Innholdsfortegnelse for 4-Oct-18 i You South Africa

IN SOME weeks there’s so much news it’s hard to decide what to keep in the magazine and what to leave out. Of course, I think everything is special and would have them all in if I could! But I know one of the reasons people read YOU is because it’s a carefully curated experience. We try to give you a bit of everything – inspiration, news, advice, escapism, education – so you have a wonderful experience as you page through every issue. In this one there’s lovely escapism in the story about the Duchess of Cambridge’s parenting skills (page 6). Inspiration comes in the form of a little girl who shares her maths knowledge with others (page 18) and a teenager who kept dancing despite having her leg amputated…

Dear Not A Fan ( YOU Say, 20 September). Can you really place all the blame on Meghan? Her father is acting like a spoilt child and trying to exploit his daughter’s fame for money. If I were Meghan I’d also turn my back on him. He’s just getting the karma he so deserves for how he’s publicly treating his daughter. What does that say about how he loves her and about his type of character? NEITHER JUDGE NOR JURY, EMAIL • Meghan’s dad ran to the papers saying she’d be nothing without him, how he put her in private schools and stuff. Isn’t that what parents are meant to do? How is she treating him badly? By ignoring him when he badmouths her and the royals? He made a…

THE disease claimed her father and older sister, and she’s already faced it twice herself. But Olivia Newton-John has made it her mission to beat it again. The singer and actress recently opened up about her third cancer diagnosis. “I believe I’ll win over it – that’s my goal.” Doctors discovered a tumour at the base of her spine last year. She initially thought it was back pain, but doctors found the cancer had spread to her sacrum, the triangular bone in the lower back between the two hip bones of the pelvis. The British-born Australian star – who refers to herself as a cancer “thriver” – prefers not to look at the challenge that lies ahead as a battle. “I’m one of millions in this fight – I shouldn’t…

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), the use of cannabis can • Impair your ability to learn and recall things you’ve learnt previously. • Affect your ability to manage machinery for 24 hours even if you smoke as little as 20mg. There’s also an increased risk of car crashes if you drive while under the influence. The chronic health effects • Prolonged use could lead to long-term damage that can’t be reversed once you’ve stop smoking. • You could become addicted and smoke more and more to get a fix. • It could exacerbate schizophrenia in certain people. • Heavy smoking is associated with higher risks of chronic bronchitis and a higher incidence of acute bronchitis compared with those who don’t smoke dagga. • Cannabis use during pregnancy is…

CHUNKY RATATOUILLE This ratatouille can be enjoyed as a meal or served as a side dish with chicken, steak or braaied meat. SERVES 4 AS A MAIN COURSE OR 6 AS A SIDE PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 45 MIN 30ml (2T) olive oil 2 red onions, roughly chopped 2 sprigs fresh thyme 4 garlic cloves, crushed 2 brinjals, cut into chunks 1 red pepper, diced 1 yellow pepper, diced 8 baby marrows, cut into chunks 30ml (2T) tomato paste 2 cans (410g each) chopped tomatoes 10ml (2t) sugar zest and juice of 1 lemon salt and pepper 250g baby tomatoes TO SERVE handful of fresh basil baguette Preheat the oven to 230°C. 1 Heat the oil in a large pan or shallow saucepan. Fry the onions, thyme and garlic for…

YOU’LL NEED • Scissors • Craft knife • Spirit level • Measuring tape • Whiteboard marker PLUS MATERIALS 1m vinyl (Maizey Plastics) in each of three colours. Our fridge is silver so we used black, white and charcoal, but if you have a white fridge you could replace the white with a pale grey. If you have a double-door fridge you’ll need more vinyl. METHOD STEP 1 Cut the black and white vinyl into 5cm strips, and the charcoal vinyl into 5cm squares. STEP 2 Measure and mark 5cm intervals across the width of the fridge. STEP 3 Use the spirit level to extend the marks you’ve made in step 2. You don’t need solid lines – small dots will do. STEP 4 Stick the black vinyl strips vertically along…

MY WIFE IS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE Q My wife told me she wanted to be a stay-at-home wife because she wanted us to start a family. But something really traumatic happened recently that made me realise she’s not who I thought she was. We were in a mall and a man came up to her, clearly known to her, and told her he’d see her next week. It hit me like a bomb – my lovely, beautiful wife is working as a hooker. She’s entertaining men in a flat she’s renting that I didn’t know about. When I asked why she’s doing it – I earn a good salary so we don’t need the money – she told me she loves the adventure and sense of danger. She enjoys…

