Innholdsfortegnelse for 24 September 2015 i You South Africa

WEALL know people who’ll do anything to avoid conflict. I find it immensely irritating but that’s because I believe if something bothers me, the only way to handle it is to get it off my chest. Otherwise it stays with me for ages and I end up having multiple arguments in my head – which I always win, of course! And now I know my approach is right. Our feature on page 44 says avoiding conflict will temporarily relieve stress but you can become anxious if you don’t deal with issues. It’s simply not good for you, a local clinical psychologist says. If you find it hard to tell someone why you’re annoyed about something they’ve done, our article has advice for you. It explains why you might fear conflict…

THE Rugby World Cup is a good reason to have friends over. All the action is bound to make you peckish, but who wants to miss out on the excitement to cook! This food can be prepared in advance and arranged on a table near the TV along with drinks so everyone can help themselves. STICKY SPARE RIBS SERVES 8 Preparation: 12 min Cooking: 50 min 1,5 kg pork rib 1 litre rooibos or chicken stock 1 onion 1 carrot salt RUB 250 ml (1 c) honey 250 ml (1 c) lemon juice 60 ml (¼ c) soy sauce 3-4 chillies, chopped TO SERVE handful each of sesame, pumpkin and sunflower seeds 15 ml (1 T) sugar pinch each of ground cinnamon and coriander 1 ml (½ t) ground cumin…

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Write to Dr Louise, PO Box 39410, Moreleta Park 0044, or email info@drlouise.co.za. HE WANTS TO BE KINGOFTHEHOUSE Q I’m 50, have been married for 28 years and am the primary breadwinner. Our children are all grown up. I’ve allowed my husband to walk over me for years. He makes all the decisions, and the house (inside and out) must look the way he wants it to look. I feel as if there’s nothing in the house that reflects my taste. If I try to oppose him, he simply gets angry and tells me I’ll feel sorry if I leave and will walk out with nothing. I hate conflict so whenever he’s aggressive I just back down. I’m overcome with anger now – not only towards him but also towards…

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YOUNG & WILD A self-professed “Hollywood brat”, Josh is the son of actor JAMES BROLIN (BOTTOM CIRCLE) and wildlife activist Jane Cameron Agee. Born and raised in California on a ranch that doubled as a rehabilitation centre for wild animals, Josh spent much of his teens clashing with the law. “I tried heroin. I mean, I never got into it and I never died from it . . . most of those guys I grew up with, they’re all dead now” he says. LOSING HIS MOM He hit a downward spiral after his mother died in a car crash on his 27th birthday in 1995. He’d always called her on his birthday and sent flowers with a note saying, “Thanks for this life” but didn’t get a chance to speak…

MELISSA paused before she read the final line of the story to her daughter. Chloe was tucked up in bed, staring up at her. Melissa was tempted not to read the last line, but then realised that wasn’t fair. Why should she spoil her daughter’s expectations just because she no longer believed in fairytale endings herself? “And they lived happily ever after,” Melissa said. She leant over and kissed her daughter’s forehead. “Goodnight, sweetheart.” “Night, Mommy,” Chloe said. Melissa stood quietly, taking the book with her. It was worn and dog-eared. She’d had it since she was child, when she’d believed in Happily Ever After herself. She headed to the kitchen, switched on the kettle on and took a cup from the cupboard. One. It wasn’t the only reminder that…

Eben Etzebeth (SA) “He could be a serious factor for South Africa” says SA rugby commentator Hugh Bladen “Eben and Pieter-Steph du Toit are two stars of the future” former Bok captain Wynand Claassen agrees Damian de Allende (SA) The sensational young inside centre can not only run over the opposition, he can beat them with good footwork and running lines He’s also an excellent ball distributor Jesse Kriel (SA) Meyer’s decision to use the Bulls fullback at outside centre was inspired Analysts have praised Kriel’s acceleration, power and ability to spark the Bok backline Kieran Read (New Zealand) Like Richie McCaw, this athletic, cunning eighth man always pops up at the right place and makes the right decision The World Player Of The Year is a key member of…

S It’s official: TAYLOR SWIFT (25) is the new queen of social media! The pop star has taken over from Kim Kardashian as the most followed Instagram user with 45,7 million followers compared with Kim’s 45,6 million. While the Shake It Off singer tends to post pictures of her cats, famous friends and DJ boyfriend, Calvin Harris (31), Kim floods her feed with mostly sexy selfies and shots of her famous family. S Seems DRAKE (28) is having a hard time keeping up his ladies’ man reputation after photos emerged of him and tennis champ Serena Williams (33) getting cosy in a restaurant (HYH, 10 September). “Getting caught with Serena really ruined his game with the plethora of girls he has at his disposal” a source close to the rapper…

