Innholdsfortegnelse for 30-Nov-17 i You South Africa

I LOVE the advice in the book extract on page 48 on how to be happy. It seems so simple, really. “Summon up a time when nothing annoyed you, nothing worried you, nothing upset you,” the author, Mo Gawdat, writes. “When you were happy, calm and relaxed. The point is, you didn’t need a reason to be happy. “You didn’t need a big promotion or a hot date or a yacht with a helicopter pad. All you needed was no reason to be unhappy. “Happiness is the absence of unhappiness. It’s our resting state when nothing clouds the picture or causes interference.” Isn’t that a great thought? That to be happy is to not be unhappy. And even though it doesn’t seem that easy, he certainly makes it seem that…

No holiday feast is complete without a few delicious bakes. Whether you’re looking for a classic Christmas cake, a summery delight or individual indulgences, you’ll find loads of inspiration in YOU The 100 Best Recipes: Cakes (R42) and YOU Best Recipes: Bakes (R44). From an easy fruit loaf to tiramisu cheesecake and chocolate petits fours, there are delicious treats for everyone. You’ll also find plenty of options for the kids’ cookie jar during the holidays. To order your copies go to youstore.co.za, call Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or email johan.terblanche@media24.com. SUBSCRIBE DIGITAL ONLY R64 A MONTH  Go to you.co.za and click on “subscribe”. Take up our special offer and subscribe to YOU’s digital version for just R64 a month – that’s a cool R14,70 an issue. Offer valid for annual…

THEY told him they wanted to die, he claims, so he helped them do it – in the most gruesome way. Prosecutors say Takahiro Shiraishi kept his sickening deeds under wraps for months before the long arm of the law caught up with him. And when the police stepped into his studio apartment in Zama, a quiet suburb in southwestern Tokyo, they unearthed atrocities that stunned even the most hardened cops. They’d gone in search of a missing woman, Aiko Tamura – and inadvertently stumbled across a scene straight from a horror movie. Nine severed human heads and up to 240 pieces of bone were stashed in cooler boxes and toolboxes around the flat, covered by cat litter in a futile bid to mask the stench of decomposing flesh. In…

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T’S the festive season and the year-end parties are mounting up. But be careful not to overindulge – because not only is drunk driving against the law but if you’re involved in an accident your insurance probably won’t pay out. What’s more, alcohol abuse also impacts on longterm insurance cover, such as life policies. Let’s look at how overindulging affects your insurance. CAR INSURANCE ▶ NO PAYOUTS When you drive under the influence, you’re committing an offence and your insurance company is under no obligation to honour your claim. Even if you’re just fractionally over the legal alcohol limit and you drive your car and are in an accident, your insurance company doesn’t have to pay out your claims. Even if the accident wasn’t your fault. This also applies to…

Mother! Horror. With Jennifer Lawrence, Javier Bardem and Ed Harris. 16HLV. Director: Darren Aronofsky. In SA cinemas now. A once-famous middle-aged poet (Bardem) is desperate to create his magnum opus but is stuck in a creative rut he can’t seem to break out of. His perpetually bemused wife (Lawrence) desperately strives to please him by rebuilding the home he’d lost in a fire, which also killed his first wife. But when an uninvited guest (Harris) knocks on their door one quiet evening their relationship and tranquil existence is tested to its limits. The couple’s lives quickly spiral out of control as more people start to intrude on their once-immaculate abode, leaving the wife in a fever-pitch state of delirium. Right from the opening credits this movie straps the viewer in…

STAY SHINING By Riky Rick  He’s back with a banging second studio album! Riky’s family’s a big inspiration to him and it’s evident on this record. What’s refreshing is that his rap game continues to have a strong local feel, and the beat, sound and lyrics are truly Mzansi-inspired. The two years it took to make this record was definitely worth the wait. Standout track Buy It Out is all about fame and success – the remixed version will have you dabbing for days! – COLIN HENDRICKS RESTLESS By Craig Lucas  When you listen to this Cape Town singer’s debut album it’s clear why he won the second season of The Voice SA. It seems a lot of effort went into it and his smooth vocals and stellar songwriting are…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOVEMBER – 20 DECEMBER Try to be direct when conveying your feelings  Venus, diva of love, moves into your sign this week, which means it should be quite easy to attract the attention of someone special. On this note, remember that first impressions count – so you might want to make a special effort with your looks. If someone gets your pulse racing, it’s an opportune time to get the ball rolling. But take care – with Mercury reversing in your sign, mincing your words is a probability rather than a possibility. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 42, 9, 17, 5, 1, 3 CAPRICORN DEC 21 – JAN 20 The week takes on a rather contemplative tone, which is unusual for an ambitious Capricorn who likes to be productive. It’s…

