Innholdsfortegnelse for 22-Nov-18 i You South Africa

I’M A big fan of a tech solution to pretty much any challenge I face. If I could, I’d do every single thing online – I’m nearly there, to be honest. I’ve bought a two-seater couch and coffee table online with only the images and size outlines to guide me, and plenty of smaller appliances have been delivered to my door by the ever-trusty courier. I book flights, bank and buy clothes, shoes and gifts online – and all my travel arrangements happen via my devices. Travelling, in particular, has been revolutionised by apps and online services. The translations, the restaurant reviews, booking flights and accommodation and having an updated map with live results in foreign cities – I sometimes wonder how people did it before the internet existed! I’ve…

During the festive season many lives are lost on our roads. It should be the responsibility of all road users to ensure safety on our roads this year. Let all road users drive safely this festive season so they can avoid tragic road accidents. Let’s avoid the grieving and sorrow that befalls the families of victims of fatal crashes. Under no circumstances should motorists and taxi drivers drink and drive. If you’ve had too much to drink, arrange to sleep at someone’s place. Rather be safe than sorry. ANDRIES RORO KABINI, ROCKVILLE ■ It’s that time of year again. Some call the festive season the silly season because it makes most people behave foolishly. I urge everyone who’s getting their 13th cheque to save some money for January. It’s disturbing…

PENSIONER prince, cold-hearted adulterer, a man who’ll meddle once he becomes monarch . . . Prince Charles has been called many things over the years and for a long time he’s maintained his silence on critical things said about him. But no more. As he celebrates his 70th birthday, the first in line to the British throne opened his heart and home to give people a glimpse into the man who’ll one day become king – and he has plenty to say. He’s nothing like the distant dad, cruel ex-husband and bumbling public figure he’s made out to be, a new documentary and biography are at pains to point out. “I don’t think he’s properly understood,” says British filmmaker John Bridcut, who followed the prince around for the past year…

SHE can’t remember much about the sequence of events – it all happened so fast it’s now just a blur. But there’s one thing she’ll never forget: the look of terror on her husband’s face as he slipped over the edge of the waterfall. One minute André Pretorius (30) was taking photographs of the scenic Karkloof Falls in Howick, KwaZulu-Natal, and the next he was falling. Without hesitation, his wife, Mar-Louise, ran to his rescue. Racing forward, she tried to grab his hand – but in the process she went over the edge herself, hurtling down nine metres into the rocky waters. After that it’s all a blank. “I can’t remember anything,” Mar-Louise (29) tells us. “That’s the last memory of that day. I can’t remember the fall, I can’t…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOVEMBER – 20 DECEMBER Don’t bite off more than you can chew The Sun moves into your sign this week, which means it’ll soon be time to celebrate your birthday and start a new personal year. It’s an apt period to set intentions, whether there are goals to achieve, books to read, places to explore, characteristics to develop or traits to abolish. Since there’s a danger of biting off more than you can chew, try to be realistic with your objectives and don’t overestimate your capabilities. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 33, 42, 52, 23, 9, 26 CAPRICORN 21 DEC – 20 JAN With Mercury, master of the tongue, in reverse gear, it’s a time to take care with all modes of communication. Don’t leave any room for misconception, whether…

GROWING UP FAST Little Johnny and his mother are waiting to catch a bus. “When we get on,” she tells Johnny, “tell the driver you’re four years old so you can ride free of charge.” As they get onto the bus the driver asks little Johnny, “How old are you, young man?” “I’m four years old.” “And when will you be six years old?” “When I get off the bus.” KNOCKING IT Knock, knock. Who’s there? Isabel. Isabel who? Isabel not working again? Knock, knock. Who’s there? Atcha. Atcha who? Bless you. BLIND-SIDED A woman is having a shower when the front doorbell rings. “Who is it?” she shouts. “Blind man,” comes the reply. “I’ll be right there,” she says and goes downstairs, not bothering to put on any clothes.…

MIDNIGHT SUN Romantic drama. Katie (Bella Thorne), a teenager with a rare, incurable disease that forces her to stay indoors, finally meets her crush, Charlie (Patrick Schwarzenegger),whomshe’soften seen walking past her house. Direct sunlight could potentially be fatal to Katie so the young couple can only meet at night. This sweet teen romance comes across as a modern fairytale and sometimes stretches credibility. Still, it’s a compelling story with just enough heart and strong performances – Thorne in particular is good – to get you to care about the characters and make it worth the watch. – FRANCO HAVENGA 2018. 88 MIN. 7-9PG DL. ALSO ON DSTV BOX OFFICE. SHE IS KING Local musical. Khanyisile(Gugu Zulu)leaves her rural village in search of fame in the City ofGold,wheresheauditionsforastagemusical set to rivalThe…

