Innholdsfortegnelse for 10-Jan-19 i You South Africa

I’M NOT really the sentimental type – yet I have a feeling this is going to be a great year. I’m optimistic about 2019 for no other reason than my gut says it’s going to be better than 2018. I have no doubt there will be tough times – but then even the more difficult moments in my life serve a purpose. I’ve always believed I can’t truly appreciate the good times if I don’t have the bad times to compare them with. I feel especially positive at the start of the new year because it’s filled with so much potential. So many chances to do great things and fulfil long-held desires, so many opportunities to be discovered along the way. It’s a hopeful time when anything is possible. I…

If you don’t like Wedding Bashers, it’s so easy: change the channel. Get a life. I love the show. Denise is my favourite. LOUISE CHEARY, EMAIL Thank you for frequently mentioning the plight of alienated parents. I’ve seen my six-year-old son for less than 2% of his life. I cry every night for him. This has been the third Christmas I wasn’t even able to speak to him. God bless you, my little wurm. PHILIP, PARYS This is the Africa I dream of. I dream of a continent at peace with itself. A continent that will be ahead with growth and stability. A continent that shines brighter than the stars. A continent that flies higher than an eagle. This is the Africa I dream of, Africa my home! ERIC SHIKOBELA,…

It develops in the tissue of the lips and is the most common form of oral cancer. It’s occurs more frequently in men. People most at risk include those who smoke and drink heavily, have prolonged exposure to the sun, are prone to lip irritations and have a diet lacking in fresh vegetables and fruit. Symptoms include a sore that doesn’t heal, persistent pain around the lips, a lump or thickening on or near the lips and a white or red patch near or on the lips. Treatment usually involves surgery followed by radiation in the case of smaller tumours, and chemotherapy if the cancer is more advanced. Prognosis of a full recovery is good if caught early.…

FIGHT AGAINST FOOD WASTE Expect chefs to find even more creative ways to incorporate every part of an animal or plant into dishes, not letting a morsel go to waste. GREAT FOR YOUR GUT Demand for products rich in probiotics is still rising. They include fermented or pickled foods such as yoghurt, kombucha, kimchi, sauerkraut and pickles. HAWAIIAN DISHES This island’s cuisine, with its Polynesian, European and Asian influences, is still having a moment as the poke trend shows no sign of abating any time soon. MUSHROOMS, which pack an umami flavour punch, are set to become even more popular this year as they replace meat in dishes such as burgers and pulled pork sandwiches.…

Lipgloss This continues to be on trend. Take your pick from long-lasting, volumising and holographic textures. Pixie cut  Timeless, easy to maintain and perfect for the summer heat. Expect to see even more people sporting this cut. Wet hair look Seen on the red carpet and runways last year, this trend is set to remain popular in 2019. Minimalist with lashes  Pronounced lashes, whether through mascara or fake lashes and worn with minimal make-up, is the newest iteration of the no-make-up trend that’s been around for a few years. Crimped hair Our obsession with the ’80s is still going strong. This look can also be achieved with wet hair, or brush it out for volume.…

If you have a child who’s anxious about school, there are things you can do to prepare them emotionally. Common worries include fear of the unknown, concerns about making friends, new teachers and “scary” new subjects and pressure to perform academically. JUST LISTEN “Listen to their fears and concerns,” Bartlett says. “Don’t tell them they shouldn’t feel that way – simply ensure they feel heard and reassure them. “For example, you can say, ‘I understand you’re worried that maths is going to be difficult this year. It’s normal to feel that way at the start of a new year’.” HAVE ONE-ON-ONE TIME Spend quality time with your child in the days leading up to school starting, Bartlett advises. Your child is more likely to open up about their feelings if…

