Innholdsfortegnelse for 21-Nov-19 i You South Africa

AS I write this I can hear cheering and hooting and the honking of vuvuzelas as the Bok bus snakes its way through the streets of Cape Town. The office is basically deserted, even though it’s deadline day – but you can’t stop anyone from wanting a morsel of the magic that’s swept across South Africa since the Rugby World Cup final. Cape Town was the last stop on Siya and the squad’s frenetic victory tour and they must’ve been exhausted. Journalists on the road with the Boks told of how gruelling the trip was: up early, to bed late, besieged by frenzied fans wherever they went. But they never once flagged, never once turned away a selfie-seeker or autograph hunter. “Siya and Rassie told the team they weren’t doing…

It’s with pride and patriotism that I can say I’m South African. I believe in our potential as well as our ability to overcome challenges. It’s easy to lose sight of our strengths and achievements as a nation and just how far we’ve come since 1994. This Rugby World Cup win speaks to our collective resilience and strength (YOU, 14 November). Nelson Mandela once said sport has the power to change the world. In light of this, let’s believe in our country and reach new heights. After all, we’ve now won the Rugby World Cup three times. The Webb Ellis Trophy is for ALL of us to hold up high! TRACY COHEN, EMAIL ■ The Boks’ recent success in Japan is a perfect example of how far teamwork can take…

SHE’S lived the life of a quintessential Hollywood star, equal parts glitz and glamour and drama and despair. Parental neglect, sexual abuse, drugs, booze, threesomes, a destructive marriage – Demi Moore has been there, done that and lived to tell the tale, which she unpacks in jaw-dropping detail in her explosive new bestselling memoir, Inside Out. But perhaps most heartbreaking of all is the effect her trauma had on her three daughters, Rumer (31), Scout (28) and Tallulah (25). During a recent candid discussion on web series Red Table Talk, hosted by Jada Pinkett Smith, Demi’s eldest and youngest kids become emotional as they reveal how they often felt their mom wasn’t there for them, especially during her third marriage to actor Ashton Kutcher. “So much of that time, especially…

LESS than a year ago few people had ever heard of Lil Nas X but now he’s everywhere – on the cover of Time magazine, rubbing shoulders with Rihanna and Katy Perry and being offered record deals of more than $1 million (R15m). All it took was one song to turn the teenager, whose real name is Montero Lamar Hill, into a smash-hit sensation. With more than a billion streams and 19 weeks at No 1 in the American charts – the most time ever by any recording artist – the 20-year-old has been shattering records, left, right and centre. The track was recently named song of the year at the MTV Video Music Awards. And what makes his success even more incredible is that he did it all on…

IN HER first cookbook, My Modern African Kitchen, Nthabiseng Ramaboa, better known as Chef Nti, adds a modern twist to the dishes and ingredients she grew up with in Soweto. She also shares her love for Mediterranean-style cooking and recipes from her foodie friends. The TV chef has a huge online following and owns the restaurant Taste Kitchen in Johannesburg, where she hosts intimate events showcasing her take on traditional African meals. MAIZE RICE POTATO CAKES WITH MY SPECIAL TOMATO RELISH Adding maize rice to potato cakes gives them texture, and this relish makes them even better. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 15 MIN (CAKES), 10 MIN (RELISH) COOKING: 20 MIN (CAKES), 15 MIN (RELISH) POTATO CAKES 250ml (1c) cooked maize rice 500ml (2c) prepared mashed potatoes 2 large eggs 60ml (¼c)…

IT’S that time of year when many of us are suffering from Novemberitis. You’re exhausted but you still have to give that final push before you can take a well-deserved annual break. The area around the eyes is a dead giveaway of fatigue. Signs include dark circles, fine lines or puffiness – or a combination of the three. As the skin around our eyes is thin and sensitive, it shows signs of ageing and fatigue quicker. Creams and gels specially formulated for the thin skin around the eyes can go a long way towards keeping wrinkles at bay. It’s best to start using these products from the age of 25 to 30 to give your skin the best chance of looking youthful for longer. Ageing is inevitable of course but…

