Innholdsfortegnelse for 14-Dec-17 i You South Africa

IF YOU’RE still struggling to decide what to get your sister’s kids or your littlest cousins, think about treating them to tickets to our fabulous exhibition at Cape Town’s V&A Waterfront (there’s now a gift option too – go to computicket.com). Future Park has already wowed thousands of visitors to the Mother City and it’s a great way to keep kids entertained. They get to colour in and create 3D models, which then come to life on the exhibition wall. It’s like nothing else you’ve seen in South Africa. Go to futureparksa.co.za to watch the videos of what’s on offer. Speaking of gifts for kids, our new school homework special edition, Homework Done!, is out now for parents who want to get a head start on school items for next…

I wonder how many readers can relate to this situation: sparing the feelings of the family of an adulterer and molester to the detriment of the emotional and mental wellbeing of another. When my daughter was 16 we had a party at our home to celebrate my husband’s birthday. We’d arranged for a few friends to sleep over so there were beds made up on the floor. It was late and my daughter had fallen asleep, mercifully fully clothed, on my bed. She woke up to find her uncle, my husbands’ brother, next to her trying to get his hands into her jeans! He was whispering to her. She came to call me and told me what had happened. He was very drunk and my only thought at that moment…

‘It’s such a powerful way of telling people how they should behave to others’ WONDER BOY The 11-year-old actor made such an impression with his moving performance in the Oscar-nominated movie Room that he’s been offered parts without even having to audition. One of them is his role as Auggie, a boy with a facial deformity who’s sent to a mainstream school for the first time at the age of 10. The film, called Wonder, is an adaptation of the bestselling 2012 novel of the same name by RJ Palacio. Auggie has Treacher Collins syndrome, a genetic disorder characterised by deformities of the ears, eyes, cheekbones and chin. His parents (played by Julia Roberts and Owen Wilson) decide it’s time for him to interact with other kids after he’s been…

MIDDLE-EARTH: SHADOW OF WAR Platforms: PC, Play-Station 4, XBox One Almost every part of Shadow of War is better than its predecessor, Middle-earth: Shadow of Mordor. Well, almost . . . The expanded nemesis system is fantastic and still the series’ best feature, the combat is fun and varied, and the world is a joy to traverse. But the story feels as if it’s been twisted to fit the gameplay. Another small issue is the game’s implementation of loot boxes, which can be bought with in-game currency or real money. The latter isn’t needed until the end of the game where the grind to get Legendary Orcs – available in paid loot boxes – becomes time-consuming. Gripes aside, this is an enjoyable game that offers hundreds of hours of fun.…

THE WIZARDS OF ONCE By CRESSIDA COWELL Hodder From the author of the smash hit HowToTrainYour Dragon series, this new offering pits warriors against wizards, with some witches thrown in for good measure. When 13-year-old Xar, a wizard without magic, tries to prove himself by capturing a dreaded witch, he finds himself in trouble and has to team up with a warrior princess named Wish to redeem himself. This reluctant collaboration between supposed enemies leads to lots of explosive situations. Cowell’s lively illustrations and tongue-in-cheek humour is bound to appeal to young readers in the eight-to-12 age group. HOORAY! THOKO By NIKI DALY Jacana South African author and illustrator Niki Daly introduces his resourceful and kind-hearted new heroine, Thoko, in this delightful collection which is also available in Xhosa, Zulu…

‘What I crave is privacy time as a family away from a lot of the fluff' BEAR GRYLLS has the house every family wants: a lighthouse keeper’s cottage with an eight-hectare back garden, its own jetty and a slide into the sea. There are jet skis, quad bikes and an amphibious vehicle that could be straight from a James Bond film. For a few months a year, before the weather turns too cold, the Grylls family – Bear (43), Shara, his wife of the same age, and their three sons, Jesse (14), Marmaduke (11) and Huckleberry (8) – live Famous Five-style with only seabirds and seals for company. Appropriately for a man who fronts a TV show about surviving on a remote island, Grylls has a private one of his…