HE HEARD an ear-piercing explosion and the next moment the inside of the car was covered in shards of glass. Instinctively he turned to check if his daughter in the backseat was okay. The 11-year-old was clearly in shock but appeared unharmed. It was only then that Justin Slabbert turned to the front passenger seat where moments earlier his son had been chatting excitedly about the trip they’d planned for the weekend. Eight-year-old Caden Slabbert was silent. His head was slumped on his chest and bleeding profusely. Next to the gear lever lay the grey cement brick that had come flying through the air, smashing the window on his side of the car. In the weeks after the attack in April on the N12 highway near Alberton, Gauteng, Caden’s life…

JUICY ROAST CHICKEN WITH HUMMUS AND SALSA Soaking the chicken in brine ensures the meat remains juicy and the skin becomes crispy while roasting. SERVES 4 Preparation: 10 min Standing: 30 min Cooking: 45 min 60 ml (¼ c) table salt 4-6 chicken pieces 15 ml (1 T) lemon juice 30 ml (2 T) olive oil salt and pepper HUMMUS 1 can (410 g) chickpeas 15 ml (1 T) olive oil 30 ml (2 T) plain yoghurt 2 garlic cloves, crushed 30-45 ml (2-3 T) lemon juice 10 g fresh coriander, chopped salt and pepper SALSA ½ cucumber, diced 3 tomatoes, diced 1 red onion, diced 10 g fresh coriander, chopped 10 ml (2 t) white wine vinegar 15 ml (1 T) olive oil 5 ml (1 t) castor sugar…

THE latest knitting craze to hit the streets is “arm knitting’’. This technique requires no needles, just your arms. It’s easy to master, quick to grow and so much fun. SIZE About 45,5 cm wide and 183 cm long, excluding the fringe MATERIALS Note: the wrap in the picture was made using Bernat Blissful 100 g balls in Midnight Mist (colour A) and Inky teal (colour B) This is a super-chunky yarn made of 100% polyester and has 97 m per 100 g ball 3 x 100 g balls of super-chunky yarn in colour A 1 x 100 g ball of super-chunky yarn in colour B 8 mm crochet hook for fringe CHOOSING THE CORRECT YARN You need a super-chunky yarn that would usually be knitted on 8 mm needles…

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INCLUDE MUFAS: decrease LDL and total cholesterol. Found in olive oil, canola oil, avocados, nuts and seeds. PUFAS: lower triglycerides, cholesterol and LDL levels. Found in fatty fish such as salmon, sardines and snoek, walnuts and some vegetable oils. LIMIT SATURATED FATS: raise LDL (bad cholesterol) levels and lower HDL (good cholesterol) levels. Found in meat (especially red meat), full-cream dairy products, butter, coconut oil and palm-kernel oil. AVOID TRANS FATTY ACIDS: raise LDL and lowers HDL levels. Found in brick margarine, biscuits, pastries, deep-fried items and processed foods.…

Send suggestions for topics and requests for info to yourmoney@you.co.za. We may answer your questions in this column but won’t reply personally. YOUR FUND CREDIT Your fund credit is the amount of money you receive when you resign or retire, and represents the total value of your investment. It includes all contributions and yield to date. Markets vary continually and this means your value may differ from that of your latest statement. The golden rule for a comfortable retirement is your fund credit should equal 10 to 12 times your annual salary, says Michelle du Toit of Old Mutual Corporate Consultants. YOUR INVESTMENT PORTFOLIO This shows which investment funds your retirement money are invested in and what the yield is. Many retirement funds have a default investment strategy. This means…

Many owners believe a “little extra padding” isn’t serious but overweight pets have shorter lives, they’re at higher risk of diseases such as arthritis, urinary conditions, heart disease and cancer, and research has found fat pets are less happy. Obesity is both preventable and treatable, so why is it such a “big” problem? A key reason is loving owners often aren’t objective about their pet’s size. ONLY 12,5% of SA dog owners consider their pet to be overweight ONLY 20% of SA cat owners consider their pet to be overweight BUT 50% of patients seen by SA vets weigh more than is healthy S Free assessment In October many vet practices are offering free #petobesityweek weight assessments. Find a participating practice at petobesityweek.co.za and call to book a free weight…