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THE INTRUDER Thriller. Scott (Michael Ealy) gets a promotion and decides to buy his wife, Annie (Meagan Good), her dream home in California’s Napa Valley. Located in an isolated part of the region, it isn’t hard to feel uncomfortable almost immediately. And their first encounter with the previous homeowner, Charlie (Dennis Quaid), confirms any misgivings you have about the grand old house. Is Charlie just a well-meaning, lonely widower who can’t leave the young couple alone to enjoy their new home? This is in many ways a cheesy, predictable thriller but it’s still a fun watch. Good and Ealy, who also co-starred in Think like a Man (2012), deliver solid performances. – THANDO NDABEZITHA 2019. 102 MIN. 13SV. POMS Comedy drama. After deciding to forego cancer treatment, Martha (Diane Keaton)…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS THE ESSENCE OF SAGITTARIUS ■ They have huge hearts and are generous. ■ They’re impulsive, uncommitted and undisciplined. ■ Seeing the bigger picture is part and parcel of their makeup. ■ They don’t know when enough is enough and that’s their downfall. ■ A positive Sagittarius radiates enthusiasm and instils optimism. ■ Tactlessness and being blunt are their worst faults. ■ They’re adventurous and love to travel and explore. SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC Throw yourself a party or set off on an adventure It’s time to plan your birthday celebration. You might want to have a big party and share this special occasion with your family and friends. Or you could, in true Sagittarius fashion, appease your wanderlust with an enriching adventure abroad. As it is,…

SHE was only seven years old when it started and it carried on for four more years. Although deep down she knew it wasn’t her fault, she blamed herself for many years and kept her dark secret all to herself. Her self-esteem took a knock and she battled with depression – but when she finally decided enough was enough, it changed everything. Finding her voice and telling the nation she’s a survivor of sexual abuse is the single most important thing she’s done in her life, Sasha-Lee Olivier says. And the 26-year-old beauty chose quite a platform to do so: the night of the Miss South Africa pageant, when she announced she’d be starting a new project to support survivors like herself. Beauty with a Purpose, which launched recently, will…

Thanks to her years of theatrical training, Olivia was easily able to master the queen’s distinctive way of speaking, but more of a challenge was learning how to channel her regal demeanour. “They’ve been teaching me how to walk – I’m really terrible at that,” she says. “I walk a bit like a farmer, one of the directors said.” Olivia says playing the role really brought home to her how much the queen has sacrificed in the line of duty. “She’s an extraordinary human being. However you feel about her, she’s been our constant.”…

THE GHOST OF MATTHEW MOLE It’s taken him two years to write his latest album – and now that it’s all come together, singer Matthew Mole says Ghost, with its 11 tracks, is one of his most treasured projects yet. “It’s about overcoming fear,” the 28-year-old tells us. “When I was younger I had so much fear and kept to myself too much. “I was shy. I’ve overcome the fears that held me back, and I wanted to share that with others.” We sat Matthew down for a quick quiz. The last thing you bought online? Food - haha! Last thing you ate? Meatballs. Last holiday destination? Cape Town. Last book you read? Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. Last time you cried? Shucks, I hardly cry, hey. I promise I’m human,…

For the sombre occasion KATE, DUCHESS OF CAMBRIDGE, wore a black coat embellished with military-inspired detailing, which she accessorised with a veil and a crimson poppy pin, a symbol of remembrance for fallen soldiers. PRINCE HARRY (left) and his brother, PRINCE WILLIAM, seemed worlds apart during the service at the Cenotaph in London. During an event at the Royal Albert Hall the previous evening, Harry and Meghan looked “slightly isolated” and “showed traces of anxiety”, according to British body-language expert Judi James. SOPHIE, COUNTESS OF WESSEX, and MEGHAN, DUCHESS OF SUSSEX, overlooked the ceremony from a balcony of the UK’s Foreign & Commonwealth Office building. Body-language expert Judi James says the four younger royals once known as the Fab Four looked more like “two duos a the event”. The balconies…

As a speech therapist I take YOU to my weekly session with a dear lady I see in an old-age home. I tell you, that mag is the best and most fun therapy tool ever. We do the sudoku and the word searches, have earnest discussions about the royals, laugh at the silly outfits . . . the list goes on. And the old folk love it. LAURA RUSSELL, EMAIL To New Beginning (YOU Say, 31 October): my husband was also having an affair – but he didn’t realise he wasn’t the only married man in her life. I left him and moved on but he was left with an STD she’d given him. He deserved it. Now I’m enjoying my life while he’s miserable. RIA, PIETERMARITZBURG Why must David…

