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WHEN my husband and I first met as students we were fiercely competitive when it came to board games like Trivial Pursuit. But he always seemed to have the edge on me and I couldn’t believe how much was stored in that brain of his (part of the attraction, I must confess!). We’ve become less competitive with each other and these days we team up to be a formidable force. But our desire to learn new things and know random facts hasn’t dimmed since those days. It’s one of the reasons I love our Did You Know magazine as much as I do. It’s crammed with information about 46 topics and is just a beautiful publication to page through. The magazine is aimed at kids but I have a feeling…

I thought I’d share this picture of our son Goss enjoying reading YOU on a rainy day in Margate! DOMINIC ADAMS, EMAIL Thanks for the bumper issue containing three short stories (YOU, 20 December) – best surprise ever! I always look forward to buying YOU every Friday morning. Bless you and your wonderful team. FICTION FAN, EMAIL Dr Louise’s column is one of the most entertaining pages in YOU. I always turn to it right away. Some of the situations are so extraordinary one wonders if they’re real. It’s bizarre how some people have no qualms about sharing their intimate details with millions of readers instead of keeping it private between themselves and the other party. Is it because Louise’s answers are always well thought out, fair, sensible and legal?…

The monarch is keen to avoid the mistakes made when Princess Diana was alive. Accused of putting undue pressure on Diana and freezing her out, the queen seemed to go out of her way to make the transition into the royal family smooth for her granddaughters-in-law Kate and Meghan. Coaching Kate Her Majesty frequently singled her out to accompany her at various engagements soon after Kate and William’s wedding. “She made huge efforts with Kate and managed her process as a duchess with care.” One early appearance at a university in Leicester was “like a theatre production where a very experienced director didn’t want the new actress to fluff her lines”, says Professor Dominic Shellard, vice-chancellor of the varsity. “The queen wanted it to be a seamless production.” Minding Meghan…

HE’S never been the kind of guy who cries easily but the memory of the night he almost died – without so much as a goodbye to the people he loves – is enough to reduce the former Springbok stalwart to tears. Naka Drotské (47) struggles to keep his emotions in check as he sits next to his wife, Marzanne (42), on the couch in the TV room of their Bloemfontein home. “One moment we were talking about what to have for dinner and the next I’m waking up three days later in ICU,” the former Cheetahs coach recalls. The 1995 World Cup legend has been to hell and back since four armed robbers stormed into his brother’s home in November and shot him twice. What followed were two hospital…

HE’S usually on the other side of the table, telling patients news that could change their lives forever. And when the tables were turned and he was on the receiving end of a devastating diagnosis, he knew he could handle it. As a doctor he was well aware of what lay ahead: the symptoms, the treatment and just how hard he’d have to fight in his battle for survival. Then a major curveball was thrown Dr Sipho Bvuma’s way: his medical aid refused to pay for the drugs he knew could save his life. Sipho (49) had stage four brain cancer and asked the government medical aid scheme, Gems, to pay for special drug treatment called Keytruda – and was shocked when the company turned him down. But Sipho, who…

IT KEEPS you feeling full for longer, is an important energy source, helps your body to absorb vital vitamins and minerals from your food and plays a role in hormone balance. We also know that not all fat is created equal. Here’s how to tell the good from the bad, plus a selection of recipes that offers delicious ways to eat the right kinds. FISH WITH TOMATOES AND OLIVES Oily fish is rich in omega-3 fatty acids. When you fry fish, use extra-light rather than virgin or extra-virgin olive oil, which have a low smoking point, making them unsuitable for cooking at high heat. SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 15-20 MIN extra-light olive or coconut oil 1 onion, chopped 4 garlic cloves, crushed 1 small red pepper, diced 100g…

