Innholdsfortegnelse for 05 November 2015 i You South Africa

A SISTER LOST SISTERS are supposed to love one another and I always hoped mine would love me. I watched other siblings with a longing to have the same loving relationship but instead endured my sister’s tantrums and obvious dislike of me. I’m 57 years old, and in the past three years have finally found peace. Before this my older sister made sure I was controlled by her every command. Failure to do this caused rages and I’d be belittled if I disagreed with anything. She’d cut contact with me and encourage the whole family to do the same. I usually kept quiet and took the blame to keep my family from hurting, especially my parents. I moved to another city to avoid the abuse but eventually moved back to…

1986 and 1987 Darren is diagnosed with melanoma on his lower back which spreads to his testicles, left leg and lymph glands a year later. He declines chemotherapy treatment and has the glands surgically removed. 2009 He drops 38 kg with the help of personal fitness trainer Lisa Raleigh. DECEMBER 2009 Darren and Sarah-Kate are married. 8 SEPTEMBER 2011 He quits his job as a Jacaranda FM DJ and is dismissed as SuperSport presenter after hurling an offensive racial slur at a black colleague during a team- building event. 17 NOVEMBER 2011 Darren and Sarah-Kate’s first child, Mark, is born. 2012 The couple are reconciled after separating for a time. Darren admits he was severely depressed, a workaholic and drank heavily. 27 FEBRUARY 2012 Sarah-Kate discovers a lump on the…

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I THOUGHT I’D FOUND MY DREAM WOMAN Q I’m a 23-year old woman who found love on the internet a few months ago. She was the woman of my dreams and a week after meeting online I travelled across the country to meet her. She’s 13 years older than I am. A month later she had her marriage annulled and asked me to move in with her, which I did. I left my family, friends and studies because she made promises that were never kept. She was fired from her job for absenteeism and now we’re in trouble financially. I desperately need to find a job to support us. I always try to look on the bright side but lately everything seems so hopeless. I take care of her every…

A All ages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parental guidance S Sex V Violence LISTEN TO THIS! BEAUTY BEHIND THE MADNESS THE WEEKND The 25-year-old Canadian’s second album is a star-studded affair, with guest appearances from the likes of Labrinth and Ed Sheeran. It’s his first No 1 album but it’s a huge departure from his previous work – so much so that some alienated fans have labelled him a sell-out for adopting a more pop-friendly sound. This is his “coming of age story”, he says – he’s reinventing himself and pushing the boundaries. But the songs are still raw, honest, dark, seductive and sex-driven. It’s one of the best records of the year but the lyrics are explicit, so don’t pop it into…

TWELVE years – that’s how long fans have been waiting to find out what happened to Lin, the hero of Shantaram. After escaping from prison, where he was serving a long sentence for armed robbery, the Australian fugitive began a new life in India working as a passport forger for the Bombay mafia. So why has author Gregory David Roberts kept readers in suspense for so long? “When Shantaram was published, I took a break for 10 years and worked with charities and foundations, raising money and helping to raise their profiles,” he explains. In many ways the Australian writer’s real-life story is just as dramatic as Lin’s. He too resorted to robbing banks to finance his all-consuming heroin addiction. Captured in 1978, he was sentenced to 19 years in…

For birth charts and other astrology enquiries email Petra at YourStars@you.co.za or go to astrozone.co.za. SAGITTARIUS NOV 22 – DEC 20 One of the hallmarks of a true Sagittarius is to aim high. Your career horoscope is presently a focal point, making it an appropriate time to take the bigger picture of your professional aspirations into account. Be proactive, make plans and take action in regard to further studies, marketing yourself and exploring business opportunities. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 45, 22, 4, 21, 7, 37 CAPRICORN DEC 21 – JAN 20 With pleasure-seeking Venus moving into your professional horoscope this week it’s fitting to ease off on work obligations. Having a business lunch, attending an office party or signing up for a corporate golf day is a great way of combining…

1 SHE TURNS NEGATIVES INTO POSITIVES Zendaya (19) made a powerful statement with her response to Fashion Police presenter Giuliana Rancic’s comment that her dreadlocks at the Academy Awards made her look as if she “smells like patchouli oil or weed”. “My wearing my hair in locks on an Oscar red carpet was to showcase them in a positive light, to remind people of colour that our hair is good enough” she said in response. The KC Undercover star, who was born Zendaya Maree Stoermer Coleman, launched her own Barbie doll a few months later based on her Oscar look, saying, “When I was little I couldn’t find a Barbie that looked like me. Times have changed” 2 SHE HANDLES HATERS WITH MATURITY She treats trolls with infinite patience and…