DJ FRESH Why did you become part of this campaign? My journey in learning to measure my anger and set an example for my kids is important. I want to be a role model to my kids and other men. Abuse isn’t only physical but can also be mental and verbal. Why is it important for men to speak out against gender-based violence? Just because you aren’t abusive doesn’t mean you’re not part of the problem. Being silent at a time like this means you’re complacent and that makes you part of the problem. We’re all responsible for what happens to women in our society. How can men get involved in stopping the abuse? We need to measure our words and walk away from arguments that could make us lose…

‘Kylie didn’t like wearing baggy pyjamas – she wanted something sexier’ – INSIDER Kylie’s PJ bash Reality TV star KYLIE JENNER (20) apparently wasn’t happy with her pyjama party-themed baby shower. Kylie, who’s reportedly expecting her first child with rapper Travis Scott (25) in February, wanted it to be at a trendy club but her mom, KRIS, forced her to have it at her Los Angeles mansion for the sake of their TV show. “Kylie’s friends couldn’t use social media so pics didn’t leak out and everyone was banned from taking selfies.” An event without a selfie? Heaven forbid. Kim’s cherry blossom-filled stork party Reality TV star KIM KARDASHIAN (37) threw a floral baby shower at her Los Angeles home to celebrate the imminent arrival of her third child…

Actress LUPITA NYONG’O (34) is one of the most gorgeous women on the planet but a magazine still felt the need to Photoshop her hair for its cover. Grazia UK has since apologised to the Queen of Katwe star for publishing the edited image, saying it had been altered by the photographer without their knowledge. The photographer, An Le, has also apologised for the “incredibly monumental mistake”, admitting that smoothing her hair was an “unbelievably damaging and hurtful act”.…

IGNORE THE HATERS, KATE Regarding the article on the Duchess of Cambridge and her pregnancy (YOU, 16 November): I too suffered from severe morning sickness. Whatever I ate made me sick and it lasted for the whole day. When I fell pregnant my weight was 65kg and after the birth of my son I weighed 62kg. I do hope the duchess pays no attention to the ugly and negative reports about her. SOPHIA, SMS WHERE IS EVERYBODY? Due to financial pressure we recently had to sell our house and are in the process of looking for alternative rental accommodation. I found that the real estate market is full of properties to rent. With such a slow economy that’s not surprising, but what’s disturbing is how often I look at a…

I was horrified to read the following comment in the letter sent by P Baldwin (YOU Say, 2 November): “It’s time women started taking pride in their bodies and start wearing clothes to cover them up. Maybe then men would start respecting them more.” We’re finally standing up and exposing rape culture and that’s the sort of mentality we women are trying to end. Our clothes have nothing to do with how proud we are of ourselves. If anything, we’re comfortable showing our bodies because we love them and take pride in them. Do you hide a trophy or do you show it off for everyone to see? Women are strong, independent and intelligent. We don’t need a man to show us respect to know how much we’re worth. If…

CHOC-MINT ICE LOLLIES MAKES 6-8 LOLLIES Preparation: 15 min Freezing: overnight 160ml (²/3c) instant hot chocolate powder 60ml (¼c) cocoa powder 125ml (½c) water 250ml (1c) milk 250ml (1c) cream 15ml (1T) chopped fresh mint 6-8 ice lolly moulds 6-8 ice cream sticks TO SERVE fresh mint and cocoa powder (optional) 1 Mix the chocolate powder, cocoa powder and water to form a paste. Pulse the paste, milk and cream in the bowl of a food processor until well combined. Add the mint and pulse again. 2 Pour into 6-8 ice lolly moulds, cover and freeze for 2-3 hours. Insert an ice cream stick into each and freeze overnight. 3 Serve with fresh mint and cocoa powder if you like. FOR ICE CREAM Pour the mixture into a large, shallow…

