Innholdsfortegnelse for 17-Aug-17 i You South Africa

I WAS invited to speak at an event about women who work in media and had to put together a presentation for it. As I considered what I could talk about I started to think about all the women who inspire me every day. There’s my mom, my mother-in-law, my sister, my friends, my boss, my colleagues and the many YOU readers who write in often to share their thoughts and experiences. I felt my heart expand when I realised just how many phenomenal women I have the fortune to be exposed to every day. I’ve learnt to be stronger, kinder, softer, better, wiser and so much more thanks to all these women. They’ve taught me to deal with life’s little moments – and sometimes what not to do when…

‘She’s shown herself to be incredibly organised and a great mother’ THEY ’RE two-and-a-half years old now – never a great age for toddlers, as many a harried parent will tell you. But it’s hard to imagine these tots ever having terrible-two temper tantrums. Come to think of it, it’s hard to picture their mom with soggy bits of biscuit in her hair and chocolate smeared on her clothes like most mortal mothers. In fact, every time we see this family, they seem to be more groomed and gorgeous than ever. Princess Charlene and Prince Albert of Monaco made their latest appearance with their perfect pigeon pair at a ceremony at the country’s yacht club to mark the departure of the ecological research ship the Yersin, which left on a…

STROOPWAFEL BISCUITS The Dutch are renowned for their syrup waffles. This biscuit version is just as delicious. MAKES ABOUT 20 BISCUITS Preparation: 30 min Standing: 1¼ hours Baking: 35-40 min 1 packet (10 g) instant yeast 80 ml (¹/3 c) lukewarm milk 250 ml (1 c) sugar 250 g butter 1 egg 4 x 250 ml (4 c) cake flour 5 ml (1 t) ground cinnamon pinch of salt extra flour CARAMEL 250 ml (1 c) golden syrup 250 ml (1 c) dark brown sugar 15 ml (1 T) ground cinnamon 50 g butter 1 Mix the yeast, milk and 15 ml (1 T) of the sugar in a measuring jug. Set aside in a warm place for 30 minutes or until a thick froth has formed on the surface.…

‘Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots’– AMERICAN POLITICIAN FRANK A CLARK I’VE BEEN EMOTIONALLY ABUSED FOR YEARS Q I’m deeply unhappy and don’t want to be married any more. A few years ago I discovered my husband was meeting women in sleazy bars. I don’t understand it as I look after him so well. We have a beautiful home and he gets the best food which I prepare myself. I look after my body, dress well and he gets all my love and attention. Yet he always flirts with other women in front of me. He goes to strip clubs with his friends and when I looked at his phone once I saw a message to a woman about how…

FAMOUS BIRTHDAYS GOOD GIFTS FOR A LEO ARE . . . Tickets to the gala opening of the latest show. An original painting by a famous artist. Sponsorship for a year’s drama classes. Designer clothes. Voucher for a back massage. A getaway at a top hotel – the more luxurious, the better. Membership to an exclusive club. LEO JULY 22 – AUG 22 Make the most of opportunities this week Towards the end of the week the Sun takes leave of your sign, making it a week to make the most of opportunities to shine in one way or another. You may want to inspire those around you through word and deed, make a contribution to a worthy cause or entertain your friends with your creative talents. On another tack,…

IN HER new movie, Snatched, the actress, writer and comedian stars alongside Oscar-winning comedy legend Goldie Hawn. Amy plays Emily, whose boyfriend dumps her on the eve of a trip they’d planned. So her mom, Linda (Hawn), joins her instead. They set off on what both hope will be a dream holiday but it turns into a nightmare when they’re kidnapped by bandits. Here Amy talks about working with Goldie, mothers, family and comedy. Is it true you persuaded Goldie to do this movie? Yes, it’s true. I was on a plane and Goldie was sitting a couple of rows ahead of me. I was so excited and completely star-struck. I’d already read the script and I went up to her and said, “Hi, I’m Amy, I’m a comedian. There’s…

LISTEN TO THIS! LUST FOR LIFE By Lana Del Rey She’s known for her sombre, melancholic tunes, but from the opening track it’s clear: Lana’s fifth album is a new musical direction for the US songstress. It’s her most positive and diverse offering to date and, as the title suggests, she does seem to find her lust for life. But fans shouldn’t worry: the dark, heartbreak-inspired element that put her on the map is still present. It’s a star-studded affair with collabs with the likes of The Weeknd, ASAP Rocky, Stevie Nicks and Sean Ono Lennon. From folk to classic rock, hip-hop and trap beats, this record has it all. Standouts include Love and the title track.…

