Innholdsfortegnelse for 04-Jan-18 i You South Africa

I GOT a bilingual dictionary for my 13th birthday. I now realise my parents were being practical by buying school supplies as a gift. I didn’t know it then but I would have loved it anyway. It was yellow and blue and filled with so many wonderful words . . . Over the years I got a few more and developed a thing for beautiful stationery and notebooks. I don’t use them as much now because pretty much everything is digitised. But when I looked at our back-to-school pages I remembered how much I loved new pencils and pens and feeling the crisp pages of my new schoolbooks. I also remember the excitement, slight fear and nervous anticipation of the year ahead. Sometimes I still get those feelings when the…

To Anti-Tat (YOU Say, 30 November), each to their own. I don’t moan about people with perms or mullets because I don’t like them. Let people make their own choices. I highly doubt that when I’m a granny I’ll be wearing revealing clothes showing off my wrinkly, saggy skin - let alone my tattoos, which have great meaning to me, by the way. NONJUDGMENTAL, EMAIL Dear Anti-Tat, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. If you don’t like tattoos then good for you, don’t get any. I have a every right to put what I want on my body. I lost my only child and I have a tattoo of her name over my heart. We all have our own reasons for doing things.…

LEONARDO DICAPRIO He delivered an amazing speech on climate change in 2017 and he’s a UN Messenger of Peace – Angie is a sucker for anything with UN in it. Could she be the one to end Leo’s bachelor days? JOHNNY DEPP Major potential here. He may have a dark side and icky teeth but Angie has never minded a dose of dodgy. Plus they had major chemistry in the movie The Tourist – the director even commented on it. It was incredible, he said. See? BEN AFFLECK He’s single, she’s single, they both love kids – could work. Benny boy does have a bit of a roving eye though, so Angie would need to lay down the law. But she’s good at that. BILLY BOB THORNTON They might be…

JASON ROHDE Estate agent Jolene Alterskye was thrust into the limelight in 2017 as the mistress of former property boss Jason Rohde, charged with killing his wife, Susan. During his murder trial, deeply personal details of his marriage and affair came to light and love letters between Rohde and Jolene were handed in to the court. “You held me when I was sleeping and my son grew to love you,” she wrote in one. “Every part of my house, every sunset at sea reminds me of you . . .” The affair was allegedly one of the reasons he and Susan argued on the night she died. The trial will resume in February. CHRISTOPHER PANAYIOTOU The murder of Port Elizabeth teacher Jayde Panayiotou in April 2015 made news headlines. Two…

Amelie: Short-sleeve shirt (65% polyester, 35% cotton) R69,95, skirt (65% cotton, 35% polyester) R79,95 and leather shoes by Toughees R229,95, Ackermans. Pullover (100% acrylic) from R54,99, Pep. Ankle socks R25,99 for two pairs, Jet. Ike: Short-sleeve shirt (65% polyester, 35% cotton) R74,95 and pullover (100% acrylic) from R69,99, Jet. Shorts (65% polyester, 35% viscose) R84,95, Ackermans. Knee-high socks from R12,99, school shoes by Student Prince R79,99 and backpack R109,99, Pep. Zeah: Long-sleeve shirt (65% polyester, 35% cotton) R69,95, Ackermans. Skirt (65% polyester, 35% viscose) R89,99 and ankle socks R25,99 for two pairs, Jet. Pullover (100% acrylic) from R54,99 and school shoes by Student Prince R74,99, Pep. Backpack by Oxford R159,95, Edgars. Ambatha: Short-sleeve shirt (65% polyester, 35% cotton) from R35,99 and knee-high socks R25,99 for two pairs, Jet. Skirt (65%…

THERE’S an app for everything these days. Want to stop yourself from calling your ex when you’ve had one too many? There’s an app for that. Want to track your bowel movements? Yes, there’s really an app for that too. It’s a new year and you want to be more organised – and you know there are apps for that too. But with such a mind-boggling array to choose from, where do you start? We take a look at a few cool apps to help you get your life in order. HABIT LIST Cost: free Available on Android as Goal Tracker & Habit List and on iOS as Daily Habits –Habit List and Routine Tracker Need an app to help you stick to your new year’s resolutions? Habit List can…