It may seem like harmless fun but TikTok has a dark side. If your child’s profile isn’t locked, anyone can view or comment on their videos. This of course makes it easier for paedophiles and sexual predators to target young people. The app doesn’t require those who join it to confirm their age or identity, making it easier for stalkers and predators to create a profile and conduct activities under a pseudonym. Certain users also post content with bad language and violence and TikTok hasn’t yet found a way to keep this kind of content away from young users. Although the platform has a 13-year age minimum, it has no way of enforcing this rule and many users are younger. The most important step parents can take to keep their…

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■ CHILLED CUCUMBER OR POTATO SLICES Cucumber and potato both have an anti-inflammatory effect, which will help reduce puffiness and irritation. Cucumber in particular contains lots of moisture, helping to rehydrate the skin. Put a slice of chilled cucumber or potato on each eyelid for 15 minutes. ■ EYE ROLLER OR TEASPOON Put either of these in the fridge to cool. Then place on your eyelids. The coolness will tighten the skin and relax the blood vessels, providing relief for tired eyes. Hold the spoon over the eye for about 15 minutes until it becomes warm or roll the eye roller gently around the eye for a few minutes. ■ TEABAGS Some teas, particularly rooibos, have anti-inflammatory properties. Chill two used teabags in the fridge, then put them on your…

It’s that time of year again – piped Christmas music is playing in shopping malls and tills are ringing as customers spend, spend, spend. But come January, many people won’t feel very merry when their credit card bills arrive. Here are 10 mistakes to avoid if you want to go into the new year on a firm financial footing. 1 YOU DON’T PLAN PROPERLY If you budget – in other words see how much money you have and plan how you’ll spend it – your chances of falling into the trap of overspending are significantly smaller. So draw up a holiday budget well in advance. The biggest expenses during the holidays are travel and accommodation, gifts and entertainment (including takeaway meals or eating out). Work out exactly what your…

■ Aladdin wasn’t her first Disney experience – she appeared in the 2011 Disney TV musical Lemonade Mouth. ■ Both Naomi’s parents are pastors and she was discovered while singing at her parents’ church at age 12. ■ Bend it like Beckham was her favourite movie as a kid. “It was [about]an Indian girl who wanted to play football,” she told Vogue. “That movie was literally made for me.” ■ She also played the pink ranger in the 2017 Power Rangers movie. ■ She got married at 21 to British soccer player Jordan Spence (now 29).…

‘She’s relatable. And her voice is impeccable. When you put those together, you’re bound to touch souls’– Music producer London on da Track RISE TO FAME The Atlanta native has been singing since she was 15 and says she was influenced by straight-talking soul singers such as Jazmine Sullivan and Amy Winehouse. Summer (23) taught herself to play guitar by watching YouTube videos and perfected her honeyed vocals on covers she posted online when she wasn’t cleaning houses or dancing in clubs. “I started singing because I wanted to figure out ways to make money in a comfortable and creative way,” she told Billboard. MAKING HISTORY She dropped her first album, Over It, last month and it’s since made history by becoming the biggest debut album of any R&B female…

THE LYING ROOM By NICCI FRENCH HarperCollins After focusing on the wonderful Frieda Klein series for the past few years, Nicci Gerrard and Sean French (who write together as Nicci French) are back with a standalone and it’s a goodie. Neve, a publisher and married mom of three, is having an affair with her boss, Saul, and her life starts unravelling when she gets to his London flat and discovers he’s been murdered. Neve realises once she calls the police her secret affair will become public and it could end her marriage and devastate their already fragile eldest daughter. So she quickly cleans the flat, removing any traces of herself and leaves. But she forgets a piece of jewellery and gets caught up in a web of lies that keeps…

IT WAS a few words that sent football fans into a frenzy. Giannina Maradona, daughter of Diego, had the world holding its breath when she declared her famous father was at death’s door. “He’s not dying because his body has decided so, he is being killed from the inside and doesn’t realise it,” she wrote in Spanish on her Instagram page. “I don’t believe in the parameters of normal, but that is far from the reality of what he deserves. Pray for him. Please! Thank you!” Fans were reeling after her cryptic post, especially as Maradona (59) has suffered a series of deadly health scares in recent years. His battle with booze during his heady days of fame as well as a crippling cocaine addiction caused heart attacks in 2000…

£97 million (R1,455 billion) What it reportedly cost to produce the first two seasons of the show, making it Netflix’s most expensive series. 3 million How many people watched the first episode of season 2 of The Crown within the first three days of its release in 2017. 10 The number of episodes in the new series. 5 The number of historical researchers who are employed to make sure every detail of the show is historically accurate. 300 How many cast members appeared in the show’s recreation of Churchill’s state funeral in season 3. 6 The number of seasons that will be made of the show.…