BY THE time you read this, President Jacob Zuma will have mere days left as head of the ruling party. Under his watch much has happened – people have been hired and fired, the rand has plummeted, the economy has suffered and the state has been captured. All of which has led many to rejoice at the fact that, come 2019, he’ll become “an ordinary voter”, as he puts it, at his local Nkandla branch of the ANC. Yet there’s more than a year to go until the general elections – and the million-dollar question now is, will Zuma still wield power and influence after the elective conference closes on 20 December? We went looking for answers to this and other questions as Zuma’s last year at the head of…

ZAVION KOTZE Most touching wedding moment “Definitely my own wedding. We both had our moms walk us down the aisle and when I saw my husband-to-be, I just cried nonstop. Our first dance was the best moment of my entire life – we danced to Pink’s Glitter in the Air. I loved it.” Most embarrassing wedding moment “I once saw a bride step on the skirt of her wedding dress as she got out of the car at the church and the entire thing came down. Wardrobe malfunctions on your wedding day are the worst!” Biggest wedding no-no “Fake flowers! If you’re willing to put a fake flower at a wedding, you should just not get married.” DENISE ZIMBA Most touching wedding moment “It kills me every time the bride…

Now poor Kate is dowdy (YOU, 16 November). Gosh, in whose opinion? She’s beautiful, well groomed and stylish. Now we have Prince Harry’s fiancée, Meghan Markle – another asset to the royal family. Princess Di would be so proud of her sons and their choices. JR WRIGHT, EAST LONDON It seems the post office is going to be responsible for social grant payments – but they can’t even deliver mail! PUZZLED, SMS I love Loyiso Gola (YOU Say, 30 November) and miss his local TV show, which was on a while ago. He has the right idea about living a good life. MOXIE, SMS Today I read the article on Pravin Gordhan (YOU, 23 November). I’m an elderly widow and I feel he should be in control of our country.…

IT’S the first thing that catches your eye as you walk into the lounge of the Peters’ home in Potchefstroom: a huge framed black-and-white picture of Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters taken when she was 13. With her long brown hair blowing in the wind and a big smile on her face, she looks radiant – hardly surprising that just nine years later she was crowned the most beautiful woman in the universe. These days her father, Bennie Peters, and stepmother, Elzabé, have to draw comfort from this photo and others because they don’t know when they’ll see her again. Straight after her Miss Universe victory Demi (22) was whisked away to New York, her home for the duration of her reign. But as she embarks on her exciting new journey her loved…

CHICKEN WALDORF SALAD WITH SORGHUM FLATBREADS Enjoy the crunch of this chunky flatbread with the salad. SERVES 4 Preparation: 20 min Cooking: 7-10 min FLATBREADS 375ml (1½c) cake flour 125ml (½c) coarsely ground sorghum 160ml (²/3c) ice water 60ml (¼c) olive oil 5ml (1t) salt GARLIC BUTTER 60ml (¼c) butter 4 garlic cloves, crushed handful of fresh parsley, finely chopped SALAD 1 iceberg lettuce, shredded 4 celery sticks, chopped 1 cooked chicken, deboned and roughly shredded 50g walnuts or cashew nuts, roughly chopped DRESSING 60ml (¼c) mayonnaise 60ml (¼c) plain full-cream yoghurt finely grated zest of 1 lemon and 45ml (3T) of the juice Preheat the oven to 200°C. Grease two large baking sheets with oil. 1 Flatbreads Put all the ingredients in the bowl of a food processor and…

For a day look, wear your jeans with a trendy T-shirt and classic sneakers. Accessorise with a statement waist bag and a printed neckerchief for a stylish edge. Platform shoes elongate the legs and add a retro feel to your summer look. Layer a cold-shoulder top over a colourful cami to add interest. Accessorise with pops of colour to complete your playful outfit. Slogan accessories and message Ts make a strong statement this summer. A backpack, a cap and funky sneakers, create a sporty look. OUR MODEL is Jihaan Opperman (18) from Worcester in the Western Cape, the July winner of WeCan24’s YOU photoshoot competition. Jihaan is a WeCan24 cub journalist and Pay intern at the Western Cape government. WeCan24 is an educational digital youth network that empowers young people…