MONDAY Cinch your waist with a belt over your blazer for a fashion-forward look that’s great for the office. TUESDAY Your work clothes don’t have to be boring. Brighten your outfit with this statement blouse – it’s bright and has an interesting shape yet looks professional. WEDNESDAY When you wear jeans to work go for dark denims and team them with classic items for an office look. THURSDAY A short-sleeve shirt is perfect for the warmer months. Smarten it up with a sleeveless gilet and heels to keep your look professional. FRIDAY It’s the end of the work week so keep your look casual and cool. This outfit will take you from the office to after-work drinks – just swop your flats for heels. STOCKISTS ACKERMANS 0860-900-100; FOOTWORK AT FOOTWORK.ONLINE;…

YOU’RE trying to lose a few kilos but your hard work isn’t paying off as well as you’d expected. Or you’re not sure you should even bother trying because you know from previous experience just how difficult it is to shake that excess weight. But don’t be too quick to give up or be discouraged from trying again. You might just have fallen for one of nine diet mistakes that tend to derail weight loss. 1 YOU’VE SET TOO CONSERVATIVE A GOAL You want to shed 7kg so you decide to set a goal of losing 3kg to start with as it seems more manageable. But that could backfire. Researchers now say you’re more likely to be successful when you aim for the whole amount from the get-go. “Your goal…

THE festive season has come and gone – and so has the bulk of your bucks. How on earth are you going to make it to the end of the month? Here are a few short-term remedies to help tide you over during this often trying time of year. 1. DO AN AUDIT Work out how much money you have left – it may be a grim task but at least you’ll know exactly how much you have to spend each day. Try to avoid taking on extra debt, such as a personal loan, which has to be paid back over a certain period. Taking on extra debt will mean you’ll be in an even worse position this time next year. 2. CONSIDER AN OVERDRAFT If you have a transactional…

CAPRICORN 21 DECEMBER – 20 JANUARY Try to go with the flow when things go wrong If you’re a Capricorn who’s intent on achieving your professional goals, it could be a challenging week. It seems circumstances on the home front might interfere with your progress. Whether urgent domestic obligations make inroads on your time or unexpected family matters throw a spanner in the works, everything might not be under your control. Rather than letting it get you down, try to take it in your stride. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 39, 51, 3, 47, 52, 13 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB Your personal year is drawing to a close, meaning soon it’ll be time to celebrate your birthday. You may feel excited about the prospect of a new beginning and look…

SICARIO: DAYOFTHE SOLDADO Thriller. Matt Graver (Josh Brolin) and his shady CIA team are once again disrupting the drug trade, but with greater ferocity as they now believe drug cartels are in league with terrorists. They stage the kidnapping of a drug lord’s teenage daughter (Isabela Moner from Instant Family) to pit rival cartels against each other, but things quickly get messier than planned. Brolin, and Benicio Del Toro as Alejandro, Matt’s go-to troublemaker, are good, as is Moner. But without Emily Blunt’s character from the 2015 film this sequel – while a slick, well-made thriller– lacks the humanity to ground it. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS 2018. 117 MIN. 16LV. SHERLOCK GNOMES Animated  fantasy. In this sequel to Gnomeo & Juliet (2011), gnomes are being kidnapped from London gardens, upsetting Gnomeo…

LIVE IN BUENOS AIRES COLDPLAY This double album was recorded on 15 November 2017, the final night of the band’s Head Full of Dreams tour – officially the third-biggest tour ever. If you love live recordings, this one is awesome. Frontman Chris Martin’s voice is magnificent and his banter with the noisy Buenos Aires crowd is magnetic. While all the Cold-play hits are featured, I love their new tango tune, Amor Argentina, and their cover of Argentinian band Soda Stereo’s De Musica Ligera. – NICI DE WET ICARUS FALLS ZAYN We know the former One Directioner is a hard worker, but 27 songs on one album – really, Zayn! He’d have been better off giving certain tracks more attention and ditching a few of the fillers. Only loyal Zquad members…

