Innholdsfortegnelse for 5-Sep-19 i You South Africa

EVERY week we’re reminded of the fragility of life. Whether it’s in the pages of this magazine, in the stories on our website or in the realities of our friends, family and colleagues. Sometimes people battle with financial issues. Other times their challenges have to do with their health. In some cases, it’s problems in their families and they struggle with the difficulties that come with trying to help loved ones while they have their own burdens to bear. In those moments, I remind myself I should be grateful for being healthy and happy. I’m reminded I should let petty things go and focus on the good because there are so many people who face hurdles I can’t even begin to imagine. When I was younger I used to roll…

SHE does it every summer – gathering her nearest and dearest to join her at her beloved Balmoral Castle in Scotland for her annual holiday. It’s indeed a special time for the British royal family. Especially for Queen Elizabeth – it’s when she gets to catch up with her children and grandchildren and indulge in favourite pastimes such as fishing. It’s also a time when she gets to reflect on the year gone by. And judging by events of the past few weeks, she can’t be too pleased with her blue-blooded brood. The Firm has been rocked by a series of scandals. Most recently there was the news of Prince Andrew’s friendship with convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein. And there’s the Sussexes’ jet-setting controversy that really got people’s backs up…

NUTRITION NEWS There’s almost no end to the health benefits of eggs. They’re packed with vitamins and minerals, including choline, a key component for building cell membranes and in the functioning of your brain and nervous system. One egg contains 6g protein and 5g good fats. It also has all the essential amino acids – the building blocks of protein – and in the right ratios. Although eggs contain high levels of cholesterol (mostly the good kind, HDL), research has established they don’t raise blood cholesterol levels in most people. A healthy person can enjoy 2-3 eggs a day as part of a balanced diet, says registered dietician Mariza van Zyl. EXTRA SOURCE: WWW.HEALTHLINE.COM MEGA EGGS BENEDICT ON RYE The rye bread offers a healthier alternative to the English muffin…

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Debit, cheque, credit, petrol and store cards – there are so many of these in your wallet it’s sometimes hard to keep track of them all. But do you really need so many payment options? We weigh up the pros and cons of various cards to help you choose the right ones for you. DEBIT CARD USE Pay for goods and services, withdraw cash and do international transactions. BEST FOR Children, students, people who don’t qualify for credit or cheque cards. NOT IDEAL If you need credit occasionally. PROS This card is linked to an account in which you have existing savings or into which your salary is paid – so you can access only the money that’s in the account and nothing more. Some banks offer good interest rates…

THURSDAY ■ THE X-FILES: I WANT TO BELIEVE ★★★ 2008, 104 min, 13VL, e.tv, 23:00. Sci-fi thriller. The sequel to the The X-Files. When a priest claims to be having psychic visions that could help find a missing FBI agent, two retired agents are called to work the case. David Duchovny. ■ 2036 ORIGIN UNKNOWN ★★★ 2018, 94 min, 13V, M-Net, 04:25. Sci-fi thriller. Six years after the first manned mission to Mars ended in disaster, a scientist under the command of an artificial intelligence lands on the planet. Katee Sackhoff, Ray Fearon. FRIDAY ■ TITAN A.E. ★★★ 2000, 94 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Animated sci-fi. After Earth is destroyed by aliens, a man must find a hidden ship that could create a new home planet for humans. ■ SPIRITUAL…

■ Gina speaks Spanish fluently, thanks to her Cuban heritage. ■ She trained as an opera and jazz singer. ■ She says if she wasn’t an actress she would’ve liked to have been a journalist. ■ Suits creator Aaron Korsh considered killing Jessica off when she left the show in 2016. “I’m relieved and happy he decided against it because now we get to see a bit more of Jessica’s world,” Gina says. ■ There’s been plenty of speculation about other Suits characters showing up in Pearson, but it seems unlikely. “My gut reaction is, I don’t really see any of the Suits characters being regulars on the spinoff,” Aaron, who’s also the executive producer, told TVLine. “It’s a different tone, it’s a different world.”…