What bores you to tears? Average and unambitious humans. And excuses bore me beyond tears. Which is more important – trust or love? Love, because with love comes trust and all those positive things (vomit). Would you rather be poor and happy or sad and rich? I’d rather be rich and happy, thank you very much. But jokes aside, as clichéd as it sounds, my happiness means the world to me. Even when my family was struggling we were always happy. Richness comes in many forms. What do you miss most from your childhood? That the worst thing I had to deal with was the death of my goldfish. The older we get the more we’re exposed to death and the evils of the world. I miss my innocence and…

I WATCHED in awe as the #FeesMust-Fall movement gained momentum across the country – and felt great admiration for the students who were demanding a free education for all. As the protest swept across campuses all over South Africa it became clear that it wasn’t only the students who believed in their cause; everyone I spoke to backed them and believed they were right to make these demands. I think this uprising, the first of its kind since South Africa became a democracy, marks a turning point for our government – and country. Never before has the waste of taxpayers’ money been so clearly highlighted; money that desperately needs to be channelled in the right direction: education for our future leaders. I remember my student days when we stormed the…

Kate was allowed to dip into the royal treasure trove and chose the delicate Papyrus tiara, also known as the Lotus Flower, for the second time. The first time she donned the Egyptian-style headpiece was at the Queen’s annual diplomatic reception at Buckingham Palace in 2013. Sources say she chose to wear it again rather than choose a new one so as not to steal the limelight – although it didn’t seem to work. The pearl and diamond tiara was made out of a necklace gifted to the Queen Mother by her husband, George VI, affectionately known as Bertie. She eventually gave it to her daughter Princess Margaret, who wore it often. “It’s a very pretty, lightweight tiara,” Leslie Field, author of The Queen’s Jewels, told US magazine People of…

Germany introduced tuition fees for the first time in 2006 and 2007 – and students weren’t pleased. Protests started in 2008 and grew louder over the years but things took a turn when the public started to back the students in 2013, with 1,35 million people signing a petition for fees to be dropped. That year the German government scrapped tuition fees for all students. In Chile students have protested against fees since 2011. They achieved some success – earlier this year President Michelle Bachelet announced that from March 2016 university education would be free for 60 percent of the poorest students and by 2020 it would be free for all students. Some 50 000 British students protested in London in November and December 2010 to have fees lowered after…

WHEN they took over the reins of the classic comic book series the two Frenchmen knew they had pretty big shoes to fill – and their first Asterix and Obelix comic wasn’t all that good a fit. But with their second, Asterix And The Missing Scroll, writer Jean-Yves Ferri and illustrator Didier Conrad have taken the beloved comic back to its former glory. One critic has even called it the best Asterix comic in 30 years. The new writer-illustrator team took over from original cartoonist Albert Uderzo (88), who co-created Asterix with writer René Goscinny in 1959 and retired in 2011. After Goscinny’s death aged 51 in 1977, Uderzo continued to produce the comics but at a slower pace of one book every three to five years. With Ferri, the…

Most of the fictional characters in Asterix have names that are puns on their roles or personalities. For the Gauls the “-ix” suffix is used for men and female names end in “-a”. Vitalstatistix is the chief of the village and his name also alludes to his portly stature. Impedimenta is the wife of Vitalstatistix, with whom she’s often at odds. Getafix is a druid, magic potion maker and general fountain of Gallic wisdom. Cacofonix, the village teacher, is also an (unwelcome) bard. It rains whenever he sings and he can be found tied up and gagged at parties. Fulliautomatix, the village smith, appeared in the very first book wearing a leather apron and forging metal with his bare hands. He’s never without a huge hammer in his right hand.…

AS CHILDREN, Seline and Leandri Van der Wat’s mother gave them free rein to potter in the kitchen to their hearts’ content. Their recipes have now been compiled into a book, Two. They used the same ingredients to prepare one everyday meal and another more sophisticated dish for entertaining. Qualified engineer Seline runs her own catering company, while Leandri, who has a master’s degree in chemistry, is the director of a coffee company. Here are four of their special recipes. PORTUGUESE CHICKEN WITH POLENTA CHIPS AND LEEKS “Our little sister Nelia and I had a particular craving for Nando’s chicken one December holiday and decided to have a go at it ourselves instead of heading down to the local takeout,” Leandri says. SERVES 6 Preparation: 45 min Standing: 4 hours…