Beasts such as the camel are adapted to survive in hot deserts. These animals can survive for up to seven days without water and can cross great distances to an oasis (a fertile spot in a desert where there’s water). They can also survive without food for three weeks thanks to the fat stored in their hump. Many desert animals get all the water they need from the food they eat. Birds of prey and lizards get their water from their prey while herbivores such as camels get it from plants. Desert animals regulate their body temperature so they don’t perspire and lose water. One way of doing this is to dig an underground shelter. A hole of about 40cm deep is well insulated against heat and cold. Inside, the…

THE players’ restaurant at the 2018 Shanghai Masters has the air of an upmarket school canteen. There are 10 pizzas on the menu, each picked by a tennis heavyweight. The Nolé, after Novak Djokovic’s nickname, has a gluten-free base, as specified by the health-conscious Serb, while Roger Federer’s Figalicious is topped with figs, Parma ham and truffle oil – the culinary embodiment of the player known for his sophistication and flair. Every time a pizza is ordered its creator wins a point, and at the end of the tournament the victor gets a prize. It’s billed as a bit of light-hearted fun, running parallel to the serious action on court. But good luck explaining that to a room full of men who pore over rankings for a living. “I had…

JUST a few weeks ago even die-hard Manchester United fans were questioning their loyalty to their beloved club as one disastrous defeat after another left them sliding down the English Premier League log. But then the self-proclaimed Special One got the sack – and suddenly it was a whole different ballgame. At the time of going to print, the Red Devils had yet to lose a single game under caretaker manager Ole Gunnar Solskjaer (45) – and the Old Trafford faithful were ecstatic. United were suddenly doing what they have always been so good at: going on the attack. And José Mourinho, wherever he may be, was being relegated to the realm of a bad dream best forgotten. MOURINHO VS SOLSKJAER There’s no denying José Mourinho had incredible success as…

IT’S TIME to crack open the dictionary and start searching for unique baby names, because KANYE WEST and KIM KARDASHIAN are expecting their fourth child. “The surrogate is well into the pregnancy,” an insider says. “Kim and Kanye have known for a while and are very excited. They had one male embryo left and are thrilled it’s worked out.” Kim has previously revealed that although Kanye (41) is keen on having seven kids her dream is to stop at four, telling E! News last year, “I don’t think I could handle more than that.” According to reports, the couple are using a different surrogate to the one who carried their daughter Chicago, who was born in January last year, because the woman gave birth to a baby of her own…

Earlier this week KENDALL JENNER was all set to reveal her “most raw story” yet. Her momager, KRIS JENNER (63), teased the big news on social media, praising her supermodel daughter “for being so brave and vulnerable”. The internet was abuzz with theories: perhaps she’d spill on her personal life, mental health or some other private matter. But it turns out it was all just hype. The next day, skincare company Proactiv announced Kendall (23) as the new face of its acne treatment – a year after the reality star’s acne was visible on the Golden Globes red carpet. Needless to say, the internet’s reaction to the sponsorship deal was less than complimentary.…

BRITNEY SPEARS has postponed her upcoming Domination residency in Las Vegas, which was expected to start in February. The mother of Sean (13) and Jayden James (12) made the announcement on Instagram, citing the ill health of her 66-year-old father, JAMIE SPEARS, as the reason for her “indefinite work hiatus”. “A couple of months ago, my father was hospitalised and almost died. We’re all so grateful he came out of it alive, but he still has a long road ahead of him,” Britney (37) wrote. According to reports Jamie spent 28 days in hospital after his colon spontaneously ruptured.…

Meghan is, as one royal observer points out, “decidedly American”. And never, according to the Brits, has this been more evident than since she’s become pregnant. It’s decidedly un-British to draw attention to your bump but Meghan clearly didn’t get that memo. If she did, she decided to ignore it. As soon as she and Harry announced Baby Sussex was on the way her hands have been nowhere but on her bump. Meghan has also shunned maternity wear, preferring to show off her burgeoning belly in designer gear. “She’s just not ready for it,” one insider says. “She enjoys wearing regular clothes that show off her belly. She’s proud of it.” By comparison, Kate seldom touched her tummy during her three pregnancies and wore high-street maternity wear and the occasional…

