Innholdsfortegnelse for 12-Apr-18 i You South Africa

Regarding Disgusted’s letter on retiring (YOU Say, 15 March), I’m determined not to end up in a home where other people handle my grant and make me feel six years old. I planned my retirement in my fifties. Today, still fit at 84, I’m about to add an extension with ablution facilities to my two-bedroom house. While still on my own two feet I’ll rent it out. When I’m bedridden one day my son, the executor of my estate, will find me a carer and cleaner and manage my estate. Think hard before you give up your independence. Don’t sit and regret your final move. HAPPY DAYS, NORTHPINE Living in a semi-frailcare block of a retirement home is like being at preschool where children become used to being in an…

back pain and fingers too fat to fit a ring on. The only difference is, of course, the little matter of money. While we might slouch off to the shops in seen-better-days dungarees and an outsized T-shirt, this burgeoning group is the epitome of chic. And there sure seem to be plenty of famous people waiting to welcome their ASK any mom and they’ll tell you the same thing: carrying a tiny human in your tummy for nine months is no meander around the mall – and the same goes for the pregnant A-list brigade. They too suffer from swollen ankles, bundle of joy into the world these days – from royalty to reality TV stars, actresses to models, there’s a boepie wherever you look. Some moms have done it…

Social worker Todeline Wessels says it’s preferable to tell a child about their adoption. “There used to be a stigma to adoption – that’s why at the time some parents didn’t tell their children. But it caused more damage,” she says. “From when the child starts talking and is able to understand, you should tell them stories about how you specially chose them. It creates a trust relationship between parent and child,” she advises. She suggests it should be explained this way so the child doesn’t feel they were rejected by their biological parents. “You can, for example, tell the child, ‘You were meant to be with us’. If the child finds out about it only later their feelings of rejection can be intensified and be even more traumatic.”…

IN HER debut book, Whole: Bowl Food for Balance, Cape Town-based foodie Melissa Delport makes it all about eating mindfully, cutting out processed foods and embracing ingredients that fuel you and leave you feeling energised. The photographer and blogger has put together nearly 90 recipes for healthy, balanced and easy meals, each served in a bowl, as the title suggests. The dishes are packed with nourishment. Many are vegetarian or vegan, but there’s plenty for meat-eaters too. SPICED BAKED CAULIFLOWER WITH LENTILS The cauliflower is the hero of this dish, even though its preparation is simply to rub it with spices and cook it whole. SERVES 2 Preparation: 20 min Baking: 40 min Cooking: 1 hour SPICE RUB 5ml (1t) ground cumin 5ml (1t) ground ginger 3ml (generous ½t) black…

IT’S A GUY THING Pick from a variety of products for men – from shavers to hair-removal cream No more bumps and burns when you shave Wet a hand towel or face cloth with warm water and press it against the area you’re about to shave. This softens the hair and skin so that irritation is minimised. Make sure the hair on the area you’re about to shave is perfectly clean. Residue might cause your shaving tool not to function at its best, making it necessary for you to go over the area more than is good for your skin. When shaving, move your shaving gadget in the direction of hair growth (commonly downwards). After shaving, run a cloth under cold water and dab it against the shaved area for…

HOODWINKED INTO A LOVELESS MARRIAGE Q I can’t take my marriage anymore. My wife and I have been married for 10 years and she was happy to have sex for only two of those years. After our first two years of marriage she told me she refuses to sleep with me, or any other man for that matter, as she’s not at all interested in sex, has never been and had simply been “play-acting” for my sake and couldn’t do it anymore. From that moment on she refused to touch me or even let me hold her or cuddle her. She’s turned into a woman I would never have married – a cold, calculating person who’s concerned only about herself and her own needs. She’s extremely controlling and wants to…

KEVIN JAMES (52) On reuniting with Leah “It’s like you’re at the airport and you see a family member at the luggage carousel and you’re like, ‘That’s my island!’ ” On their characters “They have that love-hate thing going on. We don’t know where it will go. Maybe they’ll get together, maybe they won’t, but we wouldn’t want to lock in on anything yet.” He always wanted to be a professional sportsman and even studied sports management after school. “But then I realised there were a lot of better football players than me.” He got into acting after auditioning for and landing a role in a small community theatre production in his native New York. He quit college to pursue it. On success “Actors never know how long they’ll have…

