Innholdsfortegnelse for 18-Oct-18 i You South Africa

AS I write this, the horrific events at a Dros restaurant in Pretoria was still a major talking point and many parents in our office were grappling with the same question: how could it happen? You think you’re doing all the right things: going to a family-friendly eatery, allowing your child to go to the play area where a staff member is keeping an eye on the kids while you relax and chat to your fellow diners, seemingly safe in the knowledge your little one is fine. Then the unthinkable happens. Just what can you do, short of wrapping your children in cotton wool and keeping them under lock and key while you watch them 24 hours a day – which is, of course, impossible? We tapped experts and asked…

• They should never go anywhere or take anything from people they don’t know. • They need to check with you before going anywhere, changing plans or getting into a car – even if it’s with someone they know. • By the age of six your child should know their address and at least one of their parents’ cellphone numbers. • Preschoolers should know if they’re approached by a stranger when they’re out in public they should go straight to the person who’s taking care of them. • Young children should know if they get lost in a shop they should go to the till area and ask for help from a staff member. If they’re lost in a park and can’t find a security guard they should look for…

• Unless you drive quite an old car, you don’t need to “warm up” your car engine before you start driving. Today’s cars generally have fuel-injection systems designed for optimal function as you switch on the car. • Don’t take the car out of gear going downhill – it makes it more difficult to control the car in an emergency. By just taking your foot off the accelerator, not releasing the gear, you’ll probably use the least fuel. • Don’t use the engine to stop your car from rolling back when you’ve stopped on a hill. It wastes petrol and isn’t good for the clutch. Use the handbrake instead. • Don’t let the engine idle too long in stationary traffic. Turn it off after 30-60 seconds until you can drive…

FEW things are as satisfying as growing your own food. You don’t need a large tract of land – experiment with planting vegetables between the flowers in your garden or in large pots. Or grow your food garden in wooden or plastic planters. SIRLOIN STEAK WITH SMOKED TOMATO AND SPEKBOOM SALSA SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 20 MIN SMOKING: 5 MIN COOKING: STEAK 12 MIN VEG 45 MIN MARINATING: 1 HOUR RESTING: 10 MIN STEAK 15ml (1T) chopped garlic 15ml (1T) smoked paprika 15ml (1T) dried oregano 30ml (2T) olive oil 15ml (1T) balsamic vinegar 500g game or beef sirloin steak salt SMOKED TOMATO AND SPEKBOOM SALSA 250ml (1c) loose rooibos tea 15ml (1T) sugar 250g ripe baby tomatoes, halved 30ml (2T) chopped leaves of spekboom (also known as porkbush or elephant’s…

PLANTS aren’t only gorgeous to look at, they also purify the air and create a calm atmosphere while bringing interiors to life. And there are many interesting plant holders to choose from. Sleek, minimalist designs in neutral, matte shades of white, grey and black are on point, and faceted designs and geometric shapes are trendy too. Mix and match modern with rustic, natural elements such as baskets, cement planters or glass. If you lack floor space a plant stand is ideal, and hanging plants make a statement too. Don’t have green fingers? Succulents and plants in terrariums are your best choice. Arrange your plants in groups with varying heights to create depth and let your greenery add natural colour to your home.…

Of course a healthy diet is vital if you want your child’s brain firing on all cylinders, so ensure they’re getting what they need and avoid heavily processed and refined food. If your child’s diet is unbalanced for whatever reason, consider a multivitamin and an omega 3-fatty acid supplement. For maximum brain power, stock up on the following foods, which have been shown to help with memory, focus and mood. • Oily fish – sardines, mackerel, kippers and salmon – are rich in omega-3 and -6 fatty acids • Eggs – they’re a complete source of protein • Nuts – all kinds, but especially walnuts • Avocado • Green leafy vegetables • Seeds, especially pumpkin seeds • Peanut butter • Fruit – all fresh fruit but especially bananas and blueberries…

