Innholdsfortegnelse for 29-Mar-18 i You South Africa

WE’VE often written about cellphone and internet safety and the dangers that lurk out there – especially for vulnerable young people. Parents try their best to instil sound practices in their kids and warn them to be vigilant – but things can go awry. The family of a teenager from a top Bloemfontein school found themselves in the midst of a nightmare that brought the boy to the brink of suicide. It started innocently enough, as these things often do – but then things got scary. The ordeal has made the boy’s dad rethink the rules he had for his kids and their cellphones because something like this doesn’t always happen to other people – it can happen to you (read the story on page 16). But of course, smartphones…

Cyril Ramaphosa inherited a mess and has already started to clean up by appointing competent people in top positions who know the difference between right and wrong (YOU, 15 March). We expect them to be fair and honest servants of the public. HAPPY THAT JZ HAMBA’D, LYNNWOOD GLEN Being a young citizen, I’m not really sure how I feel about the future of this country. First of all, South Africa is known for its diversity and culture but lately it seems the country has become more divided. We need to learn to forgive and move on. I hope our new president will be able to bring about these positive changes. We need a leader to lead us towards greatness again! AKEEFA JATTIEM, EMAIL I wanted Cyril Ramaphosa to be president…

SHE’S never been shy about putting herself out there – from that famous leg-crossing scene in Basic Instinct to a sizzling nude magazine photoshoot when she was 57. And now she’s turned 60, screen siren Sharon Stone has done it again, marking the milestone by stripping down and posing for a bondage-style lingerie photoshoot. Who can blame her? This is a woman who came perilously close to death 17 years ago but who clawed her way back to the top. Now, with a body that puts many women half her age to shame and a saucy self-confidence to match, the bombshell has demonstrated once again she’s a force to be reckoned with. In a recent Instagram post to promote her latest movie, All I Wish, Sharon oozes sex appeal. Clad…

‘My biggest fear was that the other kids would find out and really make my life hell’ HE WAS certain his life was over. Melissa, the pretty schoolgirl from Johannesburg who’d persuaded him to send her nude photos and videos of himself, wasn’t who she said she was. And now she was blackmailing him, threatening to send the images and footage to the whole school unless he did exactly as she said. Because Melissa wasn’t a schoolgirl at all – and the havoc “she” created sent Jason du Toit* spiralling into despair. At a loss for who to turn to, the 14-year-old, a learner at a top Bloemfontein school, called a suicide helpline. “At that moment I felt as if there was no other way out. It doesn’t matter what…

THE HEALTHY CHOICE Wholegrains are packed with goodness: they contain plenty of fibre – which promotes digestion – minerals and B vitamins, starch, protein and good fats. Used in food, wholegrains are virtually the same as in nature: hardly processed or changed. They still have all three layers: the bran which contains fibre and antioxidants; the endosperm which has starch and protein; and the germ with its B vitamins, minerals and good fats. The best choice is whole-kernel intact grains that haven’t been processed. Flour should preferably be stoneground because it doesn’t heat up during the slow grinding process or get bleached, so it retains all its goodness. Buy wholegrains that are high in fibre. Refined grains have been stripped of their bran and germ, leaving the endosperm which contains…

SHE’S A FEW WOMEN ROLLED INTO ONE Q My girlfriend is the most beautiful woman but also the most complex. On the one hand she can be very prim and proper but sometimes she can be a real party girl and even embarrass me. Then there are times when she’s really butch and swears and shouts and acts like a man. At other times she’s like a little girl and wants to sit on my lap and calls me “Daddy”. It’s confusing. She’s 26 now and I know she had a difficult childhood. She was sexually abused for an extended time by her father and after her mother left him she was physically abused by her mother’s string of boyfriends too. She’s an air hostess and is obsessive about her…