I CAN’T STAND THE VERBAL ABUSE Q I'm 41 and my husband of 17 years is 62. I wanted to start our married life with no secrets but he keeps bringing up my past and throwing it in my face every chance he gets – including the child I had and lost with a man I didn’t know was married at the time. It’s especially painful for me because I haven’t had another. I’ve asked him why he stays with me and he tells me he loves me. But is it possible to behave like that towards someone you love? He refuses to father a child, buy a house or do any of the things married couples normally do. He says he doesn’t want any kind of long-term commitment because…

THURSDAY NICHOLAS NICKLEBY ★★★ 1985 min, 72 min, A, SABC1, 05:02. Animated drama. In 19th-century England a young man and his family lose their fortune when his father dies and are forced to rely on his ruthless uncle. CROWNING JULES ★★ 2017, 90 min, PG, M-Net, 08:00. Comedy. Teenage twin sisters on a road trip are pursued by thieves who want the stolen jewel the girls unwittingly have in their possession. Elizabeth Labadie. SPEED 2: CRUISE CONTROL ★ 1997, 121 min, 1997, e.tv, 20:30 & 01:20. Action. While on a cruise, a couple try to stop a hacker who’s hijacked the ship. Jason Patric, Sandra Bullock. THE LEAGUE OF EXTRAORDINARY GENTLEMEN ★★ 2003, 110 min, 13V, e.tv, 23:05. Fantasy adventure. Some of the most famous characters in 19th-century English literature,…

The year is 1934 and 13 apparent strangers are sharing a carriage on the Orient Express train, travelling from Istanbul in Turkey to Calais, France. Soon after one of the passengers is found murdered in their cabin, the train is stopped by an avalanche that’s blocked the tracks. Fortunately, brilliant detective Hercule Poirot (Branagh, with a distracting fake moustache) is also on the train. Although the film, based on the Agatha Christie novel, keeps you guessing, the twist in the tale – which might have been mindblowing in the ’30s – feels more like a satire of Christie’s work than a serious effort. The film’s biggest drawcard – its star-studded cast, which includes Judi Dench, Johnny Depp and Michelle Pfeiffer – also turns out to be a double-edged sword as…

Congrats on your debut album, Out of My League. Tell us more about the title track? Thank you so much! Everything I write is either directly or indirectly related to something I’ve experienced. I really wanted to write about how self-doubt plays such a role in our lives and how we just end up selling ourselves short. How long was the recording process? It took about eight months. We recorded in various studios across the country and in Germany. I worked with eight producers so I was very fortunate. I’ve always believed that the more minds there are in a room the more powerful you are. What’s the theme of the album? Love. I’ve spent the past few years of my life with a series of “almosts” when it comes…

FAIL IT’S OKAY TO FAIL “My dad was always telling me, ‘It’s okay to fail.’ Pick the path less trodden because that’s going to be a more interesting life. You will fail. Embrace it.” HAVE FUN OUTDOORS “One of the biggest dangers isn’t injury but inactivity. You don’t have to climb mountains; go to parks.” SHARE THE CHORES “My three boys have to do their chores every morning. Many hands make light work.” JOIN THE SCOUTS “When they earn those badges and they swear allegiance to be kind to each other and to help people, it gives a sense of pride that money can’t buy.” DON’T LISTEN TO THE DREAMSTEALERS “Follow your dreams, and be kind to others along the way.” DON’T GIVE UP “Everyone I meet asks, ‘What’s the…