THINKING of painting a room in your home? Spring is the best season to make a change! But while most homeowners may know basic DIY paint prep – sanding, patching, laying down drop cloths and so on – other nifty tricks can make the job easier. Who knew, for example, that heating masking tape in the microwave will make it more manageable? Follow these tips to make the job go smoothly so you end up with a professional-looking finish. WAIT FOR DRY WEATHER Humidity means slow drying and paint dripping down the walls, so avoid painting on a rainy day. If you must paint when it’s humid, take your time. BOX YOUR PAINT Ask your salesperson to help you estimate how much paint you’ll need so you can buy it…

Five years after we last heard from the Canadian pop star Avril Lavigne (34) is back with a new track called Head above Water, a dramatic ballad that speaks about her battle with Lyme disease. The singer was diagnosed with the tick-borne disease – which left her bedridden for five months and barely able to walk – in 2015. In a recent letter to fans posted on her website, Avril says she wrote Head above Water after “one of the scariest moments of my life where I’d accepted death and could feel my body shutting down”. She likens the experience to drowning. The songbird has promised fans her long-awaited sixth album will drop this year, but no name or date has been announced yet.…

YAKUZA 6: THE SONG OF LIFE Platforms: PS4, Xbox One There’s nothing quite like the Yakuza series, and every serious gamer should try it out at least once. While most open-world games try to one-up one another in terms of size, the Yakuza series has remained small, focusing mostly on a single town and well-told stories. Kiryu Kazuma has made it to the top of the underworld, but now he’s trying to get out. The last game in the series is both the end of Kiryu’s story and a celebration of it, and it’s a beautiful send-off for the character. Sega is in the process of revitalising the Yakuza series with a remake of the first game as well as a prequel.…

EVER since she was a little girl it had been Eve Weston’s ambition to be crowned the village carnival queen. A highlight of the social calendar, the carnival was a hugely popular event and always attracted large crowds. Recently, the local history society had researched the carnival’s origins. They were surprised to discover it dated back to pagan times. Although historians had produced sound evidence to indicate the festival had begun as an act of celebration to mark the arrival of spring, this didn’t stop the odd rogue from telling tourists the local legend as to why the event supposedly started. The night before that year’s carnival, Eve and her boyfriend, Gareth, found themselves in The Royal Oak listening to old Tom relate the tale to a rapt group of…

MR AND MRS BIEBER! Beliebers might want to sit down for this one. JUSTIN BIEBER is officially – and legally – off the market. After weeks of speculation it’s being reported that the Friends hit-maker and HAILEY BALDWIN tied the knot on 13 September – the day they were spotted applying for a marriage licence in New York. According to an insider, Justin’s friend Josh Mehl was a witness at their intimate wedding ceremony, which was officiated by preacher Jeffrey Quinn. But the news everybody seems to care about even more than their secret wedding is that Justin – whose worth a cool $256 million (R4,2 billion) – didn’t bother signing a prenuptial agreement. According to US news outlet TMZ, Justin (24) and Hailey (21) both reached out to lawyers…

Samphiwa Halana, you’ve made me so proud to be a South African (YOU, 4 October). Using your love and talent for maths has made you open your heart to share your knowledge, hints and tips with so many battling at school. Thank you and keep on being such a caring and positive South African. JOY WILKINS, ROODEPOORT I love issue 18 of YOU Blockbusters and am working my way through the book. I love the new bonus puzzles and feel you have some winners there. They make you think more and that’s always good. Thank you again for the thought put into your puzzle books. DIANNE NEWCOMBE, EMAIL Thanks for the great YOU Crossword Dictionary I received recently after winning one of the competitions. I’m addicted to your crosswords, so…