T’S one of the most iconic movie outfits of all time: the black leather jacket and skintight black pants that Sandy wears in Grease signalling her transition from good girl to hot biker babe. Just as famous as the sizzling ensemble is the singer/actress who poured herself into it, Australian-born beauty Olivia Newton-John. Yet while the 71-year-old star can still fit into the clothes more than 40 years after the 1978 film became a global phenomenon, she recently decided to part with them. The all-black getup was put up for auction along with several other items at a Grease memorabilia auction in Beverly Hills, California. The outfit, which Sandy wears in the closing sequence of the film when she and Danny belt out You’re the One That I Want, fetched…

Happy ending for ‘sad Keanu’ It’s no secret that actor KEANU REEVES has suffered unbearable pain in his personal life. The John Wick: Chapter 3 – Parabellum star lost his best friend in 1993, his child in 1999 and his former partner just eight months later. In a 2006 interview with Parade magazine, he said, “Grief changes shape, but it never ends. When the people you love are gone, you’re alone.” ‘There’s an earthiness to her that appeals to Keanu’ – AN INSIDER In fact, the 55-year-old actor has become so well-known for his apparent melancholy and solitude, it’s inspired a meme. But the era of “sad Keanu” is apparently no more: earlier this month he showed up at an art gala in Los Angeles holding hands with artist ALEXANDRA…

MANY guys move mountains for the girls they’re wooing but not many make the same effort with their sisters. If you want to spoil someone, choose your sister – she too deserves surprise gifts. I remember one morning I woke my sister up and gave her a box of chocolates. The joy of seeing the smile on her face was priceless. My baby sister is the best thing that’s happened to me. I was a kid when I first saw her lying next to my mom. I was so amazed by her tiny fingers. I tried to touch them, but she grabbed my finger with her soft little hand and held on to it with a smile. I suddenly felt a rush in my veins. She was my own blood…

We have a bumper crop of brain teasers in YOU Quick Puzzles No 2. Put your vocabulary to the test with various crosswords and codebreakers. There’s also sudoku and kakuro, spot the difference, a general knowledge quiz and so much more. We’ve also added two new types of puzzles for even more fun. YOU Quick Puzzles 2 is in stores now. Or order online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com and have it delivered straight to your door. Do you have ideas for us? See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas awessels@media24.com Fiction stories@you.co.za Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes recipes@you.co.za…

CHEESEBURGERS The USA is the home of the cheeseburger and it’s a hugely popular meal, whether it’s homemade, enjoyed in a restaurant or bought as a takeaway. Try this one for size. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 15 MIN CHILLING: 1 HOUR COOKING: 20 MIN PATTIES 750g lean beef mince 1 egg 60ml (¼c) oats 5ml (1t) each salt and pepper 15ml (1T) dried parsley or handful of fresh parsley, chopped 30ml (2T) oil 4 large slices of cheese or prepacked processed cheese squares BURGERS  4 burger rolls butter for spreading prepared mustard 4 large gherkins, sliced tomato sauce 1 onion, sliced and separated into rings 1 Patties Mix the mince, egg, oats, salt, pepper and parsley until well combined. Divide into 4 equal portions and shape each into a patty the…

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THEY’VE LIED TO ME ALL THESE YEARS! Q I have this urge to be outrageous – to throw away my moral values and simply live for today. I want to sleep with as many guys as come my way and experiment with drugs and do what I want and enjoy life. I grew up in a very conservative home where I was taught that marriage is the ultimate goal and I should keep myself “unspoilt” before marriage. Alcohol was a no-no. Drugs were a no-no. But now I’ve discovered my parents are doing exactly the opposite of what they taught me to do. They had to get married because my mother was pregnant with me! And my father is having an affair with his secretary. My mother is secretly drinking.…

GOONY BIRD After many years of marriage a husband has become a couch potato, completely inattentive to his wife, and sits guzzling beer and watching TV all day. The wife is dismayed because no matter what she does to attract his attention, he just shrugs her off with some bored comment. Then one day at a pet store, the wife sees a big, ugly, snorting bird with a huge chest, powerful legs and claws and beady eyes. The shopkeeper, observing her fascination with the bird, tells her it’s an imported “Goony bird” and it has a very peculiar trait. To demonstrate, he shouts, “Goony bird! The table!” Immediately the Goony bird flies off its perch and with single-minded fury attacks the table and smashes it to pieces with its powerful…

