Innholdsfortegnelse for 26 November 2015 i You South Africa

EVERY year I promise myself I won’t wait until 24 December to start buying Christmas presents. Be organised, buy throughout the year, think ahead, I always say to myself. And then, bang, it’s December before you know it! Once again though our detailed Christmas gift guide takes all the hard work out of tracking down the perfect prezzies. Our intrepid lifestyle team hit the stores and came up with an amazing array of ideas for every member of your family, and they made sure many of the options are budget-friendly too. Turn to page 29 and get inspired by 19 pages of fab finds. Best of all, if you don’t want to face the crush of other frenetic last-minute shoppers in crowded malls, use our unique click-to-buy option. It means…

FRIDAY the 13th – the day the City of Light went dark and panic spread across its famed streets. It will be recorded in history books as the day of Europe’s deadliest terror attack in more than a decade, an assault that shook the continent to its core. In the aftermath of the bloody attack in Paris in which 129 people died and scores more were badly injured the questions flowed thick and fast. Who did it, why had it happened and would it happen again? Within hours the world knew – Isis, the ruthless extremist Muslim organisation responsible for horrendous beheadings and other acts of extreme violence, announced it had set off the series of coordinated attacks in what by some accounts it calls the “capital of perversion and…

He wasn’t a military commander or a political leader but Mohammed Emwazi, or “Jihadi John”, was the most famous jihadi in the world, his name synonymous with brutal videos showing beheading of aid workers and journalists Isis held hostage. News of his death in a US drone attack in Syria caused celebration in Britain, the country where he’d spent most of his life. But counterterrorism experts say the Paris attacks might have been “brought forward” because of Emwazi’s death. “This was planned long before Jihadi John’s death” says Raffaello Pantucci, director of International Security Studies at counterterrorism think tank Rusi. “But it’s possible they thought this was a good trigger.” He was “a human animal”, Pentagon spokesman Steve Warren said of Emwazi (27), who first attained global notoriety after appearing…

‘GOOD breads with innovative salads are like a meal on their own,” writes Beate Joubert in her first book, Taste The Little Karoo. On their farm, Joubert-Tradauw, near Barrydale in the Western Cape, she experiments with fresh ideas in the Alfresco Deli and serves traditional dishes with a Mediterranean twist. The focus is on simplicity and taste. t – teaspoon/s T – tablespoon/s c – cup/s GRUYÈRE SALAD This classic salad is a popular Alfresco Deli choice. SERVES 6 Preparation: 10 min DRESSING 5 ml (1 t) hot Dijon mustard 125 ml (½ c) olive oil 30 ml (2 T) fresh lemon juice (or more) 5 ml (1 t) coarse salt freshly ground pepper 5 ml (1 t) white sugar 15 ml (1 T) white wine vinegar 5 ml (1…

HE SAYS CYBERSEX ISNORMAL Q I’ve been married for 30 years and have discovered my husband has been on a chat website where he’s exchanged naked photos with women. Some of these women were young enough to be his daughter. When I confronted him he said cybersex is better than having an affair and is perfectly normal. He showed me he’d chat to women in front of me, which left me broken-hearted and feeling empty inside. I eventually asked for a divorce and even started divorce proceedings but he asked me to stop and said he’ll never do it again. But deep down I have this feeling he’s on the chat site again. He can easily use it during working hours. How would I know? Also, if he betrayed me…

GODPARENTS VS GUARDIANS Yes, there’s a difference – godparents’ role in your children’s life is limited to guiding them spiritually and socially. They have no legal rights and accordingly no legal obligations towards your children should you die. It’s vital to appoint guardians in your will who will be responsible for your children’s care. They must be people you trust to do a good job. Before appointing them, check that they’re prepared and able to take on this responsibility. GUARDIANS’ ROLE If you die your children’s legal guardians must care for them physically, emotionally and financially until the age of 18. The guardians for instance decide where the children live and go to school. Clive Hill of San-lam Trust suggests you motivate your choice of guardians in your will. If…

