herself to calm down and get her daughter to the dentist – Eion was probably just busy. But when she still hadn’t heard anything…

WHEN she woke up on the morning of her wedding day, she felt more than just butterflies in her belly. But she tried to ignore the pain because in just a few hours’ time she’d be walking down the aisle and she didn’t want anything to spoil her big moment. Jena Carolus’ baby wasn’t due for another week. Surely, she thought, the little one would hang in there for a bit longer. But babies play by their own rules and this one had decided it was time to enter the big, wide world. Still, Jena (31) went about her preparations without breathing a word to anyone. First she picked up her wedding gown, then went to have her hair done. But an hour before the wedding ceremony was due to…

EVERYONE says you should start saving for retirement as early as possible, but in practice things don’t always work out that way. Then suddenly you’re in your forties or fifties and your nest egg is tiny, or even nonexistent. But you can still make a plan to start saving now. Here are seven useful tips for growing your nest egg. 1 MAKE A MIND SHIFT Although many people retire at 60 or 65, you can continue working until much later in life. People in their sixties are much healthier than 50 years ago and these days starting another career in your sixties and seventies has become more common. If you’ve put aside too little for your retirement you’ll need to find a way to keep earning an income. If you…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC Time to network with influential people Networking Mercury moves into your sign this week, which makes it a great time to rub shoulders with influential people. Whether you’re wishing for a soulmate, want to expand your circle of friends, need a buddy to share an adventure with, or want to develop your profession, several opportunities could present themselves. With your positive outlook and upbeat personality, making acquaintances won’t be a problem. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 30, 17, 20, 48, 39 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN It’s a week in which your innate Capricorn characteristics can be a burden or a boon. While your sober habits and responsible ways could save you money, pessimism, combined with being overly cautious, may lead to missed opportunities.…

CHARLIE’S ANGELS SOUNDTRACK VARIOUS ARTISTS Featuring many of today’s top female pop stars, this is undoubtedly an ode to girl power. It features the smash hit Don’t Call Me Angel by Ariana Grande, Miley Cyrus and Lana Del Rey. Ari fans will be in seventh heaven as the album has four other new songs from the Grammy winner: Bad to You (featuring Normani and Nicki Minaj); Nobody (with the legendary Chaka Khan); Got Her Own (with Victoria Monet); and Ari’s solo, How I look on You. Others artists include M-22, Arlissa, and Kiana Ledé (on Eyes off You), Stefflon Don as well as Kash Doll. A perfect album for partying the night away with your girlfriends! – NICI DE WET STAR QUOTE ‘I quite enjoy the sound of my own…

THE HUSTLE Crime comedy. Penny (Rebel Wilson) is a small-time con artist who flees to Europe when she cons one guy too many. Josephine (Anne Hathaway) is a con artist too but a sophisticated one (as conveyed by her posh British accent). When the two cross paths, they instantly dislike each other. But then Penny gets Josephine to teach her the ropes. The story isn’t new – it’s a remake of Dirty Rotten Scoundrels (1988) – but it’s the interaction between the two frenemies rather than the plot that delivers the entertainment. Wilson, who also produced the movie, is unfortunately typecast again as the brash, over-the-top Australian. Her crude humour isn’t for everyone, but if you enjoy it, you’ll love this movie. Worth a Saturday evening in. – LIZ DE…

SHE’D been working at Microsoft for just four months when her boss asked her out on a date. This was the whip-smart Bill Gates, CEO of the company, and his snappy chat-up line after they struck up a conversation in the office car park, was, “Would you go out with me two weeks from Friday night?” Melinda Gates laughs as she recalls that moment in 1987. “I was a young girl; I didn’t know what my calendar was going to be two weeks from Friday night. I did tease him and said, ‘That’s not really quite spontaneous enough for me.’ So, he asked me for my phone number and I gave it to him. An hour later he called me at my apartment and said, ‘Well, how about tonight?’ ”…