The LA-born former actress looked sleek in a £369 (R7 195,50) dark green leather skirt by Hugo Boss and a £69 (R1 345,50) shirt by & Other Stories, under a soft £2 000 (R39 000) cream coat from Armani. Her matching handbag, a £1 685 (R32 857,50) satin tote by Gabriela Hearst, completed the look, bringing the total cost to more than £4 000 (R78 000). Meghan made another eyebrow-raising choice in her Sussex outfit – she didn’t don anything by a British designer. While she’s mostly played by the rules when it comes to fashion – think nude tights and beige aplenty – body-language expert Denise Bjorkman believes Meghan’s pricey, rather unpatriotic outfit for this occasion was a small act of rebellion. While the modest shape and style still…

HE’S jaw-droppingly talented, fabulously rich, the dad of four beautiful kids and widely regarded as one of the hottest sportsmen around. But there’s a dark cloud hanging over Cristiano Ronaldo’s charmed life – one that could bring the golden boy of world football to his knees. The 33-year-old Portuguese superstar is the latest high-profile man to feel the sting of the #MeToo movement which has exposed many powerful men as sexual abusers. In a bombshell claim, Kathryn Mayorga, a former dancer and model, accused Ronaldo of raping her in a Las Vegas hotel in 2009 after they met in a nightclub. The cases of two women who laid charges of assault against Ronaldo in 2005 may be delved into again now – and yet another woman has reportedly come forward…

FISHCAKES WITH SALSA You can work miracles with a couple of cans of tuna. To make the meal go further, we add potato and cabbage to the fishcakes and serve them with a spicy salsa. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 20 MIN CHILLING: 15 MIN COOKING: 30 MIN FISHCAKES 30ml (2T) olive oil 1 onion, finely chopped ¼ head cabbage, shredded 2 cans (170g each) tuna chunks, drained 4 potatoes, cooked, peeled and coarsely mashed grated zest of 1 lemon handful of fresh parsley, chopped salt and white pepper extra oil for shallow-frying SALSA 1 onion, chopped 3 tomatoes, diced 1 can (410g) corn kernels, drained handful of fresh parsley, chopped 2 garlic cloves, crushed 1 chilli, chopped (optional) pinch of sugar 30ml (2T) white wine vinegar salt and pepper 1 Fishcakes…

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ALOE VERA This succulent should ideally be placed near a window. It has healing properties – the gel in the leaf can be applied to burns, grazes and sunburn. It’s also said to clear the air of pollutants from cleaning products. RUBBER TREE ( Ficus robusta ) It makes a good houseplant as it’s easy to grow, requires little maintenance and can handle the lower humidity indoors. Place it in a spot that has a good balance of light and shade. PEACE LILY ( Spathiphyllum ) This plant enjoys medium to low light. The more light it gets, the more likely it is to flower. One of the most common reasons peace lilies die is over-watering. Once a week is generally enough. SNAKE PLANT (…

MY GIRLFRIEND REALLY HURT ME Q My girlfriend and I started dating in our first year at university and we’re now both third-year students. At the start of our relationship I told her I want to make the most of my studies and would like to pass my degree with distinction and possibly study further. I thought we both realised this would mean more study time and less time to be with each other. Recently I found out my girlfriend has been cheating on me with my best friend for most of this year. When I asked her why, she simply said I was putting my studies before her and she wasn’t prepared to simply wait around for me to spend time with her as she feels she should be…

• The first film was released in 1937 and starred Janet Gaynor and Fredric Marsh, the 1954 version had Judy Garland and James Mason in the lead roles, and the 1976 remake was a rock musical starring Barbra Streisand and Kris Kristofferson. • To prepare for his role, Bradley had to learn to play the guitar and piano, as well as how to sing like a seasoned professional. • Several scenes were shot at real music festivals such as Glastonbury in the UK and Coachella in the USA, where Gaga was headlining. Bradley sang live with her, as Jackson. “I was terrified. You forget everything on stage in front of 30 000 people. But I looked at Stefani and relaxed. Her belief in me gave me courage.”…