MAGIC MIKE XXL 2015. 115 min. 16L. Comedy drama. R109* In this sequel it’s three years since the events of the first movie Mike (Channing Tatum) has put his life as a male stripper behind him and now runs his own furniture company But when his old mates from the Kings Of Tampa dance troupe – Tarzan (Kevin Nash), Tito (Adam Rodríguez), Tobias (Gabriel Iglesias), Richie (Joe Manganiello) and Ken (Matt Bomer) – ask him to join them for one last show he finds that not only does he still have the moves, he still enjoys it Cue an eventful road trip to the venue as the guys, tired of the old fireman-in-a-G-string routine, work up fresh dances for their last hurrah An existential theme and Matthew McConaughey’s acting chops…

LISTEN TO THIS! THE BOOK OF SOULS IRON MAIDEN R122* After 35 years at the top of British metal, this six-piece outfit should be showing some rust but their 16th studio album – a double-disc, 92-minute monster – sees them in fighting form, their unique three-guitar attack still delivering thunderous riffs, harmonised parts and blistering solos, topped by Bruce Dickinson’s operatic tenor It’s melodic metal, complete with a few sing-along choruses; the ’70s-style prog influence is a welcome twist and SA maestro Kevin Shirley’s production is topnotch A must for metal fans…

‘IREALLY hope you two will become good friends!” That’s what my brother, Barry, said when he first introduced me to his new girlfriend. I hoped so too. And I truly intended to get on well with Samantha. I’ll do anything to keep my big brother happy. But in the end I just haven’t been able to warm to her. I mean, she’s nice enough. She comes out with a wicked sense of humour once in a while. And of course she’s attractive – the way Barry’s girlfriends usually are – with natural blonde hair to die for. But really, she’s just not the right girl for Barry. Not a good match at all. I know my brother better than anyone else. He’s kind and generous and soft-hearted – unlike me.…

IN PART 1: Our heroine, Katniss Everdeen (Jennifer Lawrence), found herself in District 13 after single-handedly destroying the Hunger Games. Her bravery sparked riots against the Capitol and she was asked to be the Mockingjay, a symbol of rebellion. IN PART 2: Katniss teams up with her closest friends, Peeta (Josh Hutcherson), Gale (Liam Hemsworth) and Finnick (Sam Claflin), on the ultimate mission to destroy the Capitol and free the citizens of war-torn Panem. Hunky Liam Hemsworth told his agent that if the role of Gale went to another actor, he’d burn his house down! Hunger Games author Suzanne Collins was inspired to pen the dystopian-themed novels after watching a reality TV show and footage of the invasion of Iraq Philip Seymour Hoffman (Plutarch Heavensbee) died a week before shooting…

RORY MCNALLY (23) Studying industrial design at Cape Peninsula University of Technology. ‘I took a gap year in 2012 because I really didn’t know what I wanted to study. I couldn’t afford to go overseas and instead worked as a trainee manager at a backpackers in Jeffreys Bay [in the Eastern Cape]. It was an ideal job to learn a new skill and earn some money while indulging my passion for surfing in my free time. It was hard work but I enjoyed meeting lots of interesting people from all over the world. It was something of a working holiday. At the end of the year I knew exactly what I wanted to study. Lots of my friends went to varsity just for the sake of going straight out of…

JUST two years ago it was still buried deep underground at Cullinan near Pretoria. But once found, it was just a matter of time before it would be snapped up by the highest bidder wanting to possess the special gem. The Blue Moon diamond has certainly lived up to expectations – it recently fetched the highest price ever for a jewel at auction, breaking the previous record set in 2010. The 12,03-carat rock was bought for $48,5 million (R703 million) – the most ever spent on a gem on bid. It was also the first time a diamond fetched more than $4 million (R58 million) a carat. But don’t expect it to be on the ring finger of some starlet or in the crown of a renowned royal any time…

Diamonds consist of carbon and the colour is created when they come into contact with other substances. The presence of nitrogen results in yellow diamonds. The most common coloured diamonds are yellow, brown and grey, gemologist Jeremy Rothan says. “The blue is thanks to the element boron,” professor of geology Sebastian Tappe says. The Cullinan mine, where the Blue Moon was found, is renowned for its blue diamonds, gemologist Louise Krüger says. “Pink diamonds are a variant of grey diamonds, which are formed under pressure 200 to 250 km under the ground,” she adds.…