HE HAS a smile to die for, eyes to drown in, a bod that could make grown men weep and a voice that sends shivers down the most rigid of spines. He’s Idris Elba – and he’s now officially been crowned what millions of women knew all along: he’s the sexiest man alive. US magazine People recently bestowed the accolade on the 1,9m-tall slab of sex appeal, who beat the likes of Michael B Jordan and Chris Pratt to the title. “It’s an ego boost for sure,” the 46-year-old Luther star says. “When I first heard I’d won I was like, ‘Come on, no way. Really? Looked in the mirror . . . I checked myself out. I was like, ‘Yeah, you are kind of sexy today.’ But to be…

I always purchase YOU’s food magazines and today I bought Food around the World. I found the most beautiful recipes. This edition is one of your best. It’s like having 13 cookery books at your disposal. Thanks, YOU! MENA RUSSO, EMAIL I strongly believe croc victim Peter Knottenbelt should sue the resort for having no signage warning of crocodiles in the river (YOU, 1 November). If they do so, both man and beast will be safer. SHOCKED, SMS The SABC proudly calls them Encore Screenings. We call them yet more repeats! AMANDA, ALBERTON Idris Elba has just been voted sexiest man alive. Well, 30 years ago or so Robert Redford had the same kudos. Alas, Robert is now just another craggy-faced old fart. Time flies. PETER, EMAIL The letter from…

HE’S missed out on a lot during his time behind bars. Christmases, birthdays, family celebrations – and recently when Oscar Pistorius’ beloved grandfather died he missed out on the chance to be at his bedside. When Hendrik Pistorius passed away last month at the age of 101 he was surrounded by loved ones. Even though Oscar was just 13 kilometres away he couldn’t join his family in the room at Zuid-Afrikaans Hospital in Pretoria when his grandfather gave his final breath. Just like he’ll be conspicuous by his absence at other family gatherings for many years to come. It was behind bars at Atteridgeville prison that Oscar – who’s serving a 13-year sentence for the 2013 Valentine’s Day shooting of his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp (29) – heard about his grandfather’s…

IT’S safe to say the best-dressed man in government has been having a rough time lately. The butt of many a joke for that sex tape, branded a porn star, accused of being captured, lying in court and to parliament – there’s no shortage of guns aimed at Gigabyte’s well-oiled head. Not that the home affairs minister is being contrite about any of it, of course. Malusi Gigaba believes it’s all a concentrated effort to stop him from becoming president one day. “When this concentration of fury on a single individual happens it cannot be linked with anything else – it has to be linked with the fear that he has got to be stopped now,” he said. President Cyril Ramaphosa is expected to decide soon on whether he’ll keep…

BEFORE the National Credit Act came into effect in 2006, employees could borrow from their pension and provident funds. But this practice has died out because the act now requires the funds to register as credit providers. What hasn’t changed is the desire to withdraw from a pension fund – many people want to use the money to pay off debt or as a deposit for a home loan or other large purchase. But it’s something financial advisers are against because of the way it affects your future. Here’s what you need to know. TYPES OF RETIREMENT FUNDS PENSION OR PROVIDENT FUND You can be part of these only through an employer. When you leave your job, you can usually choose to move the money to a preservation fund or…

IT FEELS LIKE TOO MUCH TOO SOON Q I met a woman recently while on holiday. It was a safari and we spent two wonderful weeks together on a camping tour. It was all very romantic and we decided we wanted to take our relationship further, but she lives in Tanzania and I live in South Africa. She’s now said she wants to relocate to South Africa and move in with me. I feel it might be too soon and it’s hit me what a big step that would be. And what a responsibility – because what if I decide she isn’t actually the woman for me but she’s given up everything to be with me? I’m afraid of just letting things drift along then ending up in a relationship…