MOST people would probably agree that flies are a pest. They tend to buzz around your head, sit on your food or take over the window sill in the kitchen. There are thousands of fly species on our planet! Yet even common houseflies serve a purpose – they’re food for many animals, including birds, frogs and snakes. The housefly (Musca domestica) is probably one of the most common insects. These flies are found virtually everywhere there are people; only Antarctica and perhaps a few remote islands in the polar regions don’t have them. Flies are used to living around humans and animals so they’ve adapted to survive in habitats where there are people. Scientists believe the housefly evolved in the Cenozoic (most recent) geological era, which began 65 million years…

SHE dreamt of playing soccer for Banyana Banyana, running out in the green and gold with her name emblazoned on the back of her shirt, travelling the world, celebrating victories and despairing over defeat with her teammates. But a career as a footballer will forever remain an elusive dream for Ayanda Mashilo. The 18-year-old lost her right leg when it was amputated in a bid to save her life six years ago – and making everything worse is the fact it all could have been prevented if she’d received proper medical treatment. Missing hospital records, negligent treatment, blame shifting . . . It’s an all too familiar story in the South African health system – and Ayanda’s personal nightmare. Her mother, Kristina, had to make the heartbreaking decision to allow…

HE’S A KEEPER! What do you do about a wedding cake when neither the bride nor the groom like this sweet treat? You have a massive slab of chocolate instead, that’s what. And that’s why former Proteas wicketkeeper MARK BOUCHER (40) needed a hammer rather than a knife when the time came to cut the cake after he and longtime girlfriend CARMEN LOTTER tied the knot. The couple wed on 29 July in Jeffreys Bay at The Rose Barn, a rustic farm-style wedding and function venue on a farm owned by Carmen’s parents, CASSIE and Sandra Lotter. Carmen looked gorgeous in a beautiful gown by designer Warrick Gautier. Mark’s former teammate JACQUES KALLIS and his partner, Charlene Engels, were among those invited to celebrate the day with the happy couple.…

Even KANYE WEST fights with his insurance company! The star is suing Lloyd's of London for $10 million (R130 million) after they refused payment for cancelling his Saint Pablo Tour last year after he suffered a psychological breakdown. Yeezy hasn’t been able to get answers about why the insurer won’t pay up – his lawyers say the company is citing “irrelevant facts”, from allegations of dagga use to offensive song lyrics. Singer JUSTIN BIEBER (23) has finally broken his silence on why he cancelled the remaining dates of his Purpose World Tour in July. In a long note posted on social media the Canadian pop star said that while the tour had taught him a lot, he had a higher purpose. “Me taking this time right now is me saying…

My 21-year-old daughter, Clare Ann Boswell – a Tuks varsity student – saw this pattern in YOU (23 June 2016) and she’s been making it on and off for a year now. She’s just finished it. We’re so proud. LISAHAUPTFLEISCH,EMAIL Sadly I have to agree with the reader who commented on how dirty Pietermaritzburg is (YOU, 27 July). Not only is there litter everywhere, there are no pavements without holes or uneven surfaces. I’m also disgusted. MARK, SMS It doesn’t sound as if “Cougar Cheryl” knows what she’s babbling on about (YOU Say, 3 August). Married three times already! What’s your point, pussycat? Clearly her younger husbands got fed up with her and prowled off in search of easier prey. ANNE, KOKSTAD I started reading YOU in 2001 and am…

THE last time we saw him he looked as if he had the weight of the world on his shoulders. Lonely and heartbroken, Austin Coetzee couldn’t fathom how his beloved wife could stand accused of plotting to kill him. But six months on he looks like a new man as he opens the door for us. His brown shoes shine and he’s neatly dressed in dark jeans and dark-grey jacket. The aroma of a pot of curry cooking on the stove fills his home in Kenilworth, Cape Town. On the coffee table in the living room stands a bunch of orange roses with a card that reads, “Welcome home!” Austin (66) grins from ear to ear as he confirms the news. “She came home on Thursday afternoon,” he tells us.…