CAPRICORN 21 DECEMBER – 20 JANUARY Take your health and wellbeing in hand this week It’s the right week in which to focus on your physical wellbeing and get your body into tip-top shape. You might want to get organised and structure a sensible diet and exercise regime, especially if the holiday season caused havoc with your schedule. This shouldn’t be a tough call for a responsible Capricorn. As it is, your levels of self-discipline, perseverance and mental strength are heightened and accessible. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 43, 31, 5, 50, 3, 51 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB If you’re an Aquarius with a strong will and independent spirit, it’s worth knowing these traits are enhanced this week. It’s a period in which the opinions and comments of others won’t…

JENNIFER LOPEZ TREATMENT: Placenta facial PRICE: $1 200 (R17 400) J Lo’s famous glow doesn’t come cheap. Although the 49-year-old singer and actress’ weekly human placenta facials sound gross, it’s believed the its vitamin and protein-rich elements encourage skin regeneration. CARDI B TREATMENT: Wigs and nails PRICE: $1 100 (R15 950) Ever wondered what the 26-year-old rapper spends on her blinged-out look? She recently told fans she forks out about $1 000 for a wig while a set of sparkly nails – done by her favourite manicurist, New York-based Jenny Bui – sets her back about $100. And the Bodak Yellow hitmaker switches up her hair and nails every week. Talk about big bucks! RIHANNA TREATMENT: Hair PRICE: $1,3 million (R18,8 million) Riri (30) rarely steps out with the same…

HE’S an in-demand model with thousands of online followers and can often be spotted behind the wheel of a snazzy red sportscar. When he’s not doing charity work, he exercises on his designer treadmill, has a massage or goes for acupuncture. And everything he has and does is sponsored, from his sunglasses to his beauty products. He even has his own photographer who follows him around, capturing his every Instagramable moment. But this guy is no ordinary celeb. He’s Mr Miyagee, a 1,9kg specimen of chihuahua adorableness with chocolate brown eyes and a grin that melts hearts. And when you’re this special, you need extra-special treatment. No kibble for this pedigree Capetonian – his diet consists of a rarefied concoction of powders, potions and pills. He drinks only filtered water…

LIKE many little girls she’s always loved dressing up in glamorous gowns similar to the ones worn by her favourite fairytale princesses. Yet Enhle Gabashe’s fascination went deeper than just playing dress-up. She’d stare at the garments worn by the princesses and think about how she could recreate them – preferably with a dash of African print that would really make them pop. And so she started sketching her version of African-inspired outfits that would make little girls feel like princesses – which is how her business came about. The 10-year-old designer now runs Enhle Babes Couture, a children’s brand specialising in glamorous African prints. A few months ago her mom, Desiree (33), started a Facebook page advertising Enhle’s designs and orders are increasing as word spreads further. Enhle, who…

1 Animal prints This is certainly the year to bring out your wild side! You can choose from a range of animal prints. Keep to the same print if you’re wearing it from top to bottom. 2 Tweed Coco Chanel made it an iconic material so many decades ago and tweed has endured to this day. This year sees a revival that takes it out of the boardroom and into the streets with a modern twist. 3 Marigold  You can’t help but feel cheerful when you look at this year’s It colour, so imagine how sunny you’d feel if you wore this bright trend. 4 Bows Pick a style from prim and proper to playful and fashion-forward. Bows are a quick way to take your outfit from average to awesome.…

Vapandi Maximalism 1 Finally, you don’t have to go along with a trend that doesn’t suit you. Whether you have a less-is-more or more-is-more décor philosophy, you’ll find your look is hot in 2019. This year Japandi and maximalism are both hot trends, says Anita Bloom, creative director for Decorex SA. Unsurprisingly, maximalism is about packing it all in – as much as you want. Think bright or clashing colours, patterns, luxe textures and fabrics, large opulent furniture with bric-a-brac or plants crowded together on tables and shelves. This trend is all about your décor reflecting your personality, as you adorn your home with items that add character and bring you joy. On the other side of the spectrum, there’s the minimalist Japandi trend which is a combination of Scandi…

