Innholdsfortegnelse for 20-Dec-18 i You South Africa

WE SIMPLY must, must, must have paper Christmas hats and, obviously, we can’t do without crackers. My husband looked at me, slightly bemused, as I declared we can’t not have these things when we host our first big family Christmas lunch at our home. Usually we’d cook heaps of food and take it to whichever family we were spending the day with. But this time around they’re coming over to ours, which means plenty of preparation and the deep desire to have paper crowns that serve only to make you look silly as you sip bubbly with it askew on your head. I know many find it stressful – family and holidays can be a hectic mix, after all. But I’m having so much fun planning something special for the…

I totally agree – a tiny puppy licking your face beats going to a psychologist (YOU Say, 29 November)! I lost my beloved toy pom one week short of his seventh birthday recently. He wasn’t ill but he couldn’t take the extreme heat and died suddenly and unexpectedly. I was heartbroken and felt totally bereft. We’ve always had dogs in our home and my son and daughter-in-law decided to get me another dog to help me in my healing process. This isn’t what I would’ve chosen, but I have to say this tiny four-month-old toy poodle has so quickly crept into my heart. He’s taken away so much of the grief I was feeling. He seems to know when I’m feeling down and he licks me and sits on my…

IT’S a time of festivities, when young and old gather for feasting, fun and family togetherness – but it’s safe to say there will be a fair amount of baggage along with the Brussels sprouts at a certain clan’s Christmas table this year. In the weeks leading up to the holidays one bombshell after another was dropped with dizzying speed, each providing fascinating insight into the growing drama at the heart of the House of Windsor. And the person responsible for it all is the woman who was always expected to shake up the monarchy – although this might not be quite what royal observers had in mind at first. When Meghan Markle was folded into the bosom of The Firm, much was made of a new era of inclusivity…

WH A T i s she thinking? Is she happy, sad, amused or bored? It’s often hard to say – with her guarded, sphinx-like expression Melania Trump is almost impossible to read. But over the past year something has shifted. No longer is she America’s reluctant first lady or the meek and mild trophy wife. She’s smiling more and speaking up about an array of issues – from immigration to cyberbullying – and for the first time she’s looking as though she’s enjoying herself. And the former model is making it clear she wants to be noticed for more than her looks. “I wish people would focus on what I do, not what I wear,” she snapped at reporters recently. And that’s not the first time Melania (48) has shown…

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〉 Get as much information as possible about the other driver involved in the crash, including their name, ID, phone numbers and postal and email addresses and the name of their insurance company. Ask to see their ID or driver’s licence. Confirm they’ve given you the correct cell number by calling it in their presence. 〉 Take detailed notes of the other car – the make, model, colour and registration number. Your insurer will ask for it. 〉 Make a note of exactly where the accident took place as well as the time, the road condition and the weather and visibility. 〉 Get the details of any eyewitnesses. 〉 Take pictures of the accident scene and of the damage to the vehicles. This will help the insurance company with its…

CAPRICORN 21 DECEMBER – 20 JANUARY It’s time to let your hair down and celebrate  The Sun moves into your sign this week, which means soon it’ll be time to celebrate your birthday and start a new personal year. This is a wonderful opportunity to let your hair down, so you may want to have a bash with your friends or celebrate with your loved ones. It’s furthermore a time to set intentions and establish goals – something an ambitious Capricorn probably needs no prompting to do. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 10, 50, 49, 40, 52 AQUARIUS 21 JAN – 18 FEB  If you’re a true Aquarius, you probably have a strong humanitarian bent – a trait that can be put to good use. With group power emphasised this week,…

CHER DANCING QUEEN The pop diva’s album of Abba covers is sure to kickstart any party! Cher says she was inspired to make the album after appearing in the movie sequel Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again. “I was reminded again of what great and timeless songs Abba wrote and I started thinking, ‘Why not do an album of their music?’ ” JOHN LEGEND A LEGENDARY CHRISTMAS The crooner’s sixth studio release is his first Christmas album. “It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time,” he says. “I grew up in a family that loved celebrating Christmas together – every year we’d gather around the piano and sing after we’d exchanged gifts.” The album has six original tunes and eight classics. MICHAEL BUBLÉ LOVE The Canadian crooner says…

FIVE FINGERS FOR MARSEILLES Local western. Years after skipping town following a run-in with apartheid-era police, outlaw Tau (an impressive Vuyo Dabula from Generations) returns to the town of Marseilles in the Eastern Cape to face his demons. But all isn’t well – the police are corrupt and the spineless mayor has made a deal with a crime boss. While Tau has vowed to put his violent past behind him someone has to stand up and fight. This gripping western takes the genre’s clichés and adapts them brilliantly to a contemporary SA setting. Cinematographer Shaun Lee makes the most of the breathtaking scenery and every character is portrayed with humanity and realism. Hamilton Dlamini is particularly good as a spine-chilling villain. Not light viewing, but not to be missed. –…

