Innholdsfortegnelse for 14-Nov-19 i You South Africa

EVERYBODY loves a winner but that doesn’t fully explain the euphoria that swept South Africa when the Boks thrashed England in Japan. The collective cheer that went up around the country, crowds bursting into renditions of the national anthem and Shosholoza, people hugging complete strangers – that wasn’t just about a team of beefy guys putting up a great fight on the field. For a country battered by bad financial news, politically at odds and struggling against seemingly hopeless odds to make things better, it was just what we needed. A simple message that was loud and clear: we truly are #StrongerTogether. As captain Siya Kolisi so eloquently put it, “We can achieve anything if we work together as one.” If we can use that spirit of our world cup…

Falling off the wagon doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll go right back to square one. “A slip is a single unplanned use of alcohol or drugs,” US health services website Bradford Health says. “Relapse happens when a recovery plan is completely abandoned.” You can compare it with straying from a weight-loss regime: in a moment of weakness you have a piece of chocolate cake but the next day you immediately get back on your diet. A relapse is giving up on your regime altogether. “Things might go pear-shaped from time to time and it can feel demoralising,” says Professor Paul Wallace, chief medical officer for Drinkaware, a UK-based alcohol advice service. “Recognise that you have lapsed and try not to treat it as an unforgivable failure. If you don’t, the risk…

1 SPICY TZATZIKI WITH CRISPY CHICKEN WINGS We put a fiery spin on traditional tzatziki by adding extra herbs, chilli and lemon. Use it as a dip for chicken wings, kebabs or chips or serve it with braaied lamb chops or chicken. SERVES 4-6 (AS A SNACK) PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 25-30 MIN CHICKEN WINGS 6-8 chicken wings salt and freshly ground pepper 2,5ml (½t) each ground cumin, ground coriander, paprika and cayenne pepper TZATZIKI 1 cucumber 500ml (2c) plain full-cream yoghurt 1 garlic clove, grated 1-2 chillies, chopped chopped leaves of 1 mint sprig handful of fresh coriander, chopped juice and grated zest of 1 lemon pinch of cumin salt and freshly ground pepper TO SERVE extra chilli (optional) cucumber sticks Preheat the oven to 200°C. Put a wire…

THE world can feel like a scary place. Housebreakings, hijackings, rape, sexual assault, stabbings, kidnapping – we’re confronted with news about these crimes daily. No wonder so many of us feel an almost constant undercurrent of anxiety. It’s that feeling of unease that has us anxiously looking over our shoulder when we’re out, especially in an unfamiliar place or at night. It’s the hyper-awareness about where your kids are, where your bag is, whether you’ve locked the security gate. Many women now carry some sort of self-defence weapon – for example a key to stab an attacker in the eye or pepper spray to blind them. But technology also gives us access to devices that can alert emergency services, family or friends if we’re in trouble. Here’s a selection of…

The festive season is just around the corner and many people will choose to avoid crowded stores by shopping online instead. These days consumers are spoilt for choice – apart from online retailers such as Loot and Takealot, traditional brick-and-mortar shops such as Woolworths, Edgars, Foschini and Pick n Pay have joined the digital marketplace. But here are a few things to keep in mind before you whip out your credit card and start shopping. 1 COMPARE PRICES Check the price on several platforms because you can often find specials. But be on the lookout for online shops that inflate the product’s “original price” to make it seem as if they’re offering a bigger discount. For example, they’ll say a certain toy’s original price is R300 and you’re getting…

FUNNY BUSINESS In his new movie, a quirky comedy-drama called The Laundromat, Antonio plays a smooth-talking lawyer who – with his partner (Gary Oldman) – runs an offshore tax scheme. The film is based on a book about the Panama Papers scandal and stars Meryl Streep as a grieving widow who won’t take no for an answer when an insurance company fails to pay out after her husband’s death. Her investigations lead her to the corrupt lawyers whose dealings benefit both themselves and a network of super-wealthy people. “When I read the script, I googled ‘Panama Papers’ and after a few hours I was more confused than before,” Antonio says. “Somehow [director] Steven Soderbergh managed to expose this thing in an understandable manner, and at the same time managed to…