When it comes to their hair there’s clearly nothing these celebs won’t try! MINNIE DLAMINI, TUMI VOSTER, DJ ZINHLE, THANDO THABETHE and PEARL THUSI are some of the local stars who’ve been experimenting with crazy hair colours But it doesn’t always go down well with fans “People really didn’t like my red hair,” Minnie says “But I really loved it I felt spicy and daring and it brought out a different kind of confidence “The thing with colouring your hair is you have to be sure so when people tell you it’s horrible it doesn’t matter because you love it!” For 5FM DJ Tumi trying out different hair colours is all about confidence “It shows off the bold and fun side of me without me even having to say it”…

Several actors have recently left 7de Laan but there are also new faces viewers will be seeing more of in the SABC2 show CARLA VAN DER MERWE has been quiet waitress Petro at Oppiekoffie for a while and MARI MOLEFE of Villa Rosa fame will soon join the Laan’s cast as waitress Tumi “It was hard to say goodbye to Villa Rosa and I’ll never forget what I learnt there” Mari tells YOU She and Carla are friends off set too “We newbies love chatting and sometimes we can get quite silly She’s one of the people who’s shown me the ropes ” We can’t wait to see what’s in store for these two!…

The claws are apparently out between veteran E! presenter GIULIANA RANCIC and new recruit Maria Menounos over who gets what red-carpet hosting duties ahead of awards season next year. “She and Giuliana are fighting over the most prestigious shows,” an insider dished. “Maria is confident that she’s going to get the top spots over Giuliana. She’s made it known she’s the star now and she wants to make sure she’s doing the Oscars and the Golden Globes.” Meow. JENNIFER LAWRENCE ain’t gonna put a ring on it! In a recent interview with Diane Sawyer the Hunger Games star revealed she doesn’t know if she’ll “ever get married”. “I don’t feel that I need anything to complete me,” said the 25-year-old, who most recently dated Coldplay singer Chris Martin and before…

NO WI-FI, NO WORRIES! I RECENTLY went to apply for a visa at the US embassy. I took my iPad with me in the hope of doing some work during the wait, only to discover they take all your electronics from you at security before you go in. A long wait lay ahead with nothing in my bag to keep me or my fingertips busy. Seems I wasn’t the only one! Once boredom set in people around me actually started talking to one another, at first reluctantly and then, eventually, they started listening to one another. We heard life stories, sad tales about those who’d lost loved ones and happy tales about who they were excited to visit. We played with a baby and chuckled at a humorous chap. Without…

9.20 pm A suicide bomber detonates his explosives outside Stade de France as France plays Germany in an international friendly soccer match. A passer-by dies. 9.25 pm Two gunmen armed with Kalashnikov-style assault rifles arrive in a black vehicle at the corner of Rue Alibert and Rue Bichat in Paris’ 10th district and open fire on patrons at restaurants Le Carillon and Le Petit Cambodge. Fifteen people are killed. 9.30 pm A second bomb detonates outside the stadium. President François Hollande is safely evacuated. 9.32 pm Three attackers open fire on customers at Café Bonne Bière at the corner of Rue de la Fontaine au Roi and Rue du Faubourg du Temple in the 11th district of Paris. Five are killed. 9.36 pm Gunmen open fire at restaurant La Belle…

‘My mom knows a lot about fashion, but obviously I listen to my dad as he has great style and we share clothes’ – BROOKLYN BECKHAM PARENTS DAVID & VICTORIA BECKHAM SONS ROMEO, CRUZ & BROOKLYN DAUGHTER HARPER THEY have to be one of the most talented families around right now – on the football field and the fashion front. It’s safe to say the Beckham boys have inherited the best of their mom and dad’s talents. They’ve all shown skill on the soccer field but 10-year-old Cruz – who plays for Arsenal’s under-11 team – shows the most potential. He’s likely to be the only Beckham at the elite Arsenal youth academy after older brother Brooklyn (16) left and Romeo (13) is rumoured to be leaving too. Brooklyn and…

