Innholdsfortegnelse for 26-Oct-17 i You South Africa

In this topsy-turvy country we live in it’s so heartwarming to read encouraging stories like the one about Michael’s recycling. Thank YOU for posting his picture (YOU Say, 19 October). Now we can put a face to his story. Well done Michael, you inspire us. ROSIE, SMS Our SPCA had a blanket drive and I donated a double duvet and six double fitted sheets. Last week I went to adopt a pet and the animals were lying on a concrete floor on a dirty old dishcloth. What happened to all the bedding I gave? I’ll be donating only pet food from now on! DISAPPOINTED, EMAIL In 1995 I was charged with two murders. After six court appearances the case was withdrawn. I was told the dossier would be sent for…

2014 Developing the hand begins. “We started off with a basic structure of the prosthetic hand to figure out if we could actually create one that’s low-cost, get it to work and make it functional,” says Abdul-Khaaliq Mohamed, leader of the team at Wits University who are developing a prosthetic hand that works with the brain’s electrochemical signals. 2015 The team start incorporating 3D printing to improve on the structure of the hand and to investigate the cost of the printing, along with the various electronics needed. 2016 They start incorporating control of the hand using muscles from the body. “The brain will transmit an electrical signal through the nerves into the muscles which will then cause the muscles to move. You can pick up those electrical signals either directly…

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A READER thought he was going to clear his mountain of debt when he came to a repayment agreement with the lawyers of the company he owed. Yet three years after paying R36 000 to cover his initial R32 000 loan, he still owed a whopping R20 000. He thinks lawyers’ fees could be the cause. We look at how lawyers’ fees work and what else could’ve contributed to his debt. IT’S LEGAL Lawyers who are registered with the Law Society of South Africa are permitted to recover debt. They aren’t governed by the Debt Collectors Act, but by the Magistrates’ Court Act. Their rates therefore aren’t the same as those of ordinary debt collectors. COLLECTORS’ COMMISSION A lawyer can charge a debt collectors’ commission of 10% plus VAT (if…

CALM BEFORE THE STORM When my wife gets a little upset, sometimes a simple “Calm down” in a soothing voice is all it takes to get her a lot upset. WORTH A TRY Every night, Harry goes out drinking. And every night his wife, Louise, yells at him. One day, one of Louise’s friends suggests she tries a different tack. “Welcome him home with a kiss and some loving words,” she says. “He might change his ways.” That night Harry stumbles back home as usual but, instead of berating him, Louise helps him into an easy chair, puts his feet up on the ottoman, removes his shoes and gently massages his neck. “It’s late,” she whispers. “I think we should go upstairs to bed now, don’t you?” “Might as well,”…

THE POTATO RACE WHAT YOU’LL NEED A hessian bag and an old pillowcase or sleeping bag for each player. How to play Each player gets into their bag. Someone shouts, “Ready, get set, go!” The first player to reach the end of the race, wins. COLOUR SCAVENGER HUNT 1 Search for all the colours of the rainbow in your garden or a park! 2 Draw up a guide (as pictured) in which you draw samples of the variously-coloured items players need to collect examples of. 3 Give each player a colour guide and start hunting. Players could have identical guides, or each player could search for different colours. Barni is now available in two delicious flavours – milk and chocolate filling. Barni cake fits perfectly in the hands of little…

YOU may have heard of South Africa’s Lion Mama, a woman who stabbed her daughter’s alleged rapists, killing one of them. It’s a story that seemed to have touched the hearts of everyone who heard about it – and overwhelmingly people were supporting her even after her arrest. She’s become a hero to many who are tired of the scourge that haunts our nation’s women. She was simply defending herself and her child, she says in our story on page 14, and she’s relieved the murder charge against her has been dropped. I can’t imagine what it must have been like to be in Lion Mama’s shoes. She’ll be haunted by what happened for the rest of her days – but she’s proud that she could save her daughter from…

Jason was born in England and lived in South Africa with his mother from the age of four. He matriculated at King Edward high school in Johannesburg. After school he started studying for a B Com degree but in 1991 abandoned his studies to take a job as a clerk at an insurance company. According to his statement submitted to court, he married Susan in 1993. In 1994 they moved to Perth, Australia, where he worked as an estate agency consultant. Two years later they moved back to South Africa. For about two years he worked at a travel agency, then as manager at an estate agency. Later he started a property business with his mother which was bought by Sotheby’s International Realty. In 2010 he was appointed executive head…