A PILL that reverses ageing, juicy steaks grown in a laboratory and a car that folds up so it can fit into the tiniest parking space. No, these aren’t from some way-out sci-fi movie – they’re just a few of the brilliant new scientific developments that could change your life in the not-too-distant future. GOODBYE TO WRINKLES Scientists may finally have cracked the secret to eternal youth – and all it would require from you is the commitment to pop a pill each morning. Researchers at Harvard Medical School’s Paul F Glenn Centre for the Biology of Ageing recently announced they’d succeeded in reversing ageing in mice. Now they’re hoping to do the same for humans. Every cell of your body requires the coenzyme nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide (NAD) for the…

Saturated fat is the so-called white fat found in red meat and under chicken skin. Don’t eat too much of this type. The exception here is coconut oil – although it’s a saturated fat, its unique molecular structure helps burn body fat and lower cholesterol. Unsaturated fats are either monounsaturated or polyunsaturated. They’re mostly good fats because they contain omega-3 fatty acids, which help control hunger pangs. Foods containing unsaturated fats include avos, nuts, seeds, olive oil and oily fish such as pilchards, sardines, snoek, mackerel, trout and salmon. Nuts have been linked to reducing the risk of heart disease and they help to lower cholesterol. They’re also protein-rich. Trans fats are the super-villains and should be avoided. They’re mostly artificially produced and are solid at room temperature. Trans fats…

The iconic boyband, which had huge success in the ’90s and early noughties with hits such as Quit Playing Games with My Heart, Everybody (Backstreet’s Back) and Show Me the Meaning of Being Lonely, are releasing their 10th album, DNA, on 25 January. It features their brand-new track, Chances, written by One Republic’s Ryan Tedder and singer Shawn Mendes. In May the boys embark on their DNA World Tour, which will see them play 69 dates across Europe and North America. “The journey is ongoing with us and there’s so much left to do,” Brian Littrell says. “We’re living the next chapter that hasn’t been told yet, and that’s exciting.”…

HEADS YOU WIN By JEFFREY ARCHER MacMillan Leningrad, Russia, 1968. Alexander Karpenko is an extraordinarily gifted child and it’s evident from an early age he’s born to be a leader. But when his father is assassinated for defying the state, he and his mother have to flee Russia. At the docks there are two container ships they can board. One is bound for America, the other one for Britain. Which one should they take? This clever novel is reminiscent of the 1998 movie Sliding Doors in which the destiny of the main character, played by Gwyneth Paltrow, depends on whether she catches a train or not. In Heads You Win one version of the story has the boy and his mother settling in Britain where he eventually becomes a member…

WHILE viewers around the world have been transfixed by the recently released documentary Surviving R Kelly, the man at the centre of the storm refuses to watch a single minute of it. Sources close to RKELLYclaim the singer is “disgusted” by it and accuses the filmmakers of having a vendetta against him. The eye-opening six-part docuseries features interviews with dozens of former friends, family members and colleagues – all of whom make grim claims about the singer’s alleged abuse of women and underage girls over his 30-year career. ‘R Kelly has brought so much pain to so many people. Time’s up for R Kelly’ – JOHN LEGEND But the I Believe I Can Fly crooner isn’t the only one challenging the explosive claims made in the controversial doccie. Late…

Oh, Meghan, what have you done (YOU, 20 December)! We all loved you at the beginning of your relationship with Harry. He seemed so happy and you both seemed to have such a wonderful future to look forward to. You’ve now shown your true colours – and so soon after the wedding. You share your father’s disregard and disrespect for a monarchy. Fresh air spray in St George’s Chapel? Really? It’s the smell of many years of history. Enjoy and appreciate it. Kate will one day be queen so show her a little respect. You’ll never have the poise and grace she has. She took you under her wing and tried to guide you into royal life, but you want to do everything your way. It doesn’t work like that,…