THE RECKONING By YRSA SIGURDARDOTTIR Hodder & Stoughton This is the second book in Sigurdardottir’s Children’s House series, which focuses on Freyja, a child psychologist, and Huldar, a Reykjavik detective. Recently demoted, Huldar is tasked with investigating a seemingly unimportant 10-year-old letter left in a time capsule by an unknown high-school student. The creepy letter predicts six murders – but no one takes it seriously until a string of deaths follow. And the victims’ initials match the names on the list . . . Despite disbelief from his superiors, Huldar calls in Freyja’s help. As the two follow apparently unrelated clues, they discover a link between the killings and the assault and death of an eight-year-old girl a decade before. Iceland’s queen of crime has written another superb thriller. She…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS TRAVEL TIPS FOR SCORPIO ■ Choose destinations with mysteries to unravel and secrets to explore. ■ Opt for a holiday of contrasts and extremes. ■ You love intensity, colour and flavour, so avoid neutral places. ■ Travel solo to protect your privacy or take the love of your life with you. ■ You don’t like others to know your business, so plan your own trip. ■ You’re a water baby, so choose a secluded beach as your hideaway. ■ Opt for a more structured trip rather than a spontaneous getaway. SCORPIO 23 OCTOBER – 21 NOVEMBER Tackle your to-do list while you’re energised Your planet, Mars, moves into your sign this week, which should boost your energy levels and crank up your drive. Whether you want to make…

SHE’S just 105cm tall and has spent all her life relying on the help of strangers when she’s out and about. The lock on the door of public restrooms is out of her reach, items on the upper shelves of supermarkets may as well be in outer space and the keypads of many ATMs are too high up for her. But feisty Sinéad Burke hasn’t let the inconvenience of everyday life stop her ambitions. The 29-year-old has met Meghan, the Duchess of Sussex, confronted the famously frosty Vogue editor Anna Wintour about why fashion isn’t more inclusive and invited New Zealand prime minister Jacinda Ardern to a chat over coffee (which the PM accepted). She became the first person with dwarfism to walk the pink carpet at the Met Gala…

MY INSPIRATION Jabu left his decimated village close to Victoria Falls because both he and his family were suffering under the weight of the failed economy of Zimbabwe. His mother had taught him to thread beads and create beautiful artworks when he was a child. He crossed the border into South Africa, seeking a better life and a chance to earn enough money to feed , clothe and educate his young family back in Zim. Every day he sells his goods on the pavement in front of my restaurant, and the excitement he displays when he makes a sale is contagious. It’s high fives and hugs all around because every cent he earns makes a difference to a young child who sees his father only once a year. Jabu epitomises…

After reading My Child’s Dad is a Monster (YOU, 24 October 2019) I applaud Mariaan Wessels for standing up for herself as a woman and a mother. It takes great courage to face the world. No matter how daunted you feel, Mariaan, you are tough and powerful. Be strong for your son. Life and people can be horrible at times but you can make your dreams come true. Have faith. CARMEN ZOUTSENBERG, EMAIL It saddens me every time I read on your letters page of women complaining about their mothers- and daughters-in-law. My late mother-in-law was an absolute angel, a soft-hearted generous woman who suffered so badly from asthma that she passed away at the age of 42. Life is really short and while there may genuinely be daughters- and…

GROUP MATCHES 21 September: New Zealand LOST 13-23 Bok scorers Pieter-Steph du Toit (1 try); Handrè Pollard (1 conversion, 1 penalty, 1 drop goal) Man of the match Beauden Barrett (NZ) 28 September: Namibia WON 57-3 Bok scorers Bongi Mbonambi, Makazole Mapimpi (2 tries each); Francois Louw, Lukhanyo Am, Warrick Gelant, Siya Kolisi, Schalk Brits (1 try each); Elton Jantjies (6 conversions). Man of the match Lood de Jager (SA) 4 October: Italy WON 49-3 Bok scorers Cheslin Kolbe (2 tries); Bongi Mbonambi, Lukhanyo Am, Makazole Mapimpi, RG Snyman, Malcolm Marx (1 try each); Handrè Pollard (4 conversions, 2 penalties) Man of the match Cheslin Kolbe (SA) 8 October: Canada WON 66-7 Bok scorers Cobus Reinach (3 tries); Damian de Allende, S’bu Nkosi, Warrick Gelant, Frans Steyn, Schalk Brits, Damian…

GRADE 4 (9-10 YEARS) Group discussion about which of your body parts are private and shouldn’t be touched by or shown to others. Children will be taught this with a diagram with pictures of a boy’s and a girl’s body. GRADE 5 (10-11 YEARS) One lesson plan example circulated by Freedom of Religion SA (For SA) features a fictional case study of a boy named Max, who’s being sexually harassed by a group of boys. He’s forced to touch another boy’s behind and genitals. The department says this lesson empowers pupils to handle sexual violence while demonstrating it doesn’t just happen to girls. GRADE 6 (11-12 YEARS) A scenario is presented of a group of girls who are considering sharing a topless pic of a rival girl on WhatsApp, in…