AFTER Romantic drama. If you’re older than 15, you’ve seen this movie before: wholesome, nerdy girl (Josephine Langford) meets dark and broody rebel boy (Hero Fiennes-Tiffin) and it’s hate at first sight. But they end up falling in love. Sure, it’s a recipe and started out as One Direction fan fiction by Anna Todd, who then scored a book deal out of it. But this movie hits exactly the right notes on every point, engaging even this cynical reviewer. It also manages to deal with sensitive teen issues (rejection, peer pressure, losing one’s virginity) in a non-cheesy way. It’s 10 Things I Hate about You (1999) for a new generation. – LIZ DE VILLIERS 2019. 101 MIN. 16DS. ALSO AVAILABLE ON DVD. KANDASAMYS: THE WEDDING Local comedy. This sequel to…

Ed Sheeran’s ÷ (pronounced “divide”) tour is officially the highest-grossing of all time! The world tour, which kicked off in March 2017 in Italy, has already made $736,7 million (more than R11 billion), overtaking the previous longstanding record of $736,4m (then about R5,8bn) set by Irish rockers U2 in 2011. It’s estimated Divide would have grossed between $770m and $775m (R11,5bn and R11,6bn) by the closing performance on 26 August in the UK. TOP 5 GROSSING TOURS OF ALL TIME 1 Ed Sheeran – ÷ (March 2017-August 2019): $736,7m (R11bn) 2 U2 – 360° (2009-11): $736,4m (then R5,8bn) 3 Guns N’ Roses – Not in This Lifetime (2016-November 2019): $563,3m (R8,4bn). This figure excludes 2019 concerts. 4 The Rolling Stones – A Bigger Bang (2005-07): $558,2m (then R3,9bn) 5 Coldplay…

APART from barking, growling and whining, dogs use body language to communicate. If you understand a dog’s body language, you can learn to interpret when a pooch feels sad, happy, threatened or aggressive – and possibly avoid being bitten. Dogs include their facial expression, ears, lips, nose, tails and torso in their body language vocabulary. It’s important to consider all of these and the situation the dog is in or you might misunderstand what he’s “saying” to you. SOURCES: THESPRUCEPETS.COM, ANIMALPLANET.COM, DOGSTER.COM, MODERNDOGMAGAZINE.COM, CANIDAE.COM, WIDEOPENPETS.COM, NATIONALGEOGRAPHIC.COM…

Large breasts are generally at higher risk of developing cancer, says Dr Greg Dyer, an oncologist from Pretoria. “Gigantomastia means big breast or rapid-growing breast tissue. A person with this condition will be predisposed to developing breast cancer but it’s not an absolute thing. Chances are just greater [if you have big breasts],” he says. After Camilla has the double mastectomy, she’ll consult an oncologist to see if the cancer has spread to other parts of her body. If it’s found to have spread, her doctors are likely to look at chemotherapy, radiation and hormone treatment as possible further treatments, Dyer says.…

■ Al Pacino as Marvin Schwarz, Rick’s agent. Quentin Tarantino created the role for Al. ■ Margaret Qualley as Pussycat, a member of the Manson Family. The Leftovers star is the daughter of actress Andie MacDowell. ■ Dakota Fanning as Lynette “Squeaky” Fromme, a Manson Family member who tried to assassinate US president Gerald Ford in 1975. ■ Luke Perry as TV star Wayne Maunder. Luke died of a stroke five months before the movie’s release. ■ Lena Dunham as Catherine “Gypsy” Share, another Manson Family member.…

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■ Cut the sheet of Supawood (an inexpensive alternative to wood) into nine strips of 100mm x 1 800mm for the panels or ask the hardware store to do it for you. Evenly space the panels and use a drill and screws with wall plugs to attach them to the wall (ours are 60cm apart). Use wood filler to cover the screw heads. ■ We painted our panels and the wall behind it in Dulux 30BB 31-043 to complement the adjacent wall colour. ■ A functional shelf was added as a display area. Its height pulls your eye upward. We kept this area white to create uniformity with the ceiling.…

Write to Dr Louise, PO Box 39410, Moreletapark 0044, or email info@drlouise.co.za. MY SON NEEDS THERAPY BUT REFUSES TO GO Q Our son is in his early thirties. He lives in another city and treats me like a therapist. When he feels low he phones me and gets angry if I just listen and offer no opinion. It usually comes down to him feeling he wasn’t encouraged as a child. This has gone on for years with old gripes being aired regularly and he gets defensive if I suggest therapy. He and his dad have had a difficult relationship over the years. In his late twenties he casually mentioned he’d been molested by a relative we’d trusted when he was about 12. His dad offered to take this up with…