TRUTH WILL OUT Little Johnny and little Tommy are chatting. “I know an easy way to get whatever you want,” little Tommy says. “And what’s that?” little Johnny asks. “Tell people that you know their secret.” The next day little Johnny goes up to his father and says, “Dad, I know your secret!” “Please don’t tell your mom!” his dad says. “Here’s R50.” Then little Johnny runs up to his mother and says, “Mom, I know your secret!” “Please don’t tell your dad!” she says. “Here’s R50.” Just then there’s a knock on the door. It’s the postman. Little Johnny runs up to him and says, “I know your secret!” The postman’s face lights up. He opens his arms and says, “Come little Johnny, give your dad a hug!” ALL…

THE BOOK OF HENRY Drama. An insecure single mom (Naomi Watts) starts following instructions in a notebook written by her genius son, Henry (St Vincent’s Jaeden Lieberher), to rescue the girl next door (dancer Maddie Ziegler) from her abusive stepdad (Dean Norris). This tearjerker starts slowly but builds tension and holds you rapt right until the end. Lieberher is wonderful as the quirky, courageous protagonist, and is ably supported by Room star Jacob Tremblay (as Henry’s younger brother) and Ziegler, who especially shines in a heartrending dance sequence. – CHEZ POOL 2017. 10-12PG L. 102 MIN. ALSO ON DVD. TRANSFORMERS: THE LAST KNIGHT Sci-fi action. If you’ve ever wanted to hear Oscar winner Anthony Hopkins address Mark Wahlberg as “dude”, this is the movie for you. Actually, you can probably find…

THE WISDOM OF SUNDAYS By OPRAH WINFREY Flatiron Books Nobody in TV has quite the same ability as Winfrey to get guests to open up and say stuff. This book is a collection of all the “aha” moments she’s had while interviewing some of the world’s most inspirational people for her popular TV show Super Soul Sunday. They include leading spiritual thinkers such as Eckhart Tolle, Pema ChÖdrÖn, Paulo Coelho and Deepak Chopra, as well as big names such as Eat Pray Love author Elizabeth Gilbert, activist Malala Yousafzai and Grey’s Anatomy creator Shonda Rhimes. The book is arranged in themes such as forgiveness, fulfilment and love and connection. Winfrey’s guests share their collective wisdom, offering advice on how to deal with the challenges that come your way and make…

ON A sunny Monday afternoon an American man and a Chinese woman walked into one of London’s oldest and most exclusive casinos. As they entered Crockfords in Mayfair they were greeted warmly. The man was Phil Ivey, one of the most successful professional poker players of all time, a world champion with a reported personal fortune of some £75 million (R1,05 billion). The woman was . . . Well, nobody really knew who the woman was. Nobody really cared. The point was, Phil Ivey had just walked in. And Ivey, as everybody knew, loved high-stakes gambling. Crockfords is opulent: there are crystal chandeliers, rich carpets, Regency portraits in elaborate gilt frames, cocktail bars and a restaurant that will produce whatever dish a guest demands. But this wasn’t why Ivey was…

From before Grade R your children should be read to every day. From Grade 2 they should be reading independently daily. They should also still be read to by someone else as this exposes them to more advanced vocabulary and concepts, educational psychologist Melanie Hartgill says. TIPS FOR BUSY PARENTS Let older siblings or grandparents read to your child. Play them audiobooks in the car or at home. Make it a ritual to read a book with them every night before they go to bed. Sign them up at your local library and take them every fortnight to exchange books. Get them involved with reading groups or library reading circles – this will be of particular help if their first language isn’t English. Enrol your child in a professional reading…

1 Which local singer is the voice of Bliss, the first black Powerpuff Girl? 2 Which comedian had such an amicable split from his wife that she was happy for him to talk about it in his new stand-up show, The Divorce Tour? 3 Which former Miss SA is expecting twins soon? 4 Which celeb tot has more than 65 000 Instagram followers? 5 Which celeb couple are expecting another baby this year? 6 Who won the YOU Spectacular award for Sexiest Man in 2017? 7 Which South African-born actress plays Tala, Princess of Nubia, in the Scorpion King movie that was filmed in Cape Town? 8 Match the celeb to their Instagram bio. 9 Who was 2017’s winner of The Voice SA?  BY SHANAAZ PRINCE 10 Which local singer…

HOLD THE HASHTAG With the recent news of the Libya slave trade it’s come to my attention that people are so caught up in the #PrayFor trend that most of them are #PrayingFor situations they don’t even know about. Libyans are selling other Africans, yet people are busy with #PrayForLibya because most of them aren’t educated but are simply part of a trend. We shouldn’t be praying for Libya. We should be praying for our people who fell victim to the Libyan slave trade. I urge people to educate themselves before they go out there and become part of a trend that might not necessarily align with their values. LEGOADI PRINCESS RAMABELE, MEADOWLANDS MIXED MESSAGES I’ve been seeing a man for two and a half years. He’s 17 years older…