1 RED LENTIL DOSA WITH SHAKSHUKA Dosa is a type of flat-bread from southern India. It differs from other types of bread in that it’s made from rice, lentils or even beans. It’s often eaten at breakfast time. MAKES 12-15 DOSA PREPARATION: 15 MIN STANDING: OVERNIGHT + 4 HOURS COOKING: 2 MIN PER DOSA DOSA 150g long-grain rice 50g red lentils 250ml (1c) warm water 2,5ml (½t) each salt and freshly ground pepper 2,5ml (½t) turmeric 30ml (2T) chopped fresh coriander oil for shallow-frying SHAKSHUKA 10ml (2t) olive oil 1 onion, chopped 1 red pepper, diced 4 garlic cloves, finely chopped 10ml (2t) paprika 5ml (1t) ground cumin 1,2ml (¼t) chilli powder 1 can (410g) chopped tomatoes salt and freshly ground pepper 6 large eggs handful of fresh coriander and…

Follow the instructions on waxing products. If you’re new to waxing, start with wax strips as they’re easier. Once you have the hang of it, you can move on to hot wax. Always clean and dry your razor after use. Don’t keep your razor in the shower because the humidity causes it to rust, which will irritate your skin. Regularly replace the batteries in your electric razor so it functions optimally and you don’t have to go over one area more than necessary. Throw out expired hair-removal cream. Don’t leave hair-removal cream in direct sunlight.…

The whistle has been redefined into a personal alarm. Memeza has developed a personal alarm that sells for R79,99. When activated, by pulling a string, it emits a piercing alarm (140 decibels). The sound has the potential to confuse and scare a would-be attacker and rouse would-be rescuers. It’s lightweight and comes with a keyring attachment. You no longer have to carry a bulky can of pepper spray in your hand. The Sabre Red Lipstick Pepper Spray at first glance looks like a harmless shimmery pink tube of lipstick. But don’t be fooled – it contains the maximum heat allowed in pepper spray, reaches up to 3m, and the stream delivery pattern reduces wind blowback. Available at takealot.com for R299.…

THURSDAY ■ ARE WE DONE YET? ★★ 2007, 92 min, PG, e.tv, 00:00. Comedy. The sequel to Are We There Yet? A couple’s new country home needs work but their contractor has a bizarre approach to business. Ice Cube, Nia Long. ■ LEGO DC SUPER HERO GIRLS: SUPER-VILLAIN HIGH ★★ 2018, 78 min, PG13V, M-Net, 04:35. Animated fantasy. Based on the comics. A group of female superhero teens discover a new school has opened in town. FRIDAY ■ HONEY, WE SHRUNK OURSELVES ★★ 1997, 74 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Sci-fi comedy. The third film in the series. An absent-minded inventor accidentally shrinks himself and his brother. Rick Moranis, Stuart Pankin. ■ NOWHERE TO RUN ★★ 1993, 94 min, 16VLN, e.tv, 22:00. Action. An escaped convict takes on ruthless developers trying…

‘Yungblud is every kid that’s got a black heart tattoo, every kid that’s worn a pink sock, every kid that’s outside the venue at f***ing six in the morning’– Yungblud WHAT’S IN A NAME? The 22-year-old hails from South Yorkshire, England. He started making music when he was 11 and decided to go by the name Yungblud because he didn’t think his real name – Dominic Richard Harrison – suited his type of music. “It was a bit polite.” So he adopted the nickname his manager had given him – “young blood”. MUSIC AS THERAPY Music helped him make sense of his ADHD. “A lot of people misunderstood me because I behaved in a different way. I think there’s still a bit of a stigma for young people in school…

TRAVEL LIGHT, MOVE FAST By ALEXANDRA FULLER Penguin Fuller openly admits she’s far more at home writing memoirs than fiction – and her madcap parents have provided her with rich pickings indeed. The author of Don’t Let’s Go to the Dogs Tonight begins her story in Budapest in 2015. Her parents have come to the Hungarian capital on holiday when her father, Tim, falls ill with pneumonia and lands up in intensive care. Fuller hurries to his bedside from America and keeps vigil over him until his death. Then she and her deeply unconventional mother, Nicola, make plans to have him cremated and begin the long trek back to their farm in Zambia with the ashes. Throughout it all, Fuller reminisces in unflinching detail about her unorthodox childhood growing up…

