Innholdsfortegnelse for 12 November 2015 i You South Africa

ICAN’T imagine the grief and misery that ensued after it was discovered that “Zephany” was in fact stolen at birth and had a real sister in the same school. It was their striking similarity that eventually led to the heartbreaking discovery. Imagine being a teenager and finding out the mother you’ve loved all your life isn’t your real mom, and then having to try to develop a relationship with your “real” parents. And you’re not allowed to see the mother you love because of a pending court case. How is a young girl meant to cope with such trauma? My heart goes out to all involved in this tragic story. Our journalist Marelize Potgieter had the first face-to-face interview with the woman who raised Zephany. And you can feel her…

AS FAR as the world is concerned she’s the woman who stole another woman’s baby 18 years ago. The newborn girl, just three days old, was taken as her mom slept in one of Cape Town’s largest public hospitals. But that’s not what happened, Maria* says emphatically. She didn’t steal the baby known as Zephany Nurse, she insists, indignation and anger clear in her tone. “Steal her? No way! That little baby was put in my arms. Me, a thief ? Never!” Maria, who’s out on bail and will appear in the Western Cape High Court in February next year on charges of kidnapping and fraud, is speaking out for the first time since her sensational arrest in an exclusive interview with YOU. She’s accused of abducting Zephany from Groote…

SOME SKILL REQUIRED There are a few unusual techniques in this pattern which aren’t difficult but aren’t commonly used. CHOOSE a fun space-dyed yarn and knit this stylish shoulder bag. The simple cable pattern has been cleverly placed so that the plaited shoulder straps form a continuous rope effect. MEASUREMENT Finished width at base 34,5 cm Height from the base (omitting the handles) 24,5 cm Depth 7 cm MATERIALS Note: this bag has been designed in a DK yarn. There are many space-dyed yarns available on the market; you could use Elle Pure Gold DK 100 g balls, six new printed colours have just been released. Or useElle Escapade DK 100 g balls or Elle Timber DK 50g balls (you will need 6 balls if you use this yarn). • 3…

MY DAUGHTER IS ABUSIVE I have a daughter who’s 19 and I love her more than life itself. I’ve made many sacrifices to ensure she has a happy life. When she became a difficult teen and behaved in a way no parent would allow, I approached my husband’s family for advice and all I ever got was, “It’s normal; it will pass” One day when I was ill I ended up going for a walk at 6.30 on a very cold morning to avoid further conflict and came back only after she’d left for school. I told my doctor about it and he said my daughter is abusive. I asked what I could do and he said nothing as both my husband and I have natures that make us helpless…

YOU have to wonder how we ever got by without Suzelle DIY. After she burst onto the scene in 2014, the domestic diva became an overnight internet sensation, transforming South Africans’ lives with her amusing YouTube videos. Whatever the problem – whether it’s trying to figure out how to get pet fluff off your favourite jersey, how to survive load-shedding, or how to cut a watermelon without making a mess – Suzelle, who’s a fictitious character dreamt up by artist and actress Julia Anastasopoulos, could always be counted on to supply a quirky yet useful answer. And now she’s sharing her advice in a glossy new coffee table guide. In Suzelle DIY, The Book, she offers plenty of nuggets of wisdom – from cooking ideas to car maintenance and general…

TOMORROWLAND 2015. 125 min. 10V. Sci-fi adventure. R129* Science geek teen Casey (Britt Robertson) struggles to keep her dreams of a bright future alive. She hopes to go into space but from her family home in Florida she can see Nasa decommissioning its launch pad, and her engineer father (Tim McGraw) is about to lose his job. Then she finds a strange badge that transports her to a glittering futuristic city. When the badge’s battery runs out Casey gets dumped back in reality but is determined to find an explanation, which leads her to encounters with a precocious young girl (the delightful Raffey Cassidy) and a grumpy recluse (George Clooney). Like Pirates Of The Caribbean, this film is based on a Disneyland ride, but don’t let this unpromising start put…