It’s time South Africa changed to sustainable energy sources such as solar and wind power. We need to protect our planet and stop burning dirty coal which is destroying the planet! WENDY, MIDRAND As viewers, we watch the news for reality. For relaxation we watch a good soapie. 7de Laan is no longer good. It’s become absolute rubbish. CAN IT, SMS I think we’d all agree that Marietjie Vosloo has now paid the ultimate price (YOU, 29 November). Please give this woman a break so she may try to rebuild her life and find peace and happiness again. JAY, EMAIL Metrorail, you’re a disgrace! So many Capetonians spend their hard-earned cash on a monthly train ticket only to have to wait around hoping a train will eventually show up and…

IT’S hard to believe the pair in the wedding picture are the same couple smiling in photos today. In the wedding snap the bride and groom gaze adoringly at each other, two young people on the cusp of a new life together. And that new life has resulted in several serious changes. In fact, there’s almost nothing of Lexi and Danny Reed’s existence that resembles how things used to be – and that includes the way they look. The couple, from Terre Haute in Indiana in the USA, have become internet sensations after sharing their weight-loss journey and shedding a staggering 185kg between them – 5kg more than the goal they set for themselves. And now that they have a taste of the healthy life, there’s no going back. Lexi…

I’VE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH MY MISTRESS Q My wife is a bit prudent when it comes to sex and although I love her I thought it was a good idea to start a relationship with another woman. My mistress is an absolute tigress in bed. The problem is she’s now pressuring me to leave my wife and I realise I love her too. I don’t know how to decide to have only one of them in my life as I love both, in different ways. One is the mother of my children and I love her to bits as she’s always been nurturing and caring towards me. The other satisfies my sexual needs and makes me feel good as a man. My wife found out about the affair –…

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THE TRUTH PIXIE By MATT HAIG, Canongate Wherever she is, whatever the day, She only has one kind of thing to say. Just as cats go miaow and cows go moo, The Truth Pixie can only say things that are true. Adults aren’t the only ones who feel anxious – kids sometimes feel overwhelmed by the emotion too. This book confronts this head-on through the use of the metaphor of a cursed pixie who’s forced to share hard-hitting truths with a sad little girl. With humour and warmth, Haig shows we need the occasional dark day in order for the bright days to shine even brighter. THE THING By SIMON PUTTOCK, Egmont One day the Thing falls from the sky. But what is it? What does it do and who…

I STILL SEE YOU Sci-fi thriller. With Bella Thorne, Richard Harmon and Louis Herthum. Director: Scott Speer. 13HV. Roni (an emo, broody Thorne) lives in post-apocalyptic Chicago where residents are haunted by the ghosts, called remnants, of people killed in an event 10 years earlier. When she receives a threatening message from a young, hunky remnant (Thomas Elms), Roni joins forces with a remnant-obsessed and equally dark and emo transfer student, Kirk (Harmon from The 100), to find answers. Roni’s “cool” teacher, Mr Bittner (Dermot Mulroney) – who knows all things remnant-related – tries to be supportive because Roni lost her dad in the event. Based on the young adult novel Break My Heart 1 000 Times by Daniel Waters, I Still See You is peppered with made-up jargon in…

SHE was still basking in the glow of her glorious wedding, a three-day cross-cultural affair filled with song and dance that was, by all accounts, a treat for everyone lucky enough to attend. But the sound of music and fireworks were still ringing in Priyanka Chopra’s ears when an article mired in meanness wormed its way onto the internet. “Priyanka Chopra is a modern-day scam artist,” writer and comedian Mari-ah Smith wrote on The Cut, New York Magazine’s website that purports to cover issues “that matter to women with stylish minds”. “That’s right,” she added. “Nicholas Jonas married into a fraudulent relationship against his will this past Saturday and I’ll tell you why I think so.” The article, titled Is Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas’ Love for Real?, went on…

‘Ladies, make sure your men get themselves checked regularly for prostate cancer’ GET THAT CHECK-UP MY SISTER lives in the UK and I live in Cape Town. We chat two to three times a week and she’s my lifeline. When I spoke to her last week she told me her boyfriend was going for prostate surgery. Fortunately he’s recuperating although still in a lot of pain. My message is this: ladies, make sure your men get themselves checked regularly for prostate cancer. Guys, don’t neglect yourselves. Life’s too short not to pay attention! Your and your family’s health is vitally important. And keep in contact with those you love, no matter what! LA MILLIGAN, RICHWOOD…

Sun-soaked summer days call for one thing: a good old braai! Grab a copy of YOU Best Recipes: Braai, rally your friends, invite the in-laws and dish up a variety of tasty dishes prepared over the coals. There’s a feast of options including whole fillet with guacamole stuffing, curried lamb chops, sticky chicken wings, stuffed citrus fish, all sorts of kebabs, chocolate braai pies and so much more. Go to youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com to order your copy. Happy braaiing!…