STANDING tall and proud in a grey suit, Emmanuel Gasa looks completely at home in the courtroom as he’s formally admitted as an attorney of the high court. In fact, if you didn’t know better, you’d be forgiven for thinking he’s a veteran lawyer – but that’s mainly because at 74, the resident of Atteridgeville, Pretoria, is about 50 years older than most newly admitted legal eagles. At an age when most of his peers would be happy to leave their working days behind them and spend their time pottering around the garden, or ferrying grandkids around, Emmanuel has embarked on a brand-new career, proving you’re never too old to learn. “I was determined to complete this degree. I wasn’t going to let things like my age get in the…

THERE’S no doubt South Africa has some of the hottest exports right now – Trevor Noah, Charlize Theron and Nomzamo Mbatha are just some of the homegrown talents blowing up in Hollywood. And if her latest award is anything to go by, Bonang Matheba is adding her name to the long line of locals who are flying the flag high overseas. The popular presenter became the first winner of the African influencer of the year gong at the recent E! Entertainment People’s Choice Awards in America. It’s a few days after her big victory and she still can’t believe she beat rapper Cassper Nyovest, fellow TV presenter Minnie Dlamini Jones as well as Nigerian stars Davido, Wizkid and Tiwa Savage by public vote. “When you’re up against the people in…

WHOOPS! Impeccably groomed AMAL CLOONEY showed she’s just like everyone else sometimes – even she finds it hard to walk on cobblestones. The beautiful barrister was snapped on a street in New York City. THE DREAM TEAM Actors WESLEY SNIPES, WILL SMITH, EDDIE MURPHY and MARTIN LAWRENCE joined forces for a star-studded Instagram snap outside filmmaker Tyler Perry’s studios. The studio is the home of two high-profile sequels currently in production: Murphy’s Coming 2 America (featuring Snipes) and the third instalment of Smith and Lawrence’s Bad Boys series, Bad Boys for Life. SEXY . SIXTIES . Actress MELANIE GRIFFITH (62) wowed her Instagram followers by posting a pic showing off her toned figure in black lingerie and sexy heels. THAT’S HER MAN! Actress JESSICA BIEL channelled her husband, JUSTIN…

WITH exams in full swing there’s been a lot of emphasis on offering learners tips on how best to study for them. In light of the suicides that often happen at this time of year among teens who can’t cope with the stress of it all, I think we should rather be giving them advice about how to handle it if they don’t do as well as they’d hoped. Failure isn’t the end of the world. Walt Disney went broke seven times and suffered a nervous breakdown – and look at all he achieved. Colonel Sanders had to travel around America for almost two years trying to persuade restaurants to buy his chicken recipe. More than 1 000 of them rejected it. But today, who hasn’t tasted the delicious KFC?…

Take your taste buds on a culinary adventure with YOU Food around the World – on sale now. It’s packed with all sorts of delicious dishes: Argentina’s matambre (steak roulade), beef tagine with olives from Morocco, Greek ravani (coconut tart), Japanese chicken tempura, Mexican flan and more. It’s the perfect recipe magazine to help you plan a dinner party or special family meal. Get your copy in stores or at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com. Do you have ideas for us? See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas awessels@media24.com Fiction stories@you.co.za Personal stories web@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes recipes@you.co.za…

HE SEEMED to be entering his second year of sobriety on a good note. Gone was the bloated, sweaty, puffy-eyed Ben Affleck of recent years and in his place was the ruggedly handsome film star fans have been swooning over since the ’90s. The 47-year-old actor was spending plenty of time with kids Violet (13), Seraphina (10) and Samuel (7) and dipping his toe back into the dating pool after breaking things off with TV executive Lindsay Shookus (39) in April. On 26 October, Ben, who’s long been open about his booze demons, penned a Facebook post announcing he’d been in recovery for a year and was using the celeb dating app Raya to test the romance waters. But something happened soon after he published his celebratory post. Because less…

IT WAS a heartbreaking sight for Mpho Mohlolo. The floor was covered with young children, some with cerebral palsy, and all with some sort of disability that prevented them from sitting comfortably. Mpho (33) was visiting a disability centre in Mpumalanga where he’d once been a patient when he promised himself he’d do something to help the children. As a youngster, his family called him the handyman of the house because he’d always been good at fixing and building things, and that’s the talent he put to use. “I found myself thinking about how I could help these children whose parents can’t afford to get them specialised seating. It had to be cost-effective because I didn’t have the funds to do something sophisticated.” His solution: giving disabled children a bit…