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CATS BIRDS & RODENTS DOGS HORSES & DONKEYS PETS AS GIFTS It can be tempting to give a cute, cuddly pet as a gift but it’s a commitment and a responsibility for many years to come. Make sure the pet is wanted (no surprises) and that the breed suits the new owner. When you’re sure, visit one of your local animal shelters or look for a breed-specific rescue group online to adopt from. RESCUE CALENDARS Everyone needs a calendar, so support your local rescue group or animal welfare by buying a few calendars as gifts. Find them at most vet clinics or on the rescue groups’ Face-book pages.…

ONE FOR THE BOOKS A robber walks into a bank, pulls out a gun, points it at a teller and says, “Give me all your money or you’re geography!” The teller looks puzzled. “Didn’t you mean to say, ‘or you’re history’?” “Hey!” the robber says, “don’t change the subject!” EARLYDAYS First guy: I have the perfect son. Second guy: Does he smoke? First guy: No, he doesn’t. Second guy: Does he drink alcohol? First guy: No, he doesn’t. Second guy: Does he ever come home late? First guy: No, he doesn’t. Second guy: I guess you really do have the perfect son. How old is he? First guy: He’ll be six months next Wednesday. IT’S IN THE PUDDING A guy goes to see his lawyer. “My neighbour owes me R5…

SHE’S a tall, rangy, handsome woman with an unruly shock of grey hair who exudes a palpable air of can-do control and authority. Annie Leibovitz (68) sums it up more bluntly – there are times, she concedes, when she can be “a terror”. It’s easy to imagine how a certain measure of terror – or at least strength of will and power of persuasion – must be necessary to capture the pictures she does. For more than 45 years, through her work with Rolling Stone, Vanity Fair and Vogue magazines, she’s been the foremost pictorial chronicler of power, fame and celebrity (a word she loathes, incidentally) in American life. A new collection of her work, Annie Leibovitz: Portraits 2005-2016, has just hit the shelves. A copy sits on the desk…

Baby, work, baby, repeat – that’s life now for 5FM presenter FIKILE MOETI-ROBERTSEN, better known as DJ Fix, and her hubby, businessman ORROCK ROBERTSEN. The arrival of their baby boy, MALAKAI, five months ago has changed their lives completely. “My mother told me that once my little guy is born I’ll never sleep the same again. She was right!” Fix (31) says. “I really just worry about his wellbeing, which changes your whole perspective on life. “I truly commend single mothers,” she says, adding that Orrock (39) is a hands-on dad – which has been especially important since she returned to work. “I’m breastfeeding so I do the night shift, but by 5am I’m exhausted and hand Malakai over to Dad just so I can catch some zzzs!” It’s been…

It appears the reunion of Jelena is going rather well. SELENA GOMEZ (25) and JUSTIN BIEBER (23) were spotted sharing a smooch at an amateur hockey game the Biebs took part in recently in Los Angeles. The pair rekindled their romance after Selena’s recent split from singer The Weeknd, and it seems she’s won custody of the “kid” – the Cavalier King Charles puppy the Starboy hitmaker gave her as a gift. For those not in the loop Selena and Justin dated on and off for three years until 2014, when he started making headlines for his bad-boy behaviour. But he’s now said to have turned over a new leaf.…

Actor KEVIN SPACEY (58) was spotted for the first time since his sexual abuse scandal broke. The two-time Oscar winner was seen at a rehab facility in Arizona where he’s being treating for sex addiction. The House of Cards star booked himself into The Meadows after a number of men claimed he’d sexually assaulted them over the years. The clinic says it has the best sex-addiction treatment programme in the US, with patients journalling and using “expressive arts” to try to deal with their issues. Disgraced movie mogul Harvey Weinstein is reportedly also there seeking treatment.…

Poor LARA FLYNN BOYLE – she looks nothing like the fresh-faced beauty who graced our small screens in the cult classic Twin Peaks in the early ’90s. While the 47-year-old is no stranger to having work done, she shocked guests at a recent Hollywood gala with her bloated face and puffy lips. After she starred in the hit TV courtroom drama series The Practice in the early 2000s, Lara’s career seems to have taken a nosedive, with only TV guest appearances and the occasional movie on her CV.…