DRUG WARS Netflix’s addictive drug-trafficking drama Narcos moves into new territory with Narcos: Mexico, in which Michael plays Kiki Camerena, a family man and undercover agent who’s sent to Guadalajara to take up a new post and soon finds himself up against sophisticated cartel boss Felix Gallardo (Diego Luna). The 42-year-old actor, who most recently appeared on the big screen in Marvel’s Ant-Man and the Wasp, says his character is based on a real-life figure. “He was an agent in the mid-’80s when the Drug Enforcement Agency was in its infancy. He goes to Mexico to try to make a difference and sees things coming to a head; tensions forming that would eventually grow into the cartel.” FIRST GENERATION AMERICAN He grew up in Chicago in the US where his…

MASTERS OF THE SUN VOL 1 By BLACK EYED PEAS  Over the past decade the Peas have become better known as an electronic pop band, but on this record they return to their early ’90s hip-hop/rap roots. It’s their first album since 2010 and their first without Fergie since 2003’s Elephunk. Don’t expect vacuous tunes like My Humps – with guests like Nas, Slick Rick and Ali Shaheed, Will.I.Am, Apl.de.ap and Taboo’s seventh album is politically charged. My faves include the socially conscious Ring the Alarm and Dopeness featuring K-pop star CL.…

MARIO TENNIS ACES Platform: Nintendo Switch  Mario Tennis Aces is a superb game that offers plenty of depth while being accessible to new players. But those players might soon find themselves in over their heads if they choose not to use all the new moves and additions to the game. Power shots and a block mechanic that require precise timing make the online player-vs-player matches feel more like a fighting game than a tennis match as one wrong move could potentially lead to a loss. The rather limited single-player experience doesn’t do a good enough job of teaching players the value of each shot at their disposal. If you’re the kind of player who’s going to take the time to learn the intricacies of the new system you’ll be hard-pressed…

ALOES are hardy succulents that can be beautiful too – especially when they flower in winter. Their flowers can be white, yellow, orange, red or pink. Aloes grow in full sunlight and don’t need a lot of water. Thousands of years ago ancient civilisations such as the Egyptians, Greeks and Khoi-San also discovered that many aloes have nutritional and medicinal properties. DESCRIPTION Aloes are part of a genus that includes more than 500 species of flowering succulents. They grow in various climates and are found in a variety of shapes and sizes – from miniature plants such as Aloe parvula, shrubs such as Aloe arborescens, rosette-shaped plants such as Aloe maculata, and even tree-like plants with branches such as Aloidendron barberae. Aloes are endemic to Africa, the Middle East and…

‘MY WEDDING day could not have been more perfect or spectacular – and no one minded a bit that the bride was aged 73. I’d organised the whole thing myself, and that included importing more than 100 000 roses to bedeck the grounds of our home in Switzerland. As friends gathered, sipping champagne on that glorious day in July 2013, the air was filled with the most wonderful scent. A lot of thought had gone into my choice of wedding music. If you listen to Frank Sinatra’s My Way, the words fit my life perfectly: “The record shows I took the blows / And did it my way.” I had to have that one! Despite my famously abusive first marriage, to Ike Turner, I’d managed to find love beyond my…

FOR the past five years she’s graced our screens as the ex-convict and apparent social climber Maya Avant Forrester in The Bold and the Beautiful. Her character even made TV history when she appeared as the first transgender person to wed on a soapie and she was honoured with a prestigious media award by the Gay and Lesbian Alliance against Discrimination (Glaad) for helping to break down gender taboos on daytime television. But the accolades and career boosts barely compare to the blessing Karla Mosley has been given: a beautiful baby girl called Aurora Imani. And she and partner John Rogers couldn’t be happier, she says. “Aurora was my grandmother’s name. It means goddess of the dawn in Latin and Imani means faith in Swahili,” Karla tells us. “I really…

Zoleka’s blessing She’s had plenty of heartache and tough times, but ZOLEKA MANDELA knows only too well that it’s all part of life. And she believes her grandmother Winnie Madikizela-Mandela, who died in April, had something to do with her latest blessing: she’s pregnant with her fifth child. “So, it’s true then? From death comes new life . . . ” she said when she announced her pregnancy on Instagram. “Knowing that you took so much of me with you, fearing that I would want to die right alongside you, you placed this blessing between the walls of my womb to remind me that I only need to look inside myself to find you because you have not left me.” Zoleka and her businessman hubby, Thierry Bashala, have a four-year-old…