A REAL LABOUR OF LOVE By UB40 This veteran band’s latest album is a solid and satisfying compilation of cover tunes, mostly of ’80s reggae hits peppered with gems from other eras. UB40 add their distinctive sound to familiar songs, and lead singer Ali Campbell still has that magic voice which hasn’t aged since the band’s heyday. There’s nothing new here, but fans will find a lot to enjoy. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS PERFECTION KILLS By DAN PATLANSKY On his seventh album the local guitar hero dishes up more thunderous blues-rock. As always the influence of his hero, Texas guitar legend Stevie Ray Vaughan, is evident in each of the many solos, although Dan also shreds in a metal way. The songwriting isn’t strong on melody but the lyrics are heartfelt,…

IF YOU’RE a bit freaked out about the Facebook privacy data breach, best you turn to our story on page 90. You’ll be amazed by the information you’ve shared with the social network and its advertising partners. I’ve always been conscious of what I share on Facebook and thought my privacy settings were pretty high. But when I followed the steps in our story I saw there were plenty of bits related to advertising I hadn’t looked at before. I was so focused on keeping my pictures and other personal info private that I hadn’t looked further than that. It’s worth looking at – you might have forgotten about apps and permissions that give far greater access than you realise. On the advertising front, you must decide if you’d like…

To the plus-size reader who wrote in about her big family (YOU Say, 29 March), obesity isn’t hereditary. Try a plant-based way of eating and believe me, you’ll lose the weight and feel fantastic! It’s simple. All you have to do is burn more energy than you consume! It’s a no-brainer. WENDY, MIDRAND Regarding packed school lunches, processed meat and listeriosis: my late mom used to put mashed bananas, dates or avocado on our sandwiches. Of course there were also the usual jam, fish paste, pilchard, boiled egg and cheese sandwiches. I’m sure moms of today will come up with great alternatives for sandwich fillings. SOPHIA, SMS Perhaps we should do what the Saudis did: lock all our VIP looters, thieves and crooks into a luxury hotel and release them…

SAVED BY THE BELT Whether you’re curvy like Ashley or slim, a belt cinches your waist at its smallest part to create a beautiful hourglass shape. TIP To create the illusion of a slim waist, wear a bodycon dress with a broad belt. SLIM YOUR MIDDLE For a flattering silhouette, opt for high-waisted skirt like this – it slims the waist and makes you look taller. TIP For a sophisticated edge, swop your basic pencil skirt for a leatherette skirt and a statement top. TUCK IT IN Creating a waist is key. Wear your top short like Ashley’s or tuck in a loose or baggy style. TIP If you have wider hips, choose a jacket that ends above your hips. Jackets can add bulk to your midsection and hide a…

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WONDERING whether to invest your money in things other than unit trusts and savings accounts? Here’s what you need to know about alternative investment options. IN THE NAME OF ART If you’ve been thinking about dabbling in the art world, the same basic rules apply as with other investments: study the market, research artists and ask for advice from people and companies that specialise in art investments. By doing this you’ll minimise your risk and improve the potential gains of your purchase. When buying a work of art as an investment, consider the financial performance of the particular artist’s work. If their works have become more popular and valuable over time, it’s quite possible your capital gain will be positive. Don’t think only famous artists such as Irma Stern and…

THURSDAY THE HEAT ★★★ 2013, 117 min, 16VL, e.tv, 20:30 & 02:20. Comedy. An uptight FBI agent is paired with a foul-mouthed cop. Sandra Bullock. CHANGE OF HEART ★★★ 2016, 85 min, PG13, e.tv, 22:55. Romantic drama. A TV producer stumbles upon a charming bed and breakfast and decides to base a show on it. Leah Pipes. THE HIDDEN ★★★ 2002, 96 min, 16VSNL, e.tv, 00:35. Crime thriller. A woman’s idyllic life is disrupted by her brother-in-law. Kris Carr. THE JULIUS HOUSE: AN AURORA TEAGARDEN MYSTERY ★★★★ 2016, 90 min, PG13V, M-Net, 04:35. Crime drama. A librarian tries to find out what happened to a missing family. Candace Cameron Bure. FRIDAY SPOOKY BUDDIES ★★ 2011, 88 min, A, e.tv, 14:30. Fantasy adventure. Five puppies end up in a spooky mansion.…