A All ages D Drugs H Horror L Language N Nudity P Prejudice PG Parental guidance S Sex V Violence LISTEN TO THIS! RIVAL SELENA GOMEZ R169* The singer-actress finally comes into her own on her second solo offering that reveals a more vulnerable, mature and sexy side. It’s also her most personal outing to date. The first album on her new label, Interscope, sees her wielding more creative control and getting more songwriting credits. The result is a fun, confident and honest collection that gives fans a glimpse into her mind and heart. It’s also garnered the 23-year-old singer her second No 1 spot on the US Billboard 200 album chart. Selena might not have the vocal chops of fellow former Disney star Demi Lovato but she sure knows…

IMAGINE people as survivors of a disaster with only one loaf of bread to share. There are three ways the bread can be shared – sell it so only the rich get any; fight over it so only the strongest get any; or share it equally. This third option is the principle behind democracy – that everyone is equal and power should be shared. WHAT IS DEMOCRACY? Democracy is a political system where people participate in the governing of the country. The word democracy comes from Greek and means “rule by the people”. The decision-makers in a democracy, such as the president or prime minister, have power only because the citizens of the country voted for them as representatives. In ancient Greece, leaders realised the best way to defuse criticism…

WHAT did parents do before Google ? Fortunately we don’t live in that much of an information vacuum any more and help is just a typed search away. While the internet can be incredibly overwhelming – especially when you need fast, easy solutions – it can also be mom’s little helper and assist parents with everything from finding out what’s causing their baby’s rash to deciding what to cook for supper. The key is knowing just where to go, so we’ve put together the best of the bunch for you. CHOREMONSTER.COM Doing chores can certainly be a bore – so why not make it fun for everyone involved? Instead of sticking a dreaded chore chart on the fridge, make it interactive and engaging for your kids. At Choremonster.com you can…

THE groom is wearing a traditional Scottish kilt from the Royal Stewart clan as he makes his way to the front gate of his in-laws’ house in Pretoria. The bagpipe player heading his entourage belts out the clan’s anthem and a rendition of You’ll Never Walk Alone and on the other side of the gate are women dressed in colourful African prints, singing a traditional Xhosa song. The sound of the bagpipes soars as the women sing louder and louder. Then groom Kirsten Arnold – his mother, Penny Shepherd, at his side – starts to sing in isiXhosa, “Bring us our makoti” (bring us our bride). The guests from the Arnold family then join in. The women’s singing becomes even louder before they give the Arnold family permission to enter…

• Is KATE MOSS (41) dating a young count? Rumour has it photographer Count Nikolai von Bismarck (28) has moved into the basement of Kate’s North London home as speculation mounts her marriage to rocker Jamie Hince (46) is over. The handsome count is the son of boutique owner Countess Debonnaire von Bismarck (56), a close friend of Kate’s, and Count Leopold von Bismarck-Schönhausen (64) of Germany. • One Direction’s Louis Tomlinson (23) was kicked out of a hotel recently following an all-night bender with pals. A sources says the group were kicked out at 4 am by security. “Louis ran out of the hotel carrying his clothes and a bottle of booze. A waiting car drove him to the band’s tour bus.” Given the star expects his first child…

BEYONCÉ The singer and family took inspiration from the 1988 hit Coming to America. AVRIL LAVIGNE The singer almost suffered a nip-slip in her sheer skeleton outfit. TAYLOR SWIFT The pop star looked unrecognisable as Olaf from Frozen. CHARLIZE THERON The actress played Snow White while trick or treating with daughter AUGUST. HEIDI KLUM The supermodel transformed herself into cartoon siren Jessica Rabbit. MOLLY SIMS The actress and her daughter Scarlett looked adorbs. JOSH DUHAMEL Clowning around with son Axl. GIGI HADID The model looked super-cute as Sandra Dee from Grease.…

TO OUR BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMEN ‘MAY I book a mammogram please?” “How old are you?” “Twenty-seven years.” “You’re far too young for a mammogram!” These were the words spoken between our beautiful 27-year-old (in the midst of her wedding plans) and various radiologists’ rooms in Cape Town just two weeks ago! While Breast Cancer Awareness Month is still fresh in our minds, I’d like to share our story. Our daughter had been training in the gym when she discovered a slight tenderness under her sports bra. After being rejected several times because of her age, I called back again and was told that she could come in for a scan. After the scan a mammogram was done, then a biopsy. We received the devastating news after four hours that our…

