Innholdsfortegnelse for 26-Sep-19 i You South Africa

EVERY so often you get a gift so great, it’s almost indescribable. I’ve been fortunate enough to be given one of those – from next week I’ll be on sabbatical from which I’ll return next year. I’m going to do plenty of reading and catching up on series, I’ll spend time with my family and friends, do a bit of cooking and baking, finish a crossword or two and generally take time out to think and do things I don’t get to do now. It’s hard to imagine not being here though – I’m going to miss being in the thick of things and working on this incredible brand! The good thing about being away, of course, is I get to be a reader, enjoying the fantastic content. No doubt…

SPARE a thought for the Duchess of Sussex. Ever since she exploded onto the scene as the glossy beauty who’d won the heart of a once-wayward prince, she’s been expected to embrace a life that was very different to everything she knew. Spontaneity went out of the window. Protocol reigned. Rules had to be followed to the letter. Wardrobes had to be watered down. Etiquette had to be learnt and relations fostered with people she had little in common with. When she became a mom to Archie, the public wanted her to parade the tot for all to see – and when she refused, she was all but drawn and quartered. Seldom has the phrase “caught between two worlds” been more apt – and never has it been more evident…

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I WANT TO TURN MY BACK ON MY MOM Q I’m 18 and for years I’ve had to live with a mother who’s an alcoholic. I suspect she’s bipolar too. My dad left years ago and my older sister has written her off. Now it’s just me and my stepdad and she fights with us every day, is verbally abusive and blames everything on us. We recently had a family intervention which included my sister and because we caught my mom by surprise she became aggressive. Every time we told her about something she does to us, she immediately blamed it on each of us. We got her to see a psychologist once but she won’t go to any medical facility. I’ve always been the one who’s told my mom…

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LIBRA AT HOME ■ They dream of a tasteful home in a beautiful area. ■ They appreciate fragrant flowers. ■ The Libra mother teaches her children to compromise. ■ A Libra father inspires his offspring to strive for equality. ■ As a sibling, they’re a source of never-ending laughter. ■ As a child, they’re eager to please. ■ They tend to be the peacemaker at home.…

‘I feel I’ve grown as an artist working in LA, and that’s hugely gratifying to me’ LET IT BURN IS ABOUT EMBRACING FEAR – WHAT’S YOUR BIGGEST FEAR? “I don’t have one single big fear. But there are moments where certain fears become more prominent. Like in relationships when you have to make yourself vulnerable to the other person and let them into your life – we all have fears of being hurt or disappointed. “The key is to acknowledge these fears without letting them control you. And hopefully to overcome them eventually and embrace an experience or a relationship wholeheartedly. The song is about someone going through this process.” WHAT’S ONE THING OUR READERS WOULD BE SURPRISED TO KNOW ABOUT YOU? “I’m a regular squash player. I try to…

A volcanic eruption refers to an explosion – usually in mountainous terrain – caused by molten rock and gases deep within Earth’s crust building up too much pressure to be contained. This molten rock is known as magma. It’s extremely hot and under a lot of pressure because of the build-up of gases within it. It’s found deep under Earth’s surface. Magma can reach temperatures of between 650 and 1 200°C. When the pressure from Earth’s crust is reduced – by, for example, an earthquake – the gas and molten rock escape. Once it breaks through Earth’s surface, the magma is called lava. The characteristics of the lava are determined by how it’s released – in nonexploding or explosive volcanic eruptions. In nonexploding eruptions, the lava flows quite slowly –…

Lady Mary Lord and Lady Grantham’s widowed eldest daughter married the racing driver Henry Talbot, who became stepfather to Mary’s son, George. By the end of season 6 a pregnant Lady Mary was running Downton. Lady Edith In the last Christmas special she found her Prince Charming, marrying Bertie Pelham and forming a family of three with her illegitimate daughter, Marigold. She carved out a successful career in magazine publishing. Robert and Cora After suffering health problems in season 6, Robert took a step back from running the estate. He has a new dog and his wife, Cora, became a hospital president. Anna and Bates Everyone’s favourite couple put their troubled past behind them and welcomed a baby boy. The dowager countess Lady Violet reluctantly handed over the running of…