TIP WANTED A man goes to the police station wishing to speak with the burglar who broke into his house the previous night. “You’ll get your chance in court,” the police officer says. “No, no!” the man says. “I want to know how he got into the house without waking my wife I’ve been trying for years.” BETTER DEAL During the wedding rehearsal, the groom approaches the pastor with an unusual offer. “Look, I’ll give you R30 000 if you’ll change the wedding vows. When you get to the part where I’m supposed to promise to love, honour and obey and be faithful to her forever I’d appreciate if you’d just leave that out.” He passes the minister an envelope with R30 000 and walks away satisfied. On the day…

When classmate Roops (Aaron Phagura) hands Javed (Kalra) a cassette of Bruce Springsteen’s Born To Run album, the teen’s world expands. The lyrics Springsteen belts out resonate with the British-Pakistani teenager, who finds himself trapped in a racist hometown, a family burdened by financial woes and an unyielding, traditional Muslim father. Javed, already a creative with a passion for music and writing poetry, becomes a diehard Springsteen fan who expresses his curtailed dreams through Springsteen’s music. But his father, Malik (Ghir), is having none of it and his dominant presence wedges Javed between two worlds and forces him to discover if he, too, is Born To Run. Set in 1987, Blinded by the Light is based on journalist Sarfraz Manzoor’s 2007 memoir, Greetings from Bury Park. It’s a sweet story…

Having started off as a spinoff from the Marvel Cinematic Universe, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. quickly established itself as an intelligent, fast-paced spy show with dry humour, complex characters and sci-fi elements. Season 5 saw our heroes sent back from the future to try to stop a world-destroying event. It ended with the beloved Agent Phil Coulson (Clark Gregg) accepting his fate and spending his last days with Agent Melinda May (Ming-Na Wen) in Tahiti. In season 6 Coulson is unfortunately still dead, but thankfully Gregg is back, playing a mysterious new character named Sarge.…

ONE GOOD DEED By DAVID BALDACCI Macmillan It’s 1949 and Aloysius Archer, a veteran from World War 2, has just been released from prison on parole for a crime he didn’t commit. He’s sent to the small town of Poca City with a list of things he mustn’t do – such as don’t drink alcohol, don’t go to bars and stay away from loose women – and another of things he must do, including reporting regularly to his parole officer and getting a job. On his first night in town Archer disregards his orders and goes to a local bar. There he meets rich businessman Hank Pittleman, who hires him to collect the car that a farmer, Lucas Tuttle, gave as security for the $5 000 he borrowed. It sounds…

Don’t make eye contact – the dog sees it as a challenge. Freeze – don’t make any fast or nervous movements. Don’t run, as the dog’s instinct is to chase you. Keep your face turned towards the dog (but no eye contact) and walk slowly backwards until you’re at a safe distance. Never turn your back on the dog. Don’t show your teeth. You might think smiling will calm the dog but he’ll think you’re being aggressive. If the dog attacks, curl into a ball on the ground. Cover your head with your arms and ball your fists. If the dog snaps at you, stay calm and try to get something between you and his teeth, such as a jacket or wallet. Don’t hit the dog – this will just…

It’s a mental disorder in which a caregiver makes up or causes an illness or injury to a person in their care. This behaviour could stem from poor self-esteem, a craving for attention or the desire to feel needed, experts say. The most famous example is the case of Gypsy Rose Blanchard, an American girl whose entire childhood was a litany of abuse as her mother, Dee Dee, falsely claiming she had leukaemia and muscular dystrophy and was intellectually disabled. The truth was uncovered only in 2015 when Gypsy (then 24) arranged for a boyfriend she’d met online to kill her mother. She’s now serving a 10-year sentence for murder.…

MINDFULNESS guides are everywhere. Learn how to be calm, learn to be present, learn to be mindful. But of course, this is easier said than done and many people battle to find the time to learn how to master it. But a new book says it can be done in just 10 minutes. And if you consider there are 1 440 minutes in every day, it can’t be that difficult to set aside 10 of them for me-time, the author says. British psychotherapist Owen O’Kane believes taking a short break every day to do his meditation “workout” can help you learn to manage difficult emotions and live life in a calmer, happier way. And at this time of year, when end-of-year holidays are far away and daily life feels super-stressed,…