Shamila Batohi replaces Shaun Abrahams, who was removed from the post as NPA boss earlier this year after the Constitutional Court declared his appointment by former president Jacob Zuma in 2015 “unlawful” and “an abuse of power”. And it seems the new incumbent is fully aware of the challenges that await her. In her televised interview for the job, which saw her going up against five other candidates, Batohi didn’t mince her words about the current state of the NPA. “The house is on fire,” she said. “It’s a mess, for want of a better word.” Turmoil, factionalism, budget cuts, a critical staff shortage and a loss of faith in the criminal justice system are just a few of the things she’ll have to fix. As a result of major…

LOTS more vehicles are on the roads at this time of year, so make sure you’re up to speed with everything you need to know and do in the event of an accident before you hit the highway for that well-deserved break. BEFORE YOU LEAVE Store your car insurer’s emergency number (you’ll find it on your policy document) on your cellphone under “accident” or “insurance”. If you’re in an accident, you might be in shock and unable to remember your insurer’s name, says David Roache of dotsure.co.za. IF THE UNTHINKABLE HAPPENS By law you have to stop if someone has been injured or property has been damaged. Call the police and emergency services immediately if there are any injuries. Your insurer’s emergency call centre will be able to give you…

IT’S THAT time of the year when we give our homes some much-needed TLC – fixing chipped tiles, painting and finally getting round to replacing the things we haven’t had time to do. If you’re looking for high-quality, durable and elegant new additions to your bathroom and kitchen, trust the names that have been on the market for years – and which are Proudly South African brands to boot. Yay to job creation and building our economy while you renovate! RENOVATE YOUR SPACE Cobra is an iconic SA brand with a history of more than 60 years, locally manufacturing products crafted to leave a lasting impression. Its new Focus range includes mixers and bath spouts, perfect for your contemporary eco-savvy home. ■ Cobra products are available at Plum-blink stores countrywide.…

■ Cate Blanchett, Benedict Cumberbatch, Christian Bale, Naomie Harris and Matthew Rhys all lend their voices in the movie. ■ US actor Rohan Chand (14) plays Mowgli. ■ Director Andy Serkis says this version of Mowgli’s story is much darker than Disney’s 2016 live-animated The Jungle Book. “There’s no singing or dancing by the animals.” ■ In addition to directing the film, Andy also provides the voice and motion capture of Baloo. ■ The film was shot in South Africa – where an entire village was created south of Durban to serve as a set – and at the Warner Bros studios in the UK.…

SPIDER-MAN Platform: PS4  This is a breath of fresh air in the otherwise stale genre of superhero games. As it’s not bound to an origin story or movie release the developer chose an open-ended scenario adapted from various comic-book tales – and the result is an extremely engaging and rewarding plot. Quite simply, Spider-Man is unlike anything we’ve seen from previous superhero games and raises the bar for this genre. The game looks stunning, especially on a PS4 Pro console outputting to a 4K ultra-high-definition TV. New York is a faithful recreation of its Marvel comic-book counterpart, filled with landmarks such as the Avengers Tower, Doctor Strange’s Sanctum Sanctorum and Jessica Jones’ Alias Investigations. The gameplay is amazing and it’s a joy to explore the city as Spidey swings from…

HE’S the pint-size half of the anti-rhino-poaching pair wreaking havoc and hilarity in equal measure in the name of conservation and good, solid entertainment. And we’re lapping it up. The film Frank & Fearless has been doing well at the box office since opening late last month and no one is more delighted than Themba Ntuli, the 1,2m tall actor who plays 11-year-old animal-lover Fearless. He teams up with Frank (Leon Schuster) to send the baddies packing, and their escapades have had movie-goers rolling in the aisles. It’s the latest offering from Leon, the doyen of local comedy flicks, and Themba is delighted to be working alongside him. It’s a dream come true, he says. “The first Schuster film I watched was Sweet ’n Short with Alfred Ntombela and I…

CIARA The singer’s Level Up viral dance challenge was won by KENNY CLUTCH (34). Ciara’s fans voted the choreographer the winner for his dance to entertain his one-year-old son, KRISTIAN, who was in hospital being treated for leukaemia. Ciara (33) later surprised the family with a visit and through her Why Not You Foundation donated $5 000 (R70 000) to the family’s fund for travel and expenses related to Kristian’s care. The little boy’s cancer is now in remission. TRAVIS SCOTT The rapper celebrated the release of his 2018 album, Astroworld, by announcing he’d give his more than four million Twitter followers a share of $100 000 (R1,4 million) in cash if they tweeted their favourite lyrics from his record. “I know it’s hard for the kids. So I decided…