DRIVE-IN MUSICAL CHAIRS THE VW ad on TV where the bumbling guy keeps on going to the wrong car at the drive-in had my family in stitches the first time they saw it. In the mid-’80s we lived in Durban and were avid drive-in theatre buffs. I’d make enormous dishes of what my children dubbed “Kentucky a la Ross” (my homemade version of fried chicken), accompanied by buttered bread rolls and juice, and we’d all pile into the car and head for the drive-in. The kids would all go off to the seats in front of the “drive-in caf ” and hubby and I’d enjoy the movies in peace in the car, taking turns to check on the kids and take loo breaks. One hot summer night I went to…

Regarding buckling up (YOU, 2 November): when my kids were small every now and then I’d turn the key in the ignition before I put my seatbelt on and it would beep. So for many years the kids believed that if we didn’t buckle up the car would beep to warn us and wouldn’t start. KARIN PARKINSON, GLENANDA Tattoos suck! I’d hate to wear the same clothing or even colour every day let alone for the rest of my life. I don’t understand why some folk ink themselves because that’s the monotony they’ll experience all the way into old age: wrinkly, sagging pictures to match their ageing skin. Strange! ANTI-TAT, SMS In times of depression my neck starts to darken in colour. It’s getting worse every week. I scrub it…

PARENTS would do anything for their children, make sacrifices and go the extra mile to ensure they have everything they need. When that sacrifice means not only giving up a part of your body but making drastic lifestyle changes too, it becomes a special act of selflessness and commitment and an extraordinary act of love. But Lisa Steenberg (31) didn’t hesitate for a second to make that call if it meant saving her beloved firstborn’s life. Finding out she was a perfect match for her child was liberating for the family – but there was a catch: Lisa was far too overweight to become a donor and needed to shed 50kg first. It wasn’t easy but she did it – and last month Lisa and her daughter Larochelle (13) went…

HE RECLINES on the black leather couch in his family’s home, his legs stretched out in front of him, his feet dangling. He has some growing to do before his toes will touch the floor – but then Amr Salie is just 11 years old. There’s plenty of time for that. And yet, on the coffee table in front of him is something most adults can only dream of achieving: a copy of his first novel. It took Amr a mere three months to complete his book, Blameless – and the fact he wrote the whole thing on the notepad of his father’s damaged iPhone makes it all the more remarkable. Especially when you hear the phone would often delete an entire page of his efforts and he’d have to…

SHIREEN Mohamed of Durbanville treated our Cape Town office to a lip-smacking array of treats earlier this year – and we loved them so much we just had to share the recipes. The home baker isn’t the only one in her family who loves to spoil everybody with baked goods – she was introduced to us by lifelong YOU and Huisgenoot fan and recipe contributor Faatima Kahn from Parow. Shireen is self-taught but says her Auntie Faatima was a big inspiration. Enjoy! CHOCOLATE NUT COOKIES MAKES 80-85 COOKIES (12-15g each) Preparation: 30 min Baking: 15 min a batch BISCUITS 250g butter 180ml (¾c) icing sugar 125ml (½c) cornflour 125ml (½c) coarsely crushed puffed rice 125ml (½c) chopped almonds 5ml (1t) vanilla essence 125ml (½c) desiccated coconut cake flour 250g chocolate-coated…

I CAN’T TAKE THEIR ABUSE ANYMORE Q I’m 46 and have a stable job. I live with my daughter and ex-husband. About two years ago he left a good job and opened his own business but it went under and left us in a financial crisis. It was very stressful as I often had to work overtime just to pay all the accounts. I eventually divorced my husband 11 months ago as I didn’t want to be declared bankrupt. Our relationship has become very strained and there’s no longer anything between us. My ex and daughter put me down every chance they get, even though I do everything for them. My daughter does nothing to help around the house and gets upset and storms out if I say something. I…

THURSDAY THE LITTLE KINGS ★★ 2017, 90 min, PG13, M-Net, 08:00. Local drama. A disgraced cricket captain coaches misfits. Justin Strydom. DALLAS BUYERS CLUB ★★★★ 2013, 117 min, 16SNL, e.tv, 20:30. True-life drama. In 1985 an electrician finds out he’s HIV-positive and has 30 days to live. Matthew McConaughey. MOULIN ROUGE! ★★★★ 2001, 127 min, PG13, e.tv, 22:55. Musical drama. In early 20th-century Paris a poet falls in love with a beautiful courtesan. Nicole Kidman, Ewan McGregor. LUCY ★★★ 2014, 89 min, 16VL, e.tv, 01:35. Sci-fi action. A student is forced to smuggle drugs that leak inside her body and give her superhuman abilities. Scarlett Johansson. NORA’S HAIR SALON: SHEAR DISASTER ★★ 2011, 84 min, PG13, etv, 03:15. Comedy. Hairstylists band together to save their salon’s reputation. Jean Claude LaMarr.…