WOPTOBER II GUCCI MANE Guwop’s second 2019 album, following Delusions of Grandeur – which dropped in June – is an intimate and infectiously optimistic offering. With tracks featuring Quavo from Migos, Lil Baby and Megan Thee Stallion (Hot Girl Summer) – their collab on Big Booty is a surefire dancefloor smash – Gucci experiments with new sounds and his lyrics reflect his renewed positivity about life. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS 9 LIL’ KIM On her first studio album in 14 years, Kim sounds like, well Kim. Surprisingly her voice is unchanged and unsurprisingly, so is her style – she’s as confrontational and lewd as ever. She recently said she’s “part of the new wave and the new generation” because she spent years being paid to attend clubs with producer Diddy, and…

YOU SALADS YOU Salads is packed with great recipes for fresh and tasty meals. There’s fig and pecan salad; biryani rice salad; Asian chicken bowls; steak and vegetable salad; Italian potato salad and so much more. YOU BATCH COOKING Batch cooking is smart cooking. Save time in the kitchen by preparing extra to freeze for future lunches, suppers and snacks. Serve up vegetable bobotie, moussaka, samoosa pie, lamb and tomato stew plus all sorts of homemade bread and cookies! YOU PULSES For an economical and nutritious meal, you can’t go wrong with pulses (beans, lentils, chickpeas). Try mini chickpea pancakes, pittas with falafel and hummus, butternut and lentil fritters, bunny chow, bean risotto and more. There’s also a handy guide to the various types of pulses. Can’t find it in…

HOMES burnt to the ground, people dead, the charred remains of clothes and furniture strewn all around. Like many South Africans, Toli Altounis was shocked when he saw news footage of a fire that had engulfed a section of Cape Town’s Khayelitsha township back in 2015. But as he watched the scenes of devastation, he didn’t just feel sympathy for the thousands affected – he also felt a driving need to do something to ensure that what he was witnessing never happened again. Why are these infernos such a frequent occurrence in impoverished areas, he wondered as he stared at the TV screen in his Johannesburg flat. Surely something could be done to stop shack fires from spreading. “I thought, ‘I’m sure we can find a solution to fix this’,”…

When he found out he’d been cast to play the prince, JOSH O’ CONNOR joked that he was perfect for the part because he has the right ears. Although Josh (29), who’s best known for his role in hit TV series The Durrells, did a lot of research, he says he steered clear of trying to mimic Charles too closely. “I’m playing a character, I’m not playing real-life Prince Charles, and hopefully bringing something else to a role rather than replicating the real man,” he says. The new season focuses on Charles’ complicated love-life and things get steamy after he meets Camilla Shand (Emerald Fennell) at a polo event. Rising star Emma Corrin (23) will play his future wife, Diana – but is due to make an appearance only in…

THEY seemed to have it all – a happy marriage, beautiful boys, and glittering careers. Nkosinathi Maphumulo, better known as music whizz DJ Black Coffee, and actress Enhle Mbali Mlotshwa were nothing if not an It couple. Doting parents and perfect partners, they dripped #couplegoals wherever they went – whether it was rubbing shoulders with Hollywood royalty or slaying red carpets in SA. Black Coffee (43) and Enhle (31) were without a doubt Mzansi’s golden couple. It seemed nothing could shake them – not even the rumours of infidelity that had long dogged the couple. Yes, they had their ups and downs, but the popular pair stood firm in the face of hardships, with both parties maintaining a dignified silence. Then Enhle dropped a bombshell on Instagram. She’d woken up…

“When I was six years old, I got a bonus dad who I realised over time is actually one of the most influential people in my whole life.” – Fifty Shades actress DAKOTA JOHNSON gushing about her stepdad, actor ANTONIO BANDERAS “We made a love story. For me, as a performer and as an actress, of course we wanted people to believe that we were in love – it was orchestrated as a performance.” – singer and actress LADY GAGA on her chemistry with A Star Is Born co-star Bradley Cooper “We have four kids, and no one listens to Dad. Before [Jennifer] gets home, I’m the boss. When she’s there I’m security, I’m Uber, I’m the teacher.” – former baseball player ALEX RODRIGUEZ, fiancé of singer and actress Jennifer…