Pacific Rim Uprising is set in a future where Earth is at war with gigantic sea monsters called the Kaiju. To fight them humans have created the Jaegers – giant robots controlled by pilots. Pacific Rim raked in almost half a billion dollars at the global box office. Guillermo del Toro, who directed the first movie, turned down the sequel to direct The Shape of Water, which won the 2018 Oscar for best picture. John Boyega (below with Scott in a scene from the film), who reprises his role as Jake Pentecost, was also a producer on the movie. The film marks Steven S DeKnight’s directorial debut. He’s best known as the creator and head writer of the Starz series Spartacus. SOURCES: HAUTELIVING.COM, DAILY-MAIL.CO.UK , PEOPLE.COM, IMDB.COM…

THE DARK TOWER Sci-fi action. Adapting popular author Stephen King’s sprawling sci-fiwestern-fantasy epic for the big screen was never going to be easy, and this movie, which borrows elements from across his eight-part book series, doesn’t quite deliver the goods. It stars Idris Elba as the Gunslinger, a warrior doing battle with The Man in Black (Matthew McConaughey), who has grim plans for the universe. But as always Elba gives it his all and while it’s far from a great movie, it’s an entertaining diversion. – DENNIS CAVERNELIS 2017. 13HV. 95 MIN. ALSO ON DSTV BOX OFFICE AN INCONVENIENT SEQUEL: TRUTH TO POWER Documentary. This sequel to 2006’s Oscar-winning global-warming primer, An Inconvenient Truth, follows former US vice president Al Gore as he continues his efforts to persuade government leaders…

DANGEROUS MINDS By JANET EVANOVICH Headline Publishing In this second instalment in the Knight & Moon series, Buddhist monk Wayan Bagus has lost his island. It was about 300km northeast of Samoa and had a mountain, beaches, a rainforest and a volcano. Now it’s vanished without a trace. He turns to a friend, the extremely rich Emerson Knight, who in turn enlists the help of his cousin Vernon and Riley Moon to help find the island – or, if that’s not possible, the reason it disappeared. Riley has a Harvard degree and Vernon believes in Bigfoot, while Emerson treats everything as a big joke. Together with Wayan, the peculiar trio embark on a mission that will eventually save the world from destruction. Along the way they get to know about…

TREAT your family to the goodness of sorghum. King Korn Mabele is a traditional South African staple but it's also become a delightful delicacy enjoyed by many. Boost your meals with this healthy dish that will keep you and your loved ones going all day. King Korn Mabele is available in Fine Meal and Coarse Meal varieties, making it perfect for all meal times. MORE ABOUT MABELE King Korn Mabele is made of Africa's supergrain, sorghum. Known for its high antioxidant properties, it's an ideal meal solution for you and your family. What's more, sorghum isn't genetically modified and is naturally gluten-free and low-GI, which means that it keeps you feeling fuller for longer! TRY THIS MEAT-FREE, 100% VEGETARIAN MABELE MEAL WITH UMFINO PAP SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 30 min COOKING:…

‘I was completely under his spell, bewitched by his grey-blue eyes’ HE WAS the rock star of the science world, a genius in a doomed body whose mind flew free to the darkest reaches of the universe, even though he was barely able to flex a finger. Thanks to Stephen Hawking, the world knows a lot more about the mysteries of space and the origins of the universe. He captured the imagination of millions by turning unfathomable phenomena into dinner-table conversation. Yet one of the most astonishing things about him is that he had a career at all. Diagnosed as a student with motor neurone disease – the same condition that killed Bok legend Joost van der Westhuizen – he was given just 14 months to live. But he defied…

Plogging is an activity done in Sweden. It involves cleaning up the beaches and city as you jog or walk. What a wonderful way to keep a country clean! SA can sure do with this as we’re one of the filthiest countries in the world. So people, take a bin bag and gloves, get out there and get cleaning. CLEAN UP, MIDRAND I’d like to say that the fiction illustrations by Mindi Flemming are excellent! They capture the essence of every story. Thank you, Mindi! ADMIRER, SMS To add to the idea of Sandra from Cape Town (YOU Say, 15 March), hair salons should also ask their clients to bring their own towels, to reduce their laundry loads. BERYL, CAPE TOWN This morning when I was driving to work there…

