Innholdsfortegnelse for 13-Jun-19 i You South Africa

EVERY so often I have to take stock and get perspective – and there’s nothing that can do it quite as quickly as reading some of the stories we publish. Yes, it’s cold and miserable. Yes, politics is, well, politics. Yes, going to fill the car is unpleasant and deadlines feel intense as the winter darkness ends the day much earlier than I’d like. But then I’m reminded there are people facing the kinds of challenges I can’t even begin to imagine – and they do it with courage, grace and a determination that’s incredibly inspiring. There are a few of those in this week’s issue. There’s Monica Gerhard, who doesn’t let the fact she was born without arms and legs stop her (page 24). Erica Rhoode is battling breast…

I agree with every word in the letter about what a disaster The Bachelor SA was (YOU Say, 23 May). Lee Thompson may be a nice gentleman but he’s definitely not ready for marriage or settling down, so for many of us the programme was a flop. I think it’s best if Lee gets on with his modelling career. And I think Jozaan was the most down-to-earth lady on the show. GRANNY, SUN VALLEY ■ My sympathies lie with Bachelor Lee. That programme isn’t for anyone who’s genuine and vulnerable. I don’t think it can be achieved. Love and understanding need time. The best of everything, Lee. JO, SMS ■ I had to laugh at the article and the letter on women looking for the perfect man. I had a…

SHE’S fun and funny and loves making people feel good about themselves, celebrating their achievements and pulling proverbial rabbits out of the hat to send guests away with gifts that change their lives. But that compassion and kindness have roots in a past filled with trauma and the full extent of it has finally been laid bare. Ellen DeGeneres (61) had previously alluded to the abuse she suffered as a teen but it wasn’t until recently that she opened up about just how profound it was. Speaking to fellow talk-show host David Letterman on his new Netflix show, My Next Guest Needs No Introduction, Ellen shared details of the molestation that affected not only her life but her relationship with her mother. Calling it a horrible, horrible story, she says…

THE newlyweds are the picture of happiness as they step out of the little chapel in Cape Town. Looking handsome in his dark suit, the groom puts a protective arm around his pregnant bride and guides her through a shower of bubbles being blown their way by friends and family. These photographs of actor Dann-Jaques Mouton and Tamsyn Bailey caused a stir when they surfaced on social media. But the quickie wedding in early May didn’t only come as a surprise to fans – friends of the 7de Laan actor were also stunned. With last year’s drama still fresh in their minds, many of them weren’t aware that DJ, as he’s affectionately known, was in a serious relationship, let alone planning to walk down the aisle. “He’s a joker,” says…

BOEREWORS MEATBALLS WITH BEAN STEW SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN 500g boerewors oil for shallow-frying 2 onions, sliced 2 cans (410g each) four-bean mix, drained 30-45ml (2-3T) braai relish or sauce of your choice TO SERVE fresh parsley, chopped Prepare a fire with enough coals to braai the sausage. Put a cast-iron pot on a stand over moderate coals. 1 Remove the meat from the sausage casing and roll into small balls. Heat a little oil in the pot and fry the meatballs until done. Remove and set aside. 2 In the same pot, fry the onions until soft. Add the beans and relish or sauce and heat through, stirring continuously to prevent catching. 3 Return the meatballs to the pot, mix with the sauce and heat.…

FOR FIRST-TIMERS If you’ve never been to a beauty salon, the list of treatments can be intimidating. First things first: when you make your appointment, ask if you can have a skin analysis. A beautician will analyse your skin to determine which treatments will be most beneficial. Salons have many types of treatments and use various products but here are a few common ones to choose from. PEELS This removes the dead skin layer to reveal a healthy glow. It often includes alpha-hydroxy acids which work on the skin to deeply exfoliate it. The beautician cleanses your skin to prepare it for the peel. The product is applied to your skin and left for a few minutes. The product is then removed and followed up with a moisturiser and…

■ All South African citizens qualify for a pensioner’s card, which they can use to snap up discounts. Pensioners who receive state pensions will be given a South African Social Security Agency (Sassa) card, which they present in stores and elsewhere to show they qualify for special savings. ■ Those who are members of a private pension fund will usually be supplied with a pensioner’s card by their employers when they retire – but this applies mainly to people working for big companies. ■ If you need to apply for a card you can do so through the South African Association of Retired Persons (SAARP). The association works closely with various companies to provide competitive rates and prices for pensioners. ■ To apply for free membership contact SAARP on 021-592-1279…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUNE Don’t let others’ doom and gloom get you down If you’re a true Gemini, chances are you like to travel light and breeze through life. But it’s a week in which responsibilities and obligations could cramp your style. You might also come face to face with doomsday prophets and the heavy-hearted, with little escape from their gloom. Don’t let this prevent you from going out and mingling as your sunny disposition could bring others happiness and cheer. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 14, 21, 47, 33, 15, 39 CANCER 21 JUNE – 21 JULY Your personal year is drawing to a close, so it’s a good time in which to slow down and take stock. You might want to look back over the past 12 months…