THE MYSTERY OF THREE QUARTERS By SOPHIE HANNAH HarperCollins  This is the third book featuring famous Belgian detective Hercule Poirot that British thriller author Hannah has produced for the Agatha Christie estate and it’s a good adventure in line with the great mystery writer’s legacy. Poirot is confronted by four people who are all claiming to have received letters from him accusing them of murder. The first two recipients deny knowing the person they’re accused of killing, 94-year-old Barnabas Pandy, while the third says he’s her beloved grandfather who died recently but without foul play being suspected. Meanwhile, the fourth has heard of him but didn’t know him. Poirot has also never encountered the dead man nor did he write the letters. He’s annoyed his name is being misused so…

SHE was the poster girl for heroin chic, all hollow cheeks, jutting hipbones and kohl-smudged eyes. She was also the party girl to end all party girls, falling from cabs, going for bad boys, hanging with a racy crowd and choosing drugs, booze and ciggies over a wholesome meal any day. Yet anyone can turn over a new leaf if they put their mind to it – and it seems Kate Moss (44) is no exception. The woman sunning herself on the deck of a yacht in the south of France is almost unrecognisable from the waif who dominated the runway for decades. Sun-kissed, make-up free and sporting healthy curves in a skimpy bikini, Kate looked healthy and happy as she enjoyed a bit of downtime with her boyfriend, Count…

REBRAND He’s going by YE now – yes, in caps. He announced his new moniker in a tweet: “. . . the being formally known as Kanye West”. If you’re keeping count, he’s also gone by Pablo, Yeezy, Yeezus, Konman, The Louis Vuitton Don and a few others. AFRICA CALLING If you were waiting to hear his new album, the sixth he’s produced or worked on this year, you’d have been disappointed. The album, Yandhi, was due for release on 29 September, but it’s been delayed so Kanye can record it “in Africa” and release it on 23 November. “The album is so good,” he said, modestly. “I’m incorporating sounds you’ve never heard before and pushing concepts people don’t talk about. We have concepts about body-shaming, and women being looked…

WITH AGE COMES BEAUTY WHEN was the last time a woman you know actually looked forward to her 50th birthday? So many fear that as they age they’ll lose their attractiveness and become “invisible”, or that they’ll become weak and dependent on others. Women in their twenties are exhorted to start using anti-wrinkle creams and exercise diligently in order to hold onto their youth for as long as possible because “it’s all downhill after 30”. I wonder though if any of these fears are warranted. I like spending time with older women. I’m always struck by how much I want to be like them. Abundant wisdom, confidence, beauty and peace seem to accompany their age. They’ve taught me that no matter how old you are you always have the freedom…

Keep inquisitive kids entertained with YOU Did You Know? (R55). It’s perfect for kids who are curious about our world. The magazine is packed with colourful and detailed illustrations about all sorts of interesting things such as animals, dinosaurs, how things work, how things are made and more. See which animal is the fastest, find out how chocolate is made and how a GPS works plus learn how to make your own slime and more. Go to youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com to place an order.…

IT’S a story that’s left parents asking themselves plenty of uncomfortable questions. If your kids aren’t safe in a family restaurant then where is it okay to take them? South Africans are still reeling as they try to absorb what happened to a seven-year-old girl at a Dros restaurant in Pretoria recently. One minute she was playing in the children’s area, the next she was dragged into a toilet cubicle and allegedly raped. But even before this, parents were feeling jittery following a spate of viral videos that appeared to show child traffickers trying to abduct children from shopping malls and other venues. Although police say in all likelihood the videos were hoaxes some schools aren’t willing to take the risk and have beefed up security. Meanwhile parents are wondering…