She knows she has big shoes to fill now that she’s taken over as Miss SA, but Adè is up for the challenge. “I’m thrilled and humbled,” the 26-year-old doctor says of donning the crown for the next six months after Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters became Miss Universe on 26 November. Adè took over the reins as Miss SA 10 days after making the top 10 at the Miss World pageant in China. We asked the brunette beauty to tell us a bit about herself. 1 I’ve delivered 25 babies in my medical career so far. 2 I have a little dachshund called Sebastian and we go for walks along the promenade in Cape Town every day. 3 Coffee and dark chocolate are the perfect food combination to end off any meal.…

THANK YOU, MY DARLING! AS WOMEN we don’t always appreciate the little things our spouses do for us. My husband of 44 years was recently diagnosed with cancer and the radiation has knocked him flat. He’s suffering from unbearable pain, passes out unexpectedly, is constantly nauseous and throws up the few cream crackers he manages to eat. He’s lost 17kg since March. It’s agony watching him suffer and just lying in bed, unable to do much for himself. It’s made me realise how much he actually did do to lighten my burden. He’d get up and make breakfast while I showered, then he’d make the bed while I got ready for work. After dropping me at work he’d buy bread and milk, then do maintenance around the house. He’d refill…

Make this festive season unforgettable with family, friends and fabulous food. YOU Best Recipes: Braai 2017 is packed with great recipes and menu ideas to make any outdoor occasion special. And for more decadent recipes get a copy of YOU Indulge – from lamb shanks to no-bake Oreo cheesecake, you’re sure to find something for that holiday lunch or New Year’s Eve dinner! To order your copies go to youstore.co.za, call Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or email johan.terblanche@media24.com. SUBSCRIBE DIGITAL ONLY R64 A MONTH  Go to you.co.za and click on “subscribe”. Take up our special offer and subscribe to YOU’s digital version for just R64 a month – that’s a cool R14,70 an issue. Offer valid for annual subscriptions only.…

MIRROR, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest royal of all? Several members of the British House of Windsor come to mind – and of course, soon-to-be-royal golden girl Meghan Markle is way up there too. But there are plenty of other genetically blessed blue bloods making a pretty splash. Take a look at this collection of privileged people wowing the world with their looks, status and charm. BRITAIN LADY AMELIA WINDSOR (22) The granddaughter of Queen Elizabeth’s cousin Prince Edward, Duke of Kent, has been on everyone’s radar since Tatler magazine crowned her the royal family’s most beautiful member last year. She now has a modelling contract with Storm Model Management, which represents supermodels such as Kate Moss, and made her runway debut earlier this year at Milan Fashion…

TIP Colourful blankets and throws look great draped over the back of a neutral couch – and they’re handy on chilly nights. Consider painting just one wall in a bright colour to create a focal area. Add pops of colour to your room with accessories such as scatter cushions and vases. That way it’s not too expensive to change the look and feel of the space when you get tired of it. STOCKISTS @HOME 0860-66-66-74; ABODE 072-261-3540; H&M 086-0690-707; LINEN DRAWER 021-872-0108; MAKRO 0860-300-999; MRP HOME 0800-212-535; POCO 021-036-1070; SUPERBALIST.COM 086-002-2146; WOOLWORTHS 0860-100-987 WE MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO PROVIDE ACCURATE PRICES BUT MISTAKES MAY OCCUR. YOU AND THE SUPPLIERS DO NOT BIND THEMSELVES TO THE PRICES PRINTED HERE.…

BIG BLUE Give your French manicure a radical twist by painting your nails blue and the crescent black. TANGERINE DREAM Add a fun summer colour to your look with bright orange nails. HOW TO MAKE IT LAST You might think a base and top coat are a waste of time and money but they protect against chipping. Follow our tips to get longer wear from your nail colour. You’ve painstakingly painted your nails and they look amazing but a day later they’re already chipped. Wearing gloves while doing things such as washing dishes or gardening helps but you can also extend the life of your nail polish by following these steps when applying it. Make sure your nails are clean. Use nail polish remover to remove any oil or residue…

