Innholdsfortegnelse for 21-Feb-19 i You South Africa

IT’S TOO early in the year to be stressed already, a colleague commented recently. We’ve barely seen the end of Januworry and we’re already desperately looking forward to the next holiday and a few days’ rest. I must admit I sometimes struggle to switch off and when there are many things that need to be done with only so much time in the day, the first thing to go is downtime. The irony is that taking time out to exercise or make healthy meals will allow me to cope with all the demands so much better yet it’s usually right down at the bottom of my to-do list! I’d love to hear from you if you’ve managed to find quick, easy ways to unwind or de-stress or to take small…

Why does Meghan show off her stomach by constantly putting her hands on it, wearing high heels and generally pushing it in our faces that she’s pregnant (YOU, 7 February). It’s not the English way of conducting yourself, especially in royal circles. It’s so American and however much she tries, she’ll never ever come close to Kate or Diana. And, boy, can she spend money on clothes! I read that in January this year she spent £40 000 (about R700 000). That’s more than many people make in a year. Kate recycles her clothes and is the epitome of elegance. P BALDWIN, EMAIL ■ To all the critics of the Duchess of Sussex, let her be. Pregnancy is a beautiful and awesome experience for most women. Meghan can touch her…

FRENCH TOAST WITH RASPBERRY MASCARPONE Spoil someone special with this breakfast treat. Strawberries work just as well as the raspberries. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN FRENCH TOAST 4 eggs 250ml (1c) milk 30ml (2T) butter 4-6 thick slices of bread RASPBERRY MASCARPONE 1 tub (250g) mascarpone 30ml (2T) raspberry jam 125g fresh raspberries TO SERVE cucumber ribbons extra raspberries honey 1 French toast Whisk the eggs and milk together well. Heat half the butter in a nonstick pan over low heat. One by one, dip half the bread slices in the egg mixture. Fry the egg-coated bread until golden brown. 2 Repeat with the rest of the sliced bread and egg mixture. 3 Raspberry mascarpone Mix all the ingredients well. 4 To serve Spoon the mascarpone mixture…

JEANS Candice embraced the bootleg trend – which balances out full hips – at a Brandon Maxwell fashion show during New York Fashion Week last year. High-waist styles make your tummy seem slimmer. Tuck in your shirt and add a belt to create a flattering fit and an hourglass shape. SKIRT We love the bright red wrap skirt Candice wore on the runway for Prabal Gurung during New York Fashion Week in September last year. This style of skirt flatters all shapes. Another good choice for curvy figures is an A-line skirt as it hugs your waist and balances a fuller-busted figure. DRESS Candice chose this colourful zigzag-patterned dress to go sightseeing in New York. Follow her lead and pick interesting patterns in bold colours. It helps to conceal areas…

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THURSDAY ■ ICE DREAMS ★★★ 2009, 120 min, PG, e.tv, 23:00. Sport drama. A former Olympic figure skater whose career was cut short due to an accident agrees to coach a young student. Jessica Cauffiel, Shelley Long. ■ THE LEISURE SEEKER ★★★ 2017, 112 min, 16VSL, M-Net, 02:30. Comedy drama. A mature couple go on an unforgettable road trip in their camper van. Helen Mirren, Donald Sutherland. ■ MY NAME IS SARAH ★★★ 2007, 98 min, PG, e.tv, 03:10. Comedy. A lonely, troubled woman who accidentally enters an AA meeting is embraced by its members, who assume she’s also an alcoholic. Jennifer Beals. ■ THE MAN WHO INVENTED CHRISTMAS ★★★★ 2017, 104 min, PG, M-Net, 04:20. True-life drama. A look at how author Charles Dickens wrote the classic tale A…

TRUE STORY Viggo plays Tony Lip, an Italian-American bouncer who’s hired as a driver and bodyguard for African-American pianist Don Shirley (Mahershala Ali). Inspired by real events, Green Book looks at the friendship that developed between them while Tony drove Don on a tour of the Deep South in 1962 using a “green book” – a travel guide that helped African-Americans find safe places to stay during America’s era of racial segregation. Tony’s son Nick Vallelonga co-wrote the film and believes Viggo was the perfect choice to play his dad. “He hung out with us. We ate at my brother’s house. He had the audio tapes of my father.” The film took home Golden Globes for best comedy, best screenplay and best supporting actor for Mahershala. It’s also been nominated…