This woman isn’t the first to fall for a man accused of a terrible crime. Daniellé Janse van Rensburg fell in love with Henri van Breda, who butchered his parents and brother and assaulted his sister with an axe in 2015. Chanelle Coutts is still with Christopher Panayiotou, who had his wife, Jayde, kidnapped and murdered in 2015. Further afield American cult leader Charles Manson famously became engaged to Afton Elaine Burton (26 at the time), who started writing to him while he was in jail for the 1969 killings of Sharon Tate and others. And notorious American serial killer Ted Bundy, who while in jail received tons of fan mail from female admirers, married one of them, Carole Anne Boone, while he was still on trial. Hybristophilia is a…

CARING FOR YOUR TODDLER Johnson’s knows how important it is to treat baby’s delicate skin with care. New Johnson’s® Gentle Protect™ Jelly is perfect for active toddlers who love to explore. Specially formulated with gentle, natural ingredients, it works to help seal in moisture, prevent dryness and protect your baby. The jelly creates a protective barrier against 99,9% of germs while providing 24-hour moisturisation – winning! WITNESS THE FITNESS Join the G-Squad with the new Casio G-Shock watch and track your steps, workouts and calories burnt. Pair the shock-resistant watch to a smartphone app and monitor your progress! The number of steps measured and calories burnt are displayed in a graph using a new algorithm developed by Casio, making it easy to keep track of your workout, location, time of…

It’s important to restore your hair’s strength with regular treatments if you use harsh chemicals and styling tools Jana van der Merwe (35), journalist BioNike Defence Hairpro Restructuring Nourishing Mask R89,95 I regularly straighten my hair with a flat iron and also often have blonde highlights – although I’ve grown them out these past few months – and struggle with dry split ends. After washing my hair I applied this nourishing mask for damaged and fragile hair, working it abundantly to the ends. On drying and straightening my hair as I usually do I could feel my hair was much softer and had less frizz. It has that great “salon hair” smell and feel too. Choose a make-up remover with no alcohol if you have sensitive skin Nombulelo Manyana (24),…

THE information of everyone who has an account with a credit or service provider is kept with a credit bureau. Your credit record is much like a school report card, but instead of academic scores it records how well you manage your debt and financial agreements such as your cellphone contract or clothing accounts, home-loan repayments or credit card. By the end of March this year altogether 9,7 million South Africans had impaired credit ratings, which means they weren’t honouring their debts. As a result these individuals will struggle to get loans. And if they should succeed, the interest rate will most probably not be favourable because they’re regarded as high-risk candidates. Prospective employers and property-leasing agencies also have access to your credit records and a bad record can count…

LIBRA 23 SEPTEMBER – 22 OCTOBER Rise to the challenge of making choices With the possibility of action-driven people invading your space and unpredictable events rocking your boat, this week is unlikely to be one of peace and quiet. You may not appreciate the roller-coaster ride, but give it a chance to be stimulating and exciting. In the process you may be forced into quick decision-making, which should be a good learning curve for a Libra who normally can’t make up their mind. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 8, 18, 15, 48, 24, 11 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV With the sun about to move into Scorpio, it draws to a close your personal year and heralds a new beginning. It makes for a good week to mull over the past…

On Growing Pains She wrote the song about the challenges of being a young adult. “I think being 21 in general is a confusing time because it’s almost, or at least for me anyway, an in-between phase in your life where you’re not quite an adult and not quite settled in who you are and what you want to be, but you’re also not a kid anymore,” she told Billboard. “I wanted to write a song about it but give it [a] slight silver lining by calling it Growing Pains because I think all pain is something we can grow through.” Her road to success Like fellow Canadian Justin Bieber, Alessia – who’s of Italian descent – was discovered on YouTube singing covers. She was 13 when she posted her…