IF YOU’D told his 17-year-old self he’d one day be considered a sex symbol he would’ve laughed in your face. Gangly and goofy, he was the ultimate nerd – and a supersmart one at that. He finished high school two years ahead of his peers and went to university when he was just 16. But cool he was not. “Oh yes, I had an awkward phase,” John Legend recently admitted. “I was always less mature, less at ease socially.” But just look at him now. The 40-year-old crooner is married to one of the sexiest women in showbiz, is a beloved judge on top talent-search show The Voice and has won almost every major music award going. And to top it all, readers of People recently voted him 2019’s sexiest…

‘We realised there were lingering questions. What would Anna do now that she has everything she’s ever wanted?’ Let it Go is the earworm that burrowed its way into millions of parents’ brains. And if its Oscar-winning songwriters – the husband-and-wife team of Kristen Anderson-Lopez and Robert Lopez – have their way, their Frozen 2 theme song, Into the Unknown, will take its place. The Lopezes have written seven new songs for Frozen 2, inspired by their daughters, Katie and Annie. “Anna and Elsa are growing up,” Kristen says. “And our own girls are growing up too. They informed the choices we made with Frozen and have also informed the choices we made with Frozen 2. As the girls get more independent and have to walk their own paths and…

This picture (LEFT) of Cape Town model CARMEN SOLOMONS (28) had us doing a double take! She could easily be mistaken for pop star RIHANNA (31). The sleek, dark hairstyle was for a photoshoot in Los Angeles, where the model has been based for the past four years. She’s in fact the face of two of Rihanna’s Fenty Beauty lines – Fairy Bomb and Body Lava. Carmen, whose striking red hair is her signature feature, has starred in music videos with Usher and Drake, worked with Mac Cosmetics and modelled for Kylie Jenner’s cosmetics line. She used to be teased about her appearance while growing up, so Carmen didn’t expect her unique looks to bring her fame and fortune one day. But there’s no doubt the combination of red curls,…

“We kind of grew up together.” – Actress KATIE HOLMES on raising her daughter, Suri “My dad was like, ‘She’s the nicest, smartest, most professional, hardworking . . .’ And I was like, ‘I’m your daughter; do I matter at all?’ ” – KERRY WASHING-TON laments the time her dad, Earl, met fellow actress Reese Witherspoon “It didn’t appeal to me. I was probably tired that day. I’m glad they didn’t listen to me.” – Singer CÉLINE DION on almost not recording the Oscar-winning song My Heart Will Go On from the 1997 blockbuster Titanic “I’m not trying to sell you me. I’m trying to sell you you.” – Rapper LIZZO on her body positivity campaign “I genuinely think that if something’s supposed to be funny, I’ll suck the funny…

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Siya Kolisi wasn’t made captain of the Boks because of quotas. He got the job because he’s the best man for it. It’s just a bonus that the rainbow nation was for the most part represented. RUGBY FAN, SMS Helen Zille, I’m glad you’re back where you belong. The party will now return to its former glory. ADMIRER. SMS Koos Bulunga, what a beautiful letter (YOU Say, 21 November). Will you be my older brother, please? JACQUI MER, SMS I really don’t understand what the fuss is about Faf de Klerk meeting Prince Harry wearing only the famous briefs (YOU, 21 November). Harry is no prude and has been known to cavort while partying in the States! JUTTA DONALDSON, SMS Thank you so much for the extract from Bill Bryson’s…

WHEN she steps onto the stage at the Miss Universe pageant she can be sure of one thing: her beloved father will be there to cheer her along every elegant step of the way. To Miss South Africa Zozibini Tunzi, her dad, Lungisa, is many things: a devoted chauffeur, her biggest fan, her rock. He’s been her unfailing pillar of support since she was a little girl taking part in her first pageant and he’s here today as she chats to us in her stylish Sandton apartment. “I’m always there for her,” says Lungisa (55), who works in the department of higher education and training in Pretoria. And Zozi (26) wouldn’t have it any other way. “I’m a daddy’s girl,” she says. Lungisa will never forget the day his daughter’s…