In season two Kevin Gable (James) finds himself a single dad of three after the death of his wife, Donna (Erinn Hayes), in season one. Instead of going back to work he starts a private security firm with former cop partner Vanessa Cellucci (Remini). Kevin and Leah starred together for nine years as husband-and-wife team Doug and Carrie Heffernan on Emmy-nominated sitcom King of Queens, which ran until 2007. Kevin says Donna’s mysterious death happened because the show “needed a change” – but it’s clear it also opened a gap for Leah to join the cast. “The plot of the show didn’t have enough drive,” says the actor, adding that his character was originally supposed to be a single dad, so they went back to that idea. Kevin’s real-life brother,…

SHOT CALLER Crime thriller. This wildly implausible story of clean-cut stockbroker Jacob (Game of Thrones’ Nikolaj Coster-Waldau) – who becomes a hardened gangster after being jailed for drunk driving – manages to be pretty gripping. Not unlike in the equally unlikely but wonderfully lurid Brawl in Cell Block 99 (2017), our hero has family on his mind as he violently navigates his way through prison and, once he’s released, the criminal underworld. Coster-Waldau and his tattooed tough guy costars – including The Punisher’s Jon Bernthal, Jeffrey Donovan and Holt McCallany – all deliver solid performances. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS 2017. 115 MIN. 16LV. ALSO ON DSTV BOX OFFICE. THE EMOJI MOVIE Animated comedy. What would teens do without emojis? Pictures are so much easier to communicate with than words (smiley face)!…

‘Wonderfully creepy – like a cold blade on the back of your neck’– JACK REACHER AUTHOR LEE CHILD ON THE CHALK MAN A THRILL A SECOND THE WOMAN IN THE WINDOW By AJ FINN, HarperCollins Anna Fox suffers from agoraphobia and hasn’t left her home in uptown Manhattan in almost a year. Bored out of her mind, she spends her days playing online chess, drinking wine and spying on her neighbours. When Ethan Russell, a boy from across the road, arrives bearing a gift she strikes up a friendship with him and his mother, Jane. But when she looks out the window one day she’s horrified to see what she thinks is an act of domestic violence taking place in the Russell home. Then Jane goes missing. Anna is convinced…

4 LHOTSE (ASIA) Height & name 8 516m Like Everest – the highest peak in the world above sea level – Lhotse is part of the Himalayan mountain range. It lies south of Everest, to which it’s joined by the South Col, a pass 7 600m high. Lhotse means “south peak” in Tibetan. Countries Nepal & China Like Everest, Lhotse lies between Tibet, a region of China, and Nepal. First ascent 1956 Ernst Reiss and Fritz Luchsinger from Switzerland reached the top on 18 May 1956. Chantal Mauduit from France was the first woman to summit Lhotse, on 10 May 1996. Number of ascents 370 At least 370 people have successfully climbed the peak. The main Lhotse climbing route follows the same path as Everest’s Sough Col route but after…

MY FRIEND is wearing a curious expression – a slightly strained smile that does its best to conceal a look of disappointment. It’s unmistakably the face of a woman trying to spare someone’s feelings by pretending to enjoy a black bean quesadilla she really isn’t enjoying much. “No, it’s nice,” she says, clearly in no great rush to eat any more. Besides, I know it isn’t nice because I’ve tried one myself. The reason I’m cooking black bean quesadillas is because they come with a recommendation from acclaimed Canadian singer-songwriter Leslie Feist. They’re one of the recipes in a book she co-authored with chef Adrienne Amato called Pleasures, detailing what she and her band ate during the making of her 2017 album of the same name. Every track on it…

A LITTLE more than a decade ago she was like a freight train speeding towards a solid brick wall. Bloated, bald and out of control, she appeared to be careering towards catastrophe and it was widely believed she’d shot to the heady heights of fame too fast too soon. But just look at Britney Spears (36) now. She’s in the best shape of her life, she’s set to embark on a world tour in July and she’s earning $475 000 (R5,4 million) a show at her Las Vegas residency. She has a handsome boyfriend and the sons she nearly lost custody of are now the joy of her life. Best of all, her father is considering giving her full control of her life again. Jamie Spears was appointed conservator of…