LIBRA 23 SEPTEMBER – 22 OCTOBER Your finances are highlighted this week Your planet, Venus, turns retrograde this week, making it a good time to take a step back and re-evaluate your life. Though changes in several spheres of your life may seem necessary to bring about equilibrium, your cash flow is the focal point. Making sure your expenses don’t exceed your income is one way of balancing the books. You may have to forego pampering and treats and refrain from retail therapy for a while. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 50, 45, 18, 13, 23, 27 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV Networking Mercury moves into your sign this week, which should make you feel more comfortable mingling with others. You might prefer to hide, but it’s a great time to…

TOPMARKSIn her new movie, Night School, Tiffany (38) plays a woman who teaches adults who are forced to attend night classes. She stars alongside comic Kevin Hart (39), who plays a “troublemaker” hoping to finish high school. The duo met more than a decade ago while working on a comedy sketch show, and Kevin offered to help her out when he realised she was living in her car at the time. LAUGHING THROUGH THE PAIN In her autobiography, The Last Black Unicorn – which became a New York Times bestseller – Tiffany talks about her difficult childhood and how making people laugh was her outlet. Her dad left when she was three. Her mom was in a bad car crash a few years later, suffering brain damage that changed her…

Happier Marshmello ft Bastille Written by the UK band’s frontman Dan Smith and produced by Marshmello, this poignant tune is all about loving someone but having to step aside. Waz Dat? Nasty C and Boity Thulo The TV personality teams up with one of the hottest names in local hip-hop on this, her first rap track – and it’s not half bad. Give it a listen. Made for Now Janet Jackson Janet, whom we last heard from in 2015, has jumped on the Latin bandwagon, teaming up with Puerto Rico’s Daddy Yankee. And she’s nailin’ it! Electricity Dua Lipa with Silk City This slinky dance tune is hot – and the Flashdance-inspired video with Dua busting some sexy dance moves is even hotter!…

Some parents (antivaxers) are reluctant to vaccinate their children because they believe vaccines are dangerous thanks to a widespread myth that vaccination causes autism. This misconception comes from an article published in 1997 by British doctor Andrew Wakefield. Both he and his research have been discredited. Not vaccinating your child is dangerous, says Dr Rafeeq Fakier, a GP from Cape Town. “Vaccination is really important because it’s a way for you to protect your children and can prevent the outbreak of vaccination-preventable diseases.” “There’s no link between autism and vaccination, so there’s absolutely no reason not to vaccinate,” says Dr Celesté van Brünick, an obstetrician at Tygerberg Hospital in Bellville, Cape Town.…

FOR as long as she can remember Delaney Unger has had one passion: to dance. Jazz, hip-hop, tap – it doesn’t matter as long as she can move her body to music. So when her left knee began hurting in November 2016, the now 12-year-old put it down to muscle strain and her dad thought an ice pack would do the trick. After all, injuries are common among dancers. But the pain became worse and worse until she could manage only a hobble, so her concerned parents, Noah and Melissa, took her to the hospital for tests. The news was devastating: Delaney had cancer in her knee and she’d never dance again. Melissa recalls the cold winter morning, about a month after the tests were performed, when they got the…

WHO WORE IT BEST? If imitation really is the sincerest form of flattery, these ladies must really love one another. One thing’s for sure – each of them rocked this outfit in her own special way. 5 things you didn’t know about . . . THANDO THABETHE In the new TV series The Housekeepers THANDO (28) plays a devoted daughter who hides her identity behind an apron, assuming the role of a maid in an attempt to discover the truth behind a murder. “I can’t wait for you to meet her,” Thando says on Instagram of her character. We went to the source to get the low-down on things people might not know about the actress and radio host. 1 I talk in my…

RAVISHING IN RED Old-school glamour with a stunning ombre twist! – PETRO-ANNE The top half reminds me of a swimsuit. – NICI BEWITCHING IN BLACK Did she arrive bareback astride a seriously shaggy dog? – SANDY NAILING IT IN NUDE Classic and elegant, this dress is a perfect fit! – PETRO-ANNE Zuri needed two people to hold her train – a real-life princess! – LINDSAY SUNSHINE SHADES Looks as if she’s waltzing with a tall minion. – SANDY IN THE PINK Who still does a rose on the front of their dress? – LINDSAY This is pure pink perfection. – NICI BLUE BELLES This half-pants, half-skirt vibe should be banned – it’s one or the other, babes. – NICI GLAM IN GREEN Frills in the front, frills in the back…