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The dangers of overexposure to technology are becoming increasingly documented and in the USA there’s even an organisation dedicated to making changes in the media and tech industries. Carrying a smartphone around is like having a slot machine in your pocket – everything about it is programmed to get you addicted, according to the Centre for Humane Technology, which seeks to reverse what it calls “human downgrading”. ‘It’s not essential to know what everyone else is doing’ It’s ironic then that Google CEO Sundar Pichai is said to be a fan of Jomo. A few months ago the company introduced a range of “digital wellbeing tools” to help promote healthier tech use. Other than Digital Wellbeing, which gives you a complete picture of your daily digital habits, the following apps…

A DIFFERENT WORLD The Oscar-winning actress is lighting up the small screen right now as superhero Sister Night in the brand-new series Watchmen. The show has been described as a remix of the 1986 comic. It’s set in a world similar to ours but with outlawed superheroes and a history that’s taken a different course to ours. A hoax alien attack ended the cold war, Robert Redford has been the US president for 30 years, black Americans are exempt from paying tax as a reparation for past injustices, cellphones were never invented, and cops wear masks to protect their identities from a right-wing terrorist group called the Seventh Kavalry. Time magazine has hailed Watchmen as “the smartest superhero adaptation since Black Panther”. COMPLEX WOMAN Angela Abar, Regina’s character, is a…

THRILLERS THE NIGHT FIRE MICHAEL CONNOLLY Little, Brown When Harry Bosch started out as a homicide detective he had a mentor who encouraged him to stop at nothing before he uncovered the truth about every case. Now that inspirational figure from his past, John Jack Thompson, is dead. When Bosch finds out about a cold case involving the unsolved killing of a troubled young man that Thompson had obsessed over for more than 20 years, he’s determined to get to the bottom of the matter – with the help of Detective Renée Ballard. THE LAST HUNT By DEON MEYER Hodder & Stoughton Captain Benny Griessel has his work cut out for him trying to solve a mysterious case involving Johnson Johnson, an ex cop whose body was found beside a…

IT WAS a dizzying fall from grace. Just six months ago he was the toast of the town after taking his team – a lesser player in a game dominated by the big-bucks glamour clubs – all the way to the Champions League final. Tottenham Hotspur had also come third in the Premier League in 2018 and Mauricio Pochettino was hailed for creating an exciting squad and a thrilling style of play that delighted fans. He did all this on a far smaller budget than many of his rival coaches, which makes his achievements even more remarkable. But now it’s all over for the 47-year-old Argentinian. Spurs recently announced Poch had been sacked after a losing streak that saw the side sink to the bottom half of the Premier League…

IT’S one of the most successful movies of all time, a tale of sisterly love and inner strength that spawned a generation of young fans, as little girls embraced the premise that no woman needs a Prince Charming to rescue her – she’s very much capable of looking after herself. So it’s hardly a surprise that Disney has made a sequel to Frozen – and it’s one of the most hotly anticipated follow-up films of all time. Pre-bookings for Frozen 2’s opening weekend in the US outdid Toy Story 4, Incredibles 2 and The Lion King. “A $100 million [R1,5 billion] three-day opening weekend is a foregone conclusion,” media analyst Paul Dergarabedian said shortly before the 22 November opening in America. Yes, Frozen fans, there’s a new adventure to grip…

IDINA MENZEL AS ELSA The actress, singer, and songwriter had a long list of Broadway credits to her name before she became Frozen-famous. “It’s refreshing to see a movie about young women that isn’t about romantic love,” Idina (48) says. “I think it’s infectious to see two young women taking risks and pushing each other to be their greatest selves.” KRISTEN BELL AS ANNA The Good Place star (39) reprises her role as Elsa’s sister. She dished that her daughters already know everything about the new blockbuster-to-be. “We worked on this movie for so long . . . So I come home and I learn a new song, and I sing it to them at night in bed. And then I’d like tell them new story points, and then I…

THIS year may have been a roller coaster for MEGHAN, DUCHESS OF SUSSEX, but one thing’s for sure – she’s the queen in the style stakes. The 38-year-old was recently named 2019’s biggest fashion influencer by Lyst.com, the global fashion search platform. “Meghan was the most powerful dresser of 2019 and her outfits sparked on average a 216% increase in searches for similar pieces,” Lyst.com says. The site also mentioned specific instances when the duchess drove traffic. “After she wore five different shirt dresses on the royal tour of South Africa, searches for the category grew 45% over a month,” the website says. “The Club Monaco dress sold out in less than 24 hours following a 570% spike in searches,” according to the site, referring to the dress Meghan wore…