WITHOUT glancing up once she walks past the lookout points where tourists flock to admire the scenery that surrounds the spectacular Knysna Heads. Elsie Zeelie (63) has her gazed fixed on the path she’s walked again and again over the past nine years. She stops, pointing to a gap forced open between the trees to reveal a narrow, muddy track. “We have to go down here,” she says, crouching under the branches. She pushes ahead until she finally stops again and points towards a forested area. “That’s where they found my daughter’s body,” she says, her voice flat. “She’d been strangled and was in a sitting position. She was covered with branches and leaves so she couldn’t be seen from the path.” For nine years Elsie had to face every…

KITCHEN CHIC The key to an effortless look is subtlety. Balance metallics with natural finishes such as cement and wood, and remember metals are diverse so go ahead and mix them up. Different textures and finishes of the same metals – polished, matte, brushed or hammered – add style to a room. Metallic kitchenware that’s both functional and decorative deserves to be seen – think floating shelves like the ones on the left. Black cupboards and dark grey worktops ensure mixed metal pieces get the attention they deserve. Add plants or herbs for a bit of calming green to ground the look. BATHROOM SPLENDOUR A few silver, gold and dusty pink items can add warmth to your bathroom. Dark, textured tiles offset cooler silver shades, and a blend of warm…

HOURGLASS STYLE GOALS Highlight your natural curves to balance your upper and lower body. Flaunt your well-defined waist. GO FOR Scoop, sweetheart, halter and V necklines Wrap tops and dresses Full-circle, A-line, knee-length and pencil skirts Peplum tops, dresses and skirts Bodycon dresses RECTANGLE STYLE GOALS Create the illusion of curves and a defined waist. Flaunt your lean arms and legs. GO FOR Off-the-shoulder, scoop, round and open necklines Collared tops and dresses embellished with ruffles and/or bows Bias-cut dresses, skirts and shift tunics PEAR STYLE GOALS Accentuate your waistline and arms and add volume to your shoulders and upper body for a balanced silhouette. Avoid pieces that draw attention to your hips. GO FOR Boat, cowl, ruffle, wide-V and U necklines High-waisted pants and skirts A-line dresses and skirts…

FAIR/LIGHT When you have fair complexion, you need a blush with a cool undertone such as a light pink or rose colour with a faint hint of purple or blue. Soft peach with a yellow undertone also works well. Dark or bright colours could look harsh against your skin. To contour using a blush, find a neutral matte shade that’s one shade darker than your skin tone and blend along your jawline. TAN/MEDIUM These skin tones look good with colour, so find something bright or rich such as apricot or guava with an orange undertone to add a flattering warmth to your complexion. Anything too pale will make your skin look washed out. Try a darker blush such as a deep tan to contour, then go over it with a…

AS MUCH as you may be in love right now, it’s a fact that relationships sometimes end – and that you could be left with a mountain of debt. There’s also the danger of wanting to give your kid the world even though you can’t afford it. Here are five debt traps to look out for when it comes to loved ones – and how to avoid them. 1 SIGNING SURETY This is when your partner borrows money – whether a cash or home loan – and you agree in writing to be their guarantor. That means if they default on the loan, you’re responsible for the unpaid debt. And you remain responsible, even if the relationship ends. Your name is on the contract and if the other person doesn’t…

Samsung’s latest addition to its budget A series has been dubbed the “better-late-than-never Galaxy S8 mini” and boasts features that come pretty close to the world’s top-of-the-range smartphones. It has an almost bevel-less screen experience (at 75% to the S8’s 83%), infinity display, 4GB Ram, 16- and 8MP cameras at the front and 16MP at the back. When it comes to security, the device is ahead of the pack. The 2018 A8 is the first phone in the Samsung A series with facial recognition lock system. This feature was previously available only in the S8 and S8+. You can unlock your phone in several ways: through facial recognition, a pattern, a security password or a fingerprint scanner (conveniently located under the rear camera). The A8 is slightly bulkier than the…

