Innholdsfortegnelse for 7-Mar-19 i You South Africa

SURE, she lives a fabulous life and enjoys plenty of perks in her role as a royal. But in many ways I feel sorry for Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and arguably the world’s most famous pregnant woman. She’s had her entire life change so dramatically that when she enjoys special moments with her closest friends – in this case a baby shower with seriously A-list pals – it causes a stir. I can’t imagine not being able to do something so personal with the people I care about simply to follow protocol. I guess Meghan decided she couldn’t either because that was a party and a half by any measure. Yet many of the people in royal circles say she’s on a path that could end in heartache (page 8).…

We tend to catastrophise! When the robots aren’t working many of us throw our hands in the air and say the whole country is falling apart! Fuming or getting depressed about the blackouts won’t solve the problem (YOU, 28 February). It would be better to see if we can adapt to the situation. Millions of people in this great land and around the world never have electricity at home. In fact, a lot of them don’t even have homes. Throughout history everyone lived without electricity. Even the all-powerful kings of old never enjoyed this incredible discovery. Yet we take it for granted until it fails for a few hours. In spite of this and other challenges most of us enjoy a higher standard of living than the average citizen in…

IF YOU didn’t know better, you could almost be forgiven for thinking they were different people. In the one picture: a woman in sleek but sexy gear in a snowy New York, boldly striding down the streets with all the sass her former life afforded her. And in the other: a demure wife in a high-necked designer dress, walking one step behind her husband on an official visit to Morocco, smiling serenely and saying and doing all the right things. ‘There’s a clear line between [being royal and being a celebrity] and Meghan doesn’t know the difference’ The two images, coming just days after each other, tell the story of a woman caught between two worlds. In the first, she’s a celebrity, a modern American woman bristling with confidence and…

TWO years ago there was little hope for him. A mangled, fleshy mess covered the area where his nose, mouth and chin should have been and a complex system of metal bars held together what was left of his face. He had only one tooth and eating solid food was impossible. As remarkable as they are, face transplants are nothing new. Since the first one in 2005 there have been 40 successful transplants all over the world – but none quite as incredible as this. Thanks to a groundbreaking marriage of medicine and 3D technology, a US man received a brand-new face you probably wouldn’t look at twice – just 18 months after a bullet ravaged his own. The transformation is astonishing, especially considering what Cameron Underwood looked like before…

IT’S easy to make fun of the docile sloth with its sleepy eyes and goofy grin – it seems to do nothing but hang from trees all day or move at a snail’s pace. But according to a new book by British author Alison Davies, there’s so much more to these gentle creatures than meets the eye – and we can actually learn a lot from them. If you’re feeling stressed as 2019 gets into full tilt, read this extract from Be More Sloth – it shows you how we can all benefit by slowing down and, like this generous animal, being kinder to ourselves and others. BE STILL, BE SLOTH Moving at 250m/h might not suit the needs of a busy lifestyle, but there’s something to be said for…

SAUVIGNON BLANC GNOCCHI WITH MUSHROOMS AND FETA CHEESE  SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 15-20 MIN 500g potato gnocchi 30ml (2T) butter 120g shiitake mushrooms, roughly chopped 250g white button mushrooms, roughly chopped 2 garlic cloves, crushed 160ml (²/3c) sauvignon blanc or other white wine 1-2 rounds feta cheese, crumbled handful of fresh flat-leaf parsley, chopped 1 Bring a medium pot of water to the boil. Add the gnocchi and cook according to the packet instructions until done. Drain, reserving about 250ml (1c) of the cooking liquid. Set the gnocchi aside. 2 In a large pan over medium to high heat, melt the butter and add the two kinds of mushrooms. Stir-fry for about 5 minutes or until the mushrooms have browned. Add the garlic and fry for another minute.…

MEN DON’T WANT TO GET INVOLVED WITH ME Q I’m a successful businesswoman with a very good income and three degrees. I’m in my early forties and people tell me I’m attractive. I got divorced 10 years ago because, regardless of the fact he was a qualified engineer, my husband was unable to deal with my success and belittled me at every possible opportunity. I believe he had a poor self-image and wanted to take it out on me. He couldn’t stand my being a success, closing lucrative deals or being admired by both adversaries and friends. The problem now is that when I meet a prospective partner he immediately seems hesitant to start a relationship with me, especially if he sees me in my work environment. I’m in fact…

