Innholdsfortegnelse for 2-Aug-18 i You South Africa

IT’S amazing how much stuff can accumulate over the years without you even noticing. I recently went on a decluttering spree as I repacked some kitchen cupboards (yes, I’m such a wild thing!) and couldn’t believe how many unused items we had in our home. We’re not the kind of people to hang on to everything – although I do find every time we throw away a piece of string we need it the very next day – so it was a bit surprising to see the piles of things marked for charity or the bin. At the end, I felt drained but also exhilarated – it was great to let go. Did I really want to hold on to that chipped glass dish simply because I got it as…

FANGS are bared, backs are up and there’s a whole lot of hissing and spitting disturbing the peace in an affluent Cape Town suburb where a rollicking cat fight has broken out. On one side of the proverbial fence is pensioner Elbrecht Oswald (69), who’s passionate about gardening. For many years residents in Welgelegen have been accustomed to seeing him tending his flowerbeds. And on the other side – well, two houses away – are Paula Kingham (52) and her four cats who have little regard for manmade barriers such as fences. That’s where the trouble began – and it’s now wound up in the Bellville magistrate’s court. Elbrecht’s once beautiful front garden – which isn’t fenced – has gone to ruin over the past six years because it’s become…

TAYFUN Aras, owner of Turkish restaurant Anatoli in Cape Town, is finally sharing long-begged-for recipes from his birthplace, Ankara, in a beautiful new book named after his eatery. It includes menu favourites, from easy mezzes, pide (bread) and köfte (meatballs) to baklava and lokma (koeksisters). Try your hand at these authentic Turkish recipes! PAPAZ YAHNISI (Priest’s lamb stew) SERVES ABOUT 8 PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 40-45 MIN 1,5kg lamb rib, cut into 3cm pieces 250ml (1c) red grape vinegar 30ml (2T) tomato paste 20ml (4t) ground allspice 15ml (1T) black peppercorns 10ml (2t) dried crushed chillies 10 bay leaves 6 garlic cloves, finely chopped salt 1kg pickling onions rice 1 In a large saucepan cook the lamb over high heat in its own fat until brown all over. 2 Pour…

KITTED OUT Add flair to your living room with accessories that stick to a specific theme or colour scheme. This room has bursts of colour that stand out against the blue wall. The faux fur rug used as a throw, jute basket and overlapping floor rugs add texture to the area – softening the look and creating a warm and inviting space to lounge in. THEME IT Remember to stick to a colour scheme or theme. Here the patterned pouffe and throw cushion complement each other – they’re both white with a Moroccan pattern. LAYER THEM The layered textures here – velvet, patterns and faux fur – add depth to the space and almost beg you to take a seat. STOCKISTS @HOME 0860-834-834; CORICRAFT 021-508-5200, 011-611-8700, 031-701-3448; GAME 0861-4263-2273; H&M…

WE’RE SO ANGRY WITH OUR MOTHER Q My mom and dad were both married previously and both have children from their first marriages. My brother and I are the only kids they had together. My mother was left well-off when my dad died a few years ago, but she got involved with a man who used all her money then left her. She’s now been diagnosed with a malignant cancer and her oncologist advised an expensive type of chemotherapy not covered by her mediocre medical aid. Her children (my brother, myself and her kids from her previous marriage) discussed what to do and told her she could either go to a health facility for natural healing or have the expensive chemotherapy. We were willing to borrow money for the latter…

LEO 22 JULY – 22 AUG It’s time to get into shape and spruce up As a Leo, chances are you like to be well groomed and look your best. It’s a week to pay attention to your appearance, meaning not only your looks but also your health. You may want to take stock of your physique and, if winter weather has made you a bit flabby, try to get back into shape. A trip to the hairdresser may be called for and you may also want to consider sprucing up your wardrobe with a new outfit or an accessory or two. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 51, 4, 35, 44, 33, 10 VIRGO 23 AUG – 22 SEPT If you’re a true Virgo you probably like to be of service and…

MISSION 6 At two hours and 27 minutes, this sixth instalment in the franchise is the longest Mission: Impossible film to date. Tom Cruise and Ving Rhames (BELOW) are the only actors to have appeared in all six films. Tom, a qualified pilot, trained for a year to perform one of the helicopter stunts in the film. During filming he fractured his ankle in a stunt that entailed leaping from one building to another. Production was halted for seven weeks, but the film was released on schedule in July. The movie also stars Rebecca Ferguson (ABOVE), Alec Baldwin, Henry Cavill, Simon Pegg and Angela Bassett. A AllagesD DrugsH HorrorL LanguageN NudityP PrejudicePG ParentalguidanceS SexV Violence.…