HE’LL never make it, everyone said about the current character occupying the most important chair in the world. He’s a reality show star, for heaven’s sake. What does he know about running a country? But, as Donald Trump has proved, anything is possible. So is it really that far-fetched to imagine a young tech upstart taking control of the White House in 2020? No matter how vehemently he denies it, Mark Zuckerberg (33) can’t seem to quash speculation he’s going to run for the US presidency in three years’ time. And the Facebook boss added more fuel to the rumour fire when he embarked on what looked suspiciously like a campaign tour. The tech whizz announced in January he’d be going all-out to fulfil what he calls his personal challenge.…

HE SCOOTS across the room, making a beeline first for the milk tart then for the TV cables before clambering over the dogs onto the couch and into his mom’s lap. Sounds like normal toddler behaviour, doesn’t it? Kids of this age are usually go-go-go, sticking their fingers in every pie – literally and figuratively. But little Nathan Ungerer’s agility is quite remarkable when you look at his left foot. Swollen to the size of a balloon, it’s several times larger than his right foot and the toes are red, stubby nubbins protruding from the swelling. Still, little Nathan manages rather well. “Funnily enough he only loses his balance when he walks slowly, not when he runs,” says Salie Kemp (78), Nathan’s great-grandmother who looks after the little boy during…

JOURNALIST Ishay Govender-Ypma travelled across her home country, South Africa, to explore how curry is made in every culture and culinary corner. Her cookbook detailing her adventure illustrates the diversity of tastes, ingredients and influences in South Africa. Here she shares dishes from five of SA’s nine provinces. VASHNA’S BEEF BHUNA Vashna Jagarnath from Grahamstown calls on food writer Madhur Jaffrey’s lamb bhuna for inspiration for her beef version. The curry is a drier variety – one where the spices coat the meat and brown it and the sauce thickens, clinging to it. It works beautifully paired with a roti or naan that you use to scoop up the meat. And it makes a perfect salomie or sandwich filling. SERVES 4 Preparation: 15 min Cooking: 1¾ hours 1 kg beef…

THE last thing you want your loved ones to worry about when you die is dealing with your estate – especially if there isn’t enough cash in it to cover all your liabilities. HOW AN ESTATE WORKS An estate is made up of assets and liabilities. Assets include property, vehicles, furniture, investments, life insurance policies and savings. Liabilities include a bond, credit card debt, an overdraft facility and estate costs such as taxes, administration and executor’s fees. The executor must know there is enough cash to cover all costs before the heirs can inherit. IF THE ESTATE DOESN’T HAVE ENOUGH CASH 1 YOUR HEIRS PAY. If they want to keep property or furniture left behind, they’ll have to cough up the necessary cash to cover your debts and all estate…

THURSDAY APPLE OF MY EYE ★★★ 2017, 84 min, PG, M-Net Satellite 08:10, M-Net Decoder 08:30. Drama. A young woman who lost her eyesight in a horse-riding accident gets help from a trainer who teaches a miniature horse to be her companion. Amy Smart, Avery Arendes. BANDIDAS ★★★ 2006, 93 min, PG13, e.tv, 20:30 & 02:20. Action comedy. In 19th-century Mexico two women become bank robbers to fight a ruthless crook terrorising their town. Salma Hayek, Penelope Cruz. HIDE AND SEEK ★★ 2005, 101 min, 16, e.tv, 22:30. Horror. A young girl finds solace in an imaginary friend while her psychiatrist dad tries to get over his wife’s death. Robert De Niro, Dakota Fanning. NO REGRETS ★★★ 2004, 96 min, PG13, e.tv, 00:35. Romantic drama. Various actors find themselves falling…

ACCIDENT BY DAWN GARISCH, Modjaji Carol Trehorne is a general practitioner with a busy suburban practice. She’s also a single mom and is worried out of her mind when her son, Max, a performance artist, lands up in intensive care after setting himself alight. She tries to persuade him to seek another, less dangerous pursuit. Yet despite his injuries Max is adamant that he’s going to continue putting his body on the line to perform his risky stunts. His mom just can’t get through to him. Carol starts to wonder if her son is on drugs or going psychotic, or if something in his past has sparked what she sees as his self-destructive behaviour. As the worlds of art and science collide she realises that she doesn’t really know her…