If you aren’t keen on apps there are plenty of websites that can help you out. Here’s where to look. loadshedding.eskom.co.za Simply type in your suburb and select what stage South Africa is currently experiencing to view what time you’ll be in the dark, although when the latest series of blackouts hit early in February the site often went down. citypower.co.za A reliable source for residents of Johannesburg, offering a useful calendar-month view of potential outages. capetown.gov.za/loadshedding A useful source for Mother City residents, although the area codes can be tricky to figure out at first. www.durban.gov.za/City_Services/electricity/ Load_Shedding This service for Durban residents offers only PDFs. www.tshwane.gov.za/sites/Departments/Public-works-and-infrastructure/Pages / Load-Shedding.aspx The site offers a colour-coded calendar to track outages, but it takes some time…

PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MARCH It’s time to pay attention to yourself If you’re a true Pisces, chances are you’re a selfless soul whose sympathies lie with those less fortunate. But with the Sun shining in your sign it’s time to pay attention to yourself. You may feel like escaping for a pampering weekend, letting your imagination run free or daydreaming about the future. Whatever your choice, it’s a week in which to leave the sorrows of the world behind and get lost in a world of your own. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 47, 10, 51, 1, 28, 36 ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL If you’re a true Aries you’re a straightforward and honest person – traits not shared by all around you. This week you may be on…

ON CHESIL BEACH Romantic drama. It’s 1962 and the wedding day of virginal couple Florence (Saoirse Ronan) and Edward (Billie Howle from The Witness for the Prosecution). A fairytale courtship, shown in flashbacks, unravels awkwardly and painfully on their wedding night in their hotel room on Chesil Beach in Dorset, England. This film, adapted by Ian McEwan from his novel, addresses the sexual and emotional repression of the time and hints at past trauma on the part of Florence. Further flashbacks give the viewer insight into the differences in the pair’s social standing and home-life. On Chesil Beach is a melancholy love story that evokes intense emotions at times and although the mood lightens in the last 20 minutes the film still elegantly leaves much unanswered. Heart-breaking yet worth watching.…

PERSIA was a mighty empire that existed in and around the area known today as the Islamic Republic of Iran. In ancient times the Persian Empire (also known as the Achaemenid Empire) grew and expanded to become the most formidable global power of its time. At its height it stretched from the Indus River in southern Asia to the southern regions of Europe and northern Africa. CYRUS THE GREAT In 559 BC a remarkable young man ascended the throne of Persia. His name was Cyrus II and he was determined to turn his kingdom into a vast empire by conquering neighbouring kingdoms. His army was well trained and equipped with weapons made of iron. By 550 BC he’d advanced on Media, a kingdom north of Persia, which he overran in…

ONE is a sophisticated piano prodigy, the other a foul-mouthed working-class Italian-American. As they travel across the USA during the racially charged ’60s, a journey of self-discovery unfolds for the mismatched pair. It’s a story to warm the cockles of the hardest heart – but look beyond the feel-good factor of Oscar-winning film Green Book and you’ll find anything but warm, fuzzy emotions. A behind-the-scenes row has been raging for weeks, clouding the road to glory for the filmmakers and souring the experience for many who go to see it. Mahershala Ali (45) plays pianist Don Shirley and took home a best supporting actor Oscar for his efforts. In the film Don, who found fame as part of a music trio, wants to take his classical music to the Deep…

On Valentine’s Day, instead of sharing photos of her with her man, the pop star debuted an inking of the musical notes “G” and “A” on sheet music on the inside of her arm to spell out her famous moniker. But fans seem to think the tattoo hides a secret message and is further proof she’s carrying a torch for Bradley. “It’s Gaga on the treble clef and BCBC (Bradley Cooper) on the bass – both sound great together. It’s called destiny,” one Twitter user pointed out. Of course, it could just be a tattoo.…

Our latest recipe magazines – YOU Pork, YOU Pasta & Rice and YOU Food in a Flash – are perfect for midweek meals, dinners with friends or easy suppers when you’re pressed for time. There are recipes for sticky pork ribs, chicken pilau with mint feta, mushroom and ricotta macaroni, spinach and meatball bake and so much more. Get your copies in stores, online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com to place an order.…