‘I always say I’m four years old and 50 years old, existing in the same body’ YOUNG LOVE The Sun Is Also a Star tells the story of two teens – Natasha Kingsley (Yara), a Jamaican-born New Yorker facing deportation along with her family, and Daniel Bae (Charles Melton), a Korean-American student who dreams of being a writer but whose family wants him to become a doctor. Through a twist of fate they meet in New York, and Daniel persuades Natasha to give him 24 hours to make her fall in love with him. “To have the storyline about deportation and cultural identity at the same time as a storyline about love is what I really appreciated,” 19-year-old Yara says. She and Charles could draw on their real-life experiences for…

‘It feels like this is all happening to someone else and I’m just watching’– LEWIS CAPALDI Pub singer The 22-year-old, who’s of Scottish and Italian heritage, started playing guitar at the age of nine and by 12 was singing in pubs around Glasgow. He’s been lauded for his powerful voice and emotive songwriting. “As soon as you start writing about you, things that have actually happened to you and are real to you, people can see that and that’s when they seem to enjoy it,” he says. Spotify record He released his first track, Bruises, in March 2017 and it quickly garnered 28 million plays on Spotify, making him the fastest unsigned artist to reach 25 million plays on the streaming service. He was signed to Virgin EMI Records soon…

SHELVES piled with stuff you never use. Drawers you’re scared to open because they’re so full you might never get them closed again. Stacks of old papers lying on top of the fridge. You’ve tried to sort it all out but somewhere along the line you always give up because the job is just too big and daunting . . . American lifestyle guru Gretchen Rubin has an interesting theory about why many people fail in their tidying efforts: it’s down to personality type. In an inspiring new book, Outer Order, Inner Calm, she shares useful advice to help you get rid of your junk once and for all – and then keep your home clutter-free. KNOW YOURSELF Before you get started, take some time for a bit of self-reflection.…

HER tattooed biceps ripple and she has a steely look in her eye as she takes hold of the bar. At 162kg the weight is a good 100kg more than her own body weight but it may as well be a feather – hardly without breaking a sweat she slowly raises the bar until she’s holding it overhead. This was the amazing endurance feat Kailey Louw performed earlier this year when she powerlifted her way to a gold medal, setting a personal best at the Unequipped Powerlifting Nationals in Potchefstroom, North West. We’re keen to see the champion in action – but to make it a bit more fun, we ask if she could lift her brother, Marius, instead of weights. Marius, who plays centre for the Sharks, weighs 95kg…

THE audition went well. The director liked what he saw and heard and could see her in the role of volatile Vicky in Lockdown. There was just one problem: her resemblance to Orange Is the New Black star Taylor Schilling, who plays Piper. The casting crew were worried: both are prison shows but Lockdown is a gritty, hard-hitting drama whereas Orange is a comedy. And if one of their stars looked like Piper – well, people could start to think it was a rip-off instead of a very real, very South African show. The solution: do something to make Vicky look nothing like Piper. “This is why Vicky gets burnt by hot porridge and has a massive scar across her face – it was a way to minimise our similarities,”…

Westlife’s MARK FEEHILY and fiancé CAILEAN O’NEILL are to become dads for the first time. Mark made the announcement when he recently posted an ultrasound snap on Instagram. It’s an exciting time for Mark and Cailean. They got engaged in February, after six years together, and plan to tie the knot later this year. SOURCES: MIRROR.CO.UK, USMAGAZINE.COM, PLAYBOY.COM, EONLINE.COM GETTY IMAGES/GALLO IMAGES, AAI/FOTOSTOCK, BACKGRID/GREATSTOCK, REX FEATURES/GREATSTOCK,REX/SHUTTERSTOCK/GREATSTOCK, MAGAZINE FEATURES, REALTIME IMAGES, NETFLIX…

