Innholdsfortegnelse for 12-Oct-17 i You South Africa

CHARLENE is a questioner,” YOU’s Nicola Whitfield and Sandy Cook said to each other as they read through the personality types outlined in a new book. And I was true to form when they told me – I immediately started asking questions. What does that mean? How does it work? What does it say? How did they get there? A Questioner is one of the four personality tendencies discussed in our extract from the book. The others are Obligers, Upholders and Rebels. It was fascinating trying to work out what category we thought suited us best. Turn to page 86 to see which of the four you are, and how you can maximise your strengths and work on your weaknesses. It might help to know your partners or kids’ tendencies…

How heartbreaking it was to hear about the 13-year-old boy who was killed by bullies at an East Rand primary school for trying to protect his brother from being beaten up. Now a family is grieving, their hearts broken with the loss of their precious son and brother. Our condolences go to his parents, siblings and extended family. May the pupils responsible for his death be punished in the appropriate manner. When is bullying at schools ever going to be stopped? For this special, brave young boy it’s too late. THE POOLE FAMILY, EMAIL Parents, now is the time to have a serious talk to your kids about bullying. Your darling son or daughter might be responsible for the mental anguish and physical pain of another human being. You need…

HE’S one of radio’s most popular guys, a true gentleman of the airwaves – silky-voiced, urbane, amusing and smart. So listeners of 702 were disappointed when Breakfast Show anchor Xolani Gwala announced he was embarking on a period of radio silence while he dealt with a serious health issue. Fans wondered what was going on. Then came the devastating announcement: he has cancer. And it’s bad. In an emotionally charged broadcast on 702, Xolani (42) opened up to colleague Stephen Grootes and discussed the gruelling road ahead. “Under the circumstances I’m okay, but obviously I’m living with something inside and it’s massive,” Xolani says matter-of-factly. “After thorough investigations, they found I have colon cancer, which is advanced – quite advanced.” Xolani was hesitant at first to talk about what was…

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SHE studied graphic design because she loves art and being creative but Gisela Harck’s other passion is baking. As far back as she could remember she’d loved being in the kitchen and she’d even raised funds for an overseas trip by making and selling gingerbread houses. While working full-time as a graphic designer she carried on baking biscuits for weekend markets. Over the years the idea of a bakery specialising in gingerbread houses and ginger biscuits simmered in the back of her mind. Then three years ago, after nine years in the graphic design field, Gisela (now 36) decided it was time to make her dream a reality. Demand for her gingerbread products – made using her German grandmother’s recipes – had grown and she figured it was “time to…

THURSDAY ANNE OF GREEN GABLES: THE GOOD STARS ★★★★ 2017, 90 min, A, M-Net 08:00. Drama. In early 20th-century America an adopted farm girl faces a host of milestones. Sara Botsford. PLANET OF THE APES ★★★ 2001, 119 min, PG13, e.tv, 20:30 & 02:30. Sci-fi adventure. An astronaut crash-lands on a planet ruled by highly evolved, talking apes. Mark Wahlberg. LAND OF THE DEAD ★★★ 2005, 93 min, 16, e.tv, 22:55. Horror thriller. After the zombie apocalypse humans live in a walled city. Simon Baker. AN UNEXPECTED LOVE ★★★ 2003, 90 min, PG13, e.tv, 00:50. Romantic drama. After she and her husband separate, a mom is surprised to find herself attracted to her female boss. Leslie Hope. DESIREE ★★★ 2015, 93 min, 16, M-Net, 03:00. Crime thriller. A chemist is…

2019 Based on Philip K Dick’s novel Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?, the original 1982 film is set in 2019 in a dystopian Los Angeles complete with giant moving billboards, pollution and flying cars. Police officer Rick Deckard (Harrison Ford) has retired from his job as a blade runner, a special operative who hunts down replicants – genetically engineered replicas of human beings who’ve gone rogue. But he’s forced to come out of retirement when four replicants escape from an off-world colony and make their way back to Earth. During his investigation he comes across Rachael (Sean Young), a replicant capable of human emotion, and their relationship makes him question his identity and what it means to be human. Harrison (now 75) says he enjoyed getting back to the…