DEMERITS IN THE REAL WORLD How will demerits apply when fines are sent to the owner of the vehicle who may not have been the one driving when the infringement took place (YOU, 12 September)? Family members use each other’s cars, company cars and trucks, taxis and so on. Police would have to stop the cars in order to get details and hand the fine to the actual driver, otherwise a lot of innocent people will receive demerits with no recourse. Also, since when does notifying someone via social media constitute a legal form of delivering a serious document? LESLEY S, JOHANNESBURG ROBBED OF SO MUCH JOY After reading Miché/Zephany’s story (YOU, 29 August) I feel very angry about what Levona did to Celeste Nurse. She deprived a young mother…

I read the story of the Oceanos (YOU, 22 August) with interest. As a travel agent I took a trip to Athens and a cruise around six Greek Islands in 1987 on the ship. In August 1991 my friend and I were booked on the next coastal trip on her. One day my friend phoned me and said, “Quickly, turn on the TV.” I was horrified to see the Oceanos sinking. A dreadful end to a beautiful ship. MARGARET, SMS What a clever short story in the 12 September issue. Read Me by Ali Loconte kept me intrigued from start to finish. HAPPY READER, SMS To Miss Independent, the reader with cerebral palsy who wrote in complaining about people offering to help her (YOU Say, 12 September), next time I…

IT SEEMS grossly unfair. They’ve studied for years, worked hard to get good marks then when it comes down to it there are just no jobs. The latest figures released by Statistics South Africa drive home just how dire unemployment is: 29% of the working age population are jobless. That’s more than 15 million people who are unable to find work in the formal jobs sector. And among the youth the picture is even more dismal. It’s estimated that 56% of South Africans under 24 are sitting at home twiddling their thumbs because they can’t find work. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t jobs. SA needs 80 000 artisans annually – yet there aren’t enough qualified people to fill these positions. Plumbers, carpenters, electricians, truck drivers and welders are just…

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Your doctor has broken the bad news to you: that dull ache you’ve been feeling in your stomach is appendicitis. Now you’re in hospital waiting to have your appendix removed, but as you’re wheeled into theatre there’s one thing that keeps bugging you – and it has nothing to do with the size of the anaesthetist’s needle. How will you pay for all of this? For many people – even those with medical aid – the pain of surgery is nothing compared with how they feel when they get the bill for their hospital stay. Costs can be up to five times the prescribed medical aid rate and it’s the poor patient who has to cover the difference. That’s why lots of medical aid members now opt for gap cover.…

THURSDAY ■ DALLAS BUYERS CLUB ★★★★ 2013, 117 min, 16SNL, e.tv, 23:00. True-life drama. In 1985 in Dallas, Texas, a bigoted man finds out he’s HIV-positive with 30 days left to live. He stubbornly refuses to give up and after forming an unlikely partnership with a transsexual goes about finding illegal but life-prolonging medication overseas and supplying it to those who need it in the US. Matthew McConaughey. ■ 2036 ORIGIN UNKNOWN ★★ 2018, 94 min, 13V, M-Net, 04:25. Sci-fi. A space mission controller works with an artificial intelligence system to uncover a mysterious object on Mars. Katee Sackhoff, Ray Fearon. FRIDAY PETER AND WENDY ★★★ 2015, 97 min, A, e.tv, 14:25. Adventure. A retelling of the story of Peter Pan and Wendy in the world of Neverland. Stanley Tucci,…

UPGRADE Sci-fi action. When a robbery goes awry, Grey Trace (Logan Marshall-Green) isn’t only left paralysed but his wife is also killed in the process. Luck smiles on his dire situation when he’s given the opportunity through an implant to regain control over his body and seek revenge against those who’ve taken everything from him. Although at times quite gory, Upgrade doesn’t disappoint with its action set pieces and fight sequences. But it’s how the plot logically unfolds that’ll keep viewers on the edge of their seats. Definitely one of the better and more interesting action films of last year. – FRANCO HAVENGA 2018. 101 MIN. 16LV. CAPTIVE STATE Sci-fi thriller. Unlike most alien-invasion movies, this one takes place a decade after aliens invaded and humanity surrendered. While the aliens…

WILLOW WILLOW SMITH The daughter of Hollywood power couple Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith has come a long way since 2010’s infectious pop anthem Whip My Hair. At 18 she’s all grown up. And her third album, while short – it has eight tracks and runs for just 22 minutes – is pretty good. Tyler Cole, who’s rumoured to be her boyfriend, helped write and produce the album. It’s a chilled and melodic mix of R&B and new-agey folk sounds. Older brother Jaden (21) also contributes a rap on the track U Know. Other standout tracks include PrettyGirlz and Time Machine, which has the youngster longing for the ’90s. ‘We’re No 1. This is a win for all of us. Anybody who’s ever felt as if their voice wasn’t…