BET ON IT The teacher tells her primary school class that they’re going to try something different to help everyone get to know each other better, and to help with their spelling “I want you to stand up and give us the occupation of your father, spell it, and say one thing he would give us all if he was here today,” she explains “Who wants to go first?” A little girl called Marcy puts up her hand “My father is a banker,” she says “B-A-N-K-E-R If he was here today he’d give us all a shiny new R5 coin ” “Very nice, Marcy,” the teacher says “Who wants to go next?” A boy called Kevin stands up and announces, “My father is a baker, B-A-K-E-R If he was here…

CAPRICORN DEC 21 – JAN 20 Self-sabotaging habits and negative thoughts can have a detrimental effect on your wellbeing this week It may also get in the way of achieving your goals Since you could be unaware of these tendencies, some soul-searching might be in order You may want to take time out to get in touch with your inner world and, if need be, seek professional help to get rid of old patterns YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 44, 2, 46, 34, 29, 19 AQUARIUS JAN 21 – FEB 18 If a true Aquarius, you have an altruistic nature and are likely to be a great campaigner for humanitarian causes You’re currently in a good position to be a success as spokesperson for any organisation of your choice Since your voice…

1 Join a volunteer programme or offer your services to charity. You might even be able to find a charity that offers a service in line with what you plan to study, for example aspiring veterinarians could volunteer at animal-rescue organisations 2 Fit in a short course that would be useful in any field. You could learn another language or do a computer course or something more specialised that could help when you eventually start studying 3 Once you’re sure about what you’d like to study, research bursaries offered in that field and see if you meet the requirements 4 Planning to save money to pay for your studies? Look for work in a field closely linked to the career you’d like to follow For example, you could work as…

HE’LL never forget the moment a judge told him for the second time his children would be allowed to emigrate to Britain with their mother. The realisation that his kids would be living on another continent was crushing. Peter Hanley* can’t imagine not seeing his six-year-old son and three-year-old daughter every week, not being able to hold them, and having to talk to them on online video-chat app Skype. But that’s what will happen if his ex-girlfriend Abby McLean* goes ahead with her plan to emigrate. On 25 September, Judge Isaac Madondo found in favour of Abby in the high court in Durban when she applied to emigrate with the children without Peter’s consent. In terms of the Children’s Act she needs his permission before she can take them to…

Several factors go into assessing diamonds and the Blue Moon Of Josephine scores high on all counts. “The clarity, colour, size, carats and cut contribute to the value of a diamond,” the University of Johannesburg’s Professor Sebastian Tappe explains. All the criteria that make a fancy coloured diamond exceptional are in Josephine’s diamond, London gemologist Louise Krüger adds. It’s very rare “It’s incredibly rare to find such a diamond,” Cape Town gemologist Jeremy Rothan says. One in every 10 000 diamonds is coloured, the most rare being blue, green, pink and red, Krüger adds. The colour is vivid Diamonds are graded according to their colour. “Vivid is the description for the ultimate colour saturation in a diamond and the highest possible colour grading for a fancy colour diamond,” she says.…

Between eight and 20 percent of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage, Cape Town gynaecologist Dr Deon van Zyl says. The main cause is congenital abnormalities of the fetus, but in a small percentage of miscarriages – he estimates less than five percent – infection can be the cause. These are caused by a wide range of organisms, the most common of which is Escherichia coli (E. coli), which causes bladder infection. The most common danger signs of infection during pregnancy are fever, stomach cramps, heart palpitations and sometimes vaginal bleeding. – ROXANNE EASTES…

Most people get their souvenirs from a gift shop, but not chef BENNY MASEKWAMENG The MasterChef judge remembers his travels by getting inked “I’ve always had the best times when I’ve visited islands so I’ve had all my tattoos done on islands – Jamaica, Madagascar and Mauritius” he says However Benny’s latest addition is a “sleeve” he had done at Bondi Beach in Sydney, Australia “It’s a memento of the time I spent there There’s no particular reason for it – it’s just what was on my mind and what was going on in my life at the time ” ‘I feel like a warrior, conquering my way through the cooking world!’…

What bores you to tears? I would say really lousy music and people who have no vibe at all Traffic and standing in a queue at the bank also bore me to tears Which is more important – trust or love? Trust I think trust is more important in a relationship Being in love can come and go, but trusting someone is forever Would you rather be poor and happy or sad and rich? I would rather be poor and happy If you’re happy it won’t take long before you become rich, because you’ll feel inspired What do you miss most from your childhood? Having no sense of responsibility I can panic about the future But when you’re a child you don’t panic about these things You have fun and…