SHE’S won a string of high-profile awards for crime writing but here’s the funny thing: despite all the acclaim Belinda Bauer (55) doesn’t consider her gripping page-turners to be “crime novels”. In this fun interview the bestselling British author – who lives in Cardiff, Wales – chats to us about her new novel, Snap, her childhood in South Africa and the book that rocked her world and made her want to be a writer. Tell us a bit about what was going through your head when you started writing Snap. How did the idea spark in your brain? The start of the book is based on real events that took place. The idea of children walking up a road and nobody stopping to help them has haunted me for years.…

THE LOWDOWN Bob: “Good grief, I just fell off a 10-metre ladder!” Jim: “No way man, are you okay?” Bob: “Yeah, luckily I was just on the first step.” NO ARGUMENT When I look at chocolate, I hear two voices. The first one says, “You need to eat that chocolate.” The other voice goes, “You heard him. Eat it.” WORKS FOR SOME Little Johnny’s dad is reading him bedtime stories to help him fall asleep. Half an hour later his mom quietly opens his bedroom door and asks, “Is he asleep yet?” “Yes, finally,” little Johnny replies. GOING DOWN “Waiter, take your thumb off my steak immediately!” “What? And have it fall on the floor again?” BETTER BE GOOD “Do you want to hear a joke backwards?” “Yes.” “Good. Start…

IT BEGAN with the love of a language, a sense of humour and liberal use of social media – and before long it had morphed into a one-man word factory with a book on the shelves, an app in the offing and endless possibilities in the pipeline. The brains behind it all is Melusi Tshabalala – and he still can’t quite believe all this is happening. He thought he was just tinkering with a few Zulu words on his Facebook page and now, less than a year later, he’s well on his way to becoming a household name. The 40-year-old is a partner in an advertising and design agency by day but all his free time is dedicated to Melusi’s Everyday Zulu, the mini-empire that started on social media and…

WARNING: if you’re about to settle down to a snack you might want to put it aside for a while. Because the stuff in here is gross. Weeping sores, bloated maggots, creepy cockroaches and rotten food. But give it a go if you can because it’s all rather interesting. You may think you’re revolted by revolting things because they’re – well, revolting. But it’s actually a lot more scientific than that. “Disgustologists” – researchers who study the emotion of disgust (yes, it’s really a job) – will tell you revulsion is part of our body’s self-preservation system. A comprehensive study was done by the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine recently in which 2 500 online participants were asked to rate their levels of disgust at 75 potential scenarios…

ERIC McCORMACK The US-Canadian actor looks even hotter than he did in the series pilot 20 years ago. Since the finale of season 7 he’s made appearances in The New Adventures of Old Christine, Monk and Law & Order: SVU. He credits his wife, Janet – whom he married five months before auditioning for Will & Grace – and his 16-year-old son, Finnigan, for keeping his feet on the ground. DEBRA MESSING Her youthful looks have sparked cosmetic surgery debates, but she says it’s the result of good lifestyle choices. Since Will & Grace she’s had roles in The Starter Wife, Smash and The Mysteries of Laura. In between all this she divorced her screenwriter husband, Daniel Zelman, and has been adapting to life as a single mother to Roman…

I’d just like to say thank you for the Walt Disney hamper I won in a YOU competition recently (21 June). I gave it to my youngest grandson, who’s three. He was so happy to receive all the cars and DVDs. PENSIONER, CAPE TOWN Recently I was given an apron with the handprints of my eldest daughter, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I just wanted to share that it doesn’t take much to give a meaningful gift. A present made with thought and love is priceless. AMANDA DO NASCIMENTO, EMAIL For me, Kevin Anderson was the man of the tournament at this year’s Wimbledon. He was phenomenal when he wiped out Roger Federer. JUST WOW, SMS Please homeowners: place your municipal bins outside your homes by 7am on collection day, NOT the…

‘I’ve been trying to pull off a more sassy and corporate look, but I just can’t seem to get it right. I’m a jeans and T-shirt kind of girl’ FASHION ED’S ADVICE Swop your jeans for leatherette pants. You can wear them during the day or at night, and they work for both corporate and casual looks. TOP TIP Wear high-waisted pants if you have shorter legs and opt for high heels – both elongate the bottom half. ‘I struggle to find pants that are the right length for me and I’m not sure how to wear crop pants – or whether they’d even suit me’ FASHION ED’S ADVICE Choose crop jeans or pants. They’ll suit your height and you won’t have to have them altered or roll them up.…