COCONUT PORK SCHNITZELS WITH APPLE SALAD SERVES 4  Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 20-25 min 4 deboned pork chops salt and freshly ground black pepper 15 ml (1 T) olive oil CRUMB COATING 125 ml (½ c) coconut 125 ml (½ c) breadcrumbs 2 eggs, whisked 60 ml (¼ c) milk 125 ml (½ c) flour SALAD 1 bunch of celery, cut into ribbons 2 red apples, diced 2 Granny Smith apples, diced 15 ml (1 T) lemon juice Preheat the oven to 190 °C. Place a wire rack on a baking sheet and grease with nonstick spray. 1 Flatten the chops slightly with the palm of your hand. Season with salt and pepper. 2 Crumb coating Toast the coconut in a dry pan and mix with the breadcrumbs. 3 Whisk…

ABBREVIATIONS beg – begin(ning) CN – cable needle C3L – cable 3 left by sl the next 3 sts onto a CN and hold at the front of the work, k the next 3 sts in the normal way, then k the 3 sts held on CN C3R – cable 3 right by sl the next 3 sts onto a CN and hold at the back of the work, k the next 3 sts in the normal way, then k the 3 sts held on CN c/on(off) – cast on(off) ch – chain stitch cont – continue foll(s) – follow(s) (ing) g st – garter stitch (every row k) inc – increase(ing) k – knit N(s) – needle(s) patt – pattern p – purl rem – remaining rep – repeat…

RECIPES IN THIS ISSUE • Classics such as versatile butter cake and angel Swiss roll• Heavenly chocolate bakes including a delicious microwave option• Mini bakes – little fruitcakes are perfect for the festive season• Low-carb bakes including lemon cream cake and red velvet squares• Sweet and savoury cheesecakes• A variety of special cookies GET IT NOW ONLY R44 Can’t find it in the shops? Here’s how to order DIGITAL Subscribe digitally at mysubs.co.za. CALL 087-740-1013. EMAIL you_subs@media24.com with BAKES in the subject line. GO TO youstore.co.za and order your copy online.…

CHOCOLAT: MI CASA Sexy, infectious, a killer tune . . . what’s not to like about local house trio Mi Casa’s hot new single – the first off their new album, Home Sweet Home? “When people hear the song they’ll think, ‘Oh, J likes black chicks,” frontman J’Something says. “But the song is about more than that because chocolate isn’t just black. It’s about breaking racial boundaries. The song is about praising women in a very sexy way.” We like! HULA HOOP: OMI With his latest single the Jamaican star behind the smash hit Cheerleader shows he’s no one-hit wonder. It’s the second single off his debut studio album, Me 4 U. The 29-year-old reggae artist sticks to Cheerleader’s upbeat theme and pop formula, and the chorus is just as…

For birth charts and other astrology enquiries email Petra at YourStars@you.co.za or go to astrozone.co.za. SAGITTARIUS NOV 22 – DEC 20 As your personal year draws to a close, it’s appropriate to look back and derive meaning from the year gone past. It’s also an apt time to look at the bigger picture of your life and contemplate the year ahead. There are avenues to explore, adventures to experience and goals to achieve. With reflection you might gain wisdom for the journey ahead and identify foolhardy habits best left behind. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 1, 43, 12, 8, 9, 36 CAPRICORN DEC 21 – JAN 20 Energetic Mars moves into your professional horoscope this week, right up the street of an ambitious Capricorn who likes to be proactive in their career.…

1 FINDING MUTUAL INTERESTS Think of some out-of-school activities that both your guy and your pals really like. Whether it’s sport, music or drama, they only need to have one thing in common to bring them closer. If you and your boy can’t get enough of hitting the surf and spending hours on end at the beach, maybe this is something your BFFs would like to do too. Win-win! 2 TALKING THE (LOVE) TALK In your eyes, your guy is perfect – and the proof is in the amazing things he does for you every day, like telling you you’re beautiful both inside and out and showing you affection in front of his mates. The best part? He thinks your friends are awesome! Don’t be afraid to tell your friends…