I SAID THIS By Craig Lucas It’s hard to believe the first time he stepped onto a stage was in the second season of The Voice SA. He went on to win the show and now this singer from Elsies River, Cape Town, is taking the music scene by storm with the first single off his forthcoming debut album.The soulful, feel-good track is a tribute to his fans.“Thissongisforthem” he says. “The lyrics speak about it being ‘our song’ and that’s what I wanted it to be. It perfectly encapsulates how I’ve felt since winning The Voice. I wanted to share the good vibes with everyone else.” FETISH By Selena Gomez ft Gucci Mane Seductive lyrics, an infectious beat . . . what’s not to love about Selena’s latest single? The…

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ALTHOUGH many winged insects are commonly called flies, strictly speaking the name applies only to members of the order Diptera. The name comes from the Greek word for wings. This is one of the largest insect orders, with about 120 000 species. Most people view flies as pests but they can also be beneficial. Maggots have been used to clean wounds since antiquity and it’s still done today! THE COMMON GREEN BOTTLE FLY This is a type of blowfly (Calliphoridae), a family of flies similar to but slightly larger than houseflies and metallic green or blue in colour. They’re found in most places around the world. The maggots (larvae) of this fly are used for maggot therapy. COMPOUND EYES Flies have compound eyes made up of thousands of photo receptors,…

‘If there’s a chance I might die, I’ll run towards what’s happening. It’s an adrenaline thing’ LAZY isn’t in his vocabulary. With a new movie in the pipeline, a new production company launched, three feature films in development and a TV show planned – not to mention his job as Top Billing presenter – Jonathan Boynton-Lee is one busy guy. Which is why his home is his sanctuary, a place where he can kick back and relax in the occasional spare moment. We’re visiting the hunky star at his elegant flat in Northcliff, Johannesburg, and his home is just like him – understated and warm. The inviting space is filled with pictures of film stars and movie posters. Also dotted around are pictures of the people he loves most: his…

ANNA FARIS & CHRIS PRATT Nobody saw this coming – after all, this was the couple who put on PDAs at film premieres and filled their social media accounts with gushing tributes to each other. But in a statement the actors, who married in 2009, said they’d been trying hard for a long time to keep their marriage afloat. While Chris (38) and Anna (40) were last seen together in April, their Instagram pages show posts about each other and their son, Jack (4), from as recently as May. There were no obvious signs of a looming split but rumours surfaced last year that Chris had cheated on Anna with his Passengers co-star Jennifer Lawrence. At the time the Mom actress responded, saying, “Of course I’m going to vulnerable AMBER…

MARVEL'S THE DEFENDERS PREMIERE Actors Finn Jones and Eka Darville at the premiere of their new TV series, Marvel’s The Defenders. Jessica Jones star KRYSTEN RITTER slayed in this red-hot gown by Julien Macdonald at the New York premiere of Marvel’s The Defenders. MAISON ST-GERMAIN LA DEBUT 1 Burlesque dancer Dita Von Teese looked dramatic in a black and rose festooned gown at the glitzy event in Los Angeles celebrating French liqueur St-Germain. 2 Actress Olivia Culpo stunned in a white Dior shirt-dress. THE TONIGHT SHOW A gorgeous Halle Berry on The Tonight Show. The star, who stops at nothing to rescue her kidnapped son in upcoming thriller Kidnap, says it’s “nice to see a woman save the day” at the end of the film. Actor Idris Elba and host…

GIVE THANKS THERE’S always something for which to be grateful. “Thank you” is stepping out of a dingy doorway into the glowing arc of a grand rainbow. Gratitude is in sparkling dew drops on springy grass, in the fine filigree of a spider’s web, in a freshly woven weaver bird’s nest and in the patter of rain on the roof – even if it does leak! And then there’s the gratitude I felt when a total stranger paid for my taxi fare when I was a tad low on cash and confidence. After which everything came up roses! And thanks, YOU, for supplying a platform on which we can air our views. FERN, BOTHASIG…