WHAT are your rights if developers start building right next door to your property? A reader complains that a block of flats is going up within spitting distance of characterful old homes in her neighbourhood. Are developers bound by any regulations? And do homeowners in the area have any legal recourse? LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION A homeowner’s right to complain about a development on a neighbouring erf depends on the zoning of their property. Municipalities divide the area under their jurisdiction into various land-use zones. Certain zones are allocated for freestanding homes only, while others are for freestanding houses as well as flats and complexes. Some zones are also reserved for business or industry. Building regulations apply to the properties in each zone, and zones are all permitted a certain coverage,…

HEALTH, LEISURE AND LIFESTYLE: LEO . . . • Is playful and having fun keeps them happy and healthy. • Fills their time with creative hobbies. • Shines as the captain of their sports team. • Is ruled by the heart but a healthy lifestyle is important. • Has a wholehearted approach to leisure and pleasure. • Shouldn't indulge in too many rich foods. • Is often kitted out with the best brand of sporting gear.…

Since forming in 2013, the group – made up of Nathan Ro (Lonehill Estate), Graeme Watkins (The Graeme Watkins Project) and Loyiso Bala (TKZee, The Bala Brothers) – have gone from strength to strength, even earning a Sama nomination this year for best adult contemporary album for their second album, Now Listen Properly. We caught up with Nathan to find out more about the talented trio. Where does your love of swing come from? “My father was in a swing band and so was Graeme’s, so we both grew up with the genre. Loy is a really diverse musician with many loves and influences so he was already in love with swing. With Swing City we have a vein of tongue-in-cheek humour running though our songs.” Is there still a…

BOOK CLUB Comedy. With Diane Keaton, Jane Fonda and Candice Bergen. Director: Bill Holderman. 13DLS. Best friends Diane (Keaton), Vivian (Fonda), Sharon (Bergen) and Carol (Mary Steenburgen) have been in a book club for almost four decades. When Vivian is tasked with picking the next book she selects EL James’ Fifty Shades of Grey and the ladies, though sceptical, decide to go along with the choice. And while all four seem content in their professional and personal lives, the book ultimately becomes a catalyst for each woman to re-examine the state of her love-life. Although this comedy has been dubbed the “Sex and the City of a certain age” and does contain a fair amount of sexual innuendo, it’s the women’s relationships with their families and one another that drives…

SNAP By BELINDA BAUER Bantam The book grips you from the start as 11-year-old Jack Bright and his two younger sisters, Joy and Merry, wait in a hot broken-down car alongside a highway in Somerset, England. It’s 1998, a time before cellphones, and their pregnant mom has gone to call for help at a roadside phone. When she doesn’t return her children go in search of her and find the phone hanging off the hook. They never see their mom again and although her body is found a few days later the murderer is never caught. The story jumps forward to 2001 and Jack is desperately trying to provide for Joy and Merry by breaking into houses, terrified the authorities will find out their father has abandoned them. Meanwhile heavily…

MANY of us have rituals or superstitions – putting our clothes on in a specific sequence, not stepping on pavement cracks . . . And famous people are no different. In fact, they’re probably more beholden to their quirks – because, well, if they do things a certain way and win, then they’d better stick to it. New book Recipes for Good Luck: The Superstitions, Rituals and Practices of Extraordinary People, by author and illustrator Ellen Weinstein, explores the good-luck charms of the stars – from hanging upside down to wearing the same pair of socks for an entire tennis tournament. AGATHA CHRISTIE (died in 1976 aged 85) THE BATH-TIME APPLES The famous mystery author, who wrote such classics as Murder on the Orient Express, munched on apples in the…

LINDA Linda is a popular Nguni name. It’s used by both genders, but when a girl or woman is called Linda, we never know whether she’s a Nguni or a European Linda. Speaking of European Lindas, the first time I encountered a white Linda I honestly thought her parents had given her a Nguni name. Then I encountered a Lynda and thought she’d also been given a Nguni name, but her parents just wanted to give it a twist that would ensure that those who read it immediately knew she was white. That’s important for things like renting property. It was a real shock to discover that Linda is also a standalone European name. I still don’t know what it means, though. Anyway, I’ve decided that all white South African…

HE WAS one of the stars of the team, a bright young talent with hunger in his heart and brilliance in his boots – a player hailed as capable of bringing glory to his club and country. Nailing a goal in England’s 2-0 defeat of Sweden in the quarterfinals of the Fifa World Cup made Dele Alli a national hero and helped his country dare dream the impossible: that the cup would be coming home for the first time since 1966. But instead of his midfield magic making headlines, it was Dele’s private life that dominated newspapers – and by the time England’s hopes were crushed by Croatia in the semifinals, the complex details of his childhood were known to millions. Before the team returned home Dele (22) posted pictures…