CLAIMING from insurance usually involves a level of trauma – you’ve been in a collision or you’ve done something such as driving your vehicle into a wall or scraping it along a pillar in a parking garage. Thank heavens for insurance, you think – but you’ve forgotten about the excess payment. The excess can be an unpleasant surprise. But if you didn’t pay an excess, your monthly premiums would be even higher. HOW DOES EXCESS KEEP MY PREMIUMS DOWN? If the excess payment didn’t exist, people would claim for every little bump and scratch and it would be necessary for insurance companies to hike premiums, says Ernest North of Naked. Claims are administratively costly and adding an excess is a way for insurers to ensure that the cost of premiums…

THURSDAY ■ ARMORED ★★ 2009, 88 min, PG13, e.tv, 23:00. Crime thriller. A newly hired armoured-truck guard is persuaded by co-workers to steal one of the company’s money trucks, but things don’t go according to plan. Matt Dillon, Skeet Ulrich. ■ DEMONS FROM HER PAST ★★ 2007, 93 min, 16, e.tv, 02:20. Crime drama. A woman returns to her hometown for her grandmother’s funeral and to prove she was framed for a crime she didn’t commit 25 years ago. Alexandra Paul, Michael Woods. ■ KILL SWITCH ★★ 2017, 91 min, 13VL, M-Net, 04:25. Sci-fi action. It’s up to a pilot to save the planet when an experiment for unlimited energy goes horribly wrong. Dan Stevens, Bérénice Marlohe. FRIDAY ■ SPACE CHIMPS ★★ 2008, 81 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Animated sci-fi.…

The British singer-songwriter went from street busker to superstar with the release of his debut album, Undiscovered, in 2006. Since then he’s released hit after hit, paving the way for musicians such as Ed Sheeran, Sam Smith and George Ezra. Now he’s heading for South Africa, to perform at The Teatro at Montecasino in Johannesburg on 22 and 23 January and Kirstenbosch Botanical Garden in Cape Town on 26 January. We chat to the 34-year-old You Give Me Something singer about his next album and what he plans to do when he touches down on local soil. You haven’t been to SA before. Other than perform, what are you looking forward to doing here? I know it’s a big attraction but I definitely won’t be doing shark-cage diving. I watched…

5 NEW GAMES SET TO BLOW YOU AWAY IN 2019 HARRY POTTER: WIZARDS UNITE When: 2019 Where: Android and iOS mobile devices Play this if you: are definitely not a muggle. Or you need an incentive to rack up more steps on your fitness tracker. Niantic, the creators of augmented reality-fuelled Pokémon Go, have set their sights on JK Rowling’s wizarding world. Players go to real-world locations to cast spells, discover artefacts and encounter the fantastic beasts of this magical world – all with their smartphones. The premise of the free-to-play game is that the secret wizarding world is at risk of exposure, and the Ministry of Magic needs all hands on deck. At the time of going to print a release date hadn’t been confirmed but eager witches and…

THERE are two types of people in the world, according to Stormy Daniels. “There’s the people who own their choices, and there’s the people who try to blame someone else.” She elucidates with a scenario. “You got really drunk, went home with somebody from a bar. You wake up the next morning, realise you cheated on your boyfriend and you’re ashamed. So you’re like, ‘He must have slipped something in my drink’.” Then, she says, “There’s the other set, that are like, ‘Oh f**k, I did too many dollar shots and woke up with an ugly dude. My bad. Now, can I get out of here without waking him up?’ ” For the record, the 39-year-old porn actress and director would like you to know she’s one of those who…

Sweetest hubby ever We’ve got to hand it to J’SOMETHING – he sure knows how to make a woman feel loved! The MiCasa frontman (real name Joao da Fonseca) often posts beautiful messages to his wife, CORDELIA GODI, on social media, and not necessarily because of a birthday or anniversary – sometimes it’s “just because”. Like this one: “When I found this lady of mine I knew I wanted to learn to love her. I wanted to practise patience with her. I wanted to put aside my pride for her. I wanted to learn to forgive her. I wanted to be kind to her and show her that she could trust me every second of the day. Each day we get stronger and that’s what being a couple is about…