IT’S an epic musical that’s opened to rave reviews but Rocketman, which tells the story of ELTON JOHN’s breakthrough years, has been slated by a member of his family. One of Elton’s younger half-brothers, GEOFF DWIGHT, told Britain’s Daily Mail he wasn’t happy with the way their father, Stanley, was portrayed as a monster in the film. “That’s not the dad I remember,” says Geoff, one of Stanley’s four sons with his second wife, Edna. “Dad had a big heart and he loved us all equally. He was incredibly proud of Elton and everything he achieved.” ‘This coldness, it’s a million miles away from what Dad was like’ – GEOFF DWIGHT The movie suggests Stanley, who died in 1991 aged 66, was unloving towards Elton – born Reginald Kenneth Dwight…

DANNIELYNN BIRKHEAD She was born just six months before her mother, model and actress ANNA NICOLE SMITH, died of an accidental drug overdose at 39. And DANNIELYNN (12) – seen here with her father, LARRY BIRKHEAD (46) – clearly takes after her gorgeous mom. IRIS AND MAUDE APATOW IRIS (16) and MAUDE (21) have played the daughters of mom Leslie Mann’s character in three of director dad Judd’s movies – Knocked Up, Funny People and This Is 40. But just look at them now. Maude is a student at Northwestern University in Illinois, and Iris recently starred in Netflix’s show Love. AOKI AND MING LEE SIMMONS You might remember MING (right) and AOKI as the little girls in the background of mom KIMORA LEE SIMMONS’ reality TV show, Kimora: Life…

Greta Thunberg, I’m right behind you (YOU, 23 May). Thank you for standing up for what you believe in and fighting against climate change. We need to secure a future for our children and grandchildren. Nature can live without man, but man can’t live without nature. JUDY BLACK, SMS When, oh when are they going to discontinue the worthless 10-cent coins? JOAN, RADIOKOP Aunty is so right (YOU Say, 30 May). Aunts do deserve a special day – and uncles do too, for they too love the little ones unconditionally and are always there when needed. L SCOTT, HERMANUS I agree with Aunty. I’m one of those aunties who doesn’t have children but I spoil my nieces and nephews as I love them to bits. LUCKY ME, SMS I’m in…

SHE’D been climbing for days through thick snow, crossing crevasses and scaling perilous icy slopes. Now here Saray Khumalo was on the summit of Earth’s highest mountain. What do you do when you’ve spent five years chasing a dream and you’ve finally achieved it? “I just sat down. It was overwhelming,” Saray says. As she unfurled a South African flag on the icy mountaintop, it hit home. She’d done it – overcome innumerable challenges and setbacks to become the first black African woman to successfully scale Mount Everest. “There weren’t many of us at the top because we summited during the first window and not many people go for that, so we could walk around,” she says. But after spending a tiring 11-and-a-half hours climbing from Camp 4 on the…

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HE’S NOT WHAT I THOUGHT HE’D BE Q I met a man on the internet and took my time to get to know him. We’ve been corresponding for a year now and I suggested that we finally meet face to face as I’d started to fall in love with him. But when I met him I was very disappointed as he doesn’t quite look like the pic I’ve seen. I’ve always been a physical person and physical attraction to someone is important to me. He’s not much to look at, although he’s kind, sensitive and honest. But I know I can’t have a romantic relationship with him as he just doesn’t turn me on. He was very taken with me though and it’s clear he wants to pursue the relationship.…

TRAVEL TIPS FOR GEMINI ■ The linguist in you wants to go where you can chat up a storm ■ For added comfort, travel with a second mobile phone ■ Regular short breaks suit you better than an extended vacation ■ You get bored easily so travel with a group ■ Bypass remote locations where you can’t get around easily ■ Quiet places and silent people bore you ■ Irrespective of your age, you’re the ideal backpacker…

BEAUTY MARKS CIARA The US songbird’s seventh studio album includes the club bangers Level Up and Freak Me, but for the most part it’s an ode to her family – hubby Russell Wilson and daughter Sienna. It’s honest and raw with collaborations with Kelly Rowland and Macklemore but nearly half of the 11 tracks didn’t impress me much. My favourite is Thinkin’ Bout You, but only for the video in which she shows off her bangin’ body. – LESEGO MKHIZE 3T YOUNGSTACPT YoungstaCPT (Riyahd Roberts) drops a phenomenal 22-track debut entitled Things Take Time (3T). His lyrics are fierce and about inequality in the Mother City. The first single, YVR (Young Van Riebeek), is a protest anthem with a trap beat. Other stand-out tracks are To Live and Die in…