IT'S a common myth that people who suffer from depression can’t get life cover. This isn’t true and premiums aren’t necessarily higher simply because of this. But if you suffer from depression, your insurer might use exclusions so you can still get long-term insurance. We explain what they are and how they’re applied. BEFORE YOU SIGN UP When you take out a policy you’ll be asked on the application form if you suffer or have suffered from depression, anxiety or stress, or if you’ve experienced problems with your nervous system or mental health. Depression presents in a variety of ways and the insurance company has to determine the severity of your condition. By law you’re obliged to disclose such a condition to the insurer because it can influence the risk…

OUCH! What’s red and bad for your teeth? A brick. IT’S COMPLICATED A blond guy and his wife are about to have a baby. When she starts to have contractions he rushes her to hospital where, to their great surprise, she gives birth to twin boys. “All right!” her husband yells. “Who’s the other father?” OUT FOR THE COUNT While on their honeymoon a guy asks his new wife, “How many boyfriends did you have before you married me?” There’s a long silence. “Don’t want to tell?” he eventually asks. “Hang on,” his wife says, “I’m still counting.” GOING DOWN A guy and his wife live on the second floor of their building with their two sons, Ikey and Mikey. One day their father decides to go shopping but finds…

SPIDER-MAN: HOMECOMING  Sci-fi action. The announcement of a third Spider-Man reboot was met with scepticism. Did we really need to see Peter Parker being bitten by a radioactive spider again? But after the relative failure of 2012’s The Amazing Spider-Man, Sony – which owns the rights to the Marvel Comics character – struck a deal with its competitor: Sony would finance the film while Marvel experts had creative control. This allows the wall-crawler to team up with other Marvel characters like the Avengers (in 2016’s Captain America: Civil War). The result is the best Spider-Man movie to date. Thankfully skipping the origin story, in this film Peter (Tom Holland) is already Spidey but still in high school. Because he helped the Avengers, Iron Man (Robert Downey Jnr) gives the 15-year-old…

KING OF TIME By JOHNNY CLEGG The iconic SA muso’s trademark blend of African styles and Western rock has made him a major player in world music for 40 years. On this impressive album – his first after a seven-year break – the White Zulu kicks things off with the high-energy title track about environmental issues. A welcome addition is his son, singer Jesse, who’s featured on I’ve Been Looking. This album once again shows why Johnny has been at the top for so long. – JACQUES MYBURGH THE THRILL OF IT ALL By SAM SMITH Fans of the British singer-songwriter waited three years for this and thankfully it doesn’t suffer from the second-album jinx – it’s basically Part 2 of Smith’s debut, In the Lonely Hour. The Thrill Of…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOVEMBER –20 DECEMBER It’s a good time to develop your artistic talents With the Sun still in your sign, it’s a week to make the most of your creative talents. If there’s a latent artist inside you waiting to be born, now’s the best time to develop your artistic bent. Whether you want to sign up for art classes, enrol in a creative writing course or learn to play a musical instrument, seize the day. When it comes to your love-life, try to impress your partner with deeds rather than words. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 40, 9, 48, 11, 22, 41 CAPRICORN DEC 21 – JAN 20 Your planet, Saturn, moves into Capricorn this week to start its lengthy journey through your sign. You can look forward to a…

BRAAI and beers, crispy fried chicken, piles of potato salad, ice cream, gifts of chocolate, ice-cold cocktails as you chill with your friends and family . . . It’s the season of indulgence all right. But if you’ve spent all year religiously sweating it out at the gym and eating healthily, does this mean enjoying the silly season will see 11 months of hard work fly out the window? Not necessarily. A month of letting go won’t cancel all that progress you made – if you’re smart about it. Here’s how you can indulge sensibly over the festive season. THE COCKTAIL PARTY Be wary of cocktail snacks and canapés (such as samoosas, pastries and mini quiches) as they’re usually high in carbs and fat, warns registered dietician Lila Bruk of…