INFINITE DISTANCES A light year is the distance in Earth years (365¼ days) that light travels in a vacuum – about 300 million m/sec. In astronomy the preferred unit of distance is the parsec (3,26 light years). The astronomical unit (AU) – which is equal to the distance from the sun to Earth – is about 150 million km. ENDLESS POSSIBILITIES! Do you think there could be more solar systems with planets like ours? Scientists believe trillions of stars similar to our sun exist, each with its own solar system. So it’s entirely possible that there could be life on several of these planets! Perhaps there’s even intelligent life out there. HEAVENS ABOVE! 1 The Milky Way galaxy has between 100 billion and 400 billion stars (including our sun), but…

‘The police should now look where this woman may have worked as a chef . . . These cannibals were looking for places to sell their meat’ SELFIES with body parts, pickled humans remains, strips of skin . . . it’s a litany of horror so gruesome it makes Hannibal Lecter’s actions sound tame. But unlike Hannibal in the harrowing film The Silence of the Lambs, the people behind this cannibalistic killing spree aren’t fictional characters and their deeds can’t be written off as “just a movie”. This is very real – and it went on for 18 years before police discovered their dark secret. Dmitry Baksheev (35) and his wife, Natalia (42), were arrested after a cellphone was found in the southwest Russian city of Krasnodar containing a series…

RIDICULOUS. That’s what she thought when people first started suggesting she throw her hat into the ring and enter the race for ANC president. She wasn’t going to do this, she told herself. She’d just buried her husband and, with little time on her hands, a campaign trail was the last thing she needed. But as time went by the idea of having a woman at the helm of the ruling party began to excite her. “I think we’re ready for it,” she says. “South Africa is the kind of democracy that would take easily to a woman president.” Lindiwe Sisulu is sitting in the living room of her ministerial residence in Pretoria, a stone’s throw from the Union Buildings. It’s a home as stylish as the fashion-forward minister of…

L’ORÉAL SHOW A star-studded line-up graced the L’Oréal catwalk CELEBS STARGAZE OUT & ABOUT…

Regarding the De Jager family estate (YOU, 21 September), if those three male heirs wanted to do right by their female cousins they could surely compensate them in some way. It would serve them right if they eventually ran out of male heirs or the government took the land. ROUGH JUSTICE, SMS I agree with Granny about DStv (YOU Say, 28 September). My complaint is about programme repeats. And the news broadcasts are just pathetic, boring political panel discussions every 15 minutes. Not to mention all the funerals instead of news. FED-UP PENSIONER, PE Regarding Granny, who wants to bring back censorship, perhaps we can stone the adulterers and cut off the hands of thieves while we’re at it! TIM, SMS All the DStv repeat programmes are getting frustrating. Shows…

THEY had one of the strongest and seemingly happiest relationships in showbiz. In interviews Soli Philander sang his wife Toni’s praises – after more than 30 years together she was far more than his spouse, he said, she was his soulmate. Nobody understood him better than she did. Which was why everyone was shocked when out of the blue in 2015 the well-known TV and theatre personality walked out of the marriage. Now two years later the 56-year-old is willing to talk for the first time about the decision that stunned friends, family and fans. He’s finally the Soli Philander he’s always wanted to be, he tells us in an exclusive interview. It’s taken him almost a lifetime of soul-searching and at last he can express it in words: “I’m…

IT HAD been a night of gongs, glory and smashed records. When Julia Louis-Dreyfus took to the stage to receive her 11th Emmy award she also made history by becoming the first woman to win six consecutive Emmys for leading actress in a comedy. But stepping onto stage was a bittersweet moment for the woman who brought the outrageous Selina Myers to life in the hit satirical romcom Veep. In her acceptance speech Julia (56) paid tribute to her dad, billionaire Gérard Louis-Dreyfus, who’d died the previous weekend. “I’m so glad he liked me because his opinion was the one that really mattered,” she said, choking back tears. But Julia’s emotional roller coaster wasn’t about to end there. Within 24 hours of her night of triumph, she learnt she had…

AS MOST funerals are, this one is a sombre affair. The deceased is Catherine Whitehead, a woman who died of the endocrine disorder Addison’s disease, leaving family and friends heartbroken. After the service people gather in a nearby hall for the wake, enjoying a cup of tea and a bite to eat while sharing stories and memories of 42-year-old Catherine. Among them is a little old lady, mingling among the mourners and munching on the buffet. Catherine’s mom, Margaret, spots the woman and presumes she’s someone her daughter had worked with. But when she goes over to speak to her, Margaret immediately senses something is amiss. “She told me she used to work with Catherine as a waitress. My daughter never worked as a waitress.” It turns out the woman…