VICE Biopic. With Christian Bale, Amy Adams and Steve Carell. Director: Adam McKay. 16DLPV. In this scalpel-sharp, blackly comic political satire – which has been nominated for eight Oscars – McKay dissects US politics using the same unconventional approach he applied to the 2008 financial crash in The Big Short (2015). Although the focus is on US vice-president Dick Cheney (Oscar nominee Bale) and his rise to power, McKay uses the opportunity to try to explain how America’s politics and government got to the point where the right and the left are more divided than ever. Instead of creating a straightforward biopic, McKay uses every stylistic trick in the book, and lots of acerbic humour, to hold your attention, making the niche subject accessible to viewers who have only a passing…

SWEET BUT PSYCHO AVA MAX A dangerously catchy tune from the 25-year-old US songbird who’s making waves in the pop world. She also features on David Guetta’s latest album, Seven. BOOM X AMBASSADORS Fans of the US rockers will love this first single from their upcoming new album. BRING THE PAIN ELIAS BOUSSNINA FT UNO THE ACTIVIST We love the soulful vocals on this electrosynth tune about the destructive impact of infatuation and addiction. Listen to Elias’ debut EP, Shameboy, out this month. HOPE THE CHAINSMOKERS FT WINONA OAK A beautiful, melancholy tune from the electronic-dance duo that showcases the poignant vocals of Swedish singer-songwriter Winona Oak. MIDDLE CHILD J COLE In his first official solo single since 2013 the multiplatinum rapper gets self-reflective and shows love for his fellow…

The San painting on the left is in the Game Pass Shelter in uKhahlamba Drakensberg Park, KwaZulu-Natal, and has been declared a World Heritage Site. There are more than 550 known paintings in the park and they’re well preserved (including the one ABOVE) – you can even see some of the artists’ brush marks. This piece is known as the Rosetta Stone of San art because it helped anthropologists (people who study people, society and culture) understand the connection between the shaman and the eland, in the same way the Rosetta Stone helped translate the hieroglyphics of the Ancient Egyptians.…

HE PULLS out my chair, hands me a menu and proceeds to order me a glass of bubbly. One thing’s for sure: my handsome lunch date knows how to treat a lady. Little wonder this 1,9m hunk of heaven is the guy 24 women are vying for in the first South African version of the hit reality show The Bachelor. His smouldering good looks, chiselled abs and ripped biceps make him one sexy specimen, but his attractions go beyond looks. Lee Thompson (30) is a consummate gentleman – considerate, kind and attentive to a fault. While shooting the show he grew used to wining and dining his dates so I’m in good hands as we chat over lunch at the Michelangelo Hotel in Sandton City, Johannesburg. Lee stayed in one…

Friends galore for Jen’s big 5-0! AS 50TH birthday bashes go, this was up there with the best of them. Actress JENNIFER ANISTON laid on the glitz and glam when she recently celebrated her milestone in style at the Sunset Tower hotel in West Hollywood. The Dumplin’ star was smoking hot in a strappy black jumpsuit, tossing her trademark glossy mane and generally looking a whole lot younger than her five decades. And the guest list was a paparazzo’s dream: an A-list array of famous faces that included actor George Clooney and his human rights lawyer wife, Amal, talk-show host Ellen DeGeneres, actresses Kate Hudson and Reese Witherspoon, and singer Barbra Streisand. Even Jen’s ex-husband, actor BRAD PITT, pitched up, looking suave in a flat cap. Brad (55) wasn’t the…

FRIENDLY VICTORIA Since speculation regarding Victoria Beckham keeps featuring in your magazine (YOU, 31 January), you may be interested to hear of my cousin Alison’s interaction with her. She received an MBE at the same time as Victoria, and my aunt went along as a guest. While Alison was waiting, Victoria came up to her and simply said, “Hello, I’m Victoria. What is your category?” They chatted and Victoria, who looked rather stressed, confessed that she’d barely made it in time as it was such a mission getting her family organised. After the awards my aunt said David came up to Victoria and gave her a really loving congratulatory hug. CLAERWEN, EMAIL CHRISTIANS? I DON’T THINK SO I read your article on the Watson family (YOU, 31 January) and can’t…