SMART BOSS Mr Trent always schedules the weekly staff meeting for 4.30 on Friday afternoons. One of the employees finally gets up the nerve to ask why. “I’ll tell you why,” he says. “I’ve learnt it’s the only time of the week when none of you seem to want to argue with me.” THE JOY OF SHARING An old man places an order for one hamburger with fries and a drink. He unwraps the plain hamburger, carefully cuts it in half and places one half in front of his wife. He then carefully counts out the fries, divides them into two piles and again neatly places one pile in front of his wife. He takes a sip of the drink; his wife takes a sip then sets the cup down…

‘We love Wyoming. My husband’s dream is to move there’ – KIM KARDASHIAN RAPPER KANYE WEST has taken his name to heart and reportedly moved to the West – or the Wild West, to be more specific. Ye recently bought a ranch in the remote US state of Wyoming, commonly known as the Cowboy State. The ranch is just outside Cody, a town founded in the early 1900s by Wild West legend William “Buffalo Bill” Cody. The 4 500-acre (1 820-hectare) property is called Monster Lake Ranch, since – according to the real-estate listing – it boasts several freshwater lakes teeming with “monster trout”. The rapper reportedly forked out $14 million (R203m) for the place, which comes complete with two homes, eight cabins, a restaurant, events centre and several barns.…

Six months after coming out as nonbinary (someone who chooses not to identify with either gender), British singer SAM SMITH has reportedly requested friends and family not use gender-based pronouns such as “he” or “him”. Instead, the singer would prefer to be addressed as “they” or “them”. This is a decision Sam (27) has thought long and hard about, a close pal says. “He knows it’ll take some people longer than others to fully get it. First the request is going out to mates and then it’ll be passed on to the music industry. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time.” Sam recently thanked Hits Radio presenter James Barr for a tweet referring to the star as “they”.…

THE expression “life is short” may be a cliché but it’s nevertheless very true. Many of us have lost someone dear to us. And the older you get, the greater the number becomes. When your phone rings after hours you dread that it may be bad news. Several years ago at my father-in-law’s funeral my husband’s cousin, many years his junior, commented on how much time had passed since he’d last seen us. He lamented the fact that people no longer keep in touch and commented on how sad it was that families seem to meet only at funerals. He said he didn’t want that to happen to us. His exact words were,“Let’s not see each other only at funerals”, words that came back to haunt us as the next…

Give in to temptation with YOU Indulge issues 1 and 2. The magazines are packed with the most delectable, indulgent, succulent dishes to appeal to just about every taste. Choose from a selection of rich and creamy pastas, luxurious pies, amazing curries and all sorts of mouthwatering desserts – from cheesecakes to hot puddings. To order your copies of YOU Indulge 1 and 2 (R47 each), go to youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com. Do you have ideas for us? See your writing or news tips in print! Here are the email addresses you need for submitting material for publication. News ideas awessels@media24.com Fiction stories@you.co.za Personal stories mystory@you.co.za Original jokes chuckles@you.co.za Recipes recipes@you.co.za…

CHICKENSATAY MAKES 4-6 KEBABS PREPARATION: 10 MIN MARINATING: 2-3 HOURS OR OVERNIGHT BRAAIING: 15-20 MIN COOKING: 10 MIN 6 deboned chicken thighs MARINADE 15ml (1T) roasted curry powder 15ml (1T) brown sugar 10ml (2t) red curry paste 5ml (1t) salt 60ml (¼c) oil SAUCE 30ml (2T) red curry paste 125ml (½c) peanut butter 15ml (1T) soy sauce 60ml (¼c) brown sugar 125ml (½c) water TO SERVE 1 cucumber, cut into ribbons 4 spring onions, chopped 50g peanuts, roughly chopped Soak 4-6 kebab skewers in hot water for at least 30 minutes. Keep a folding braai grid handy. 1 Cut the chicken thighs in half and put in a nonmetal marinating dish. 2 Marinade Combine everything well and mix with the chicken. Marinate in the fridge for 2-3 hours or overnight.…