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YOU stare at your skin in the mirror and can’t help but notice the big pores and blackheads on your nose, chin and forehead. You might hate them, but pores actually have an important function. Each pore houses a hair follicle and beneath it lies the sebaceous gland. These glands release sebum, your skin’s natural protective oil, which travels through the pores to reach the skin’s surface. The good news is there’s plenty you can do to make pores appear smaller. When oil, dirt and dead skin cells build up in pores, they appear bigger. So if you keep your skin clean and prevent oil and dirt build-up, they’ll seem smaller. The correct facial care and make-up products can also go a long way to making your pores less visible.…

DEBT is a major cause of financial stress. A total of 64% of participants in Old Mutual’s Savings and Investment Monitor indicated their stress levels are overwhelming because they have too much debt and are struggling to manage it. Before taking out any kind of loan you should consider whether you can really afford it, and whether it’s worth the money and the stress. Be honest with yourself when answering these questions. 1 CAN I AFFORD IT? Before buying an expensive item on credit or taking out a loan you need to work out if you’ll be able to make the payments. Calculate this by subtracting all your existing expenses from your income. Your bank statements are a clear record of your income and expenses. Your starting point should be…

FOCUSING ON FAMILY Her latest album is all about her life experiences over the past 10 years – which include marriage, motherhood and her recent divorce from actor Josh Duhamel. “There was a lot of emotional stuff I needed to clean out from inside me,” Fergie says. “I really opened my heart on this album. I’m not holding anything back.” The 42-year-old put music on the back burner after giving birth to her son, Axl, in 2013. “I wasn’t going to sacrifice time with my child,” she says. “They could keep banging on my door [to release an album] but I was like, ‘I’m with Axl. I’m off the grid! Bye!’ ” MEDLEY OF INFLUENCES Double Dutchess features a variety of styles – from pop and hip-hop to reggae and…

LIBRA SEPT 23 – OCT 22 Generally things should be going your way  Your planet, good-natured Venus, moves into your sign this week, which means you should be in for a smooth ride. Whether you have social activities in mind, have plans for a romantic breakaway with your partner or want to catch up with overdue chores, you can look forward to things generally going your way. On top of all this, a surprising twist in your love-life or unexpected turn of events might add an exciting spin to life. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 38, 36, 31, 23, 49, 32 SCORPIO OCT 23 – NOV 21 Mercury, the cosmic net-worker, moves into your sign this week – making it a good time to get out and about. It’s a week to…

HONESTY BEGINS WITH YOU RECENTLY I visited the new art museum in Cape Town, Zeitz MOCAA. Apart from a wondrous visual experience, I also had an epiphany. In the basement there were 23 bundles of posters. We were told clearly we could take one each. I saw people – young, middle-aged, all races – helping themselves to many. The ushers on the way out retrieved the unauthorised items. It struck me then that the corruption in this country has to be stopped from the bottom up, starting with this type of petty dishonesty, because it’s not going to be stopped from the top down. I imagined a three-pronged campaign: personal – a campaign for each of us to commit to conscious choices in our actions; structural monitoring – as the…

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IT DIDN’T take long for pictures of the car crushed by the weight of a shipping container to go viral. It was a horrific sight, the vehicle flattened to such an extent it was almost impossible to see what model car it was. Most people could look at the picture with a sense of detachment – a feeling of relief it wasn’t them or anyone they knew in that car. But when Stefanus Brits was sent the photo via WhatsApp he went cold. He recognised the car, a white Ford Escort, and when he zoomed in to make sure, his worst fears were confirmed. It was his stepdad’s car. Looking at the picture, he knew there was no chance anyone inside the vehicle had survived. “And that meant my brother…

TEN long years, more than £11 million (R198 million) spent and a monumental cross-border search. Unprecedented media coverage resulted in about 8 000 reported “sightings” of the little blonde girl – but a decade later there’s still no sign of Madeleine McCann. Her parents, Gerry and Kate McCann, had been bracing themselves to accept the inevitable: the money supplied by the British government to hunt for their firstborn was drying up and there seemed little chance of more coming their way. Then came renewed hope when the British Home Office announced it had freed up a further £154 000 (R2,77 million) to continue the search a little longer. The latest cash injection means Scotland Yard’s Operation Grange – as the search for Maddie is known – will have six more…