UNSAFE BET A guy is reading his paper when his wife walks up behind him and smacks him on the back of the head with a frying pan. “What was that for?” he howls. “I found a piece of paper in your pocket with Betty Sue written on it.” “Jeez, honey, remember last week when I went to the race course? Betty Sue is the name of the horse a friend told me to bet on.” The wife apologises and walks away. Three days later he’s watching soccer when she walks up behind him and smacks him on the back of the head again with the frying pan. “What was that for?” he whimpers. “Your horse called,” she says. UNFIT TO MARRY Sitting at the bar, John tells the barman…

Recycling your old computer, phone or tablet is just as important as recycling other waste – they contain hazardous substances and chemicals that can pollute the environment and poison the water supply. If a device is battery-operated or has a plug, it’s considered e-waste. If the device still works, donate it to a charity in your community. If it’s broken beyond repair your parents can contact the local municipality to find out where e-waste can be taken. Pick n Pay, Woolworths and Engen stores also have bins where you can drop off old batteries and other materials.…

1. DUSKY SHARK (Carcharhinus obscurus) Where: Especially in deeper waters along the coast from Mozambique to the southern Cape. Status: Vulnerable*. Food: Smaller fish, especially sardines, squid and stingrays. Fast fact: Duskies migrate for distances of up to 4 000km, travelling to the polar regions in summer. 2. TIGER SHARK (Galeocerdo cuvier) Where: Mostly the Kwa-Zulu-Natal south coast but also off the Cape coast. Status: Near threatened*. Food: Almost anything, including other sharks, seals, turtles, birds, sea snakes and even trash. Fast fact: Cans, clothing, numberplates and car tyres have been found in their stomachs. 3. GREAT WHITE SHARK (Carcharodon carcharias) Where: All along the coast of South Africa. Status: Vulnerable*. Food: Seals, sea lions, small whales, other sharks and turtles. Fast fact: Although…

BAG OF TRICKS Gather all the tech items you often use – chargers, wall adapters, headphones, USB cables, memory sticks – and keep them together in a bag you can store in a drawer or throw into your briefcase, backpack, handbag or luggage. SAVE WARDROBE SPACE Turn shoes on their sides and store them heel to toe in a yin-yang position – they’ll take up a lot less space. MYSTERY BOX We all accumulate stuff we never use but are scared to throw away: orphaned cables, random remote-control devices, important-looking screws that appeared on the floor one day, obscure vacuum-cleaner attachments. Collect them all and put them in a box. Put a date on the box and if you haven’t opened it in a year, throw it away.…

IT SOUNDS like the plot of a movie: a handsome leading man embroiled in the trial of a serial killer. But this is reality for actor ASHTON KUTCHER, who recently found himself swearing to tell the whole truth in a Los Angeles courtroom. The case dates to 2001 when Ashton – then a young star on the sitcom That ’70s Show – called to pick up fashion student ASHLEY ELLERIN for a date. In his testimony in court Ashton said he freaked out when he later learnt Ashley (22) had been murdered. He feared he’d be considered a suspect. Prosecutors believe Ashley and two other women were killed by Michael Gargiulo (43), nicknamed The Hollywood Ripper. Ashton (41) told the court he called to confirm the date at 8.24pm. Police…

The speculation is over! Twilight heartthrob ROBERT PATTINSON (33) has been confirmed as the next caped crusader. The Damsel star nabbed the sought-after role of Batman after reports swirled earlier this month that he and fellow British actor Nicholas Hoult (29) were in the running. Rob’s first outing as the DC Comics superhero, simply titled The Batman, is set to hit theatres in June 2021 – but fans are divided over whether he’s the right fit. BIG SHOES TO FILL…

THIS morning I sat with a family member at a centre for abused children. While parents sat stone-faced and with unshed tears I saw the most amazing strength from children. Every one of them has been hurt, abused or raped emotionally and physically. Yet they reached out and spoke to the other children. One preschool girl walked around dishing out toys to the sad little ones. Young people close to finishing with school walked with pride even though everyone knew why they were there. You guys are amazing and even in sadness you’re still stronger than the terror that your lives became at the hands of adults.…

Your hair is your crown and you deserve to have it shine. YOU Hair (R52) is a new magazine featuring the latest hair trends and expert advice to help you look and feel great. We show you how to find your next look with a comprehensive hair guide, celebrity makeovers and step-by-step tutorials to create fab styles. YOU Hair is in stores now. Order your copy online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com and have it delivered to your door (courier fees apply).…