Double date BEYONCÉ looked every inch the diva on a date on a yacht with husband JAY Z, mom TINA KNOWLES LAWSON, and Tina’s husband, RICHARD LAWSON, in Florida. Daddy duty MEL GIBSON was seen picking up two-year-old LARS, the youngest of the actor’s nine kids, from a playdate in Malibu. The honeymoon phase JUSTIN BIEBER and wife HAILEY were pictured on his electric bike in Los Angeles recently. Are those yellow Crocs, the I Don’t Care singer is sporting? They’re so tall! CHARLIZE THERON and her kids, JACKSON (8) and AUGUST (4) were snapped while shopping for groceries – and my, how they’ve grown! Anything to tell us? Singer HALSEY and her boyfriend, Pose star EVAN PETERS, were spotted looking loved up – and fuelling pregnancy rumours in Los…

Long-simmering tensions between SELENA GOMEZ (27) and BELLA HADID (23) have reared their head in a perplexing way on social media. Selena recently commented the word “Stunning” on one of Bella’s posts and the model reacted by promptly deleting the post. A fan pointed out the shady move, to which Selena expressed her disapproval by writing, “That sucks”. The singer was quick to brand her reaction a misunderstanding, but insiders beg to differ. “It’s no secret there’s bad blood between the two,” a source insists. “Bella has never got over what Selena did when she and Abel [Tesfaye, better known as The Weeknd] were on a break and she’s not ready to be friends, online or in person.” You might recall that Bella and THE WEEKND (29) first split in…

GIFT OF LIFE THERE aren’t many things that can impress an old bird like me. When you’ve lived to be 81, you’ve seen it all – the good, the glorious, and, unfortunately, the garbage. We’re confronted by such hatred and violence every day that it’s often just too much to bear. But today I’d like to share a beautiful story: a few weeks ago my grandson Kyle put his life on the line by donating a kidney to his wife’s sister who desperately needed one. He knew the risks involved and how painful it would be, and he did it anyway. He saved her life and at the same time made the world a better place. He might be only 28 years old, but he’s taught me a lesson in…

Great news for fans of YOU Blockbusters magazines: issue No 22 is now on sale and it has twice the usual number of puzzles! We’ve increased the number of pages of all your favourites – blockbusters, photo blockbusters, codebreakers, sudoku, sudoku-x-words, anagrams and more. Perfect for the downtime over the holidays. So get your copy in shops now! You can also order online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@ media24.com and have it delivered to your door. Do you have ideas for us? See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas awessels@media24.com Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes recipes@you.co.za…

LIKE most two-year-olds he’s a ball of energy, flying across the monkey bars, kicking his ball around, tearing around the garden – in fact, it makes you tired just looking at him. Unlike most kids though, Elken Mynhardt has a prosthetic leg, a bright blue artificial limb complete with a little foot the same size as his left one. Elken is so adept at getting around you barely notice his right leg doesn’t move quite the same as his left. For the little boy it’s just life – the only normal he’s ever known. He was born without a fibula and an ankle in his right leg, the result of fibular hemimelia – the same congenital condition with which disgraced Paralympian Oscar Pistorius was born. “Sometimes people ask me what…

t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s 1 COCONUT JAM COOKIES MAKES 14-16 COOKIE SANDWICHES PREPARATION: 15 MIN CHILLING: 30 MIN BAKING: 8-10 MIN 125g soft butter or margarine 180ml (¾c) light brown sugar 1 egg 5ml (1t) vanilla essence 375ml (1½c) desiccated coconut 250ml (1c) flour 1,2ml (¼t) bicarbonate of soda 1,2ml (¼t) baking powder FILLING 125ml (½c) strawberry or raspberry jam Preheat the oven to 160°C. Line two large baking sheets with baking paper. 1 Put the butter or margarine and sugar in the bowl of an electric mixer and beat until creamy. 2 Add the egg and vanilla essence and mix until well combined. 3 Add the rest of the ingredients and mix lightly. Shape the dough into a ball, cover with clingfilm and chill…