SINGER BEYONCÉ (36) and her husband, rapper JAY-Z (48), mixed business with pleasure as they took in the sights of Kingston, Jamaica, while filming a promo video for their upcoming On The Run II Tour. There was no sign of their kids, Blue Ivy (6) and nine-month-old twins Rumi and Sir, as the couple frolicked on the beach wearing fancy threads. Hard to believe they’re working and have the pressure of a huge world tour ahead. If only we could all look as carefree. Sigh! Meanwhile in other Bey news . . . Girls Trip star TIFFANY HADDISH (38) alleges that while she was partying with Beyoncé and Jay-Z in December, an actress set Queen B off by touching Jay’s chest. Tiffany told GQ magazine the actress then bit Bey…

MAKE OUR SCHOOLS SAFE SCHOOLS are supposed to be safe places for our kids. Parents take all their trust and give it to the teachers and the whole school environment. It’s so devastating to be called to the school that you entrusted your child’s life to and be told that your five-year-old child has died, that she fell into a pit toilet. This is what happened to little Lumka Mketwa in Bizana, Eastern Cape, recently. It’s so sad. I’m calling on all the stakeholders to hear this plea: come and together help make our schools safe for everyone. It’s totally unacceptable because this recent accident is a repeat of a previous one. In 2014 Michael Komape, a Grade R learner in Limpopo, died in similar circumstances. We can’t keep losing…

The 146 recipes in the new issue of YOU Indulge are so tempting even the most resolute dieter will be salivating. Whether you’re in the mood for hearty meals or melt-in-the-mouth, luscious desserts, you’ll find the perfect dish here. There’s plenty to choose from: curried lamb chops, red wine chicken pie, ricotta flapjacks with bacon and Brie, Mexican-spiced chocolate mousse, and the ever-popular caramel-oozing Peppermint Crisp tart are but a few. YOU Indulge issue 2 is in stores now, or order your copies online at youstore.co.za or contact Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or johan.terblanche@media24.com. 40% OFF SUBSCRIBE DIGITAL ONLY R69 A MONTH  Go to you.co.za and click on “subscribe”. Take up our special offer and subscribe to YOU’s digital version for just R69 a month – that’s a cool R15,92…

THERE were many times when he asked himself if he was doing the right thing. When Hannes Maré looked at his son Eben he often wondered how he’d react if he found out the truth: that he and his wife weren’t his biological parents. But Hannes was too scared to tell Eben because he remembered the oath he’d sworn in court more than half a century ago. A magistrate made him promise never to try to find the biological parents of the baby boy he was adopting. And now decades later everything he feared has come true. After discovering the truth Eben isn’t only furious with Hannes and his wife, Eugené, for keeping him in the dark for so long, but at age 51 is turning to the courts to…

HE’S a sight to behold as he sashays across the stage, his lanky frame clad in a dress and heels and his famous Afro hidden under a doek. And then he – or rather she – breaks into song and the audience goes wild. In short, it’s Aunty Merle in all her glory. The man playing her is of course Marc Lottering, one of SA’s most loved comedians and the creator and star of Aunty Merle – The Musical. Longtime fans of the Cape Town-based funnyman will be familiar with this auntie from Belgravia Road on the Cape Flats. For years she’s been making cameo appearances in Marc’s stand-up routine – but last year he decided it was “Merle’s time to shine” and, voila, a musical comedy was born. Boasting…

PICANHA STEAK WITH CHIMICHURRI SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 15 min Resting: 10 min 800g picanha steak salt and freshly ground pepper 15ml (1T) olive oil 6 rosemary sprigs, tied in a bunch 15ml (1T) butter CHIMICHURRI 20g flatleaf parsley, chopped 4 garlic cloves, crushed 2 red chillies, chopped 125ml (½c) olive oil juice of 1 lemon 1 oregano sprig, chopped, or 5ml (1t) dried oregano 5ml (1t) freshly ground pepper 5ml (1t) sea salt flakes or 2,5ml (½t) fine salt 1 Season the steak with salt and pepper. Rub the oil all over. 2 Heat a nonstick pan until smoking hot and put the steak in the pan, fatty side down. Fry for 2-3 minutes or until the fat changes colour and starts rendering. 3 Turn over and…