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1 MAKE SURE YOU’RE CONTRIBUTING ENOUGH Your monthly contribution to your company retirement fund should be at least 15% of your income before tax. When young people start working they often choose the minimum contribution. But contributing 15% or more over a 40- to 45-year period will ensure a comfortable retirement. If your contribution now is less than 15%, ask a financial adviser to help you work out how much you should be saving. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t afford it immediately – make it a goal for when you next get a salary increase. 2 START AN EMERGENCY FUND A goal for an emergency fund could be to save R5 000 to R10 000 over the next four years. Keep your hands off it and use it only…

■ Viggo founded a publishing company, Perceval Press, with some of the money he earned from The Lord of the Rings to help writers unlikely to get a book deal with traditional publishers. ■ He has a bachelor’s degree in Spanish studies and politics. ■ For the 1998 film A Perfect Murder he painted each of the murals that appear in the studio of his artist character. ■ He’s an avid horse rider and bought the horses he rode in The Lord of the Rings and Hidalgo (2004). ■ His son, Henry (then 10), persuaded him to take the star-making role of the heroic Aragorn. ■ Green Book is in SA cinemas now.…

GOTTI Biopic. This crime drama depicts the rise of New York mobster John Gotti (John Travolta), head of the Gambino crime family, in the criminal underworld in the ’80s. Unfortunately it’s incredibly slow going, with not much of a pay-off at the end. At times it’s difficult to understand Travolta’s accent and his acting is unconvincing throughout most of the film. None of the characters show any development during the long runtime and certain scenes linger far too long without clear intention. This film might be an interesting watch for somebody who followed the trial in the ’90s but doesn’t offer much insight into the private lives of the Gotti family. – FRANCO HAVENGA 2018. 105 MIN. 16LV. SUPER TROOPERS 2 Comedy. The band of pranksters are back. The sequel…

This antelope is central to the San culture – not only did they paint it more than any other animal, it also formed part of traditional ceremonies. Part of becoming a man is when a boy has tracked and killed his first large antelope, preferably an eland. When a girl gets her first period she sits in a hut on an animal hide as the other women dance outside imitating eland cows and the men dance like eland bulls. When a young man wants to marry a woman, he gives the fat from an eland’s heart to her parents.…

AS FAR back as I can remember I was overweight. In my teenage years I tried every diet going and would sometimes lose weight, only to put it all on again. Eventually I concluded that so-called “normal” weight just wasn’t realistic for me. It would mean a life of permanent hunger. I also decided such a life wasn’t necessary: excess weight was demonised without reason. I might be fat but I didn’t smoke, drink, consume fast food or red meat. And I was physically fit. I decided to set other priorities in my life – such as training as a psychotherapist and getting married. At the age of 30 I tipped the scales at 150kg. If asked, I told people I was comfortable with my weight. Meanwhile I was secretly…

CELEBRATE THE ONES YOU LOVE I RECENTLY overheard two young men chatting in a coffee shop. They were complaining about the commercialisation of not only Valentine’s Day but also Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. Their complaints gave me much food for thought. There’s more to this than meets the eye. These are days for all of us to appreciate the people who enhance our lives. Without a shadow of doubt, money talks, but life’s too short to let the opportunities slip through your fingers to show love and appreciation to friends, colleagues and especially loved ones. It’s only a few days a year set aside to celebrate love and happiness. Let’s grab these opportunities to show our appreciation on these special days. Some say, “But every day should be Valentine’s…

Take your taste buds on a culinary adventure with YOU Food around the World (R48), on sale now. It’s packed with all sorts of delicious dishes – Argentina’s matambre (steak roulade), Moroccan beef tagine with olives and peas, Greek ravani (coconut tart), Japanese chicken tempura, Mexican flan and so much more. It’s the perfect recipe magazine to help you plan an impressive dinner party or a special treat for the family. Get your copy in stores or at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com to place an order.…