It was a demanding three weeks, but well worth it for Mr World South Africa FEZILE MKHIZE. The Top Billing presenter and qualified doctor took part in the Mr World 2019 competition in the Philippines and finished as the first runner-up. The Bloemfontein-born model said the experience was “filled with everything you could think of – from physical trials and tribulations to mental exhaustion” and that he now had “71 newfound brothers”, referring to the other contestants. The 27-year-old took to Instagram after the competition, saying, “I’ve proudly flown not just my beautiful country’s colours but held the African soil from which I come in my heart . . . This small-town kid is incredibly thankful.” Flying high with Jonathan He loves to travel in style, so it came as…

BLACK GIRLS ROCK GALA Held in New Jersey, the annual awards show honours black women who excel in their field DISNEY’S D23 EXPO The stars put their best fashion foot forward in California at the annual Disney event OUT& ABOUT HUSTLERS PHOTOCALL LOS ANGELES The cast of the upcoming film Hustlers – about strip club employees who band together to turn the tables on their Wall Street clients – recently gathered at a promotional event. (FROM LEFT) Keke Palmer, Cardi B, Jennifer Lopez, Constance Wu, Lorene Scafaria and Lili Reinhart. CARNIVAL ROW PREMIERE LOS ANGELES…

WE WERE on our way to visit an old friend at her newly built retirement home on the outskirts of Benoni when we got lost, driving around for more than an hour. We stopped at the side of the road to read a signboard and a delightful young lady pulled up in her car to help. She remarked that we were old and needed to be safe, then went out of her way to help by insisting we follow her. She stopped at an estate to ask a security guard for directions and drove ahead of us for about 20km until we reached our destination. And she refused petrol money. I asked her how we could ever repay her and she replied, “By just saying thank you.” I established that…

Northern Cape premier Zamani Saul, you’re an inspiration (YOU, 22 August). How I wish you were in charge of our country. I salute you! ELLA, PARYS If we had more honest premiers, mayors and councillors like premier Zamani Saul, we’d be the nation Nelson Mandela dreamt of. What a good example he’s setting. INGRID LAARMAN, KOSMOS Is it just me or is Damian Hurley’s look and relationship with his mom just creepy (YOU 29 August)? JACQUI, DURBANVILLE Take away her riches and Angelina Jolie would be a normal mom, not a warrior mom (YOU, 22 August). There are billions of real warrior moms out there. DOWN TO EARTH, SMS The TV show Cheaters needs to come to South Africa. There are so many cheating partners who must be exposed. FED…

SHE rises before the crack of dawn, travelling long distances from her home in the suburb of Kraaifontein to her jobs in central Cape Town and other parts of the Mother City. Noloyiso Lombo (46) is a domestic worker, earning up to R4 000 in a good month. “I work for a man two days a week and he pays me R2 000 a month.” Her second job is working for a cleaning agency where she’s employed for three to four days a week, depending on bookings. “It’s difficult because I work on commission,” she says. The single mom takes care of her 28-year-old daughter and two grandchildren, making sure they have a roof over their heads and are fed and clothed. That means there isn’t enough money to pay…

HE house she shares with T her mother, siblings and son is deafeningly silent. Her baby girl no longer barrels into the bedroom every morning to greet her with a smile and a gentle hug. The boisterous little girl no longer chases after her brother, their squeals of delight echoing through the hallway. And all the grieving mom has left of her daughter are treasured memories, toys and the tiny clothes she used to wear. It’s been a few weeks since Kleeshay Stuurman’s two-year-old daughter, Zoedene, died. The heartbroken mom has passed down Zoe’s clothes to another little girl in the family because she can’t bear to give them away to anyone else. It’s a few days after the funeral when YOU visits the family’s modest home in Eersterust, Pretoria.…

CURRY AND BUTTERNUT PASTA SALAD SERVES 8 AS A SIDE DISH OR 6 AS A MAIN PREPARATION: 15 MIN CHILLING: ABOUT 1 HOUR COOKING: 35-40 MIN 500g penne pasta 1 butternut, peeled and cubed 2 red onions, quartered 30ml (2T) olive oil salt and freshly ground pepper DRESSING 125ml (½c) mayonnaise 125ml (½c) plain yoghurt 30ml (2T) mild curry powder 30ml (2T) white wine vinegar 15ml (1T) light brown sugar pinch of salt TO FINISH handful of mixed fresh herbs or baby salad greens Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease a baking sheet with nonstick spray. 1 Cook the pasta according to the packet instructions. Drain and rinse. Leave to cool completely. 2 Arrange the butternut and onions on the baking sheet and drizzle the oil over. Season with salt…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS VIRGO IN LOVE AND ROMANCE ■ Your first crush would’ve been or will probably be a Mr or Miss Perfect. ■ A Virgo won’t be embarrassing in public on a blind date. ■ As a fiancée, you have detailed plans for the future. ■ If you’re planning a wedding, chances are you’ll go for a small do. ■ You’re kind and attentive as a partner. ■ You have a tendency to nag and find fault with your significant other. ■ If your relationship ends, you’re likely to deal with it in a practical way. VIRGO 5 SEPTEMBER – 11 SEPTEMBER Treat yourself and delegate work to others Kindness is a Virgo characteristic, and so is the propensity to be of service to others. But it’s a week to…