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ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL Time to make use of opportunities coming your way With the Sun still moving through your sign you should make hay while the sun shines. You may want to chase an innovative career goal, get your body into first-rate shape or start a new project. As it is, Mercury turns direct in Aries this week, signalling a period of forward motion and smooth operations. However, excitement-seeking actions and hasty changes can bring about more than you’d bargained for – so take care. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 29, 32, 50, 14, 2, 52 TAURUS 20 APRIL – 20 MAY Your personal year is drawing to a close, making it a good week to put the demands of the material world on the backburner and give thought…

Legendary rock guitarist Carlos Santana (70) and his band are visiting the country for the second time as part of their Divination tour. Fans can catch them – along with supporting act Mango Groove – at the Cape Town Stadium on 11 April, Durban ICC on 13 April and Jozi’s Ticketpro Dome on 14 April. 1 Started in the late ’60s, the band pioneered Latin-infused rock music. Over the course of their five-decade career they’ve sold more than 100 million records and won 10 Grammys – nine of which were for the 1999 hit album Supernatural which spawned the hits Maria, Maria and Smooth ( featuring Rob Thomas). 2 Carlos has been named one of the top 20 greatest guitarists of all time by Rolling Stone magazine. He believes in…

‘The idea of filming in the wild with a narrator was something of a revolutionary concept, but to my surprise everybody seemed to think it would work’ THE lady at Jakarta’s Ministry of Information took off her glasses and smiled at us. “And why do you want this permit?” she asked. “We’re from England,” I explained. “And we’ve come to Indonesia to make a film. We hope to travel through Java, Bali, Borneo and eventually to the island of Komodo, photographing and collecting animals.” The smile that had spread across her face at the word “film” faded as I mentioned “travel”, and disappeared completely when I said the words “collecting animals”. “I don’t think this is possible,” she said. There was a pause. “However,” she added, brightening, “I’ll arrange everything…

SHE’S one of the most familiar faces on South Africa’s celebrity landscape, gracing magazine covers and appearing in hit films. But even fans who’ve followed her stellar career for years will see her now as never before. This time there’s no war paint covering her smooth skin. Instead Leleti Khumalo is showing every white patch on her body in new e.tv drama series Imbewu: The Seed. The actress, who shot to fame as a teenager in Sarafina!, is also trying her hand behind the scenes as a producer of the new show. But it’s her role as MaZulu that’s bound to get people talking, partly because of the juicy role but also because Leleti’s showing her skin condition onscreen for the first time. She has only an hour to spare…

YOU can’t keep a good man down – just ask Olympic sprinter WAYDE VAN NIEKERK. The gold medallist has been hard at work trying to silence critics who say he’ll never run again after he injured his knee during a charity rugby match last October. The 25-year-old has been hitting the gym with performance coach and therapist O’BAKENG MOLOPYANE, who’s part of a team of specialists helping Wayde with his rehabilitation. “I’m grateful to all who are contributing to this successful process of healing and rehab,” he recently posted on Instagram. Wayde has also vowed to regain his top form. “Yes, I am stronger than ever before. Yes, I am the greatest. Yes, I will rewrite history. Yes, I will take all my records back,” he captioned another snap. Recapturing…

ACTRESSES CARA DELEVINGNE (25) and PARIS JACKSON (20) have finally put an end to fevered speculation by confirming they’re an item. The couple – who first hit it off at last May’s MTV Movie & TV Awards – kissed and played around as they enjoyed a double date with Paris’ godfather MACAULAY CULKIN (37) and his girlfriend, actress BRENDA SONG (30). According to a source, Paris’ younger brother Bigi (16), formerly known as Blanket – she’s also sister to Prince (21) – thinks their father, the late pop icon Michael Jackson, would have been proud of his daughter’s romance. “Michael taught them that love knew no bounds, and that includes race and sexual orientation.” Sweet! Guess who’s expecting! The unlikely pair had tongues wagging when they hooked up a year…