ONCE upon a time there was a cute kid with a halo of dark curls who was a real daddy’s girl. She hung out at his office after school; he held birthday parties for her in his garden. Old pictures show them smiling warmly, her head on his shoulder, his arm around her. But it’s safe to say there’s little love lost now between Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, and her father, Thomas Markle. Just when you thought the drama that preceded and followed her wedding to Prince Harry last year had died down, back it came with a bang. And as is proving to be the case more and more with Meghan, it’s complicated. HOW THE LATEST MARKLE DEBACLE BEGAN Five friends of the duchess recently spoke to American magazine…

HE MAY be just seven years old but this little guy knows exactly what he wants to be by the time he’s 18: a self-made millionaire creating jobs for millions of unemployed young South Africans. And Omphile Mabitsela has already started the ball rolling. A little more than four months ago the Grade 2 pupil at Reddford House – a private school in Northcliff, Johannesburg – founded his own stationery company, Quirk Quirk Inc, with the help of his proud mom, Prudence. It started out as a class project, the pair tell us, and they turned it into a little company when Omphile told his mom he wanted to be a businessperson. He’s always been a creative kid and for the project he made what he calls his quirk quirks,…

MEATBALLS WITH PEANUT SAUCE MAKES 15 MEATBALLS; 5-7 FLATBREADS PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 20 MIN MEATBALLS 500g beef or lamb mince 1 red onion, finely chopped 2 garlic cloves, finely grated 10ml (2t) ground cumin 60g peanuts, finely chopped in a blender oil for shallow-frying PEANUT SAUCE 50g peanuts 30ml (2T) olive oil 15ml (1T) soy sauce 5ml (1t) brown sugar 60ml (¼c) boiling water 50g tahini (sesame paste) 1 green chilli 1 garlic clove, finely grated juice of 2 lemons extra peanuts to garnish FLATBREADS 500ml (2c) self-raising flour 1,2ml (¼t) salt 250ml (1c) plain yoghurt or buttermilk TO SERVE fresh rocket 1 MeatballsMix all the ingredients except for the oil and shape into golf ball-sized meatballs. Chill in the fridge until needed. 2 PeanutsauceBlitz all the ingredients in…

WILL SHE STOP CHEATING IF WE HAVE A BABY? Q My wife and I got married after five years of dating and she’s been cheating since the start of our relationship. Every time she’d confess and then apologise, and I got so tired of it I wanted to dump her. I decided not to because I was encouraged by some of my friends to marry her – I was convinced by their argument that she would then be faithful to me, but unfortunately she’s still cheating. Now I want to divorce her but some of my friends are saying we should have a baby as they think she’ll then stop cheating because she’ll be busy taking care of the child. Should I divorce her or should I follow my friends’…

“I’ve just started my first job and I belong to my company’s retirement fund and medical aid scheme. What else should I be doing to plan for my future, bearing in mind I’m not earning much yet and I have student loans to repay?” It’s a sensible and mature question: the earlier you start planning for your financial future, the more successful you’re likely to be. Your Money asked Charné van der Walt from Lemons into Lemonade Financial Planners how to lay a strong foundation for future financial freedom. 38% The percentage of urbanites aged 18-30 who say they’re saving for an emergency fund. Other reasons for saving include funeral costs, expenses over the festive season and retirement. SOURCE: OLD MUTUAL SAVINGS & INVESTMENT MONITOR 2018…

PISCES 19 FEBRUARY – 20 MARCH It’s time to set goals and clarify intentions The Sun has moved into your sign, meaning it is time to celebrate your birthday and embark on a new personal year. To mark the occasion, you may want to escape to an exotic destination or invite your friends over for a bash. Amid the fun, devote time to clarifying intentions and setting goals for the year ahead. These may be in terms of your health or wealth, your personal aspirations or your professional life. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 20, 25, 34, 38, 44, 5 ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL If you’re a true Aries, you’re probably on the go and ready for action. But it’s a week in which being could be more rewarding than…