LISTEN TO THIS! FOREVER ALESSO This Swedish DJ has taken the world by storm with his unique dance tracks, scoring four top 10 hits in just four years – the most recent being the Roy English-assisted Cool which samples Kylie Minogue’s Get Outta My Way. Now Alesso steps into the spotlight with his debut album, featuring a collection of cool, light and energetic tunes that will put you in the mood for a lazy summer holiday. The standout track is undoubtedly the monster radio hit Heroes, featuring Habits (Stay High) singer Tove Lo. – PETRUS MALHERBE NEW ON THE BIG SCREEN / STRANGERLAND Drama. With NICOLE KIDMAN, HUGO WEAVING and JOSEPH FIENNES. Director: KIM FARRANT. 16LVS. Opens 25 September. A family is devastated when their two teenagers disappear just before…

IN THE book she’s a short, plain redhead – but in the movie feisty Libby Day, the haunted heroine of Gillian Flynn’s Dark Places, is magically transformed into . . . Charlize Theron. The casting had many book-lovers puzzled when the movie hit our screens recently. “Did the producers even bother to read the novel?” one annoyed fan mused. While director David Fincher produced a brilliant adaptation of Flynn’s Gone Girl, the response to Dark Places, which is based on an earlier novel by the author, has been decidedly lukewarm. “Onscreen, the brooding character doesn’t make us care for her in the same way,” says USA Today critic Carly Mallenbaum. It’s a complaint that’s often expressed by passionate readers. But beware: there are many movie adaptations of famous books due…

CHRIS Froome is slight. He is the human equivalent of a greyhound, his frame the perfect synthesis of muscle and leanness. His legs are bruised and cut from the inevitable crashes that all professional road cyclists endure, his eyes are bright, his hair is short and his hands are almost perfectly still as he chats to me on a sunlit afternoon at the Team Sky house in the south of France. This is the base for the all-conquering British cycling operation, overlooking Monaco. From here the riders, almost every morning, even on their “rest days”, set out into the hills around the Côte dAzur to torture their bodies and discipline their minds. We’ve already talked for an hour, perhaps 90 minutes, about life, love, the loneliness of the long-distance cyclist,…

SHE’S a city girl through and through and has built a career that puts her firmly in the public eye. He’s a farm boy who steers clear of the spotlight and works in corporate social development. As a 5FM DJ she has her name constantly in the media; his usually appears only as a byline on the freelance articles he writes. Fikile Moeti, aka DJ Fix, and Orrock Robertsen are the ep tome of the “opposites attract” principle – it’s clear, as they open up for the first time about their relationship, that they’re deeply in love. We’re meeting Fix ( 9) and Orrock (37) at their home in the heart of Johannesburg’s CBD. Their penthouse suite boasts a panoramic view of the city skyline, and the rooftop deck with…

GQ MEN OF THE YEAR AWARDS…

I disagree with your story about black tax (YOU, 3 September). My husband and I are both physically disabled and white. We married when we were in our late teens and have been taking care of family since before our wedding and still are after 39 years of married life. We’ve raised two children, taken care of my parents and buried them. We took care of my three brothers and have already buried two of them. We are still taking care of the remaining brother and sister to a certain extent. Not once have we blamed somebody else for the burden of having to take care of others. CHARMAINE PEACOCK, YOU FACEBOOK This story about so-called black tax made me realise we’re still very narrow-minded in South Africa. My sister…

OUR 12TH MONTHLY FINALIST TRACEY MICHAU A HOT PRIZE FOR OUR QUEEN OF THE BRAAI! The winner of our competition, who’ll be named in our 22 October issue, will receive a versatile range of top-quality braai and cooking equipment from LK’s worth R25 000. After 25 years in the industry, LK’s understands South Africans’ braai needs. It’s a leading supplier of a wide range of products no seasoned braaier can do without. Go to lks.co.za  or call 021-905-0640 for more information. ‘ MOVED from KwaZulu-Natal to I the Karoo a year and a half ago,” says Tracey Michau from Orange Grove Farm at Cradock in the Eastern Cape. “I’m lucky enough to grow all my own vegetables and eat free-range meat from our farm. The only thing I…

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It’s an easy rule: at the end of the day think back on the fat you consumed. If most of it came from olive oil, give yourself a gold star for making the best choice for your health. Studies have shown heart disease rates are low in countries that use olive oil as their main source of fat. Olive oil is the main source of mono-unsaturated fatty acids (mufas) in the Mediterranean diet. These are healthy fats that lower your total cholesterol and low-density lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol levels. Diets high in Mufas and polyunsaturated fatty acids (pufas) and low in saturated and trans fatty acids can help to lower your risk of developing heart disease and help control blood-glucose levels, especially in people with type 2 diabetes. Elevated levels of…