CHICKEN COUSCOUS SALAD SERVES 4-6 Preparation: 15 min 500ml (2c) couscous 500ml (2c) vegetable stock, boiling hot 30g butter 2 roast chicken breasts, shredded 1 garlic clove, crushed ¼ cucumber, deseeded and cubed 200g baby tomatoes, halved 100g dried cranberries 5ml (1t) cumin salt and freshly ground black pepper 15ml (1T) honey juice of half a lime handful of fresh coriander, chopped 1 Put the couscous in a large bowl, pour the hot stock over (ask an adult to help), cover with clingfilm and leave for 5 minutes. Add the butter and fluff with a fork. 2 Add the chicken, garlic, cucumber, tomatoes, cranberries, cumin and salt and pepper. 3 Mix the honey and lime juice and pour it over the salad. 4 Lightly toss the salad, sprinkle chopped coriander…

Be aware that a child’s skin is thinner and more sensitive than an adult’s Keep it clean Clean skin is happy skin, so teach your kids they need to wash their face twice a day – in the morning and before bed – as well as after they’ve exercised. Choose child-friendly products or pick ones that are free of dyes or perfumes, specifically designed for sensitive skin and dermatologically tested – the label should mention this. A child’s skin is thinner and more sensitive than an adult’s, making them more susceptible to allergic reactions. Test a product by applying a small amount to the inside of your child’s arm. Check after 24 hours if there’s a rash or redness. Be aware that you can use a product a few times…

Of course we all have reason to complain sometimes, but if it’s become a habit you need to break the cycle. The good news is, it’s possible to retrain your brain and get out of the cycle of negativity. BECOME AWARE “First you need to get into the habit of becoming more aware of when you have negative thoughts and tend to complain, as well as to whom – because certain people can trigger negative thoughts more than others,” says Johannesburg-based clinical psychologist Levandri Pillay. CULTIVATE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE When you feel like complaining, shift gears by focusing instead on something you’re grateful for. Not only will this help you move away from negative thought patterns, it also reduces levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Research conducted at the…

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CIA AGENT ALICE RACINE (Rapace) has been out of the field for years because she blames herself for a past failure to obtain information in time to save civilians in a terror attack in Paris. But when she’s the only interrogator in London who can help the CIA get the info they need regarding a terrorist threat, she reluctantly agrees – and unwittingly becomes a pawn in a game of double-crossing so complicated she has no idea who to trust. As with this year’s Wonder Woman and Atomic Blonde, it’s refreshing to see women being given grittier roles and watching them come into their own – which Rapace does with aplomb. Toni Collette is also fantastic as Emily Knowles, Alice’s MI5 contact, and the interaction between them is a realistic…

THE hotel was built in the Cape Dutch style with high gables and a whitewashed exterior. From my room I could see grapevines stretching across the valley. “Staying long, sir?” enquired the porter as he thumped my suitcase onto the stand by the wardrobe. “A few days,” I said. “Are you happy with your room?” “Yes, it’s very nice – a superb view.” “Good!” He turned to leave. “Just a minute,” I said, “Do you happen to know any interesting characters who could tell me about the early days of this little town? You see, I’m a writer and I’m hunting for some historic material.” “Yes, I know several people who might help you. But Oom Paul Fourie would probably be the most knowledgeable.” “Who’s he, and where do I…

SMOKE SIGNALS Fires were lit and the smoke used to send messages to other soldiers posted further along the wall. INSIDE THE WALL The interiors of the wall was filled with stone, mud and sand. WORKERS Labourers who built the wall included soldiers, forcibly recruited peasants, convicts and prisoners of war. THE OUTSIDE The outsides were built from stone and fired brick. THE ROOF The roof of the wall was used as a road for soldiers to travel on. FIREPOWER Cannons were used to shoot at the enemy as well as send signals at night or during foggy weather when soldiers in the towers couldn’t see one another. GUARDHOUSES Downstairs rooms in the towers provided shelter for soldiers, and could be used to store equipment and weapons. GUARDING THE WALL…

THE SKINNY ON DEMI Miss SA DEMI-LEIGH NEL-PETERS is one busy gal. She’s just launched her own line of jeans in collaboration with Soviet Denim and is about to fly off to Las Vegas in the US to compete in the Miss Universe pageant. We caught up with the beauty queen at her Demi Denim launch at the Soviet store in Midrand’s Mall of Africa in Gauteng to quiz her about her fashion favourites. What was your favourite outfit as a young girl? I was very much a girlie girl. I loved pink tutus and dresses. Which fashion item is a complete no-no for you? I think you can make anything work but I’m not crazy about a suit that isn’t tailored, and those bubble dresses – they just don’t…