Zayn’s not friendly with 1D bandmates BEING one fifth of hit boyband One Direction may have made ZAYN MALIK (25) both rich and famous, but he definitely didn’t make many friends. In a recent interview with British Vogue, the singer opened up about his rather negative experiences in the group. “I’ve always been a bit like that, though – always a bit of an island,” Zayn says. “I don’t like to confer with too many people.” “I ain’t spoke to any of them for a long time, to be honest with you,” he says. “That’s just the way it is. There’s things that happened and things that were said after I left. Snide things. Small things I’d never have expected.” Zayn blames the beef on the quintet’s meteoric rise to…

WINNIE MAKES HER DEBUT Winnie Harlow – the first model with vitiligo to appear in the show – looked stunning alongside fellow models (from left) Barbara Palvin, Yasmin Wijnaldum, Gigi Hadid, Kendall Jenner and Alexina Graham. BELLA STEALS THE SHOW Bella Hadid has come a long way since her first nervous appearance in 2016, and ruled the catwalk in a number of barely-there costumes. ADRIANA’S FINAL WALK Veteran Angel Adriana Lima – walking in her 19th and final show – was moved to tears as she closed the extravaganza. HOT MAMAS RETURN TO THE CATWALK Behati Prinsloo (ABOVE) – mom to Dusty Rose (2) and Gio Grace (nine months) – and Candice Swanepoel (RIGHT) – mom to Anaca (2) and Ariel (five months) – made triumphant returns after taking time…

OUR VULNERABLE CHILDREN MY HUSBAND and I were at Carnival City Casino recently. As we were walking in the parking lot we found a little girl of maybe four years old wandering around aimlessly. My gut told me to pick her up and head to security immediately, which I did. She couldn’t speak English and luckily I knew how to ask for her name in Zulu. I waited with security and the little girl’s mommy eventually came running up with tears in her eyes. Her daughter had been with them one minute then the next she was gone. It’s really scary. What if I hadn’t been the good citizen who’d picked her up? What if it was some psycho? Parents, pay extra attention when out with your children. It’s scary…

As the school year ends it’s a good idea to start thinking of 2019 homework assignments and projects to be tackled when the new school year starts. YOU Homework Done issue No 2 is packed with interesting facts on everything from animals to the history of transport and the origin of foods. Each topic is from the school syllabus and we include a list of websites, video links and apps to help your child engage with the subject interactively. Get your copies in stores or online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com.…

FORMER US first ladies often write their memoirs and they almost always do well. Who wouldn’t want to get a fly-on-the-wall glimpse into life in the most famous house of power on the planet? Yet even against a backdrop of sure-fire success this one is something else. Michelle Obama’s book, Becoming, is one of the most eagerly anticipated political memoirs in recent memory and pre-orders saw it at the top of Amazon’s bestseller list days before its release. Because, as one critic puts it, Michelle is different. “She’s defied her exalted status in the annals of history by cultivating the image of a modern woman with whom many Americans would like to sip wine and chat.” Days before her book tour was due to kick off, it was already sounding…

BASIC BUTTER ICING MAKES ENOUGH TO COVER 1 STANDARD CAKE 125g butter, softened 250g icing sugar, sifted 15-25ml (3-5t) milk 5ml (1t) vanilla essence 1 Cream the butter until smooth. Gradually add the icing sugar, beating until the mixture is light and fluffy. 2 Add a little milk to give the mixture a thick, spreadable consistency. 3 Beat in the vanilla essence. OLAF PULL-APART CAKE MAKES 36 CUPCAKES PREPARATION: 20 MIN BAKING: 15 MIN 2 boxes of vanilla- or chocolate-flavoured cake mix 4 quantities basic butter icing (recipe below left) white, brown, orange and black food colouring Preheat the oven to 180°C. Lightly grease three 12-hollow muffin tins with nonstick spray. Line with lightly greased muffin or cupcake liners. 1 Prepare the cake mixes according to the packet instructions. Spoon…

THURSDAY ■ BAD NEIGHBOURS 2★★★ 2016, 92 min, 16VSNL, e.tv, 23:00. Comedy. A married couple and their former neighbour enemies unite to take down the annoying new sorority that’s moved in next door. Seth Rogen, Rose Byrne. ■ MARKED FOR DEATH ★★★ 1990, 93 min, 16VLN, e.tv, 00:45. Action. A retired federal agent seeks revenge on a druglord who attacked his family. Steven Seagal, Joanna Pacula. ■ PAST MALICE: AN EMMA FIELDING MYSTERY ★★★ 2018, 90 min, PG13V, M-Net, 04:35. Crime. An archaeologist investigates her colleague’s murder. Courtney Thorne-Smith. FRIDAY ■ AN AMERICAN GIRL: SAIGE PAINTS THE SKY ★★★ 2013, 100 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Family. A nine-year-old girl who’s passionate about painting decides to take up the challenge of saving the art classes at her school. Sidney Fullmer. ■…