POWER PLAYS For six seasons she played the brilliant Jessica Pearson, mentor to hard-nosed attorney Harvey Specter (Gabriel Macht), in Suits. Now Gina has her own series, called Pearson, made by the same team behind Suits. The 50-year-old actress, who plays the right-hand woman to a newly elected mayor, is also a producer on the show and was instrumental in its creation. She was obsessed with the US presidential election in 2016 and it inspired her to submit the concept for the spin-off series. “Fans of Suits have come to know Jessica as this confident kick-ass attorney who’s always five steps ahead of everyone, but that’s only 5-10% of the entirety of this woman,” she says. IN THE BEGINNING Gina grew up in the Bronx, a working-class New York neighbourhood,…

The delightfully dysfunctional gang of middle-aged varsity pals are back for another eight episodes of cringe-inducing awkwardness. The first season ended with the friends discovering that all the straight, married ones had been secretly sleeping with one another. Season 2 starts with Felix (Billy Eichner) summing it up as a “scandalous . . . epic shit show. People did not like it”. Viewers who enjoyed the first season will dig this one even more. The shorter season lends itself to tighter, funnier episodes, and the cast (including Keegan-Michael Key, Cobie Smulders and Fred Savage) is even more fun. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS…

‘Music is always a healer. Music has never let me down. I know it’s my religion’– BRENDON URIE ■ Panic! At the Disco were among the big winners at the recent Teen Choice Awards, walking away with choice rock artist and choice rock song accolades for Hey Look Ma, I Made It. They were nominated in five categories. ■ The band was formed in 2004 in Las Vegas by childhood friends Brendon Urie, Ryan Ross, Spencer Smith and Brent Wilson, but frontman Brendon is the only member of the original band left. They’ve put out six albums, their most recent being 2018’s Pray for the Wicked. ■ The track High Hopes has been charting for a whole year, making it the outfit’s biggest hit to date. It entered the Billboard…

DR T: A GUIDE TO SEXUAL HEALTH AND PLEASURE By TLALENG MOFOKENG Macmillan With her trademark warmth and candour Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng covers all your questions about sex and sexuality. The first section of the book focuses on sexual health, physiology and common problems while the second focuses on sexual pleasure. The latter is what Dr T, a columnist and radio commentator, maintains is “the missing link in many sexual health discussions”. Although the book is aimed at everyone it will probably be women who benefit from it most as the focus is mainly on the female experience – but it will certainly teach men a thing or two. FUTURE-PROOF YOUR CHILD FOR THE 2020S AND BEYOND By NIKKI BUSH & GRAEME CODRINGTON Penguin It’s estimated that about two-thirds of…

EVER wondered why your dog wags his tail when he sees you? Why does it seem as if ants follow an invisible line to a food source? What are birds saying so early in the morning? Unlike humans, animals don’t use words to speak to one another. Parrots that “talk” are only mimicking us – they don’t understand the meaning of the words they’re saying. But animals do communicate – about food, friendship and procreation and to warn one another about danger. Communication is the process by which information or a message is sent and received. Animals use a variety of signals to convey information. The forms these signals take also vary widely. CHEMICAL SIGNALS One way animals communicate is through smell. Some species secrete special chemicals called pheromones to…

‘At last I can look to the future. I can see the light at the end of this thing’ SHE was relieved when the doctor broke the news to her. Being diagnosed with breast cancer would be a devastating blow for most women, especially when faced with the reality of losing both breasts. But when Camilla Neelse was told her cancer was so advanced she’d need a double mastectomy, she whispered, “Hallelujah”. The mom of one suffers from gigantomastia, a rare condition that causes continued and excessive growth of breast tissue. It’s been 18 months since Camilla was been able to find a bra that fits. The last bra she could wear was a 40JJ, and her breasts are now too large for that too. Her shoulders, back and knees…