WHEN she got the phone call she did what any protective parent would do: she leapt into her car and tried to get to her child as soon as possible. But Debbie Coetzee never made it to Hoërskool Driehoek in Vanderbijlpark, Gauteng – where the collapse of a concrete walkway claimed the lives of four children and left another 22 seriously injured – to check that her daughter Rizaan (14) and fiancé’s son, Johan (15), were okay. When she was less than 4km away, and the light was green for her at the busy intersection she was approaching, a vehicle travelling in the opposite direction, wanting to turn right, allegedly drove into her, hitting the driver’s side of her vehicle. The force of the impact was so strong that Debbie’s…

THEY were both ready to pack up and leave the entertainment business for good. One had become disillusioned with acting and was looking for something else, the other was in search of a different purpose in life. But when 7de Laan came calling they decided they couldn’t say no – and the result is that Keabetswe “KB” Motsilanyane (39) and Tina Jaxa (48) have been cast together on the small screen for the first time. Tina plays Ruth, a domestic worker who turns out to be the biological mother of KB’s character, Lesedi. Of course, this being a soap opera there’s plenty of drama to keep lovers of the long-running SABC2 show on the edge of their seats. Lesedi, a successful lawyer, was raised by her father, Jacob (Patrick Shai),…

■ EATING Take your time over meals. A few of the benefits of chewing your food slowly and mindfully include improved digestion, reduced bloating and gas, stronger teeth and gums, weight management, increased digestive enzymes and a relaxed, calmer and clearer mind. Take small bites and chew your food until it’s nearly dissolved. ■ LISTENING Take time to hear what the other person is saying. This will lessen the chances of misunderstanding, will prevent you from jumping to conclusions and help you to be appreciated by the person you’re in conversation with. ■ TALKING Don’t be in a rush to get all your words out at once. Speaking more slowly allows you to connect your emotions to what you’re communicating and helps you to be more effective in getting your…

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WHEN you receive a sizeable amount of money – such as from an inheritance, a policy payout or a bonus – it’s always tempting to spend it immediately. A dream holiday, a new lounge suite, a pool for the kids . . . But once it’s gone, it’s gone. Yet if you resist the urge to splurge and save your cash, it’ll grow and help to build your wealth for a more secure future. We asked Jac de Wet of PSG Wealth what your options are if, for example, you get R50 000 and want to save it for a two-year period or put it away for five to 10 years. 1 A TWO-YEAR INVESTMENT HORIZON This option is best if you’re saving for a short-term goal. You want to…

GIVEAWAY Two guys are arguing about who’s the cleverest. To settle the matter they decide to play a guessing game. The first guy says, “I have money in my pocket. How many coins do I have?” “If I guess right, are you going to give me one of them?” the second guy asks. “No! I’ll give you both.” KNOCK, KNOCK Knock, knock. Who’s there? Dwayne. Dwayne who? Dwayne the bathtub, I’m dwowning! TOOTHY HUMOUR Sign in a dentist’s office: Please be nice to our dentists. They have fillings too. COUGH, COUGH Nurse: Good morning, Mr Smith. You seem to be coughing a lot easier this morning. Mr Smith: That’s because I’ve been practising all night. FAIR WARNING A taxpayer receives a strongly worded “second notice” that his taxes are overdue.…

DYNAMIC HEROINE Brie stars as Carol Danvers, aka Captain Marvel – a pilot who gets superpowers and becomes one of the universe’s most powerful heroes when Earth becomes caught in an intergalactic war between two alien races. The 29-year-old – who won a best actress Oscar in 2016 for her role as a mother raising a son in captivity in the movie Room – says Danvers is the most dynamic character she’s ever played. “There’s the most range – I’ve had to go through every emotion possible with her.” And if Danvers seems slightly cocky on-screen it’s only because she has a healthy ego, Brie says. “She doesn’t have an unrealistic expectation of herself. She just owns that she’s really good and really skilled – which feels good to play.…