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NOT being able to pay for her mother’s funeral was one of the most devastating moments of Julie de Jongh’s life. “I just broke down crying,” she recalls. “I wanted to give her a proper send-off but I couldn’t afford it.” Julie was 28 when her mother, Ingrid Darby, committed suicide 10 years ago. “She didn’t have anything in place. No will, no funeral policy, nothing. I made a few phone calls to funeral homes. They told me a funeral would cost thousands.” She had to go back to the morgue and tell them she couldn’t afford a funeral. The state took her mother’s body and had it cremated. “It was one of the lowest points in my life. There was no funeral. I couldn’t give her the send-off she…

VINTAGE Two girls are chatting. “How was your blind date last night?” the one asks. “Terrible,” the other girl replies. “The guy showed up in a 1932 Rolls-Royce.” “Wow,” her friend says. “What’s so bad about that?” “He bought it new.” GAIL ROKEBRAND THE SHAKESPEARE SEAT A little boy’s grandparents decide to take him to Disneyland. When they board the plane Grandma is excited to see where the boy would be sitting. “You’re very lucky,” she tells him. “You’ve got the Shakespeare seat.” “Why is it called the Shakespeare seat, Grandma?” he wants to know. “You’re in seat 2B, also known as the Shakespeare seat.” “Don’t be silly, Grandma. All the seats on an aircraft are Shakespeare seats.” “How do you figure that?” “Well, they’re either 2B or not 2B.”…

It has been two years since the events in Shantaram, and since Lin lost two people he’d come to love: his father figure, Khaderbhai, and his soulmate, Karla, who married a handsome Indian media tycoon. Lin returns from a smuggling trip to a Bombay that seems to have changed too much, too soon. Many of his old friends are long gone, the new mafia leadership has become entangled in increasingly violent and dangerous intrigues, and a fabled holy man challenges everything that Lin thought he’d learnt about love and life. OPENING LINES “The Source of all things, the luminescence, has more forms than heaven’s stars, sure. And one good thought is all it takes to make it shine. But a single mistake can burn down a forest in your heart,…

THIS summer, schools all over South Africa are preparing to pit their KFC Mini-Cricket teams against the best the country has to offer in the action-packed third instalment of the KFC Mini-Cricket Kids vs Proteas Tour. The 2015/2016 tour will see four lucky winning schools have home ground advantage as they take on the Proteas at their school. KFC has also confirmed the signing of cricket legends Graeme Smith, Neil McKenzie and Mfuneko Ngam to coach the kids. The coaches will host training sessions at each of the winning schools to ensure their teams are in tip-top shape for their matches against South Africa’s best players. Former Proteas captain Graeme Smith knows all about the intensity of preparing for a tour of this magnitude. “The pressure is on and KFC…

KHLOÉ KARDASHIAN (31) and LAMAR ODOM (35) have decided to give their marriage a second chance. The estranged couple have called off their divorce proceedings as the former NBA star continues to recover from a near-fatal drug overdose at a Nevada brothel. The ex-athlete was seen leaving the Sunrise Hospital in Las Vegas by helicopter for a medical facility in Los Angeles as Khloé, who’s also since called off her romance with NBA star James Harden, broke her silence, thanking fans and hospital staff for their support in what she called “an incredibly difficult” week. She said Lamar was making “incredible strides” but his condition remained critical. He reportedly suffered 12 strokes which could affect his motor skills such as walking and talking. Many of his diehard fans have also…

LEWIS HAMILTON (30) proved he’s quite the ace at multi-tasking when he was snapped taking a selfie while walking his bulldog, ROSCOE, and riding an electric unicycle! The British Formula 1 champ was enjoying some downtime at a beach in Miami in the US, where he was joined by friends with whom he played American football. Oh, and if you’re thinking of splashing out on this nifty means of transport it will set you back about £200 (R4 200). Small change for Lewis, of course.…

I’ve just read your latest article on Oscar Pistorius (YOU, 22 October) and wonder how the red flags Dr du Toit talks of weren’t seen by his close family or friends. The fact that he shot a melon and made the remark he made would have sent chills down my spine. He doesn’t seem to take responsibility for his actions and yet he’s been given parole after so short a sentence. I wonder if he, given his frame of mind, will ever be responsible, accountable or mature enough to hold his own. He seems to be an unstable, rich, spoilt young man. My prayer for him is healing and psychological health. CONNIE, EMAIL • Psychology isn’t a science and there are neither scientific tests nor proof for this pseudo-discipline. What…