HE HAS SHRINES TO HIS DEAD WIFE Q I’m a 55-year-old divorcée in a relationship with a 64-year-old man whose wife died four years ago. We’ve been together for two years and have grown close. He wants me to move in with him but I’m very uncomfortable in his house. Every room is full of pictures of his late wife, most poster-size and with candles placed nearby. It’s clear he burns the candles when I’m not there. He has a picture of her on his bedside table which he hides when I’m there. I’ve talked to him about how it makes me feel but he thinks I’m being “silly” and responds with a laugh, saying I’m the one there with him and the pictures are only memories. He says she…

DOUBLE TROUBLE A guy is in a cave, looking for treasure when he finds an old lamp. He rubs it and a genie pops out. “I’ll grant you three wishes,” the genie says., “Just remember that whatever you wish for, your ex-wife will get double.” The man agrees and makes his first wish. “I wish for a beautiful mansion by the sea,” he says. The genie grants the wish, and in no time the man’s ex-wife has two seaside mansions. For his second wish, the man asks for a million dollars. Again the genie grants his wish and the ex-wife’s bank account swells by two million dollars. Finally it’s time for the man’s last wish. “Genie, please scare me half to death.” LITTLE SIPHO The maths teacher asks Sipho, “If…

‘These songs were me wrapping up a chapter in a pretty little bow’– SELENA ON HER LATEST MUSIC COMEBACK HITS Selena (27) announced her pop comeback with Lose You to Love Me, which went straight to No 1 on the Billboard Hot 100 Charts. “My first No 1! This song is so dear to my heart,” she gushed on Instagram. And followed it up with Look at Her Now. BIEBER INSPIRATION Both songs are said to be about her and longtime love Justin Bieber’s breakup. Justin (25) has since married model Hailey Baldwin (23). Speaking about Lose You to Love Me, she says, “I wrote the song in January. I just woke up one day and I knew it was time. It’s the perfect way to wrap up a chapter…

LEGO THE INCREDIBLES Platforms: PlayStation 4, Nintendo Switch, Xbox One, Microsoft Windows, macOS Like countless other Lego games, The Incredibles uses the hack-and-slash-your-way-to-victory formula. It ought to entertain you for a few hours, but then the feeling of repetition sets in, with the missions all starting to feel the same. This game is designed to engage kids, and it does so with puzzles and secret areas you can access only by thinking outside the box. Each character has a special ability that allows you to take out several enemies at once, but this only needs intense button smashing, not much skill. From the first combat experience the game subtly makes the player go through a tutorial stage, which is framed as a part of the story, to learn the controls.…

1,8 billion Number of views the Let It Go music video has on YouTube. R2,25 billion Frozen’s estimated production budget. R19,05 billion Frozen’s worldwide box-office takings. 3,2million Number of Frozen DVD and Blu-rays were sold by amazon.com on the first day of its release in March 2014, making it Amazon’s best-selling children’s disc of all time. A month ahead of the release of Frozen 2 in November 2019, it’s still one of Amazon’s top 10-selling kids’ movies. 6 months How long the movie stayed in cinemas from November 2013 to May 2014. Movies are typically screened for three to four weeks. R15 billion Value of the Frozen toys and merchandise sold in the US in 2013. 2,7 million Frozen soundtrack CDs sold in the US in 2014 – the only…

It’s the show that gets everyone talking every year and runway models have vied to be in it for decades. But the Victoria’s Secret fashion show has officially been cancelled this year as the company works to save its reputation after plummeting ratings and years of backlash over its lack of diversity in the models it uses. The news comes a year after the company’s then marketing chief, Ed Razek, declared that the brand wouldn’t cast plus-size or transgender models because the show is a “fantasy”. TV ratings for the show have also fallen to a historical low. Just 3,3 million viewers tuned in last year, down from a peak of more than 10 million viewers in 2011. Rumours that the show was getting canned had been circulating for months…