SERIOUSLY CURIOUS Edited by TOM STANDAGE The Economist Books Did you know there’s a world shortage of sand? Or that car colours reflect a country’s national mood? And have you ever wondered why the sea is salty? No question is too obscure or off-the-wall for the editors of this intriguing book, which has been meticulously researched by the same publishing team behind respected British magazine The Economist. “In a post-truth world knowledge is scorned, facts are optional and reality can be distorted or ignored,” the magazine’s deputy editor, Tom Standage, writes in the introduction. “This book takes a stand, in its own small way, for the forces of curiosity, evidence and reason.” THE ONE WITH ALL THE RECIPES: AN UNOFFICIAL COOKBOOK FOR FANS OF FRIENDS By TERESA FINNEY Ulysses Press…

SHARING HER HAPPY DRUG Her body transformation over the past few years has been an inspiration to many – and now UNATHI NKAYI (40) is helping others get into shape too. The Idols judge has started her own bootcamp classes in Johannesburg with her personal trainer, Sifiso Msane. “I want to give people a safe space to push themselves. To know it’s possible for us all to go after our physical health goals with no fear of judgment,” she says. She initially started training to get her pre-baby body back after the birth of her second child, daughter Imbo, in 2011, but working out is now more about her mental health. “It automatically puts you in a good mood. I work with and lead people every day, so I need…

Leave Malia alone! SHE’S a student now so MALIA OBAMA (20) does what students do: chill out with friends, drink drinks, say stuff on social media. Except when you’re the daughter of a former president, people aren’t so ready to live and let live. After a bikini-clad Malia was spotted sipping rosé it didn’t take long for observers to criticise her for underage drinking (the legal age in the USA is 21). And when she shared a post on Facebook that described Donald Trump as “evil”, the president’s supporters went ballistic. “Living like the 1%? Drinking underage? Let’s see the Democrats and media scream about ‘privilege’ here,” tweeted US talk-show host Andrew Wilkow. But a certain band of women who know exactly what it’s like to be in her shoes…

KEEP THE MINDERS IN MIND AS A young family we enjoy going out for dinner at family-friendly restaurants. In light of the recent Dros tragedy (YOU, 11 October) we always ensure we’re seated close to the play area. But we’ve grown to love and trust childminders at our favourite eating places. We know them by name and in turn they know my daughter’s name and absolutely love her. What saddens me is how many parents take their children to the play area, enjoy a peaceful dinner then leave. You should take into account that in order to enjoy your “quiet” meal you’ve entrusted the childminder with the task of watching your children. So before you leave, have the courtesy to thank them or, better yet, teach your children to thank…

To Mbekezeli who wrote in about his struggles living at home with an unkind stepmom (YOU Say, 14 February): you’re a brave young man and have achieved so much. Well done! ADMIRING, SMS What a well-deserved winning letter, Mbekezeli! INSPIRED, SMS To the reader with underwear blues (YOU Say, 7 February): I recently bought a pack of three from Woolworths for just under R200. MAGS, FOURWAYS To Desperate who wrote in about underwear blues: Ackermans sells a five-pack of cotton panties and Edgars a four-pack under the name Shelley, which aren’t too expensive. JEANNE MATHER, SMS Thanks so much for your write-up on the author Tony Park (YOU, 14 February). I love his books and have read all of them. I’ve also got other members of my family onto him.…

HE REMEMBERS looking down on the concrete grounds of the university from his office on the 11th floor after deciding to station 300 police on campus. “I said, ‘God, if there’s one thing I ask of you, it’s this: please don’t let anybody die as a result of this decision’.” Professor Adam Habib shakes his head. “I could’ve ducked the decision to call in the police but I would’ve lost the academic year.” It was October 2015 and the vice chancellor of the University of Witwatersrand was at the volatile epicentre of the Fees Must Fall movement. What started as a protest against the Wits council’s decision to increase tuition fees quickly spread across South Africa with protests and marches – both peaceful and violent – taking place at all…