LIBRA 23 SEPTEMBER – 22 OCTOBER Walk away for your own peace of mind This could be somewhat of an unpleasant week, especially if you’re a Libra who dislikes anything crass or sordid. It might be difficult to avoid the callous and distasteful, whether you have to rub shoulders with nasty characters or find yourself on the receiving end of vulgarity. It may be best to do what comes naturally to a Libra – walking away. Focus on your own path and what’s needed to achieve peace of mind. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 6, 40, 44, 17, 30, 48 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV It’s a week in which to get out of the rat race, put social activities on the back burner and spend time by yourself. This may…

■ Ad astra is Latin for “to the stars”. The phrase “per aspera ad astra” – which means “through hardships to the stars” – has been used in other sci-fi movies such as Ridley Scott’s The Martian and Star Trek: The Next Generation. ■ Director James Gray, who started writing the script for Ad Astra in 2011, has said it will feature “the most realistic depiction of space travel that’s been put in a movie”. ■ Brad made the movie in the wake of his divorce from Angelina Jolie. He also spent 18 months in Alcoholics Anonymous at the time. The group he attended comprised all men. “You had all these men sitting around being open and honest in a way I’ve never heard,” he says. “It was a safe…

GOOD BOYS Comedy. With Jacob Tremblay, Keith L Williams and Brady Noon. Director: Gene Stupnitsky. 16DLSV. Three sixth-grade boys ditch school and are accidentally caught up in a web of drugs, teenage girls and a raucous party. It plays out like a modern, naughty fairytale with the mall as the castle and the three tweens playing the knights, albeit knights whose hormones work overtime. The trio also swear like sailors. As an adult viewer it’s at times awkward to watch, and it’s no kiddie’s movie – be warned. But that’s not the problem. It’s the bad acting that’s the most cringe-worthy part of the experience. It’s hard to believe Tremblay’s agent even attached him to this mess. The young boy is better known for 2016’s multi-award-winning Room. Some reviewers call…

FEAST your eyes . . . Any one of these six novels could be a winner – which means they’re all worth the read. The novels were selected from a long-list of 13 to compete for the prestigious British literary award, which is open to authors worldwide writing in English. “Like all great literature, these books teem with life, with a profound and celebratory humanity,” says Peter Florence, chair of this year’s judging panel. This year’s line-up includes titles from literary heavyweights Margaret Atwood and Salman Rushdie. Both have won the award before – Atwood for The Blind Assassin in 2000 and Rushdie for Midnight’s Children in 1981. Can one of them do it again? We’re going to have to wait until 14 October to find out because that’s when…

A NATURAL disaster is “an act of nature of such magnitude as to create a catastrophic situation in which the day-to-day patterns of life are suddenly disrupted and people are plunged into helplessness and suffering and, as a result, need food, clothing, shelter, medical care and nursing care and other necessities of life, and protection against unfavourable environmental factors and conditions.” This is the definition of a natural disaster according to the World Health Organisation (WHO). Natural disasters include floods and tsunamis, earthquakes, tornadoes, mudslides, avalanches – and volcanic eruptions. VESUVIUS BELCHES FIRE One of the world’s best-known – and still-active – volcanoes is Vesuvius in southern Italy, near the city of Naples. Vesuvius is famous for a giant eruption in the year 79 AD. This eruption was violent and…

“I had posters of Justin Timberlake everywhere. I’d kiss him every day before I went to school.” – ASHLEY BENSON (29) on her childhood crush “Botox is no surprise! I’m a big supporter of being natural, but I’ve done it twice. Just a little bit, not too much – I still need to express myself.” – 61-year-old actress ANGELA BASSETT on ageing gracefully, kind of “I don’t like it when people think it’s hard for me to see myself as beautiful. I don’t like it when people are shocked that I’m doing it.” – Truth Hurts rapper LIZZO (31) to Glamour “We’re about as married as you can get. We have a kid together. My mom was like, ‘But when are you guys getting married?’ And I said, ‘Mom, I’m…

INNOCENCE LOST The Rough Night star opened up about a tragic moment in her childhood that changed everything. “The next thing I remember is using my fingers to dig the pills my mother [VIRGINIA KING] had tried to swallow out of her mouth while my father held it open and told me what to do,” she writes. “Something deep inside me shifted then, and it never shifted back. My childhood was over.” SEXUAL ASSAULT ‘I was obligated to be of service . . . my value was tied to my body. “When I was younger, I was obligated to be of service,” she said after making the bombshell revelation that she was raped when she was just 15. “I wouldn’t be loved if I wasn’t – if I didn’t give…