Look at him now! We reckon LEHASA MOLOI pretty much owns #TransformationTuesday on Instagram. The actor recently posted these astounding pics on the social media platform and described his journey from “full-time smoker, part-time drug addict” to the healthy, happy man he is today. It’s all about accountability, he tells us. “Honestly, when I speak about my life change it stems from something my mother always used to tell me. She’d say it’s difficult to tell people they need to change; they need to fall flat, fail and be at the bottom of the barrel in order to learn. “That’s pretty much what happened to me – I had to hit rock bottom and be in complete darkness before waking up and realising I needed to change,” says Lehasa, who…

(Tracey Collis, YOU Say, 5 July). I’d love to see her beautiful smile when she picks up the copy with this message to her in the winning letter and her name in print. Tembeka Nkomo, you’re the most wonderful woman: a single mom who works two jobs six days a week just to put your children through school and university. You’re an inspiration to all and we love you for it. Go and spend this on something just for you! You deserve it! TRACEY AND CLAIRE, EMAIL TEMBEKA, YOU ROCK! EVERY Saturday, if it’s not left on the counter our employee Tembeka will ask if we’ve finished reading our copy of YOU so she can take it home. Both she and her son love to read it. She was so…

Give in to temptation with YOU Indulge – packed with only the most delectable, most succulent, most delicious dishes. Choose from a mouthwatering selection of rich and creamy lasagnes, smoked eisbein with honey, or oxtail, and finish with no-bake chocolate cheesecake, caramel milk tart or Cremora tarts with meringue topping for that perfect indulgent meal. Go on, treat yourself! Get copies of YOU Indulge issues 1 and 2 (R47 each) at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@media24.com.…

HE’S 1,9m tall, was voted one of the sexiest men alive in 2014, is a versatile sports star and has won the heart of one of the loveliest women in the world. But there’s another label that can be pinned on this 30-year-old hunk: he’s also a virgin. And he intends to remain that way until his wedding day. Still, if Tim Tebow has his way, that day hopefully won’t be far off. “I want to have kids. I have so many things I want. No one will be happier than me when I’ve found the right person,” he told US magazine People recently. “I’m just looking for someone who has a good heart,” he added. “They have to be kind, and they have to care about people who can’t…

BEETROOT GRATIN This is a perfect hot side dish with a braai. SERVES 6 AS SIDE DISH PREPARATION: 25 MIN BAKING: 35 MIN 6 beetroot, cooked 15ml (1T) olive oil 4 leeks, sliced into rings 4 garlic cloves, crushed salt and freshly ground pepper 125ml (½c) cream 60ml (¼c) grated pecorino cheese CRUMBS 1 ciabatta roll, finely crumbled 2,5ml (½t) dried thyme 4 garlic cloves, crushed 30ml (2T) olive oil 10g fresh parsley, chopped Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease an ovenproof dish with nonstick spray. 1 Peel and slice the beetroot. 2 Heat the olive oil in a pan and fry the leeks until soft. Add the garlic and stir-fry for another minute. 3 Spread half the leek mixture in the ovenproof dish, followed by a layer of beetroot,…

Plum & tangerine One of the biggest colour trends this season is tangerine, and fashionistas are sporting it all over social media. Plum makes an even bolder statement, whether on lips or nails. Dare to wear them together – dark plum on the eyes and loud tangerine on the lips. WEARING PLUM When wearing plum lipstick keep the rest of your make-up minimal. Use a lipliner with dark lipstick because if it feathers it will be more visible. WEARING TANGERINE Try a nude shimmery eyeshadow and a few coats of mascara to go with orange lipstick – this brightens up your face. Orange goes better with blonde or black hair – if yours is in-between it might make you look washed out. Royal blue & blush pink On its own,…

THURSDAY WHERE GOD LEFT HIS SHOES ★★★★ 2007, 96 min, PG13, e.tv, 23:00. Drama. An unemployed boxer tries to find a job and a flat for his family on Christmas Eve. John Leguizamo. TAKING A CHANCE ON LOVE ★★★ 2009, 88 min, PG13, e.tv, 01:05. Romantic drama. Two divorced journalists fall in love. Genie Francis. WHERE HOPE GROWS ★★★ 2014, 95 min, PG13, e.tv, 02:45. Drama. A sportsman befriends a man with Down syndrome. Kristoffer Polaha. ACE VENTURA: PET DETECTIVE JR. ★ 2009, 93 min, PG, M-Net, 04:25. Comedy. A detective’s son tries to prove his mom’s innocence when she’s accused of stealing a panda. Josh Flitter. FRIDAY GARFIELD ★★ 2004, 80 min, PG, e.tv, 14:30. Comedy. A spoilt cat is jealous when his owner gets a dog. Breckin Meyer,…