IT’S often difficult to talk about death with your loved ones – your own death, that is. Your family may prefer to stick their head in the sand and pretend it won’t happen but it will, of course. And one of the greatest gifts you can give your children and grandchildren is to downscale as much as possible. The Swedes call it “death cleaning”: setting your affairs in order in your twilight years. Margareta Magnusson, a Swedish artist who describes herself as “somewhere between 80 and 100”, has written a book called The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning. It’s something she’s done for herself and others, so she’s become rather expert at it. In this extract she gives advice and tips on how to deal with this sensitive issue.…

CHICKEN WITH GARLIC AND APRICOT Lots of garlic in this dish packs it full of flavour. The apricot jam not only adds sweetness but ensures the chicken becomes deliciously sticky and golden brown. SERVES 4-6 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: ABOUT 1 HOUR 6-8 chicken pieces salt and freshly ground pepper 8 garlic cloves, crushed 60ml (¼c) smooth apricot jam juice and grated zest of 1 lemon 1 garlic bulb, lightly crushed (optional) TO FINISH 15ml (1T) apricot jam, heated handful of fresh coriander or parsley, roughly chopped Preheat the oven to 190°C. 1 Season the chicken with salt and pepper. Mix the garlic, jam, lemon juice and zest well and brush all over the chicken. 2 Arrange the chicken and garlic bulb (if using) in a roasting pan and cover…

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HIGHLIGHTS Erika Riddin (51) Somerset East ‘This look is inspired by my daughter – we have the same haircut – and she was inspired by her favourite musicians, Annie Lennox and Pink’ TIP Use a smoothing shampoo and conditioner to keep frizz and flyaways at bay. If you’ve dyed your hair, use strengthening or protein hair treatments. SOFT QUIFF Rene Zarshe (34) Bokel, Germany  ‘I like this cut because you can style it in a few ways and it’s easy to maintain’ TIP A quiff needs to be structured and have body. Use a volumising product that offers hold but wash your hair often to avoid build-up. PURPLE BRAIDS Lindo Sibiya (27) Soweto ‘I’ve always felt more comfortable with dark colours, but because it’s the holidays I wanted to try…

MY WIFE’S DARK SIDE FRIGHTENS ME Q My wife and I recently attended a posh event and while we were there a man I don’t know came up to me and told me she’s worth paying for. I kept my cool and chatted with him – which is how I discovered my wife is working as a prostitute. She was unable to deny it later when I confronted her. When I asked her why she’s doing this (we certainly don’t need the money as I have a good income), she told me she’s addicted to sex and although we have a good sex-life it’s not enough for her and her craving led to her prostituting herself. She also told me she’s addicted to the idea of being “used” by men,…

SHORT CUTS ■ My car is so fast the payments are three months behind. ■ My wife enjoys sport and anything else that calls for an argument. ■ You know you’re getting old when the neighbourhood Peeping Tom leaves a note saying, “Please draw the curtains.” TOUGH TO BEAT Grandpa: How far do you walk to school? Grandson: About a kilometre. Grandpa: When I was your age I walked 8km to school every day. What are your marks like? Grandson: I get mostly Bs. Grandpa: When I was your age I got all As. Have you ever been in a fight? Grandson: Only twice and the other boys beat me up. Grandpa: When I was your age I was in a fight every day and I never lost. How old…

THURSDAY ■ THE NIGHT CREW ★★ 2015, 89 min, 16VLN, e.tv, 23:00. Action. A team of bounty hunters try to survive the night holed up in an isolated hotel in the desert while being targeted by enemies. Luke Goss, Danny Trejo. ■ WE HAVE YOUR HUSBAND ★★★ 2011, 87 min, PG13VL, e.tv, 02:25. Crime drama. An American woman living in Mexico with her family faces her worst nightmare when her husband is kidnapped and she must come up with the ransom money. Teri Polo, Esai Morales. ■ A BOY CALLED SAILBOAT ★★★★ 2018, 92 min, PG13, M-Net, 04:35. Comedy drama. A family living in a drought-ridden town begin to hope and dream again when a baby is born and given an inspirational name. Lew Temple. FRIDAY ■ SPACE CHIMPS 2:…