CALL ME BY YOUR NAME Romantic drama. If have lots of time this melancholy coming-of-age drama – based on André Aciman’s novel – is for you. It follows the relationship between 17-year-old Elio (Oscar nominee Timothée Chalamet) and his dad’s 24-year-old assistant, Oliver (Armie Hammer). The film’s been nominated for at least 210 awards and won an Oscar for best adapted screenplay, so you’d expect something marvellous, but viewers with high expectations will probably be disappointed. It’s sensual at times but profoundly slow and although the movie has been lauded for making strides for representation of same-sex relationships in mainstream cinema, ultimately it’s just another story of first love and heartbreak. – CHEZ POOL 2017. 127 MIN. 16DLNS. MARY MAGDALENE Drama. Directed by Garth Davis (Lion), this take on the…

ONCE UPON A RHINOCEROS By AVRIL VAN DER MERWE Illustrations by Heidi-Kate Greeff Penguin Random House All the animals admire Rhinoceros’ beautiful horn. All except Hippopotamus, that is. She’s jealous and wants a horn of her own. So she comes up with a sly plan to steal Rhino’s horn and wear it herself. But she soon discovers the heavy horn that Rhino wears with such grace brings her one misadventure after another. And far from admiring her new horn, the other animals laugh at her and are quick to point out a rhino horn belongs on a rhinoceros. After one mishap too many, she finally returns the horn to its rightful owner – and learns that everybody has something special that others admire. Isabella de Freitas (6) of Cape Town,…

DIAMONDS and gold aren't South Africa’s only precious commodities. In fact, coal is more important to the economy than gold. Coal mining is one of the country’s most important industries – SA generates most of its electricity by burning coal and many people are employed in mining it. Many of us also use coal to get the fire started for a braai! Unlike diamonds and gold, which are minerals made from inorganic material, coal consists of plant material that’s gone through many changes. Let’s find out about this process. TYPES OF COAL The more pressure and heat applied to coal, the more it changes and the harder it becomes. Each type of coal contains various amounts of carbon and produces different amounts of energy. PEAT is a forerunner of coal…

T WAS never about the money. In fact, I when they entered the second season of My Kitchen Rules South Africa, sisters Rox and Spoen Green didn’t even know a prize of a million bucks was up for grabs. So the fact their bank balances have been given a huge instant boost is a major bonus for them. “Cooking has just been such a huge passion of ours, so it was amazing when we won,” Rox (29) says. The sisters from a farm in Winterton in KwaZulu-Natal made their life-changing decision after seeing a video calling for auditions by David Higgs, one of the judges of the hit show. They’re both big fans of the popular South African chef so they knew they had to enter. Eighteen episodes later, with…

Red hot mama TAMARA’S TIPS • Drink plenty of water. • Keep active. “Find what works for you, whether it’s a dance class or taking long walks. If you’re a mom, take a walk in the park with your baby in the pram. I love anything that involves music, of course, and I enjoy concentrated toning exercises.” • Eat clean. “I’m doing a lot of raw fresh veg with protein, that kind of thing.” • Enjoy life. “I have the odd cocktail. You know, a girl still has to have fun. I’m very much about living life and finding a good balance. So work hard at it but also allow yourself to enjoy what you enjoy.” Singer TAMARA DEY was gorgeous in a red bodysuit, jeans and a kaftan at…

MICKEY’S 90TH SPECTACULAR Descendants starlet Sofia Carson looked like a modern-day princess in her tea-length Monique Lhuillier frock at the taping of Mickey’s 90th Spectacular at the Los Angeles Shrine Auditorium. The event celebrated 90 years of the iconic Disney character. VENOM PREMIERE 1 Actress Michelle Williams wore an unusual Louis Vuitton dress to the LA premiere of her new film, Venom. In the Spider-Man spinoff she plays Anne Weying, ex-wife of Eddie Brock (Tom Hardy), a journalist whose body is taken over by an alien. 2 Michelle’s co-star Jenny Slate (in Altuzarra) rocked a sleek bob. FENTY BEAUTY ANNIVERSARY TOUR Rihanna recently embarked on a world tour to celebrate the first anniversary of her make-up range, Fenty Beauty. 1 The pop star hosted an event in Singapore wearing a…