Khanyi Mbau, all the money you spend on plastic surgery is such a waste. I can’t even afford medical aid. Why can’t you just be grateful and happy with how God made you? Remember, a million surgeries will never give you true happiness! GET REAL, SMS So glad to read that there’s someone else who squeezes the opening of food cans (YOU Say, 16 November). I’m concerned for the small animals looking for food. ALSO CONCERNED, EAST LONDON To drivers who insist on cutting in on one’s following distance, this isn’t an opportunity to practise sardine-packing skills. LOUISE, SMS In the past few weeks we’ve heard of two people being attacked at municipal dump sites. There are gangs of about 10 robbers armed with knives. No wonder people dump their…

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NOT only are these tasty and packed with fibre, they’re healthier than regular muffins as they contain far less sugar, fat and flour. Fruit provides the sweetness, while butter makes way for peanut butter in the oat muffins. Avo and cottage cheese are ideal toppings. OAT AND PEANUT MUFFINS Sugar-free peanut butter is a tasty spread for these muffins. Dates provide the sweetness. MAKES 8 LARGE MUFFINS  Preparation: 15 min Baking: 30-45 min 5ml (1t) bicarbonate of soda 250g dates 180ml (¾c) rooibos tea, hot 250ml (1c) oats 180ml (¾c) desiccated coconut 250ml (1c) stone-ground white bread flour 10ml (2t) baking powder 5ml (1t) ground cinnamon pinch of salt 250ml (1c) unsalted peanuts 2 eggs 30ml (2T) canola oil 60ml (¼c) brown sugar or honey 60ml (¼c) peanut butter (sugar-…

SOMETIMES people have debts that accumulate over the years without their knowledge. Often these debts have grown into a whopping amount. But after a few years (there are different periods for different debts) it becomes prescribed. This means you’re no longer liable to pay. Although some debts are prescribed only after 30 years – a home loan, for example – many are prescribed after three. These are debts such as a doctor’s bill or gym membership. The three-year period starts the moment the debt is incurred, for example on the day the first invoice was sent to you. It’s illegal for debt collectors to demand payment of a debt once it’s prescribed. They also can’t threaten to slap you with a bad credit record because any prescribed debt shouldn’t reflect…

JIMMY NEVIS “I plan to release my next album, Quarter Life Crisis, and go on tour in SA as well as perform internationally. I’d love to see Anderson Paak or Rihanna.” TIMO ODV “I’ll be working hard in the studio to finish another EP as well as doing a lot of gigs. I’m hoping to see Maceo Plex.” THE KIFFNESS “We’re playing our first Kirstenbosch concert in Cape Town in March, a pretty big milestone for us. I’d love to see Flight of the Concords.” PASCAL & PEARCE “We’ve got some exciting stuff in the pipeline – a couple of new singles, maybe another studio album and some really cool collabs! We’d love to see Calvin Harris or Blink 182.” JACK PAROW “I’m planning to make trouble and moremusicin2018, haha.…

MICHELLE PFEIFFER BATMAN RETURNS  Michelle turned her demure image on its head, nailing the sexy yet sinister role as Batman’s nemesis/ love interest Catwoman in the Batman sequel. “I trained for months with a whip master,” she says. HALLE BERRY CATWOMAN  Halle was the pick of the litter for the standalone movie, but not even the Oscar winner’s animal magnetism could save the film critics dubbed soulless and “so boring it’s not even laughable”. Ouch! ANNE HATHAWAY THE DARK KNIGHT RISES  Christian Bale’s Batman met his match in Anne’s sly, seductive Selina Kyle. “I got my big break with The Princess Diaries and everyone asked me, ‘Did you always want to be a princess growing up?’ And the truth was no, I wanted to be Catwoman,” Anne says.…

WHY I REMEMBER THAT TRANSPLANT WITH all the hype around the 50th anniversaryofthefirstheart transplant, I have my own story to add to the mix! On Saturday 2 December 1967, my fiancé, Jeff, and I went to the Wrench Town Bakery in Observatory to order our wedding cake. My dress was adorned with silk daisies – and the cake I wanted was to be a three-tiered creation with daisies cascading down from the top. When we arrived the staff were disorganised and distracted and hardly able to take down our order. Eventually we were told that two ladies, a mother and her daughter, had just been into the bakery but as they left, in attempting to cross the busy road outside the shop, had been knocked down. The mother died immediately…