SMILE, keep your mouth shut and whatever you do, don’t upstage your husband – in the past this was pretty much what was expected of China’s first ladies. But it seems Peng Liyuan has thrown away the rule book. When President Xi Jinping arrived in Britain for China’s first state visit in a decade he found himself totally eclipsed by his glamorous wife. The media couldn’t get enough of the dark-haired beauty. With her elegant yet simple style and the effortless way she interacted with the royal family – cracking jokes in flawless English with everyone from Queen Elizabeth to Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge – she was constantly in the headlines during the four-day visit. After decades of nondescript Chinese first ladies Peng (52) – or Mama Peng as she’s…

ASTERIX Short and plucky, the moustachioed protagonist of the comic isn’t a stereotypical hero. Goscinny convinced Uderzo they needed a non-traditional hero. He didn’t want a physically gifted or good-looking lead character but someone who used his cunning to outwit his enemies. “So I came up with this little man with a moustache and a big nose. I’ve always liked drawing big noses because they make me laugh. That’s how Asterix was born,” Uderzo told a French newspaper. OBELIX Uderzo felt Asterix should have a tough sidekick and convinced Goscinny they needed a strong yet dim-witted warrior. “He ended up as Obelix,” Uderzo says. Having fallen into a cauldron of magic potion as a baby, Obelix has superhuman strength – which comes in handy when Asterix’s schemes fail. Obelix is…

ONE of her first achievements was learning how to work the till at a two-day training course for cashiers at OK Bazaars. “I’m proud of the certificate I received,” she says. “It was the first time I touched a machine.” But those days are long gone. She now commands respect in an industry where the machines are the highly sophisticated equipment that’s designed to dig deep into Earth’s recesses for manganese. And Daphne Mashile-Nkosi is as far as can be from a till – she runs a mining company worth about R7 billion. But the 57-year-old mining magnate is as humble as ever. There are no airs and graces when we meet her at her Bryanston mansion in Johannesburg, where her helpers and caretakers are making sure the house is…

VEGETARIAN RÖSTIS WITH ROASTED TOMATOES & FETA CHEESE A quick and easy way to make rösti. SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 25-30 min RÖSTI 6 potatoes, peeled and grated 1 onion, grated 100 g Cheddar cheese, grated 10 g chives, finely chopped 2 eggs 30 ml (2 T) melted butter salt and pepper TOPPING 250 g cherry tomatoes 2 rounds feta cheese 30 ml (2 T) olive oil 30 ml (2 T) balsamic vinegar 125 ml (½ c) cream cheese 10 g rocket Preheat the oven to 190 °C. Line a baking sheet with baking paper and grease with nonstick spray. 1 Rösti Squeeze the grated potatoes to remove as much liquid as possible. Add the remaining ingredients to the potatoes and mix. Season with salt and pepper. 2…

1 Apply eyeshadow primer from your upper lash line to the crease and below your lower lash line. Primer aids the application of your eyeshadow by making the colour pop and last longer. 2 Choose your favourite shade of eyeshadow and apply just the one colour on the areas where you applied your primer. Intensify the colour on the outer upper and lower corners by applying more product. 3 To brighten your eyes, take a silver or gold eyeshadow or eye pencil and smudge it in the inner corners of your eyes, blending it with your eyeshadow. Use black eye pencil to line the waterline above your lower lashes. 4 Whether you have fine or strong brows, don’t fill them in with colour, just shape and brush them. 5 Finish…

WHAT DOES INTESTATE SUCCESSION MEAN? The Intestate Succession Act kicks in if you die without a will or valid will. If you’re married but don’t have any children your spouse inherits the proceeds of your estate, says Angelique Visser from the Fiduciary Institute of SA. If you have children but your estate is worth less than R250 000 your spouse also inherits everything. If your estate is worth more than R250 000 your spouse and children inherit it all. The apportionment is done according to a formula based on the size of the estate. NO SPOUSE, NO CHILDREN If you’re not married and have no children your parents inherit the proceeds of your estate. If one of your parents has already died his portion goes to his descendants. If both…

JURASSIC WORLD 2015. 121 min. 10-12PG HV. Sci-fi adventure. R119* After two dull sequels – including director Steven Spielberg’s own shockingly lacklustre effort, The Lost World (1997) – hopes weren’t high for a third follow-up to his brilliant Jurassic Park (1993). But this entertaining sequel is a welcome return to the intelligent script, thrilling action and interesting characters that made the first one such a success. The dinosaur park is finally up and running, so operations manager Claire (Bryce Dallas Howard) is too busy to spend time with her visiting nephews (Ty Simpkins and Nick Robinson). Scientists have designed a new and scarier dinosaur, Indominus Rex, to attract visitors who’ve grown tired of regular prehistoric creatures, but playing God is never a good idea, as animal behaviourist Owen Grady (Chris…