PARMESAN DRUMSTICKS MAKES 6-8 DRUMSTICKS PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 35 MIN 6-8 chicken drumsticks 15ml (1T) olive oil 10ml (2t) smoked paprika 5ml (1t) chilli flakes salt and freshly ground pepper 120g butter, melted and cooled slightly 6 garlic cloves, crushed handful of fresh parsley, chopped 30-40g Parmesan cheese, finely grated TO SERVE fresh coriander to garnish (optional) potato chips or wedges Preheat the oven to 200°C. 1 Brush the chicken with the olive oil. In a small bowl combine the paprika and chilli flakes with salt and pepper then rub all over the chicken. 2 Put the chicken on a baking sheet and roast for 35 minutes. 3 Combine the butter, garlic, parsley and Parmesan cheese in large mixing bowl. 4 Once the chicken is cooked, toss it in…

40% want to buy property 22% want to travel the world 21% want to further their education 17% want to buy their first car BUYING your first car or home, getting married, seeing your kids off to university – they’re all big moments in life. And they all cost money. Planning your financial future might seem daunting but it’s important to manage your money for every stage of your life. Twentysomethings who’ve just graduated and entered the working world have substantially different goals to those in their thirties who are starting a family, or fifty-year-olds who are nearing retirement. Setting proper financial goals is vital, says Francois Viviers, executive of marketing and communications at Capitec Bank. “While many people are tempted to take things as they come, if you don’t…

THURSDAY ■ MOTHER OF ALL LIES ★★★ 2015, 100 min, 13VL, e.tv, 23:00. Thriller. After being released from prison, a woman vows to turn over a new leaf while spending the summer with her adopted daughter. Anna Galvin, Francesca Eastwood. ■ THE WISH LIST ★★★ 2010, 88 min, PG13, e.tv, 00:45. Romantic comedy. After several awful dates, a businesswoman compiles a list of her requirements for Mr Right. Jennifer Esposito, David Sutcliffe. ■ SIX BULLETS ★★★ 2012, 115 min, 16, e.tv, 02:25. Action. A former mercenary who specialises in finding missing children is hired by a mixed-martial artist to help him rescue his kidnapped daughter. Jean-Claude Van Damme. ■ THE WILDE WEDDING ★★★ 2017, 95 min, 16L, M-Net, 02:30. Comedy. A retired film star tries to have a low-key fourth…

■ The trailer for Captain Marvel had 109 million views in its first 24 hours of release, making it the 11th most-viewed trailer ever. ■ Emily Blunt, Game of Thrones’ Natalie Dormer, Vikings’ Katheryn Winnick and Swedish actress Rebecca Ferguson were all contenders for the lead role. ■ Samuel L Jackson (Nick Fury) and Clark Gregg (Phil Coulson) are digitally de-aged to look like their younger selves. It’s the first time Marvel has de-aged characters for an entire movie. ■ The film is directed by married couple Ryan Fleck and Anna Boden, making it the first Marvel movie to have a female director. ■ The movie marks British actor Jude Law’s debut in the Marvel Cinematic Universe (MCU). He plays Kree Star-force leader Mar-Vell. ■ Keanu Reeves turned down the…

THE PRODIGY Horror. With Taylor Schilling, Jackson Robert Scott and Colm Feore. Director: Nicholas McCarthy. 16HLV. The enigma posed by a child genius is already scary enough – because they aren’t understood, they’re feared. In this case Miles (brilliantly played by Scott) is also born possessed by the spirit of a dangerous killer. The way this happens will blow you away and combined with the underlying family drama the plot drags the movie goer along, kicking and silently screaming. Avoid any spoilers before you see the movie and the climax will knock the wind out of you. Schilling (Orange Is the New Black) taps into raw emotion to make the concerned mom, Sarah, someone you can connect with. Her young son’s disturbing behaviour puts her in a precarious position, forcing her…

LAMAR ODOM (39) Married from 2009 to 2013 Although they were the picture-perfect couple on their spin-off reality TV show, Khloé & Lamar, she later revealed the basketball player battled a drug addiction and had been repeatedly unfaithful throughout their marriage. THE GAME (39) 2013 to early 2014 The rapper went on to divulge intimate details of their sexual relationship on social media in the 2016 song Sauce. FRENCH MONTANA (24) On and off throughout 2014 Khloé kicked the Unforgettable rapper to the curb after she discovered he’d been texting her best friend, model Malika Haqq (34), behind her back. JAMES HARDEN (29) June 2015 to February 2016 The basketball player later described 2015 as the worst year of his life, adding that he “didn’t like all the attention”.…