SIXTY-SIX years ago two men stood on top of the highest mountain in the world, the first people ever to peer from its pristine peak – and came as close to heaven as it was possible for a human being to get. But the Mount Everest that Edmund Hillary and Sherpa Tenzing Norgay scaled in 1953 is more like hell on earth now. Littered with dead bodies and rubbish, its slopes have become a deadly playground for hordes of adventure tourists who care more about snapping selfies than they do about mountaineering. Climbing Everest, once the pursuit of people in fine physical form, is now within the reach of almost everyone who can get a permit. Astonishing pictures of this season’s climbing season tell the tale only too well: snaking…

BODY CARE Apply body lotion every time you step out of the shower. Many men don’t want to do this because they’re worried the lotion will make them sweat, but it’s not the case (see tips). TIPS ■ Body lotion won’t make you perspire more. We sweat because the body needs to release heat and cool down. ■ There are various moisturising lotions to accommodate the specific needs of your skin. For example, in summer you can use a lighter lotion and swop it for a richer one in winter when your skin tends to become drier. ■ If you have extremely dry skin in winter, moisturise as you usually would then apply petroleum jelly on top. It acts as a barrier to prevent moisture escaping your skin. It doesn’t…

Your Money has dealt with debt many times but it remains the topic we receive the most queries about. “I’m drowning!” “How do I get out of the red?” “What can I do if I can no longer afford my repayments?” The cries for help just keep coming. So this week, in a bid to bring you peace of mind, we’ve done a roundup of the various debt solutions and included everything you need to know about each one. 1 VOLUNTARY SURRENDER When you buy a pricy item – for example a fridge or a TV – on a repayment plan, you get to use that item while you’re paying it off. But you become its owner only once you’ve paid the full purchase price. If you’re struggling with repayments,…

THURSDAY ■ BABY ON BOARD ★★ 2009, 95 min, 16SNVL, e.tv, 23:00. Comedy. The lives of an ambitious, career-driven couple are turned upside down when the wife finds out she’s pregnant. Heather Graham, Jerry O’Connell. ■ #ROXY ★★★ 2018, 105 min, PG, M-Net, 04:15. Romantic comedy. Based on the play Cyrano de Bergerac by Edmond Rostand. A nerdy teen secretly in love with his female best friend, who’s interested in the school’s new hunk, starts giving the hunky guy tips on how to win her heart. Jake Short, Sarah Fisher. FRIDAY ■ COWGIRLS ‘N ANGELS ★★★ 2012, 92 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Adventure. A rebellious young girl is recruited by a group of female rodeo riders. Bailee Madison, James Cromwell. ■ NEW FIST OF FURY ★★★ 1976, 114 min, 16V,…

IT’S easy to see how much damage we inflict on our planet. Pollution is steadily on the increase and you might have heard people talking about “climate change” and “carbon footprint”. Humankind’s modern lifestyle also contributes to increased waste, which has a negative impact on the environment. But each of us can help our planet by living “green” and more sustainable lives. CARBON FOOTPRINT Like leaving a footprint in the sand, humans also leave a footprint on the environment. Your carbon footprint is the quantity of carbon dioxide you release into the atmosphere each year. It’s calculated according to a formula and some of the aspects taken into account are what transport you use to get to school or work, whether you shower or bath, whether you recycle your household…

Help with school projects All previous articles of YOU in the Classroom can be downloaded in PDF format. Go to you.co.za and click on the Classroom link. FIND OUT MORE To find out how to make compost and why it’s important go to bit.ly/1hiuQgS Turn to page 78 to learn about 10 sharks found in SA waters. COPY: CUM LAUDE MEDIA. SOURCES: WOODLANDTRUST.ORG.UK, BRITANNICA.COM, CAPENATURE.CO.ZA, GREENERIDEAL.COM, KIDS.KIDDLE.CO,CONSERVATION.ORG,WIKIPEDIA.ORG,MONEYCRASHERS.COM,ELECTRONICSTAKEBACK.COM,AVERDA.CO.ZA, STATRITE.CO.ZA,GREENEDUCATIONFOUNDATION.ORG…

FOR months she kept vigil at her daughter’s side, praying she’d beat cancer and live. That was this mother’s only wish and nothing else mattered. So when Erica Rhoode noticed a lump in her own breast it wasn’t a priority and she decided to ignore it. Now with her brave little girl’s cancer finally in remission, Erica is the one facing an unsure future. Unbeknown to her, while she was willing Alexis (now 7) to live, cancer had already taken root in her own body. She’s since had a mastectomy but that hasn’t stopped it. Doctors recently broke the news to Erica (51) that there’s nothing more they can do for her – the cancer has spread too far. It’s a cruel twist she couldn’t have foreseen when Alexis was…