■ He’s been a practising Scientologist since 2000, saying the controversial faith helped address a drinking problem. “I wasn’t an alcoholic but I was doing it too much. For me [Scientology] isn’t a belief; it’s practical things you do.” ■ He married writer Brie Shaffer (BELOW) in 2006 and they have a 10-year-old son, Roman (BOTTOM). ■ He starred in the movie reboot of the ’70s cop series Chips opposite Dax Shephard. ■ In high school he took part in wrestling competitions and would check the sports section of newspapers to see if he’d been ranked. “I loved WWF as a kid.” ■ He stars in another Netflix release this year – the sci-fi movie Extinction.…

THE OTHER WIFE By MICHAEL ROBOTHAM Little, Brown  I’m a fan of Michael Robotham and his long-suffering hero, psychologist Joseph O’Loughlin. But I think it might be time for Joe to say his farewells so the author can focus on other characters or standalone books. In the latest instalment Joe’s father, William, is attacked and left in a coma. The woman at his hospital bedside insists she’s his wife – but she’s not Joe’s mom. In fact, she insists she’s married to William, even though he’s very much married to Joe’s mother, Mary. As Joe delves into the case he discovers more and more about his father that he can barely believe. He’s drawn into a world of secrets and lies – and danger, as usual. Meanwhile his kids are…

Take the stress out of school projects with YOU Homework Done issue No 2. It’s packed with interesting facts on everything from birds and insects to the history of transport and the origin of foods such as sugar and salt. Each topic is from the primary school syllabus and includes a list of informative websites, video links and apps. Can’t find it in the shops? Here’s how to order CALL 021-406-4962 EMAIL shop@you.co.za with the name of the title you’re looking for in the subject line GO TO youstore.co.za and order your copy online…

STUMPED about what to get friends and family for Christmas this year? Tired of wrapping the same old bath salts, body butters, perfume and toys? Well, fret not – here’s a range of products on the shelves this year to help you be a little more creative when it comes to stocking stuffing. Perhaps there’s a bride-to-be in the family who wants to look her svelte best on her big day – or your mom-in-law is always on the lookout for new dishes to whip up in the kitchen, and your nephew is forever asking how things work. This guide should help you find something for every person on your gift list. Problem solved! FOOD FOR THE SOUL THE ILLUSTRATED BIBLE This modern take on the Bible is a keepsake…

It feels like just the other day that Springbok and Lions wing LIONEL MAPOE and his partner, CLARRISA MANAÇAS, introduced us to their baby boy, GIAN-LUC, so it’s hard to believe the tiny tot is already a year old! They celebrated the occasion with a party for family and close friends at Troodles Party Farm in North Riding, Johannesburg. The theme was blue, shorts and bow ties in honour of the little man – who spent most of the afternoon scooting around on his tiny motorbike with a huge grin on his face. “Seeing his little face light up with joy was the highlight of the day,” Clarrisa says. The couple say although it’s been quite an adjustment having two kids, the fact that their firstborn, two-year-old daughter ZARAH, is…

VETERAN British actress EMMA THOMPSON was recently made a dame – and promptly used her new title to ask PRINCE WILLIAM for a kiss. Alas, her hopes were dashed. “I love Prince William,” the 59-year-old said. “I’ve known him since he was little, and we just sniggered at each other. I said, ‘I can’t kiss you, can I?’ And he said, ‘No, don’t!’ ” But Emma didn’t seem too bothered by the rejection. “If you’re first up, you have to be more formal on such an occasion,” the Children Act star said. “But he’s looking wonderful and doing so well. He said, ‘This day isn’t about me, it’s about you’.” The ceremony, which took place earlier this month, officially made Emma a Dame Commander of the British Empire, the female…

BABY2BABY GALA CALIFORNIA AMERICAN FILM INSTITUTE FEST CALIFORNIA PEOPLE’S CHOICE AWARDS CALIFORNIA WSJ MAGAZINE’S INNOVATOR AWARDS NEW YORK CITY…