Patrick and Jillian Former Grey’s Anatomy star PATRICK DEMPSEY (49) was seen walking hand in hand with his estranged wife, make-up artist JILLIAN FINK (41), in Paris recently According to a source the spouses, who split nearly a year ago, are trying to “salvage their relationship” Jillian filed for divorce in January after 15 years of marriage, citing “irreconcilable differences” In a statement they said their three children – Tallulah (13) and twins Sullivan and Darby (8) – remained their “primary concern” At the time Patrick hinted at the reason behind the split, saying he had trouble managing his time between his acting career and motor racing “It would be nice to be not spread so thin sometimes I need to balance things better than I did in the past…

Having just read the article about the woman accused of kidnapping Zephany Nurse (YOU, 12 November), I have to say: Maria*, your story doesn’t ring true! You say you weren’t aware the baby had been kidnapped. Surely you realised when the so-called adoption papers weren’t presented to you. And you lied to your husband about being pregnant! The intent was evident. Did you ever think about the misery your selfish act inflicted on several people? Would the Nurse couple have divorced? What about the loss Zephany’s siblings felt? It must have been traumatic for them when they were told of Zephany. For once, take ownership for your actions. CL CALDER, EMAIL • “Steal her? No way! That little baby was put in my arms.” Your story angers me to my…

Soon after the news of the horrific attacks broke, famous global monuments were lit up in red, blue and white – the colours of the French flag – and Facebook developed a feature for people in France to mark themselves as “safe”. The Safety Check allowed people to notify loved ones they hadn’t been hurt. The social-networking giant also created a way for users to show support for the grief-stricken nation by overlaying their profile pictures with the tricolour flag. As the world mourned with France, not nearly as many people knew that tragedies of a similar scale had happened weeks earlier in Lebanon and Turkey in suicide bombings believed to be the work of Isis. “When my people died no country bothered to light up its landmarks in the…

FRUGAL isn’t a word we associate with our president. There’s the Nkandla debacle, the jet that may or may not cost billions and several spouses covered by presidential perks. People have been grousing for years that we’re not getting a good deal with Jacob Zuma. And now, if we measured it by the yardstick of value for money, it seems to have been confirmed. Business journalist Alec Hogg, writing on his site biznews.com, points out the president isn’t the best value for money when compared with other world leaders. At least Zuma isn’t the highest-paid – he was fourth on a list of salaries released by CNN, coming after US president Barack Obama, Canada’s former prime minister Stephen Harper and Germany’s Angela Merkel. But comparing countries’ leaders based on their…

A study of genetic material could probably be used to expose those who are doping as the drugs activate certain proteins associated with them, says sports scientist Professor Tim Noakes. Professor Noakes quit the international Wada committee years ago. This was because he wasn’t convinced all possible avenues of exposing doping were being explored – and there have been no developments since to change his mind, he says. Science can be used to solve the problem if it’s properly funded and intellectually supported, he explains. “But this requires the will,” he adds. “Where there’s a concerted effort, unethical people will find ways to circumvent the system” says Khalid Galant, executive head of the SA Institute for Drug-free Sport (Saids) . Some countries, including SA, subscribe to international standards for combating…

DELUXE PORTUGUESE ROLLS SERVES 4 Preparation: 10 min Cooking: 15-20 min MARINADE 5 ml (1 t) ground cumin 5 ml (1 t) dried oregano 4 garlic cloves, crushed 10 ml (2 t) Portuguese spice mix 10 ml (2 t) olive oil STEAK 600 g pork steaks salt and pepper MUSTARD SAUCE 60 ml (¼ c) mayonnaise 15 ml (1 T) honey 5 ml (1 t) Dijon mustard ROLLS 4 Portuguese bread rolls, halved 20 g fresh coriander 4-6 gherkins, sliced Preheat the oven to 230 °C Grease a baking sheet with nonstick spray 1 Marinade Mix the ingredients 2 Steak Rub the meat with the marinade Roast on the baking sheet for 15-20 minutes or until done (time depends on the thickness of the meat) Rest for 5 minutes 3…