You’ve worked with many South African artists, from Black Coffee and Kwesta to Hugh Masekela and most recently Beatenberg on the hit track Aphrodite. Tell us about that. “I’m a big fan of Beatenberg – they’re an incredible band. Aphrodite was our third collaboration. [Beatenberg frontman] Matthew Field and I wrote the song and it’s about falling in love with an ancient Greek goddess. We wanted to create something fun and light for summer.” What have you learnt from your years in the music biz? “That consistency is key to longevity. It’s vital to stay bold to keep your music exciting and, most importantly, to keep on having fun. It’s the only way to stay creative and keep the music interesting.” What’s your biggest challenge? “I feel, being from Africa…

ANN thrust her arms into her jacket, grabbed her handbag and stormed down the hallway. “Ann, wait a minute!” Robert called from the kitchen. “I didn’t mean to upset you. All I said was that I didn’t want to go because-” Ann turned, her face full of thunder. “I’m going for a walk, Robert,” she told him, her eyes burning. “And I don’t know when I’m coming back!” After fifteen years of marriage, she was finding Robert increasingly hard work to be with. It was hard to say exactly when things had started going wrong. But if Ann had to guess she’d say it was around the time he’d started his new job. Since then he’d become obsessed with detail to a level that Ann was finding difficult to cope…

THERIANTHROPES These symbolise shamans who are in a trance state. They transform into animals and enter the spirit realm where they can speak to the dead. CURING RITUAL The sick person lies on the floor with their knees tucked up, while a shaman bends over them and the other members of the group dance in a circle to draw out the “arrows of sickness”. THE RAIN ANIMAL The San saw rain as a living, breathing animal. They went into a trance to “capture” the imaginary animal to bring rain. Loud thunderstorms were associated with the male rain animal and soft showers were seen as brought about by the female rain animals. THE TRANSFORMED SHAMAN This shaman has hooves and feathers as he transforms to enter the spirit realm.…

Video games are a cool way for a father and son to bond. But for teen Robbie Freis it was no longer possible. His dad, Jason, a former US Marine, had lost his arm in combat in Iraq 11 years ago so for him manipulating a gaming console was out of the question. Then Robbie stepped in. The enterprising high school student from Missouri decided to print his dad an arm. “After I created that 3D-printed adapter, my dad was able to play video games with us again at full speed,” Robbie says. Until recently Jason, who was injured in a missile attack, had a standard metal hook-like prosthesis for a hand, but thanks to his son he now sports a super-cool upgrade. A robotics whizz, Robbie used a special…

In the 13-episode series of The Bachelor SA, which premiered on Valentine’s Day, Lee meets 24 contestants. If one sparks his interest, he can choose her for a one-on-one date, although there’s also the option of a group date during which he hopes to spend one-on-one time with each woman. At the end of each episode the bachelor hands a rose to each of the women he wants to remain on the show. Those who don’t receive a rose are eliminated. Only two women make it through to the grand finale. The one who receives the final rose is Lee’s potential new partner – and he can propose right there and then if he wants to. But he could decide not to give the rose to either contestant . .…

In the 22 seasons of the US version of The Bachelor there have been hook-ups and engagements galore but in the end precious few couples made it past the starting blocks. The relationships that have amounted to anything include: ■ Season 17’s Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici are the show’s most successful couple. Sean proposed to Catherine in the finale and they married in 2014. They live in Dallas with sons Samuel (2) and Isaiah (9 months). ■ Season 13’s Jason Mesnick proposed to Melissa Rycroft but it didn’t last. Instead he asked runner-up Molly Malaney for a second chance and the two are now married and have a five-year-old daughter, Riley. ■ In a drama-filled Season 22, Arie Luyendyk Jnr proposed to Becca Kufrin – then revealed he’d ended…

Baby boom She was scheduled for a C-section but Madiba’s granddaughter ZOLEKA MANDELA ended up giving birth six days earlier than planned when daughter ZENZILE decided to make a surprise appearance! “I woke up this morning and got up before everyone else to attend to the house – I was trying to pack last night’s clean dishes when my water broke!! I was in labour for close to 5hrs before Mr Bash-ala and I birthed our daughter,” she wrote on Instagram. Baby Bashala, as her mom calls her, needed to be incubated for a while due to some minor complications but she’s doing well. Mom and daughter are already home and settling into their new routine. It’s the fifth child for Zoleka, and the second for her and hubby Thierry…