In regard to the letter from Disrespected Gran about her ungrateful grandson (YOU Say, 12 October), I strongly suggest she talks to the mother of the boy and use tough love with him. As he’s 21 he should get a part-time job and still go to college, but it sounds as though even after college he’s not interested in making a living for himself. Tell him he can no longer live with you and you won’t finance him in any way, shape or form. You have to stand up for your rights because he sounds like a real scrounger. If everybody else thinks he’s a polite boy then let him go and live with them. Why has the mother never helped you out, and why does she never see the…

‘A crazy inexcusable liar . . .’ ‘He’s an actual predator, he’s dangerous’ HIS life unravelled so swiftly and so dramatically it was almost like watching one of the blockbusters he bankrolled onto the silver screen. Harvey Weinstein, the man who helped make stars of everyone from Meryl Streep to Jennifer Lawrence, commanded an empire worth billions of dollars and had the Midas touch when it came to spotting a winning movie. But, as the world has been discovering in staggering detail, he also took advantage of his power – and the subsequent fallout has exposed the ugly underbelly of the movie industry and ruined a guy once regarded as close to a god in Hollywood. Weinstein (65), a bear of man with a giant ego and unquenchable confidence, is…

Jason denies murdering Susan, but has said he was having an affair with brunette estate agent Jolene Alterskye. In his plea statement to the court he said he wasn’t proud of the relationship. Jolene, an agent at Sotheby’s in Sea Point, Cape Town, is the single mother of a young boy and one of the rising stars at the company. Last year Sunday newspaper Rapport reported that Jolene and Jason’s relationship apparently started in 2015 after she’d sold a flat on the expensive Atlantic Seaboard to Jason. Susan apparently found out about the affair when she saw a Valentine’s Day card in Jason’s pocket in 2016. She confronted him and he promised to end the relationship. Shortly after Jason was arrested last year, Jolene appointed an attorney to take care…

KIDS are curious creatures – they want to know how this works and what that means and why, why, why. And this guy was no exception – although from early on it was clear he was next-level in the inquisitive department. Exactly how did the TV work, he wanted to know? What was the chemical composition of the wiper fluid in his dad’s car? And why didn’t it freeze in countries where it snowed a lot? His parents, often at a loss, tried their best to answer him – and they’re no fools. His mom is a nurse and his dad a gastroenterologist, so they have a fair amount of knowledge between them. But their young son wanted to know everything and the sooner he could figure things out for…

MUSIC is blaring, the beer is flowing and meat is sizzling on the braai. As the day warms up, people mill about as they would at any outdoor festival. Then an announcement comes over the sound system: “All dwarfs, gather together!” The voice belongs to Deon Calitz, organiser of the annual Dwarf Festival, which this year is taking place at a resort near Modimolle, Limpopo. His rallying cry means it’s time for the tug of war – and today festivalgoers are going to show the staff of the security company that dynamite does indeed come in small packages. Twelve little people grab one end of the rope and the security staff in camouflage outfits anchor themselves at the other end. “On your marks, ready . . . heave!” Deon yells.…

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I JUST FOUND OUT I WAS ADOPTED I’m in my early twenties and recently discovered I was adopted. It’s been such a shock to find out the parents I love and admire so much aren’t my real mother and father. I used to be so proud that I have such modern, loving, lovable and nurturing parents because all my friends are crazy about my mom and dad. Now they seem like strangers to me, as if they’re nothing to me. And I can’t help feeling that what they’ve done is allow me to live a lie. I’ve also discovered that my birth mother was a drug addict and my father her pimp. What does this say about me? How am I going to hold my head high again? Patricia, email…

THERE’s no magic wand you can wave to extend the life of your beloved pet. But there’s solid advice you can follow to help your dog or cat reach a ripe old age in good condition. Pets come in various shapes and sizes, and certain breeds have a longer life expectancy than others – smaller dogs tend to outlive larger breeds, for example. Whatever pet you have, follow these tips to make sure he or she remains your faithful companion for as long as possible. BIG BANGS Stay home and care for your animals during fireworks season! WALKIES! A little exercise every day is better than long walks on the weekends with nothing during the week. 1 BEST POSSIBLE DIET A nutritious, species-appropriate diet helps boost your pet’s immune system,…

PEDIASURE® is the ideal nutritional supplement for children. But when do kids need to take a supplement? We asked registered dietitian Abigail Courtenay to answer a few questions commonly asked by moms. Q I’ve recently noticed my child is shorter than her friends at school and has also stopped eating things she used to love. Is my child growing normally? A Most children take well to eating solids for the first time and, being naturally inquisitive, try a variety of tastes and textures. But as babies become toddlers, their tastes in foods begin to change and they may become more selective about what they eat. This is often a stressful time for parents. Q So what’s the “norm” when it comes to my child’s growth and appetite, and what are…