The South African economy is said to be teetering on the brink of a recession and annual salary increases are no longer making an impact on most consumers’ financial wellbeing. As prices of electricity, fuel and consumable goods rise, modest salary increases make little difference to consumers’ financial position come the end of the month. It is not all doom and gloom though – there are ways in which South African consumers can protect their disposable income, specifically as it relates to their medical costs. Most consumers are willing to accept that replacing a stolen or damaged vehicle or the contents of one’s home could prove to be a very expensive undertaking and, accordingly, will seek the protection of an insurance policy to mitigate the effect of this risk. How…

THE ILLUSTRATED SOUTH AFRICAN FIRST AID MANUAL By Linda Buys, Struik Lifestyle, R170 (Recommended retail price) You’re hosting a braai and suddenly a bee zooms out of nowhere and stings one of your guests on the elbow Unbeknown to you, your friend is allergic to bee stings and next thing he’s in anaphylactic shock, wheezing until he passes out Now what? This guide tells you exactly what to do What’s nice about the book is that it doesn’t overwhelm you with information – in most cases the advice is broken down into three or four steps, each accompanied by an illustration It provides concise and yet comprehensive instructions on how to deal with all the common first-aid emergencies From cuts, burns and insect bites to more serious problems such as…

EXPERIENCE ADVENTURE You’re a ball of energy with no job, no debt, no family obligations and no worries. Chances are you won’t get another chance to travel and live as freely as you will in your gap year. So embrace it! IT MIGHT MEAN BETTER RESULTS A study of colleges and universities in the US found students who took a gap year got results that were on average six percent higher than those of their peers. MORE DIRECTION Often students enrol for a course, realise it’s not for them and change to something completely different. This can be expensive so rather take time to consider exactly what you want to study before you invest time and money. YOU’LL HAVE PERSPECTIVE If you’ve experienced the wider world you’ll have a better…

If parents can’t come to an agreement about their children, the court is the ultimate guardian that acts in the children’s best interests, Cape Town divorce lawyer Bertus Preller says. The court will grant permission based only on the best interests of the children. An important factor the court takes into consideration is whether the parent’s decision to relocate is reasonable and bona fide. Our courts take a pragmatic approach to such cases, and although the move may be detrimental to the other parent who will have less contact with the child, life must go on, Preller says. That’s not to say the courts don’t consider the impact on the left-behind parent, but our courts are compelled to respect the freedom of movement and family life of relocating parents. In…

Diamonds cost so much because mining them is high-risk and expensive, Dennis White of the Diamond Education College says. In addition they last forever and are regarded as a timeless investment. Regrettably the vast sums diamonds yield aren’t shared equitably in the industry, professor of geology Sebastian Tappe says. The most significant mark-up happens on auction, which means the international auction house scores the most. “South Africa probably saw only 10 percent of the money paid for Blue Moon,” he says. “It’s a big problem in the mining industry, where one country does the work and another earns the money.”…

It’s hard to believe it’s already been three months since radio presenter ANELE MDODA gave birth to her beautiful baby boy. The Highveld Stereo DJ finally showed off her adorable son on Facebook and explained why she’s kept little ALAKHEILIZWE under wraps until now. “In my culture we don’t show the baby until three months, just to eliminate bad energies which we believe newborns have no way of blocking out. Today my son is three months so here we are; please meet Alakhe-ilizwe. The latest love in my life.” We think he’s absolutely gorgeous!…

NOW this is just cray-cray! Turns out MINDY MANN, the nanny whose affair with British rocker GAVIN ROSSDALE (50) broke up his 13-year-marriage to GWEN STEFANI (46), had a bit of an unhealthy obsession with her female boss Over the past year the twentysomething Australian has been snapped wearing outfits identical or near-identical to those of The Voice judge, complete with matching locks The affair – which lasted three years including while Gwen was pregnant with the couple’s youngest son, Apollo – was uncovered in February when another nanny employed by the couple found texts and photos of Mindy on a family iPad and told Gwen “Gavin’s texts were linked to the iPad and could be seen They talked about meeting up to have sex and she sent naked photos”…