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THEY’RE heroes to millions of South Africans, these women who’ve made their mark, forcing everyone to sit up and take notice of them. But don’t be fooled. Sophie Ndaba, Thuli Madonsela, Tumi Morake and Lindiwe Hani may be household names but success didn’t just fall into their laps. Getting locked up by the apartheid security police, battling drug addiction, being kicked out of university, and having to learn how to cope as a single parent – these women faced their own major challenges along the way. In celebration of Women’s Month, we pay tribute to four movers and shakers whose unshakeable self-belief helped them to move mountains. SOPHIE NDABA THE SINGLE MOM She’s best known for her long-standing role as Queen Moroka in SABC1 soapie Generations, but it’s her roles…

‘BIXBY, when I’m near the mall remind me, ‘No more shoes!’ ” “Got it, I’ll remind you.” In response to Apple’s Siri, Amazon’s Alexa and Google Now, Samsung has launched an artificial intelligence-equipped digital assistant of its own – Bixby. It’s still available only on Samsung’s latest smartphone release, the Galaxy S8 and the S8+. These came preloaded with basic Bixby functions (such as the pretty limited Bixby Home – essentially a quick view of your day at a glance), accessible with a dedicated button on the left side of the phone. But now the company has made several much-needed updates to the function, giving Bixby a few pretty sleek voice capabilities. The tech giant sees the voice-powered assistant being used in its entire range of products – so you…

IT WAS NEVER GOING TO BE EASY A woman calls her local hardware shop. “Hi,” she says. “I bought a Roundup Multipurpose Sprayer from you yesterday, but it’s defective.” “Ma’am,” the assistant says, “we’ll need the exact name of the item. Do you have the box?” “No, but it’s the Roundup Multipurpose Sprayer.” “Ma’am, we’ll need the box so we can have the exact name of the product.” “Hold on, I’ll run out to my garage to get the box. [Long pause.] Okay, I have it. It says . . . Roundup Multipurpose Sprayer.” “Thank you for that information, ma’am.” TIME OF THE SEASONING An office worker is getting lunch at the company’s staff canteen. “May I have pepper and salt?” she asks the counter assistant. He looks confused. “The…

Tell us more about your latest offering, Barely Breathing. Barely Breathing comes out of my move to the States two years ago and the adventures I’ve had while living there. There’s an upbeat hopeful vibe about the album that captures where my head’s at. There are some tracks on the album that I wrote before meeting my wife, Sarah (29), and some that came afterwards and I can hear the change in me right there in the music. It represents my growth as a person. Any favourites on the album? Here’s a secret . . . I don’t think even my record label knows this: I always put my favourite tracks at No 5 and No 9 on the listing. On this album it’s Broken Dreams and Untouchable. You were…

SHE can count on the fingers of one hand the number of nights they were apart in South Africa during their marriage. Local writing legend André P Brink was the love of Karina M Szczurek’s life. Their romance, which blossomed after they met in Vienna in 2004, set tongues wagging because of their 42-year age gap – at the time she was 27 and he was 69. They married less than two years later and lived in his house in Rosebank, Cape Town. Polish-born Karina – a writer, editor and book reviewer – says André was her lover, confidant, critic, mentor and dearest friend. In February 2015, South Africans were shocked to hear the news of the much-loved literary icon’s death. André (then 79) had developed a blood clot in…

HUMBLE and with real respect for money – that’s how Nonkululeko Kunene would like her son to grow up. But that might be a little difficult as, at just over three months old, “Baby Billionaire” is already living like a boss. With Ferrari shoes on his tiny feet, a mini Rolls-Royce to drive around the house in, dollar signs swirling above his crib and a Hugo Boss bottle in his mouth, you could say Remo Mokgethwa is already made in life. And he can’t even talk yet. His daddy, controversial “sushi king” Kenny Kunene, may have been slammed for spoiling his bundle of joy but he couldn’t care less. This is his kid and he won’t let “jealous people” stand in the way of giving him everything he wants. “Jealousy…

WE’VE seen pictures of mommy with baby, but nothing of daddy – until now! Hollywood heart-throb BRADLEY COOPER (42) was seen out and about for the first time recently with baby daughter LEA DE SEINE. The three-month-old was spotted in her dad’s baby carrier as he joined his model girlfriend, IRINA SHAYK (31), for a stroll. The couple are known to be very private but rumours abound they secretly got engaged late last year. Since Lea’s birth they’re said to have grown even closer. According to a source, “more kids would likely be in the future – they're in love with Lea". Bradley was filming the movie A Star Is Born when Lea was born and the source says it’s hard for him to be apart from his family, but…