1 The 22-year-old, whose real name is Austin Richard Post, is ruling the charts with Rock-star, which knocked Cardi B’s Bodak Yellow off the No 1 spot on Billboard. The slow-burning song features on his new album, Beerbongs and Bentleys, which he describes as being “more eclectic” than his debut album, Stoney. 2 His musical style has been described as a “melting pot of country, grunge, hip-hop and R&B”. He credits his parents for his wide musical taste, saying “music shouldn’t be put into genres. I think you should listen to what you like and who cares what genre it is. That’s one of my biggest goals – to push the boundaries and help blur the lines of what the genres of today are.” 3 He chose 21 Savage to…

Life has become a little crazy now there are two little ones in the house, but singer DANNY K (40) and his wife, attorney Lisa Koppel (32), wouldn’t have it any other way. “Life’s busy, fun and a little exhausting but we’re so in love with our boys,” Danny tells YOU. “Having children has been the happiest experience of my life and having them with an amazing woman and mother is by far my biggest blessing.” The latest addition to the family, six-month-old KYLE, shares his dad’s dark hair and eyes, and eldest son JAYDEN (3) looks every inch the big brother after his light-brown locks were cut for the first time at age three in accordance with Jewish tradition. It’s the little everyday moments with his boys that he…

Seems it’s the done thing these days – warring partners hitting each other with protection orders. Oscar-winning actress and award-winning singer JENNIFER HUDSON (36) has gone and done just that after announcing her surprise split from fiancé DAVID OTUNGA (37) after 10 years. However her ex, a former pro wrestler – with whom she shares a son, DAVID DANIEL OTUNGA JNR (8) – isn’t taking it lightly. A statement issued by his lawyer read: “Mr Otunga has never abused or harassed Ms Hudson or their son, and it’s unfortunate, especially in today’s climate, that she’d feel the need to make these false allegations against him. “Mr Otunga looks forward to his day in court and in being awarded the residential care [sole custody] of the parties’ only child.”…

He said what? SINGER BLAKE SHELTON may be wishing he was never named US People magazine’s sexiest man alive. After the country music star and The Voice judge was awarded the title, Twitter erupted with users lambasting him for racist and homophobic tweets he wrote between 2009 and 2011. “Standing in line at a coffee shop in Los Angeles talking with the man in front of me. He orders a skinny caramel latte. I couldn’t tell he was gay?!” he wrote in one tweet. The 41-year-old has apologised for the tweets. “Anyone who knows me also knows I have no tolerance for hate of any kind or form. Can my humour at times be inappropriate and immature? Yes. Hateful? Never.” Meanwhile Blake, who’s dating fellow The Voice judge Gwen Stefani…

ROSE McGOWAN (44) is in trouble. The actress was arrested after cops found two small bags of cocaine in her wallet, which she’d left behind on a United Airlines flight. Rose, who’s been at the forefront of the sexual abuse allegations against Harvey Weinstein, was released on $5 000 (R70 000) bail. Congrats to MIRANDA KERR , who’s going to be a mom again! The Australian model is expecting her second child, her first with husband Evan Spiegel (27). The 34-year-old, who married the Snap-chat CEO in May, is already a mom to son Flynn (6), whose dad is her ex-husband, British actor Orlando Bloom. OJ SIMPSON (70), who’s been out of prison for less than two months, is already raising eyebrows. The former American football star and actor, who…

JUSTICE LEAGUE PREMIERE 1 Amber Heard donned a racy black Versace gown for the world premiere of the superhero flick Justice League, in which she stars as Mera, a protector of Atlantis. 2 Jason Momoa, aka Aqua-man, brought along his wife, actress Lisa Bonet, who was gorgeous in a red bejewelled Alexander McQueen gown. 3 Gal Gadot, aka Wonder Woman, was every inch a golden goddess in a shimmering Altuzarra gown.…