ARIES 21 MARCH – 19 APRIL It’s time to learn to guard your tongue Mercury, master of speech, is going backwards through your sign. This might cause communication problems, especially for a feisty Aries with a quick tongue. Since words can presently cause considerable damage it’s advisable to reconsider your answers and edit your comments. Although this applies to all areas of your life it seems that it’s in your professional life in particular where you’ll have to count your words. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 51, 50, 34, 52, 47, 49 TAURUS 20 APRIL – 20 MAY Your planet, Venus, moves into your sign this week, auguring good tidings in general. You should be able to cruise through the week with ease, whether you want to attract material wealth or good…

Months after her daughter’s rape and brutal murder still hasn’t been solved, Mildred Hayes (McDormand) decides to fight back and her first move is to place three large billboards outside town that criticise the local police chief, Willoughby (Harrelson). The situation quickly escalates as the locals start taking sides. Willoughby has cancer and many people feel Mildred’s billboards are insensitive. Then his biggest supporter, police officer Dixon (Rockwell), starts a bitter feud with Mildred. Three Billboards outside Ebbing, Missouri is a tragicomic study of rural life. It shows the pettiness that sometimes leads to massive conflict in small towns, but the pain and loss the characters experience are still deep, real and universal. Like writer-director McDonagh’s other films, In Bruges (2008) and Seven Psychopaths (2012), Three Billboards switches between scenes…

VICTORIA FALLS, ZAMBIA & ZIMBABWE Victoria Falls are in the Zambezi River between Zambia and Zimbabwe. It’s not the widest nor highest waterfall in the world (see box) but it’s called the largest because it takes up the most space if you multiply the maximum height (108m) by the breadth (about 1 700m). This is only in the rainy season, from February to May, when the Zambezi is in flood. In the dry season the waterfall is much smaller. The waterfall was named by British explorer David Livingstone, who was probably the first European to see it. He came across it in 1855 and named it after Queen Victoria, the British monarch at the time. There are statues of Livingstone on both the Zimbabwean and Zambian sides of the falls.…

EVER had nightmares about being buried alive? Or fretted that a great white shark is going to chomp you as you splash about in the waves on a seaside holiday? And as America and North Korea delighted in my-button-is-bigger-than-yours bluster not long ago, have you lain awake at night wondering what life would be like in a nuclear wasteland with just hardy cockroaches for company? In this extract from an entertaining – if somewhat macabre – new book, And Then You’re Dead: A Scientific Exploration of the World’s Most Interesting Ways to Die, journalist Cody Cassidy and scientist Paul Doherty probe these questions and more. Warning: strong stomach required. YOU WERE HIT BY A METEORITE Let’s say the speeding space rock you’re standing under is 1,6km wide. That means even…

WATCHINGhimleap into the air is a sight to behold. Hesoarstoaseemingly impossible height, legs extended in splits, arms taut, head proud, his body poised to perfection. At 1,6m Kristof Skhosana isn’t particularly tall for a ballet dancer but that hasn’t held him back. “He uses absolutely every centimetre of his body,” his dance coach, Kelsey Middleton, says proudly. And this talented Pretoria whizzkid has now danced his way to success overseas. Last year he attended the World Lyrical Dance Federation’s workshop in Stratford-upon-Avon in the UK and the American Ballet Academy’s summer school in New York – both times on bursaries awarded for his extraordinary skill. Not bad for a kid who was born on a pavement in Groblersdal, Limpopo, 21 years ago. Today, wheelie bag in tow, Kristof walks briskly…

FANS of beautiful celeb pairings had barely recovered from Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux’s recent shock split when they were rocked by reports that ZAYN MALIK (25) and GIGI HADID (22) had officially broken up. Suspicions were first raised when the former One Directioner unfollowed Gigi – whom he’d been dating for two years – and her mother, Yolanda Hadid (54), on Instagram. A few days later followers’ fears were confirmed when they announced their decision to split on social media, with both vowing to continue their “close friendship”. “The reality is that they’ve grown apart,” an insider told UK newspaper The Sun. “They have crazy work schedules that would put pressure on any relationship.” Shortly before the split was announced the Dusk Till Dawn singer raised eyebrows when he…