BEAUTIFUL BOY True-life drama. With Steve Carell and Timothée Chalamet. Director: Felix van Groeningen. 16DLS. Based on the memoirs of David and Nic Sheff, this movie evokes a great variety of emotions. You’re introduced to a family battling with the drug addiction of their talented son, stepson and sibling, and the related anguish this brings. The crux of the story is David (Carell) trying to understand why his son Nic (Chalamet from Call Me By Your Name) descended into drug addiction. Following his parents’ divorce, Nic lives with his dad and stepmom (Maura Tierney from The Affair), but visits his mother (Gone Baby Gone’s Amy Ryan), during the holidays. Flashbacks show Nic progressing from a sweet toddler to a promising teenager experimenting with drugs to a full-blown addict enslaved to…

65 million Number of records the Backstreet Boys have sold worldwide, making them the bestselling boyband of all time. 9 They’re the first act since Sade – and the first boyband – to have their first nine albums reach the top 10 on the Billboard 200. 18 Last year they had their 18th Billboard Hot 100 entry, Don’t Go Breaking My Heart. “After 25 years, to be played on radio and get as much love as Heart has gotten, is still overwhelming,” AJ says. 1 They’ve had one Las Vegas residency, Larger than Life, which kicked off in 2017 and will finish in April ahead of their world tour. 25 They’ve been together for 25 years and still feature the original lineup of AJ McLean (40), Howie Dorough (45), Nick…

PRUE By PRUE LEITH Bluebird South African-born chef Prue Leith has become a byword for tried-and-trusted cooking excellence. In her first book in 25 years the culinary legend shares several of her all-time favourite recipes – meals she and her husband, John, love to tuck into at home. Simple pastas, luscious ratatouilles, slow-roast lamb with anchovies, cottage pie with black pudding and, of course, bobotie! It’s all stuff real people with busy lives like to eat. “Cooking isn’t a religion,” she told British newspaper the Daily Mail recently. “Friends are occasionally shocked that I’ll reach for the custard powder or stock cubes, frozen mash or puff pastry.” For your next TV dinner take inspiration from her clockwork plate, where she arranges bits and pieces of leftovers from her fridge in…

Even though deserts are inhospitable, there are people who live and survive there. These people are mostly nomads who have to move around in search of water and food. Desert inhabitants are faced with serious dangers, including animal predators and sandstorms. These intrepid groups include the Berbers of North Africa, the Bedouin of the Arabian Desert, the San in the Kalahari and the Aborigines in Australia. They’re knowledgeable about desert plants and know where to find water. They’re also skilled hunters.…

HIS movements are graceful and effortless as he glides across the stage in perfect time with the music. Like the best dancers, Musa Motha makes his elegant elevations and breathtaking twists look easier than they are. But something sets this young man apart and makes his performance all the more remarkable: not only is he missing a leg, he’s incorporated a crutch into his on-stage feats. Musa (23) is part of a group of groundbreaking international dancers at the Vuyani Dance Company in New-town, Johannesburg, where he dances, choreographs and produces his own music for shows. He’s won awards at dance competitions across the country, including the Gauteng Matjeko Dance Festival, Dance against All Odds and the Red Bull Dance-Off. So passionate is Musa about making a living from dance,…

At first the story was that they were taking a breather. Reports suggested GIGI HADID and ZAYN MALIK were on a break from each other in early November. But it seems the split is more serious. Eagle-eyed fans noticed the pair failed to post any loved-up pics during the holiday season – and their suspicions were confirmed when Gigi attended Taylor Swift’s New Year’s Eve party alone. Gigi (23) was the one who “tried hard to make it work”, an insider reckons, but Zayn (26) has “a lot of his own issues that she couldn’t help him get through”. Things between them reportedly became increasingly toxic during their relationship’s second round – they reunited in May after breaking up in March. “She focused all her time and energy on him,…