I agree with Sandy who wrote in appealing for people to be less noisy (YOU Say, 20 September). No one has respect for their neighbours. And in restaurants and doctor’s waiting rooms, most people have become far too loud. CONNIE VAN TONDER , EMAIL Self-love is important (YOU, 27 September). If you’re not being treated with love and respect, check your “price tag”. Perhaps you’ve marked yourself down. You determine your value by what you accept. Get off the clearance rack and into the glass case where they keep the valuables. SAMUEL RADEBE, HEILBRON YOU is my favourite mag. Loved the article about the cat carer of Aleppo (YOU, 13 September). What an amazing story! MEL, SMS My gran Adiela Satardien (right) often feels she isn’t appreciated. I just want…

HE COULD see the hell his friend was going through. For two years he’d witnessed his endless suffering – so when the young doctor told him about his plan it made perfect sense. But even so it was with a heavy heart that Professor Sean Davison (57) made his way to a luxury hotel in Cape Town’s Waterfront on 2 November 2013. He knew he was facing one of the hardest tasks of his life. Over time he’d developed a close friendship with Dr Anrich Burger (43). When he’d visited his friend at his home in Paarl in the Western Cape they’d play chess or he’d push Anrich around in his wheelchair. They talked on the phone daily. Now here he was helping his friend carry out his final wish.…

Dagga has been used for centuries as a medicinal plant thanks to its active chemicals (cannabinoids). The two main ones are Delta-9-THC, which causes the “high” in dagga users, and cannabidiol (CBD), which doesn’t provide a high and is often used in cannabis oil. These cannabinoids have been found to help relieve pain and nausea, reduce inflammation and act as an antioxidant. It’s often helpful in treating the nausea and vomiting commonly caused by cancer treatments. They’ve also been found to help prevent the growth of cancerous cells and to help protect your immune system, thereby reducing your risk of remission.…

Parents have accused Parktown Boys’ High of covering up bullying by teachers, intimidation and victimisation of pupils for years. Late last year a pupil committed suicide allegedly because he’d been a victim of bullying. There have been accusations of teachers picking on hostel kids and parents are astonished there was never a formal inquiry. They claim that instead of supporting the victims one of the teachers accused them of lying about the incidents. When contacted by YOU the school denied claims that it supports a so-called culture of silence. “In fact we’re urging learners to speak out about bullying, assault and sexual harassment,” said Kim van Es, the media relations officer of the school governing body. All the victims are receiving psychological counselling and some have switched schools. Meanwhile a…

MATHEMATICS. The mere mention of the subject can strike fear into the hearts and minds of learners – and their parents. But an enterprising 10-year-old has invented a simple system to help kids who struggle with multiplication tables. Samphiwa Halana, a Grade 4 learner at Jacaranda College in Centurion, has created a colourful deck of 13 cards. On the front of each card is a multiplication table – from one to 12 – and on the back are simple and handy tips and guides to remember the tables and work them out. The idea came about while she was helping her cousin, Alizwa (8), with her maths homework, Sam says. “My cousin was struggling with it and I felt bad for her. Her mom said she often struggled and that…

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THURSDAY • SEX TAPE ★★ 2014, 94 min, 16SNL, e.tv, 23:00. Comedy. A married couple try to stop their sex tape from being uploaded onto the internet. Cameron Diaz, Jason Segal. • WHILE I WAS GONE ★★ 2004, 120 min, PG13, e.tv, 00:45. Drama. An unhappily married veterinarian takes a hard look at her life. Kirstie Alley. • SIGNED, SEALED, DELIVERED: FROM THE HEART ★★★★ 2016, 84 min, PG, M-Net, 04:35. Drama. The fifth film in the series. Four postal workers who track down the intended recipients of undeliverable mail discover a 200-year-old Valentine letter. Eric Mabius, Kristin Booth. FRIDAY • CADET KELLY ★★★ 2002, 101 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Comedy. A fashionista is horrified to learn she must attend military school. Hilary Duff. • AFTER THE SUN FELL ★★★★…

BROKEN GROUND (INSPECTOR KAREN PIRIE #5) By VAL McDERMID Little, Brown Alice Somerville and her husband, Will, head for Wester Ross, Scotland, to find the “inheritance” that her grandfather left. It’s two valuable vintage motorcycles that were buried in a peat bog at the end of World War 2. But along with the motorcycles, they find something else in the bog – a well-preserved body with two bullet holes. It’s clear the body’s been in the ground for years and DCI Karen Pirie of Police Scotland’s Historic Cases Unit is called in to unravel the case. Karen is also puzzled by a strange conversation she overheard in a café between two women, and is working on a cold case involving a series of rapes from 20 years ago. There’s a…