‘To think I nearly lost out on such a loving man because of my addiction to social media’ MR RIGHT WAS RIGHT BESIDE ME! WHEN I was looking for a partner, I’d spend hours on social media searching for a suitable candidate. When I travelled to work I’d focus my attention on the phone, chatting to yet another man I’d like to meet. On the bus there was a gentleman who never ceased to greet me, even though I made it clear I wasn’t interested. One evening I was stressed and exhausted after work and didn’t touch my phone. The gentleman must have seen how miserable I was and came to sit next to me. He introduced himself in such a way that it made me laugh. That got me…

PORK TROTTER STEW SERVES 4-6 Preparation: 10 min Cooking: 1-2 hours 500g pork trotters, sliced 250-300g pork stewing meat or shanks salt and freshly ground pepper 15ml (1T) oil 1 onion, chopped 4 garlic cloves, crushed 2 bay leaves 1 litre (4c) chicken or vegetable stock 250g butternut, cubed 1 can (410g) brown lentils, drained 2 chillies, chopped (optional) handful of fresh coriander, chopped TO SERVE 4-6 rotis extra coriander (optional) 1 Season all the meat well with salt and pepper. 2 Heat the oil in a pressure cooker and brown the meat. Add the onion, garlic, bay leaves and stock and bring to the boil. Secure the lid of the cooker and cook under pressure for 1-2 hours or until the meat is tender. 3 Remove the lid and…

Timeless Invest in black pointy high-heeled pumps for work and play. This classic shoe never goes out of style. Uplifting This ’70s favourite is making a comeback. It’s ideal for balancing fuller pieces like wide-legged pants. Low-key If high heels aren’t your thing, go for two-tone or printed slingbacks with kitten heels. Bootylicious Booties are ideal for dressing up jeans and a T-shirt. Statement Sexy stilettos can take a look from drab to fab in an instant. Elevated Wedges are comfy and chic. A brown pair with gold tones is hot right now. Uber-chic Tan heels are perfect for making your legs look longer, and they go with any outfit. Shimmery Be dance floor-ready and shine in metallic heels. A rose gold pair is elegant and versatile. HANDLE WITH CARE…

THURSDAY LIMITLESS ★★★★ 2011, 105 min, PG13VL, e.tv, 20:30 & 00:30. Sci-fi thriller. A writer takes an experimental drug that allows him to use his brain to maximum capacity. Bradley Cooper. MEETING EVIL ★★★ 2012, 89 min, 16VL, e.tv, 22:40 & 02:25. Thriller. A real estate agent must save his family from a killer. Samuel L Jackson. PIXI POST & THE GIFT BRINGERS ★★ 2016, 90 min, A, M-Net, 04:30. Animated fantasy. An elf searches for a missing spirit of Christmas. FRIDAY THOMAS & FRIENDS: SODOR’S LEGEND OF THE LOST TREASURE ★★★ 2015, 63 min, A, e.tv, 05:30. Animated adventure. A train engine and his friends set out to find a lost treasure. CARE BEARS: JOURNEY TO JOKE-A-LOT ★★ 2004, 80 min, A, e.tv, 07:00. Animated fantasy. A Care Bear…

FLYING HIGH In the seqeul to Pacific Rim (2013) the 32-year-old plays Nate Lambert, co-pilot to John Boyega’s character Jake Pentecost. The adventure-loving Scott says he was drawn to the role as he’s a qualified pilot in real life. “I was fascinated with aviation from a young age.” Turns out a love of flying runs in the family – his mom, Jacelyn Reeves, is a former flight attendant and his dad, renowned filmmaker Clint Eastwood, is also a pilot. “As a kid I’d fly with my dad and I remember thinking it was the coolest thing ever.” ON HIS OWN STEAM He’s never traded on his famous name. In fact, Scott used his mom’s surname when he started out in show business. He auditioned for all his dad’s movies and…