TRY these tips to help your partially sighted or blind companion to feel safe and comfortable around the home. Avoid moving furniture and try not to leave anything in passageways. Routine and consistency are important, so keep their litter box, food and water bowls and bed in the same place. The place where your pet rests and sleep should be easily accessible. Cover sharp corners with soft padding to avoid injury. Safeguard stairs by putting a barrier at the top and bottom (baby gates are perfect for this). Pools and ponds must be securely fenced off. Keep your pet on a leash outside to prevent injury and to give them a sense of security. Speak quietly to your pet before touching them if they don’t know you’re there, and do…

WHISKY AND WATER A chemistry teacher wants to alert his Grade 5 learners to the dangers of alcohol abuse so he performs an experiment involving a glass of water, a glass of whisky and two worms. “Now, class” he says, “closely observe the worms”. He puts one worm in the glass of water The worm writhes about, happy as a worm in water can be. Then the teacher puts the second worm in the glass of whisky The worm curls up, writhes about then sinks to the bottom, dead. “Now, what lesson can we learn from this experiment?” the teacher asks. Little Johnny, sitting in the back, raises his hand. “Yes, Johnny”. “Well, it’s obvious” he says “If you drink whisky you won’t get worms”. SHAUN MILLER DANGER AFOOT Two…

WHAT DO YOU MEAN? JUSTIN BIEBER He had huge success with Where Are Ü Now, his recent Skrillex and Diplo collaboration; now the Biebs (21) is back with a new single. This track is all about a failing relationship and how a girl can’t seem to make up her mind about what she wants. It’s the first single off Justin’s upcoming studio album, his first in three years. It also became his first No 1 song on the US Billboard Hot 100 singles chart. We like the Biebs’ vulnerability on this tune which has chart-topper written all over it. LUSH LIFE: ZARA LARSSON Meet the 17-year-old Swedish pop star who’s already being hailed as the “new Rihanna”. Zara won the talent show Talang, the Swedish version of America’s Got Talent,…

LIBRA SEPTEMBER 23 – OCTOBER 22 Turn on the charm to have things your way The Sun is settling in your sign, making you the favourite of the Zodiac. This makes it a good time to turn on the charm, whether to catch someone’s eye or sweet talk yourself into an overdraft facility or out of a parking ticket. On another tack, it’s time to put your own interests first, even though it may mean disturbing the peace. Luckily you’re bound to be in a more independent mood and less concerned about others’ approval. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 41, 30, 47, 6, 29, 49 SCORPIO OCT 23 – NOV 21 As a Scorpio you’re probably the still-waters-run-deep type. This week it’s most apt to go deep and delve into the subconscious…

2 The number of alternative names they had in mind for the band. Bromance or The Powerpuff Blokes were the options, Michael says. We’re so glad they stuck with 5SOS! 20 How many people rocked up at their first gig. Ouch! 40 The number of countries where their second album shot to No 1 on preorders before its release. 57 How many times 5SOS supported One Direction on their Where We Are stadium tour. Harry Styles pranked the boys by running into their room naked! It was “traumatising”, Michael says. 13 MILLION+ That’s how many YouTube views of their latest single, She’s Kinda Hot, they’ve notched up. They also nabbed a gong for Song Of The Summer at the recent MTV Video Music Awards. 21,7 MILLION+ Their combined fan total…

Four radically different looks in less than a month – it has to be some kind of record! No wonder actress BOITY THULO is considered a trendsetter And it seems she’s channelling some of Hollywood’s trendiest peeps too, judging by these pics Over the past few weeks the 25-year-old actress has managed to resemble Beyoncé, Rihanna, Amber Rose and Kylie Jenner! Boity says she loves changing her hair as it allows her to show off different sides of her personality “@nstarzhair always giving me options to explore my wild side” she wrote on Instagram A LION TAMED Popping the question was all about the element of surprise for rugby player COURTNALL SKOSAN The 24-year-old Golden Lions winger was determined to catch girlfriend SEMONE RAMSING (25) off guard when he proposed,…

PRINCE HARRY (31) has reportedly been wooing his ex-girlfriend, Zimbabwean-born lawyer CHELSY DAVY (29), following a three-month tour of Africa The royal has spent much of this time promoting conservation causes, but he also made time to see his blonde ex from whom he split five years ago According to a source, Harry, who’s been single since ending his two-year romance with model-turned-actress Cressida Bonas last year, still holds a candle for Chelsy “There’s still very much something between them, but Chelsy won’t commit yet because she doesn’t want to lead a life in the spotlight Harry’s very sensitive to that” the source tells the UK’s The Sun, adding, “He’s never fallen out of love with Chelsy She’s not like other girls; she’s strong, independent and a rule-breaker” Meanwhile Harry…