THESE days if you get hurt or fall ill you can be treated by a doctor at their surgery or in hospital. We have advanced medicine and medical techniques to heal you. This medical knowledge was developed over thousands of years and is still being developed today. Let’s take a look at medicine through the ages and focus on two doctors whose medical breakthroughs saved millions of lives. MEDICINE BEFORE MODERN DOCTORS In prehistoric times people didn’t know what caused illnesses and tried using plants, dirt and animal parts in potions to heal the sick. They believed angry gods or evil spirits caused the person to become ill so treatments were usually accompanied by magic spells or rituals performed by a shaman (traditional doctor or healer). Over time people realised…

A WELL-KNOWN chef is found shot dead at his workplace. At first his wife appears grief-stricken, dazed and confused, but before long she’s cuffed and standing in front of a judge accused of murder. This could be a plot from a murder mystery novel – one of the accused’s own books, in fact. Nancy Crampton-Brophy earned her living by writing “romantic suspense” books featuring “rugged men, strong women and a good story”, and one in particular about a woman who came up with a dastardly way to murder her spouse without getting caught. Now the 68-year-old self-published novelist from Portland in the USA finds herself in jail accused of her own husband’s murder and faces the possibility of spending the rest of her life behind bars. On the face of…

WHAT’S THE RUSH? YOUNG people often consider themselves failures if they don’t get married, find a job, have a family, make money and live comfortably all by a certain age. Why do you put so much pressure on yourselves? It’s okay to have goals, but please understand that if you’re not married by 25, have no kids by 30, and aren’t a manager of some company by 35 the world isn’t going to condemn you. You’re allowed to backtrack. You’re allowed to start afresh. You’re allowed to figure out what inspires you. You’re allowed time! When you meet someone, strive to discover the kind of love that motivates you to be a better man or woman. If you’re not ready to be in a relationship, don’t get into one for…

Whether you’re a first-time homemaker in need of practical guidance or someone looking for tips as you get ready to spring-clean ahead of summer, we have tons of advice in YOU Household Tips & Tricks. From ordinary household items that will help you remove stains and mildew, to finding out how to keep your fridge smelling lemony fresh and getting rid of ants in your home, there are loads of useful hints in this handy magazine. Get your copy at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or at johan.terblanche@media24.com to place an order.…

The Davison case has reignited heated debate about euthanasia. Many believe mentally competent adults with terminal diseases should have the right to elect to end their lives and be helped to achieve this aim. But others say it’s tantamount to murder. Dignity SA’s lawyer Sally Buitendag explains there’s a difference between euthanasia and assisted suicide. In the case of assisted suicide a doctor prescribes a substance the patient then takes themselves when they wish to end their life. But during euthanasia a doctor administers the substance because the patient is too weak to do it themselves. Both are illegal in SA.Common law states it’s murder to help someone die even if it’s by their own choice, she adds. But the constitution guarantees an individual’s right to ownership of their body…

• Actress Whoopi Goldberg (62) is a well-known cannabinoid advocate and consumer, having used it for years to treat her pain, stress and glaucoma. She and artist Maya Elizabeth started Maya & Whoopi, which sells medical marijuana products. • Actor Morgan Freeman (81) uses it to treat the fibromyalgia pain he’s suffered in his arm since a car accident in 2008. • Singer Melissa Etheridge (57) says she used it after being diagnosed with breast cancer in 2004 and has since used dagga in all forms to battle the gastrointestinal issues she’s developed. • Actor Michael J Fox (57) has used dagga to help ease the effects of Parkinson’s disease.…

CELEBRITY chef Zola Nene currently rocks the food scene. With her colourful headpieces and bubbly personality she judges cakes, weddings and boerewors on local TV, and has two cookbooks under her belt. Her food journey started when she dropped her law studies and headed to the UK where she worked in a brasserie, steadily rising to head pastry chef. She came home two years later to do an international chef diploma. She’s been a judge on BBC Lifestyle’s The Great South African Bake Off (season 3) and M-Net’s The Wedding Bashers. She shares recipes with us from her latest cookbook, Simply Zola: The Journey Continues. WHEN I RELAX WITH MY LOVED ONES CHICKEN AND BUTTERNUT PAN ROAST I sometimes use sweet potatoes instead of butternut in this dish. SERVES 4…

IN THESE tough economic times we could all do with extra financial advice. These reads are filled with valuable tips on putting more money in your pocket. RICH DAD, POOR DAD BY ROBERT T KIYOSAKI This is widely regarded as one of the best personal finance books on the market and still sells well despite its first edition being published 21 years ago. Kiyosaki gives advice on how to improve your financial IQ, how to become financially independent, what to teach your kids about money and the difference between good and bad debt, among other things. Using the tale of his two “dads” – one his real father who wasn’t wealthy, the other a friend’s father who became his “rich dad” and taught him about wealth – he makes the…