For hundreds of years people around the world have struggled to win democratic rights in their countries and obtain equality. This has often led to uprisings, some peaceful and others violent. In some countries women fought for the right to vote and in others certain race groups demanded equal rights. The leaders of these uprisings were often jailed as those in power set out to maintain control by repressing opposition and crushing the very concept of equality. INDIA Mahatma Ghandi was the leader of the Indian Independence Movement when Britain ruled India. Through passive resistance Gandhi helped India achieve independence in 1947 and inspired human rights movements all over the world – including in South Africa. AMERICA Martin Luther King Jnr was one of the leaders of the African-American Civil…

GOOGLE KEEP Frantic folks scrabbling to keep track of their day should get this now! Google Keep allows you to create notes, lists and reminders which then appear on what looks like a virtual pinboard and will help you to keep track of anything from your child’s friend’s party to a shopping list. The app can be used on your mobile phone and desktop, which comes in handy if you’re desk-bound during the day – and it syncs across all devices so no matter where you type it in, you’ll be able to open it up on whichever device is at hand. It’s free in the Google Play and Apple App stores. Best bit: Posts can be colour-coded and labelled according to categories of your choice and you can upload…

BIRTHDAY GIRL LEE-ANN LIEBENBERG’s daughter GIA recently celebrated her fifth birthday with a princess-themed party. The adorable little girl was thoroughly spoilt by her mom and dad NICKY VAN DER WALT. “Gia’s birthday party was held at a friend’s house because we’re doing small renovations to our house” said Lee-Ann, who did the flower arrangements for the party herself. In fact, the model is planning to open a florist shop. “Flowers are my passion. I’ve always dreamt of having my own florist shop and I think this is the right time to follow my dream” Sexy mama! She’s had a difficult year but MORGAN DEANE is fighting fit and feeling better than she ever has. Former Proteas captain GRAEME SMITH’s ex has been showing off her stunning figure on Instagram…

HALLE BERRY and OLIVIER MARTINEZ (both 49) have called time out on their two-year marriage, making it divorce No 3 for the Oscar-winning actress. Insiders say reasons for the split include the French actor’s explosive temper – which has seen him get into brawls with photographers and Halle’s ex Gabriel Aubry (39), the father of her seven-year-old daughter, Nahla – and their diverging career paths. While the Extant star has enjoyed a steady stream of work over the past few years, Olivier’s career has stalled. After starring in the 2002 erotic thriller Unfaithful he’s battled to find a footing in Hollywood. Described as a “macho guy”, he also reportedly wanted Halle to focus more on family after the birth of their son, Maceo, in 2013. A source says everything about…

• I sympathise with the students who’ve vented their dissatisfaction against the university fee increase. How it reminds me of my pain when I had to leave school at the age of 12 due to lack of money. When the increased fee is going to be implemented, how many of the poor students will have to abandon their studies and dreams because they’re not in a position to pay! What will happen to their lives in this country with it’s high unemployment rate and high cost of living? BAITSENG LILLIAN NTEMBE, KENSINGTON • What an exciting period in our country’s history. I graduated with an exemption from high school during apartheid, and in those days tertiary education was only for the wealthy so I couldn’t afford to go to university.…

SHE’S a bit jet lagged but no level of tiredness will stop her rocking her baby girl in her arms. The four-month-old is snug in a pink romper and often seems to be smiling even with a pacifier in her mouth. “She’s a quiet and sweet baby,” Zoe Mthiyane says gently. The glowing 34-year-old and her partner, The Lion King musical producer Lebogang “Lebo M” Morake (51), welcomed their bundle of joy in July. It’s clear Lulonke, affectionately known as Lulo, is the star in their home right now – they can’t keep their eyes off the baby with her silky, short hair. We meet the smitten couple at their holiday apartment in Umhlanga, Durban, where they’re taking a breather after their recent Los Angeles trip. The sound of their…