AS 2017 drew to a close, the gossip galloped along. First he was offering her a settlement of $100 million (about R1,4 billion) because she wanted to get back together and he wasn’t interested. If he offered her enough money, the story went, she’d just go away. Then reports broke of a “Christmas miracle”. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie would be setting their differences aside and spending the holidays together with their kids. “The holidays make Brad really sentimental about family and especially about his kids,” celeb news site Hollywood Life reported. “Pampering them makes him feel good and Angie doesn’t want to interfere with that.” Could any of it be true? Seems not. Gossip Cop, a website that prides itself on sifting the tittle-tattle from the truth, claims the…

MORNINGS can be such a rush trying to get everyone in the house ready for their day! You need to make sure backpacks are packed, lunchboxes are sorted out and that your kids look neat for school. Make life easier by giving your child one of these easy, low-maintenance and funky hairstyles. LOOK 1: FRENCH BRAID This kind of braid is great as it tends not to loosen or unravel during the day and will keep her hair out of her eyes. Starting with three sections at the top of the head, cross one over the other as you would when plaiting hair. Take a small extra section of hair from each side as you cross over from one side to the other. Repeat until all sections have been braided…

TOM YUM NOODLE JAR This is a hearty, easy-to-prepare lunch to take to the office. Pack everything into jars the previous night then round off the meal 10 minutes before you tuck in. MAKES 2 X 500ml JARS  Preparation: 10 min Finishing: 10 min 5-10ml (1-2t) Thai red curry paste (optional) 2 beef stock pots or cubes 30ml (2T) lime or lemon juice 2 packets (70g each) instant noodles 1 large smoked chicken breast, thinly sliced 6 green asparagus spears or green beans, halved lengthways 4 spring onions, chopped 50g baby spinach leaves or shredded large spinach leaves 10ml (2t) toasted sesame seeds 5ml (1t) dried chilli flakes TO FINISH boiling water microherbs (optional) Keep two clean 500ml glass jars with lids handy. 1 Spoon half the curry paste (if…

I’M TIRED OF THE SAME ROUTINE Q For the past two years I’ve been thinking a lot about my life and I feel as if I’m just running on the same track. I’m so tired of it. All I do is go to work, make food, do household chores, shop for food and clothes – just the basics as there’s no money for more – and simply be a mom. I feel as if life is passing me by and I worry that I’m going to wake up one day and realise I’ve wasted my life. My kids are older and don’t really need me anymore – one is in Grade 12 and the other in Grade 10. How can I make my life more exiting? My husband is a…

CAPRICORN 21 DECEMBER – 20 JANUARY Guard against being too controlling Your rate of success this week hinges on your attitude, whether in terms of personal wellbeing, achieving your goals or upholding good relationships. With regards to the latter, as an authoritarian Capricorn you might have to guard against being too controlling. A cheery disposition will get the feel-good hormones pumping and a positive attitude should go a long way towards clinching the deal or fulfilling an ambition. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 17, 10, 4, 42, 31, 20 AQUARIUS JAN 21 – FEB 18 If you’re a true Aquarius, you probably care about humanity and would like to make the world a better place for all. It’s a good week to perform humanitarian acts and deeds of kindness, even if it’s…

THE GIRL WITH ALL THE GIFTS Horror thriller. Based on the acclaimed novel by MR Carey, this grim postapocalyptic thriller starts off promisingly with a cheerful girl, Melanie (an excellent Sennia Nanua), waking up in a bunker in a British military base and being shackled to a chair by fearful soldiers. She’s infected with a fungus that turns people into slavering “hungries”. But unlike adults, she and the other kids in the bunker are still rational, turning into monsters only when they smell other humans. When a horde of these zombies overrun the base – in a brilliantly choreographed extended take – Melanie escapes with a kind teacher whom she adores (Gemma Arterton), a stoic soldier (Paddy Considine) and a scientist (Glenn Close) who hopes Melanie could be the key…

BEING in the presence of Kagiso Rabada is slightly intimidating. One of the leading bowlers in Test cricket and the youngest player to have claimed 100 Test wickets for South Africa, he’s already got more than 20 Test caps in the bag. He also has more awards and accolades than you can keep count of – and he’s only 22 years old. Talk about a boy wonder. Yet, as we’re about to discover, none of this seems to have gone to his head. He’s calm and down-to-earth when he meets YOU for coffee at the luxurious Palazzo hotel in Montecasino, Joburg, casually dressed in a white T-shirt, black shorts and grey sneakers. His goal is to be the best in the world, he tells us, a feat he managed –…