THE BUZZ ABOUT BEES • Why do bees buzz? Because they can’t whistle! • Can bees fly in the rain? Not without their little yellow jackets! • What goes zzub, zzub? A bee flying backwards! • What bee is good for your health? Vitamin bee! • What do you get if you cross a bee with a doorbell? A humdinger! HOW TO PLACE NEW EMPLOYEES Here’s a human resources manager’s tips for determining what positions people are suited for. First, put 400 bricks in a closed room. Then call the recruits in and close the door. Leave them for six hours then go back and check what each of them is doing. • If they’re counting the bricks, put them in accounting. • If they’re recounting them, put them in…

Happy vibes Since its release a month ago, the album Bloom – with its smash hits My My My and Dance to This (featuring Ariana Grande) – has earned rave reviews, with Rolling Stone giving it five stars and calling it “triumphant”. The catchy vibe stems from the 23-year-old – who was born in South Africa but raised in Australia – being in a happy place. “I got settled in Los Angeles and was super-happy in my relationship. I’d never written happy music because music is normally something I turn to when I’m sad. I guess it was sort of love letter after love letter to my boyfriend, house, family, community and nights out.” He recorded the album – the follow-up to his 2015 debut, Blue Neighbourhood – with producer…

GOODBYE CHRISTOPHER ROBIN Biopic. Young Christopher Robin (Will Tilston) lives a life cut off from his parents, socialite Daphne (Margot Robbie) and writer Alan Milne (Domhnall Gleeson) , who are more interested in hobnobbing with the who’s who of ’20s London than spending time with their only son. The couple undoubtedly adore little Billy Moon, as he’s lovingly known, but lack the ability to truly show him the affection he craves. Instead he gets this from his beloved nanny, Nou (Kelly Macdonald). Then Billy’s world is upended when his playwright father writes a book about him and his stuffed toys. This enchanting, thought-provoking film gives us a glimpse into the life of the boy who, along with his ragtag collection of friends, has brought so much joy to kids the…

UNMASKED By ANDREW LLOYD WEBBER HarperCollins Lloyd Webber revisits his past with candour and biting wit, giving inside gossip about goings on behind the scenes during the creation of some of his most famous shows, including Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, Cats, Evita, and Jesus Christ Superstar. You also get to hear about his turbulent romance with singing superstar Sarah Brightman and his collaborations with luminaries such as Tim Rice and Trevor Nunn. Although the book is more than 500 pages long, he only gets as far as the opening of The Phantom of the Opera in 1986. Hope this means another instalment is in the works. ROBIN By DAVE ITZKOFF Sidgwick & Jackson Itzkoff traces Robin Williams’ incredible career, from 1977 when he was starting out as a…

SOON after babies are born, their parents must have them vaccinated to protect them from a host of serious – sometimes deadly – diseases. Vaccinations (which are given orally or as injections) aren’t fun, but the alternative is a lot worse. Although many of these diseases can be treated, adults are often left with complications, while children could still die. Let’s look at the damage some diseases and infections can cause certain parts of the body and how vaccines work to protect us from them. If you’ve been vaccinated against these diseases, you probably never have to worry about getting them. HOW IT WORKS When you’re exposed to a disease, your immune system naturally produces proteins called antibodies to fight it. This means that when you’re exposed to the disease…

THE beautiful fruit looks like it was just plucked from a tree – plump, glistening and packed with flavour. You can almost imagine its lemony scent filling the air and how a bowl of them would be welcome in your kitchen. It’s unlikely you’d ever think of biting into this beauty, of course. But if you did you’d be licking your lips with pleasure instead of puckering up. Because this isn’t your garden-variety lemon. It’s a culinary delight in the form of a white chocolate orb filled with melt-in-your-mouth ganache, homemade lemon curd and spiced fruit. The delightful dessert is the brainchild of French pastry chef Cédric Grolet. The 33-year-old, recently named the world’s best pastry chef at San Pellegrino’s World’s 50 Best Restaurants 2018 awards, is renowned for his…

• Instagram and Facebook both have stories – but what’s the difference? Since its launch in March last year Facebook’s version has had a slow start compared with Instagram’s wildly popular Stories which launched in August 2016. • On both platforms stories last 24 hours and can either be shared with all your friends at once, a select group or just one person. Stories on Instagram can also be shared directly to Facebook but not vice versa. • Facebook Stories comes with a few fun features, such as masks, frames and interactive filters, which can be added to your pictures, clips or live videos. • Instagram Stories offers a slightly bigger bag of tricks. You can sass up your snaps and videos with stickers, emojis or even Gifs. • You…