‘I like vodka too much. I’ve got some questionable things on my record’ – ACTRESS VIOLA DAVIS ON WHY SHE WON’T RUN FOR PRESIDENT ‘Is it odd that going to the bathroom for a parent feels sort of like a tiny vacation away from tiny humans asking for things nonstop?’ – SINGER KELLY CLARKSON ON MOTHERHOOD ‘When I was 14 my face looked like a potato and a chipmunk had a baby and it was me’ – ACTRESS ANNE HATHAWAY ON HER TEENAGE SELF ‘You want to have a butt, then you got to have a gut’ – SINGER RIHANNA ON THE PROBLEM WITH CURVES ‘Not only does she tell me she doesn’t like my movies, she doesn’t even call them real movies’ – ACTOR CHANNING TATUM ON HIS BIGGEST…

I’m a 62-year old woman who lost my biological mom at the age of three. My dad remarried. I had a great new mom. She cared for me and loved me. Then the unthinkable happened. My dad passed away suddenly at the beginning of last year – and my whole life changed. My mom doesn’t want to be my mom anymore. After all, she has her own children – but they’re also my siblings. How on earth did you fake your love for me for 57 years? Now that my dad, your husband, is no longer with us, you no longer needed to pretend to love me. What do I do when you die? Do I pretend never to have loved you, that I didn’t care for you? Why didn’t…

SHE’S been named the most beautiful woman in the world twice, her gleaming locks spawned a global hairstyle in her Friends days and her smooth skin and toned figure are the envy of millions. Yet Jennifer Aniston has never thought of herself as gorgeous – and the reason is as old as the hills: her mother was extremely critical of her. Growing up she was made to feel too fat, too plain and too ordinary and she’s still staggered that she’s considered up there with the loveliest of A-list stars. And it’s precisely because of the troubled relationship she had with her mom that she was compelled to take on her latest project, Dumplin’. Jen (49) plays Rosie Dickson, a former pageant queen fixated on staying in shape and grooming…

THE baby’s cries filled the car, rising to a crescendo. His mom knew exactly what his incessant wails meant: he needed a bottle and a nappy change. But the problem was they were in the middle of nowhere, driving home from a holiday, and her husband couldn’t safely stop the car. As the minutes ticked by and the crying continued it all got too much for Tracy Todd. She needed to get to her son. And so she unbuckled her seatbelt and climbed into the back seat to tend to him. It’s a scenario most parents can identify with, particularly at this time of the year, when many people are driving back from holiday. Stuck on busy roads, desperate to get home, there are plenty of mothers who’d do exactly…

SHE can’t bear to take off the dressing that covers what used to be her lower lip and when she’s forced to do so in order to change the bandage she avoids looking at herself in the mirror. The growth is large and unsightly – a constant reminder of the uphill battle she has ahead of her. For two years Clara van Heerden thought the “thing” on her lip was a cold sore but she recently received the news it’s a malignant tumour. And the cancer cells have spread. “I’m in pain every day,” Clara (52) says when we meet her at the home in Pretoria West she shares with her husband, Anton (55), and daughter, Bianca (21). She winces as she speaks. Talking isn’t easy, she says. “We used…

I’M IN LOVE WITH MY MANAGER Q We have a policy at work that we may not have romantic relationships with colleagues. My manager is a fantastic man – attractive, understanding, empathic and loving and a very good manager. He’s married with two children but has told me his wife has lost interest in their marriage and they’re together just for the sake of the children. When we talk I can feel his interest in me and I’ve caught him looking at me in a loving way. I’m much younger than him but this doesn’t bother me. I’ve always liked mature men more. How do I let him know that I’m in love with him? I want us to be more open about our feelings toward each other. I think…