NETFLIX DYNASTY SEASON 1 It’s a Carrington-Colby comeback! Dallas rival Dynasty has been ushered into the 21st century by the makers of popular drama series The OC and Gossip Girl. Unlike the new Dallas this isn’t a continuation of the original show but a remake with an all-new cast, including Melrose Place’s Grant Show. Like the original it’s all about power plays, backstabbing and relationship dramas. And while the new Dynasty isn’t as delightful as the ’80s version, it’s still a lot of fun. M-NET COUNTERPART SEASON 1 Starts Tuesday 27 March at 22:00. This sci-fi series stars JK Simmons (Whiplash) as Howard Silk, an office worker at a company based in Berlin, Germany. When his doppelganger, Howard Prime, turns up Howard finds out the organisation he works for monitors…

PRETTY SHINING PEOPLE – George Ezra The Budapest singer’s latest track from his soon-to-be-released second album boasts a seriously catchy chorus. I’VE BEEN LOOKING – Johnny Clegg featuring Jesse Clegg A beautiful ballad by the former Juluka front-man and his son, marking their first professional collaboration. FREAK – Jeremy Loops We love this quirky ditty with its dubstep feel. It’s something fresh from the Down South singer! SHE LOVES ME NOW – UB40 The first single off new album A Real Labour of Love is vintage UB40, and Ali Campbell’s voice doesn’t seem to have aged – the band formed in December 1978!…

IT GETS WORSE One day little Johnny is digging a hole in the backyard. The next-door neighbour spots this and decides to investigate. “Hello Johnny,” he says, “what are you up to?” “My goldfish died and I’m going to bury him,” Johnny replies. “That’s a really big hole for a goldfish, isn’t it?” the neighbour asks. “Well, that’s because he’s inside your cat.” WORKS EVERY TIME A man approaches a stunning-looking woman in a huge supermarket and says, “I’ve lost my wife among the aisles. Would you mind chatting to me for a few minutes?” “Why?” the woman says. “Because every time I talk to a beautiful woman my wife appears out of nowhere.” THE WRONG TREE A jogger is running past some houses when he comes across a fierce-looking…

HE SHOULD be on top of the world with an 11-wicket haul, awarded Man of the Match and back at the top of international bowling rankings. But in the aftermath of the second Test against Australia, Kagiso Rabada’s cracking performance was largely forgotten. Instead everybody’s been talking about his fiery temper and a certain shouldering incident. The Aussies cried foul after a pumped-up KG bumped into skipper Steve Smith after taking his wicket in the thrilling Port Elizabeth encounter. The incident was caught on camera – and match authorities didn’t waste time slapping the 22-year-old fast-bowling sensation with a two-match ban. Rabada appealed, hoping to be allowed to play in the third Test at Newlands. By the time of going to print the outcome still wasn’t known – but whether…

IT’S been 17 years since Lara Croft blazed a trail on the big screen, high-powered weapons strapped to her thighs, braids flicking with every move of her panther-like power. Now the never-say-die adventurer is back – with a twist. Instead of Angelina Jolie’s sultry, tough-as-nails explorer, the 2018 Lara is young and vulnerable, and has no idea what the heck she’s doing. The reboot of the beloved gaming franchise stars Alicia Vikander, who’s never taken on a big-budget, action-adventure romp like this. Does the doe-eyed Swede have what it takes to step into Angie’s bad-ass boots? ANGIE It was 2000 when 25-year-old Angelina (now 42) first laced up her boots and strapped on her gun holster to film Lara Croft: Tomb Raider. The flick made her an international household name…

BLUE IVY, THE ART CONNOISSEUR Not only did BLUE IVY (6) show up to the Wearable Art Gala in a gold dress – she also bid $19 000 (R228 000) on a painting of Sidney Poitier. Unfortunately $19k was the max for JAY-Z (48) and BEYONCÉ (36), who had to wrest the paddle from Blue’s tiny hands, and she lost out to director Tyler Perry. KEEPING UP WITH THE JONESDOUGLASES Oscar-winning actress CATHERINE ZETA JONES (48), husband MICHAEL DOUGLAS (73) and their two kids CARYS (14) and DYLAN (17) recreated an adorable family photo – more than a decade later. Sweet! HELLO, CHICAGO! Kim Kardashian (37) has finally given fans a glimpse of her latest addition. She and husband Kanye West (40) welcomed CHICAGO, born via surrogate, in January. Kim…