PICKLES, especially fermented vegetables such as sauerkraut, are back in demand and ideal for informal get-togethers. HOW FERMENTATION WORKS Lacto-fermentation is one of the oldest forms of preserving food. All you need is salt, water and vegetables. The brine creates an oxygen-free environment in which only lactobacillus bacteria survive. It also acts as a preservative and prevents the survival of harmful bacteria that cause food to spoil. THE TWO STAGES OF FERMENTATION 1 Vegetables are plunged into a pickling mixture that’s salty enough to prevent harmful bacteria from surviving. The lactobacillus bacteria survive this stage and cause stage 2. 2 The lactobacillus organisms start converting the lactose and other sugars in the food into lactose acid, creating an acidic environment in which vegetables are safely preserved. This also gives fermented…

TRADITIONAL SWING WHAT YOU NEED TOOLS • Pencil• Tape measure• Drill with 25-mm drill bit• Craft knife• Masking tape MATERIALS  Laminated pine shelf 600 x 300 mm ..........R100, Builders Warehouse 15 m Eco rope 20-mm thickness ............... R450, Builders Warehouse Total cost ................R550 STEP 1 Mark on each corner where you want to drill the holes for the rope, about 6 cm in from the sides. STEP 2 Drill a hole on the marks with the 25-mm drill bit. STEP 3 Cut the rope. You need 2 x 130-cm lengths and 2 lengths long enough to reach the branch you’re hanging your swing from. STEP 4 Insert the two 130-cm pieces through the holes on the plank, and tie a sturdy knot at each end. You should now have two loops at each short end…

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BE ALERT! In just one week Your Money received the following “good news” emails: There’s a lottery prize waiting for us in the UK; we’re being compensated for ATM fraud; an “official” email from Absa, with an attachment; and an email from a destitute woman in Trinidad asking for help to access the millions of dollars she’s entitled to. These emails have something in common – eventually they ask for your personal information and banking details. Don’t miss the alarm bells, read on now! PHISHING AND SMISHING With the phishing scam someone, supposedly from your bank, calls you to persuade you to give them your personal information. But the “bank official” is a fraudster. The smishing scam uses the same technique but the fraudsters send you an SMS asking you…

LIKE PULLING TEETH A man has a sore tooth and goes to see a dentist. After examining him the dentist says, “I’m going to have to pull this tooth but don’t worry, it will take just five minutes” “And how much will it cost?” the man wants to know. “It’s R600” “R600, for just a few minutes of work?” “I can extract it very slowly if you like” FAIZA MAHOMED MOTHER KNOWS A guy tells his mother that he’s fallen in love and is planning to get married. “Just for fun, Mom” he says, “I’m going to bring over three women and you can try to guess which one I’m going to marry.” His mother agrees, so the next day he takes three women to his mother’s house. After they’d…

Emma (24) says there’s no drama among the onscreen sorority sisters, which include her newest BFF, Glee star Lea Michele (29). ‘‘We’re always texting each other; we pick each other up for work; we go get pizza or coffee together. It doesn’t feel like I’m just going to work every morning.’’ OFF THE MARKET Emma is dating her ex-fiancé Evan Peters (28) again. They starred together in the hit TV show American Horror Story. “She’s really great,” he says. “I just love her.” Her aunt Julia Roberts (her dad Eric Roberts’ sister) inspired her to get into acting. “I just found this old Polaroid of me on the set of Erin Brockovich, in one of my aunt Julia’s super-padded dresses from the movie, with the biggest smile on…

Seems the acorn hasn’t fallen far from the tree! BROOKLYN BECKHAM appears to have the same winning ways with the ladies as his dad David! The 16-year-old was snapped sharing a few tender moments with his rumoured new girlfriend, French stunner SONIA BEN AMMAR, in Paris. Sources say David and Victoria’s eldest son is smitten with the 16-year-old, who looks like a younger Mila Kunis mixed with Hungarian model Barbara Palvin. Sonia is a model, singer and budding actress and regularly features on Brooklyn’s Instagram pages. In fact his followers have already nicknamed them Bronia! Aw.…

No prizes for guessing who inspired DAVID BECKHAM’s latest body art! Yup, his kids. He posted photos of two new inkings – one of a smiling stick figure by four-year-old daughter HARPER and the other, the message “We love you Daddy” apparently based on the handwriting of one of his sons, Brooklyn (16), Romeo (13) and Cruz (10). Captioning a photo of the tat, Becks wrote, “The boys expressing how they feel about daddy (sic)” Aw.…