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HIS PORN IS KILLING OUR MARRIAGE Q We’ve been married for 15 years and have four kids and a comfortable life as he’s a great provider. But I can’t get past one issue that prevents me from fully appreciating and respecting my husband. He’s part of a WhatsApp group of old schoolmates and Fridays is “share porn” day. The photo album on his phone has endless pictures of graphic porn that he’s kept. I’ve told him it hurts me that he keeps them but he says it’s his phone and he enjoys looking at the pictures. Also that I should be thankful I’m married to a hot-blooded man. He says this is normal behaviour for men. I’ve asked him to leave the group but he says I’m emasculating him and…

WHAT WOULD I KNOW JEREMY LOOPS This sure-fire hit from the Capetonian folk-rocker definitely will please fans. LOSE YOU TO LOVE ME SELENA GOMEZ “It’s inspired by the many things that have happened in my life,” Selena says. WHITE MERCEDES CHARLI XCX The British pop star shows her vulnerable side on this slow jam from her third album. KILIMANJARO MATTHEW MOLE The homeboy with the smooth vocals is back with a new sing-along track from his latest album, Ghost. TRAMPOLINE SHAED FT ZAYN Zayn transforms this tune from indie pop trio Shaed (Max and Spencer Ernst and Chelsea Lee).…

A DOG’S JOURNEY Comedy drama. In this sequel to A Dog’s Purpose (2017), the story of Bailey the dog (voiced by Josh Gad) continues. This time he’s vowed to protect CJ (Kathryn Prescott), the granddaughter of his previous owner, Ethan (Dennis Quaid). Complex personal issues are explored – alcohol abuse, strained parent-child relationships and loss – and, as in the previous film, the therapeutic role our pets play as we navigate tough times is a central theme. Although the plot is a bit predictable it’s a warm-and-fuzzy kind of flick with just enough humour – largely thanks to Gad, who also voiced the adorable snowman Olaf in Frozen (2013) – to balance the reaching-for-the-tissues scenes. A wonderful choice for family movie night. – LAURI KING 2019. 109 MIN. PG13. ALSO…

LONG ago, when I was a school student in America, I remember being taught by a biology teacher that all the chemicals that make up a human body could be bought in a hardware store for $5 or something like that. I remember being astounded at the thought that you could make a slouched and pimply thing such as me for practically nothing. It was such a spectacularly humbling revelation that it’s stayed with me all these years. The question is: was it true? Are we really worth so little? Many authorities ( for which possibly read “science undergraduates who don’t have a date on a Friday”) have tried at various times, mostly for purposes of amusement, to compute how much it would cost in materials to build a human.…

HE WAS remarkably upbeat about not having a face and didn’t even mind when people gawked at him. “They’re just curious,” Robert Chelsea would say. “It’s scary – it’s like I’m wearing a Halloween mask.” But those days are over now for the 68-year-old from Victorville, California, in the US. Robert made history recently when he was revealed as the first African-American to receive a face transplant. He’s also the oldest person ever to undergo the complex yet ultimately life-changing surgery. For Robert, a new face will mean a whole new lease of life. A catastrophic car crash six years ago left him brutally scarred and because he had no lips his day-to-day existence was hard. Eating had become a major operation: food had to be liquidised and he’d squirt…

SHE tied the knot with LIAM HEMSWORTH at her family’s mansion near Nashville, Tennessee, late last year. So, it must have been a case of déjà vu for MILEY CYRUS when she returned to the ranch with her new boyfriend, Australian singer CODY SIMPSON, recently. Miley (26) and Cody (22) put on a loved-up display, posing for snaps at the same kitchen bench where she exchanged vows with the Independence Day star just 11 months ago. While the couple have been flaunting their steamy new relationship all over social media, body language expert Blanca Cobb has called their bluff, claiming that Cody is “enjoying” the attention and Miley is trying to show the world she “doesn’t care about comments or criticism”. But most of all it seems the former Disney…

From juggling work and kids to getting over a breakup, these straight-talking celebs open up about their lives TRACEE ELLIS ROSS “I thought I was going to be married and have kids. I thought my hair was going to have grown down to my butt, but I also keep trimming it.” – the Black-ish star on what she imagined her life would be like at 47 PINK “There’ve been many times when I’ve been sitting in the corner of arena bathrooms crying and saying to myself, ‘There’s a reason why women don’t do this, there’s a reason why moms don’t do this,’ because it’s f**king impossible at times.” – the singer on juggling her kids, Willow (8) and Jameson (2), with her Beautiful Trauma world tour SHIA LABEOUF “In a…