SPICY CHICKEN DOUBLE BURGER Marinate the chicken overnight to make it extra juicy. Add zing to the coleslaw with fresh chillies and coriander. MAKES 4 BURGERS Preparation: 30 min Marinating: 1 hour or overnight Cooking: 25-30 min 4 chicken breast fillets MARINADE 500ml (2c) buttermilk 4 garlic cloves, bruised 1 chilli, chopped 60ml (¼c) chopped fresh coriander 1 onion, chopped COATING 250ml (1c) flour 5-10ml (1-2t) cayenne pepper 5ml (1t) white pepper 10ml (2t) salt TO COOK oil for shallow-frying SPICY COLESLAW 80ml (¹/3c) mayonnaise 80ml (¹/3c) plain full-cream yoghurt 2 chillies, finely chopped 60ml (¼c) chopped fresh coriander ½ head of cabbage, shredded 1 red onion, thinly sliced salt and freshly ground pepper BURGERS 4 slices cheddar cheese 4 burger buns, halved horizontally 1 Flatten the chicken with a…

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1 KEEP YOUR SKIN CLEAN Wash your face twice a day to keep your pores clear of dirt, oil and dead skin cells. If you exercise, wash your face immediately afterwards to prevent dirt build-up. And never go to bed with makeup on. Using a purifying facial mask will also help to cleanse your skin. 2 SCRUB-A-DUB Use an exfoliating product a few times a week – twice if you have sensitive skin, more often if not. Apply the product in a circular motion moving upwards, but be gentle – you don’t have to rub your face raw to remove build-up. 3 BE SUN SMART Skin ageing caused by sun damage makes your pores bigger so make sure to protect your face from the sun’s harmful UV rays. 4 PICK…

‘Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism’ – SWISS PSYCHOLOGIST CARL JUNG I REGRET BEING A BAD MOM Q I divorced my abusive husband many years ago and took our two daughters with me when I moved out. He’d been both physically and sexually abusive. Those were extremely difficult years and I could barely keep my head above water financially. I worked two jobs while trying to raise two small children without a support system. The result was that there were many nights when I was so exhausted I shouted at them and didn’t do all the nice things mothers are supposed to do, such as play with them, read bedtime stories and tuck them into bed. Now, years later…

Eleven years after her debut solo album, The Dutchess, Fergie returns fiercer than ever with an album of party-ready jams. She shows off her vocal versatility as she goes from rapping with Rick Ross on Hungry to belting out a ballad on A Little Work, a song about dealing with your issues. Her track with Nicki Minaj, You Already Know, is a throwback to late ’80s/early ’90s hip-hop. Fergie seems to hint at her recent divorce on the songs Love Is Blind, a reggae-inspired track filled with pleas for attention, and Love Is Pain, a deeply emotional ballad. Also featured are her chart toppers L.A. Love and M.I.L.F, initially released in 2014 and 2016 respectively. There’s also a cute singing cameo by her four-year-old, Axl, on the track Enchanté (Carine).…

THE STOLEN MARRIAGE By DIANE CHAMBERLAIN Pan MacMillan This is a prime example of why you should never judge a book by its cover. Based on the illustration and blurb you might assume this is a flimsy piece of chick lit, yet once you delve in you discover that the historical novel, set in the ’40s, covers a range of heavyweight issues including unplanned pregnancy, race, love, self-discovery, grief and forgiveness. This makes for a reading experience filled with twists and turns which will have most readers hooked from start to finish. The action kicks off with the protagonist, Tess DeMello, abruptly calling off her engagement to her fiancé, Vincent, whom she loves, to marry Henry, a guy she’s known for just two days. This sets off a series of…

WHAT’S THE BUZZ ABOUT? It’s not just ladies who shake things up with a haircut when they’re in the mood for change. TV presenter JANEZ VERMEIREN is sporting a sexy new shorn look! “I just decided I wanted to cut it off one day,” the Man Cave presenter says. “So I headed to the mirror with my clippers and shaved all my hair off. I walked back into the kitchen and my wife, JULIANA , just looked shocked and horrified!” Janez loves his buzz cut though. “It feels great. I don’t have to put any wax on in the morning – I can just get up and go!” Juliana didn’t like it for the first two days, he says, but now prefers it. In fact, she thinks he looks like…