CHECK THESE OUT CTRL By Sza The debut album by Solána Rowe – or SZA, pronounced “Sizza” – comes after six years of delays and the singer nearly quitting the business altogether. Across Ctrl’s 45-minute length the 26-year-old breathlessly leaps between genres, bemoans failed relationships and reflects on her self-doubt in a stream-of-consciousness style fans of Frank Ocean’s brand of R&B will adore. Ctrl is SZA’s raw and evocative coming-of-age story, and its soul-baring lyrics and bold delivery is a promising start for this enigmatic newcomer. – LINDSAY DE FREITAS CONCRETE GOLD By Foo Fighters If you’re expecting another hard-hitting album such as 2014’s Sonic Highways, you’ll be disappointed. On this, their ninth release, the band veers away from their grunge style to embrace a Beatles-esque sound. It’s most evident…

SCORPIO OCT 23 – NOV 21 The green-eyed monster might be lurking  It’s a week of enhanced strength, both physically and emotionally, putting you in a prime position to go for gold. It’s a great time to tackle issues that require self-control and resilience. Since you might be more powerful and influential than you realise, use your supremacy with great wisdom and care. On the downside, the green-eyed monster might be hiding in the wings – which could cause trouble in your love relationship. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 28, 35, 18, 45, 22, 40 SAGITTARIUS NOV 22 – DEC 20 As a Sagittarius you might have itchy feet and a restless soul, keen to explore and on the lookout for adventure. But this is a week to withdraw from the busyness…

‘The rules kept us shut inside our homes more effectively than any lock' FOR years it was the only country in the world that prohibited women from getting behind the wheel, but in a landmark decision Saudi Arabia recently announced it was lifting its ban on female drivers. The rule change was largely thanks to a group of activists known as Women-2Drive. Manal al-Sharif became the face of the campaign when she drove her car on the streets of the ultra-conservative kingdom in open defiance of the ban. In this extract from her new memoir, Daring to Drive, she reveals how this courageous act put her on a collision course with the authorities . . . ‘THE secret police came for me at two in the morning. The second knock…

‘Yet another Goop article claimed wearing a bra could increase women’s chances of breast cancer’ San Francisco gynaecologist Dr Jen Gunter has become Goop’s public enemy No 1 thanks to her relentless criticism of the website’s wellness advice, health benefits ascribed to its products and, uh, those jade eggs. Goop ran an article suggesting women insert the eggs ($66 or R891 each) into their vaginas to improve their sex lives. “It’s the biggest load of garbage I’ve read on your site since vaginal steaming,” Dr Gunter ranted on her blog. She pointed out that because jade is a porous material it could harbour bacteria and lead to toxic shock syndrome. Yet another Goop article claimed wearing a bra could increase women’s chances of breast cancer. Poppycock, Gunter said. Seems conscious…

They’re known for always putting their best fashion foot forward – which is why TV presenters ROXY BURGER and KATLEHO SINIVASAN will host the first season of How Do I Look? South Africa, which hits the small screen next month. Based on the hit US show, each episode features style-challenged participants from all walks of life as they embark on a makeover with the help of Roxy, Kat and a professional glam team. Roxy and Kat might be known for their style but they’ve made the odd fashion blunder too. We asked them to share their biggest fashion faux pas with us. KATLEHO “My bad fashion moments are thankfully in the past. But my worst was my matric dance suit – and the picture is so bad as well. “I…

Hayden’s secret fling WE WERE shocked by the news of HAYDEN CHRIS-TENSEN and RACHEL BILSON’s recent split after 10 years and a child together. And now the real reason has emerged: EMMA ROBERTS! Reports say it was the 26-year-old daughter of actor Eric Roberts, Julia Roberts’ brother, who came between the pair. The blonde beauty is said to have exchanged intimate text messages with Hayden (36) during the filming of their movie, Little Italy, this year. When Rachel (36) discovered the messages – which apparently hinted that the two were more than friends – she immediately ended things with the Star Wars hunk. The estranged partners, who’d met on the set of the film Jumper in 2008, were poker-faced when they were seen meeting up recently so Rachel could hand…

Rumour has it that JAY-Z is looking to buy a stake in disgraced movie mogul Harvey Weinstein’s production business, The Weinstein Company. The 47-year-old rap mogul and a couple of other investors are in talks to buy Weinstein’s 23% interest in the business. Weinstein was fired from the production movie company he founded with his brother, Bob, after an exposé alleged he’d sexually harassed and assaulted members of his staff and a string of female stars. Jay has worked with The Weinstein Company for a while – he produced the Netflix documentary series Time: The Kalief Browder Story with the firm, and a miniseries based on the life of Trayvon Martin is also in the works. Don’t mess with MINKA KELLY (37)! The Path actress has finally broken her silence…