Roll up an old newspaper, dab it in vinegar and throw it into the bin bag. The newspaper will absorb any unsavoury odours Baking powder is a great odour killer – try this easy hack for a heavenly home. You’ll need: 125ml (½c) baking powder 20 drops of an essential oil of your choice (lavender, ylang-ylang or rose) Glass jar Thin fabric or gauze to cover the jar Mix the baking powder and oil in the jar and seal it with the fabric or gauze – this will allow the contents to stay in the jar while the scent escapes. Vodka is another handy smell neutraliser. You’ll need: Spray bottle 200ml water 45ml (3T) vodka 20-30 drops of an essential oil of your choice Fill the spray bottle three-quarters of…

MISSION: GET THE JOB Vanessa stars opposite Tom Cruise in Mission: Impossible – Fallout. She says she prepared for her audition by binge-watching all the Mission: Impossible films. “I was like, ‘I can’t not know what I’m talking about’,” she says. “And then in the meeting, of course, we didn’t talk about any of it.” But she bagged the job. “I met Tom at the studio, we had a chat. He shook my hand and said, ‘Welcome to the family.’ I hadn’t even seen a script.” LOVE IN THE LIMELIGHT Paparazzi shots of Vanessa kissing Tom sparked rumours she was dating her 56-year-old co-star but they were from a scene in the movie. “Even though the crew were there it was all like, ‘The next wife falls at his feet’,”…

GOOD MAN By NE-YO The award-winning singer-songwriter goes back to his R&B roots, dishing up everything from a love story (U Deserve) to upbeat tropical vibes on Push Back (with Bebe Rexha). On Ur Mind (with PartyNextDoor) makes you want to dance. But while the first half is promising, by the second half you feel as if you’ve heard it all. It’s a respectable offering and fans will love it, but will it give R&B the oomph it’s lacking lately? Probably not. – MAXINE PETERS YOUNGBLOOD By 5 SECONDS OF SUMMER “We don’t want to just be for girls – 75% of our lives is proving we’re a real band,” the group’s drummer Ashton Irwin says. It’s true the Aussie boys have become teen heart-throbs – which suited their punk-pop…

THE MAN WHO INVENTED CHRISTMAS Biopic. In severe financial straits and at odds with his family, author Charles Dickens (Downton Abbey’s Dan Stevens) feels inspired after a chance meeting in a graveyard with a grumpy old man (Christopher Plummer) – and convinces a publisher that he can come up with a Christmas bestseller in just six weeks. Basing the book on the old man – whom he names Ebenezer Scrooge – Dickens retreats into his imagination where he interacts with his characters who “help” him shape the story. Brilliantly written, acted and directed, this entertaining flick is a must-see for everyone who’s ever been enthralled by Dickens’ classic A Christmas Carol. – WILLEM MÖLLER 2017. 102 MIN. 7-9PG PV. ALSO ON DSTV BOX OFFICE. WONDER WHEEL Drama. Writer-director Woody Allen’s…

WHO would’ve thought a gust of wind could be the driving force for all sorts of sports? Wind sports are all sporting activities in which wind power plays an important role. Adrenaline junkies all over the world love the feeling of the wind in their hair as they soar through the air or glide along land or sea. LET’S LOOK AT A FEW WIND SPORTS PARAGLIDING Paragliders sit in a secure harness attached to a special kind of parachute called a wing, which allows them to glide through the air. Like parachutists they can take a passenger with them, who’s strapped into the front. Once strapped in, the pilot runs into the wind, the wing inflates and the wing takes flight. Eventually, it will drift to the ground. After touchdown,…

WILD and woolly, sleek and shaven, tough and tufty . . . Talk about sweaty locks these days and chances are you’re more likely to be commenting on what a rugby player has on his head than his position on the field. Gone are the days when crewcuts and short back and sides were the order of the day – and never was this more evident than in this year’s Super Rugby campaign. From Elton Jantjies’ shaved Mohawk to Willie Britz’s shock mop, players’ hair is sending a message when they scrum and tackle. But unlike soccer dudes, whose ’dos are designed to show how cool they are, rugby guys seem to cultivate their hairy helmets to scare off the enemy, says stylist Hannon Bothma aka the Glam Guru. Remember,…