1 Confident is Demi’s fifth studio album in seven years and also the title of her latest single. The record represents her “badass” side, the 23-year-old singer says. 2 She also showed a sexier side while promoting the album, even doing a nude photoshoot for Vanity Fair inspired by her great-grandfather Buddy Moore, who died on the day before the shoot. “If there’s one thing I’ve learnt in the past day it’s that life’s too short,” she says. “What does it mean to be confident? It means letting go, being authentic, saying, ‘I don’t give a f*** and this is who I am.’ I want to show the side of me that’s liberated, that’s free.” 3 Demi has been acting since she was seven and met longtime pal Selena Gomez…

His cousins are brother and sister duo ulianne and erek ough who made names for themselves on ancing ith The Stars. Austin & Ally co-star Calum Worthy (Dez) says he and Ross love watching scary flicks but they’re “always terrified”. “We can’t handle horror movies.” Despite the rumours he says he never dated Laura Marano ( lly). “Me and Laura are super-close friends and everyone on the set will tease us like, ‘Ohh Raura’s on set!’ So it just becomes a joke.” He’s actually dating Australian actress Courtney Eaton (19). “She’s cool and easy-going,” he said about the gorgeous brunette. The 19-year-old isn’t only a music star on TV, he’s also a member of the pop group R5, which has won Teen Choice Awards and Young Hollywood…

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Contributors: Shanaaz Prince, Joshua Carstens Pictures: Martin de Kock, Dylan Kruger, Letitia Lerm, elitephotoagency.com , Twitter, Tumelo Leburu, Instagram Radio personality GRANT NASH woke up to a big surprise recently – it was his wedding day and he’d only just been told! After six years together the 32-year-old DJ’s fiancé, actor and model REYNIER SHIELDS, had arranged it all in secret. “Grant turned to me one night and said ‘I’m tired of calling you my fiancé. I want to call you my husband now,” Reynier (29) recalls. “So the following day I decided to make it happen. I’ve been planning since February and with the help of friends and family we had our big day on 17 October.” The couple, who’d been engaged for three years, took…

Kim’s pyjama shower! Khloé took a much-needed break from Lamar’s side to join her family – mom KRIS JENNER, former stepfather CAITLYN JENNER and sisters KENDALL and KYLIE JENNER and KOURTNEY KARDASHIAN – at sister KIM KARDASHIAN’s baby shower – which saw everyone dressing up in their PJs! She also debuted her shorter locks at the bash, which was based on a Troop Beverly Hills’ Girl Scouts theme, after the 1980s comedy starring Jenny Lewis and Shelley Long. Kim, who’s said to be due on Christmas Day, was seen almost popping out of her PJ top as she carried daughter NORTH (2) in. CAITLYN’S HAIR FAIL A few days earlier CAITLYN JENNER (65) suffered an embarrassing hair malfunction at Kim’s 35th birthday party. The new transgender activist’s hairpiece was seen…

• THE WEEKND (25) has revealed how Taylor Swift (25) once played with his hair. The Can’t Feel My Face singer said he met the pop star at a Grammy afterparty this year where she “petted” his hair as they talked. “I think she was just drawn to it,” he told Rolling Stone magazine. “And of course I’m not going to be like, ‘Hey, can you stop?’ I mean, it felt good!” He says he’d cut his hair only “if it starts interfering with my sight. If I cut it I’d look like everyone else. And that’s so boring for me.” • ZOOEY DESCHANEL (35) and her film producer hubby, Jacob Pechenik (42), named their daughter, who was born in July, Elsie Otter! Explaining their choice on The Today Show,…

STAR LOOK British singer ELLIE GOULDING lost out in both her categories but turned heads in a plunging black dress and orange-tinged yellow hair. US girl group Fifth Harmony opened the show held in Milan, Italy, with their hit Worth It before presenting the first award. Dutch EDM star Afro-jack was nominated in the best world stage category but lost out to Ed Sheeran, who co-hosted. 1 Vine social network starlet Amanda Cerny left little to the imagination in a revealing black dress, which she paired with a red satin clutch. 2 British singer-songwriter Jess Glynne’s plunging neckline was a little more restrained. 3 Pretty Little Liars star Shay Mitchell, who presented an award, showed off her figure in a form-fitting white dress. Crazy hair, don’t care! 1 Doing It…