DUCK TALE A circus owner walks into a bar and finds everyone crowded around a table on which is an upside-down pot with a duck tap dancing on top. The circus man is so impressed that he offers to buy the duck and the pot from their owner for R10 000. Three days later the circus man storms into the bar, livid. “Your duck is a rip-off!” he shouts. “I put him on the pot in front of an entire audience and he didn’t dance a single step!” “Really?” the former owner says. “Did you remember to light the candle under the pot?” HELD TO A COUNT A woman is arrested for shoplifting and appears before a magistrate. “What did you steal?” he asks. “A can of peaches,” she mumbles.…

DUMPLIN’ Comedy. With Jennifer Aniston, Danielle Macdonald and Odeya Rush. Director: Anne Fletcher. 10-12PG P. Based on the young adult novel of the same name by Julie Murphy, Dumplin’ tells the story of plus-size teen Willowdean “Dumplin’ ” Dickson (Macdonald) – daughter of a former local pageant queen, Rosie (Aniston, who also produced the film) – who decides to protest the beauty standards set by pageants by signing up for one. Along with her best friend, Ellen (Rush from The Giver), and a few other unlikely contestants, they lead their own revolution. Though the film mostly focuses on a body positive message, viewers can also enjoy the humour and heart the cast bring to the story. Lovable and relatable, these characters embody more than just the idea that you should…

KEEP your camera ready! Enter the PEP First Grader competition for a chance to win huge cash prizes for you and your child’s school. PEP is your No 1 school shop with unbeatable savings and an incentive to get your little one kitted out and ready for the new year. South Africa’s top school shop has back-to-school deals galore – and now it’s giving you and your little one a chance to win awesome prizes! VOTERS’ REWARDS Voters also stand a chance to win – one of three R500 PEP vouchers can be yours! Winners will be selected based on readers’ votes and by a YOU panel, and announced in the 7 February 2019 issue of YOU magazine and online on 1 February 2019. HOW TO ENTER If your child…

WHEN the final whistle blows on a pro athlete’s sporting career they might pack away their kit – but life is rarely dull for sportsmen, who often then catch their second wind. We look at top stars who found even more fame and fortune after the game. LUCAS RADEBE (49) THEN He’s considered one of South Africa’s greatest soccer players and was part of the Bafana Bafana side that won the 1996 African Cup of Nations (Afcon). He captained the team at two Fifa World Cup tournaments – in 1998 and 2002 – and at club level played for Kaizer Chiefs from 1989 until 1994, before moving to Leeds United where he played until 2005. He retired after 256 matches for the British side. NOW Lucas was part of the…

MIRROR, mirror on the wall, who’s the happiest celeb couple of all? Will 2019 be easy for them – or will it wreak its share of madness and mayhem? We posed this question to Margarita Celeste, a Cape Town-based astrologer and tarot card reader – and while she doesn’t exactly have a mirror to ask, she did look to the stars to see what might be in store for these A-list lovers. GEORGE AND AMAL CLOONEY Getting hitched a little later in life meant the Hollywood heart-throb (57) and the high-flying barrister (40) had time to build their careers and enjoy plenty of independence – but this may prove a problem. WHAT 2019 HOLDS FOR HIM Career-wise, Taurus George can look forward to plenty of success. “Opportunities will flow and…

SELENA GOMEZ (26) Estimated earnings per sponsored post $800 000 (R11,6 million) IG followers 144,5 million CRISTIANO RONALDO (33) Estimated earnings per sponsored post $750 000 (R10,87 million) IG followers 148,4 million KIM KARDASHIAN WEST (38) Estimated earnings per sponsored post $720 000 (R10,4 million) IG followers 122,2 million BEYONCÉ (37) Estimated earnings per sponsored post $700 000 (R10 million) IG followers 121,4 million KYLIE JENNER (21) The model and make-up mogul earns a cool million per sponsored post on her Instagram, making her last year’s highest-paid celebrity influencer on the social media platform, according to the Instagram Rich List 2018 compiled by Hopper HQ. IG followers 121,4 million DWAYNE JOHNSON (46) Estimated earnings per sponsored post $650 000 (R9,4 million) IG followers 124,7 million KENDALL JENNER (23) Estimated earnings…